#i don't have a lot of muse to work with this evening‚ so

[cassi-pokeblogging-hub]

Saying No

Okay so a conversation in a discord server inspired me to make this.

You guys can say no to things. You do not always have to "Yes And" everything that comes to you.

Like. Usually when we talk about rping, we talk about saying yes and. continuing on the scene, not shutting interaction down. We're pretty lucky with how this rp stuff works where in character denying and saying no CAN work a lot better than in standard improv without fully stopping the scene and kinda shutting it down, but that's not what I'm talking about.

I've seen a lot of people who kinda. Accidentally start god modding or kinda burst their way into plotlines without asking and like. This is public rp! Anyone can join! But there is a certain degree where you gotta stop first and ask or just not say it.

But sometimes people do not think first and just do. Maybe sending a magic anon that solves all of your oc's problems. Maybe they have dimension hopping powers and are like "Don't worry! I've come to your reality and I can help you get away from your problems instantly!", maybe your character really wants a mega stone and you have plans to have a whole thing about them working to get this mega stone and learning to mega evolving their partner and then someone mystery gifts or pelipper mails the item to you immediatly.

You don't have to "Yes, and" that. You can just say "No, you didn't do that". You are allowed to say no when someone crosses your boundaries and is affecting your plot.

Is someone trying to involve you in their plot without asking? "That is not happening in my character's universe" Is someone trying to say they're just there at a crucial event with your character when they never asked? "Your character is not able to be there. Please delete that post".

Yes And only goes so far. There is a time and a place where you will need to say No, and that is just as important to RP as going with the flow! If someone's fucking with your plot, its your job to tell them to stop. People can get involved, sure, but sometimes people try and get way more involved than what you're comfortable and its okay to tell them to back off.

I've also seen people feel that stuff like Muse Mixup Madness or Pelipper Mail are mandatory things they HAVE to do? You don't! You don't need to do anything even if others are! So I guess this is your reminder that you can ignore pelipper mail and magic anons and just asks in general that you dont like! you can turn pelipper mail and magic anons off completely! you can ignore peoples replies to your posts if they fuck with what you have going on. you can tell people they did not do things that would fuck with your characters and story. you can just not do muse mixup madness when it rolls around. you can just not do follower special events. you don't have to participate in anything you dont want, and you dont have to allow people to do whatever even if it makes you uncomfortable.

Other people can do what they want, but you have a right to say no when they try to involve you.

[salt216000]

I saw a post today that made me quite upset. Normally I'd just ignore, but I read some of the tags and they upset me quite a bit too.

Username is cropped out because I don't want to make it seem like I'm putting 'em on blast, I just want to give my opinion on this.

Transfem headcanons of Gabriel are absolutely fine. Awesome, even. But not while putting down transmasc headcanons at the same time.

The post makes a really interesting and good point! Transfem Gabriel does work well with his narrative of growth and discovery of his own identity, especially as someone cast out of Heaven for not achieving the ridiculous standards they set. That is a really good notion that, yes, being entirely honest, I don't see as frequently from that angle.

But you do NOT have to say it is a 'failure of the fandom' and pin the blame on more people headcanoning him as transmasc. If you want transfem Gabriel content then you can make it: art, writing, musings, anything, but you don't have to put down other creators for projecting their own ideas and potentially their own experiences onto a character they like and relate to.

I'm going to preface this next part with: I am NOT disparaging against transfem Gabriel headcanons, or giving reasons as to why they shouldn't exist. All I am doing here is clarifying why people tend to headcanon him as transmasc. Francis Xie was hired by Hakita to draw concept art, and he is known for drawing a lot of artwork of Gabriel (some NSFW in nature, as a warning in case you decide to look for yourself), and in said artwork he depicts his headcanon of Gabriel being transmasc. Of course, this is not gospel, it is not officially canon and even if it was people are allowed to headcanon him as whatever they want, I only bring this up to help explain why the headcanon may be so popular.

More personally, I find it really gender affirming to have a character in the ballpark of masculine in frame and voice, but to see him wear more feminine clothing in official artwork without it being degrading. It's very nice to see a depiction of this to help push back against the reinforcement that masculine presenting people must conform to certain standards, and that's why I personally enjoy the headcanon too.

There are also a decent few characters that DO get more transfem rep: Mirage, the mindflayers, mannequins, V2, so I don't understand why it's a problem that it is the minority with Gabriel. I wasn't originally going to post this publically, but these tags pushed me to do so:

Username once again cropped out for the same reason as above. To be clear, these are NOT OP's tags.

I don't care what the original tone OP meant was, if it was joking or playful or whatever else, because the sentiment that that post gathered is absolutely wretched. I don't have much else to say about it without getting deeper into gender stuff that I don't want to extend this post with, but I'll reiterate my main point.

You can be upset that there aren't headcanons that represent a certain idea you prefer, but DO NOT put down others who have contrasting ideas in the same breath. If you want to make a post about Gabriel being transfem being a great narrative, go for it, no one will stop you, but do not fucking wrap in a 'transmasc headcanons are wrong and don't get it, and my headcanon is more correct', and at those tags in particular, do NOT treat transmasc headcanons like this, 'transmasc pandemic' is such an awful way to put it and makes me feel as though a line in the sand is being further drawn between transmascs and others who are not.

[another-goblin]

Doc and Gambler: An essay A disjointed musing

I've been thinking about the words they use to address or refer to each other. Gambler and Doctor are rather special nicknames. I can't think of other characters who talk to each other a lot but avoid calling each other by actual names so deliberately.

First of all, of course I can see it as a sign of their relationship. They are old friends, so it makes sense that they have cute special names for each other.

Can there be other explanations?

1. We never see them use each other's actual first names.

It's understandable with Aventurine. If he's ever comfortable being called Kakavasha, it's definitely not now. And I can understand if he'd prefer Kakavasha to just remain a happy, innocent child in his memories forever.

It's more interesting with Ratio. Nobody calls him just "Veritas" (I think?..) He's referred to as Veritas Ratio in some official situations in his character stories. Even his elderly professor, who talks about teaching Ratio when he was a child, only calls him "Ratio."

Actually, I remember a theory that "Veritas" isn't a personal name but a kind of honorific. Maybe a title that Veritas University gives to its most distinguished members. But if Veritas is his actual first name, then I think it's quite significant that nobody seems to call him that. Especially while all of the other characters who have identifiable western-style first and second names are mostly referred to by their first name. (I'm sorry, I don't know how the Xianzhou characters' names work.)

A little off topic, but is Ratio even his real name? According to the wiki, his full name means "truth of the matter," and his Chinese name means "doctor truth." What a coincidence that a person with such a name became a famous scientist. Although there can be other explanations too.

2. They do use each other's more commonly used names sometimes (I think Ratio called him Aventurine once in the game when discussing him with us, and Aventurine addressed Ratio by name a couple of times). But it's mostly nicknames. Mostly Doc(tor) and Gambler, but also "learned professor," "knowledgeable friend," and a hundred of silly ways Ratio refers to Aventurine. I made a whole post about it long ago.

3. Can it be because all of their direct interaction happened in Penacony, in the middle of a murder mystery somewhat reminiscent of the board game Clue, with our little "Mrs. Peacock" and "Professor Plum" here just imitating the naming conventions of such a game? Like archetypes from a classical detective story, where most characters can be described with one word like that. But it's a bit of a crack theory.

4. The only situation we saw them talking to each other was when they had to play their roles for Sunday.

It's interesting that Sunday later proceeds to call Ratio just "doctor" or "learned doctor" too, the way Aventurine did. I mean, strictly speaking, there isn't anything unusual in calling a doctor "doctor", but it's funny in an awkward way. Imagine two close friends having special names for each other. And then a complete stranger who's been eavesdropping starts using these names too. Umm, that's "Dr. Ratio", Mr. Sunday, thank you very much.

Btw, that's another point to the theory that Sunday only knows (and tries to use against them) the things they deliberately fed him through their conversations.

So it might be that they did it deliberately for Sunday to hear. Like, see? we are so not friends that we don't even call each other by name. But then we see them using similar words when mentioning each other while talking to other people, and in Aventurine's thoughts too (in mission descriptions during Double Indemnity).

5. Although it might still be the way for them to try and distance themselves from each other, at least verbally, trying to deny the obvious special connection between them.

6. Or maybe it's about their "masks". They both have public personas to hide their real selves behind. (Ratio directly tells us about it and wears a literal mask to hide behind, and Aventurine's whole Harmony ordeal was basically to show his inner self, so unlike the confident and cocky Aventurine other people know.)

But they know each other better and see deeper than just their public personas of "Aventurine" and "Dr. Ratio". And it's still too early in their relationship to prod deeper ("Kakavasha" and "Veritas"). So a secret third thing it is.

[marblecarved]

Hello, dear friends, happy Friday! 💞

[madamemiz]

sad: falling out of a hyperfixation

tragic: watching your beloved friends and mutuals fall out of the hyperfixation while you're still in it

[red-dragon-archfiend]

My Yugioh anime hot take of the night is Alexis Rhodes might've been the main character if Jaden wasn't set in stone as the protagonist

[mythcaels-a]

i've been working on a thing, tell me thoughts. it's still a mega fucking wip so please don't mind the absolute mess it is

[yeonban]

What color character are you?

TOBIAS: yellow character.

Yellow characters tend to be positive and upbeat people, who try to see the bright side in most situations (although the older a character is, the less likely they’ll be as openly positive). They’re friendly and energetic much of the time, and while often genuine it can become a cover for their more negative feelings. They tend to have a lot of skill in one specific area which they have to work hard to harness and use properly. Because of this skill they can be put up on a pedestal and have high expectations placed on them to perform. Often these expectations also come from themselves. They have a strong sense of responsibility and duty placed on them that can cause them to develop a bit of a savior complex, blaming themselves for not being able to protect everyone around them.

They are diffusers and peacemakers, preferring to be in harmony with everyone, sometimes making it confusing when others around them are not this way. They’re pretty cheerful and bubbly and usually the light of their friend group. They care about their friends a lot, and go out of their way to show it, although it can cause them to be jealous when they feel as if they aren’t being included. While kind people, they also have a competitive streak and like to win. They love fun and are likely to get sidetracked and drag their friends along with them. Others are able to relax in their presence and enjoy themselves, and it’s hard not to like a yellow character. While these characters may be warm and diligent though, they also have a hard time taking risks, generally preferring to stay in their comfort zone.

They can have a bit of both a main character and a savior complex because of how much responsibility they put on themselves, and while well meaning it can irk other characters. Sometimes they go too far trying to help and interfere with others, and when they don’t want to do something they will often shut down and distract themselves from it. They are surprisingly mature for how innocent they seem, and when in a healthy place they always give their best effort. They are wise and interpersonal and really tie their friend group together. Yellow characters need to be given a safe space to release negative emotions without letting them build up, and they need people in their life who will help them keep a healthy balance of work and play without pressuring them too much.

TAGGED BY: @inhaunts THANK UUU!!! TAGGING: You 🫵

[stillresolved]

guys i have a dilemma, and when i say i have a dilemma, i mean it's not even close to one but i like validation fjsdlkfsj....but what if i changed mana's rl fc to ver.onica n.go??

[gu6chan]

My hot Drakengard take of the day is that after playing it for like 110 hours and counting im very much convinced that ppl who still complain about the gameplay being a "slog" just aren't playing the game correctly. you can hate me for this but you will not change my mind

[bravewolfvesperia]

🌙 Transgressor Yuri moodboard. 🌙

[relicsongmel]

9 year-old Melanie 🤝 24 year-old Melanie

Being Mentally Unwell about the Mamma Mia soundtrack

[eterniityblooms]

updated my rules to include shipping info + a bit more about my monster muses specifically, since shipping with at LEAST one muse on this account is probably inevitable at some point

[marblecarved]

Hello, dear friends! 💞

[cursivebloodlines]

❛❛ Everything hurts. Being with you is the only good thing in the world anymore. ❜❜ (Zoe & Eric - I'm being generous and giving you options lmfao)

The urge to plead with him, to beg him not to utter those words, surged through Zoe's veins. To some people, that was all they wanted to hear… except for the ‘everything hurts’ part. Some may have even thought it was sweet or romantic… but all Zoe felt was despair. Each syllable shattered her already fragile heart, reminding her of the self-doubt she had carried for years. There were a lot of things she had thought about herself, had convinced herself to believe over the years.  "Good" was not one of them, let alone being the "only good" thing. It was a lot of pressure to live up to and maintain. A pit of dread nestled in her stomach. What if Eric changed his mind? What if he discovered she wasn't the person he believed her to be? The fear of disappointing or hurting him haunted her. What if she failed him again? Would that mean he believed there was nothing else good in his life?

That was morbid and she couldn’t bear it. But what was she supposed to say to him? The last thing Zoe wanted to do was hurt him. In that vulnerable moment, he was in pain. And she adored him with all her heart, more than she had ever loved anything else in the world. She’d go to great lengths to ensure his happiness. But to constantly be the only source of happiness for him? She didn’t want him to hold such high expectations of her. It was an expectation she knew would lead to disappointment in the long run.

Once upon a time, the mere thought of such high expectations would have driven her to run. But now, she understood better. She was better. Did the thought cross her mind? Absolutely… but after already doing it once before, only to return to him, grateful for his forgiveness and the chance to rebuild trust. She owed him not to run again when the going got tough.  Zoe feared stepping out of line, of breaking him.

What did he even see in her? She couldn’t fathom it. Her whole life, she’d been told otherwise. Treated like vermin. Her own parents couldn’t stand her and only wanted her when it suited them, when she could be of use to them and nothing more than that, doing their dirty work when they deemed her old enough to be useful. And then when she reached adulthood and found a way to be free of them, they found her again, scrounging money she worked hard for to fuel their own nasty addictions. Alcohol, drugs, gambling, the lot. She was silly enough to give them all she had, to keep them off her back. Even if that meant going without food, gas or electricity, even if it meant not being able to cover rent and having to couch surf with some friends for a while. If it meant they wouldn’t pester her anymore or try to lure her into their awful ways once more, it was worth it. But she found her way in the end. Clawed her way up and out of the rubble -- Survivors always did.

So, with the situation regarding Eric’s parents and other people being involved, Zoe understood more than most what it was like. Which was why she never bat an eye when he told her about them, even if it meant neither of them were safe. She never knew what it was like to be safe, not completely. It didn’t faze her.

But Eric talking like this? That terrified her. Almost terrified enough for her to want to run again – but she came this far to scramble for an ounce of happiness; and that’s what she had with him. Happiness. Joy. Love. So much love. She would be an idiot to consider throwing everything they had away again just because she was afraid. Zoe lost him once; she would rather walk through hell (though one could argue that’s a place she’s already been many times before) before losing him again because she feared the future, of what was to come. And she wasn’t an idiot – she knew damn well if she pulled a move like that again, there would be no room for forgiveness next time.

But how could she express all of this to him? How could she ask him not to say things like that without worsening his pain? Zoe had never been the warm, comforting type of girl, simply because she never knew how to be. Her defining talent was her ability to keep people at arm’s length, to not left them in, to be stoic to keep herself away from getting hurt. Yet, with Eric, everything was different. He melted away her icy exterior and tore down her walls. As much as she wanted to ask him – beg him – to not say such things, she needed to be there for him in that present moment. Normally, in a situation where she would fire back with words like telling him not to say shit like that. This time was different. Different because he needed her, and she had no plans to turn her back on him. Not now, not ever. It would be tricky, but oh, she was trying.

"Hey, come here," she finally broke the silence, her voice soft as she beckoned him. Slowly, she settled on his lap, facing him directly. A weak yet affectionate smile graced her lips as she wrapped her arms around his neck. Her fingertips ran gently through his hair, drawing him closer to her. Resting her chin on top of his head, she kept her other hand at the back of his neck, securing their connection. "It won't always feel like this," she assured him, her voice filled with tenderness. She couldn't be certain, but she held onto hope – dangerous but necessary in that moment. Urging him closer, she whispered, "We'll be okay. We have to be." Upon realising how sharp and curt it almost sounded, she added quickly, "And, um, more importantly, because we have each other." She was certain of their love and support for each other. Now, how could she address his fear without unintentionally making it about her? Maybe a joke?

Summoning courage, she attempted a light-hearted approach. "Once we get you out of here for a bit, you'll realise there are plenty more good things in the world. Like... like pizza! Obviously. We need to open your eyes," she said almost playfully, a hint of a grin on her lips. Lifting her head to meet his gaze, she continued, "We've been cooped up in here for far too long. It's making you delusional."

[kurthorton-moving]

I log into my other blogs multiple times every day and yet. Nothing Happens on them