#i have. just accepted that transphobia is a usual thing and. do not mention things around family

[rusted-phone-calls]

My dad is being transphobic.

Sighs. There is nothing but suffering in this world.

But also in what context and how I am interested

[luunamoona]

the way community handled queerness is honestly so peak. like, there're 3 main moments i can think of in the show where queerness was apparent and mentioned: advanced gay, queer studies and advanced waxing and britta's pitch in emotional concequences of broadcast television.

in advanced gay, the cornelius hawthorne is seen as a villian for having traits like being abusive towards his son, pierce, him being really racist and him being homophobic. this acknowledgement of homophobia being a bad thing is definitely good for the early 2010s, as many shows treated being queer as a joke back then. also cornelius being fucking murdered at the end of the episode solidifies the fact his actions were deemed immoral and he therefore had his comeuppance.

community only ever uses queerness as a punchline in the context of troy and abed's relationship, the punchline usually being "look at how romantic these 2 friends are how silly", which could be seen as homophobia as the same context with a man and a woman would be treated differently by the showrunners as it'd be turned into a romantic subplot.

the next example i have is from queer studies and advanced waxing. having the dean tell richie and carl that he "isn't openly anything and gay doesn't begin to cover it" is much more progressive than many other media at that time, and even now, as they'd usually have the queer character just be gay for convenience. this need for convenience is commented on in the episode with richie and carl basically coercing the dean into adopting a label that is inaccurate but convenient for his straight peers. back to my previous point, presenting queerness as being more complex and having more nuance than just gay and straight is something that is very useful to queer viewers as it presents an option beyond these 2 ends of the spectrum. unlike what other shows may do with this concept, community treats it seriously, showing the dean's inner conflict with presenting with an identity that isn't his, with lines like "i feel sick". (also side point, the line "i make gayness look like mormonism" goes so hard)

finally, there's britta's pitch in emotional concequences of broadcast television. in this, the dean protests britta's decision to make him transgender and not "all this other stuff". something i love about that scene is the ability to critique queer represention without insulting it. as a trans person, i've seen a good amount of transphobia is television. this isn't one of these times. being able to have trans identity be a part of the punchline without it being insulted is something that is apparently very hard for screenwriters of sitcoms to do, so i commend them for being able to do that. as well as this, this scene acts as a criticism of how basic queer representation in media is, how they like having one distinct, easy to understand label to give their token character, ignoring "all this other stuff". it's telling us that, like in queer studies and advanced waxing, queer idenity isn't black and white, it's a wide spectrum of identities that comes in many, many different colors.

all in all, community's representation of queerness and how it treats insults to queerness is something a lot of other shows should try to strive for. in my opinion, it has some of the most nuanced takes of queer identity and representation out of any sitcom that doesn't have queer people as a target audience. it feels very fitting, since the show is literally called community and it about a group of misfits who bond over their shared messed up-ness. this show is all about finding your people and accepting everyone, as pierce says in for a few paintballs more, "flaws and all". i think the showrunners had an impression this show would speak to a lot of queer people and i love that they were able to make us feel welcome just as greendale does to the study group.

[trans-luis-serra-navarro]

TELL ME ABOUT TRANS LUIS!!! I WANT HIM TO BE TRANS SO BAD! (Also he has a giant neon sign over his head that says gay, this man reeks of homosexual)

HEHEHEHEHEHEHEHE OMG HEYYYYY HIIIIIII HELLOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!! I’m SOOOOOO sorry this took so long I had SO MANY THOUGHTS!!!!! I plan on SOMEDAY Doing Like. A properly credited and researched document on why I think Luis is trans so this post is more or less kind of a tl;dr rather than a super proper read?????????? And ofc obligatory ‘this is just my own reading and personal interpretation if you disagree please just keep your opinion to yourself!!!!!’

Also this isn’t proofread like. At ALL so please ignore any sentences that seem wonky or weird HDBEHENDUDJX

ALSO also I do NOT give permission for this post to be screenshotted or reposted ANYWHERE!!!!!!!!!!! No part of this!! Don’t steal!!

Trigger warning for just general mentions of transphobia, religious transphobia and also I talk the death statistics for trans people near the end, so please keep that in mind when reading!!

Ok so, I’m gonna try and put this as chronologically as possible BXBSHDNSHDND but starting at the beginning from when Luis was little there’s already a few things we can pick up on

Luis has a pretty unorthodox family; his mum died when he was little and his dad left so he had to be raised by his Grandfather, and, ask any Trans person around you and they’ll tell you it’s oftentimes the people in their lives who weren’t their direct parents who decided to pick them up and raise them and accept them as they truly are- I feel like you could probably read this with Luis’ grandfather if you really wanted to, too. From what we can TEEEEEEELLL Luis held his grandfather and the memory of him very near and dear to his heart (ie referencing him in conversation, saying ‘not again’ when the medicine burns in seperate ways etc) so you could probably guess that maybe Luis’ grandfather was a surprisingly accepting figure in Luis’ life!!!!!

Which would also line up with the little we know about him- their house was somewhat far away from the rest of the village and from what the notes about him read, his grandfather was a bit of an outcast????? It seemed like the only person who checked in on him regularly was Bitorez- once again, another positive male figure in Luis’ life that he could theoretically look up to and admire.

AND we know that Luis’ grandfather encouraged his love for science and biology- something that prooooobably would’ve been frowned upon in a super conservative catholic glorified cult. So already, Luis and his Grandfather are a bit unorthodox in the setting they live in.

Then we cut to Don Quixote; obviously there’s a LOT to dissect about Luis and his love for that book, and it’s pretty common knowledge how,,,,,,,,, g a y that book is HXNEHENEUDIX like MAAAAAANY-a historians have already pointed that out I don’t need to beat a dead horse but ask literally any trans person around you and they’ll tell you about how they had a fascination with like,, Warrior Cats or Animorphs or Percy Jackson or Peter Pan growing up only to find out they were trans later. Trans kids are pretty drawn to books with unlikely protagonists who don’t fit the usual stereotypes and go on adventures with a whacky misfit family they formed by themselves- and Don Quixote kiiiiiiiiiiiinda falls under that pattern????? It’s a REALLY weird book and I wanna get into why later but it wouldn’t be shocking to assume that Luis probably grasped onto that idea of finding love and acceptance even though he was weird and unusual and he too could go on chivalrous adventures and do good in the world and be loved for who he is (I’ve kinda gone into this before and I plan on going into it again I’ll tag you in that post!!!!)

There’s also something to note about the fact that none of the village notes reference Luis by his first name. Luis is apparently a very “strong and masculine” name so if we ARE going off of the assumption that Luis is trans (which like,,. Duh HDNEHENDHS) then we can probably assume he picked that name for himself

It’s also pretty notable to note (hah) that like,,,,,, just in general, a lot of kids who grow up in a super religious environment just. Turn out gay and trans. I dunno why. I dunno what’s the exact statistic for that but like. Cmon. We’ve all seen it. We all know it right

Then huzzah! Luis’ Grabdfather dies!!! How sweet of him!!!!! /s obviously but Luis takes his death as an opportunity to run from home- again, something that’s sadly quite common amongst younger trans people it seems. When you loose your only support at home, and suddenly that home becomes unsafe, oftentimes the only solution is to run.

Now I’ve talked MUUUUUUCH more in depth about it in this post but considering the fact that Luis was probably a young teenager, an immigrant from the middle of nowhere, and had zero family or support- there’s a less than zero chance that he probably would have stumbled across the queer community one way or another. See, all throughout the 20th century, the queer and poc/immigrant communities were VERY intertwined- now I am WHITE AS ALL HELL so their history isn’t something I’m able to speak on with any amount of grace as actual people of colour could, so I’ll keep this breif and also if I’ve misrepresented anything PLEEEEAAASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE TELL ME

Basically, like I said- the communities were very intertwined. They’d help each other and were sometimes seen as like the same circle of people when it came to what they were fighting for. All throughout history, this comes up time and time again- which is why I can only assume that Luis, a young person of colour having come from basically the middle of nowhere, would most likely find solace and a place in both communities- and would ABSOLUTELY have explored his gender and sexuality because of it. Even if he WAS cis there’s no way he wouldn’t have at least dabbled in a bit of the ol gender exploration every now and then

((Also, VEEEERY important to note that yes although trans and poc history are very intertwined they are still very seperate histories. It’s VERY IMPORTANT to not erase poc voices from this discussion when talking about this aspect of history- listen to your poc friends first and foremost before all else))

It’s also probably good to note that a few universities around that time were pretty notoriously open about being queer-friendly but we have no clue what exact university in Europe Luis would have gone to but idk we can probably guess he fooled around with some men and women HANSYWNEYENDUCJX

Then we cut to umbrella. I and a few other people have gone into how umbrella would have most likely groomed a young Luis into being excited to work with them and willing via offering him a place to stay, a college degree, a stable life etc etc but there’s also a sense of horror there when you take into account they could’ve offered him the ability to medically transition. Something that was NOT easy or very safe to do at the time. And plus this is resident evil so we can only guess what magical hoodicky they would’ve gotten to do that GDBEYWNDYDJ

From what we can tell, luis honestly enjoyed his time with umbrella!!!! He seemed to be friends with his coworkers and he was proud of the work he was doing (Yknow, before he would have found out it was all a lie and was going to kill millions HXBEHENEH) and honestly isn’t that every trans persons dream????? To have a job where you’re accepted and can feel safe at??????? To have friends who can accept you???????? It just makes what all went down all the more heartbreaking to me if we DO view him in the lens of being a trans character!!!!!!!!!

And then, of course, for the second time in his life; everything comes crumbling down. I’ve done seperate analysis on this and I plan on doing another cuz what I’m about to mention just hits,,,,,,,, S O O O O close to home to me, but when everything in his life gets destroyed AGAIN;

Luis chooses to go back to Valdelobos.

And isn’t that just so devastating?????? Because we as humans ALL do that- when life gets so bad and so intense we have no clue what to do, we all wanna turn to our parents or our childhood homes and get a hug and that feeling of nostalgia and safety from when we were kids that we missed.

But ask any other trans person and they’ll tell you that a lot of the time, that’s not what you’re gonna get; and that’s what happened to Luis. He went home, hoping- BEGGING- for some kind of support from the nightmares he just went through, only to be thrown straight into another one. Los Illuminados had been taken over and reverted his childhood home into something totally unrecognisable and forced him to work for them or else he’d literally be tortured. And isn’t that just,,,,, made all the more depressing when you look at it from a trans angle????

In this case scenario, when a lot of Trans people are forced to return to unsafe homes- they’re forced to push down their identity for their own safety. And reading that in Luis is just all the more devastating

And then there’s the whole thing where Luis literally SELF SURGICALLY REMOVED THE LAS PLAGAS FROM HIMSELF????????? WHY DONT MORE PEOPLE TALK ABT HOW TRAUMATISING THAT MUSTVE BEEN????????????? I know @/katabay made an INCREDIBLE post going into a religious reading on this and how I’m Don Quixote Alonso himself preforms an excorsism on himself and it’s weirdly erotic?????? And how that translates to Luis’ Plagas removal- they also made INCREDIBLE art go check it out- but throughout history there are a LOT of poems made by “”””women who want to be men”””” (aka trans men) who were religious at some point and describe the sensation of binding or getting top surgery to that of having an exorcism (this was mostly done to convince local churches that Hey no it was totally cool actually just let us get gender affirming care pretty pretty please) so, y’know,,,, maybe that meme that Luis showing Leon is scar was actually him coming out as trans wasn’t that far off HEBWYENXUXJXJDNC

And there’s also just the whole fact that he was a scientist that plays into this, too- Catholicism, specifically the hardcore Catholicism that Luis grew up with, absolutely HATES science. And the fact that Valdelobos seemed to be permanantly stuck in this 18th century cult-like state only confirms that they probably would have been anti-medicine, too; not only adding onto Luis’ guilt but also making him a prestigious scientist all the more impressive. Imagery that Luis is shown with (like that lil casket he carried around in seperate ways filled with the suppressants Ada needed) is often used by people in cults similar to Valdelobos to prove that ‘oh science is the devil!!!’ Etc, and y’know what else is related to science????

Medically transitioning babey!!!!!! A lot of the times hardcore religious people, again in similar cults to Valdelobos, use terms like ‘mutulating’ to describe medically transitioning and use already devil-associated imagery like science and modern medicine to hammer home that hatred of trans people (also obligatory not all religious people are like this in fact MOST religious people aren’t like this I’m talking specifically situations like the Gloriavale cult etc etc)

So like,,,,, again, that whole meme that Luis made his own testosterone wouldn’t be too far off BXNSHENDHDNX

But then we get some light at the end of this very depressing tunnel HXNSHENDUJ;

Leon, Ada and Ashley

Now from here on out I’m gonna get into some more like,,, CHARACTER dissection so I figured here would be the best place to put this HDBEYENEUS; Luis fits ALL the stereotypes of a stealth queer person during his time period. Like,, you know the song Gay or European????? Yeah that isn’t a joke that’s a real rhing European queer and trans men did to basically hide the fact that they were queer. It’s like. The oldest trick in the book. Which is why it’s SOOOOOO funny to me when I see Reddit dudebros going “errrrrmm actually Luis isn’t gay it’s just his Spanish charm!!” LIKE DUDE. YOUVE FALLEN FOR T H E TRICK. THIS IS THE EQUIVALENT OF A BIRD USING THEIR TAIL FEATHERS TO DISTRACT A PREDATOR.

And also Spain in general just has a very long and very beautiful Queer and Trans history- obviously it’d be way too much to fit into this one post but I highly reccomend just,,,, looking it up for yourself. Queer people have always been around :))

Ok ok, back to Leon- I plan on someday taking apart and dissecting EEEEEEEEEVERY interaction between them cuz it’s just. It’s all SO GAY. But in general, Luis treats Leon SO much differently than Ashley and Ada but in a good way!!!!!

Luis isn’t afraid to be open around Leon. He isn’t afraid to be flamboyant and jokey and flirt with him- and hell, he probably did enjoy that chain scene HXNEHENEUDJDJ he isn’t afraid to be more vulnerable and just generally what you wouldn’t consider a stereotypical “manly-man;” he doesn’t conform to western societies of stereotypical masculinity, and he isn’t afraid to show that around Leon.

He’s open with Leon- he’s vulnerable and he very openly CARES about Leon. He truly wears his heart on his sleeve and this is for a MULTITUDE of different reasons but I think a big part of it is not just because he’s genuienly attracted to Leon but because leon is a shining example of a chivalrous knight to him

I and many others have gone into this further; but when Luis first met Leon in that body bag, it probably honestly WAS like he was meeting his very own Don Quixote for the first time. He was probably a shining example of everything he wanted to be; brave, kind, never makes mistakes- and again I’ve gone into this further but this truly does play into his character and his very noble quest for redemption and forgiveness a lot and viewing this from a Trans angle just gives that quest SO much more power

Capcom does their best to make Leon out to be a super strong manly-man and @highball66 has gone into some of Leon’s own queer coding, but I think Luis also sees through this. He sees through his macho dudebro masculinity and he sees a genuine and kind human being underneath; just as Leon had done for him. Leon is everything Luis wants to be in a man- just like his grandfather and probably countless male figures in his life before him. So he’s not afraid to open up to Leon; he isn’t held back by that expectation of toxic masculinity because he wasn’t raised that way.

And he’s the EXACT SAME with Ada and Ashley too!!!!!!!! He CARES about Ada! He’s CONSTANTLY looking out for her and giving her the benefit of the doubt and he’s always so polite and kind around her!!!!!!!! Like yeah he puts on the front of being a ladies-man but again like SOOO many others before me have mentioned that’s probably just a safety front!!!!!! He wears his heart on his sleeve around Ada and Ashley, too- he’s always SO polite around her I feel like not enough people point that out????? He offered his hand out for her to take before inspecting the blood, he’s always asking for permission before he touches her etc he’s so nice people don’t give him enough credit for that!!!!!!!!!!!!!

And theeeeeeeeeeeeennnnnn it aaaaaaaaalll comes crashing down when he diiiiiieeeeeeessss,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

It’s pretty important to note that Luis is killed by Krauser; and again, other people have gone into Leon and Krausers queer relationship coding a lot better than I have, but it’s pretty interesting to note that Luis was killed by the guy who pretty much encapsulates all forms of toxic masculinity (again, that meme that everyone jokes about that Krauser killed Luis cuz he was jealous of Leon’s new boyfriend might not be far off HXHWHDUXHSH)

Luis uses his final breath to save Leon- to save the man who has shown him forgiveness and empathy and love for the first time in god knows how long. He opens his heart up to Leon in his final moments; he does one last ‘such a loss to the ladies of the world eh?’ As a last-ditch effort to try and convince Leon that he tooooooootally isn’t queer you guys and to try and hold onto that sense of normality; but he drops that act immedietly after Leon shows him that he’s taking this seriously

He opens up to Leon and admits that he led a pretty shitty life. He spills his heart out to Leon and asks him if people can change. And I’ve said rhis before and I’ll say it again; this is Luis looking for some kind of confirmation. Some kind of forgiveness and some way of saying that Yes his life DID mean something- that people CAN change and CAN be loved like he loved Leon and Leon loved him. And, hell, if we’re REEEEEAALY tryna stretch here (which I mean this whole post is tbh HXBSHSNEHDNSHD) you could even read this as Luis asking for somebody to accept him as he truly is, and see past the facade of a super flamboyant cis straight man. It’s not a stretch to say this moment is him looking and hoping that Leon can see through his past actions and see the beautiful human being underneath- so it wouldn’t be crazy to view it under a queer light either

Then, of course, Leon says that iconic line; you were a fine knight, Don Quixote. Confirming to Luis that he WAS like the chivalrous knight he always looked up to when he was little. Not just for his bravery and confidence; but also for his exploration of gender and non conformity in his sexuality. Leon confirms that for him in his final moments.

Then of course there’s the nature of his death; the fact that he dies below his childhood village is pretty telling to me.

Now this is where I’m gonna get into some depressing statistics, so readers beware, but unfortunately, there is a good chunk of trans people who will die in their childhood homes for many reasons. There’s been a good chunk of trans people all throughout history who have lived long, full lives but still were buried in their childhood homes and towns under their dead name or under the gender they were assigned to at birth. It’s depressing and there really is no making light of it- which is why Luis dying in the village he grew up in and tried so desperately to escape from hits so hard to me.

• Now HOPEFULLY obviously I am N O T comparing Luis’ death to actual real trans people’s deaths. But as somebody who HAS lost trans friends to suicide, the manner of his death absolutely REMINDS me of that and thus hits home harder for me. Go give your trans friends a hug, basically

But on the bright side, at least he didn’t die alone. He had Leon; he had somebody who could, theoretically, show the world who he truly was and remember him by his true name and nature. Luis won’t be totally forgotten underground; he’ll have Leon and Ashley and Ada ro remember the man he truly was just like how many, many trans people who have passed away will have friends and loved ones who will remember them for who they truly are.

Now I don’t wanna end this whole analysis on such a depressing note so I’ll add this at the end; I genuienly think that even if you DONT headcannon Luis as Trans, adding that element to his character not only enriches his already INCREDIBLY well written story but also just generally means the world to trans people in real life, too

Like,,,,, I’ve mentioned this before but I’ll say it again; seeing a character who is so genuinely confident in themselves, so open about their emotions and their identity and who holds themselves in a way that isn’t stereotypically “masculine”- that honestly hits so much closer to home than any other trans headcannon ever has. I’ve gone into detail about how much Luis as a character means to me, but seriously, reading him from this angle lowkey makes me want to cry with how much it means to me HDBEHENEHDJX

Luis is a Beautifully written character who shows the best and worst in all of us humans- who shows that we all just want to love and be loved and be forgiven and given the opportunity to change. All trans people deserve that, too; we all deserve the opportunity to live our lives to the fullest.

Even if you want to comment ‘ErM weLl CapCoM woUlD nEVeR hAvE a TrAns ChaRaCTeR-“ does it really matter???? Does it matter if a character has a canon label slapped onto them, if people can already analyse that character from their own perspective and find deep meaning in that themselves????? Is a character who is canonically queer any more meaningful than a character who isn’t????? I don’t think so, cuz clearly, myself and many, many others find solace and comfort and relatability in the fine knight that is Luis Serra

And finally; André Peña, Luis Serra’s voice actor, has been VERY vocal about his support for trans people and has even said he absolutely 100% believes that Luis would believe in trans rights- so suck it transphobes!!!!!!!!!!!!! Luis is for US!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[antianakin]

So this post has been floating around my brain for a bit https://www.tumblr.com/coupleofdays/746467882552180736/in-the-republic-commando-books-author-karen?source=share

where op mentions force induced HRT. What are your thoughts on the idea? Do you think the jedi even considered bio sex as important considering their luminous beings who don't really value crude matter as much? Granted, Star Wars doesn't really handle gender issues that well, but the core of jedi beliefs seems to be firmly based on ideas that are very pro-lgbtq and anti-discrimination. Sorry if this is out of your usual area of expertise, but I figured you know a lot more jedi lore to confirm if it's accurate

I wouldn't consider myself a massive expert in Jedi lore or lore about the Force, but Karen Traviss's books are pretty non-canon at this point, so we have to start from there.

Force healing is something of a controversial topic as some people feel like it makes a lot of sense for them to be able to do it given what ELSE they can do and other people feel like it makes the narrative a little nonsensical to introduce the concept of healing with the Force when we never see Jedi in Lucas's canon being able to utilize that skill even when it would be pretty helpful to do so. Obviously the Sequels chose to bring it in, but they were able to sort-of give the caveat that these two people were the ONLY ONES who could do it because they had a dyad which gave them access to additional power for healing or something like that. The Mandalorian then also tossed it in where it was used in a more GENERAL sense, so at this point you can argue that it's canon in Disney's canon, and more specifically it's canon to the Mandoverse canon. But it was not and has never been a part of Lucas's canon.

As for what the Jedi would've actually thought about things like being transgender, I firmly believe the Jedi were very open-minded about all of those kinds of things. The Jedi are the most diverse organization in the entirety of Star Wars, bar none, and like you mentioned, they have a focus on who a person is beyond "that crude matter" of the physical body. Yoda says something similar to the clones in episode 1 of TCW where he tells them your eyes can deceive you and that, regardless of what they look like, they are each different in the Force. We see the Jedi consistently respect the clones as individuals throughout TCW, too, indicating a respect for the clones' personhood that goes beyond just what their body looks like. We also know from TCW that the Jedi encouraged the clones' "independence" and expressing their individuality, which we see includes things like different hair cuts and hair colors, different painted designs on their armor, tattoos, etc. Among their own members, we see plenty of differences in personal expression among the Jedi, too, from hair styles to clothes to tattoos. The Jedi are demonstrated within higher canon to be very accepting of how people choose to identify themselves and don't see the physical body as the primary defining trait for a person's identity.

I also honestly find the concept of transphobia and homophobia in the GFFA a little ridiculous given how normal it is to be interacting with multiple different alien species, some of which aren't even really humanoid at all. So while I imagine the Jedi themselves would be quite open-minded about all of this, I tend to headcanon the GFFA as sort-of free of transphobia and homophobia just in general. There's never any indication that it exists in higher canon, which is primarily due to a lack of any representation in higher canon and straight being the default, but there's no indication that Vel and Cinta are treated differently or have to hide their relationship specifically due to homophobia.

[aromanticduck]

Hey if you don't wanna answer this you can just delete it but what's a transmed lol (they're mentioned in your dni so I assume the trans is pertaining to transphobia? Idk)

Transmed is short for transmedicalist. While I do consider their views transphobic, they are actually trans people themselves. The transphobia is coming from inside the house.

A transmedicalist (or truscum) believes that being transgender is a medical condition and is defined entirely by the experience of gender dysphoria. No dysphoria = not trans, by their standards.

They usually believe in 'transtrenders' (i.e. cis people choosing to be trans because they think it's cool), and are either completely nonbinary-exclusionary, or conditionally accept certain types of nonbinary people (mostly androgynous skinny white people who use only they/them pronouns and don't dress in an eye-catching way) while rejecting the 'weird' ones. They tend to be anti-neopronouns, anti-microlabels, and distrustful of trans people who don't want medical transition, don't care about passing, like things that are associated with their assigned gender, or like being trans. Their ideal trans person is a binary, gender-conforming trans man or woman who is desperate to pass, is extremely uncomfortable in their body, and wishes they were cis. Now, I have nothing against the kind of trans people I just described (although I hope they find their way to being happy with themselves), but that's far from the only way to be trans.

To an extent I do feel sorry for this type of person, because they clearly experience severe gender dysphoria, and have probably faced a lot of transphobia from cis people. But that doesn't give them the right to take out their negative feelings on other trans people, or appoint themselves the arbiters of who's really trans and who isn't.

No gender police allowed on my blog.

[altermay]

Tw/ transphobia, discussions of dysphoria, brief mention of suicide, descriptions of child abuse

Getting unbearable. Feeling sick. Started working to afford hormones only to find out the service that is most accessible to me (plume) doesnt offer T in alabama anymore due to changing laws. Fuck all these stupid politicians putting their noses in others lives.

Thought people at work wouldnt make a super huge deal, as I was selective with who I told, so i thought maybe I could hold out a bit longer and at least i wouldnt have to feel so dysphoric all the time, since all my coworkers knew me as Monte. But then instead of my name, people who would usually call anyone else by their name started calling me “Miss” and “maam”

Even the ones I had come out to, and even the ones who told me they were accepting.

Whatever, im from a small rural area, so transphobia is not new to me, what is new to me, however, is being openly trans in an unfamilliar environment. I thought I could start T quickly and maybe people would ever forget that im trans in the first place, but now its been so long.

Some people call me He, and use the right pronouns, but increasingly lately Ive received a myriad of transphobia.

Being called tranny loudly while my coworker kicks my broom as I try to sweep (kicking hard enough for the broom to almost leave my hands and hit another person behind me) , Getting called “it” behind my back. Stuff like this is becoming more common.

The two coworkers who called me it, have been spreading lies about my work performance these past five days, Ive been told my three different people that every time I leave to go do something they start talking badly of me. So I got to my breaking point, at this point it had nothing to do with the pronouns, I was just upset that two forty+ year old adults were purposefully making my job harder to do while I was also struggling with a ton of other stuff (ptsd, seasonal depression, a family members recent suicide) and so I couldnt stop crying.

Despite this situation having nothing to do with me being trans, they are now trying to spread the narrative that Im just being sensitive because they were misgendering me while they were borderline bullying me.

If I was not trans, people would take me seriously on these issues. But now, because I am upset, suddenly Im just a stereotype. A sensitive trans person who is offended because someone used the wrong pronouns a few times.

I will be one to say, I do not give a SHIT about my pronouns. Ive been called the wrong ones my whole life by a majority of people. That was never the issue. But because Im trans, that is the only issue people can perceive for me to have. The ONE issue I had with them regarding my pronouns was them calling me “it” and thats not because its the wrong pronoun, thats because its DEHUMANIZING.

But now I have other coworkers who know NOTHING about the situation saying shit like “well if she claims shes a man maybe she should suck it up” “well if she wants to be seen as a man maybe she shpuld cut her hair”

Fuck you. How about YOU get beaten for 17 years, YOU watch your siblings get beaten near to death for 17 years. YOU have flashbacks of things you dont understand all day every day and we will see how fucking well youre able to “suck it up” you are WEAK. YOU ARE ALL WEAK. And you dont know what its like to be me. My mother tried to kill me. My mother almost killed my sister, I was neglected, never went to a doctor, and I STILL dont know how to take care of myself. And I still havent recovered all of the memories.

Ive had SHORT HAIR ive had LONG HAIR Ive had a MOHAWK, ive had a BUZZCUT ive been BALD. And people STILL fucking saw me as a woman. Im tired of conforming to this bullshit just so people can treat me the same as they always do

Fun fact though, since Ive had long hair Ive been gendered correctly by strangers MORE than I have with ANY OTHER HAIR STYLE.

These stupid fucking transphobes and their stupid fucking stereotypes im so fucking sick of it all. And corporate wont do anything about it, Im sure of this.

Why is it so hard for me to just live my fucking life.

Im so sick of it all

[amm0mag]

Hi there, let me introduce myself!

My name is Mag, but I've gained many names on the Internet over the years. These names are: Ammo | Biscuit | Fish | Exotic | File(s) | Forgotten | Cryptid | Pancake | Gaming

I use he/him pronouns and I'm trans female to male (FtM.) I'm pansexual and polyamorous (happily taken. <3)

I am the creator of the StarFall UnderTale AU which is currently in the works. @official-starfall for anyone who wants to check it out!

I also have an Instagram account now, where I'll primarily post what I draw, but also maybe some photos since I don't really share those much on here :]

I'm just a guy on the internet who's a bit too dumb for society plus rambles and forgets things. Oh- and a multi-fandom idiot. Some of the things I like are: UnderTale (duh), FNAF, various animes, Slime Rancher, Hazbin Hotel/Helluva Boss, Splatoon, Terraria, Subnautica, TF2, SCP, and a lot more (that I'm most likely forgetting.)

Do not interact if you accept...

Homophobia

Transphobia

Pedophilia

Anti-Semitism

Zoophilia

Racism

Sexism

Pro-shipper

Ableist

Probably more that I can't think of...

What will you find on this blog?

First and foremost, types of content:

I will mostly post art, oftentimes the finished products but I might end up posting sneak peeks as well. I also, from time-to-time, post writing blurbs, which often are created using a prompt and not related to any of my written works. I also might post a meme or two, or a few pictures I took. I also tend to reblog some things, if they're important or if I absolutely love and adore that post.

You can find the link to my mini masterpost for my fanfics I've written (and am currently writing) here!

Second of all, the contents of my content (if that makes any sense?):

Most of what I draw is going to be Undertale-related. You're especially going to see a lot of skeletons on here, since I draw those the most.

You'll also see a lot of original characters (OCs) here.

I sometimes draw humans, but not nearly as often as skeletons.

On occasion I'll draw a furry or some object heads, but it depends.

Collabs, commissions, and other art stuff?

Collaboration pieces: I am alright with doing collabs! But ask me first

Commissions: Open!! Working on a commissions sheet, but if you're interested please DM and I can show you some examples and tell my prices :]

Character Adopts: I do make some from time to time, so you might spot one or two floating across my blog. I upload a version with a watermark to my blog but when someone buys the character I will send them a version without said watermark. I will reblog the post and mention it has been sold. (Note that I use Venmo.)

Fanart: I'm a-okay with fanart of my characters, but unless I personally know you, please ask first, I'll most likely say yes! (Keep it clean though.)

Art Trades: I'm usually open! Just DM me and we can discuss!

I think that's all? Oh- and if you made it to the end of this post, thanks! Have a lovely day :]

[boccher]

https://www.tumblr.com/boccher/743039677087498240?source=share

hey, not to nitpick a important post, but do you have examples of the mentioned transmisogony exempt people who are saying that this is a good thing to do or is that just transphobic shitheads/cis peeps

the people who I've seen who would count as TME (and aren't transphobic asshats) under the most common definitions have been outspoken in their statements that this is a bad thing, or straight up haven't posted about it at all, (presumably due to them being inactive or only here to post art) and those that have posted shitty stuff have generally been told, hey, this isn't fucking cool by peers.

is there some sort of pocket of extra shitty non-transfem queer people, or is this just being used as a shorthand for... idfk, people who hate transfems, and thusly unfairly lumping (potential) allies in with the shitters?

sorry if this comes off as rude, that's not my intention here

I dont have links on me, but in recent transmisogynistic waves I noticed a number of queer bloggers who seemed to keep starting arguments against transfems, digging their heels in, exhibiting similar boundary-disrespecting behaviour to the ones I listed matt as doing. This usually happened over topics like transfems disliking being called gendered terms, or the validity of transmisogyny as a political framework. I think this also occurred on posts made by predstrogen herself? These bloggers also seemed to be more likely to participate in callouts (there's been a number of posts detailing how these are disproportionately weaponised against transfems).

I don't mean to lump allies with transmisogynists, I apologise if it came across that way. As far as I've seen these shitters are not the majority of TME people (in which I use TME to mean people who are not the intended target of transmisogynistic violence). I know plenty of cis men, cis women, transmascs, other flavours of nonbinary ppl who have all understandingly stood up against this sort of behaviour, in solidarity with transfems. The recent controversies have definitely led more TME ppl to listen in and declare their solidarity, which I'​m extremely grateful for.

To be fully clear, when I noted that transmisogynistic behaviour is accepted among a significant proportion of TME people, I didn't mean to imply that that proportion was a majority of TME people. I meant it more as in like, the effect of queer TME people who enact transmisogynistic violence is non-negligible compared to, say, transphobia enacted by bigoted conservatives. And it's significant enough to affect how transfems navigate queer spaces and find safety.

[ettolrach-uwu]

do your parents know you're trans? if so how was your coming out?

They do and it's not going too well. I would wait to answer this but there's never a moment in time when the situation is truly done, so I'll just give an answer now. TLDR they do and it's a struggle trying to get them to respect me for who I am.

CW transphobia, t-slur

I came out to my parents around a year after I realised I was trans, I was 18 at the time. I suspected it might not go well so by this time I already told everyone else; my friends and my teachers, since I was in high school at the time. I socially transitioned way before medically transitioning, which one only started two odd months ago.

I told them that I'm trans and that I want to be called Charlotte and they did not take it well at all, though it wasn't the worst possible outcome. My mother really didn't want it to be happening and was most vocal during conversations afterwards, as she usually is. She said that she doesn't want me to be trans for reasons I still don't fully understand. She says it's because she's scared for my safety, but I think it's because her internalised transphobia makes her think that being trans is disgusting and doesn't want me to end up like one of those trannys.

She asks me, how do I know whether I don't like being a man if I've not lived as an adult man before? To her, it doesn't matter that I've lived nearly 17 as a boy unhappily. She asks, can I please try living as a man for at least a year at university, after all, I've not experienced things like being in a relationship and having sex as a man before.

She tells me that my grandmother is very scared. My father too, he couldn't sleep for weeks after I told him I'm trans. Other guilt-tripping techniques are used too, like, don't you know how hard it is to hear this from your own child that you've raised for 18 years?

Not once have they called me Charlotte since I told them that I want to be called that, nor are they putting in any effort whatsoever to change. They just keep calling me by my deadname.

Not once have they asked what they can do to help me transition, or at least what they can do to make me feel better, happier.

Not once have they called me their daughter.

I moved out, this was investigated and was scheduled to happen anyway. They give me some money every month, and I boymode whenever I visit them, which is about once every week, maybe sometimes it's a fortnight. It takes a long time, but eventually I give it another go.

I'm 20 now. I work at a big company where I'm known as Charlotte to everyone. Everyone at uni and all my friends know be as Charlotte. I haven't mentioned it, but I'm living an incredibly happy life away from my parents being my true and real self. I tell by parents this, and how my life is so much happier. But this time I also say that I don't care about what they want; I will, no matter what, be trans and they have to live with that. They begrudgingly accept, while still trying every trick you can think of to convince me to not be trans. For some reason, the extra two years since my first coming out did not get them process this better (because they wanted me to stop rather than when on themselves to change and accept).

They still don't make an effort to stop deadnaming me. My mother doesn't want be wearing certain clothing. I'm fighting back on the latter one every time it happens. I shouldn't need to, I'm an adult and can choose to do whatever I want. As for the deadnaming, I'm gonna talk to them tomorrow, and if not, then soon after.

So to answer your question, they know. And it didn't go well at all, though it could have gone a lot worse. If you're about to come out and you have any, and I been any kind of concern that it week go badly, make sure you have essential documents like your passport and birth certificate, enough money to get by a while, and a friend who's willing to let you stay over if you get kicked out should you still live with your parents.

[moonfurthetemmie]

once again I am learning more history from my fucking college music program that’s meant to be about music and sound shit than my actual history classes in elementary-high school

Tonight I actually got to hear what exactly the Stonewall riot was, beyond it being police vs queer people.

And I am fairly confident in its accuracy because my professor this month has said MANY times over the course that he could actively cut things out of the videos he showed us if they were factually incorrect.

Stonewall, the place itself, was a club. It was a club were mostly gay people gathered, at a time where there couldn’t be gay clubs. And when the police showed up to ‘put a stop to it’, the club goers decided they were sick of all this and fought back.

And ever since queer people have been getting louder and louder.

And it…reminded me of another documentary I watched earlier this month. Just last week, I think. There was a producer or engineer, I can’t remember anymore with my goldfish memory, but she was very very good at what she did and she was mentioned briefly, as they talked about how electronic music was getting started.

She was introduced as “Wendy - then Walt(er) [last name] -“ and then they continued with what she was doing. I wish I could remember her whole name, or what exactly her job was, but after a bit of narration it switched to someone being interviewed and the guy said “Wendy, or Walt, at the time; I never quite worked out what that was about-“

And that was it. And we continued on. I bet I could tell you what that was about, but mayhaps Wendy never told anyone explicitly. Maybe Wendy never labeled herself. Maybe she didn’t know the words to describe it! But there was no judgment or snide remarks or anything. Just acknowledgment and then moving on.

Later on in that same documentary, a band member was talking about how adding a couple of girls to their group would help them reach a larger audience. Saying that up until that point, they were only listened to by guys. And then he goes “…and transvestites.”

Again, with…no judgement. It was just like saying ‘Hispanic and Jewish people tended to listen to Latin music most’ earlier in the course. It was just There. Just a note. No undertone of distaste or hatred, just ‘oh, and also this.’ And then we moved on!

Is transvestite a slur? Was it a slur at the time? Fuck man I don’t know, but they were all slurs at one point. All the words we use for queer people.

But he didn’t say it with any derogatory, and he may not have had any other word for trans people.

And I am! So glad. That those were there. Just a little nod to them. The fact that they didn’t leave Wendy out for being trans (almost definitely). The fact that the band guy was so chill about having trans people make up a notable portion of their fans. The fact that they didn’t leave out Stonewall.

Wendy in particular touches me. Because these were both British documentaries, and while these were filmed years ago, the fucking miasma of transphobia and shit from over yonder, that drains me emotionally every time I think about it, makes this touch in a different way. The documentary didn’t leave her out for what she was. They didn’t make any shitty remarks to comments about her, or the band guy’s fans being trans. They just moved on.

Even with as loud as the transphobia is I know not everyone in the UK is like that, but documentaries aren’t usually made by small groups of people working independently, are they? But whatever network they worked for let them leave it in.

Maybe we can at least get back to that. And god I hope we can get even better.

And my instructor? He’s an older white man. And being terminally online I do not expect much or any tolerance or acceptance of these things from older white men. I know they’re not all bigoted assholes, but I’m sort of conditioned to prepare myself for it, for lack of better words

But he didn’t cut them out either.

These documentaries were uploaded to a site specifically for the school, for students to watch. He absolutely could’ve cut them out. And he didn’t. He left them. He’s been teaching here for twenty years and has altered the course several times he had so many opportunities to edit them out and he didn’t.

idk something something finding a little hope and light in a time when I only ever hear bad news

[saudadite]

Same anon. Yes, you're completely right that transphobia and transmisogyny never stopped being mainstream, but within certain circles they were not acceptable. And yet within those same circles, harassment of people who are usually vulnerable queer people for having '"bad kinks" has become commonplace. I've lost count of the number of times I've gone to the blog of some person advocating death for supporters of "bad" kinks and it turned out to be some trans kid. (Not implying any statistical statement with this, just saying it's not rare.)

There's also something to be said about how much cyberstalking and suicide-baiting have become normalized compared to, say, ten years ago (including as casual comebacks, hell, I think I found your blog through a follower of a follower of a couple ML bloggers who think nothing of casually saying shit like "kill yourself if you do this/think like this" to posts they hate alongside their thoughtful, incisive critiques of imperialism. ). It's not a coincidence, and everyone I see criticize this gets dismissed as a spineless liberal who can't handle discourse.

I haven't seen enough of your posts and opinions to try to make a concrete point with this, I'm only responding to that one post in isolation. But what I'm trying to say is, you seem to be presenting this first and foremost as Yet Another Form Of Transmisogyny and it feels like part of a much wider harmful trend that "only" disproportionately targets trans women because that's kinda what happens with toxic and dangerous movements, they amplify the effects of existing biases, so people who are already targets get hit much harder. But the dangerous movement itself is much bigger than that, and it feels dangerous to ignore that. If I misrepresented your position, I'm sorry, like I said, I'm only judging it based on the one post.

i cannot stress enough how little i actually Know things like i really cant speak on transmisogyny definitively bc its not my lived experience, my original post wasnt meant to be like a Comprehensive Accounting of the Nuances of Transmisogyny yknow it was just something i posted bc i was annoyed and expected to get like 3 notes max. also i really cant speak for how attitudes around cyberstalking and suicide baiting have changed over the years bc like 10 yearsago i was a kid whos existence on the internet comprised of watching youtube music videos and playing moshi monsters, i didnt even really start using the internet a lot until like 3 years ago so.

that being said my perspective would be that i dont think you can neatly parcel away transmisogyny as some sort of semi-incidental consequence of a nebulous larger "dangerous movement". lets name it- this larger dangerous movement is carceral, cisheteronormative, puritanical ideology. this is harmful to everyone who lives in a christian, patriarchal, white supremacist society, yes, and one of the most virulent expressions of it is thru transmisogyny. to address transmisogyny from a transfeminist viewpoint then isnt to 'ignore' this movement but to actively work on combating + dismantling it. i also shouldnt need to mention that no not every conversation about transmisogyny should contain a discussion about how transmisogyny exempt people are affected.

[fission-mailure]

Every so often, I look back on Friendship That Ended About Two Years Back and marvel at how many absolutely fucking luminescent red flags there were that I ignored or minimised to myself, initially because I lacked the emotional maturity and social skills to go “No, this isn’t okay, I’m out of here,” and eventually just because it was enjoyable to have someone to chat to and share writing ideas with, and easier to stick with that routine even as those chats consistently became more and more uncomfortable as she dived head first into TERFery and eventually out-and-out alt-right views, and as I became more and more angry about her emotional abuse tactics.

(Which I do still sort of miss, but not enough that I actually miss that friendship.)

Like, in the very first year that I knew her, she got stressed over exams and started taking it out on me, including making up lies about me and telling them to other people while I was there. Like, the one that springs to mind is when I said “There isn’t any shame in a university graduate working a fast food job, people do what they need to in order to survive,” and that got twisted into “University graduates should accept any job they’re given and be grateful for them.” And once those exams passed, she immediately stopped and I let it go as a ‘Well, people get stressed,’ -- but in hindsight, I should’ve taken that as a sign of things to come.

And, like, in the years afterwards, there were other clear signs that This Would Not Be A Good Friendship. She got angry if I was unhappy about things, even things unrelated to her, and outright told me I should pretend to be happy around her. At one point she told me to slouch because ‘sitting up straight looked arrogant.’ She would fly off the handle and use silent treatment (sometimes for weeks) if she had any kind of problem, usually without ever trying to discuss the problem first. She’d get weirdly obsessive in her hatred of certain media -- there was a sixty day period where she would steer every conversation to how much she hated The Hunger Games, a book she’d never actually read, and on multiple occasions she’d bring up Wonder Woman into an unrelated conversation and then get furiously angry, to the point of screaming “SHE’S A WHORE,” over and over again.

These were, to put it lightly, kind of red flags. And there were so, so many more.

And in the end, my eventually breaking off the friendship came down to several incidents piling up over a span of years and sticking in my head:

-- The fourth or fifth time she tried to get her way by using silent treatment on me, when she deigned to talk to me again, I mentioned that that wasn’t okay, she agreed, left for a dinner with her parents ... and then immediately started using the silent treatment again. For three months. Admitting afterwards that it was because I dared to say that it wasn’t okay.

-- She gaslighted me, directly denying something she’d done multiple times and saying I was delusional and hallucinating. She was stupid enough to do this over text, so I kept and still have the screencaps and logs of that. When she found out I was keeping them, she accused me of ‘threatening her’ and ‘trying to make her kill herself’ by ... keeping records of her gaslighting me. A thing I did because I knew that if I didn’t, she’d gaslight me over it again.

-- She’d always been skeevy about women, but two things really amplified that: The Amber Heard case, where she became obsessed with hating Heard and praising Depp, bringing them up constantly; and the sudden prominence of TERF voices post J.K. Rowling going mask-off, at which point she went full TERF.

-- And the thing that sealed it in the end, and probably the most minor thing on this list: She went silent treatment on me for two weeks after I disagreed with her about her shitty transphobia, and when she started talking to me again, immediately got angry that I hadn’t bought her a birthday present, then angrier when I explained that of course I hadn’t bought her a birthday present, I didn’t buy presents for people who were ignoring me. She declared that she’d only done it for ‘[my] own good,’ and I said that I was leaving and wasn’t going to talk to her.

-- I ... think she believed that my leaving, which was me cutting off our friendship, was actually just me giving her the silent treatment? Even though I’d made it pretty clear that, no, I was ending our association. Because she sent me an e-mail three months later (after I made a remark online about how an anti-vaxxer, anti-lockdown pub landlord who’d been on the news was a dick), like, Dramatically Ending The Friendship, even though I’d ... already ... ended it ...

If I’d recognised the early red flags for what they were, I could’ve just avoided the whole thing, but living your life in the middle of nowhere with alcoholic parents and a whole lot of bullies at school isn’t a great foundation for setting adequate boundaries, so. Here we are. But I’m definitely happier and healthier now that I’ve cut her loose, and she’s -- I don’t know, I haven’t really cared enough to check. She’s probably an anti-vaxxer by now or something.

[botaniac]

⠀⠀ manfri isley is

「 DRAGONBREATH 」

an indie original character, set in the dc verse.

penned by LASZLO. +21. he/him.

rules and info behind the cut.

CHARACTER INFO、

OVERVIEW、

𝐖𝐑𝐈𝐓𝐄𝐑 ;;⠀⠀the writer is called Laszlo.

uses he/him pronouns and is +21 y/o. english isn't my mother language so please, bear that in mind.

i have no triggers.

friendly but a bit selective. IMs open to plotting and chatting. i accept asks/memes at any time.

i tend to prefer plotting instead of random memes ⸺ at least if you hope to build a connection to my muse over time.

i'm not saying it's impossible, just easier for me.

𝐀𝐂𝐓𝐈𝐕𝐈𝐓𝐘 ;;⠀⠀ activity might be sporadic, seeing as the writer tends to get distracted easily and might hyperfocus on specific things at a time.

don't press me for replies. i reply at my own pace, hounding me for them won't make replies come any faster.

𝐒𝐄𝐋𝐄𝐂𝐓𝐈𝐕𝐈𝐓𝐘 ;;⠀⠀as i said before, i am a bit selective. this is due to my interests and scarce time to write.

i'm willing to write with most people, as long as you're not wanting to write questionable stuff (txboo themes for example).

i might use icons with my replies, but that doesn't mean you have to feel obligated to use them to write with me!

i will write with people outside my comfort zone, and might attempt to write with non-mutuals too. i encourage you to do the same to me! i love random asks&starters.

i will write with other OCs and duplicates of characters too. i'm not picky.

𝐃𝐍𝐈 ;;⠀⠀do not interact if you're a non-rp account, or if you condone racism of any kind, homophobia, transphobia, pedophilia, misogyny, ableism, etc. i won't interact with pro-shippers.

if you're into any of these things and i still interacted somehow, chances are i didn't realize yet. when i do, i will stop.

𝐓𝐇𝐄𝐌𝐄𝐒 ;;⠀⠀this account will have content such as mentions of violence, foul language, suggestive themes, blood, death, manipulation, etc.

i will tag sexual themes and put such replies under a cut.

my preferred genres to write are: action, adventure, angst (bonus points if it comes with comfort at the end), romance, slice of life, humor.

𝐒𝐇𝐈𝐏𝐏𝐈𝐍𝐆 ;;⠀⠀i love writing shippy stuff! but i won't let rps take this turn if you or your muse is a minor.

This blog is multiship. muse is bisexual with no lean.

building chemistry is usually a must.

[hyp3rk3l]

Cw, Transphobia, mention of outing (the process of telling someone about a queer person's queer identity without permission).

This is just a bit of a ramble, but you have been warned.

Ive always felt funny. I didnt care if people called me a boy, but i also didnt care if people called me a girl because that was just 'what i [was]'. When i actually developed my sense of gender (or, well, realised it was there...) i realised i was not female. That was about 4 years ago, in 2020. I then realised i was masculinely-aligned in my gender in April 2022, and I came out to my mum with my first preferred name and pronouns in December 2022. (I no longer use that name because being referred to neutrally makes me feel bad, and it was the name of an object, which is stereotypically a neutral type of name.) She then told my dad to call me by that name without my permission, just days after i told her i wasnt ready to come out to him.

He sat me down on my bed for 2 hours, repeatedly asking why i wanted to be called that. I tried to tell him i just preferred it. In the end, i was crying, and i just had to tell him I was trans.

He told me it was a phase. A fucking phase. It's been 2 years, and he still deadnames and misgenders me. He told me it was a phase, and that if i was actually a man I would dress like an average man, because 'how often do you see a man in a dress?' Anyway that triggered me to become heavily upset whenever I wear feminine clothes, or pink, or bright colours. Its fucking awful. I love feminine shit, I love pink, bright colours are my favourite thing in the world. I remember how happy i was when my dad referred to me with THEY. I dont use they/them pronouns, and they make me uncomfortable when used by people who know and acknowledge that I AM A FUCKING MAN, but i was so happy.

My fucking GRANDMA is more accepting and careful with her language.

My dad is one of those fucking 'anti-woke' people; i know damn well I've heard him complain about it before.

"Well actually some trans people go off of hormones without telling their doctors so the statistics are wrong!!" Buddy most people probably dont do that maybe speak to a fucking trans person without putting them down because you have parental superiority over them :3

He's great in every other aspect but hes so stubborn and angry and he expects me to know every statistic and bit of history.

My life doesnt revolve about being trans. Its usually my friends or current hyperfixations. I havent gone to visit him in 2 months :3 mostly to avoid my sister but also because he doesn't respect me whatsoever

My dad is cool because he wants to make sure I'm financially stable as an adult and he wants to make cosplays with me when we have materials and skill but i cant find any point in being near him because my mum doesnt care if i go with him or not rawrrr

[innerstage]

I've been on the lookout for new friends since I moved to Argentina, I just need them to be leftists, feminists and/or LGBT+ for me to be comfortable starting a friendship.

So today, I met a really nice trans person with a disabled trans boyfriend who participate in a LGBT collective, when I mentioned that I was on the lookout for new friends they said that I should join the collective or just hang out with them sometime.

I was over the moon because they were really nice, but at the same time I had like a voice in my head saying "that's dangerous", and I'm really concerned about it, I just said that I had the collective's IG so I could contact them there. The issue is that even when I'm a gay man I've always had a lot of privilege and a very conservative upbringing, my parents love me and are accepting of me and they love my husband too, but because of their upbringing and overprotection they inadvertently instilled a lot of stupid fears in me, such as "I can never work with little kids because I could get accused of being a pedo", "I should never be like 'those gays' who ridicule themselves doing drag" or more relevant to this situation "I shouldn't hang out with femme gays or trans people because they might be targeted by a violent person and I could get in a fight and go to jail".

As you can see, it's all internalized homophobia/transphobia bullshit, that I don't agree with ideologically, but still seems to get a bodily reaction out of me. In addition, I know that life is hard for trans people and I usually get nervous around them and choose my words carefully because I don't wanna say anything that might offend them, and I think that attitude/belief might be paternalistic and transphobic in a weird way because I don't treat them like everybody else?

So, I know I need to work on these things, but I wanted to put this out here in case you have some advice for me. I've been consuming a lot of media/criticism about "white liberals" and I don't want to be like them, I want to be a true supporter and advocate for trans people, I want a world where I do not have privileges and we're equals.

So, a couple questions, feel free to DM me, at risk of sounding extremely annoying and privileged:

1. Do you have advice on how to get rid of these homophobic/transphobic stuff? Is reflecting and reading enough?

2. Should I just contact these guys and hang out with them and realize nothing bad's gonna happen or should I maybe wait until I've made some progress on being less paternalistic?

3. Am I making too big of a deal about this? Has anyone feel like this? Does it matter?

[buffriday-with-the-bees]

My AO3 name: lrthreads

Hi, neighbor! Thank you for looking at my prompts. This is my first time participating in Yuletide or really any fic event that isn't confined to a small fandom filled with people I mostly knew (ish). I hope you are having a good season!

These are the fandoms I listed prompts for. Under the read-more there may be spoilers for these canons, or mentions of triggering topics, even if they are only in my DNWs. If you aren't looking to write treats for Yuletide I suggest (with friendliness) that you just keep scrolling.

If there was some question in my mind about eligibility I messaged the admins and asked about it. Some of the fandoms are not in the tagset. (Yes, there are a lot of fandoms. If this is off-putting then I understand. But apparently pinch-hitters not signed up for Yuletide don't have to limit themselves to 6 fandoms and I elected to take that seriously and literally. I understand that nothing is guaranteed. :)

Alliance-Union - C.J. Cherryh

Almost Human (TV)

The Changeover - Margaret Mahy

Dark Nights (a Batman series with a canonically genderflipped Bruce Wayne)

Dunkirk (2017)

Ethan of Athos - Lois McMaster Bujold

Goncharov (1973) dir. Martin Scorsese - beelzeebub

Lord Ermenwyr Series - Kage Baker

The Martian (Andy Weir) [mentions headcanons and potential spoilers for another Andy Weir book, Artemis]

Memento Nora Trilogy - Angie Smibert

Newsflesh Series - Mira Grant

The Montmaray Journals - Michelle Cooper

Pink Carnation Series - Lauren Willig

Raising the Griffin - Melissa Wyatt

Shadows - Robin McKinley [also a prompt for Sunshine by the same author]

Swordspoint Series - Ellen Kushner

Tam Lin - Pamela Dean

DNW: rape; incest; underage sex onscreen or as a focus; whitewashing; a setting or POV wherein the idea that queer is always a slur is accepted; high school AU (or younger); religion of any kind as a main focus unless it's part of canon; priest kink; child sexual abuse even mentioned unless it's part of canon; Bad Guys/Aliens/Whatever Made Them Do It; main characters dealing with or perpetrating acts of transphobia, antisemitism, or racism; slavery AUs or slavery otherwise not present in canon; canon character/reader; sexual situations where a participant can't meaningfully consent; absence of reproductive choice in a way that's more stringent than canon; teacher/student; clinician/patient; public humiliation (especially sexual); domestic abuse; animal abuse

Things I encourage: letting your gender (make them trans! gender non-conforming! nonbinary!), neurodiversity, neurodivergence, and ancestry headcanons fly free. Also ones about attraction or lack thereof (e.g. being some level of aro, ace, or both; or queer; etc.).

Any format (standard, epistolary, experimental structure) is fine. Any tense or POV is fine.

If you want to write an unhappy or bittersweet ending, go wild unless otherwise specified.

I wrote the prompts below with canon as expected baseline but anything not in the DNWs is fine as far as AUs go.

Things I like: sports AUs, especially niche stuff like curling, archery, biathlon, axe throwing, pickleball (preferably not regular golf, although I do enjoy the scenery-porn and pratfall possibilities of golf courses, but mini-golf is fine). Tennis. Women's sports. Ballet AUs. Other dance AUs. Pacific Rim. Giant robots generally. Regular robots. Cryptids. Wrench wenches. Mechanics of any gender. People whose work requires them to wear coveralls. Currently wallowing deep in my Top Gun feelings (both movies). Science fiction and fantasy. Some mysteries. Casefic is usually fun. Queer history. Food history. Monster-fancying. Space. Multiverse stuff. Fics that make me feel soft and gooey inside. Fics that have a pointy darkness that I can enjoy when I'm in the mood for that. Crack taken seriously or not at all seriously are both good. I like a good academia AU but I know people who are in RL academia so I tend to notice if something is jarringly wrong. I'm garbage for royalty AUs. Love triangles are broke, polyamory is bespoke. Bring on the queerplatonic throuples or polycules or what-have-you. I like any fic that goes into the details of how something works or general obscure info, "How It's Made" style. Pittsburgh stuff. People wearing long coats or soft sweaters or kilts. Being stuck in an elevator.

NSFW is fine and a G rating is also fine. Aside from DNWs, I'll try to read most things once. Likes I haven't mentioned: hand kink, forearms, praise kink when the person giving the praise enjoys it at least as much as the person being praised.

Things that tend to knock me out of a sex scene: partners calling eachother "alpha" and "omega" instead of their names, someone saying "it's like you were made for me." Especially if the person having that said to them is being penetrated. (I like omegaverse, btw. Including non-trad. Especially non-trad if I'm being honest.)

Crack crossovers are my jam so if you need a character from a canon you like to fill a role go ahead (preferably not in an isekai or portal fantasy kind of way, unless that kind of crackiness or AU is the point). (If you decide to use SPN characters for this, no Sam, Dean, John, or Jack, please.) The appearance of canon characters who aren't specifically mentioned is fine unless they are listed as prompt-specific DNWs.

Exceptions to DNWs may apply if something is explicitly part of the prompt or canon. For example: The Changeover has rape in the background, which is referred to in the prompt. Ethan of Athos has past incest of some form in canon with Ethan/Janos and it might make sense to refer to it. One of the characters I listed in my Swordspoint prompt canonically has a history of being sexually abused as a child.

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Alliance-Union - C.J. Cherryh

In the tagset

Joshua Talley

Elene Quen

Damon Konstantin

They are (or were) a triad (romantic, sexual, queerplatonic, whatever; not necessarily equilateral) and I will die on that hill.

Interested in a look at that aspect of their relationship at any point in the timeline. (Talley's ability to consent is potentially somewhat compromised as part of canon events. If that's mentioned or alluded to I'm okay with that.)

Almost Human (TV)

not in the tagset

Dorian (Almost Human)

John Kennex

Worldbuilding (character)

I was sad when this got canceled. So, more John and Dorian interacting, please.

There was a throwaway mention of New Pittsburgh in one episode. What happened to Old Pittsburgh? What's New Pittsburgh like. Maybe John and Dorian have to go there, for reasons. (The reasons are that I live in Pittsburgh and I love it here. But in the fic the reasons could be whatever you want.)

The Changeover - Margaret Mahy

(in the tagset)

Sorensen Carlisle

Laura Chant

Kate Chant

Jacynth Close

No need to use all of these characters.

I've always felt like there was something sinister about Sorry. Was he involved in the Jacynth Close rape? Does this or something else come to light? What would the ramifications be?

I would prefer that Jacynth Close's rape not be recounted or alluded to too graphically.

Special note about (not) whitewashing: Laura is strongly implied to have non-white ancestry IIRC [when she talks about her hair texture]. It doesn't need to be a focus; just something to keep in mind.

Dark Nights (a Batman series)

Not in the tagset

I'm unsure what fandom to list this as as every specific use of this as a fandom is synned to Batman (Comics) or DCU (Comics) on AO3. However, the admins said by email that the Dark Nights continuity is distinct enough to be eligible.

Bryce Wayne (The Drowned)

https://archiveofourown.org/tags/The%20Drowned%20%7C%20Dark%20Earth-11%20Bryce%20Wayne/works

Aquawoman

No need to use all of these characters.

Bryce is a female version of Batman in an alternate universe (Dark Earth-11). In her canon she gets killed. I'd just like to read something where she's happy, more or less sane, and not dead, and maybe didn't murder Aquawoman. It can be a little dark because well, Bryce is a little dark. Understatement, I know. Or you can rewrite it so she won. Or do something with her being surgically altered to be able to breathe underwater that isn't quite so evil. Dealer's choice!

Dunkirk (2017)

not in the tagset but the admins told me it was eligible in an email

Collins (Dunkirk)

Peter Dawson (Dunkirk)

I feel like they had chemistry. A tiny bit of a connection. So, what might happen if they met up again in the future? Being together for a little while? A long-term queer romance? Is Collins still flying? Does Peter become a journalist? I don't have clear answers, but I like the idea of them being together and I like the idea of Peter as a journalist (but I'm flexible). Trauma is speedrunning human connections and they definitely had that.

Ethan of Athos - Lois McMaster Bujold

(in the tagset)

Ethan Urquhart

Terrence Cee

Janos (Vorkosigan Saga)

Worldbuilding (Character)

No need to use all of these characters.

Far-ish future fic where Ethan and Terrence are grandfathers. What's it like to live in a society of young telepaths? Does Janos hate it? Has he grown up at all? Is he surprisingly good at adapting? Are Ethan and Janos's dads still around for this?

The Athosians all seem to be fairly cis/masc. Feel free to make some of them explicitly less so.

Goncharov (1973) dir. Martin Scorsese - beelzeebub

Not in the tagset but okayed by the admins.

Katya (Goncharov (1973))

Sofia (Goncharov (1973))

I'm obsessed with Katya and Sofia's dynamic, the apple symbolism, and the newsboy. I'm interested in any take on them: during canon, post canon, AU, whatever. What with the apple symbolism and everything I'd consider religion to be part of canon if you want to take it that way.

Lord Ermenwyr Series - Kage Baker

(in the tagset)

Eliss (Ermenwyr series)

Pentra Smith

Post-canon fic. Pentra mentoring Eliss; Pentra and Eliss comparing their choices. (Since it's strongly implied that Eliss will marry Krelan, but that isn't Pentra's jam.) Pentra doing mapping stuff. Eliss doing her lookout stuff. Feel free to include Krelan or anyone else from this setting. (I love the mainline Ermenwyr series characters, including Svnae and Ermenwyr and the characters associated with Mrs. Smith's inn.) The only characters I would prefer not to see are from Krelan's birth family or the family he served, unless they show up to give him their blessings and that's it, or something else that doesn't involve bodily harm. Happy endings only, please.

(This canon has mostly-backgrounded slavery, depending on what part of it you're looking at. If it comes up, fine, but do not want Pentra, Eliss, or any crew from the Bird of the River enslaving anyone. Or any Yendri enslaving anyone.)

The Martian (Andy Weir)

(not in the tagset; the movie is, but this prompt references book stuff; okayed by email from admins)

Mark Watney

Rick Martinez

Marissa Martinez

No need to use all of these characters.

Rick and Mark being together after (book) canon. As friends, bros, romantically, or queerplatonically (preference for the latter two). Strong preference for Marissa Martinez (Rick's wife) still being alive and happy, unless she dies peacefully after a long life. Also I feel like neither Martinez would cheat but if you think you can sell me on it, go ahead. Polyamory (V or triad) or late-life romance welcomed (could be Mark and Marissa too). Martinez is explicitly identified as Catholic so if this comes up, understandable, but I would prefer that there not be a lot of Catholic Church rules-lawyering stuff.

If you read the ebook extras where Commander Lewis talks to Watney about a private space venture, feel free to work that in. (Spoilers for Artemis: some people have a headcanon that the groundskeeper is Watney, so again, feel free to work that in. Or not; I'm not strongly attached to it.)

(The ebook extras have been pulled out of the ebook and the one with Lewis does not appear to be online as text; I looked in all the legit places I could find. Supposedly it is still part of the audiobook edition.)

If you want to blend in movie stuff I liked the movie too, even though this is a book-focussed prompt. If you do no movie stuff whatsoever that is also fine.

Memento Nora Trilogy - Angie Smibert

not in the tagset, not on ao3

Aiden Nomura

Velvet Kowalcyk (aka Anne Marie Kowalcyk)

Winter Nomura

No need to use all of these characters.

Aiden and Velvet should have stayed together. Like, Spike and Velvet are sweet, and Sati is cool I'm sure (IIRC we barely see her in canon and frankly if you told me she only exists because someone insisted Aiden be romantically paired off I wouldn't be surprised), but Aiden! and! Velvet! Thrift shop queen plus corporate princeling.

Does Velvet ever remember Aiden? Do they get together when they're older, or not? Do they talk about how Violet chose to forget him? Can they get over that? Second chance romance y/n?

The Montmaray Journals - Michelle Cooper

(not in the tagset)

Simon Chester

Julia Stanley-Ross

Toby FitzOsborne

No need to use all of these characters.

How did they get together; or rather, how did Simon get together with Julia and Toby. How do Simon and Julia feel about eachother? I don't think hatred is consistent with canon but there sure is a mystery about how they got there. How does Simon feel about being the father of the next king of Montmaray, given his own parentage? Was that calculated or did Toby and Simon and Julia just decide to let the chips fall where they may? Were they ever uncertain about making that choice, if it was deliberate?

Newsflesh Series - Mira Grant

in the tagset

Rebecca "Becks" Atherton

Rick Cousins

Aislinn "Ash" North

Georgette "Buffy" Meissonier

No need to use all of these characters.

This is really four separate prompts. But if inspiration strikes and you see a way to combine some or all of them, have at it.

(1) Becks doesn't die. No need to specify how. I'd just like something where she's still alive. Ideally as actual Becks and not a clone, but that could be interesting too. Speaking of Becks and clones ... she used to be a Newsie. What if she starts digging into the possibility of other clones, either as a Newsie, Irwin, or both? (We know Emily Ryman had one. And I often wonder about Kelly Connolly.)

(2) Character study of Rick. What's the vice presidential candidate experience like? How and why does he make the decisions he does after he's elected? Does he lie to himself about them? How much? What's his life like after canon?

(3) What are the surviving members of the Feedback squad up to? Slice of life or whatever. I just wish there were more stories about them. Don't kill any more of them, please.

(4) Buffy figures out that Shaun and George are an item. She never tells anyone. (Canonical adopted sibling incest is a part of this prompt. If you use another prompt and it makes sense for them to know about Shaun and Georgia that's fine.)

Pink Carnation Series - Lauren Willig

not in the tagset

Penelope Deveraux aka Penelope Staines

Alex Reid

Anything after their book (Betrayal of the Blood Lily). Fluff, please, and them being happy. Yes, Penelope cheated on her useless first husband with Alex, but I don't want something that punishes them for that in any way. (Beyond maybe some judgy looks.) Let my wild child fictional daughter be and stay happy.

Raising the Griffin - Melissa Wyatt

not in the tagset, not on AO3

Alex Varenhoff (aka Alexei)

Sophie

What happens to them in the future? Do they get together? Do they stay friends? Does Rovenia keep its monarchy? (If what's her name who took Alex's v-card shows up please let her not be too annoying or important to the fic)

Shadows - Robin McKinley

in the tagset

Maggie

Takahiro

Worldbuilding (character)

No need to use all of these characters.

I've always felt like Shadows was a stealth prequel to Sunshine. Like, Sunshine is after the collapse, and Shadows is before. Feel like connecting them? Maybe Sunshine or another character is doing research. (Like Aimil, Pat, or the goddess of pain, or Sunshine's mom.) Or Sunshine or one of her little brothers are bored in history class and half listening to a lecture. Or Kenny (one of the little brothers) comes across a mention of Maggie or Taks while in undergrad or law school or practicing Other Law. (Exception to DNWs for a high school setting if you go this route.)

Swordspoint Series - Ellen Kushner

In the tagset

Katherine Talbert

Susan Ffoliot

Marcus Ffoliot

Artemisia Fitz-Levi

No need to use all of these characters.

Katherine, Susan, and Marcus are canonically a triad (or as Theron puts it, a ménage). I'd love to see a look at that. Getting together, slice of life, whatever. Doesn't have to be equilateral.

But! What happens to Artemisia? Is she Susan under a different name? This is a crack headcanon of mine. Or maybe she's not, and she's just off being a successful playwright. Artemisia's absence from The Fall of the Kings just seems so noticeable, especially after the TPOTS ending. No unhappy endings for anyone, please.

Marcus was canonically sexually abused as a child. Obviously this something he's still reckoning with in TPOTS. How you approach this would be up to you, but I wouldn't want it to be the main focus.

Tam Lin - Pamela Dean

(in the tagset)

Christina (Tam Lin)

Molly DuBois

Robin Armin (Tam Lin)

No need to use all of these characters.

What happens to Tina and Molly after canon? Do they stay in touch? Does Molly stick with Robin? Travel the world as a marine biologist? Write best-selling books about tidepools? Does Tina become a doctor?

FWIW I headcanon Tina as autistic but don't insist on it.