#gaslighting mention /

[askcometcare]

[01-lain]

just a headache

[aita-blorbos]

AITA for gaslighting a friend with the help of my history teacher?

OKAY HEAR ME OUT FIRST OK

On our trip to the Metropolitan Museum of Art to look at some Greek and Roman stuff, my friend saw a few things that he shouldn’t have seen yet, and the more he knows the more he’ll be in danger.

Luckily, no one saw what happened except for my history teacher and I. It was lucky, but we had to say a few wrong things so he’d stop worrying and think that he had imagined it.

I’m starting to feel really guilty now…

Was it wrong to lie to him? Even for his own good??

AITA?

[lavender-town-radio]

// I'd also like to address one, specific thing that the anon who targeted Bench did.

If you have an issue with an rp plotline that involves multiple people, you make a post addressing it so they can all see it. You don't message one individual person, not even the person who came up with the plotline, and say a bunch of malicious things. You don't tell someone "you can't make up for your mistakes", you don't tell someone "if you were really sorry you wouldn't have done it" - that one is gaslighting, by the way.

Everyone makes mistakes. It's a fact of life. When I accidentally said something with really ableist implications in rp, people didn't attack me - they pointed out the shitty implications (which I had already realized and done my best to address) under the assumption that it was a mistake and that I needed education. I appreciated the messages! Even though I'd already done my best to mitigate what I'd said and acknowledged what I'd done! If I hadn't known or realized, the messages I received would have been a godsend.

You want people to learn and grow. You want people to become better and more compassionate.

Assigning malicious motives to someone and acting like they're the root of a problem you claim to have when that's provably untrue does not make anyone think you're telling the truth about what your issue is. I completely believe the "elevated" thing bothered that anon - however, how they dealt with that was unreasonable. It is never appropriate to lash out at people like that. It is never appropriate to harass and bully someone simply because you do not like them.

Everyone, everyone, needs to learn to deal with their trauma responses without harming others. It's hard, and you will fail sometimes due to circumstances outside your control. That doesn't mean you get a free fucking pass to be awful to people. You close the fucking computer and go do something else to process, then come back and address what happened that bothers you.

[yuidelrey]

Yui Komori Headcannons 🎀

Silly little OOC things Yui does imo 🩵

🎀 Decorated Subaru’s knife to make it more aesthetically pleasing

🎀 Began to wear off-the-shoulder tops, miniskirts, dresses, and easy access clothing so the vampires would stop tearing her clothes

🎀 Absolutely adores frills, lace, velvet, fake fur, bows, and pom poms on clothes

🎀 One time told the brothers she thinks men shouldn’t have rights as a joke

🎀 Doesn’t know how to say things in a sarcastic or joking manner e.g. the men’s rights joke

🎀 Inadvertently good at roasting

🎀 Side-eye/staring problem

🎀 Got spanked after Reiji caught her side eyeing him and scrunching her nose in disgust

🎀 Says random intrusive thoughts aloud to give the brothers ick

🎀 Gaslights the gullible ones about incredibly small things

🎀 Told Kanato girls pee rosewater and poop rose petals, and even showed him a picture of rose petals in a toilet

🎀 Kanato believed her and argued with his brothers over the subject at monthly dinner

🎀 Tried to get the brothers into Lana Del Rey

🎀 Knows the Ultraviolence and Born to Die album by heart

🎀 Asks Shu to download songs for her since they smashed her phone

🎀 Gives Laito and Kou blood in exchange for fashion magazines

🎀 Girls girl

🎀 Gets constant ick from the vampire boys and Tsukinamis

🎀 Owns a pink diary where she talks about the brothers

🎀 Got a heart-shaped gold locket and put a picture of Lana del Rey in it

🎀 Has a different personality depending on who she’s hanging out with

🎀 Accidentally used her friend group personality with the boys one time and immediately began to apologize

🎀 Bought a pink Nokia because they’re indestructible

🎀 Bedazzled her Nokia

🎀 Sanrihoe (Sanrio hoe)

🎀 Has a list of baby names in her notes app (on her Nokia ofc)

🎀 Read all the Twilight books

🎀 Likes to make small vampire puns e.g. what a pain in the neck

🎀 Knows how to play guitar

🎀 Owns an acoustic and electric guitar

[kindalikerackham]

re-animator trigger warning on does the dog die:

um. no? unless I missed something?

like. Hill manipulates, pressures, blackmails, stalks, plagiarizes, intimidates, abuses his authority, arrogantly defends out of date scientific approximation as fact, and outright lies (a LOT), but. I don't offhand recall him gaslighting anyone?

were there instances where he lied with the intent to destabilize someone's perception of reality and of their own sanity???? or is this just a "the internet doesn't really know what gaslighting is" thing?

[just-antithings]

ever since that jpn article was made antis are either now removing “proship dni” from their bios just so they don’t get blocked, gaslighting themselves into believing jpn people are “too innocent to understand,” or just straight up being racist about the situation (and tbh it's funny watching them all freak out)

None of this is a surprise. Especially not them being racist about it.

[trauma-culture-is]

trauma culture is going into survivor spaces, seeing a bunch of people go "idk my trauma wasn't THAT bad i didn't go through [X experience]", and being immediately filled with rage at the people who gaslit you about it when you went through the exact experience they're comparing themselves to

❤‎

[khabrikii]

so my father has this thing that any time i speak back or correct his wrong (for example i corrected him for body shaming my friend who is an underage) he go on days not talking to me properly, above that he aggregating things and tell others shit on me i literally never did and lie about me to others to make me look bad and say really really heart aching things to me until his ego satisfies

[poemprincess22]

HARDEST LESSON

I finally see the daylight.

After the darkest night.

Scariest time of my life.

I can finally breathe in clean air.

It was only ever toxic there.

I was powerless and I was scared.

Took a long time to even see

The damage you inflicted upon me

All the times you'd start a fight and call me crazy.

You went and took the parts of me I loved best

Caused so much drama and fucked with my head.

Sleeping with her on the side but at night you'd be in our bed.

If disappointment had a name, it'd be you

Thought at first you were great, oh if only I knew

That you were great at anything but telling the truth.

So I'm walking away from this roller-coaster ride from hell

Getting off of your super high shelf.

And I'm shutting you out while standing up for myself.

And you will never again have the power to hurt me.

I know your little tricks and quite frankly you are not deserving.

And I'm honestly so glad we never got married.

And as much time as it took to heal from my burns.

You will go down as one of the hardest lessons I've ever had to learn.

[beaft]

letting my cat-in-law back in the kitchen after i've finished cooking is so funny bc she always behaves like a woman in a suspense novel who's being gaslit by her evil husband. running back and forth, turning the place upside down, frantic look in her eye, visible internal monologue of "but - but it was here! the food was right here! not a moment ago! you fiend, what have you done with it?"

[coolerdracula]

strange sense of peace that comes from not remembering large chunks of my childhood + the only other person who would have a full account is my mother who often did not tell accurate versions of reality due to gaslighting me & my siblings. so a lot of things relating to my childhood it's like well fuck if I know and I have no way to find out. heart

[aita-blorbos]

AITA FOR BEING AN ASSHOLE?

I (30M) want to be told I’m an asshole. So here’s a list of various thing’s I’ve done, and why I may not be considered an asshole.

• Robbed my father and drove him to suicide (I was poor and on the road to scientific advancement, I just needed the tools)

• Didn’t pay my rent (poor)

• Stole my neighbor’s cat for experimentation (he’s okay, just invisible)

• Burnt down my apartment building (my landlord was mad and tried to break down my door)

• Public indecency (I was invisible and nobody saw)

• Broke into various places and stole food/clothes/money (I was homeless)

• Tied a man up and took ownership of his house (homeless)

• Evaded police by stripping (I didn’t want to go to jail)

• Threatened to throw rocks at someone then made him my assistant (I needed an assistant)

• Gaslit and threw objects at various people (funny)

• Committed major robbery (homeless, and fun)

• Tried to kill my assistant for betrayal (he sucks)

• Asked an old friend to start a reign of terror with me (fun)

• Killed an old man while on the run (no other choice)

• Other minor annoyances and/or crimes

AITA? (Say yes.)

[notallfay]

The weird thing about being gaslit, even when you become aware of gaslighting enough to realise when someone is doing it to you. It leaves you with a deep feeling you have forgotten something real important.

So much so you're anxious about it.

Like you know you memory isn't great, and when it's happening you are working so hard to make sure things are intact. But there's this lingering sense you have still forgotten something really important.

[caffeinatedgoddess]

When You Name Your Demons....

**TW.....abuse**

This perfectly sums up this little writing exercise. Sometimes, you need to name your demon to exorcise it.

My demon? My abusive ex.

Just when I think I've healed from what he put me through, it comes back to haunt me. And sometimes, I summon that demon myself in a desire to see that he's getting what punishment I hope is coming to him for what he stripped me of (because karma's a bitch). Not my proudest moment, but sometimes the urge to know outweighs common sense. My hope is that asking some of the questions I never got to ask him will complete my healing. Because 10 years is long enough, for fuck's sake, and I don't want to waste another thought on him. And, maybe it's time to fully focus on my self-care. I readily provide Reiki healing to others but don't spend much time channeling it to myself. Maybe that's because I didn't want to fully heal until I was able to put these questions out into the ether. Maybe now that they are spoken, I can work on the true healing that I need.

Did you ever tell them that you were the one who wouldn't let me speak to them? Did you tell them that I actually called, but you told me the only way I could talk to them was if I came back to you? Did you know the reason I changed my phone number and dropped off the face of your earth is because you would leave me a voice message almost daily? Begging me to come back and then in the very same breath call me the worst names and threaten me?

Have you told your friends, new and old, why it is that I left? Have you told them that for 15 years, you gaslit me, eroded my self-confidence, blamed me for everything that went wrong, and physically abused me? That despite your Christian faith, you treated me in a way that would make most people feel dirty and ashamed? Or do they only know the story where I ran off with another man who had brainwashed me? Did you leave out the part where you abused me for 15 years? Does it make you feel better that they don't know? If they knew, would you lose all the sympathy you've gotten?

Did you ever consider that the reason I left your faith was because you emotionally and mentally abused me on a daily basis, all while you professed your Christian faith? That maybe, just maybe, I questioned where God and Jesus were while I sat crying for help year after year, and it never came? Where was your God while I contemplated ending everything? Did you ever think that maybe I felt like I had to answer my own prayers because no one else was?

Have you ever given one second of thought to how badly you damaged me? How the constant control you exerted over me made me feel like I was in a prison? How my body never felt like my own (you even tried to control how I styled my hair and used the bathroom, for fuck's sake)? How the constant blame you put on me for the misfortune in your life wore me down? How I never once did anything to deserve the physical and mental abuse you put me through, yet every day I questioned what I did wrong in God's eyes to deserve what you dished out? Or have the past 10 years been all about you and how you were wronged in all of this (and don't even bring them into it - that is a whole different conversation between me and them if they ever choose)?

I walked away because you made me hate you. Your touch made me cringe because I never knew when it was going to turn into a mean-spirited pinch or worse. You made me not want anything to do with you or anything your life touched. I couldn't trust you to take care of my soul, because you made it clear your goal was to crush it. The only person who ever abused me in my life was you....and only you. According to your Christianity, you were supposed to protect me. Oh, you did a good job of protecting me from others. But no one was left to protect me from you. When I first left you, I turned to our Christian brothers and sisters for help. Guess what. Only one stepped forward to support me, but even her support was limited since her husband was friends with you. Not even the preacher offered help.

I'm stronger now. I'm a force to be reckoned with. I've learned how to replace putting up walls with creating clear boundaries. I've learned compassion for others and allow them to come to me with their troubles, all while maintaining my healthy boundaries. I've become 10 times the woman I once was because I have someone who loves me unconditionally and allows me to be me. Not the version of me that they wish I were. You wouldn't like this version of me because you wouldn't be able to control her. Hell, I don't think you could handle her. She'd be too much for you. Yes, you had a hand in building her, but that's only because she had to put back together the pieces that you shattered all by herself. And when she put those pieces back together, she didn't use glue. She filled the cracks with the purest of gold. Now that I'm finally done with you, it's time to polish away the tarnish and allow that gold to shine.

[thewhalethatcould]

Hello, World.

Hello, World.

Twice the same title; that sounds serious, yet inviting...perhaps hopeful?

I know you do not know me or probably care too much about either prose.

I wanted to sound eloquent but you see I am also like the Little Mormon Girl in Educated by Weston, I believe because she had a similar first names to one of My Little Ponies. You see, I have to make connections like that to try to remember a name, place, or thing.

At times the words for items just disappear from my mind and since I am dyslexic my brain tries to put the pieces together and it just ends up falling into a million scattered pieces. Now if ai could gather all those pieces I would be a millionaire, ta ta tan lol ...Jokes.

I got Mom Jokes. Just think of me as an online mother. Now most of you younger Alpha no sé qué kids probably just know things like phone jacks and cassettes or VCRs from like Stranger Things or something like that. I was born in 87, so yes I am an 80s thing. Ya call it vintage but like my ex best friend,lover,brother, shapeshifter creature, being; human used to say ," Classic not Vintage."

Well my blog has to do with me expelling my demons that person; we shall call him Bennie.

Because of my own personal puns...okay.

Well, oh ... you my call me Wednesday Bellmonte.

I was going to be Belmont since of me loving beating them Vampires. I used to love them but after living the human equivalent of what is to be persecuted and cornered I pass. I am with the Vampire Corpse Hauler Hunters now. Let us kick some Narcissist A-.