#grayromantic culture is

[aro-culture-is]

Greyromantic culture is not realizing that you’re on the aro spectrum until you actually feel romantic attraction for the first time and realize that all the crushes you’ve had were not actually crushes at all

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[demi-romantics]

I’ve told multiple of my friends about what a squish is over the last couple days and both of them were really excited to learn what it means. So this is your sign to tell an allo about aromantic terms!

[ijust-really-likedanandphil]

I just rewatched pinof for the first time in a long while and. y'all. it makes so much more sense when you look at it this way.

of course dan gave off homoerotic vibes the whole damn time. of course it seems like perfect ship evidence. have you ever seen an 18yo - especially a closeted kid who hasn't interacted with a lot of queer people yet - around a peer who's four years older and way more out? it's EXACTLY like that. gay jokes. immature flirting. testing boundaries because you're young and "what could go wrong" and "I can finally try this"

if you don't know what I mean, either you had a different experience as a queer youth (that's fine) or you're too young to get it yet (and you will one day, ahahah... RIP lol)

this just hit me in the face as I was rewatching and wow. it clicked

[funkyfruta]

I've been having allosexual thoughts

It is disturbing

[questioning-aspec-culture-is]

questioning aspec culture is not knowing whether or not if you're fully aro or somewhere on the spectrum because you don't quite understand what romantic attraction is and so you can't judge whether or not you felt it before, either because its been a while ago that you actually had a "crush" or if your "crush" was actually just tertiary attraction. also bonus points if your feelings towards "crush" is less intense version of romantic attraction most allos seem to describe as, so you really can't tell. (am i aro? quoiro? cupio?? greyro??)

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[plague-and-creatures]

What are my types, you ask?

Fictional and cake

[aspec-culture]

Aego-greyromantic culture is Love for Love by Love of Love.

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[acelor-acetaylorswift]

Any other ace/ aro spike, ace or ace flux, demi, grey-ace/aro people relate?? I'm beginning to wonder if I'm the aro spike microlabel because it seems like occasionally I'll get an intense crush on someone and I start questioning everything and then the obsession just fades and I'm back to being "nothing that you want" because I won't reciprocate feelings to anyone interested. Idk I just feel these lines and like them a bit better than what ended up. It's a confusing thing to live because you can't figure out who you are, and I feel like I get so desperate to want to fit in or get that fairy tale relationship I dreamed of growing up that I try to try romance but it's just not quite right. Anyways, thankful for Taylor's lyrics as always.

“GORGEOUS” ORIGINAL LYRICS

[beloved-cat-gremlin]

This post isn't meant to upset or attack anyone! Please keep that in mind when reading this.

I know I'm already on the chopping block alone for the fact that I'm talking about Hazbin Hotel in the first place.

And I know this kind of discussion has been done many times on Tumblr already. And yes this is about the very much talked about topic of "Alastor and him being AroAce".

Or at the very least Asexual (but it's kinda assumed from Rosie's joke that Aromantic is also hinted at).

Before I start I wanna say that it's totally OK if you ship Alastor out of good old fashion fun or because you wanna explore character and/or ship dynamics with him. And the same goes for people who ship him because they want to explore their own experiences or orientation through a fictional character. This especially goes for anyone who identifies as Graysexual and/or Grayromantic.

It's alright if you want to explore yourself through fictional characters. As long as it's done with the thought in mind that it's not meant to erase a character's actual and canon orientation.

However as an AroAce who doesn't experience any romantic and sexual attraction whatsoever it still feels kind of discerning that people are still trying to push the card of "well AroAce people can still love!"

Yes!

That is true!

But not for all of us!

And it felt so refreshing to finally have such a widely popular character -and a fan favorite at that- to be described as AroAce and very heavily implied to be on the romance- and sex-repulsed side.

And people throwing the argument "oh but him being the one character to be oriented as AroAce is harmful to the community. Cause it portrays us as loveless and evil beings who are incapable of love of any kind!" is such a dumb and sorry excuse.

Because Alastor in the show is very much capable of love, just not the romantic kind.

He and Rosie have one of the best portrayed friendships I've seen in a while. It's especially dear to me because people don't make their relationship to be that of a family one. Rosie and Al are just friends. Best friends. And that's that.

So to have the only (as of now known) AroAce character in the show be the one to actually have a very strong planotic friendship shows that he isn't a heartless monster.

All I'm asking is that if Alastor is going to be in fact fully confirmed AroAce within the show; please! Just let us, who don't feel any attraction both romantic and sexual, or us who are romance- and sex-repulsed AroAce people have a character of our own as well. Don't try to push it that "he can still love" just so you can erase AroAce culture and representation from media.

It's already hard enough in real life for many of us who identify as AroAce or any term that falls into the spectrum.

[nightly-ruse]

Leafpool’s polycule aka all her fluffy girlfriends that love to cuddle

Anyways Leafpool is dating them all, Mothwing and Snowbird are really close friends and they bond a lot. Nightcloud is grayromantic and only romantic with Leafpool though she respects and understands both Moth and Snow. Leafpool loves them all equally. I think it’s cute that they all have outsider blood, Leafpool the direct daughter of a kittypet, Snowbird is a outsider kitten who was taken by Brokenstar as a newborn, Mothwing is born to a wander and former kittypet, Nightcloud was a kittypet herself before being drawn in by the battle culture of Windclan.

[saturns-ringg]

queer (lesbian and grayromantic), gender non conforming (they/them), teenager, riot grrrl, 80s movies, celebrities, culture, fashion, and music obsessed, new wave, matt dillon lover

i'm allison reynolds in the flesh

i like to repost a lot

all info here ^^

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[aro-culture-is]

greyromantic culture is going so long without experiencing romantic attraction that when it does happen you mistake it for an illness

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[headmate-ideas]

since emojis help :D can i have a werewolf cowboy with vibes from 🏜🐺👢🪕🌕🌾🐂🐾?

🐺 HEADMATE TEMPLATE 🏜

✦ Name(s): Hank, Hunter, Cactus ✦ Pronouns: he/him, it/its, howl/howls/howlself, hy/hym/hys/himself ✦ Species: werewolf ✦ Age: body's age plus five years ✦ Role(s): naturalist, social headmate ✦ Labels: agender man, grayromantic, bisexual ✦ Xenos: wolves, nature, food ✦ Interests/likes: cacti, furry art, the moon ✦ Dislikes: being inside for too long ✦ Music taste: country, bluegrass, folk punk ✦ Aesthetic(s): cowboy aesthetic, naturecore ✦ Kins: bulls, opossums, rabbits ✦ Emoji proxy: 🐺🏜 ✦ Details:

Hank is a werewolf cowboy who loves spending time in nature and taking care of plants (especially cacti). He is especially interested in learning about the indigenous plants, wildlife, history, and culture of wherever the system lives. Hank is friendly and finds it easy to handle social interactions for the system. He also finds it important to maintain the systems' friendships and will do things like reaching out to friends the system haven't spoken to for a while.

[These can be edited and changed as needed, and headmates will almost definitely not turn out EXACTLY as described.]

[chairteeth]

have u ever explained ur aro-ace hcs for tounemu

Hmm, I don't think I have. They're partially based off of my own experiences as an aroace lesbian as well as those of my partner and other members of the community, which I felt vibed with the characters. The headcanons vary depending on the fic/AU, but there's some general stuff I can easily share, I think. A lot of this is just gonna be vibes and what I believe fits the characters/is most interesting to play around with. Since this is a sexuality rant, fully expect me to talk about the characters beyond the scope of their ages in canon. In case it gets really long, have a readmore.

First, assume a lesbian layer under the aspec layer of the characters. So, let me try Touka first, because she's probably easier to talk about. I like to headcanon her as demiromantic specifically, because I just cannot see her getting crushes or falling for anyone she doesn't already have a significant emotional connection to, but she does seem like she would feel romantic attraction. Only in a very demi way, though. Very "over the course of years of having a close bond" type. She doesn't feel to me like she'd be interested in traditional romance in any way, shape, or form. Sexually, I'm... I'm so tempted to say demi sapiosexual you have no idea. That's because I feel like both Touka and Nemu (especially Touka) are attracted to high intellect, mind you. If I had to say, though, for Touka I'd classify her as a gray-ace. It feels right. I believe that she has this base, very mild relatively "constant" level of it, ssssorta like the allo way, but when she does feel strong sexual attraction, it hits her like a powerful and relatively sudden slap in the face and is only triggered by highly specific things. And also you have to know exactly how to work her, etc. I really, really think it's more about the mind games and stuff for her, that's what she's into. Same for Nemu, but I like doing something a tad different with Nemu, give me a second to rant.

I have many gripes about what people do with characters like Nemu, especially when it comes from people who are clearly ignorant or insufficiently educated on the aroace spectrum. See, Nemu has a very specific set of traits that often make people go "oh I see her as asexual" but attaching that headcanon to these specific traits when you don't even have a solid basis of what that even means grinds my gears pretty bad. Some of these traits are: quiet, glasses, bookworm/nerd, wheelchair user/physically disabled. Fandom culture around these kinds of characters is rancid. And whenever I've seen people write ace characters, it's one of two things: exotic allo or completely celibate. Which is just so far off from reality. The aspec is a lot more varied than people may think, and while being asexual does not equate to being celibate, that also doesn't mean that sexual experiences are the same for an ace person as they are for an allo person. You cannot simply say "oh they're ace but they enjoy sex" and then depict them acting exactly like an allo person, the approach is completely different. And then there is the camp that thinks ace = celibate. Some aces are celibate, some aren't. Don't even pretend libido isn't a completely separate thing too. So most of the time, it feels like internalized ableism, ignorance, the general assumption of "nerds don't fuck" (while this is the case for some, a majority of nerds are freaks) etc., and since it especially applies to female characters, also some level of internalized purity standards or something. Which absolutely maddens me.

Anyway, I see Nemu as grayromantic asexual. To elaborate a little, I feel like through her passion for literature and just how much poetry and how many books she must've read, Nemu feels some level of curiosity towards romance and approaches it from a pretty writerly perspective that would likely only ever work on another weirdo. It feels like she's more of an observer, but although rarely, she does feel romantic attraction, and in a relationship it's like a permanent little warmth in her chest. Not overwhelming, not loud, but like the tiniest ever-present flame of pure fondness. My ace interpretation of her, however, differs from others I have talked to. For example, my partner does understand my interpretation but sees her as gray-ace instead. Now, I see Nemu as completely asexual, but much like Touka, academically interested in the whole... everything surrounding sex and kink. My personal explanation for that one "people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones, Touka" scene in Miyuri's MGS is actually just that, simply put, the girls probably have conversations about sex and kink/fetishes. Not in a sexual way, but in a curious, intellectually-driven way, and that curiosity is what may lead them into experimenting when they get older.

The most fun thing about my interpretation of ace Nemu, in my honest opinion, is how it combines with other traits, like her high libido (headcanon we derived from canon, there are words in the background of Nemu's henshin and they're all philosophical concepts or other relevant stuff except for the word libido, that's where that headcanon comes from and it's interesting, so we're keeping it), her being a Buddhist, or her sadism, or the funny kink we suspect her of having (if you know you know). This is something I tend to touch upon more in AUs by honing her trauma to specifically highlight the issues she already has. Ace + high libido is already a potentially fascinating combination of traits, but when you add the religion thing and the kink aspects born from trauma, not to mention the rest of the trauma? It's so incredibly crunchy to rotate in your brain and analyze and play around with.

I think both of them would enjoy planning outings and the like just because they like planning things and they love quality time. They'd probably be trying to one-up each other often, Touka would delight in finding ways to fluster Nemu I think, and same in reverse, but Nemu does tend to be more dramatic, so she might enjoy the occasional theatrics as part of their little ludus thing. Who am I kidding, Touka "let's explode in a cool pose!" Satomi is also dramatic. I mentioned in my love styles essay that I feel like physical touch is vitally important to them, because of sensory craving and having been touch/affection starved as kids (yk, in a hospital, particularly Nemu), so that is one part of why I think they'd enjoy physical affection, from handholding to sex. The intellectual aspect of the kink experience also feels important. You can explore so much fascinating stuff about a character through their sexuality (general usage of the word, not specifically referring to identities here), and it bugs me a little that most nsfw works I've seen (not necessarily TouNemu), particularly Eastern ones, are just... character assassination galore. From my point of view, I don't understand why you'd ever want to do that, but I can at least comprehend the concept of "this is meant to be fapping material and that's why it's like that". It's not what personally interests me about nsfw, so I tend to stay away from any that isn't produced by myself or recommended to me specifically by someone in the aspec who I trust.

To summarize:

Touka demiromantic gray-ace

Nemu grayromantic ace

Both dramatic enough to pull off romantic stunts for funsies

Both hungry enough for enrichment and/or horny enough to indulge at some point (probably their teens, maybe their 20s if they're stupid enough, I could easily see them sharing a house and possibly a bed for like ten years and acting every bit like a married couple without realizing- this includes sharing a bed because as per new canon info, Nemu requires a body pillow, and Touka is probably the perfect size to be hugged while sleeping), but not the way an allo person/couple would. Being the freaks they are though, you probably couldn't even tell they're aspec as an external observer

[simslegacy5083]

🎮In Detail: Luigi Lawbourne💚

I debated doing a side character but figured folks would be most interested in my main. He's still new enough to being the heir I thought it could be interesting!

[ PERSONAL]

Financial: wealthy / moderate/ poor / in poverty - or at least his family is!

Medical: fit/ moderate / sickly / disabled / disadvantaged / non applicable

Class or Caste: upper/ middle / working / unsure / other

Education: qualified / unqualified / studying / other

Criminal Record: yes, for major crimes / yes, for minor crimes / no / has committed crimes, but not caught yet/ yes, but charges were dismissed

[ FAMILY]

Children: had a child or children / has no children / wants children

Relationship with Family: close with sibling(s) / not close with sibling(s) / has no siblings/ sibling(s) is deceased

Affiliation: orphaned / adopted/ disowned/ raised by birth parent/ not applicable

[ TRAITS + TENDENCIES]

extroverted / introverted /in between

disorganized / organized/ in between

close minded / open-minded / in between

calm / anxious / in between

disagreeable / agreeable / in between

cautious/ reckless / in between

patient / impatient / in between

outspoken/ reserved / in between

leader / follower /in between

empathetic / vicious bastard / in between

optimistic / pessimistic / in between

traditional / modern / in between

hard-working/ lazy / in between

cultured / uncultured / in between / unknown

loyal / disloyal / unknown

faithful / unfaithful / unknown

[ BELIEFS ]

Faith: monotheist / polytheist / atheist/ agnostic

Belief in Ghosts or Spirits: yes / no / don’t know / don’t care

Belief in an Afterlife: yes / no / don’t know / don’t care

Belief in Reincarnation: yes / no / don’t know / don’t care

Belief in Aliens: yes/ no / don’t know / don’t care

Religious: orthodox / liberal / in between / not religious

Philosophical: yes / no

[ SEXUALITY & ROMANTIC INCLINATION ]

Sexuality: heterosexual / homosexual / bisexual / asexual / pansexual

Sex: sex repulsed / sex neutral / sex favorable / naive and clueless

Romance: romance repulsed / romance neutral / romance favorable / naïve and clueless / romance suspicious - specifically he identifies as grayromantic like his papa before him

Sexually: adventurous / experienced / naive / inexperienced / curious

Potential Sexual Partners: male / female / agender / other / none / all

Potential Romantic Partners: male / female / agender / other / none / all

[ ABILITIES ]

Combat Skills: excellent / good / moderate / poor / none

Literacy Skills: excellent/ good / moderate / poor / none

Artistic Skills: excellent / good/ moderate / poor / none

Technical Skills: excellent / good / moderate / poor/ none

[ HABITS ]

Drinking Alcohol: never / special occasions / sometimes/ frequently / alcoholic

Smoking: tried it / trying to quit / quit / never / rarely / sometimes / frequently / Chain-smoker

Recreational Drugs: never / quit / special occasions / sometimes / frequently / addict

Medicinal Drugs: never / no longer needs medication / some medication needed / frequently / to excess

Unhealthy Food: never / special occasions / sometimes / frequently / binge eater

Splurge Spending: never / sometimes / frequently / shopaholic

Gambling: never / rarely / sometimes / frequently / compulsive gambler

tagging @sharona-sims, @tedsies

[questioning-aspec-culture-is]

questioning arospec culture is not knowing if you're greyromantic and actually don't experience romantic attraction often or if you just don't understand the difference between platonic and romantic attraction

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