#grayromantic culture is

[aro-culture-is]

Greyromantic culture is not realizing that you’re on the aro spectrum until you actually feel romantic attraction for the first time and realize that all the crushes you’ve had were not actually crushes at all

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[demi-romantics]

I’ve told multiple of my friends about what a squish is over the last couple days and both of them were really excited to learn what it means. So this is your sign to tell an allo about aromantic terms!

[funkyfruta]

I've been having allosexual thoughts

It is disturbing

[questioning-aspec-culture-is]

questioning aspec culture is not knowing whether or not if you're fully aro or somewhere on the spectrum because you don't quite understand what romantic attraction is and so you can't judge whether or not you felt it before, either because its been a while ago that you actually had a "crush" or if your "crush" was actually just tertiary attraction. also bonus points if your feelings towards "crush" is less intense version of romantic attraction most allos seem to describe as, so you really can't tell. (am i aro? quoiro? cupio?? greyro??)

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[aspec-culture]

Aego-greyromantic culture is Love for Love by Love of Love.

♡ ♥

[acelor-acetaylorswift]

Any other ace/ aro spike, ace or ace flux, demi, grey-ace/aro people relate?? I'm beginning to wonder if I'm the aro spike microlabel because it seems like occasionally I'll get an intense crush on someone and I start questioning everything and then the obsession just fades and I'm back to being "nothing that you want" because I won't reciprocate feelings to anyone interested. Idk I just feel these lines and like them a bit better than what ended up. It's a confusing thing to live because you can't figure out who you are, and I feel like I get so desperate to want to fit in or get that fairy tale relationship I dreamed of growing up that I try to try romance but it's just not quite right. Anyways, thankful for Taylor's lyrics as always.

“GORGEOUS” ORIGINAL LYRICS

[beloved-cat-gremlin]

This post isn't meant to upset or attack anyone! Please keep that in mind when reading this.

I know I'm already on the chopping block alone for the fact that I'm talking about Hazbin Hotel in the first place.

And I know this kind of discussion has been done many times on Tumblr already. And yes this is about the very much talked about topic of "Alastor and him being AroAce".

Or at the very least Asexual (but it's kinda assumed from Rosie's joke that Aromantic is also hinted at).

Before I start I wanna say that it's totally OK if you ship Alastor out of good old fashion fun or because you wanna explore character and/or ship dynamics with him. And the same goes for people who ship him because they want to explore their own experiences or orientation through a fictional character. This especially goes for anyone who identifies as Graysexual and/or Grayromantic.

It's alright if you want to explore yourself through fictional characters. As long as it's done with the thought in mind that it's not meant to erase a character's actual and canon orientation.

However as an AroAce who doesn't experience any romantic and sexual attraction whatsoever it still feels kind of discerning that people are still trying to push the card of "well AroAce people can still love!"

Yes!

That is true!

But not for all of us!

And it felt so refreshing to finally have such a widely popular character -and a fan favorite at that- to be described as AroAce and very heavily implied to be on the romance- and sex-repulsed side.

And people throwing the argument "oh but him being the one character to be oriented as AroAce is harmful to the community. Cause it portrays us as loveless and evil beings who are incapable of love of any kind!" is such a dumb and sorry excuse.

Because Alastor in the show is very much capable of love, just not the romantic kind.

He and Rosie have one of the best portrayed friendships I've seen in a while. It's especially dear to me because people don't make their relationship to be that of a family one. Rosie and Al are just friends. Best friends. And that's that.

So to have the only (as of now known) AroAce character in the show be the one to actually have a very strong planotic friendship shows that he isn't a heartless monster.

All I'm asking is that if Alastor is going to be in fact fully confirmed AroAce within the show; please! Just let us, who don't feel any attraction both romantic and sexual, or us who are romance- and sex-repulsed AroAce people have a character of our own as well. Don't try to push it that "he can still love" just so you can erase AroAce culture and representation from media.

It's already hard enough in real life for many of us who identify as AroAce or any term that falls into the spectrum.

[nightly-ruse]

Leafpool’s polycule aka all her fluffy girlfriends that love to cuddle

Anyways Leafpool is dating them all, Mothwing and Snowbird are really close friends and they bond a lot. Nightcloud is grayromantic and only romantic with Leafpool though she respects and understands both Moth and Snow. Leafpool loves them all equally. I think it’s cute that they all have outsider blood, Leafpool the direct daughter of a kittypet, Snowbird is a outsider kitten who was taken by Brokenstar as a newborn, Mothwing is born to a wander and former kittypet, Nightcloud was a kittypet herself before being drawn in by the battle culture of Windclan.

[chairteeth]

have u ever explained ur aro-ace hcs for tounemu

Hmm, I don't think I have. They're partially based off of my own experiences as an aroace lesbian as well as those of my partner and other members of the community, which I felt vibed with the characters. The headcanons vary depending on the fic/AU, but there's some general stuff I can easily share, I think. A lot of this is just gonna be vibes and what I believe fits the characters/is most interesting to play around with. Since this is a sexuality rant, fully expect me to talk about the characters beyond the scope of their ages in canon. In case it gets really long, have a readmore.

First, assume a lesbian layer under the aspec layer of the characters. So, let me try Touka first, because she's probably easier to talk about. I like to headcanon her as demiromantic specifically, because I just cannot see her getting crushes or falling for anyone she doesn't already have a significant emotional connection to, but she does seem like she would feel romantic attraction. Only in a very demi way, though. Very "over the course of years of having a close bond" type. She doesn't feel to me like she'd be interested in traditional romance in any way, shape, or form. Sexually, I'm... I'm so tempted to say demi sapiosexual you have no idea. That's because I feel like both Touka and Nemu (especially Touka) are attracted to high intellect, mind you. If I had to say, though, for Touka I'd classify her as a gray-ace. It feels right. I believe that she has this base, very mild relatively "constant" level of it, ssssorta like the allo way, but when she does feel strong sexual attraction, it hits her like a powerful and relatively sudden slap in the face and is only triggered by highly specific things. And also you have to know exactly how to work her, etc. I really, really think it's more about the mind games and stuff for her, that's what she's into. Same for Nemu, but I like doing something a tad different with Nemu, give me a second to rant.

I have many gripes about what people do with characters like Nemu, especially when it comes from people who are clearly ignorant or insufficiently educated on the aroace spectrum. See, Nemu has a very specific set of traits that often make people go "oh I see her as asexual" but attaching that headcanon to these specific traits when you don't even have a solid basis of what that even means grinds my gears pretty bad. Some of these traits are: quiet, glasses, bookworm/nerd, wheelchair user/physically disabled. Fandom culture around these kinds of characters is rancid. And whenever I've seen people write ace characters, it's one of two things: exotic allo or completely celibate. Which is just so far off from reality. The aspec is a lot more varied than people may think, and while being asexual does not equate to being celibate, that also doesn't mean that sexual experiences are the same for an ace person as they are for an allo person. You cannot simply say "oh they're ace but they enjoy sex" and then depict them acting exactly like an allo person, the approach is completely different. And then there is the camp that thinks ace = celibate. Some aces are celibate, some aren't. Don't even pretend libido isn't a completely separate thing too. So most of the time, it feels like internalized ableism, ignorance, the general assumption of "nerds don't fuck" (while this is the case for some, a majority of nerds are freaks) etc., and since it especially applies to female characters, also some level of internalized purity standards or something. Which absolutely maddens me.

Anyway, I see Nemu as grayromantic asexual. To elaborate a little, I feel like through her passion for literature and just how much poetry and how many books she must've read, Nemu feels some level of curiosity towards romance and approaches it from a pretty writerly perspective that would likely only ever work on another weirdo. It feels like she's more of an observer, but although rarely, she does feel romantic attraction, and in a relationship it's like a permanent little warmth in her chest. Not overwhelming, not loud, but like the tiniest ever-present flame of pure fondness. My ace interpretation of her, however, differs from others I have talked to. For example, my partner does understand my interpretation but sees her as gray-ace instead. Now, I see Nemu as completely asexual, but much like Touka, academically interested in the whole... everything surrounding sex and kink. My personal explanation for that one "people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones, Touka" scene in Miyuri's MGS is actually just that, simply put, the girls probably have conversations about sex and kink/fetishes. Not in a sexual way, but in a curious, intellectually-driven way, and that curiosity is what may lead them into experimenting when they get older.

The most fun thing about my interpretation of ace Nemu, in my honest opinion, is how it combines with other traits, like her high libido (headcanon we derived from canon, there are words in the background of Nemu's henshin and they're all philosophical concepts or other relevant stuff except for the word libido, that's where that headcanon comes from and it's interesting, so we're keeping it), her being a Buddhist, or her sadism, or the funny kink we suspect her of having (if you know you know). This is something I tend to touch upon more in AUs by honing her trauma to specifically highlight the issues she already has. Ace + high libido is already a potentially fascinating combination of traits, but when you add the religion thing and the kink aspects born from trauma, not to mention the rest of the trauma? It's so incredibly crunchy to rotate in your brain and analyze and play around with.

I think both of them would enjoy planning outings and the like just because they like planning things and they love quality time. They'd probably be trying to one-up each other often, Touka would delight in finding ways to fluster Nemu I think, and same in reverse, but Nemu does tend to be more dramatic, so she might enjoy the occasional theatrics as part of their little ludus thing. Who am I kidding, Touka "let's explode in a cool pose!" Satomi is also dramatic. I mentioned in my love styles essay that I feel like physical touch is vitally important to them, because of sensory craving and having been touch/affection starved as kids (yk, in a hospital, particularly Nemu), so that is one part of why I think they'd enjoy physical affection, from handholding to sex. The intellectual aspect of the kink experience also feels important. You can explore so much fascinating stuff about a character through their sexuality (general usage of the word, not specifically referring to identities here), and it bugs me a little that most nsfw works I've seen (not necessarily TouNemu), particularly Eastern ones, are just... character assassination galore. From my point of view, I don't understand why you'd ever want to do that, but I can at least comprehend the concept of "this is meant to be fapping material and that's why it's like that". It's not what personally interests me about nsfw, so I tend to stay away from any that isn't produced by myself or recommended to me specifically by someone in the aspec who I trust.

To summarize:

Touka demiromantic gray-ace

Nemu grayromantic ace

Both dramatic enough to pull off romantic stunts for funsies

Both hungry enough for enrichment and/or horny enough to indulge at some point (probably their teens, maybe their 20s if they're stupid enough, I could easily see them sharing a house and possibly a bed for like ten years and acting every bit like a married couple without realizing- this includes sharing a bed because as per new canon info, Nemu requires a body pillow, and Touka is probably the perfect size to be hugged while sleeping), but not the way an allo person/couple would. Being the freaks they are though, you probably couldn't even tell they're aspec as an external observer

[simslegacy5083]

🎮In Detail: Luigi Lawbourne💚

I debated doing a side character but figured folks would be most interested in my main. He's still new enough to being the heir I thought it could be interesting!

[ PERSONAL]

Financial: wealthy / moderate/ poor / in poverty - or at least his family is!

Medical: fit/ moderate / sickly / disabled / disadvantaged / non applicable

Class or Caste: upper/ middle / working / unsure / other

Education: qualified / unqualified / studying / other

Criminal Record: yes, for major crimes / yes, for minor crimes / no / has committed crimes, but not caught yet/ yes, but charges were dismissed

[ FAMILY]

Children: had a child or children / has no children / wants children

Relationship with Family: close with sibling(s) / not close with sibling(s) / has no siblings/ sibling(s) is deceased

Affiliation: orphaned / adopted/ disowned/ raised by birth parent/ not applicable

[ TRAITS + TENDENCIES]

extroverted / introverted /in between

disorganized / organized/ in between

close minded / open-minded / in between

calm / anxious / in between

disagreeable / agreeable / in between

cautious/ reckless / in between

patient / impatient / in between

outspoken/ reserved / in between

leader / follower /in between

empathetic / vicious bastard / in between

optimistic / pessimistic / in between

traditional / modern / in between

hard-working/ lazy / in between

cultured / uncultured / in between / unknown

loyal / disloyal / unknown

faithful / unfaithful / unknown

[ BELIEFS ]

Faith: monotheist / polytheist / atheist/ agnostic

Belief in Ghosts or Spirits: yes / no / don’t know / don’t care

Belief in an Afterlife: yes / no / don’t know / don’t care

Belief in Reincarnation: yes / no / don’t know / don’t care

Belief in Aliens: yes/ no / don’t know / don’t care

Religious: orthodox / liberal / in between / not religious

Philosophical: yes / no

[ SEXUALITY & ROMANTIC INCLINATION ]

Sexuality: heterosexual / homosexual / bisexual / asexual / pansexual

Sex: sex repulsed / sex neutral / sex favorable / naive and clueless

Romance: romance repulsed / romance neutral / romance favorable / naïve and clueless / romance suspicious - specifically he identifies as grayromantic like his papa before him

Sexually: adventurous / experienced / naive / inexperienced / curious

Potential Sexual Partners: male / female / agender / other / none / all

Potential Romantic Partners: male / female / agender / other / none / all

[ ABILITIES ]

Combat Skills: excellent / good / moderate / poor / none

Literacy Skills: excellent/ good / moderate / poor / none

Artistic Skills: excellent / good/ moderate / poor / none

Technical Skills: excellent / good / moderate / poor/ none

[ HABITS ]

Drinking Alcohol: never / special occasions / sometimes/ frequently / alcoholic

Smoking: tried it / trying to quit / quit / never / rarely / sometimes / frequently / Chain-smoker

Recreational Drugs: never / quit / special occasions / sometimes / frequently / addict

Medicinal Drugs: never / no longer needs medication / some medication needed / frequently / to excess

Unhealthy Food: never / special occasions / sometimes / frequently / binge eater

Splurge Spending: never / sometimes / frequently / shopaholic

Gambling: never / rarely / sometimes / frequently / compulsive gambler

tagging @sharona-sims, @tedsies

[aro-culture-is]

greyromantic culture is going so long without experiencing romantic attraction that when it does happen you mistake it for an illness

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[aromanticasexualandppop]

Decoding Romantic Attraction (Sort-Of)

Romantic attraction is a difficult concept to understand for aromantic people. It is mainly because the paradigm of a romantic relationship exhibits sensual attraction, aesthetic attraction, emotional attraction and sexual attraction without a proper distinction.

I think one thing to realize is that romantic relationships do not reflect romantic attraction. Since romantic relationships are practically a combination of at least three types of attraction, I think it's safe to say that aromantics should not look at it the way allos do.

By allos, I mean alloromantic allosexuals or people who do not necessarily need to use the split attraction model. That is because they look at romantic attraction as a whole, as a package that comes with freebies like the other attractions mentioned.

I, myself, are on the far end of the spectrum where I don't think I'll experience romantic attraction ever. However, I did have some experience with crush culture. It had the same manifestations as what allos describe romantic attraction to be (heart beating fast, butterflies, looking for them in the same room, blushing, thinking about them all the time). I'd even comfortably divulge it to my friends.

The only thing is that I had never wanted to date them. As I grew older, it also became uncomfortable feeling all those typical indications of romantic attraction. I didn't like that I was teased by my friends for liking those people. I didn't like that they push me to take pictures with them or they push me to get close to that person and touch them. I didn't like that they'd put the both of us in a single room just so we can talk and possibly 'cultivate feelings'. It was awkward. Uncomfortable. Weird. SO FAR from what I felt or what I wanted.

Those experiences lead me to make a personal definition for romantic attraction. If it fits to what you are experiencing right now or if you are willing to take this definition, then I'm really happy to help you realize or reassure you're aromantic.

Romantic Attraction is basically wanting to date someone because you feel that deeply towards them (not because you're pressured by others or by yourself, not because you just think that person would be a good companion, not because you think you have to have a companion, not because you just want a romantic relationship or any monogamous relationship).

Additionally, you also feel comfortable, hopeful, and excited to do strictly romantic acts with them like kissing (you do not feel indifferent or repulsed by this thought). You'd also feel good and comfortable being hugged tightly, stared at adoringly, holding hands, being touched in sensual areas (waist, hips, neck, hair, ears), etc. all the while receiving romantic signals from the other person. Basically all that awkward and cheesy romantic scenarios you see in media? You're okay with experiencing those.

Romantic signals is that intuitive feeling that you know that they like you based on the way they look at you, the atmosphere, the way they touch you, the way their voice sounds and the pitch of their voice, their body language, etc. This feeling will be really evident especially when the both of you are alone and are drowning in silence.

Also, if you are second-guessing whether what you feel is really romantic attraction, then chances are you are on the aromantic spectrum. It doesn't have to be deep plunge like an aromantic, but it can just be a simple dip into the waters like grayromantic. Then, if you think that grayromantic does not describe you, then you can find any other label.

I think romantic attraction feel closest to emotional attraction where you want to feel emotionally connected to somebody or be emotionally present with them like forming a bond with their soul. Maybe that's how I felt back then. Maybe that's how many of us felt back then.

Amatonormativity and compulsive heterosexuality/heteroromanticism play a big part in our lives. We don't even know if our thoughts and beliefs are still influenced by these concepts. However, I'm here to tell everyone that aromanticism is completely normal and valid. At the same time, it is not experienced in a singular manner. There are many ways to be aromantic.

You can have felt 'romantic attraction' back then but not feel anything now (maybe after finding out you're aromantic, you stopped focusing on romantic relationships and found out life isn't different with or without it. you stopped subconciously pressuring yourself to have 'crushes'). You can feel 'romantic attraction' but not all the time (aromanticism is a spectrum). Maybe you fall in love after a certain condition has been met (demiromantic, etc.). Maybe you would never have felt romantic attraction at all but still want a romantic relationship. Maybe you're still questioning. Maybe you're still exploring.

In conclusion, this is what my personal definition of romantic attraction is which I got from my own experiences and knowledge from passionate romance stories. I hope I am able to help anyone e who comes across this understand themselves more.

Happy Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week!

[cupio-culture-is]

Cupio-grayromantic culture is having very rare romantic attraction, but when it happens it's really, almost painfully strong.

Cupio culture is.

[questioning-aspec-culture-is]

questioning arospec culture is not knowing if you're greyromantic and actually don't experience romantic attraction often or if you just don't understand the difference between platonic and romantic attraction

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[valkxrie]

Roleplaying Profile Meme:

PLEASE REPOST, DO NOT REBLOG!  Feel free to add to any of your answers!  The purpose is to tell your partners about the way you write!  For the multiple-choice ones, BOLD all that apply and, if you want, italicize if it’s a conditional answer!

– B A S I C S –

NAME:  Alex

ARE YOU OVER 18? Yes / No

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ARE YOU SELECTIVE ABOUT WHO YOU WRITE WITH ON THIS BLOG? No / Semi / Yes / Highly / Private

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IF YOUR MUSE IS CANON, HOW MUCH DO YOU ADHERE TO CANON? Not at all / A little / Somewhat / Mostly / Strictly / OC

(there are a lot of myths/poems/stories about Brunnhilde, and they all vary - plus interpretations in modern culture. my character was born of multiple things)

WHAT POST LENGTHS DO YOU WRITE? One Liners / Single-Para / Multi-Para / Novella 

DO YOU USE ICONS AND/OR GIFS? No / Gifs /Icons/ Gifcons

DO YOU WRITE ON OTHER PLATFORMS? No / Yes

WHAT LEVEL OF PLOTS DO YOU WRITE? Unplotted / Open-Ended Plots / Semi-Plotted / Fully Plotted Epics

(i am open to general direction, seeing how it goes, full blown plots across extended timelines, little one-offs... etc. throw it at me).

HOW QUICKLY DO YOU USUALLY RESPOND TO THREADS? I am a Turtle on wheels /Slow / Fast  / Very Fast*

(i am usually quick to reply - within 24 hours if not less. however, there is no obligation to reply as quickly. take days. take weeks. take months - i only ask that you reply because you want to)

WHAT TYPES OF THEMES DO YOU LIKE? (feel free to add!) Fluff / Angst / Smut / Action / Tragedy / Domestic / Family / Conversational / Hurt-Comfort / Fantasy / Dark

(i will write most things. i am drawn to anything that contributes to the depth / texture / study of a character / relationship)

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DO YOU HAVE OTPS? No / Chemistry only / Yes

WHAT IS YOUR MUSE’S SEXUAL ORIENTATION? - Heterosexual / Heteroflexible / Bisexual / Homoflexible / Homosexual / Pansexual / Demisexual / Asexual / Questioning

(verse dependent - human B is bi, valkyrie b is pan)

WHAT IS YOUR MUSE’S ROMANTIC ORIENTATION? - Heteroromantic / Heteroflexible / Biromantic / Homoflexible / Homoromantic / Panromantic / Demiromantic / Grayromantic / Aromantic / Polyamorous / Questioning

ARE YOU COMFORTABLE WRITING SMUT? No / Selectively / Yes

ARE YOU AN EXCLUSIVE SHIPPER? No / Sometimes / Yes

DOES CRACK SHIPPING EVER HAPPEN? No /Sometimes / Yes

DOES CROSSOVER SHIPPING EVER HAPPEN? No / Yes / Depends

tagged by:// @kylo-wrecked

tagging:// you

[emaciated-creechur]

About me

Name: Victor

Age: 20

Gender/pronouns: Ftm trans and also a creature you can consider not even human (he/him|it/its)

Orientation: Bi (demisexual/grayromantic)

I'm autistic (probably have ADHD too) and I have DPDR, C-PTSD, a restrictive ED and I'm either haunted by ghosts and evil spirits or have schizophrenia.

Interests: Art and illustration, alt music, fashion and cultures, queer culture, fashion history, animation, biology (specially animals and anatomy), anatomy related to illustration, furries, vulture culture and taxidermy, 3d modeling, doll making and customization, sewing and embroidery, rollerskating

Likes: Bats (the animals), lemurs, cats (or felines in general), reptiles and birds, being warm, nature, sleeping in, tea or coffee depending on my mood, hanging out with friends, diet drinks, cool tinted glasses, wearing whatever clothes I want regardless of whether each outfit is the same style, going on walks while listening to music on my headphones, cinnamon on everything sweet

Dislikes: Being pressured to eat a certain way and/or a certain amount by other people, feeling overwhelmed, being touched by strangers, very cold weather, loud people and environments, too much sunlight/too bright lights/flashing lights, being talked down to/being treated like a child

DNI if you:

Are bigoted in any way shape or form

Don't have an eating disorder or don't self harm

Are younger than 15 (even though I'd prefer if you were 18+)

Think having an ed or shing is a good thing/encourage non disordered people to develop disordered behaviors that could lead to them getting an ed

Stats, goals and rules under the cut

My stats:

Height: 162cm

BMI: 16.7

HW: 49kg (108lbs)

LW: 43.8kg (96.5lbs)

CW: 43.8kg (96.5lbs))

GW1: 45kg (99.2lbs)

GW2: 40kg (88lbs)

GW3: 35kg (77lbs)

UGW: 30kg (66lbs)

Rules and Goals I've set for myself:

I need to lose at least 5kg this month

Exercise for at least 1hr thrice a week before going to sleep

Walk every day for at least 2hrs. Do at least 10k steps regardless of the time it takes. The more steps and longer amount of time it takes the better

Avoid snacks at all costs unless I have to choose between a small snack and a full meal

Purge every time I eat something sweet as soon as possible

Drink at least 1 liter of water every day

Skip every meal I can without arousing suspicion

Once I finally get my scale from the mail and find a good hiding spot, I'll weight myself every Friday

Eat half of every plate no matter how much people insist I should eat more

Start preparing my own foods more often

Read every night before bed. At least 10 pages

If you wanna see me talk about random thoughts that go through my mind, they're under the tag #rambles of an emaciated creature