#girlie is in no way neurotypicals

[cooking-with-hailstones]

Azula is so autistic you cannot convince me otherwise

[kirabasai]

the gradual alt-ification of my character references before i commit to actually drawing them. how do i keep doing this.

[sansastarkss]

do u ever have a day that just solidifies your status as a mentally ill girlie bc if no count ur blessings we are not the same and will never be ����

[person4924]

why every time i meet a new person i either canon them gay or neurodivergent

[sirenium]

Warning: some parts of this may come off as insensitive, dark, and/or concerning on my end. I do not give a fuck about that; I've read through this multiple times, made sure to tweak things, but I'm not going to walk on eggshells anymore for the comfort of someone else right now I am so fucking tired. So if you're offended by something cold or brass that I said, leave me alone about it. Go do your self care routine and take care of yourself, but don't make it my problem. I'm autistic. I likely have ASPD and almost certainly NPD. I am going to say things sometimes that are way more mask off than what you'd expect, because neurotypicals love playing games and hiding what they fucking mean or are too scared to say what they mean in fear of harming someone's feelings. I've developed this, to an extent, because it is necessary to survive. But no, this is my blog, my feelings and thoughts, and I deserve a space to be honest for fuck's sake! Don't like that I'm not playing games? I'd suggest clicking off or scrolling by now. That said:

neurotypicals are so annoying about empathy and compassion. No Sarah, my ability to not be scarred and shaking from a gore video or a distressing audio does not make me an edgelord or a sociopath. I think it's dramatic and theatrical to put so much effort into caring about strangers, it's a weakness. But you know what I don't do? I don't go 'lol you're just soft haha' to their faces (which I've seen other people do) because that's fucking cringe. I know people react to certain things differently even if it seems fake and overemotional to me. But these people go out of their way to whine about an insensitive joke on the INTERNET or someone not being phased by something. Also, you don't know if the people making jokes are really unphased or just coping with humor, you can't just fucking psychoanalyze and armchair diagnose a random person on the internet!

(school shooting, human and animal death mention under the cut):

You don't need to piss your pants every time someone dies in order to register that the death shouldn't have happened. It's like with the latest school shooting, I don't react all that much to school shootings because wow, another one? how many useless deaths happened this time (note: useless as in it could have been easily prevented)? You know how I feel about lack of gun control? I think it's dumb! I think children shouldn't have to go to school with the fear of not coming home due to some fucker with a gun! If that makes me a sociopath to *checks notes* react logically and not emotionally to tragedies, then so be it.

The truth is that I'm just autistic. It's true that I have antisocial traits, but I'm not a 'sociopath' in the sense that people mean it. People think I'm manipulating them when it couldn't be farther from the fuckin truth, and I grew out of hurting living things so I'm not going to kick your dog to death or dismember someone's grandma. By the way, can we stop equating that word with cold blooded killer? I've been told I behave like a serial killer by a counselor for things such as separation anxiety, even compared to JEFFREY DAHMER as a teenager by a stranger online for viewing gore as a beautiful thing (I'm now painfully aware how bizarre that view is to 'normal' people, but it doesn't make me a serial killer to be fascinated by gore in such a way). Joke's on both of those people, I haven't killed anyone yet like they clearly thought I would.

I'm used to 'sociopath' being used as a word to dehumanize and demonize me and people like me. But hell is it annoying for pop psychology girlies to think everyone is sociopathic for not extending their emotions to yet another death. Death happens every day, how are you not used to it? You'd think everyone would be used to it by now, and this does not mean to lack the drive to want to change the world. But of course, the 'empath' phenomenon has done massive damage to the collective human psyche. You know the type of person I'm talking about: the 'narc/antisocial/borderline/histrionic abuse' pedaling, 'hyper empathetic' girlie who makes it their whole personality to be so kind! So caring! So empathetic and compassionate!

I hate these people. They're so all of the above until someone has a cluster B disorder or general lack of empathy. Then suddenly they aren't very caring and kind, nor compassionate with an abundance of empathy! But yes, the autist who doesn't distinguish between a human being and a Gmod NPC unless given reason is the problem, not somebody shitting on an entire group of people with personality disorders (sarcasm).

It's just irritating, and I felt like talking about it.

[eternal-cupido]

(Mostly) Silly General Death Note HCs 

Light Yagami 

Actually the most pretentious little shit 

He was def the most out of pocket kid when he was younger 

Either listens to classical or white girl pop, no in between 

somewhere on the aroace spectrum  

Had a not-like-other-girls/teenagers type phase that he never left

scared of little dogs

No way he's neurotypical 

Hyper-fixated on something super specific like Flight MA-370 or rigor mortis

HEAVYYYY on the Spoiled rich kid + Gifted kid burnout combo

paces around his room and gives his secret plushie stash monologues

L Lawliet

Also neurodivergent 

Vocaloid listener 

might be queer in some form but had never seen the point in labeling it

great with animals just can't have them because of how often he moves for cases

Only actual food he likes is butter noodles 

So over caffeinated it's actually concerning 

Has/Had Mental Health Issues 

Not as socially anxious as I've seen some of y'all write him as 

He just doesn't give a shit about social norms

Misa Amane 

Didn't actually fall in love with light, only her idea of him

She ended up being super disappointed when she actually met him. 

Our fav alt-girlie

It was like a "never meet your idols" situation 

Has to have at least severe trauma or maybe even PTSD from the killing of her parents. Which definitely played a part in her whole character arc.

Will outlive almost everyone because of the Shinigami that saved her (I refuse to accept cannon)

Listens to bands like Sleep Token, Dayseeker, and Paramore 

Has a pet cat she treats like her child 

[f1zzlest1ckzz]

uncle jack hcs under the cut :33 (reposted from the whf discord)

•he's genderfluid!! to me!!! in the sense that if someone was to explain and define it for him, he'd be like "oh! yes! thats right! that is how i feel!"

•having worked in theatre, jack is obviously good at singing and, he'd tell you he's "lost the talent", but he's not a bad dancer either.

•he collects dolls, specifically porcelain dolls and ragdolls like what margaret had. it's not a conscious thing, like, he doesn't actively do it to remember her, but it was something he did when she was still alive (buying whatever dolls he saw for her) and he never really let go of the memory, even after years of amnesia

•he's an audhd girlie. obviously. have you seen him? no one is that flamboyant and is neurotypical

•he stims by tapping his feet (like a rabbit,) and singing and talking to himself. he will go on full, nonsensical rants to himself just to keep silence away

•he could play piano prior to being on joy, but sort of lost the skill through memory loss. as foggy jack, he probably tries playing again using the ones in abandoned houses in the garden district, but just gets frustrated cause he can't get it right the first time anymore

•he LOVES sweet stuff. his faves are strawberry creme chocolates and black liquorice

•on that topic, he puts loads of sugar in tea

•he can sew! he embroiders little things on almost everything he wears. some of his work blazers have little, pink peppermint candies embroidered onto their sleeves. he also made the foggy jack outfit himself out of old work clothes

•he used to pull out his grey hairs :/ he'd start genuinely forgetting how old he was and would freak out over ways his body would show his age, yk what i mean. like greying 👎 (even though its pretty, but whatever)

•ALL HIS BUTTONUPS ARE PINK!! NOT WHITE! they are pale pink. to me. he loves pink. cus of joy.

•he also collects ties and socks!! of course i project my collector autism onto him

•(he probably collects knives also.)

•he prefers wine over other alcohol, which is unfortunate considering how scarce it is in wellington wells

•jack, of course, promotes new flavours of joy on his shows. he's also been a sort of guinea pig to the doctors, and has been the first to try certain flavours on live tv before. i also believe something like this is what got him killed. like, they intentionally made him overdose after he became immune to joy's affects. or something or other.

•projecting again, but he can stare for an Obnoxiously long amount of time. and sometimes he forgets to blink anyways when hes looking at people, because he's too focussed on eye contact to blink. he's very good at unintentionally making people uncomfortable

•he loves dogs!! and rabbits!!! he mentions in one of the humour hour episodes that he misses his dog so he DID have one and i like to think dogs are one of his favourite animals. like he loved training his dog and such

[miumiumandoodz]

Honestly, to me, romancing Owen is the most ultimate unrealistic fantasy. He has a stable business, unusually wealthy (possibly generational, since the business have been there since his father was young) and speaking of his father, apparently his saloon is stable enough that his parents can enjoy peaceful retirement somewhere. He’s a homeowner and his home is large enough to house a small family if that’s what you’re looking for. And this man is ACTUALLY kind, generous, compassionate, friendly, good natured, great listener, attentive to things (really keeps his saloon neat much to Grace’s chagrin). He’s handsome too, well build, physically so prime it’s impossible. Hot himbos like Justice and Unsuur are more realistic. It’s likelier that someone wealthy to be like Earnest. If I wanna have a Logan experience, I can just pop up to one of my straight girlie friend and listen to her talk about his hot but a bit unruly boyfriend who lives in a questionable situation because he’s pursuing a passion project that stems from his trauma and parental issues while she has to mom him emotionally. And we don’t talk about Miguel. A lot of Miguel types are borderline criminal and if you grow up in a very religious community, chances are you’ve heard or know someone like that. Some people be into that but not for me. Nope. BUT WHERE ARE THE OWENS??? WHERE??? They’re myth. They’re an illusion. They’re cryptids. There’s no way there’s a cis man like him. It’s impossible. Have you listen to all the girls and gays? No such account. That’s why to me he’s the fantasy. The elusive thing. The thing I’m pursuing. “Oh but he’s boring” EXACTLY. I want boring and safe romance. Romance that makes me think “yeah, I wanna spend the rest of my life cuddling at home with him” The world already sucks balls. Why would I want insecurities, discomfort, and more problems? I want a man like Owen. Life hard, Owen’s tiddy soft.

(Not mentioning Burgess and Pablo because while they almost has no flaws, they’re pretty realistic. Their only probable flaw is neurotypicals wouldn’t stand Burgess and Pablo definitely is not for straight anyone. Meanwhile, while writing this, I realized that the most unrealistic bachelor here is Pen. If you romance him, you’re probably the bravest in all of us)

[fitzrove]

Ajkdlsld nobody asked for this extremely long misogyny rant but

😭😭 why is society so shit w rampant misogyny everywhere (most painfully, from other women) skkslsls. Reading the replies on that makeup post i reblogged and being chronically online in general is pissing me off lmao

Disclaimer: lol obviously this is all intersectional, like there are lots of ways in which I am extremely privileged (white/European/from a stereotypically desirable "educated, trustworthy, well-behaved, high tech" country/cisgender/able-bodied/neurotypical/privileged economic class etc etc). Doesn't mean the points outlined below don't apply to many women in relation to men who are in their otherwise same demographic

Things that I like about being a woman:

- my body (well don't always like it but don't want to change anything djkdkdj)

- being a lesbian

- being friends with other women (is easier) & not perceived as threatening by them in random interactions

- feeling "special" in some situations where i'm trailblazing or achieving something in a guy-dominated space, especially when other people point that out

- most interests i have/could think of having have no stigma attached to them that would make it difficult for me to pursue them. also corsets and ballgowns etc femme goth fashion pieces being societally 100% acceptable for me to wear in some situations and not even fringe

Things I don't like about being a woman:

- sexual harassment

- being talked over

- wage and employment discrimination

- basic misogyny shit like being expected to have children and take responsibility for all the people around you

- violent heteronormativity (obviously still hurts non straight men but hurts women more because the world feels so entitled to our bodies)

- having to worry about straight guy friends and acquaintances (esp classmates)' intentions (sadly its not stigmatised enough for people to be pushy w women so i get scared pre-emptively :/)

- SOCIETAL EXPECTATIONS FOR APPEARANCE AND COERCIVELY ENFORCED GENDER CONFORMING FEMININITY GRAAHHHHH going to kill every fashion beauty health etc company :) i don't care if doing it makes you personally happier or more confident you know where else conformity makes you powerful? politically oppressive dictatorships<3

- women friends (classmates) whose idea of girl talk is to alternately complain about and fawn over men through a sexual/romantic lens and evaluate them as potential partners, and who take my refusal to participate in this as personal rejection/rudeness and pull away from me as a friend because of it

- existence being political 24/7. no i cant ignore that its just always there

- dating (thats shit for everyone but there are specific annoying lesbian dating experiences such as: MEN EVERYWHERE not just unicorn seeker couples but he/him guys on women's apps, astrology truthers, people with bad haircuts HDJJDJD sorry i'm so mean i just hate the "berlin fringe" soooo much, etc.) and the chance that people you meet won't even take dating you seriously because society prioritises f/m so hard. its messed up because it presupposes unequal division of labour but i wish i could be like an esteemed jrr tolkien type 1950s professor and just be super in love with my wife with whom i'm settled down somewhere picturesque. But I don't think you can get a relationship like that as a queer woman because 1) obviously equality lol idk who even wants that and is not a tradwife 😭💀 2) most women who would like that probably don't think a female partner can give them that :/. Girlies literally be yearning for the masculine societal role because of the associated privileges

- Men being inherently perceived as "good guys" "chill" etc. in mixed academic/professional environments and always taken seriously intellectually, women seen in a more patronizing way/easily perceived as hysterical/a bitch/deficient in some other way

- men being praised to high heavens for doing the bare minimum vs women being always expected to be outstanding people by default

- pick me girl/not like other girls/etc discourse. This keeps happening and nobody ever learns that its dumb 😭

- men being seen as better deeper artists and male historical figures/intellectuals holding universal appeal whereas women rarely got to do anything interesting OR if they did they always get diminished and ignored (largely because media doesn't pick up these stories to highlight). none of you would care about crown prince rudolf if she had been a girl irl and i wouldn't either because often w female historical figures we're expected to care first and foremost about their romantic relationships with men💀💀💀💀💀💀💀 if girls have thoughts about foreign policy 1) they usually couldnt voice them before like 1900s 2) their entire existence and life story from cleopatra to margaret thatcher (yeah evil person but still) is tinged by misogyny from all sides (opponents, allies) which makes for pretty unappealing Content to engage with

- periods LMAO

- strangers feeling entitled to bump into me and get in my personal space (public transport etc)

- the way some feminist activism treats women as a monolith. like all that discourse about how society is not built for women's tiny fragile bodies. Like yeah important point ofc but I fucking hate being erased from existence as a tall woman. you bet if this was being done to short men there would be outcry

- in general people feeling entitled to me and receiving help and advice from me without giving anything in return. sorry i feel like this is just turning into a vaguepost abt classmates

- online queer discourse where there seems to be not a lot of space for this line of thinking that I have?? This is NOT intended as transphobic or even directed at trans people (rather the general community), but sometimes i feel like only trans people are ""entitled"" to hate their pre-transition assigned social role and everyone else has to like it because #girl power and otherwise it's just internalized misogyny or at the very least you misogynistically hating other women for being happy with their position/choices

- i'm tired of typing this is such an embarrassing post tbh

[autisticgirliesbracket]

What makes Lilo Pelekai from Lilo & Stitch the autistic girlie ever of all time? Here's what the people have to say:

Lilo-related asks/reblogs: x This post will be updated after each round!

Image ID in alt text and under the readmore.

[Image ID. White slide with a screenshot of Lilo wearing sunglasses and handing a pink snowcone to Stitch, who is also wearing sunglasses. They are surrounded by text boxes which read,

"ok I've heard ppl say that her weirdness might've developed from the trauma of her parents dying but I relate to her TOO MUCH for it to be just that #1 bit her classmate. me too bitch #2 weird collection of photos of tourists #3 doesn't rly understand how friends are supposed to work #4 obsessed with Elvis #5 ran with the whole aliens thing too damn well"

"Lilo takes pictures of tourists. She needs to feed Pudge. and Scrump."

"She was my weird little autistic girlie representation as a kid"

"She’s just- she’s so autism <3"

"There's no way she's neurotypical"

"Eccentric, creative, has unique beliefs & perspectives. Thinks outside the box. Has rituals to help her feel in control, like feeding a fish she believes controls the weather. Listens to comfort music when sad. Socially awkward. Refers to peers who bully & shun her as "friends." Occasionally lashes out in violence. Has sympathy for those society has deemed "bad" & "ugly." Doesn't grasp the severity of the situation when she's in danger of being taken from her home. Special interest in Elvis."

"She's a autistic icon" End ID.]

[protege-not-protagonist]

I've been thinking about Graces old team

And i realised this...

Agent Avery Stiller, is the only normal (neurotypical) member of the CASMIRC Advanced forensic unit.

Bitch ain't no way a unit, which a 21 year old joins and specialises in mutilation and burial and no-one bats and eye, is comprised of normal people. They fund their staff social functions with an Antisocial-Jar. And this is canon now that I've written it but their last Christmas party was hiring a stretch limo to go to Lazer tag and then an all you can eat Chinese hotpot place.

So far we know there's:

The liaison and coordinator Avery. We love him.

And that The team consults with Dr Boland from the Smithsonian, a forensic archeologist and anthropologist and her colleagues

Then there is also Grace's friends from the second floor she has mentioned, but not by name.

Someone who does the DNA and blood (a pathologist) -I imagine they are a kpop girlie for some reason.

a member who takes a peek at a raw mass spectrometer read out and just goes 'yep... Thats anthracite coal.' so we have a geologist and possible Edaphologist. (Living Soil expert) - I imagine this person is a champion Geoguessr.

So this is who else I imagine was part of the team but we haven't met:

A ballistics expert (guns and bullets) - is contrary to what you would think quite quiet personallity and more appreciative or the ingenuity of guns rather than the firepower, has flintlock pistol collection.

A handwriting analyst and linguistics expert - Karen energy from this one idk why, probably a grammar nazi.

A forensic physiologist and podiatrist (an expert in the way body's move and expert in footprints, shoe prints and gaits) - I imagine this person is older, the oldest member on the team and struggles with their computer and phone.

A chemical engineer and pyrologist (chemical damage and fire) - they are 100% a pyromaniac and have probably committed arson. Would be on the bomb squad if they passed the psych eval.

An entomologist (bugs and decomp)-who I imagine is incredibly salty that Grace identified the Sicarius Spiders before him

A technical analyst (a Garcia)- actually I do have a thought about this one, remember how the four horsemen hitmen had that kid they kidnapped and forced to run their darkweb stuff? Remember how the FBI offered him a job... Well I imagine he would end up here. (Another member of the FBI personally victimised by Cat Adams)

So Gee, Avery really is the living people expert because there is no way any of those people are going to appropriately empathise and socialise with victims or the field agents and police. (Maybe the physiologists cause they have a health care background) But they'd get on great with each other because they're all weirdos together.

So I wanted to extend an invite to you guys. If you guys want to add little head cannons, backstories or names for these team members, I'd love that, because I don't think we are going to see much of them in the story. It would be cool to have them sort of cameo here and there but also let you guys have a bit of fun and personal connection to these side characters who are very important to Grace.

Taglist: @bridgeoverstrawberryfields @cultish-corner @pleasantwitchgarden

[la-principessa-nuova]

About Me

Name: Sabrina

Pronouns: she/her

Age: 28 ± 1

Gender: Nonbinary Woman

HRT: E/Spiro since 2024-05-28

Neurotype: AuDHD girlie

Romantic Orientation: Lesbian

Sexual Orientation: Lesbian

Geographic Orientation: 35° NE

Relationship Status: Yearning

Top Fandoms: Dropout (esp. Dimension 20) and Doctor Who

Creative Medium: All of them but badly

Occupation: Software Engineer

Call Me: Hot, not pretty. JK, call me both, and beautiful too. 😘

❤️🧡🤍🩷💜 🩷❤️🧡💛💙💚💜 🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵

Mutuals, feel free to DM me or submit asks about whatever. I guess everyone else can too, but no bigotry of any kind, and don’t be creepy.

Due to the constant ask spam, I assume any ask/DM/tag asking to donate or share a fundraiser is a scam and block you. See my additional notes below the fold for more details on that.

I have a loose system of tagging that I mostly stick to, and you can find a list of links to tags here.

Additional Notes

To clarify what I said about donations, I promise you that I really do want to help, but there are a couple reasons that I am unable to engage with this kind of stuff, largely due to my disabilities:

Based on past experience, I am not very good at distinguishing between real campaigns and scams without extensive research, which absolutely will take me hours if not days. While I appreciate blogs that ver campaigns that just shifts it from verifying the user asking me to verifying hoth’s blog who verified them and that they really were verified.

I am hypersensitive, and I get multiple spam asks every day with extremely sad stories asking for donations, most of which are probably scams, and I often come on here to cheer me up when I’m starting to feel hopeless, which has been a lot lately. When I started getting these I became noticeably more sad and hopeless and I had to make a rule for myself that I block them without reading it the second I detect that it’s a request for donations. I literally look up and go through the motions of blocking in my peripheral vision the same way my dog looks up to avoid instinctively eating the treat when I tell her “leave it”.

When I donate through an established charity, my employer matches 100% of my donation (up to a limit that I haven’t been able to afford to hit since back when I still lived with my parents), which makes a big difference in the amount of good I can do with the money I donate.

But I do sincerely apologize to anyone who legitimately needs help that I mistake for a scammer and block. The hypersensitivity part does mean that I also have filters set up to block requests for donations, but I do bypass the filters and view them when I’m feeling up to it (I actually do that with a lot of sensitive topics and I highly recommend it).

On a brighter note, I do have a few side blogs. I'm not secretive about them (and often accidentally post to or reply from the wrong one), but I won't link them from here. You've got to put in the work to find them.

I have a few side blogs that I don’t actively hide but also don’t link to. Mostly gimmick blogs and some RP blogs of characters I find it funny to reply as. A couple are more of like me with a different set of filters, but also kinda sorta playing a character? idk it’s hard to explain.

You might occasionally see me mention something offhand about calorie counting or losing weight. I have a medical condition that the only cure for it is losing weight and getting certain nutrients that help with it, so I have no choice but to do that stuff or it will get worse and become life-threatening. I try not to mention it a lot to not normalize diet culture, but it’s not a secret or anything.

But I promise that I have a really healthy mindset around it and mainly the calorie counting is to force me to think about what and how much I’m eating. My goals are really loose and moderate and even then i break them all the time whenever it gets in the way of living life too much.

Also if you feel compelled to give me money, you can do that on Ko-fi here.

TERFs and other transphobes, go fuck yourself.

[worldsbiggestnerd101]

rewatching friendship games and sci twi is so clearly neurodivergent like that girlie has Autism. no way she’s neurotypical

[literalite]

character questions time!! please answer for whoever you think would have the most interesting answers! (can be a different sim for every question)

18, 19, 23, 25, 28, 32, 41, 42, 43, 44, 47

(sorry, I know that's a lot of questions, I just love hearing about people's ocs!!!)

hi!! tysm for this i decided to split the questions between a fewww different characters (i should really get a character page together so this is less confusing)

maria volkov:

18. is your sim neurotypical or neurodivergent?

i would consider her mildly autistic? most of the pack members are neurodivergent in one way or another though so it's not like a huge part of her life tbh

19. is your sim a pet person? if so what is their favourite animal? 

most of the pack aren't really pet people in general sdfghk kind of a byproduct of becoming a giant wolf at least once a month. she really likes horses though, and is one of the few members of the pack to own one. his name is florus

avelina:

23. are they planning to go or have they already been to college? if so, what would be or what was their major?

she wass planning to go to college and major in physics and work her way up to astrophysics eventually

25. what is one thing your sims wants to do before they die?

this is ambitious of her but she really wants to discover her own brand new star. or planet. anything really, she isn't picky

28. does your sim like books? if so what’s their favourite one?

she's a stem girly and doesn't really enjoy reading thaaat much, especially fiction- i don't think she has a favourite book

daniel zhu:

32. is your sim religious?

insofar as he believes in the general tenets of confucianism (which can either be a philosophy or a religion depending on which way you look at it) and also ancestor worship, yes

41. what does your sim look for in a romantic partner? 

he likes people who are very clear and honest about what they want and like- he admires courage a lot! he's sort of more of a follower than a leader mentality and he likes someone who'll take charge and be steadfast in their own beliefs. being short and cute is also something he's found he enjoys ghjkl

42. what is a secret about your sim?

he thinks sometimes he's a bit too serious and predictable and boring of a person ToT every attempt to drive himself out of his comfort zone has been WILDLY uncomfortable for him. the mullet is the most hip concession he can make for himself... dressing even slightly more daring than usual is terrifying for him

heiya:

43. what is a wish your sim has?

she'd like to visit japan sometime, see if she has any living family members over there. she's just never been outside of america...

44. what is a flaw your sim has?

when faced with a difficult situation she's very prone to hiding parts of the truth from others if she thinks they can't handle it or be of any active use in working out a solution. ummm a good comparison to this would be batman's tendency to hide the moving puzzle pieces of an unfolding case from his batfamily. it's not that she doesn't trust other people..... okay she might not trust other people. sometimes it works to her benefit but sometimes it might not

47. If they have one, what is your sim’s greatest regret?

she regrets not saving them. or at the very least telling them she loved them one last time

[cressthebest]

out of all the marauders era/Slytherin skittles/valkeries characters, who do you relate to the most and why?? (idk why but this is always important to me, helps me figure someone out :D)

ahhhhh!! okay um this is going to be a longer explanation than you need, but i love to overshare:

wolfstar is my favorite ship for reasons i cannot describe, and out of it, i probably act more like remus, but i don’t outright relate to him. i, in fact, so desperately want to look like sirius black in the most gender way possible, and personally see him as gender-fluid, which may just be projection, but do not personally relate to him either. i have a mix of his fashion, marlene’s fashion, and mary’s fashion

i do relate to the family issues the black have, when dealing with their mother and everything revolving around that with queerness and expectations (don’t worry, i’m in a safe household unlike them)

but i don’t relate to regulus either except with the family issues and the fact that the fandom headcanons him to have autism. (fantastic hair and fashion sense tho)

the other skittles are too unhinged to be me, including dorcas and pandora.

so that leaves james, peter and the valkarkies.-

-marlene- doesn’t fit. just, straight up. all that matches is that we both like women

-mary- maybe? i like her fashion sense and i’m a huge jewelry type girly and love to dress up. but not enough to relate to her with all her struggles and personality, especially with her sexuality and the way she is viewed by others.

-james- oh sweet james. i’m definitely a gold jewelry person like him. and i’m very mom freind of the group, and i match him with the role i take in romantic relationships. (literally. it’s an issue. all the way down to sex life.. :/ )

but it’s still not quite matching.

that leaves… drumroll.. lily and peter. it’s a mix between the two.

lily- lily, oh my beloved lily. with the beautiful personality and everything so wonderful about her. i wish to be her and i try to be her. and of course, when trying to be like lily, i also come with her faults as well. i have her “will fuck you up if you hit the right nerve” personality. like, the way you know she’s badass. deadly, even, when you mess with her crew. she won’t even hex you, she’ll deck you the muggle way, like you fucking deserve. she’s also struggling with her family, which i relate too, the way her sister calls her a freak for being magic feels similar to the way my brother says gay people are gross. also, the fashion <3 i can’t tell if i am her or want to be her so badly that i’m hallucinating

then lastly, peter. my peter. i’m him in the way that isn’t fun. i’m him in the way that i’m the fourth member who will always be left out of things. the fourth member who tries to fit, and they love me, but the others will always connect better and connect more. and no matter how hard i try, i feel left out and don’t know what i did wrong other than exist. i feel for peter, i really do. god, i feel like him so much at times that it hurts. though i finally know that the reason i always felt like that was autism and it helped me out so much, cause then when i purposefully made freinds with other neurodivergents and realized i understood them better, i felt so much better. i have a great group of friends now- equal mix of neurodivergent and neurotypical. also, i want to encapsulate “just lovers” peter personality. that’s my favorite version of him.

thank you, goodnight, and i hope that wasn’t too much 😭😭 i promise i don’t normally ramble like this

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to be honest? I've never even understood the rationale for fake-claiming in any context. There are millions of people, more dying and being born every day, and you really think we can invent enough genders, identities, disorders, words and categories to cover every possible type of human that's ever been born or will be born in the future???!! of course not, there's gonna be people who fall outside of the boxes we have because there can never be enough boxes. like there physically cannot be enough boxes.

"but they're weird and cringe that's how i know." buddy. buddy come here lean in close i have a secret for you, crazy girlie.

*whispers* everyone who isn't neurotypical, ablebodied, cishet, and fitting the beauty and societal standards for their culture, is considered weird by default. and EVEN people who ARE fitting of those standards can ALSO be weird in other ways. you can't tell me someone isn't lgbt or isn't plural or isn't autistic because they're "weird" when everyone is constantly being called weird anyway. being plural is weird to people. having NPD is weird to people. having skitzohphrenia is weird to people. Being a boy who likes girly stuff is weird to people. being a lesbian is weird to people. having no legs is weird, being fat is weird, there are always going to be people calling other people weird and cringe. you simply CANNOT use "weird" or "cringe" as a basis to judge validity. you just can't???

I literally do not get it like how does that work how do you like...think that you can tell if someone's faking something. what do we have left here, like, tone of voice and body language? autism is a thing and anxiety disorders are a thing so we already know that can vary and be untrustworthy. you literally can never tell as an outsider looking in??!