#greyaro culture

[aro-culture-is]

greyaro culture is finding a partner who is accepting.

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[some-pers0n]

spy from hit game tf2 for the character ask thingie

I got another ask for a similar game. My my, I think we have a Spy enjoyer.

First Impression

Fr*nch guy who is an asshole

Current Impression

Yeah he's haughty and pompous and pretentious, but generally really well-meaning and cares quite a bit about others. I'd be willing to say he's the more selfless of the cast (save for maybe Demoman, Heavy, and Engie). He goes along with Scout to get some money so he and his mother will have financial stability. He spends what he believes to be his last hours alive trying to make the mercs content with their lives by doing a bucket list. When that fails, he still helps out Scout try to get a date with Miss Pauling. There's a lot more facets to his character.

Favourite Moment

Oughhh there's so many good ones. I like the scene where he agrees to share the cyanide with Miss Pauling after watching her cry. It's a moment that really kinda...hits me. It's hopeless. Miss Pauling failed the Administrator. The last bit of Australium on earth slipped through her fingers. Now she's going to be tortured by a bad butch dom sadistic bitch the TFC Pyro. She breaks down crying. There's something so...heavy about watching it happen. Not to mention Spy, who doesn't really know how to comfort her otherwise, just offers her a quick way out. It's the most he can do. Let her go out on her own terms. He's not selfish. He has boundaries (i.e. not letting Sniper use his 10k suit as a towel), but he helps out when time comes. That and also the Tom Jones scene.

Idea for a Story

For over a year I've had the idea of him and Sniper going to Paris for a couple of days as a little work-mandated vacation (which happens after Redmond and Blutarch are murdered and the Admin needs to try and figure out something to do about it). I just think of a lot of silly moments between them, touching on my headcanon of Spy being a coffee snob, Sniper being not very used to "fancy" and learning about French culture (even if Spy is surprised he isn't a total animal)(cause Sniper's still a professional and all), etc. One scene I like is of them trying to steal something out of the Louvre because Sniper bet that they couldn't do it. They obviously return it by the end of the trip, but it's still fun for them.

Unpopular Opinion

I think Spy isn't that bad of a dad, but rather he's afraid of commitment. He doesn't like the idea of being tied down. Yeah obviously abandoning Scout as a child was a terrible move and I want to see Scout beat the shit out of him for it, but Spy doesn't seem...that bad with kids? He does care a lot about Scout, but he's afraid of letting himself seem vulnerable and admitting to that mistake he made all those years ago.

Favourite Relationship

I like the dynamic between Scout and Spy a lot. Their bickering is really fun. Plus the death scene is really quite tender and meaningful. Sniper/Spy I prefer more as platonic, not gonna lie. Friends with benefits, but not really romantic. Maybe that's from the GreyAro headcanons I've slapped onto them both though. For actual romantic ships? Spoovy is great. I like ships where they both have a lot in common, and with Spoovy, well, they're both intellectuals. Not to also mention the whole Big Bulky Guy x Toothpick-Thin Guy thing.

Favourite Headcanon

I do really adore my coffee headcanon for no reason at all. Spy being a coffee snob is perfect to me. That being said, I think he's an okay cook, which is something he's ashamed of. He gets all of these fresh, beautiful ingredients, but he can't really cook anything better than a 6/10 meal.

[romo-aro-culture-is]

romo gray aro culture is when some of your crushes have a romantic component but most of them don't, and when you eventually figure out you're arospec, being surprised to learn that the way you experience crushes is just in general way different from most people

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[trickstarbrave]

evolution of my identity

cishet>cis demi pan>nb pan>trans masc pan>nb pan and greyaro only towards men>nb bi>nb lesbian

[kingqueenofinbetween]

When looking for other people who are queer in a similar way to me I find mostly a lot of memes that go one of four ways.

They always start something like this:

Bi, abro, omni, greyaro, greyace , aceflux, genderfluid, nonbinary, bigender, sapphillean, ambiamorous, switch culture is to...

...never make any decision ever

...get excluded from the general community

...have people constantly question the validity of your identity

...be overly emotionally attached to purple as a color

And on the one hand it makes me happy to see other people with a similar identity to mine and it's nice to see that I'm not the only one fascinated by the intersection of identities that by their mere existence defy the binaries people are tought to think in.

And it's also just nice to see people feel comfortable enough to make the same kind of jokes I often make to my friends offline (mostly the one about purple)

On the other hand it's always kind of sad to see how many of those memes reference the shit someone has to deal with because they are in that constantly erased inbetween space. Because let's face it: to a lot of people, we don't really exist.

Which is... exhausting and frustrating and difficult to describe to someone who isn't experiencing it because to a lot of people erasure doesn't seem like that big of a deal.

Side note: there's probably identities I didn't list up there that this whole thing applies to as well. I am pulling from personal experience here, that's why I listed those specific terms.

To keep this whole ramble from ending on an overly pessimistic note I'd like to add that I feel like this stuff is getting a lot better. I feel like people in general are becoming more and more aware of the people who fall inbetween binary categories and I feel like there is a general push to be more inclusive to us.

[ace-culture-is]

Greyromantic,greyaro and ace culture is having no idea which gender you are actually attracted to cos of how little attraction you feel.

[apl-culture-is]

Aplspec culture is finding out you could be greyaro or arospec in general.

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[questioning-culture-is]

questioning greyaro culture is going on a long search to prove that having only 4 crushes doesn't make you any less greyaro. Then going like fuck it, if you really feel like it describes you and you've been this excited over the possibility to be this then stop torturing yourself over the frequency part of the definition. Especially when it's a umbrella term to describe they grey area between allo and aro (correct me if I'm wrong)

Sksksk Idk it's been a ride.

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[karl-the-not-so-great]

Comprehensive List of things that are Ace Culture

The Moon

Space. Literally all of cosmos supports aces

Eclipses are ace culture (could be a really cool symbol for greyace/greyaro peeps)

Anything black, grey, white or purple (duh)

Moss (it's fuzzy! it's cute! it can be green and purple! aro ace solidarity baby!)

All plants. Literally all of them

Especially ferns and other megaflora (B I G B O I Z)

Mushrooms too actually. We are annexing two kingdoms out of four

Dragons (obviously)

irl lizards too

Reptiles are ace culture, amphibians are aro cultute. Sorry I don't make the rules

Books and libraries are ace culture

Bookshops too

Also while we are at it sailing and cartography? Ace culture

Pirate aesthetic is ace culture

Tabletop games are ace culture

Cards are, obviously, ace culture

And finally, being compassionate and strong is (and I cannot stress this enough) most definitely Ace Culture

Feel free to add more!

[aro-culture-is]

Hello, question for a mod, do you accept asks related to greyaro, demiaro, etc culture?

yep! as stated in the pinned post (aka the post always at the top of this blog if you directly visit it):

this is open for any aro-spec people (including questioning folks)! if you don’t see much for your particular aro identity here, feel free to send more :)

we explicitly made this blog for all folks on the aro-spectrum, though you're of course also invited to send submissions to any blogs for your specific identities, or both blogs. we're not picky! so long as a post isn't against either tumblr's TOS or our own submission rules, outlined in that pinned post, it's all good!

[thesevenumbrellas]

Can it be ace *and* arospec culture? Bc a show centered around mostly platonic and sibling relationships seems like acespec/arospec culture to me --signed, a greyaro who loves the show

Yes!!!!!!!!

Ace and Aro United!

[pisceshyuna]

What does make a person a stalker?

When this dude will leave me alone? when?!?!? I’m gonna rant a little bit tonight, I think I’m allow this evening to let my feelings flow in the internet because I’m so tired of myself and the people I tend to attract in my life in the “romance field” I don’t know what’s wrong with my aura but I only attract obsessive guys. I’m ace and I’m greyaro I don’t know how the fuck I give a vibe that I want to engage with any of those asshole in any romantic way or anyway whatsoever, but I do know a 70% of the guys that are interested in me are annoyingly persistent even when I explicit say to them I’m not interested and they feel entitle to ignore my feelings and my mental health. I don’t know if is the culture of my country, I’m latina and I feel like males feel like “no” is just a temporary answer and if they keep trying the answer is gonna change no matter what. 

I have anxiety, like other million people I know, but my anxiety is very connected to social anxiety which give me trouble differentiating when I’m being an asshole and when I’m protecting myself, and when I have to be an asshole to protect myself, I don’t owe anything to this person and yet I feel like I’m failing because a part of me doesn’t like to not be like. 

I will give a little bit of more context so anyone if anyone reads this understands. I have a story with this person, I made a mistake when I was discovering my aromantic side and I gave a change to the idea of having a relationship, it didn’t work out obviously it only brought me anxiety and disgust, I ended it very fast and I was honest with my feelings I apologize because I’m not who to play with anyone feelings, this was a year ago and I think even a little more than a year, enough time to move on in both sides,or that’s what I thought. Last month this person tried to approach me and I rejected him with a very explicit language I told him I didn’t like him in his very face, I don’t know what else did I need to say to be perfectly clear. Also he tried to kiss me in a very awkward way and to be honest it was horrible and it scared me a bit, thank god we were in a public place and I literally push him enough hard so he understood he needed to back the fuck off. But ugh, this guy is so stupid, he even failed to apologize with me because he sent his coward messages to other person who actually is friends with me and told me about it, he should have apologize in the spot but I don’t even care to be honest, to me it would have been enough if he didn’t talk me at all after that. 

Today he called to my house, the audacity I swear, I panicked but I kept my wall very up and tried to manage the situation with education, I got in touch with my inner secretary (lmao), but my anxious ass told him an information I should have not to, where and what I will be doing tomorrow. He took advantage of it and basically tell me he will see me tomorrow I don’t know how the fool of me fell in the trap like that. He also said our mutual friends will be there. Don’t take me wrong, I didn’t agree like “yes for sure I’ll see you there” I was like “Maybe if I see you then okay, but I’m busy”.

You know what really makes me angry, the fact that people tell me he have feelings for me or whatever and he doesn’t know me and we, no even in the past, could qualify as close, he doesn’t know what I like in life, who I am, my favorite things, what I don’t like, he doesn’t know my sexuality nor he is someone I think who deserves to know any of this. So... what feelings? He likes the idea of me in his stupid mind, the idea he made by himself and you know what? That’s disgusting, it’s really horrifying that that is even a thing. 

I took a decision after a bad sit down of anxiety and crazy thoughts. I don’t care if I’m failing in seeing my university friends or whatever I won’t be hanging out with this guy ever again. He makes me feel horrible, and he tries to hug me like I haven’t told him not to in the past, like he doesn’t how uncomfortable he makes me after all the intensity and insistence, but I won’t be having none of that, I don’t want to fight nor create an uncomfortable moment to myself and others so I will just ignore him completely, I wish there was another way but yeah...

For matter of fact I’m leaving my country very soon, soon like days, so the only thing I want is leave this in the past and never hear of this situation ever again.

[stephen9260]

Last day ASAW, thought I'd share some aro anthems

Aro (in general): Why can't we be friends by Jordy Searcy, Crush culture by Conan Gray, FRIENDS by Anne-Marie and Marshmello, Never been in love by Will Jay

Demiaro: The only exception by Paramore

Greyaro allosexual: Sex by Eden

Quioromantic: Turning out by AJR

Alloaro: Not a love song by Bülow

[aro-culture-is]

older brother greyromantic (romance repulsed) culture is seeing an anime with your little brother (ten years old) and you both being like “ewww” everytime a kiss or romantic scene appears in the screen

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[aro-culture-is]

greyaromantic aro culture is getting over break-ups and rejection at a speed your friends call “concerningly fast”

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[aro-culture-is]

Grey-aro/demi culture is both liking and disliking the friends to lovers trope. Disliking because can’t people just be friends and liking because you don’t understand why someone would want to date someone they weren’t already friends with and knew well

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