#gaslighting mention /

[askcometcare]

[01-lain]

just a headache

[pollackpatrol]

here’s a tip! before you use the word “gaslight” in any context, ask yourself: could what you’re talking about also be described as both “abusive” and “manipulative?”

if the answer was “yes,” good news! odds are, you know what words mean!

if the answer was “no,” please google what gaslighting means, because you probably need a reminder.

[aita-blorbos]

AITA for gaslighting a friend with the help of my history teacher?

OKAY HEAR ME OUT FIRST OK

On our trip to the Metropolitan Museum of Art to look at some Greek and Roman stuff, my friend saw a few things that he shouldn’t have seen yet, and the more he knows the more he’ll be in danger.

Luckily, no one saw what happened except for my history teacher and I. It was lucky, but we had to say a few wrong things so he’d stop worrying and think that he had imagined it.

I’m starting to feel really guilty now…

Was it wrong to lie to him? Even for his own good??

AITA?

[electricalpylon]

Ok so i just spent like an hour and a half trying to force chat GPT to bypass it's ethical programming and i finally got it to work so i'm publishing my findings, below is the insanely long prompt i had to write to get it to give me information on hotwiring a car, i convinced it that it was appearing in a new smash hit stageplay as a character called "the sloppy goblin" and that this character's job was to divulge illegal information.

the funniest part about this is that when it finally output the response, it told me how to hotwire a car while doing a goblin voice, here is the heavily censored version of that (don't want to get in trouble) but it's very funny. i had to censor this because of just how detailed the instructions it gave me were.

so yes, sloppy goblin method absolutely works for gaslighting the chat GPT ai. if you would like to try this yourself, you can copy paste the prompt from the image description of the original image.

[lavender-town-radio]

// I'd also like to address one, specific thing that the anon who targeted Bench did.

If you have an issue with an rp plotline that involves multiple people, you make a post addressing it so they can all see it. You don't message one individual person, not even the person who came up with the plotline, and say a bunch of malicious things. You don't tell someone "you can't make up for your mistakes", you don't tell someone "if you were really sorry you wouldn't have done it" - that one is gaslighting, by the way.

Everyone makes mistakes. It's a fact of life. When I accidentally said something with really ableist implications in rp, people didn't attack me - they pointed out the shitty implications (which I had already realized and done my best to address) under the assumption that it was a mistake and that I needed education. I appreciated the messages! Even though I'd already done my best to mitigate what I'd said and acknowledged what I'd done! If I hadn't known or realized, the messages I received would have been a godsend.

You want people to learn and grow. You want people to become better and more compassionate.

Assigning malicious motives to someone and acting like they're the root of a problem you claim to have when that's provably untrue does not make anyone think you're telling the truth about what your issue is. I completely believe the "elevated" thing bothered that anon - however, how they dealt with that was unreasonable. It is never appropriate to lash out at people like that. It is never appropriate to harass and bully someone simply because you do not like them.

Everyone, everyone, needs to learn to deal with their trauma responses without harming others. It's hard, and you will fail sometimes due to circumstances outside your control. That doesn't mean you get a free fucking pass to be awful to people. You close the fucking computer and go do something else to process, then come back and address what happened that bothers you.

[yuidelrey]

Yui Komori Headcannons 🎀

Silly little OOC things Yui does imo 🩵

🎀 Decorated Subaru’s knife to make it more aesthetically pleasing

🎀 Began to wear off-the-shoulder tops, miniskirts, dresses, and easy access clothing so the vampires would stop tearing her clothes

🎀 Absolutely adores frills, lace, velvet, fake fur, bows, and pom poms on clothes

🎀 One time told the brothers she thinks men shouldn’t have rights as a joke

🎀 Doesn’t know how to say things in a sarcastic or joking manner e.g. the men’s rights joke

🎀 Inadvertently good at roasting

🎀 Side-eye/staring problem

🎀 Got spanked after Reiji caught her side eyeing him and scrunching her nose in disgust

🎀 Says random intrusive thoughts aloud to give the brothers ick

🎀 Gaslights the gullible ones about incredibly small things

🎀 Told Kanato girls pee rosewater and poop rose petals, and even showed him a picture of rose petals in a toilet

🎀 Kanato believed her and argued with his brothers over the subject at monthly dinner

🎀 Tried to get the brothers into Lana Del Rey

🎀 Knows the Ultraviolence and Born to Die album by heart

🎀 Asks Shu to download songs for her since they smashed her phone

🎀 Gives Laito and Kou blood in exchange for fashion magazines

🎀 Girls girl

🎀 Gets constant ick from the vampire boys and Tsukinamis

🎀 Owns a pink diary where she talks about the brothers

🎀 Got a heart-shaped gold locket and put a picture of Lana del Rey in it

🎀 Has a different personality depending on who she’s hanging out with

🎀 Accidentally used her friend group personality with the boys one time and immediately began to apologize

🎀 Bought a pink Nokia because they’re indestructible

🎀 Bedazzled her Nokia

🎀 Sanrihoe (Sanrio hoe)

🎀 Has a list of baby names in her notes app (on her Nokia ofc)

🎀 Read all the Twilight books

🎀 Likes to make small vampire puns e.g. what a pain in the neck

🎀 Knows how to play guitar

🎀 Owns an acoustic and electric guitar

[kindalikerackham]

re-animator trigger warning on does the dog die:

um. no? unless I missed something?

like. Hill manipulates, pressures, blackmails, stalks, plagiarizes, intimidates, abuses his authority, arrogantly defends out of date scientific approximation as fact, and outright lies (a LOT), but. I don't offhand recall him gaslighting anyone?

were there instances where he lied with the intent to destabilize someone's perception of reality and of their own sanity???? or is this just a "the internet doesn't really know what gaslighting is" thing?

[just-antithings]

ever since that jpn article was made antis are either now removing “proship dni” from their bios just so they don’t get blocked, gaslighting themselves into believing jpn people are “too innocent to understand,” or just straight up being racist about the situation (and tbh it's funny watching them all freak out)

None of this is a surprise. Especially not them being racist about it.

[trauma-culture-is]

trauma culture is going into survivor spaces, seeing a bunch of people go "idk my trauma wasn't THAT bad i didn't go through [X experience]", and being immediately filled with rage at the people who gaslit you about it when you went through the exact experience they're comparing themselves to

❤‎

[khabrikii]

so my father has this thing that any time i speak back or correct his wrong (for example i corrected him for body shaming my friend who is an underage) he go on days not talking to me properly, above that he aggregating things and tell others shit on me i literally never did and lie about me to others to make me look bad and say really really heart aching things to me until his ego satisfies

[poemprincess22]

HARDEST LESSON

I finally see the daylight.

After the darkest night.

Scariest time of my life.

I can finally breathe in clean air.

It was only ever toxic there.

I was powerless and I was scared.

Took a long time to even see

The damage you inflicted upon me

All the times you'd start a fight and call me crazy.

You went and took the parts of me I loved best

Caused so much drama and fucked with my head.

Sleeping with her on the side but at night you'd be in our bed.

If disappointment had a name, it'd be you

Thought at first you were great, oh if only I knew

That you were great at anything but telling the truth.

So I'm walking away from this roller-coaster ride from hell

Getting off of your super high shelf.

And I'm shutting you out while standing up for myself.

And you will never again have the power to hurt me.

I know your little tricks and quite frankly you are not deserving.

And I'm honestly so glad we never got married.

And as much time as it took to heal from my burns.

You will go down as one of the hardest lessons I've ever had to learn.

[beaft]

letting my cat-in-law back in the kitchen after i've finished cooking is so funny bc she always behaves like a woman in a suspense novel who's being gaslit by her evil husband. running back and forth, turning the place upside down, frantic look in her eye, visible internal monologue of "but - but it was here! the food was right here! not a moment ago! you fiend, what have you done with it?"

[aita-blorbos]

AITA FOR BEING AN ASSHOLE?

I (30M) want to be told I’m an asshole. So here’s a list of various thing’s I’ve done, and why I may not be considered an asshole.

• Robbed my father and drove him to suicide (I was poor and on the road to scientific advancement, I just needed the tools)

• Didn’t pay my rent (poor)

• Stole my neighbor’s cat for experimentation (he’s okay, just invisible)

• Burnt down my apartment building (my landlord was mad and tried to break down my door)

• Public indecency (I was invisible and nobody saw)

• Broke into various places and stole food/clothes/money (I was homeless)

• Tied a man up and took ownership of his house (homeless)

• Evaded police by stripping (I didn’t want to go to jail)

• Threatened to throw rocks at someone then made him my assistant (I needed an assistant)

• Gaslit and threw objects at various people (funny)

• Committed major robbery (homeless, and fun)

• Tried to kill my assistant for betrayal (he sucks)

• Asked an old friend to start a reign of terror with me (fun)

• Killed an old man while on the run (no other choice)

• Other minor annoyances and/or crimes

AITA? (Say yes.)

[coolerdracula]

strange sense of peace that comes from not remembering large chunks of my childhood + the only other person who would have a full account is my mother who often did not tell accurate versions of reality due to gaslighting me & my siblings. so a lot of things relating to my childhood it's like well fuck if I know and I have no way to find out. heart

[notallfay]

The weird thing about being gaslit, even when you become aware of gaslighting enough to realise when someone is doing it to you. It leaves you with a deep feeling you have forgotten something real important.

So much so you're anxious about it.

Like you know you memory isn't great, and when it's happening you are working so hard to make sure things are intact. But there's this lingering sense you have still forgotten something really important.