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howlsofbloodhounds · 10 days ago

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wait, im kinda confused now, doesn't osdd also develop from a trauma in childhood? Or am i missing something??

OSDD is not just the “plural disorder.” OSDD-1, the ones with alters and systems, does form from childhood trauma. OSDD is diagnosed when someone shows signs of a dissociative disorder, but does not meet criteria for an already existing dissociative disorder.

The main dissociative disorders are Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID), Dissociative Amnesia, and Derealization Depersonalization Disorder (DPDR).

If one does not meet the criteria for those but shows signs of a dissociative disorder that significantly impacts their life and functioning, they can be diagnosed with OSDD; and usually the person will be given a reason as to why they were diagnosed with it, but not something else.

There’s technically 4 “types” of OSDD, but i remember that someone will not be diagnosed with “OSDD-1” or “OSDD-2.”

I feel it also important to mention that, according to the wiki, these are not actually types; they’re just examples of presentations that can be experienced or observed in those diagnosed with OSDD. There could be more and different examples of presentations possible with OSDD.

It is just all OSDD, and a reason will be specified. Taken directly from the wiki, “An example would be specifying "OSDD (dissociative trance)".”

Someone who shows signs of a dissociative disorder but doesn’t mean criteria for the ones above, and isn’t given a reason why, can be diagnosed with Unspecified Dissociative Disorder or UDD.

These guys can also potentially have alters and systems and the like, they just aren’t diagnosed with DID or OSDD either because of a lack of meeting criteria somehow, or more likely, because there’s a lack of sufficient time. Possibly other reasons as well.

Taken from the Wiki, these are the 4 descriptions of 4 example presentations that can be present in the “catch all” diagnosis of OSDD;

“Chronic and recurrent syndromes of mixed dissociative symptoms:

The DSM states, "This category includes identity disturbance associated with less-than-marked discontinuities in sense of self and agency, or alterations of identity or episodes of possession in an individual who reports no dissociative amnesia".

The ICD-11 describes this presentation as "Partial dissociative identity disorder".

(This is the one commonly referred to as OSDD-1/OSDD1, and OSDD-1A and OSDD-1B. Systems and alters, like DID, but not DID because they fail to meet a specific criteria to be diagnosed with DID. OSDD-1A and OSDD-1B are also community terms im sure, someone will not be diagnosed with these letters or terms or numbers.)

Identity disturbance due to prolonged and intense coercive persuasion:

The DSM gives the examples of "brainwashing, thought reform, programming, indoctrination while captive, torture, long-term political imprisonment, recruitment by sects/cults or by terror organizations." People with this presentation, as a result, may experience distressing changes to and/or questioning of their identity.

(This one is commonly called OSDD-2. A very well known but fictional example of this is the Winter Soldier/Bucky Barnes from the MCU.)

Acute dissociative reactions to stressful events:

This category is used for acute dissociative episodes which may last anywhere from a few hours to weeks, but typically less than a month. The dissociative conditions are characterised by "constriction of consciousness", including "depersonalization; derealization; perceptual disturbances (e.g., time slowing, macropsia); micro-amnesias; transient stupor; and/or alterations in sensory-motor functioning (e.g., analgesia, paralysis)."

(OSDD-3.)

Dissociative Trance:

This category represents a dissociative trance; "an acute narrowing or complete loss of awareness of immediate surroundings that manifests as profound unresponsiveness or insensitivity to environmental stimuli." The DSM specifies that "The dissociative trance is not a normal part of a broadly accepted collective cultural or religious practice".

In the ICD-11, this condition warrants a separate diagnosis of Trance disorder.”

(OSDD-4.)

So all in all, OSDD is simply a “catch all” diagnosis. Those diagnosed with it can have prolonged, childhood trauma—and those diagnosed with the first example presentation of OSDD typically and often do—but experiencing prolonged, childhood trauma is not a requirement or required thing to be diagnosed with OSDD.

“OSDD-2” is often even something that’s diagnosed due to extensive trauma, abuse, and manipulation experienced later in life as teenagers, young adults, adults, or even elderly.

One can experience this type of abuse as a child as well of course, but it’s not childhood specific.

Those who undergo the same type of abuse and trauma that those with “OSDD-2” (aka OSDD (Identity disturbance due to prolonged and intense coercive persuasion)) do, can instead be diagnosed with DID or “OSDD-1” (aka OSDD (Chronic and recurrent syndromes of mixed dissociative symptoms)) if they’re a system (because im pretty sure someone will not be diagnosed with two dissociative disorders, even if their experiences and symptoms match up or overlap with two), and not everyone who undergoes the abuse and trauma that those with OSDD-2 do will be diagnosed with OSDD-2 or any type of dissociative disorder.

For example, not every survivor of human trafficking or other forms of organized abuse develops a dissociative disorder or is diagnosed with OSDD-2, even if they experience some dissociative symptoms (likely as coping mechanisms, as opposed to the coercive and external, induced nature of dissociation in OSDD-2) and likely have PTSD/C-PTSD symptoms. Just the same as not every cult survivor is diagnosed with OSDD-2.

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our-arospec-experience · 8 months ago

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CW: mild aphobia or ignorance Soooo this is kind of a question for anyone who wants to answer. So I came out to one of my friends as aromantic asexual and she took it not great but could be a whole lot worse. One of the things she said was that she didn't understand why I would sabotage my own happiness by not getting into a relationship. How do I explain to her that I would be less happy in a relationship than single because of my aromanticism? Thanks!

I’m not really great with that stuff, so does anyone else have a suggestion? possibly try communicate with them? That’s really all I can confidently say

#i am not a professional #our arospec experience #arospec #aromantic #aro #lgbtqia+#queer #aro pride #tw arophobia #tw romance #mod ozzie

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julian-devorak-stan · 7 months ago

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By popular demand, here is Julian's NSFW chart

(THIS IS MY PERSONAL ASSESSMENT. I am open to further discussion, but don't be mean to me, I'll cry)

#i am not a professional #just 3 racoons in a trenchcoat #julian devorak #dr julian devorak #julian the arcana #julian devorak nsft #julian the arcana smut #julian the arcana nsft #julian devorak smut

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carvedrobin · 7 days ago

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PETRO AND BPD

I've wanted to write a post on how Petro is BPD-Coded, at least, to me. I found a lot of his writing very relatable and nuanced, especially when it comes to abuse and mental illness. I wanted to make a post detailing that, and why I see him as someone who has BPD.

Note: I am not officially diagnosed with BPD. While I have heavy suspicions I have it, a few things may be inaccurate. Do not take this as a be-all for everyone with this disorder, and do your own research.

So, to start, let's go over a few key symptoms of BPD, and a few brief summary of it:

A mental disorder characterized by unstable moods, behavior, and relationships.

Symptoms include emotional instability, feelings of worthlessness, insecurity, impulsivity, and impaired social relationships.

More symptoms listed below, with more detail:

Mood swings: Extreme mood swings that can last from hours to days

Unstable self-image: A sense of self that is unstable and distorted

Rapidly changing values: Values and interests that change quickly

Extreme thinking: Viewing things in extremes, such as all good or all bad

Unstable relationships: Relationships that are intense and unstable, alternating between idealization and devaluation

Impulsive behaviors: Dangerous behaviors such as spending sprees, substance abuse, and reckless driving

Self-harm: Cutting, burning, or other attempts to hurt oneself

Chronic emptiness: A pervasive feeling of hollowness

Anger: Intense anger or difficulty controlling anger

Dissociation: Feeling cut off from oneself or seeing oneself from outside one's body

The main highlights of BPD is unstable relationships, emotional instability, and unsteady self image.

I will not be going over every symptom, as this is already a long analysis.

I want to highlight the notable aspect: Petro and his relationships. When analyzing him, it’s easy to notice that he has significant gaps in his relationships, and who he has let get close. Overall, there are only 4 relationships that have significance in his life: His mom, The Wisp, Alux, and Mark. He might have met or known others during his life, but so far it seems like these people are the closest relationships he’s had- or, the only real relationships he’s had.

While ages aren’t confirmed, it’s suspected Petro is around 17. A large part of his development as a child was most likely skewed due to his relations to the cult and the Wisp. These four people are the only true connections he’s had, which is unhealthy for someone his age.

This would lead to attachment issues, especially under Petro’s circumstances. He lost his mother at a young age, leaving him isolated in a kingdom that would hate him for being magic. The only attachment that he’d have after that, for a long time, was the Wisp. Unfortunately, the Wisp only saw him as a means to an end.

Their relationship, which has been a constant through Petro’s life, is her belittling him, abusing him, and stringing him along enough for him to do whatever she wants. The only two relationships Petro had, years after meeting the Wisp.

Cults typically don’t allow outside communication, at least, not healthy ones. Since the Wisp stalked Petro almost all the time, there was little room for him to make meaningful connections. Alux and Mark were all he had.

While it hasn’t been shown how Alux and Petro met, we do see how quickly Petro gets attached to Mark. Though it’s never really stated when, we do know that they’ve only known each other for a few weeks, maybe a month at most.

Back to the main point. Obviously, yes, this leads to unstable relationships. Petro’s relationship with Mark was unsteady and filled with distrust at first, but it was able to work out between them eventually.

People with BPD can tend to have a black/white point of view when it comes to things, either seeing it as all good or all bad. This or that. Us or them. These switch-ups can also leave a state of mind switching between “leave me alone” and “please don’t go”. This mindset is also known as splitting.

With Petro, he demonstrates this mindset often. When telling the Dark Angel story, it’s told very straightforwardly, and while he doesn’t say it outright, he’s very much on the Angel’s side. He never seems to question his actions.

I’d also say this is shown in Episode 16 when it comes to Mark. Petro is outwardly aggressive, trying to push Mark away. However, once Mark makes it clear that he’s not leaving, that he’s ‘good’ in Petro’s eyes, Petro opens up. His vulnerability is shown, and he suddenly displays how much he cares about Mark through the rest of the episode.

Another note about BPD is that it can lead to quick attachment and idolizing. While splitting is a part of BPD, emotional attachment is another part. One can get extremely attached to someone quickly.

While this can be used as an example with Mark again, I want to draw attention to the Wisp. She very much uses Petro’s unstable view of usefulness and relationships against him. There’s a scene in Episode 10 I want to talk about. It’s in the beginning, when Petro and the Wisp are talking about the ritual, and she mentions there were others in this same position before him.

In the beginning of it , the wisp looks almost upset when mentioning others before Petro, almost like she's trying to bait his sympathy. Of course, he listens, asks if there were others before him. Then, she changes up entirely, becoming more closed off. Simply saying, "Yes, but that's not important now, is it?"

It's very interesting to me. She baits him, gains his sympathy, then suddenly acts like he's the one who was concerned the whole time, not her. You can see before Mark barges in that he's more nervous now, and she never elaborates why later. Essentially, all she did was leave him with concerns that wouldn't be answered. What happened to the others? Am I good enough compared to them? Can I do better than them?

The last question especially seems to follow Petro, considering how determined he is to complete the ritual. The way the Wisp responds to Petro too also feels vile. "That's not important now, is it?" almost like going, "it's not a big deal. Do you think it's a big deal? Why do you think that when it isn't?". It's suddenly putting the blame and topic on him when he barely did anything, and she was the one faking concern in the first place.

All he does is doubt himself. Yes, he knows he cares about her, but he can’t know for sure if she cares about him. She plants bits of doubt that make him want to keep striving to help her, to prove himself worthy. While the Wisp is very clearly horrible, Petro doesn’t care. She is all he has. He has no one else but her. No one else will care about him in any form.

He's impulsive, forced to hide his emotions due to the Wisp constantly stalking him. The only outbursts he can have are against other people, which only makes everything more confusing for him.

The Wisp knows this behavior, and has expected that no one will love his “true” self. Yet, someone does. Mark does. The Wisp, only using his disorder to manipulate him further, couldn't let someone love him like that.

Now, another thing I'd like to mention. While BPD does not have a clear cause, it's been noted that a decent portion of individuals who have BPD also have suffered through trauma growing up.

Quoted from an Alter article about this:

“While further research is necessary better to understand the relationship between trauma and borderline personality disorder, it is suspected that early trauma can trigger BPD because experiencing hardship, abuse, or neglect as a child affects different biological systems in the brain.”

In summary, I believe Petro has BPD due to his relationships and behavior outside them. I don't know if it was intentionally written in, or simply is just effects of the abuse Petro’s suffered.

It's possible to see his behaviors as just effects from abuse, which is alright. I'm not trying to dictate that Petro ABSOLUTELY has BPD, but why I believe and headcanon it. Truthfully, abuse symptoms and BPD overlap a lot, and again, I'm no professional therapist.

Thank you for reading.

#favremysabre #alux rising #ar petro #character analysis #bpd #i am not a professional #pls my word is not gospel #i just want to project on this little gayboy

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theaterchemy2 · 11 months ago

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Rinne is clingy.

“Rinne suddenly realizes she loves Houtaro! There’s no buildup!” seems like the main reason a lot of people dislike the current arc of Gotchard.

Okay, but take it back a second. Rinne is established to be an outsider amongst her peers. She focused on school and alchemy, and nothing else. Her relationship with her father became strained when he was revealed to have “betrayed” the alchemists’ union (thanks Gereyon). She can’t say anything, because she’s just a child against the masked whoevers in charge of the union. Rinne is the child of a traitor, and now she feels personally betrayed by her father. Because she can’t speak against the union, she bottles up her feelings, and thus, she becomes very cynical and aloof.

Rinne cannot let herself trust anyone, else she might get betrayed again.

Even in the alchemist academy, where she has Sabimaru and Renge (and Spanner, I guess), she doesn’t make a connection with them. She does her own business, they do theirs.

Then enters Houtaro. He quickly becomes a recurring presence in her life after joining the alchemist academy, and slowly manages to break down her barriers. He flips everything she’s perceived about friends and relationships on her head. Suddenly, she’s made a connection. Through Houtaro, she makes connections to the rest of the academy. Rinne becomes friends with Renge and Sabimaru, and the Chemies as well. She goes out to eat with Renge. She becomes comfortable enough with Houtaro (and Kajiki?) to show off her love of spooky things, a side that the old her would have likely hidden. She’s growing up. She may get annoyed with them, but they’re the first friends she’s made in a while, if ever. And Houtaro is the one who helped her build those bridges, supporting her, and she supports him right back. Rinne is happier than she’s ever been, now with friends and purpose in her life.

Aside from her father, Houtaro is her greatest connection and her best friend.

At the same time, however, Rinne is subconsciously relying on Houtaro to be an emotional support for herself. Even if she believes in him, she doesn’t fully believe in herself, even after gaining the power to become Majade. Rinne looks to Houtaro to reaffirm his belief in her and support for her; if he doesn’t do that, she doubts herself. And with Tsukumo suddenly taking up all of Houtaro’s attention, she’s not receiving that affirmation. Her first/best friend and largest connection is being cut off by someone else, and seems to have replaced her.

Subconsciously, Rinne is clingy. Mostly towards Houtaro, but also towards the rest of the squad. She feels like she, and socially awkward introvert, belongs with a group of friends.

She’s maybe a bit jealous, but now, she’s anxious that her connection to Houtaro is diminishing because of his childhood friend who literally came out of nowhere and inserted herself back into his life. And now that subconscious clinginess has become more prominent.

And now she’s doubting herself again.

If Rinne can’t be supported by Houtaro, or if she can’t support Houtaro, does her presence matter with Tsukumo around? Everyone, from Kajiki to Tamami, seems to gel well with Tsukumo hovering around Houtaro, trying to grab his attention with her big ol’ doe eyes. Suddenly she’s become the outsider again. Rinne isn’t questioning if she loves Houtaro, she’s questioning herself and her self-worth.

And Tsukumo, if unintentional, feeds into that doubt. Her declaration to be able to go after Houtaro without any worries feeds Rinne’s self-doubt.

And Atropos is really, really, REALLY, good at fueling that doubt even further.

What if Houtaro starts doubting her? What if her entire friend group suddenly doubts her? Suddenly she’s in her father’s shoes. Is she going to be branded a traitor as well?

(Okay, maybe that’s a stretch)

Houtaro is pure of heart and dumb of ass, so it’s unlikely he’ll turn on her. He’s able to recognize that she was hurting in episode 14, can see the good in humans and Chemies alike, and also seems to be better at socializing… save for recognizing when Tsukumo is flirting with him.

But the worry is still planted. Maybe that’s why Minato tells her to fight as herself in the preview? So she can believe in herself? Rinne has relied on Houtaro to help her believe in herself, but the what-if of if he doesn’t has been provoked.

The main writer of Gotchard is Hasegawa, who graciously gifted us with Yomogi and Yume from SSSS.DYNAZENON, a show that also featured a relationship between two high schoolers. The buildup between Yomogi and Yume versus Houtaro and Rinne is similar: two teenagers learning to support one another. What differs is that Yomogi and Yume are both emotionally scarred by their past, and they learn how to heal and bond as a result, while Rinne is relying of Houtaro to support her as she heals. Houtaro doesn’t seem to carry any kind of emotional baggage going into forming a connection with Rinne, aside from a missing father, so he’s not needing reassurance of himself. He needs reassurance from everyone equally to bring out Gotchard’s full strength. It’s doubtful he would recognize that he’s been christened as Rinne’s emotional support extrovert.

#kamen rider gotchard #ichinose houtaro #kudo rinne #kamen rider #gotchard #Houtaro/Rinne #ssss.dynazenon #character study #kinda?#i am not a professional #musings #this was written by an introvert

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kaliina-catoe-blog · 2 months ago

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Someone asked on reddit: "What is your biggest Fanfic Ick when you're reading?" and I saw a lot of other similar posts asking similar questions... I actually have a couple, but I'm specifically going to rant about my big one.

Children speaking either like full-grown adults or like they're much much younger than they are meant to be.

I was HORRIBLE about this for years, mainly because I wasn't around many kids younger than me (baby of the family). But now, as an adult who has been around children more? Omg. No. Please.

I've also taken some Early Childhood Development (ECD) courses since then, and I excelled in AP Psychology as a teenager- so I might not be an expert but I know the basics now. Honestly? If people who write children just take 5 (five) minutes to read up on the basic ECD milestones for speaking it would correct the issue completely I swear...

Most children start talking younger than you think! They babble and form basic monosyllabic or bisyllabic words by 1 year. (mama, Dada, baba, wawa, up, no, etc) [side note: I personally was talking in full sentences by 18 mo, but I am an outlier the size of Spiders George and should not be counted. I am hyperlexic, this post is about "standard" kids]

By 1.5 (18m) your baby should at least be speaking in basic monosyllabic and bisyllabic words and they'll still babble but usually with more purpose. What would be incoherent might start to sound more like they're attempting sentences. (EG: "Mama, I hab wawa? [Mama, I have Water?]") Technically babbling stage sentences, but they can be more or less easy to understand based on other factors. It is CRUCIAL to speak to your baby at this point especially, and even more important if you're attempting to teach the baby more than one language. Don't use baby voice- actually speak to them. Otherwise, they *will not* learn to say real words in time for school.

By 2 your baby is speaking in sentences! Maybe not always super clearly, but this is a good time in their life to begin introducing them to enunciation and basic language skills. (my examples here: "Mama, I need water, please." "Mama.. Need wawa, pease?" and then you repeat the sentence so they can try to copy your enunciation.) At this point, don't be too strict or you might unintentionally make them *stop* talking. Encourage them to pronounce/enunciate things correctly instead, and praise when they do well.

By 3, they should have a decent grasp on the language basics and should be speaking in full sentences at least mostly. They might still mispronounce things or not fully enunciate correctly. But they have the basics down and are ready to start getting hooked on phonics! (Idealistically, it's even better if you've been showing them educational content the entire time- with minimal screen usage. But like. I've seen Gen Alpha kids and I have Gen Beta cousins and nibblings. I'm not stupid. It's ALL screens. If you want your Gen Beta kid to do better than the Gen Alpha kids have been doing? GET BABY BOOKS. USE THEM. READ TO YOUR KIDS. This is why so many high school students are illiterate! It's because they weren't exposed to literature or basic phonics until they were fucking 6!)

Ahem. By 4, I was reading unassisted both out loud and silently. But normal children should be learning letters and numbers and how to count to 10. Your normal 4 year old should be capable of sounding out small words and should be able to spell their name and your name. I'm serious. First thing you need to teach your kid to read/write unassisted is their own name and your name. Before they start pre-K. If your kid ever gets hurt, or you get hurt? They need to know their name, and yours. It's not that difficult to teach your kid not to call you your first name- but it's hard to find them if they get lost and have no idea who they are or who they're looking for aside from "mama/dada/ren".

By 5, we have reached Pre-K! (or Kinder depending where you are ig). They should be speaking in full, mostly correct, sentences. There is no more "wawa" instead of water. They may still be saying "wah-duh" but they should be beyond "wawa". They should be able to say "Drink" and not "dink" (again, it may be a little more "dwink" but that's normal. If they know the word and can reliably say it and be understood fine? They're doing ok. If they have a speech impediment you're about to find out from their teachers or doctors so don't worry about it yet- or just bring it up yourself and ask them if they believe there's an impediment).

I repeat, because this is the age I see get the "baby talk" treatment the most, your 5 year old character should be capable of speaking in full sentences. FIVE YEAR OLDS ARE NOT 3.

By 6, we start to see a grasp on basic Grammar and spelling ideas- this is the age where some of those rules don't make sense, or are contrary to one another (like the "I before E except after C; unless your Foreign Science-teacher Neighbor, Keith, Receives Eight Weird Counterfeit Weightlifting books in the mail- sent by Feisty Caffeinated Beige aliens" rule... Or the dozen different ones about commas, and which commas are which, and why the fuck we have multiple different types of THE EXACT SAME CHARACTER- All of which go in literally the same place but slightly differently and for different reasons).

Yeah. Age 6 is wild, man. And the way 6 year olds talk? It reflects. This is the age of "Why is fart spelled like a smell?" and "Ren? How did I go in your tummy when I was a baby me?" and the ever-present "I runned-ed really fast!"... They know what the rules are, but they don't actually know how they *work*.

7, and we have reached a great age for conversation! 7 year olds can speak pretty clearly, and while they may still say things like "I runned" instead of "I ran", they do it a lot less... And usually not quite that obviously. This is the age where correcting their grammar/spelling/enunciation is going to be really important! We want to encourage them to come to us with words they can't pronounce in books, or ask how to spell random words that they hear in media/life, and we have to be kind about correcting errors. 7 year olds are soft and sensitive and a little bit whiney. They're still small enough to cry over a skinned knee, and ask for fit-it kisses, and they won't be this small ever again. Yes, the 9000000000 questions a day will get exhausting and annoying and "omgpleaseshutuppleasepleasejustgofindathesaurusandstopaskingme" but then we start to really see the fruits of our labour.

8 years old! They can read, they can write, and they can do basic addition and subtraction - maybe even a little multiplication and division depending on the school/home educational resources. They are finally old enough to be introduced to long multi-chapter books (as in, more than 15-20 chapters) for solo reading! Honestly, I was reading multi-chapter books LONG before 8. But I was also a very hyperlexic child, and a kid that is developing at a totally "standard" pace should be hitting this milestone ~around~ 8. Maybe they're 7.5, maybe it takes until they're 8.5. But 8 is a median age for independently reading long chapter books.

By 9, we are very independent. Almost double digits! That's practically grown! A 9 y/o is going to be so so super excited to do anything alone. They're still going to mostly listen to you, and they'll go to you directly for help/comfort/etc very openly. Enjoy this phase! It is not a long phase. Linguistically speaking, by 9 most kids are pretty much grown-out of minor speech impediments- the ones that stick are actual impediments and it's up to you are your child to decide if/what speech therapy is good for them. Smaller things, like "Dwink" over "Drink" usually go away by this age. More permanent impediments will be much more clear, and they're completely natural! There's no shame in having a speech impediment, and while your child develops a personality and tries to be more independent - it's your job to handle any speech impediments for them. Let them focus on being 9.

10! Double digits already? Wow. Seems like only 500 words ago we were teaching them to tie shoes and spell "duckie". By this point, they're talking pretty much like how you'd expect a 10 year old to talk. They're either going to be a swearer, or not, and that's 80% your own doing. The other 20% is literally everyone else in their life. Peers, teachers, aunts, uncles, rads, etc. (rad being what my nibblings should call me, because I think it's 😁😁 rad 👉👉)

After this point? Just. Keep letting them learn more and more big words. If you've done all of this right, they'll probably love reading! Just nurture that love, and you're set. 11 year olds are cringey- they use weird dumbass slang that adults don't understand, and we use their slang to embarrass them every chance we get. A tale as old as time.

Honestly the next "big shift" in how a kid talks, is puberty. The change in vocal register can mess with the way the speak - and can also make certain Speech impediments worse, so if you're someone whose kid has an impediment, make sure you've prepared them for that. Warn them that vocal changes might make them feel as though any speech therapy they've done is pointless, and work with them to encourage them and help them remember that these vocal changes are not *bad*. Make sure they understand that there's nothing wrong with it.

And then, again, next big change isn't really a change at all. They're ready. They're grown! 18! The most common "change" here is that they might get a little bit too comfortable swearing a lot more than what's appropriate. But they'll figure out what's "enough" swearing soon enough. The important thing isn't whatever might be going on linguistically anymore... You've done it. You have managed to bring an entire human being all the way through childhood and into adulthood. You created a whole entire person! Now sit back, relax, and wait for grandkids or a dog or something... And remember that if you get grandkids, you also get to repeat a large portion of all of the work you just did.

And you also get to know that you made a tiny human! And then that human became an adult all because of you! And they decided to make *another* tiny human!

Ok Ok... I could go on, but Im getting really off-topic. My point is:

Children develop sooo quickly! There's only 10-12 years before they're most of the way grown and beginning to hit puberty. Your 8 year old Dick Grayson should NOT talk like he's 4! 10 year old Dick Grayson is not about to be using words like "Rhetorical question" unless you've given us reason to believe that he is well-read enough (In English) to know what that means. He might understand the premise of "not a questions are supposed to be answered" but it's INFINITELY funnier and more realistic for that type of interaction to play as-

10y/o Dick: "Why do you call yourself penguin?"

Penguin: *starts to answer*

Dick, jumping his ass: "I didn't mean you had to actually tell me! It was-" *pauses to look at his dad* "Batman?"

Batman, amused: "Rhetorical."

Dick: "Yeah! It was Rhetorical!"

*keeps beating up Penguin, who is so confused*

And more!

Your de-aged Danny Fenton that's suddenly 2? Should not be super-conscious and speaking like he's 14. And! Even if he's mentally 14 still, 2 year olds babble mainly because their mouths are tiny and have like. Barely any teeth.

Even I, hyperlexic and learning to ask for things at 18mo, still mostly babbled until I had all of my teeth. [I know this because my mum and I are super close and I recently had to get a full medical history, including me and her doing the math to figure out exactly how old I was at all of my milestones- based on how old my brothers were and where we lived and what surgery/test/etc I was having done at the same ages].

Anyway. So even if he's fully conscious or wtv, he's not speaking like a teenager- he's limited to what he can physically pronounce as a toddler.

Also! In this same vein! Stop forcing the baby talk to be written out completely phonetically.... I'm so so so sick of reading

"An' I tol' mah da-da aaallll 'bout the fishes at da 'quarium" like. Seriously guys. Just. Fucking. Type it.

It makes more sense for a 5 year old to go "I told my daddy aaallll about the 'quarium and the fishes and the cool boat thingy we rided on!" than whatever that hell-fire bullshit is, that just ate the text off the other example.

Kids under 10 especially tend to speak in run-on sentences. They use "and" "like" "Uh" "um" and other filler words. Constantly. Have them say like 6 different sentences, with barely if any pause, and call it a fuckin day lmao. It's more accurate than you probably think it is. My favorite example is my little cousin, we'll call her Amie (real name of my real adult friend lmao, but idk any good fake kid names so) I'll also just call myself Kat for simplicity sake.

Amie(7): "Katkatkatkatkat!"

Me: "What what what what what?"

A: "Come look! I found a cool bug underneath this big ole rock in the backyard it's over by the trampoline and I almost squisheded it by accident but it's ok because I jumped off and then I moved the rock offofit and then I came to get you so you can see the cool bug thingy! Look!"

Me, looking at what appeared to be a huge ass beetle: "Oh, wow! That is amazing! Do you want to put it in a jar so we can show mom? Maybe she'll let us go release it in the woods, so it's safe from the weed whacker!"

A: "Oh yes! Yesyesyesyes! I wanna go find a really cool jar! A big one and we can poke holes in the top but we should probably poke the holes in before we put Jerald in it because that way we don't accidentally poke a hole in Jerald because I think that would be really sad. I like Jerald."

Me: "I like him too, kiddo. Let's find a jar for him to take a nap in until Mommy is back, okay?"

Anyways, that's just an example of my 7 y/o cousin. Be creative! Have fun! Just keep in mind that if you want other people to read it, you have to put a little effort into it. My biggest advice?

Read up on the age you're writing. What grade are they in? How big are they? How does being that size shift how they (literally) see things around them?

Maybe try to go spend some time with younger relatives if you have any! Or maybe go visit a library and go to the kids section for a few minutes to browse- Ive done this to get a physical sense of what a little kid's world looks like from that low lol. I literally went to the library, and shuffled around on my knees for like 10 minutes browsing an empty section of the kids' area. Nobody questioned me, nobody gave a fuck, nobody even looked at me because: everyone will just assume you're there for a kids book. You have free will! Just. Go research what little kids are like before you write them completely wrong and then get pissed off when nobody wants to read your piss poor attempt at writing kids. (I say this with love, I swear, it's just a topic that personally really frustrates me 😅)

Hell, use this post as a giant guide for raising your characters' kids!

Maybe don't actually use it as a real life parenting guide tho. I wrote it in that style because that's just how it made sense in my head lol... I am not a parent, I just really wish I was.

#writing #i will die on this hill #writing tips #I'm a little mean but I'm not trying to be mean #I'm just very.. Heated #Don't take it personally this post is actually 80% about my own hella cringe fic that I just found again on wattpad #If I could turn back time...#I would shove this post down 15 y/o me's throat tbh #Writing kids #How to write kids #Character parenting 101 #Not real parenting advice tho #i am not a professional #I am not a parent #I like cats #Fanfic icks #Bitching

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justaguywithadhd · 9 months ago

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There probably won’t be a Next Big Thing That Fixes You Forever™️

I know, I know. Every new tip and trick and strategy is fresh and new and you love it and it’s amazing and This time is different and This is the thing you’ve been missing this whole time.

Your brain is wired to crave novelty. You’re okay. That’s allowed. Don’t put so much pressure on each individual thing to be The One Thing. Each tip and strategy is a tool. It belongs in a toolbox. A toolbox full of things you can cycle out as soon as one gets stale. Fill it with enough tools that by the time you get back around to the first thing, it’s like new again.

#actually adhd #adhd #adhd brain #adhd help #i am not a professional #adhd hacks

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pooce-art · 2 years ago

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My attempts to translate ch99 of 123 Rhodes Island on Valarqvin. Keep in mind I am not a professional, I did this for practice so some things might not be right. The 2nd comic's speech bubble was especially hard to try to translate since it's said in a weird way.

It miiight also be akin to "the future is set, what you say doesn't matter"

Link to the comic https://terra-historicus.hypergryph.com/comic/6253/episode/3177

#arknights #valarqvin #123 rhodes island #english translation #i am not a professional #please don't think this as 100% accurate #arknights amiya #hoshiguma

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yaoi-reviewer · 27 days ago

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🎬 On or off 🎮

Spice: 5/10 🌶️

Status: Complete

Synopsis: Ahn finds himself in a perilous situation after his video game pitch falls through. Desperate to not waste his friend's effort he approaches Director Kang. A rocky start to their professional and personal relationship follows their bad one night stand. Though effort speaks for itself and Kang quickly realizes his mistake, they both have to decide how to move forward (Spoiler: they're in love).

⭐ My thoughts: It's so so good. A unique and pretty art style (Kangs eyebrows remind me of a certain ghoul hunter..). I will say it' s definitely a " the uke fell first but the seme fell harder". There are a decent amount of chapters but once they get together you wish it was longer 😭. The plot is mostly simple and light hearted but there are a few dashes of angst before the couple gets together. (Chapter 45 had me in the trenches 😔).

Ahn deserves the world and I'm glad Kang got his shit together 👏.

‼️Content Warning (before you read!) ‼️

Smut

#manhwa review #yaoi bl #yaoi manhwa #cute men #gay men #spicy manhwa #i am not a professional #lightsabers #if ykyk

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inlesbianswithpixels · 10 months ago

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anyway i painted my ILW mc, yasmin, and my friend @mage-hecked‘s mc, rose

#art #my art #it lives anthology #i am not a professional #this is just for fun #it lives within #yasmin nasir

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inevitably-johnlocked · 11 months ago

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Not sure if you can help but...

I used to write fanfic a lot (not just Johnlock, but other fandoms too) and I got a particularly nasty comment on a fic months back (almost a year ago now I think) that made me delete my entire AO3 and never write anything ever again.

But I miss it so much. And every time I go to write something, the magic is just gone and I get nowhere. It's like any joy I had in writing was just sucked out by one single comment. How do I fix this?

Hey Nonny *SNUGGLE BUGGLE HUGGLE*

I'm so sorry that the "magic" feels gone, and I am so sorry that you had such a terrible experience because of one entitled asshole.

Unfortunately, I am not a professional in this regard, so please take what I say as just a grain of salt and as someone who adores and supports all creatives in this fandom... I've gotten lots of nasty comments over the years, and honestly... I take more joy that I continue on doing what I'm doing and that they're SO bloody bothered by me that I just ignored them... because really that's all you can do online. And sites like AO3 now give you the option to have your fics only be commented on by registered users only, so if you get that hate comment, just report it, block the user, and laugh at them.

I know that it's easier said than done, but to me it seems like you want to do start writing again. I've found that I just stopped caring about who my content is for, because at the end of the day, I'm doing my content for me, and it has the side effect of other people enjoying it too. I've lived long enough to just... not give a shit anymore about asshats online, because honestly they're just sad, bored people who get a sick thrill from riling people up.

BUT AGAIN, Nonny, this might be deeper than "just writing and forgetting about it" because that one comment WAS traumatic for YOU and that's VALID. I think talking to other authors might be beneficial to you to help you overcome that hurdle. FOR ME, I've found just... doing my projects with me as the primary audience does wonders. I love going back to my SUPER old stories and rereading them, because I take a lot of joy in remembering that these worlds were created by me FOR me. And looking at my old art and seeing how much I've improved often is motivation enough for me to carry on.

Actually, thinking back to my college days (OOOOOOF I'm old), we specifically had classes where the profs would rip apart our projects during critique sessions, on purpose, because in the real world, unfortunately, it is stuff you have to deal with in real life and they didn't want us to have our first experience be on-the-job. So I MIGHT be a bit more indifferent to "critiques" than most people, I'm now realizing, so AGAIN, please take what I say with a grain of salt.

That all said, you know what, Lovely? You have a lot more fans than you know, I'm sure, and they'd be thrilled to have you back <3 I REALLY REALLY wish I was better at articulating just how much I really want to see you happy, and how much of the best I hope for you. I know that my words aren't going to make everything better, but I hope they helped a bit.

If there's anyone who struggled to get over that hurdle themselves, please don't hesitate to reply or send me an anonymous message and I'll paste it here so Nonny knows that they're not alone.

And if you do, Nonny, decide to return and post up your stories, I am ALWAYS here to promote them and boost them for you <3

Please take care Nonny, and I hope you continue to write again <3 But KNOW that if you inevitably DON'T, THAT IS OKAY TOO. <3

#steph replies #chatting with nonnies #i am not a professional #writing advice #life advice #writer problems #my advice

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