#i love my identity labels

[twilightangel83]

I literally just got diagnosed as autistic last year. In, like, November. At the age of 30. After starting to look into it a year and a half before that. All because of other autistic creators sharing their experiences. Experiences that hit home.

And while getting my official diagnosis has been great, what really helped me was joining a Facebook group for late diagnosed/self diagnosed autistics. The community and ability to figure out what was happening in my body has been so, so amazing. I carry noise reduction ear plugs now. And know what I need to be able to watch a movie most of the way through. I own chewable jewelry and weighted stuffed animals now.

I had a fairly similar experience in my early twenties after the woman who became my best friend causally mentioned asexuality to me one night. Leading to a deep dive of research.

I just…words and labels are so helpful. Being able to accurately and healthily communicate is so important. I hope everyone comes to understand that eventually.

If you were really born in 1979, you’re far too old to be calling yourself this bullshit, “Panromantic Demisexual. Nonbinary Femme Demigirl. Fae Cryptid”. Sad to see adults acting like the worst type of teenager.

*turns to my mutuals* And here we see someone who doesn't want me to have fun. Sad anon, you probably need a hug. And a clown nose. It makes a honk noise, isn't that silly?

Seriously, where do you come from? You're in your 20s, aren't you? You should be doing fun adolescent stuff. You're sniping at a middle aged cripple on Tumblr for finding joy in being. Please go find your joy. Somewhere far away from me.

[cosmicredcadet]

I think i just need to express that the culture surrounding QPRs right now made me think that i couldn't have strong bonds with my friends. Society told me i cant have strong bonds with friends because that was only for romantic relationships. Then i went into aro spaces and this idea was reinforced using QPRs instead of romantic relationships. it was "You can still have strong bonds with people without romance! It can just be a QPR instead!" "QPRs are MORE than friendship so you can have STRONGER BONDS than you would with friends."

it made me think that the relationships i wanted with my friends HAD to be something other than friendship for it to be as strong as i wanted. If i wanted to be the first person in someones life i had to enter some sort of committed relationship. if I wanted someone to care about me as strongly as i did them then it would have to be a relationship that was "more" than friendship.

I thought I wanted a QPR because i was told the only way to get that care and security that I wanted was to enter into a relationship that was "more" than friendship. because friends didn't care that much. because friends didn't live together their entire lives. because friends were never the priority relationship wise. and it took me years to realize that i didn't want any partnership and i shouldn't have to be in one to want these things from a friend. these things CAN be something friends can do. but i found that out on my own. because the aro community kept saying "you want a QPR" when i just wanted a friend who finally saw me as a priority in their life.

[sundry-whovengerslocked]

Doctor Who "Rogue" memes

I've made memes. enjoy.

(contains slight spoilers)

firstly, ones that are more encompassing:

regarding the episode itself:

and finally, Captain Jack Harkness stages of grief:

[brightlotusmoon]

A decade ago I used to have arguments with other advocates over that phrase "labels are for soup cans" because they were dismissing the very real power of individual, personal labels that we chose, rather than being given labels, which was such a huge thing we used to insist "autism is not hot sauce" because of the arbitrary mild and severe labels.

Now, we can choose to be our own flavors of hot sauce.

Not straight, not cis, not allo people, I'm curious:

[struck-by-the-rain]

they r literally perfectly colour coordinated with the flag this is bringing me such joy

[lapdogchase]

gender microlabels are really cool to me bc a lot of the time they're like, metaphors almost, for how someone experiences their gender. like constellunyx, which is a gender connected to the moon, stars, & the connection between the moon & stars. or mechuatic, which is a gender related to mechanical sharks or fish. or lunaboy and solgirl, which are a gender related to the moon + femininity while being a boy, & the sun + masculinity while being a girl, respectively. or genderfunky, which is when ur gender is funky and goofy, and has a really fun flag. like i genuinely think it's so cool!! i love it & i wish microlabels weren't so looked down on both within and outside of the queer community bc it rules!!!

[ppenguinpperson]

this is canon iirc so im not sure it counts but demi (both -romantic and -sexual i think. aroace spec swag) nomi is something that can be so personal actually. im done spamming ur askbox now i promise

nomis such a love letter to the iwatex fandom... like, theyre the 'weird kid' that so many other stories would have made fun of, but not iwatex!!! in iwatex theyre the coolest character ever bc of those same qualities!!! theyre soo everything to me

[theflannelwizard]

IN THIS HOUSE WE STAND FOR THE FLAG!! 🇺🇸🏳️‍⚧️

[lavenderprose]

If I had a nickel for every time a guy asked me out in college AFTER finding out that I was a lesbian and had to be gently turned down only to turn around years later and come out as a trans lesbian...I'd have two nickels. Which isn't a lot but it's weird it happened twice.

[clawsextended]

in my perfect world everyone makes so many lesbian muses the men then have to deal with the exact same behavior when every single post ever written isn’t about dick.

[nintendont2502]

contradicting identites are cool as shit actually everyone who uses them are so cool and hot

[silverselfshippingchaos]

so i saw this tweet and

I know what you are..

[daz4i]

ik it's not good to latch onto a mental illness as your defining trait but also. babe i don't have much else going on or any other sense of identity beyond it

[eeuwigestilte]

how much fear and slander of the label lesbian can one take of a dear friend who is questioning

[tigerplushh]

Today . I am thinking about how many times I have reduced my identity to labels that are easier for cishet people to comprehend that don’t really describe who I am because I don’t expect them to empathise or try to understand my experiences as a genderqueer/trans person and and and AND AND AND

[faggottonystark]

It's pretty wild to see, of all people who could try to gatekeep a word, a self described nonbinary person is trying to say who can be a lesbian. Dude people exclude YOU!! Why are you valid and they aren't???

RIGHTTT Like aimsey is very transmasc leaning so to turn around and say that someone elses definition of lesbianism isnt valid is crazy to me. Bisexual people can be lesbians. straight men can be lesbians. straight women can be lesbians. We can all be lesbian if you believe hard enough and thats the beauty of it!!!! there is no right or wrong way!!!