#i hope this doesnt come across as rude

[genderkoolaid]

#I mean I guess#it’s a fair point but it’s a little subjective#i agree with OP up until they use the word ‘tainted’#so much of our existence as people is built off someone’s urge to fuck someone else it’s not surprising those connotations exist#and while it’s valuable to discuss the deconstruction of those connotations#‘tainted’ is such an inherently negative word that I sorta wish OP reflected on how really beautiful love and relationships can be#even if they don’t relate to the experience much

I get what you're saying, but it's kind of rude to tell an aromantic person they need to "reflect on how beautiful love can be", especially when they are specifically talking about how amatonormativity alienates us from language. It's upsetting to not be able to talk about how you feel and the relationships you do have when everything is assumed to be romantic, and romantic attraction is given precedence over everything else. Aromantic people are extremely alienated from relationships and the language used to describe them (at least in English) because of this. I imagine OP used a negative word on purpose because this can have a really negative impact on aromantics; it's upsetting to constantly have to try and navigate language and relationships when everything is romantic by default, especially if you are romance-repulsed and that distresses you.

I'm not saying this was your intent, but to me, it feels kind of... a bit too close to "why do aromantics have to be so negative about love, stop trying to ruin it for the rest of us just because you're bitter!" for comfort. We are allowed to express negative feelings about love and romance, and we shouldn't have to pander to alloromantic people's positive feelings about it, you know? Most aromantic people have had to think a lot more and a lot deeper about the meaning of love and their feelings about it than alloromantic people have.

It bothers me how, at least in the English language, so many seemingly neutral and basic words are assumed to have romantic connotations by default. When you “like” somebody it means you have a crush on them, and when you’re in a “relationship” it means you’re romantically involved… even though “like” and “relationship” are among the most basic words to describe any human relations whatsoever.

We can’t even have language to describe how we relate as people without it being tainted by amatonormativity.

[sneakydraws]

ive read war and peace twice and yet for some reason i only just found out that the tag is semi-active. tonight i also learned about andretole. consider me intrigued

(i feel like this couldve happened if they actually survived borodino. currently imagining anatole delivering flowers to andreis grave, full of denial about why he does it. or, if anatole died too (who knows!), they met up in the afterlife and after a rocky start do end up getting with each other)

i am DELIGHTED to hear this anon i've also read (listened to) it twice!! i cannot imagine how bizarre of a feeling it must be to find my andretole tag without prior warning.

i highly encourage, no, implore you to pursue this line of storytelling. the more andretole interpretations the merrier!!! personally the andretole dynamic i preach is one where they would never properly get together because all they're good for is toxic yaoi and comedy. any scene by andreis grave would at most be in this realm

[aew-kun-age-regression]

Are you ever going to answer your requests or re open them because you have had them shut for ages now

I have been working on answering them, I have been working on a Daredevil fic that was requested which is nearly finished but it's not the media that my brain is currently the most hyper fixated on so I need you to understand that it will naturally take longer for me to do.

This blog is for me to post things that make me happy and I also want to make content for other people but it's important to remember that this is something I'm doing with my free time and I won't necessarily always want to answer stuff and I'm not obligated to do so. I would like to also be clear that I have not been well for several months now and have not been coping well with that so a lot of my content has been self indulgent to make me feel better, I appreciate that not everyone will have those same interests but this is also my blog.

Also I will reopen my requests when I feel like I have emptied my asks box enough, until then it will remain closed.

[sims-himbo]

this is my plea to CC creators to please please PLEASE make more hairs available for both feminine and masculine frames, trans sims are already neglected by EA so let's not do the same

[its-no-biggie]

ok this actually kinda makes sense to me though?? like

things alpha did as an ai:

was the origin of all the fragments and pfl in general

sacrificed himself to take down a major pfl facility

things epsilon did as an ai:

traumatized washington

followed tex into the epsilon unit

tracked down and killed the director

sacrificed himself to take down charon

as ai, they both have some really great moments and theres a lot to say about both of them. i can definitely see them being evenly matched. but in terms of blue team.....

things alpha did as a blue:

gestures to all of blood gulch

things epsilon did as a blue:

woke up with no memories and didnt know anything about his teammates

abandoned them to chase down tex

abandoned them to go with carolina TWICE

got in a fight with tucker about how he keeps abandoning them

he did help them win some fights, and of course sacrificed himself to save them, so ill give him credit for that. but he was hardly involved in ANY of the classic shenanigans and dumb bullshit

its no contest! alpha is clearly the superior blue

now, perhaps the poll is meant to just be about the characters as a whole and not taken in context. but at least for me, when i see a poll about blue team, im thinking about blue team shenanigans, like caboose killing church with the tank or freckles taking over blue team. and epsilon wasnt really involved in much of that? likewise, when i see a poll about ai, i think of pfl and the aftermath of it, stuff like alpha discovering he was an ai or epsilon getting his memories back. the context is completely different, so i would definitely rank them differently. so that might be why?

absolutely fascinated between the disparity of alpha vs epsilon in the blue team poll but equality in the ai poll

[fellhellion]

can i just say that i super appreciate how ur both a movie and comics miguel enjoyer (even with some fair critiques both ways)

the beef out there around miguel just gets so snarky or aggressive sometimes 😭

thanks, i appreciate it!

i think the thing tho is that i believe the passion comes from a sincere place of love for the character. also i don't. personally feel comfortable or think it's productive to be calling people aggressive or snarky esp since given the nature of this being an anon ask to a public blog it's the equivalent of me accidentally lobbing a gossip grenade because i have no idea whose take this is throwing shade at. i'm not trying to be an ass or say that you're being shitty or anything. i just think the kind of forum (difficult given the nature of social media haha) for venting about that kind of thing is the personal dms of your friends yknow?

but yeah, the passion is mixed w the complicated fact that like. every miguel fan is essentially doing the equivalent of sharing one classroom together fshfkjd we're all squashed in the single character tag and inevitably you're going to run into people or takes that you just don't like or think aren't nuanced or whatever. god knows i don't agree w every single opinion on him i see and it's absolutely gotta be the same for other people back @ me and mine haha. and that's a good thing! variety is the spice of life and shit, and i personally think it's very valuable to be exposed to perspectives i haven't considered/don't agree w/partially agree w because that helps me reconsider and develop my own thoughts.

and he's a character that means a lot to a lot of different people for a lot of different reasons and so people (including myself lol) get very passionate about it and where you disagree w others, and that's fine. ultimately i think it's helpful to hit the bricks where you need to if things get aggravating and curate the spaces you interact w about the character as best you can.

[klaeusd]

been thinkin about this and am gonna add it to my rules, but i'd really appreciate ppl refraining from using colored text when writing with me! i have poor vision and find i have a more difficult time reading replies when the font is different colors 🤍

[spirallingmoths]

Okay, so we've been debating whether or not to respond to this or not. I feel like you might've missed the point of the post a little bit. Yeah, it's about how all trauma is valid but it's more about the CDD system community's tendency to treat "extreme trauma" like an abstract concept and also tends to create a taboo around speaking about it (because it's "too extreme" to be mentioned or it might make some people feel invalid or smth). It's not a question of validity or what is and isn't trauma its about how people are treating those specific trauma survivors/nm Also, your tags on the response confused us a bit/lh

#honestly ive felt like im in an emotional warzone for years #so i dont know if that counts but it feels like it

Okay, so (probably because we're autistic) I can't tell if you're trying to say you've felt like you're in an emotional warzone for years and feel like it should count or you don't think it counts but it's how you feel. (OBLIGATORY DISCLAIMER: All trauma is valid and you're more than allowed to call your trauma extreme if that's what fits/is more comfortable for you. I just lack a word for people with "out there" trauma. I hope this makes sense)

Being in an emotional warzone isn't the same as being in a physical actual warzone, which is what the OG post was talking about so for the sake of the current convo, it's not relevant. Also you do kinda prove our point a bit about how people treat "out there" traumatic events like concepts instead of like, things that happen to people. You still have a valid experience and I don't mind using that phrase to describe your emotional hardship, it's just in the context of this specific post, it can come off as a little insensitive/nm Have a nice day/gen

Something I've noticed is how some CDD systems (and general trauma survivors) sometimes treat "extreme" trauma like a fictional concept when trying to valid themselves. I understand where "you don't need to go through RAMCOA abuse/a war/a dictatorship/etc to be a system and have cptsd" comes from and I fully agree with it. Some shitty ableist singlets can be very annoying with how they only accept trauma when it's "extreme" trauma. But I think the way some people talk about it sometimes just makes it sound off. I don't know it's just the way some people phrase it like "Not everyone traumatised is living in a war zone 🙄" makes me really uncomfortable. Like it's not the faults of people who have gone through "extreme" trauma that some people are ableist and uneducated

Also, people who go through those do exist? Like idk most people I see talk about it like it's some far-off vague fictional out-there concept and not like, a thing that real people experience and go through? Like RAMCOA abuse is real and valid (I'm not a survivor myself so I won't talk about it a lot but I felt the need to bring it up because the way some people talk about it is just weird), people who have lived through wars exist? and their trauma is valid, people who have been trafficked exist and their trauma is valid, people who have been tortured exist and their trauma is valid, people who have survived genocides exist and their trauma is valid, and people who have been in cults exist and their trauma is valid. In general, people with "extreme" trauma exist and their trauma is real

Survivors of "extreme" abuse/trauma shouldn't be made to feel like their trauma is too taboo to mention. Or feel like they can't talk about it out of fear of "invalidating other systems". All trauma is valid (including "non extreme" trauma). I think validating traumatic things that aren't usually viewed as trauma by the average person is good but please try not to bring down anyone else in the process

[homestuck-iconz]

hey mod rose hiw come the other mods arent as active as yoy

Well, in mod Jade and mod Johns case, specifically, their offerings take more time than mine! Their icons are always drawn [so if you sent a request a few months ago and it hasn't been answered, thats probably why lol].

And, as a general thing, I have more free time than the other mods do for a few reasons. Even then, I dont post the most regularly either!! I've just started highschool and its much more draining than i thought it'd be lol.

Basically, we're all people who have other things to do, I'm just currently the least busy.

[featherdawn]

Is there a term that's like. the opposite of loveless aro cus that's me. whether I experience romantic attraction is questionable at best but I am in love with all of my friends it's just platonic <3

[intjint]

OP, you misspelled 'very nice and amazing' when describing Fred's first costume. Hope this helps!

I don’t know if I can contain my “The Muppet Christmas Carol has better costume design than most Oscar-nominated period dramas” rant until after Thanksgiving you guys, I have…so many Thoughts

[1oddboi1]

This is a perfect example of my favorite thing about animation on the internet. This is clearly someone who has an incredible understanding of form, and perspective, and motion, and expressions, but they use it to make an animation of a little bunny guy falling in love. I don't mean to undermine how genuinely impressive and well done this is, or be dismissive of it in any way. The camera movements are spectacular, and with how the characters move and rotate, they almost feel like 3d models. What I'm saying is that I love when someone super talented with a deep understanding of their craft decides to makes funny little internet cartoons. I've subscribed to them, and I think everyone who see this should too :)

[terafaerie]

Love languages specifically were made by a guy to justify why his wife had to serve him (his love language iirc was "physical touch" (so his wife was obligated to sleep with him etc etc) and he designated hers as "acts of service" because she had to do everything for him)

yes, absolutely, i do know this part! i understand why this is fucked up and some people dont want to use the terms bc of it

but i highly doubt everyone knows this. the love language terms are sooo widespread that im sure 90% of people dont bat and eye and take it at face value! ‘i like physical touch a lot so if someone doesnt we likely wouldnt be very compatible’ just feels like a healthy way of communicating to me

love is fake and relationships are fake anyway (over exaggerating ofc) so if people arent using the words to be abusive i dont see the issue i guess? i dont know, i feel like most people dont use them maliciously

[sconesfortea]

Have you looked up what the term “gay panic” means?

Hi, I don't have to look it up, as a queer person, I'm well aware of what 'gay panic' means.

It's not a term we use in England, but I've been aware of it for a long time as I've seen discussion of the phrases flippant use in media multiple times, most recently in Heartstopper, and how upsetting that was for American viewers for whom the term holds a much darker history.

But as you'll see in my post, I distinctly didn't use the term "gay panic" for that exact reason. If you look up "bi panic" you'll see it being used exactly as I used it in my post:

I do apologise if my the wording of that post upset you or anyone though, I had hoped that I'd avoid that by not actually using the words "gay panic".

[aroaceleovaldez]

Common misconception (and that wasn't a question in my tags, it was a statement) - We do actually know Hazel is implied to have the exact same powers as Nico, sans Nico's ability to tangibly interact with ghosts as that's implied to be a Ghost King-exclusive power (Nico wasn't able to do that either prior to becoming Ghost King). Pluto isn't less associated with the Underworld by the Romans - he's just more conflated with the god Plutus, which is why his name becomes Pluto - and that's actually a late Greek thing. The Romans further conflated him with other chthonic deities like Dis Pater (who is associated with both Underworld and wealth) and Orcus, so there's no reason for Hazel to have exclusively wealth powers - and we're explicitly shown that's not the case! She's able to communicate with and sense the souls of the dead just as well as Nico in House of Hades and BoO - it's just she's never given the opportunity to fully showcase those abilities to the same level because of how her role in the narrative constrains what she's able to do as to not take away from the rest of the main cast (incredibly disappointing tbh). (Nico on the other hand does get to equally use both aspects - we see him use geokinesis many times, such as creating cracks and rifts in the ground constantly and in BoTL even creating a giant mass of black marble - not even just summoning it.)

In fact, because we know demigods get more powerful as they get older and Hazel is older than Nico (Nico ends TLO at 12 and so is 13 in HoO despite repetitive errors in the books, and is 14 in TOA after things get corrected again. Hazel died several months after her 13th birthday and then spent several more months at CJ after being resurrected, making her 14 and a half or so in HoO and 15 in TOA), plus Hazel has been honing her abilities for far longer than Nico has, Hazel is easily reasonably more powerful than Nico. That's what I was getting at in the tags. We don't see this in the books so I didn't include it in the main text, but there is no evidence to show that Hazel isn't as powerful as Nico or more so if she actually used the full extent of her abilities like Nico usually does.

the dynamic of demigods thinking which other demigod is the most powerful is always amusing to me because. like, we know the big 3 kids are all the most powerful. That's just a fact of their universe. And then we know nearly every character views Percy as the strongest demigod, and most people are very rightfully intimidated by him.

and you look at the powers of the Big 3 kids and there's Percy, but then you realize Nico is just kind of objectively more powerful than him but simply chooses to hang out in Percy's shadow like he's Percy's scary dog privileges. Like, the two of them are pretty equally capable of causing multiple different apocalypses. Nico just also has like four different instakill powers and it's not like he doesn't use them. He very much uses them! Not infrequently, even! And they don't seem to take a significant amount of energy from him! And other demigods are pretty intimidated by both of them! But Nico makes a conscious point to keep his cards close to his chest and not let on exactly how dangerous and scary he can be if he wants to. People are already scared enough of him without knowing anything about him and he doesn't like that. Percy doesn't think about that nearly as much, and so usually just goes in guns blazing and that's part of why he's considered a wildcard. And then Nico himself puts Percy on a pedestal, so those who do know more about Nico's abilities then presume Nico knows something they don't about Percy that implies Percy is even stronger than him.

And even on a meta level Nico's narrative role requires him to be functionally more powerful than Percy, because he very often serves the purpose of getting Percy out of situations he can't handle on his own. That's just part of his function as a character! But also narratively he can't overshadow Percy so he just takes a backseat of his own accord and that's very amusing to me.

[lewis-winters]

Sorry if this is random/weird as much as I love the pic of Lewis and Dick reading my fave (and one I think is underrated) is the one of Dick perched on the arm of Lewis' chair, it's SO comfy and comfortable! Also random question: what is your take on Dick always seeming to not minimize but undermine (I can't think of a better word) Lewis' importance to him, like he says it but it always feels like it comes with an asterisk (Dick half the pics of you from the war have Nixon in them, with you either grinning dopily at him or trying to be as close as possible without being on top of him.

Also I love Dick saying he was always around...Dick my man you were a higher rank then him at the end you could have sent him away!

Again sorry needed to get all out lol (but would love to hear your thoughts!

I love that picture too!

uuuuhhhh as for your question....... um I don't have a good answer because I don't understand it? sorry, but what do you mean by asterisk? I don't think I ever caught any "undermining" or "minimizing" in any of Dick's stuff on Nix? can you pinpoint where exactly he does this, please?