#heartless aplatonic

[neptune-scythe]

hugest shout-out to heartless a-specs, afamilials, aplatonics, loveless folks, repulsed a-specs and whatever the micro label is where your aspec identity is tied to neurodivergence/disability I shamefully never remember what that one's called

but yeah special shout out for pride month

[losergendered]

Day 12 (May 19th): Bright | Punk | Vivid BAD SQUAD

flower lesbian Kohane Azusawa, heartless apl Hatsune Miku, ace lesbian An Shiraishi

demiromantic gay Toya Aoyagi, cupioalterous MEIKO, griffin Akito Shinonome

cupioflux Kagamine Len & aroace azurgirl Kagamine Rin

mspec jeularian Megurine Luka & abro darcian KAITO

For @queersekai 's birthday event!

[allegoriesandepithets]

Large Pixel Size Heartless A- Flags

[PT: Large Pixel Size Heartless A- Flags]

Heartless Ace ~ Heartless Aro

Heartless Apl ~ Heartless Aqp

Heartless Analt ~ Heartless Asen ~ Heartless Anae

Definition: One who is a- [attraction type], and feels separated from any or all forms of love. One may wish to reclaim the stereotype of being a “heartless a-spec”, or just otherwise feel connected to being ‘heartless’.

Credit to @ryanyflags for the atertiary flags. All I did was change the aqp to a gradient.

All flags are 3000x2000 pixels.

@tertiary-attraction-archive @orientation-archive @radiomogai @liom-archive @imoga-pride

[ijustwannamakeemojis]

[ID: Six pixel hearts of various flags in order being Neutral Aro, Alt A-Aesthetic, Affectionaro, two loveless Aplatonic flags and Heartless Aplatonic. End ID]

[anti-endo-aspec-space]

our loveless and heartless identities are very important. we have a lot of labels, but some of them are like... key things people need to know abt us to understand our perspective. and loveless and heartless labels are key things for us.

we don't experience love. we didn't understand what love is until a couple of months ago. we used love as a placeholder for good feelings, but it's supposedly not usually used like this.

it was insightful to understand. we couldn't understand what's our problem was. we felt some difference in our relationships, in our feelings, but we couldn't get it. so we just thought we're bad, wrong, or broken. but we're not. we just don't experience thing that lots of other individuals experience. and it makes our relationships different. it makes out feelings different.

(we know no one has to feel same way and no one has to excuse for their way of feeling and no one feels wrong way etc. but it's our problem. we need in explanations. we need in reasons. and we struggle with self-acceptance. we work on it).

also, we're pretty non-emotional overall. we don't feel much. like. we have some emotions, but they're not so strong. they're more... distant? foggy? superficial? idk. and we relate with heartless label not only in aspec way but in an emotional way too. (we know it isn't a part of the original definition, but originally heartless was meant to reclaim the dehumanization of aros, and people with low emotions are also often dehumanized. we find some similarities there. so we think for us this label may have additional connotations without losing the original vibe).

we don't understand a lot of social things. often we think we understand, but it comes out that we haven't understood it. and it impacted our aspec experience. because we supposed a lot of relationships things are... pretending? not in a fake way but in a ritual way? and we have done a lot of things in this way.

but we don't wanna live like this forever. doing things that we don't actually want or actually enjoy just because of social norms and social rituals. and coming to terms as loveless and heartless helped us a lot.

[bugstabu]

Happy Pride Month! Today i offer you: aspec knights. Choose your fighter.

I also had idea for anattractional monarch but i never finished it

[aspec-mafia-official]

This pride month aspecs should be allowed to bite anyone who tries to exclude them from queer spaces.

[yourlocalgaymafia]

If you claim to be an aromantic ally but you deliberately don’t support loveless, heartless or aplatonic aros, then I hate to break it to you but you are not an ally.

And this is coming from an aromantic who happens to experience other forms of love quite strongly. But the moment someone tries to say something along the lines of “love is what makes us human” I am willing to flip tables.

[skittlespizza]

Happy pride month to unconventional connections, friendships or relationships. Shoutout to fwbs and qprs and unlabeled relationships shoutout to friendships or acquaintances shoutout to that one duo who borders platonic and romantic/sexual or all of the in-betweeens. Shoutout to all those who decide not to label things and shoutout to lovequeers and those who dont give a fuck :)

[meltedwaxwingsneverfly]

Aros of Tumblr, I need quotes from you!!

Currently, my partner and I are working together to write about aromanticism, and we would like to include some of y'alls experiences with that. Your stories are important to us and to the process of spreading awareness of aromanticism.

With this book, we plan to focus less on scientific studies and moreso the personal. I am not a scientist nor will I ever try to be.

We want to focus mainly on what it's like being aro in an allo world, and so I encourage all types of aros to participate, regardless of your experiences. We won't be able to include everyone, but I'm hoping to quote a variety of you all.

I especially encourage non-aces to participate. I understand the struggle that comes with having our identity co-opted with asexuality while still being misunderstood.

Recently, I came to the decision to identify with the non-SAM aro label for this reason. We deserve to have the focus on us.

Now, that doesn't mean that I will turn away anyone who identifies as ace for this. That's not the point. I just wish to encourage people who may feel anxious about this book being focused on asexuality to feel confident in the possibility of having their aromanticism be the focus.

If you wish to participate, the form is linked below.

LINK

(Note: By filling out this survey, you are consenting to the possible use of your words and experiences in our writing. If you ever wish to rescind your answers, please DM me. We will not be using your quotes without contacting you first, with an excerpt of how it has been used. Thanks!)

I hope you are willing to share your experiences with us!

[lovelessrage]

Loveless people are not a tragedy. Loveless people are not something to be pitied. You don't need to understand us, since a lot of loving people don't or won't exactly get it, but talking about us as if we're necessarily living a sadder life is just hurtful. Some loveless people do struggle with their identity, but being loveless in itself is not tragic. It is a way to live and a way to feel. Lovelessness is an identity. It's a way of viewing the world. Don't mourn for us when you don't know what it is to be us, and please be respectful of the loveless people around you.

[neptune-scythe]

anyone who responds to "hey I don't like that/that made me uncomfortable/whatever else boundary" with "that's just how I express love/it was out of love just get over it" is getting WHACKED

love isn't some bandaid that you can slap onto any situation to magically fix it, and intention doesn't even matter

actions do in fact have consequences and constantly upsetting and harming another person in the name of "love" is going to have the exact same effect as it would if you had neutral or negative intentions, because ultimately you're still hurting that person regardless of if you "meant to" or not

and calling something "love" doesn't make it comfortable or okay or enjoyable for the person on the receiving end

it just makes the person doing it feel better about themselves and that's just manipulation and abuse

thank you for coming to my Ted talk

[honey-skulls]

Before pride month ends

Aspecs rule, the whole spectrum

Aplatonic and afamilial and asensual and loveless and everyone else and all in between, paw-bump

[thecornerofegg]

I appreciate the aspec community at large so much, they're the funkiest individuals on the planet

Also, I just got hit repeatedly in the face with bricks in the form of aspec identities that I did not know what they were and that were not on the lgbtqia+ wiki, so people of pride; we need to step up and get some rep and wiki pages going

[neopronouns]

image id: nine square images. each one has two flags in the background, with the amatopunk flag on the right side. in order, the flag on the left side of each image is aplatonic, heartless aro, afamilial, nonaesthetic, loveless aro, asensual, aqueerplatonic, aemotional, and atertiary.

each image has all-caps white text with a thin black outline over it. in order, they read: 'aplatonics belong in amatopunk', 'heartless aros belong in amatopunk', 'afamilials belong in amatopunk', 'nonaesthetics belong in amatopunk', 'loveless aros belong in amatopunk', 'asensuals belong in amatopunk', 'aqueerplatonics belong in amatopunk', 'aemotionals belong in amatopunk', and 'atertiaries belong in amatopunk'. end id.

banner id: a 1500x150 teal banner with the words ‘please read my dni before interacting’ in large white text in the center. end id.

some amatopunk + aspec identities affirmation edits for anon to remind folks that your amatopunk posts should include more than just aros and aces!

dni link

[chaotic-carnifex]

Loveless aros are a valuable part of the aromantic community

Aplatonic aros are a valuable part of the aromantic community

Afamilial aros are a valuable part of the aromantic community

Heartless aros are a valuable part of the aromantic community

Their perspectives are important and valuable and their voices deserve to be heard

Aromantic spaces must account for them and their safety

A space that is not safe for loveless, aplatonic, afamilial and heartless aros is not a safe space for aromantics

This is not up for debate