#hyper-empathy

[phecdasolar]

Friendly reminder that if you see something bad or stressful on the internet you can ignore it. If you see something bad that’s trending you don’t have to click on it.

Your mental health comes first. This is going out specifically and especially to all my fellow hyper-empathetic people out there. If you know that going down a rabbit hole of information on a specific horrible topic is going to make you depressed or feel like crap then you don’t have to interact with that. (Edit: I have been informed that this is called “doomscrolling.” To repeat what I was told: Doomscrolling is not activism. It doesn’t end up helping anybody and it only hurts you.)

In this day and age where we have access to the internet and information about soooooo many different horrible things it can be so easy to get sucked in to all of it. We have wars, we have constant natural disasters (there’s a massive fire close to where I live right now, it’s barely contained, and is rivaling the fire we had a few years ago that destroyed an entire town. It’s terrifying), we have beloved creators being accused and revealed to have done horrible things (the fact that I can say this and multiple names immediately pop into my head sickens me).

The point is, take a break. Get off the internet. Breathe. Go for a walk. Maybe look at videos of cute baby animals, or compilations of “restore your faith in humanity.” Go read a book. Eat something you like. Take a nap. Drink some water. Take a shower. If you’re religious, pray about it. Take care of yourself and don’t allow yourself to drown in the dread.

And for the people who might come at me for this saying “how dare you not care about the problems going on or the pain other people are in!” That’s the problem. It’s not that I don’t care, the problem is that I care too much. Please refer back to the hyper-empathetic part of this message. I am a sympathetic crier. I will allow myself to get so sucked in to an issue and I will end up feeling terrible about it. I won’t want to leave my bed, I feel like crying and throwing up and there is an everlasting pit in my stomach the size of Alaska. I am no help to anyone in a state like that, and neither is anyone else. I will say it again, take care of yourself and your mental health first.

There’s a reason on planes they tell you to put your own oxygen mask on first before helping others.

But that’s not to say you have to ignore it completely! Take a step back, take a break, and then engage when and only when you feel like you’re at the mental/emotional/psychological capacity to do so.

When coming back a tip I have is pick one specific issue, and focus on that. Only one. Don’t overwhelm yourself. If you can, find a friend or someone you know is reliable and levelheaded and talk to them about it. Multiple perspectives can help a lot, plus you feel less alone when tackling a difficult situation.

It’s important when you’re gathering information on the issue that you know your sources are reliable, and you’re doing your own research. “Okay, multiple people on Tumblr are screaming about something but they’re saying different things about what’s going on.” Tumblr is not a reliable or credible source I am sorry besties. We are a bunch of dumpster gremlin raccoons given access to a platform to scream out our personal thoughts and opinions. Please don’t take them as solid immediate truth.

I have more I could say on this probably but it’s 1 am and I am losing my thought coherency. Have a good night/day and take care of yourselves <3

[my-autism-adhd-blog]

“Autistic people don’t have/understand empathy”

This may be true for some, but not true for everyone. I myself have hyper- empathy and tend to get emotional over the smallest of things.

If you’re autistic and don’t experience empathy, it does NOT make you a bad person. It just simply means you can’t understand why people feel the way they feel. And that’s okay.

[my-autism-adhd-blog]

Exploring the Connection Between Being Autistic and Loving Animals via

The Autistic Teacher

[somtimebehuman]

j'attendais qu'il n'y es personne , mais l'absence était la

[simran747-blog]

And empathy

[literallyjusttoa]

I am a “Meg and Apollo’s master/servant bond evolved into something a lot like an empathy link post their dip into Chaos in TDP” truther and I will be till the day I die.

[greco-roman-jewess]

One of the frustrating parts about antisemitism is that you can’t get rid of it

Obvious I know but it really fucking sucks when people you care about are upset and you know none of the magic fix it words will help

It won’t be ok

It won’t get better

You might never feel safe

You can’t fix it

You can’t suggest solutions

There’s no end in sight

There’s no parents to call for help

The only way out is through but the tunnel just keeps going

I know theoretically the solution is *G-d* and Jewish pride but…

Listen to Stav Ya Pitu and read Sefaria Daily also can’t make “my friends don’t care if I live or die”hurt less in the moment.

[taxidermy-tuesday]

finished my owl house rewatch

(through tears) whatever man

[aceofenbies]

quoiempathetic

a term for people who don't know where they fall on the empathy spectrum, who don't find the term "empathy" useful for their own feelings, who find the concept of empathy confusing, who are unsure whether they feel empathy or not, who can't tell empathy apart from sympathy, compassion or other feelings, who don't understand empathy or who disidentify with empathy altogether.

[rats-and-robots]

I feel a completely normal way about this Thing (derogatory) (affectionate)

[hylianengineer]

Brilliant Minds is growing on me. Dr. Wolf is like... breaking all the rules about not getting personally attached to his patients, and consistently proves that can be a good thing. He doesn't give up on people. He takes on every case like their problems are his problems, like every patient he meets is deeply important. Which they are - but most doctors don't treat them that way. Nobody is just a list of symptoms or a name on a chart to him. He wants to know them as people - "ask not what disease the person has, ask what sort of person the disease has."

And I am having Feelings about that John Doe in episode 2. Carol said nobody cares about him anymore, he has no identity, no family, no ability to move or communicate, and everyone thinks he's as good as dead. Wolf said no, that's my patient now. Mine. No one else in the whole world seems to care about this man, so Wolf stepped up. Someone needs to care, might as well be him.

[puppie-cub]

i hav kaleidoscope, the ty beanie baby kitty, and its made with its neck turned to the side. and aometimes i worry that thats uncomfortable for it, like do stuffed animals made a certain way get discomfort cuz of it? are they achy from having to be like that? i wish i could help, i dont want them to be uncomfortable :(

[dollhousemausoleum]

Ever since I was a child, and up to now, I’ve had an intense love of and empathy for stuffed animals. As an awkward and shy only child, they were my very best friends, and I fully ascribed feelings and souls to them, which I still kinda do today (how tf did my autism *not* get discovered sooner?? Did it really have to take 30 years?), I also sleep with a good number of them.

I’m a mortician (I’m dual-licensed as a funeral director and embalmer, but I’m a lab rat and exclusively keep to the back embalming the bodies), and along with embalming, I also dress and put people in their caskets. Very few things bother me about my work, I love it very much. I can deal with just about any disgusting form the aftermath of death takes, but my heart. Fucking. S h a t t e r s. When a stuffed animal is being buried with the deceased. I know it’s ridiculous, but I just can’t stop thinking of how lonely they’ll be, with their only companion dead and rotting, forever. I like to think the “spirit” of the stuffie moves on to a new vessel to be loved again to soothe these thoughts.

This lady I’m taking care of today is being buried with a stuffed calico cat (it’s one of those heating pad bean plushies you microwave). The cat is held in her folded hands, facing her.

My fucking heart. 💔

[begonefoulthing]

and they say he's not autistic

[Image Text]: "Jack Crawford heard the rhythm and syntax of his own speech in Graham's voice. He had heard Graham do that before, with other people. Often in intense conversation Graham took on the other person's speech patterns. At first, Crawford had thought he was doing it deliberately, that it was a gimmick to get the back-and-forth rhythm going. Later Crawford realized that Graham did it involuntarily, that sometimes he tried to stop but couldn't."

[no-empathy-culture-is]

shoutout to hyperempathy people who actually end up being 'worse' at empathy than their standard empathy peers because you get relation fatigue faster bcs of heightened empathy, because the amount of empathy you feel is overwhelming, because your hyperempathy is caused by something that makes it difficult to show empathy. you deserve the best