#i need to make a full design for her Actually

[rickktish]

Hey fuck this actually please and thank you :)

Religion is not designed to "break in independent women and trap them into a conservative relationship" and OP is SPECIFICALLY SAYING SO and I'm beyond sick and tired of people arguing that it is RELIGION that is the problem and not the larger structural culture of the US and other countries. And this goes ESPECIALLY AND SPECIFICALLY for mormonism.

As someone who was born and raised LDS, I'm aware that my experience is not universal. Some people grew up with abusive parents. Some people grew up in controlling congregations. But my experiences are also not unique, and I need people to stop homogenizing the LDS experience into "oh poor mormon women, they've been broken in like animals to submit to their husbands."

As a matter of fact, I have never personally met a mormon woman who was submissive to her husband. Which is impressive given that I've been surrounded by Utah mormons my entire life.

Can I share the actual messaging I was taught as a child? The actual lessons we were given in childhood and teenhood?

"men and women have equal responsibility in the home."

"Men and women are equal partners."

"Men have a responsibility to be active, present fathers to their children. Part of providing for a family is providing for their emotional needs."

"women have a responsibility to pursue higher education and/or vocational training as circumstances allow" (which was a reference to the cost of student loans, not whether or not she had children.)

The screenshot above has such important, meaningful ideas and you are actively making it harder to take those important ideas seriously by arguing that entire segments of a religious population have been systematically subjugated as children rather than acknowledging that those religions exist within the larger context of christian nationalist america. Don't blame the subgroup for the issues dictated by the larger structure. Don't defer responsibility for a national structure that teaches men that they are supposed to be dominant and controlling and violent to the subculture that teaches them that the greatest demonstration of masculinity is to cry in public while expressing words of gratitude and affection, that you have to counsel with your wife before making any decisions, and that good men are present and active fathers who listen to their children's needs and respect them as individuals with inherent divine value.

"41 No power or influence can or ought to be maintained by virtue of the priesthood, only by persuasion, by long-suffering, by gentleness and meekness, and by love unfeigned; 42 By kindness, and pure knowledge, which shall greatly enlarge the soul without hypocrisy, and without guile"

Most mormon men I know are instructed to memorize this scripture. Even if they don't have it memorized, it's taught regularly in sunday school. They analyze it. They discuss it. They are taught to live by it. And for clarification's sake, "priesthood" refers to a lot of things in mormonism but not least of those things is the fact that it's frequently used to denote "all men in the church or any of its congregations." Meaning that while it's easy to read this as "don't use your [power or position of authority] to control others" it also frequently gets read as "don't use your [masculinity or position as a man] to control others" and that! matters!

The original poster understands that being amish or mormon is a choice, and respects it. It is a choice that men and women make, and they make it with the full extent of the knowledge and values that they have cultivated over a lifetime of experience. You can tell, because some people-- even a lot of people!-- choose NOT to anymore when they grow up. OP is SPECIFICALLY USING THESE TWO RELIGIONS AS A COUNTERPOINT. INTENTIONALLY DENOTING THE CHOICE OF THE WOMEN INVOLVED.

Do not detract from the VITALLY IMPORTANT MESSAGE that OP is making about those who are trying to structure power for the sake of controlling those around them by targeting a smaller population you think you're better than, especially if you're speaking from a position of malice or judgement. You just look ignorant and bigoted.

Whoever wrote this, slayed so hard with all these statements, truer words have never been spoken

[rebeccamix]

actually l o s i n g my marbles over how much I love the cover for I KILLED THE KING. I just know this is going to look unreal in print like??? LOOK AT HER??

(design is by corina lupp, illustration by matt griffin)

I just...outside of my writer brain being pleased by the fact that we got all six characters on the cover and it's chalk full of hints, I also just love it?! I FINALLY GOT MY NEON BOOK!! now pray for me as I do my best to weasel my way into getting my dream color combo for book two.

I think, of all my books, this one is the easiest to get into for non-fantasy readers, but it'll still hopefully be deeply rewarding for avid fantasy heads regardless. it's also the pace-iest and biggest ensemble cast / found family sitch I've ever done, and includes some of my favorite jokes I can't believe I got away with lmao.

official description below, but basically all you need to know is it's like knives out swallowed one of us is lying and started hallucinating. writing a six POV magical murder mystery genuinely almost killed me but the end result was so worth it.

ok here's the Actual Professional Pitch:

One of Us Is Lying meets Knives Out—with beasts, murder, and magic—in this first book in a thrilling locked-room whodunnit YA fantasy duology by Andrea Hannah and New York Times bestseller Rebecca Mix.

After a decade of war, the kingdoms of Avendell and Istellia have finally agreed to peace. As nobles and magic wielders from both countries arrive at remote Castle Avendell for a historic all-night masquerade to celebrate, King Costis summons an unlikely group to his chambers: the crown prince, his Istellian bride-to-be, his personal guard, a wild beast teamer, and the palace’s questionable new healer. But before Costis can reveal why he has gathered them, the castle goes dark.

When the lights come back, the king is dead—murdered with the princess’s knife, in a weak spot only his guard knew of, and with venom from one of the beast tamer’s monsters lacing the blade.

With no clear killer—and everyone a suspect—they make a risky pact: Tell no one until the treaty is signed. But when a winter storm seals everyone inside and someone aware of the king's untimely death begins to pick off guests one by one, the six suspects must work together to discover who killed the king . . . before one of them is next.

MAN I AM SO EXCITED FOR PEOPLE TO READ THIS WEIRD MURDER BOOK!!

[reegis]

I rlly want to give your Orpheus a big hug and a kiss on the forehead please be nice to him😭😭 (side note I’m spamming you again I’m sorry)

ok fine…. ill be nice to him for Once….

kisses for him, from his lovers Narcissus & Eurydice, everything is totally fine.. how could this possibly go wrong…….

[maniculum]

This resonates with me as my extended family has a similar fixation on preserving family names — though they’re not as creative with it, I have to say. There’s no Roy-Emmet-Jack rotation or first-syllable approach, just “well whose name hasn’t been passed on to the next generation? great, that’s the baby’s name now.” And nobody’s as bad off as poor Breathnach Thomas.

I have a couple cousins with unusual or old-fashioned names that get funny looks — I’ve had multiple exchanges along the lines of “your cousin WHO? did you mean [more common name that kinda rhymes with what I said]?” “no i did not.” A bunch of us go by our middle names for one reason or another. Two of my cousins-once-removed have entirely normal, common first names that I genuinely don’t remember because they’ve been referred to by their middle names since infancy despite those middle names sounding like last names. I have one cousin whose first & middle names are both common but also firmly gendered in different directions: I won’t dox them, but it’s along the lines of “Frederick Jane Lastname” because there was a traditionally-female name that needed to be given to someone and the only available baby was AMAB. My sibling ended up joining the “go by the middle name that sounds like a last name” crew a while back, but that was for gender reasons.

I’ve got one of the more inconvenient-for-paperwork names, actually, which I’ll explain under a cut because I ended up going on a bit.

See, my grandfather was named after his maternal grandfather. And his mother had changed her name when she got married, but wanted to give her son his grandfather’s full name, so he ended up with two middle names. Firstname Middlename Maidenname Lastname. Nobody really liked the sound of “Firstname”, though, so he always went by Maidenname Lastname. Then he named his son the same thing, who named his son the same thing, so I’m Firstname Middlename Maidenname Lastname III. All of us agree that Firstname isn’t a good one, so we all go by variants of Maidenname Lastname. (Which means we’re all also on Team “Middle Name That Sounds Like A Last Name Used As A First Name”.)

The maiden name in question — I’ve almost certainly mentioned on the podcast what “Mac” is short for, but rather than dox myself in a text post, let’s say it’s “McKenzie”. Convenient in that it contains two syllables that are at least semi-normal names. So my grandfather always shortened it to “Mac”, and then to differentiate, rather than use one of the other surplus names, my father went by [not actually] “Ken”. My father once told me that he pitched the idea of using the last syllable for me (not actually “Zie”, but something else that in no way passes as a standard name) but was vetoed, so I’ve always been another Mac.

You would be surprised how many forms, both physical and electronic, are against the idea of two middle names. I’ve seen my second middle name squished into my first middle name to make a single word, or hyphenated with my last name, or just deleted — which is unfortunate because it’s the one I actually use. (I fully agree with my father & grandfather that “McKenzie Lastname” is the best-sounding use of our nomenclature inventory.) So I’m constantly explaining to various bureaucrats that yes, this thing that says “Mac” is referring to me, I know your system says my name is Firstname, but I go by my middle name (a practice that is in itself apparently less common than i always thought growing up) — it’s short for McKenzie — yes, I know that your system doesn’t say my middle name is McKenzie, it wasn’t designed to handle four-part names and just deleted that one — yes i’ll hold.

When I was younger, I wanted to change my name to get away from the problem — my idea was to just chop off both the first name and the last name, then I’d have the entirely normal-sounding Middlename McKenzie — but never got around to it, mostly because I was also worried that a name change could just multiply my paperwork complications. Once I’d committed to an academic career, though, I kind of came around on it, because if I just use the first two names as initials, “X. X. McKenzie Lastname” turns out to look pretty good as an author name on papers & such.

The latest paperwork issue has been how this interacts with my current employer’s “preferred name” form. It doesn’t let you enter a full preferred name (like “X. X. McKenzie Lastname”) and say “okay use that one”, and it doesn’t have a “just use my middle name for everything” option. So it turns out that the only way HR could get the system to call me “McKenzie Lastname” was to tell the computer my name was actually McKenzie Middlename McKenzie Lastname. I’ve decided to live with it.

Random question, could you give some ideas on Irish names your family may have in the 1950-60s? I got a character with an Irish grandpa with 9 brothers and sisters (3 brothers and 6 sisters) and I only got the oldest sister name (soairse) and his name (Caine). I guess I could just name the rest some form of jack and Margret since those seem to be popular, but I wanted to see if there were some “interesting” names you found in your family tree that maybe one of the siblings got named after some ancestor?

Firstly for the sake of clarity: I'm American, not Irish. All of my ancestors for the last 4-5 generations have lived here, and while I like learning about the language/music/culture, I am absolutely not an expert. I HIGHLY recommend getting a sensitivity reader, I'm sure someone in the comments can wave at you if they're willing to take on the job.

Second, Triple-check the spelling, pronunciation, meaning and provenance of any names you do choose, and ABSOLUTELY DO NOT TRUST ANY BABY NAME WEBSITES, they're basically all AI slop at best. The best written-down lists and meanings are actually on Wikipedia.

Third: If you want to learn more Irish names, you can look up the names of like, any Irish musician or artist. I think spotify still has Genre Playlists, if you look up "Irish Folk" you'll get a shitload of names of Real Irish people- and hey, if Hirohiko Akari can name all his characters after 80's pop bands, you can make a subtle ref to modern musicians. Also you'll get a bunch of fun music! --- So while I was writing this, I somewhat departed from the intent of this response, and am putting the last point under a cut because the post got long. And weird.

So there is a thing in Irish-american families, and I think it's true in the British isles still where there are "Family Names", where the same set of first names is recycled over and over and over across generations. My dad's family has exactly three male names that they rotate through over the generations: Roy, Emmet and Jack*. In that order, where the son takes the father's first name as his middle name. My great-grandfather was Roy Jack Surname, my grandfather was Emmet Roy Surname, and my dad is Jack Emmet. My sister and I were AFAB, so the names skipped us and my male cousin in my generation is now Roy Jack. In the event that there are more than three living men with the same surname in the family, that's when they start reaching for the Given Names Of In-Laws We Like and might introduce a new name into the lineup.

*Names changed for privacy above and hereafter, but you get the idea.

So if any of your characters are descendants of that grandpa? They may share a first or middle name with one of his siblings. in fact, they may share the SAME first and middle name with a living relative, and be called "Junior" or "Young Firstname" to distinguish them from the relative they were named after.

My mom's family is from England and has a similar tradition: any new girl born into that family gets a name that is based on the name of one of her living female relatives, usually by sharing the same first letter or syllable. Elanor after Eloise, Vivian after Virginia, and also Jenny after Virgnia via 'Ginny' and every variation of Margret ever, which there are way more of than you'd think.

I cannot recommend doing what they did with Male names though: Name literally every boy Bob* for like five generations, and distinguish individuals by middle name (Bob-Howard and Bob-Benjamin) surname (Bob-Jones and Bob-Bailey) or Honorific (Captain Bob, Dr. Bob, Bob Jr.) when yelling out the kitchen window.

Most families have to good sense to not have the same name repeated in a generation, even if it has a shitload of nicknames. A mother and daughter might both be Margrets (with different nicknames), but two sisters or cousins wouldn't be.

If you've got in-laws you like, but their surname didn't carry over to their kids, you can also just use their surname as a first name! "Regan" is a first and last name, as are Riley and Bailey. This works out in some cases but not in others:

I have a pretty rare surname- last time I checked, there's only 14 people with it worldwide. It's similar to two other VERY COMMON Irish Surnames, but spelled different and from a different region. It's also Very Definitely A Surname- nobody would see my surname alone and think its a firstname.

Since I don't want to bandy it about, we'll pretend that it's "Breathnach", which has a similar vibe.

My Iowa family is Enormous and all descended from my Great-Aunt Lilyanne, Emmet-Roy's sister. Being a good catholic girl, Lillyanne took her husband's surname when she married, and most of her descendants still have that surname, and none have Breathnach.

After the last of my grandfathers grandchildren were born my Iowa family was sad- all but one of Emmet-Roy's grandchildren was female, and my male cousin has his father's surname. Assuming that we would all marry and take our spouses names, the Iowa family despaired that that the Breathnach name would die out!

So one of my second cousins decided that she would Carry On The Family Name, by giving it to the son she was carrying as a Firstname.

Yeah.

Being "Breathnach Surname" is bad enough, but this was compounded by the fact that the Iowa family's surname is Thomas.

YEAH.

My poor cousin Beathnach Thomas, who always has to re-do his paperwork because NOBODY ever puts the names in the correct boxes, who had his first name printed on every jersey he ever had because the uniform place went "that can't be right!", who cant buy his own beer because he's had so many drivers licenses confiscated because liquor store owners and bartenders think his ID is a fake, who has to not only spell his name to everyone he meets, but explain it too.

Then I made it worse.

I ran into cousin Beathnach in Bozeman, Montana quite by accident a few years ago, and while catching up, I mentioned that I was married.

"You know, it's a real hassle, but I'm kind of glad I've got the name I do. I'd heard you sister changed her name, and now with you married- I'd be sad to think we were running out of Breathnachs, you know?" he laughed.

I had to explain.

I married the most wonderful man in the world, who has an extremely common first and last name. Which was kind of a problem, because he shares it with some truly rotten people that always come up during background checks and he has have to explain he's not THAT asshole. It also sounds like and is only a letter or two off a lot of other very common names so his mail is constantly sent awry.

My husband will shortly abandon his too-common-for-comfort surname and become the newest Breathnach, taking the total to 15 (the paperwork takes a while).

...So the name lives on through us anyway, and poor cousin Breathnach Thomas went through all that for no reason. He got very quiet, got up from the table and walked outside to the veranda of the restaurant we were in to stare into the picturesque scenery for a while.

"Well, it's not like people change their first names..." he sighed, when he returned to the table.

"...You know how my sister changed her name? She only changed her first name. She's still a Breathnach." I explained quietly.

I've never seen a man look so haunted.

"I know lots of people who've changed their first names, actually. Mostly for transgender reasons, but a bunch because they just didn't like the one they were given." I added, because if he's going to get his world turned over, it's best to flip it all at once.

His brow furrowed at the ponderous speed of a continental collision, approaching the idea with caution. "...I'll have to think about it."

It's been about a year, but since then, I'll get a text from him every few weeks, auditioning a new given name. I do my best to be fair- I give him the meanings of those names, how they're likely to be misconstrued (some are tolerable annoyances, some pose a safety risk), and if he'd be sharing that name with anybody notable or troublesome. The first few were clearly based on Breathnach, but he began to branch out, and the trend of names has indicated that the idea of Naming Himself is causing my cousin to examine himself, and come to some Realizations (TM).

I realize I have gotten completely off-topic from your actual ask, but I urge you to really get into the nuance of nomencalture, because a name can tell a fascinating story.

[saturncoyote]

how would bunny uncanny valley look (aka Nikola or any other stranger/spiral avatars)

Well i've got some ideas

[laurellala-comics]

there are two wolves inside of you. One of them is fretting that you went through all the effort of making a new art account just to pigeonhole yourself once more into a specific fandom, which holds you back from exploring original art concepts that you care about. The other one came up with three separate ace attorney comic ideas in the last hour alone and isn't stopping anytime soon

[lais-a-ramos]

ohhh, that's a very interesting take!!!!!

i tend to disagree with the idea that laura lee would be, like, a fierce opponent of wilderness cult

but that's mostly because i tend to see laura lee as having two main personality traits that could make her lean into worshipping something different or mixing up her won religion with the wilderness cult, which are being very impulsive -- like jane widdop has described her in the yellowjackets buzz podcast -- and also being in desperate need for a purpose

and that's why i accept many headcanons that involve laura lee and wilderness cult

but i personally tend to think that laura lee would actually become some type of bridge between the two sides, because she had this curiosity for spirituality, but also a strong moral compass

so, the idea of laura lee trying to embark on this journey with lottie, but also questioning when things might go too far, like the hunt in season 2, that's something that feels true to the character, if that makes sense

because, while very impulsive, laura lee doesn't seem like the type to be full of hatred, so i can't see her taking the direction of combating fiercely the others as the people who flanderize her as just a bible thumper seem to believe

i think she would try to keep the peace, just like in the scene of the girls fighting during kegger party on pilot episode

ok, the laura lee in the wilderness part ended up longer than i planned, sorry 😅

but, i agree 100% with everything else

i really believe lottie wants to keep laura lee's memory protected from the horrors of the wilderness

and, YES, the way lottie doesn't mentions laura lee seems very intentional, especially considering how it was technically confirmed that the heliotrope in lottie's compound comes from laura lee's dress lottie wears in 1x10 by the season 1 costume designer marie schley in an interview for the yellowjackets hive podcast (link here )

plus, of course, how she still saw laura lee's ghost 25 years later

and that's what i think makes the scene that lottie is talking to a very high-on-hallucinogenic-shrooms travis that "grieving is not a competition", and the same goes for her silence about laura lee in her eulogy about the others who died, so interesting

because, as you said so well, it's like as if lottie is trying to protect laura lee from that mess and that brutality of the wilderness in a way

the eulogy scene on season 3 is also a huge contrast to doomcoming, in which lottie made sure to mention laura lee as if she was asking ppl to remember laura lee along with her, to grieve laura lee along with her

and that makes me think that lottie not mentioning laura lee, besides an attempt to keep laura lee's memory "pure" and a refusal to believe that laura lee would end up stuck in the wilderness afterlife, was also a way for lottie to push her own personal feelings aside for the good of the group

which makes her line to travis about grief even more significant

grieving might not be a competition, but that is an advice lottie will give others but not follow herself, probably bc she feels like she has to put the group first even if she is not the leader anymore

i'm not, like, disagreeing with you or anything, pls, don't get me wrong 😅

i just think the way that lottie deals with her own emotions is so fucking complex, she is a very fascinating character to discuss

also not to bring up laura lee into everything but you all knew that i would so. here's some thoughts

even though i'm a big fan of thinking that laura lee would've been into the wilderness religion and even made it worse even if just to sanctify lottie. objectively speaking it is more probable that in canon it would've been the opposite, that they did kill her off thinking it was best for her to not even see them turn into this. and! most importantly, that the other characters, that lottie believes that too

that's why i believe it is so interesting and significant that laura lee was so absent from that ceremony, lottie's prayer, and that there's not even something symbolic for her in their little cemetery. because we know for a fact that lottie never forgets about her, that 25 years later the memory of laura lee still haunts her. so if she doesn't mention laura lee it is fully intentional

so what does lottie say during that speech? "three souls that have slipped into the darkness that lasts forever" do you think she wants to think of laura lee in perpetual darkness? no, she wants to think of laura lee's soul in heaven. in peace. happy. "rejoice at the knowledge that they're still with us" she wouldn't want laura lee still there with them, she would want her to move on. "we can still hear them. we can still feel them. they haven't gone" it doesn't matter how much it pains her, she would rather lose laura lee completely than have her still stuck in that place with the rest of them. "javi/jackie/the child, now with the wilderness" laura lee is not with the wilderness. by omitting her name, lottie is saying that laura lee not. with. the. wilderness! real or not, most importantly, it's what lottie believes. she does not want to believe that laura lee is with the wilderness!

[molagboop]

So I put the power of friendship and impractical outfits into Metroid Dread. No suits, no shields: we die in a giant laser hand cannon fight like true warriors.

[abyssembraced]

Working on an iterator design for GLaDOS <3

[supersecretnerd]

Ok so these designs are cute as hell, the Internet is just mean

I have too many thoughts about a game I still need to watch

[arolesbianism]

I forgot to post them earlier oops

[cuteniaarts]

Wine stains on porcelain

(Alternatively: @katkastrofa and I have created 5 OCs in 3 days and I suffer from chronic “I wanna draw the little guysssssss” disease)

[bmpmp3]

the really beautiful landscape/skyscape animation in makoto shinkai's works tends to be the big thing i see focused on and that is understandable and deserved like the weather and lighting effects are unREAL but i do think we should also appreciate how absolute insane the plotlines of his original movies get. at least two movies with in universe catastrophes with major ecological implications. the guns and explosions. theres that one movie i havent seen yet with the guy who turns into a chair (?)

[transmandorianpavus]

[ID: Three traditional sketches of a male elven inquisitor with long hair with a sidecut on their left, mythal vallaslin, and a slight mustache. On the left, he is facing the viewer and glancing to the left. He is wearing a scarf. In both sketches to the right they are facing left. In the top right they are completely in profile and have small hearts drawn next to their face. In the bottom right their body is at a 3/4 angle and their eyes are closed. He is wearing the default skyhold outfit. End ID]

older art which is now outdated because i changed their vallaslin to dirthamen's but i still like it anyway

[medicinemane]

Few things piss me off more than when I'm researching something, and I find someone asking the question I want answered, and the response is just "you shouldn't want that, just do this instead"

Today, it's me trying to look up a build for this witch farm concept that uses raid captains to manipulate the witches ai instead of using redstone

"Just use the shifting floors farms, they're just about as good" people respond... you stupid prick, that's not an answer to the question actually asked. I don't know about these guys, but me, I want it cause it's novel and there's no redstone, and I like putting bespoke prestige projects on my server... you might have noticed I tend to do form over function on a lot of my farms... so this is about form, the function is just a bonus

Second example, I wanted to see if there was any way to make Terra Invicta load faster, "just don't save scum"... you idiot, one that's just stupid advice, people can play games however they want, but two this once again doesn't answer the question

Like yeah, how dare people want to know if there's a way to make a game load saves faster when loading takes like 1 minute

If they at least phrased stuff like "sorry, I don't know how to do that, he's an alternative you might try", it's not helpful but it's at least polite

But man... I just get tired of people not answering the question being asked and instead answering the one they've decided was asked

(Actually, a legit real problem in the real world such as... with doctors who don't listen to their patient and decide they know what's really being asked. Don't do it, answer the asked question, or at least ask questions to confirm what's being asked before going off pig headed)

[ymahousewine]

There's something you need to know about US health insurance

While the topic is still hot I want to mention something I think is important. I have made a post or two before but it bears repeating.

I once worked at a call center of one of the leading health insurance companies

The corruption and coddling of "the rich" is REAL.

None of the executives of Facebook, snap chat, twitter (any social media or tech company) pay deductibles

YES THE RICH DO NOT HAVE DEDUCTIBLES

Not only that but ELECTIVE SURGERIES (noes jobs, boob jobs, face lifts, tummy tucks ect.) for these people was also covered in full.

And these are RICH people. Not your neighbor who collects fancy watches with the lake house. Not the guy with the loud shiny car or the lady with fancy clothes. Oh no those neighbors might as well be paupers cosplaying as rich compared to these people.

The other thing that I need to tell you is this: the children of the rich are walking pharmacies. All the party drugs normal people go to jail for "abusing" yeah these kids have a script even if the medications don't make sense to prescribe together.

One of the most radicalizing moments in my time there was:

I had one call with a RICH person and let them know their elective rhinoplasty and boob job for their wife was covered with no deductible. The plan they were on was like $250 a month, for a billionaire, for the whole family.

Right after that call I had to tell a young woman that her medically necessary abortion would not be covered.

Walking out of that job was not difficult. Keep in mind, the call center reps have no control over what insurance will and will not pay for. They cannot "do you favors" and push a claim in faster. I have plenty of stories from my time there, from people loosing their minds to actual threats to completely incompetent supervisors. But the thing that stuck with me the most is that the unfairness and corruption is baked into insurance from the start.

It's designed to keep/make you as poor as possible