#fuck gifted kid programs

[manicpixietransguy]

When I use the term “burnt out gifted kid” for myself I just want it to be known that I’m referring to basically every year since seventh grade. Like it’s not something that hit me in adulthood or high school, I’ve been in a constant pattern of minor academic success and subsequent burnout leading to failure and just scraping by to make it to the next year. I’m good at one thing and that’s testing, so the minute that homework became a major factor in grades I was fucked. Every bit of disability I experience now was happening then I was just so dissociative it didn’t register for years. By burnt out I mean I’m trying to grow out of the ashes of myself, I was charcoal a decade ago and stem programs were fucking lighter fluid and a match.

[the-celestial-bitch]

typical asian parents disappointed that their child miraculously escaped the torture school

[everybody-hit-the-pyro-cue]

specialized education and gifted children programs are so fucked up I see the purpose but the execution and expectations are genuinely horrific I've yet to meet a single one of us that's doing okay besides from those who just reached their breaking point and chose to stop caring

[hopalongfairywren]

The fact that my entire life was ruined because of a math test in 4th grade

[fluffypotatey]

discovered yesterday that the reason my mom disliked my kindergarten teacher wasn’t because she was rude to me, but because the teacher told her that i may be autistic

sooooooooooooooo

the clues were there all along

[blackswallowtailbutterfly]

Someone insisting we don't learn language intuitively unless homeschooled...Did...did your parents put in you in school at 18 months of age? Did a teacher go around a room of toddlers with a dictionary saying, "This is what 'mama' means"? Because if the answer to that is no--and it is definitely no--you learned language intuitively, like everyone else. The finer points you learn in school, and later on your own, but even as you're doing that, you're still picking up words and phrases just by talking to people and reading.

[isabelleadjani]

hate to break it to yall but a lot of kids who were designated as gifted in like elementary school in fact did absolutely not fit easily into the school system. in fact, that difficulty with the system is often the very reason they get the label gifted in the first place.

[dritten170]

Being a gifted kid is great until years later you realize you’ve developed a fear of failure but it’s okay because it hasn’t affected you that bad yet.

Then you try to learn a new video game to play with your significant other only to instantly get an anxiety attack because you feel so stupid for not understanding. They’re not putting any expectations on you, and if they are, they’re expecting you to do bad at first- but it doesn’t matter bc what are you even doing if you’re not good at it instantly.

not that I would know or anything just heard it from my friend’s brother’s second cousin’s ex’s dog.

[theultimatepumpkinpie]

Was anyone gonna tell me that hypermobility isn't always needing to use a wheelchair/get surgery because your joints constantly dislocate and that it sometimes is just being to bend my arms weirdly except apparently that's all my joints and muscles are doing stuff like always without me knowing and now it's suddenly leaving me in terrible pain constantly for seemingly no reason???

Anyway Good news! I don't have an immune disorder. Bad news! My pain is being caused by hypermobility which is harder to treat. But we're working on that and now I don't have to worry about organ failure and whether or not it's safe to get a flu shot.

[luminarily]

So like the other day i found out that my country and also my school district had gifted kid programs, only four people in my class at the time got tested for gifted, and i'm just going absolutely insane over it.

My class at the time had basically everyone in the same group and then a couple of outcasts-- it pisses me off soooo sosososo much that only the "top four smartest girls" in the main group got tested. I'm so mad. I feel like everyone else was personally failed by those teachers.

-what about the outcasts who are clearly "not normal"? Giftedness is supposed to be o special need, 2e kids are even more in need of help to feel normal

-what about the kids who were so smart that they were just completely fucking bored and checked out of class? The ones who didn't participate because they knew too much and got bored too easily?

Literally what about like, everyone who wasn't given the opportunity to be tested, the space to be told "you can be accepted for the differences in your brain"? I am just so mad at these teachers and i know, out of those thirty people, four who got tested, three who passed, and at least two who should have been allowed the test, who i feel were given up on by the people who should have wanted to help them. Ostracized not only by their peers but also by their teachers for being "too weird", not fitting in, when the point was! To make these kids fit in and succeed. I'm so mad

[bibiana112]

ALSO first programming class today and it was practically all logic puzzles to teach how the logic of it functions lmao I am Thriving

[hopalongfairywrens]

Sick of this shit

[mars-ipan]

i wonder when ppl will understand that sometimes people on multiple sections of a societal scale will face a disadvantage and need extra help, support, or reparations for those things because the hurt usually stems from the same position of power anyways

[tinysleepycryptid]

I did not come out of the womb thinking I was special and better than everyone else. Adults around me told me that I was and burned it into my brain that I was going to achieve more than everyone around me because of “inherent ability”. When I instead ended up as a gay, trans, disabled and mentally ill community college attendee, I was perceived as having wasted my talent when in reality, I was just a weirdly perceptive child. I was never better than anyone else. Putting that much pressure on a 8 year old was fucking weird

ohhhhh I get it now. the "gifted kid" discourse exists because people see it fundamentally as a sign of Privilege and not as a largely meaningless category that puffs up weird children before setting them up for the same unremarkable lives as everyone else; thus they interpret people going "the educational system gave me false expectations before ultimately abandoning me to the same heartless world as everyone else" as "why am I, The Main Character, not getting everything I ever wanted."

[vamptastic]

was also crazy how after i got my adhd diagnosis around 16 and i was telling my all my friends about it everybody and i mean fucking everybody peer and teacher alike told me it was extremely obvious and they just assumed i was already diagnosed. which is wild because of the aforementioned getting diagnosed at 16.

[catboysalmon]

OH FUCK ITS GERTRUDE