#hyper-empathy

[phecdasolar]

Friendly reminder that if you see something bad or stressful on the internet you can ignore it. If you see something bad that’s trending you don’t have to click on it.

Your mental health comes first. This is going out specifically and especially to all my fellow hyper-empathetic people out there. If you know that going down a rabbit hole of information on a specific horrible topic is going to make you depressed or feel like crap then you don’t have to interact with that. (Edit: I have been informed that this is called “doomscrolling.” To repeat what I was told: Doomscrolling is not activism. It doesn’t end up helping anybody and it only hurts you.)

In this day and age where we have access to the internet and information about soooooo many different horrible things it can be so easy to get sucked in to all of it. We have wars, we have constant natural disasters (there’s a massive fire close to where I live right now, it’s barely contained, and is rivaling the fire we had a few years ago that destroyed an entire town. It’s terrifying), we have beloved creators being accused and revealed to have done horrible things (the fact that I can say this and multiple names immediately pop into my head sickens me).

The point is, take a break. Get off the internet. Breathe. Go for a walk. Maybe look at videos of cute baby animals, or compilations of “restore your faith in humanity.” Go read a book. Eat something you like. Take a nap. Drink some water. Take a shower. If you’re religious, pray about it. Take care of yourself and don’t allow yourself to drown in the dread.

And for the people who might come at me for this saying “how dare you not care about the problems going on or the pain other people are in!” That’s the problem. It’s not that I don’t care, the problem is that I care too much. Please refer back to the hyper-empathetic part of this message. I am a sympathetic crier. I will allow myself to get so sucked in to an issue and I will end up feeling terrible about it. I won’t want to leave my bed, I feel like crying and throwing up and there is an everlasting pit in my stomach the size of Alaska. I am no help to anyone in a state like that, and neither is anyone else. I will say it again, take care of yourself and your mental health first.

There’s a reason on planes they tell you to put your own oxygen mask on first before helping others.

But that’s not to say you have to ignore it completely! Take a step back, take a break, and then engage when and only when you feel like you’re at the mental/emotional/psychological capacity to do so.

When coming back a tip I have is pick one specific issue, and focus on that. Only one. Don’t overwhelm yourself. If you can, find a friend or someone you know is reliable and levelheaded and talk to them about it. Multiple perspectives can help a lot, plus you feel less alone when tackling a difficult situation.

It’s important when you’re gathering information on the issue that you know your sources are reliable, and you’re doing your own research. “Okay, multiple people on Tumblr are screaming about something but they’re saying different things about what’s going on.” Tumblr is not a reliable or credible source I am sorry besties. We are a bunch of dumpster gremlin raccoons given access to a platform to scream out our personal thoughts and opinions. Please don’t take them as solid immediate truth.

I have more I could say on this probably but it’s 1 am and I am losing my thought coherency. Have a good night/day and take care of yourselves <3

[pr3ttyf4wn]

Me and my hyper-empathy have a love hate relationship 😞💔

[my-autism-adhd-blog]

Exploring the Connection Between Being Autistic and Loving Animals via

The Autistic Teacher

[ofswordsandpens]

I'm sincerely very happy for anyone who is enjoying the show but every time I see takes that the show has improved the book characterizations or that the book characters are underdeveloped in comparison to the show...

[literallyjusttoa]

I am a “Meg and Apollo’s master/servant bond evolved into something a lot like an empathy link post their dip into Chaos in TDP” truther and I will be till the day I die.

[meandmy100blanketsagainstheworld]

lowkey hilarious how hannibal sidestepped the autistic savant stereotype by giving their main character superpowers

[dr-spectre]

Hey guys, you ever have a special interest and in that special interest you fixate on a character a BIT too much to the point where if you think about certain bad events that happened to this character, your chest begins to hurt and you become really fixated on it? And this causes you to feel more discomfort and sadness. And any sort of mention or media, fan made or offical of these bad events that occured to this character makes you feel terrible and start to sweat a little? But sometimes you can handle it while other times it causes you not to sleep well and you feel miserable the entire day? Ruining your concentration and good mood you had earlier.

And then people online make the discomfort worse by saying false info and making the events seem way worse, making you feel like you're a nutcase and a fool for going deeper into the character by gathering outside informaton, and these false statements ruin your perception on the character that you tried to build BECAUSE of those misconceptions people make online about your favourite character in the first place?!

No? okay... me neither...

(image unrelated..... maybe... okay it is a little related..)

[emirrart]

worst thing about being hyperempathetic toward inanimate objects is that i can’t google stuff like “how do i make my plushie feel loved” “am i enriching my stationery enough” “how to apologise to a book” and get a normal answer

[blackholemojis]

I don't know if you've done this already, but is it possible to have emojis (preferably not word emojis but up to you) relating to empathy? Such as: High Empathy, Hyper Empathy, Low Empathy, and No Empathy?

Yep!

[ID: variations of a symbol of two yellow silhouettes. The one on the left has a purple blob on their chest to represent emotion, and the one on the right has different variations of the same symbol mirrored.

No empathy: The person on the right has no purple blob.

Low empathy: The person on the right has an outline of a purple blob

High empathy: The person on the right has the same exact purple blob

Hyper empathy: The person on the right has the same purple blob, but it’s bigger and they have little purple emphasis marks around their head. /End ID]

[no-empathy-culture-is]

shoutout to hyperempathy people who actually end up being 'worse' at empathy than their standard empathy peers because you get relation fatigue faster bcs of heightened empathy, because the amount of empathy you feel is overwhelming, because your hyperempathy is caused by something that makes it difficult to show empathy. you deserve the best

[creekfiend]

it's always a bad time to have hyperempathy but it's especially not fun today

[supernovacat]

Everyone talks about lack of empathy this and hyper empathy that.

But no one talks about detached empathy, where you can understand the emotions via disassociating. Literally putting yourself in their shoes and how they react to things and applying it to the present situation.

Or mixed type, where you can understand that a person is feeling something, but where the response doesn't seem logical from your perspective, creating a lot of cognitive dissonance.

Or for AuADHD the special type, where your object permanence kicks in, so even if you do feel empathy in the moment, if it's not present it no longer exists. Leading to doing insensitive things, because the emotions have been forgotten.

I'm mostly detached type, and no one talks about it, or how to deal with it.

[my-autism-adhd-blog]

Internal Experiences of Autism

The Autistic Teacher

[nightbunnysong]

Amidst life's trials, let compassion be your compass and kindness your constant guide.