#i have a safety net

[sparklev0id]

im so tired of being scared

[hinamie]

i'm exactly as normal about him as I thought I'd be

[marzipanandminutiae]

thoughts on "tradwives" as a 19th-century social historian

It's great until it's not.

It's great until he develops an addiction and starts spending all the money on it.

It's great until you realize he's abusive and hid it long enough to get you totally in his power (happened to my great-great-aunt Irene).

It's great until he gets injured and can't work anymore.

It's great until he dies and your options are "learn a marketable skill fast" or "marry the first eligible man you can find."

It's great until he wants child #7 and your body just can't take another pregnancy, but you can't leave or risk desertion because he's your meal ticket.

It's great until he tries to make you run a brothel as a get-rich-quick scheme and deserts you when you refuse, leaving your sisters to desperately fundraise so your house doesn't get foreclosed on (happened to my great-great-aunt Mamie).

It's great until you want to leave but you can't. It's great until you want to do something else with your life but you can't. It's great. Until. It's. Not.

I won't lie to you and say nobody was ever happy that way. Plenty of women have been, and part of feminism is acknowledging that women have the right to choose that sort of life if they want to.

But flinging yourself into it wholeheartedly with no sort of safety net whatsoever, especially in a period where it's EXTREMELY easy for him to leave you- as it should be; no-fault divorce saves lives -is naive at best and dangerous at worst.

Have your own means of support. Keep your own bank account; we fought hard enough to be allowed them. Gods willing, you never need that safety net, but too many women have suffered because they needed it and it wasn't there.

[cheeseanonioncrisps]

As an outsider, I do think it's very telling that the only good thing they can think of to say about that guy who got shot is that he was a father.

Not just because everybody should have more good things to say about them than that, but because… he ran a company that (in theory) pays for people's healthcare?

Like, that's what a health insurance is, right? The Americans have way too expensive healthcare for any normal person to afford, so they get insurance to help them pay. That's supposed to be the deal, isn't it?

And yet nobody is posting saying stuff like: “my Auntie Mabel would have died from her cancer, if UHC insurance hadn't paid for her treatment!”

Or “after the accident, I thought Timmy would never walk again, but thanks to physiotherapy paid for because we had UHC insurance he's playing for his school football team!”

In fact, a bunch of people are saying stuff like: “after the accident, I thought Timmy would never walk again— and I was right, because UHC said that being bipedal was a pre-existing condition, and Timmy ended up dying from gangrene due to lack of treatment.”

Like, the NHS has done a lot of fucked up stuff (google 'NHS scandal' for examples) and has some bullshit policies. But they also help people on a daily basis, because that's their job.

What the fuck service is UHC meant to be providing? Because it apparently isn't helping many people pay for healthcare.

[phynixdotcom]

Yeah, so while I was on my "I'm going to read into Vanny/Vanessa as much as possible" journey, I noticed an odd quirk in her animations in how she moves. At first, I thought it reminded me of a ballerina, 'cause she's kinda tip-toeing, & she has this way of keeping her head & chest in one place as she moves, but I looked again & realized --

That's not ballet! She's doing a tight-rope act. Like, look at this one:

This is like standing up on the wooden boards before you do the actual tight-rope walking, & the ring leader is hyping you up as you do some fun movement for the crowds. &, then, these:

These are all instances where she walks with one foot directly in front of the other. In that third, she's doing the "woaaah" wiggly-ass balance movements & everything, as if she's swaying up at the top of the tent, even though she's down on solid ground.

Idk, I feel like the way her feet are placed isn't accurate (pretty sure they should be pointed left & right, not both forwards...) doesn't make this 100% correct, but I like it. It also connects back with her first SB teaser, wherein she's up in the rafters.

[quirinah]

please stay by me!

[shadyhouse]

im so sorry to do this Again, things are still pretty rough for me financially... i have a bill due today that i only have a partial amount of, its like $386 but i only have $100 in my bank account ..... im getting paid in a couple days but i need that check for rent so no matter what im gonna be in the negatives until the end of the month ;-;

if anyone has anything they can spare i'd really appreciate it, i'll update this post as things change 💕

pp: paypal.me/bewearrr

vnm: tobias_leviathan

[beaft]

wish I had the ability to stop time after someone speaks to me so I could take a minute to think before selecting the most appropriate response from a dialogue tree

[sp0o0kylights]

obsessed with your latest steddie au! steve’s relationship with his parents is so emotionally abusive and manipulative and my heart is breaking that nobody seems to recognise that

Thank you!!

I really wanted to focus on how Steve's parents are abusive in a way that is a lot harder to clock.

They're not out there screaming and kicking him out of the house. These people want you to like them, and they lie like they breath.

These are the adults who downplay serious issues, who make you doubt yourself, who smooth things over or even apologize on your behalf as a way to control and isolate you.

If everyone thinks you're terrible, and your amazing, doting, angelic parents are once again swooping in to save you, then your escape routes close up rapidly--which is of course, the whole point. They want their victims to rely on them and them alone.

For a lot of the Party, that's just not an evil they've encountered yet.

Throw in the fact that Steve does in fact, have a head injury, and things get muddy FAST.

It makes for delicious, angst-ridden scenarios and I am delighted everyone's happy to come along for the ride.

[toxictoxicities]

Stop making Trafficlight so cute! I’m melting! I SWEAR I’m slowly converting (;´༎ຶٹ༎ຶ`)

I love how they interact so much. When they work on projects they're both contributing something meaningful to improve the product and achieve the best possible outcomes

Screenshot from this vid, it's fucken golden

[mugiwara-lucy]

For all the talk MAGA has about “illegal immigrants coming in and destroying the country!”, they sure are silent here.

Where’s that same energy for this Ketamine addicted freak who is LITERALLY breaching everyone’s data?! Understand he said he wanted a war against social security. Why? So he can be a trillionaire.

So maga why are you so silent? Oh right because he has a lack of melanin in his skin.

Fuck this clown.

[crazysodomite]

see the thing is that its always easier to just drop one oerson from your friend group and retain the majority of the group. the thing is when everyone around you decides to stop talking to you because you just have a stupid & gay vibe you're just supposed to deal that. what are you gonna do, force people to talk to you? if you're socially incompetent all it really takes is one person not really liking you to be dropped by everybody lol. but idrc about that since i dont talk to people anymore and never will . wjen im alone no one can hurt mee

everyone stopped talking to you because of your stupid & gay vibe not necessarily because you did anything wrong. i mean its my right to not like you and not talk to you. im within my right to choose people i talk to and its never gonna be you lol.why would we talk to you when theres literal millions of people who are not mentally ill, for starters..??? etc. literally every interpersonal relationship is just a timer until the other shoe drops and not an actual Relationship

[polarmoon]

hey guys! i think im gonna take a little break from simblr for a bit. mentally i'm a bit worn out and i'm going through some paranoia relating to simblr so i'm gonna take a step back and recoup. might be a few weeks. ty for all the support lately though <3

[ebitenpura]

pikmin: you must lead us to our untimely deaths. there is no retreat, no escape from watching us succumb to the inevitable. we march forward to our fate whether you will it or not. inaction is starvation. together, we will perish

me, sobbing: I'M NOT SCARED OF PLAYING YOUR GAME

[nymphrasis]

So after that post above, I've wanted to draw two chibis ( Not other Pokemon came to mind. Hence the post saying Eevee or Mew. I don't know who else could be a contender tbh ). And Well I love both xD. Internet still down, so apologies for the photo being through mobile ;-;

Tough to decide which to go for to use as a base for the enormous batch. Mean... I could do TWO enormous batches ( Not back to back ) 🤔. But that still doesn't help with the decision of who to go first.

Ps. I should note that, the reason I decided upon Mew and Eevee ( Sadly brain is blank on anyone else ) as contenders, is because they are both popular Pokemon in the adopt sphere and that, in my opinion, feels more easier to have ideas when implementing what Pokemon to put as fusion as onto them ;u;. Like... They are small and yet I have a much easier time on what to put with the Pokemon they are fused with >w<. It's why, in the past, I had a lot more larger selection when I made both Eevee and Mew adopts!

Pss. Once I do create the enormous batch of either, should I stick with the USD minimum to being $10, lower it to $5, or have it be in the middle of $7 🤔? Note that they are not set prices. Only minimum set of how low a person can offer. This does not 100% mean that they would be accepted right away!

[fumifooms]

I’ve never really been into kabrin but the name of the game with them is angst anyways, right, and it clicked in an interesting way for me for a sec a while back while chatting with buddies…

The timeline where he likes her back but he pushes her away because he’s scared of hurting women, being unlovable and ruining people who decide to stay with him’s lives etc etc… The guilt yet the desire that make him act flip floppy and just push him further into "think about nothing else except your plans" mentality… But then the thing that made me 👀⁉️ is Kabru worrying he’s the child of a succubus/incubus in the context of them… He ISN’T but his anxiety that he might be, adds another layer to their angle and omg?

Like Kabru esp with Rin already has that condescending but caring "I can’t possibly give you what you want, because I know better than you do what you want and need (and I’m not that)", the "No, Rin, you don’t want to be involved with me, I won’t let you ruin your life by choosing to stay with me. I know what you really want and need more than you and I am pushing you away for your own good", but with the incubus insecurity slapped on top of it… It’s Kabru feeling even worse about Rin loving him and even more unfit to receive or reciprocate it. It’s Kabru feeling like there’S NO POSSIBLE WAY Rin’s love for him could be genuine, that she could love ~the real him~ or do so genuinely. Because he has his persona he puts on, first of all, and since he doesn’t let down his walls around Rin either imo he thinks he’s got her dancing to its tune, so first it’s like well ok she doesn’t love me she just knows this shell of me, she just latched onto me because we went through similar trauma at the same time and then she got attached to this persona of someone perfect who isn’t me- AND THEN THERE’S THE GUILT THERE’S THE DESPAIR BECAUSE AS AN INCUBUS HE THINKS ANY LOVE OR ATTENTION HE GETS IS INNATELY COERCED? Without mentioning how because he got chased out of his hometown because of his blue eyes, he knows how damning attention can be too, with how his mother was cast out because she stuck with him he knows how dangerous just someone choosing him as a priority can ruin them. Being in the spotlight is a curse and by being magnetic you can be a plague—

He holds back. Can never be too wanting. Too possessive, too intense. He has to be a gentleman—the furthest possible thing from a monster who ravishes. It has to all be calculated, so he stays in control. Feeling like a monster because even as he tries to keep her at a distance, he can't let her go. He is possessive, he does lead her on, even as he tries not to…

Rin’s love for him for years and years STILL can’t be true because it’s all just. Not real. Her love is coerced, it’s manipulated, it’s forced out of her by magic and cunning and I am the worst man alive for it, even if just caused subconsciously or unwillingly— and an even worse one for sort of wanting her love despite it all. He’s ruining her life having her follow him and help his cause like he ruined his mother’s. It’s not me, it’s the fake, it’s the surface, it’s the magic…. He feels unlovable so of course with his bestie he wants to protect who’s into him it’s like, no I can’t indulge her that because it’s fake love it’s manipulated it’s just magic or brain chemistry or infatuation, anything that discounts it because I can’t allow myself to think it’s real and true and genuine and for me and if it was then it’s scary in new ways.

And the thing is that NOOOO Rin DOES know him she’s tired of his fake ass! She nags him because she cares and part of her gets really frustrated because of how much he hides himself under layers of pretense!! She’s reaching in and he’s pulling away again and again further and further away! They’re childhood friends, the only meaningful one that we know of, maybe the only one they had, and yes they went through trauma that defined their relationship but what fuels Rin to follow Kabru is that she knows he ISN’T perfect, because she’s worried for him. And he wants her there too but he also wants to keep her distant from him, he just wanted to get her out of the elves’ grasp, wanted her safe and free too, and still he lets her orbit around him without ever letting her in almost at all and it’s all sooo frustrating and!! Kabru taking on this "your love for me isn’t genuine :/" spiel would make them have such delish convos and wake up calls and arguments and augh the hurt/comfort…………. Can a harsh self-critic who won’t trust others’ assesments of him and a harsh tough love-r make it work…

Kabrin is so so sad…. From what we see you could say Rin is Kabru’s best friend and to me that’s the saddest thing because that feels more qualified by an absence of more/better friendships rather than how great they get along. But yeah there’s familiarity, there’s "i don’t want to leave her behind/be left behind"….. Just…..

Just the lifelong fear like an itch at the back of your mind you try to push down, that you feel like a monster that can’t fit in and belong and something is wrong with you, but can never truly let go Kabru’s layered so many images onto himself to adjust to everyone else that even he wouldn't even know who's good for him, thinks there's no one he could belong with well I bet…

Honestly a timeline where he’s miserable about it but pushes Rin into the arms of someone else because he would never want to hurt her and he doesn’t think he can provide for her right etc would go hard. Not letting it show, all smiles and "good for you! 😊 I’m glad", but Rin knows him enough that she notices he’s not being fully genuine, in the way his back is tense when he walks away…. She’s watched him walk away a lot after all, she’s followed behind his back a lot, after all. She knows him, like how he knows her and it’s insulting when he thinks that isn’t twoway in this relationship.