#halal marriage

[ghramico]

فتيات مصريات للتعارف والزواج

[ahl-e-dil]

My dear sisters, a man that fears Allah will never hurt you.

[nando161mando]

"Stupidest tweet ever? Take a fkwit mouthing off & claim your enemies support them. All this coming from someone who's proud to stand next to one of Australia's major hatemongers, Kirallee Smith, famous for her stupid anti halal campaign & hateful opposition to marriage equality"

[the-literary-nomad]

[It's Eid so I'mma post one of my favourite South Asian romcom book ideas]

There's this girl. And she's in the arranged marriage market, right? Her parents find someone and everything seems good. The only thing is, both families refused to provide pictures so they don't know what their potential spouse looks like.

Instead each party agrees to meet at a coffee shop and explains what the other is wearing. All this communication is done between the families—they don't talk to eachother even once. [pretty normal actually]

Finally the day of the coffee date arrives. And she dresses up in the outfit she said she'd wear and goes with her mum. They park and walk towards the entrance. At that moment, her mum realizes that she forgot her phone in the car. She tells the girl to go ahead and wait near the door for her since she's an hour early any way (this fam do be like that)

So the girl goes in and instead of waiting outside in the hot sun, she goes inside. Suddenly she sees the guy in the black button down and grey jeans and a baseball hat covering his thick curly hair.

He waves at her—she realizes he recognizes her clothing. She smiles and walk toward him. She realizes that oh my god she hit the jackpot because his eyes are like the lightest shade of brown she's ever seen in her life, and his face his bronzed and his jawline clipped. Who was this man?

She sat down at the table not even knowing what had made her sit down without waiting for her mum.

Damn, how'd I get so lucky?

The guy before her looked confused for a second and then burst out laughing, "Sorry?"

Oh my god had she said that out loud?

Did she just play it off with a laugh or turn into a nervous ninny?

"Yo, Hamad! Well well, I didn't know you had company."

The guy I front of her chuckled, and his honey coloured eyes twinkled with amusement; "Neither did I."

Hamad?

"Wait, what? Oh my god." The chair slammed back as she got up, and it fell over. She bent to pick it up, but it slipped from her fingers and fell again. The loud clang echoed as though the whole cafe had gone silent to witness this interaction.

Hamad had gotten up from his chair, and walked over to help her with the chair. She was utterly mortified.

Once everything was back in its place, she took a deep breath and apologized. "I am so sorry. I mistook you for someone else. It won't happen again. Obviously. Okay I'm leaving now before I do something even more stupid."

"Wait—"

But it was too late.

Well actually in my brain her mum enters at that moment along with the other guy and his mum (he looks completely different btw. And while he is quite handsome, it's not the bonechilling Hamad kind of handsome—she realizes). And then she spends the entire two hours talking to him while also every once in a while slipping glances at the completely oblivious Hamad.

Except he isn't oblivious

He's been doing the exact same thing.

And the way she said "Damn, how'd I get so lucky?" keeps echoing in his mind.

[my friends helped me out with this part]

But wait, fun surprise, he's the potential groom's dad's trusted protégé at work.

And so obviously he's aware of the whole wedding arranging process. And they can't avoid hearing about each other..

Also, the original match doesn't work out for reasons that are nobody's fault. Which sets the stage for the romance 😂

[back to me]

The "over hearing" parts over the next year go from occasionally eavesdropping to hunting for gossip until it finally reaches agonized wanting

Okay, so after a long tedious year of back and forth and realizing how they feel, wanting to be together and convincing their parents... they're finally doing their nikkah

And after they sign the marraige contract and the imam finishes the nikkah. They go to the reception hall. She's on the stage and he goes upto her—and here all of the lil marraige traditions come into play. Finally, he gives her his signature smirk and lifts her veil. When he sees her face his smirk morphs into a soft smile. His eyes light up, widen and then an adoring look enters it. He whispers softly so only she can hear him;

"Damn, how'd I get so lucky?"

***

Is this a product of extreme loneliness and absolutely no romantic experiences? Yes, yes it is.

Eid Mubarak, guys!

[bxdriyah]

Deep. 💞✨️

[veiledpoet]

[writerfarzanatutul]

Islamic story-A love that's beyond Dunya

My dear Zuni, The day after tomorrow, I am getting married again. And I miss you. I don't want to get married—not now, not ever—but I am helpless. Everyone keeps telling me to "settle down." They want to see me married, to have children, to lead a life they deem "normal." And to make them happy, I have to do this. I have to get married. Sometimes, I think of being selfish for once, but I can't bring myself to do it. I wish you were here to scold me—like you always used to—for being so self-sacrificing, so willing to bend myself to others' expectations. But you're not here. And without you, there's no one left to stop me. No one to tell me to stand my ground, to be true to my heart. I don't know if I'll ever be able to love Zarmina the way I love you. But I will try to be a good husband to her. I'll do my duty. I'll play the role everyone expects of me. Yet, deep down, my heart aches with the truth: no one will ever take your place. Sometimes, I want to cry out to Allah, to ask why He separated us—why He took you from me. But then, I stop. Maybe He has a reason, a purpose I cannot comprehend. Maybe He plans to reunite us in the Hereafter, in a place where there are no separations, no grief, no goodbyes. I don't know when that time will come, but I'll wait for it. However long it takes, I will wait. Living without you—it's unbearable. But I must endure it. This is my test, and my reward is you. And, if Allah wills, soon—sooner than I dare hope—we will meet again. Ashar placed the pen down and sighed deeply. Rising from his desk, he walked to the window. The cool night breeze brushed his face as he looked up at the stars. "Ya Ar-Rahman," he whispered, his voice trembling. "Make her grave a garden of comfort for her."

[rinduaputrii]

TAKDIR NYA

Pertemuan kita hari ini atau nanti tentu atas takdir Allah Kasih sayang-Nya mengatur setiap pertemuan demi pertemuan

Jarak dan waktu tak menjadi masalah Tak peduli aku di kutub utara dan kamu di kutub selatan Tak peduli aku memandang bulan dan kamu memandang matahari

Jika nama itu adalah kamu, akan mudah dan dekat Jika nama itu bukan kamu, akan sulit dan jauh

Menunggu dalam doa dan Menikmati Takdir-Nya 🖤

[ghramico]

[ahl-e-dil]

[maryamsmind]

I think there’s no such thing as a right person wrong time it’s all down to the individual. When someone really wants to keep you, then they will and should be prepared to go through extreme measures to make ends work. Depending on the situation and relationship, we never will know what the outcome is unless we try and the key concept here is to find someone that’s worth trying for. This is gods timing not yours, if you really believe in god then trust in Allah SWT and if she’s truly the one for you, then trust that too, you plan but "Allah is the best of planners."  Besides, even if you feel it’s the wrong timing, can you truly let that person go because of your x,y,z situation? How much does this person mean to you? and how much effort are you wiling to put in before you decide to let this person go? If Allah SWT ever puts me in a situation where I finally find my right partner, I will turn the world upside down just to keep them. I’ve been alone for so many years and never planned my future on meeting him, it never bothered me. But I know I am ready to do alot to keep them, if they're worth it. This world is getting messed up day by day, and I pray that god protects us. No what matter what my situation is like, I know if I met them, it was meant to be, it was written, and I won’t get that opportunity again.

[islamicspecialistforloveback]

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[newrww]

i hate getting into these debates but asian teen girl exploitation and p0rn fan menalez is using child brides in the US to deflect from what happens in the middle east (got blocked for making this post to @ her)

Children forced to have sex by their mothers for money

The two sisters agree to speak with Stacey after spending time in prison, claiming that the children were to blame for the crime

Stacey, who has spent a decade making films for BBC Three, spends time with an undercover Homeland agent named ‘Mike’.

Mike has made contact with the women by creating a fake persona, and to gather the evidence he needed he asked the women what they would allow their children do.

He explained to Stacey that the mothers were willing to be directed by paying customers over a webcam to complete horrible acts on their children in return for money.

Mike said: 'Some of these guys sometimes ask for the most horrendous abuse of a child.

'They could ask for a child to be lit on fire, basically tortured. Some of these guys you read their [online chats], they’re obviously terribly sick people, they’re monsters.’

Stacey had access to a live sting operation coordinated by the Homeland task force involving two mothers - who are also sisters.

They arranged to meet with Mike at a private villa where they explained their girls 'can do sex’ before he handed over money as part of the transaction.

[...]

Some southeast Asian Women who either facilitate or benefit from child sex trafficking have been interviewed saying that because children are supposed to be self-sacrificing and submissive, them acquiescing to their own sexual abuse is not only condonable but an ‘admirable’ show of obedience. When unscrupulous, brain dead shitheads willing to allow the torture of any child for their own material benefit exist, and are common enough, what does that say about people in general? 

Many will turn their noses up and assure others that they find this morally repugnant and maybe they put stock in the idea that it’s just these strange people across the ocean committing these deeds, doubling down on their ethnocentrism.

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I just watched Undercover with the Clerics: Iraq’s Secret Sex Trade and what has been impressed in me is that cruelty proliferates because none wants to be held accountable, not the victimizer, not those facilitating the victimization, not the population where this occurs, not the religious leaders or lawmakers who pretend that their fucking religions and patriarchies aren’t fundamentally misogynistic and oppressive.

To preface, Iraq is in a precarious situation currently, religious clerics were quoted to ‘have set women’s rights back decades’ and some even command armed forces. Women are compelled to wear hijabs/boushiyas and abayas in public, especially in the south. A woman or girl (aged 15 and over) can be married and only if they are a virgin according to state law. But shia clerics were willing to perform temporary ‘pleasure marriages’ (which is an arrangement under which a man can have ‘halal’ sex with an unmarried girl or woman) involving girls as young as 9,with the accompanying ‘legal’ documents if requested. Several of these clerics captured on hidden camera confidently assured the man they were talking with that a nine year old girl is “mature” enough for sex and that concerns over whether sex with a child constitutes exploitation are absurd. If the man did not penetrate from the front, or if he had anal sex with her she would still be considered a virgin and that this was the only matter of concern here. 

The clerics insisted that if the child needed protection her male guardians had to provide it. So they had no reservations about accepting money in exchange for giving out a ‘pleasure marriage’ license that could last an hour, a day. 

When grown women fail to understand that a potential partner is having them agree to a month-long ‘pleasure marriage’ instead of legitimate one and that they are within their rights to summarily dump them in the streets without a second word after it’s over…what hope is there for teens and children? Those fooled into these kinds of marriages by charismatic, wealthy men do not fare any better. A  girl who was tricked into such a ‘pleasure marriage’ at 14 and then blackmailed into silence says she was terrified because a cousin of hers who had been romantically linked to an unscrupulous man but ended up marrying another had been found to not be a virgin on her marriage day and then taken to be ‘washed of shame’ or killed by her male relatives.

The clerics knew that a 12, 13, 14 year old is vulnerable and that she could be killed for entering a ‘pleasure marriage’ with a man. But they did not hesitate to provide these licences because they faced next to no personal repercussions for doing so. They had significant privilege and power within their community, they are trusted because they are religious men. 

more refs:

Clearly this type of sexual exploitation is not exclusive to Asian/Pakistani men. Nevertheless, given the severity of these offences and long term impact they have on young people’s lives, it is important to question whether there are cultural elements influencing how perpetrators see young white girls. As a criminologist and former senior detective I have interviewed numerous second generation Asian-Pakistani men convicted of grooming and sexually abusing young vulnerable white girls. The majority claimed they were innocent and put forward theories of how the government, police, judges and witnesses had conspired to wrongly convict them. It was also clear that they did not see their victims as children and therefore did not consider themselves to be sex offenders. An example of this mindset was the leader of the Rochdale grooming gang, Shabir Ahmed, who failed to overturn his convictions at the European Court of Human Rights by claiming an all-white jury was part of a conspiracy to scapegoat Muslims. During his trial Ahmed repeatedly accused the judge, the jury, and the police of being part of a racist conspiracy against Muslims and said: “It’s all white lies.” The story (focusing on the victims in this case) was subsequently made into the BBC drama Three Girls.

Frost, an anthropologist, has noted on the decimation of the criminal population during the ‘war on crime’ period in England and the effect it’s had on the current state of pacified social relations in the west; something else that’s worthy of note is a decrease in the kind ‘amoral familialism’ that these clerics subscribe to which has also occurred according to Frost. Plus, Christianity and the resulting guilt culture that took hold  might have been facilitated by the fact that everyone was the same ethnic background, which fosters ‘trust’ apparently (Frost’s assertion, not mine). If you ‘identify’ with your community and find the status quo palatable I guess you have more of a stake in maintaining normativity, too.