#fuck acephobia

[badaziraphaletakes]

A message from the fandom for transphobes and acephobes:

(And neither is N*il G*iman. This message is for you too.)

[yourlowkeyidiot3]

I don't understand how people can say aroace people are miserable. If anything I was happier when I accepted myself as aroace. I didn't have to force myself to have crushes or like any boy because I felt like if I didn't then I wasn't "normal" because my whole life I've told that "falling in love happens to everyone" and that "I will find a boy I like eventually" and I felt like a freak cuz all my friends would talk about their crushes and I was wondering "why dont I like anyone that way when everybody else does? I am weird?" and it made me feel happier than ever. Like I got a weight out of my shoulders

So yea aro/ace-phobics can go fuck themselves I'm perfectly fine and happy with not falling in love and having relationships. Peace.

[irrelevant-iguanadon]

Condoms should be available in schools!!! Sex Education in schools should teach you how to masturbate safely!!!

Kinks are okay to have, yeah even the weird ones!!!

It's normal for teenagers to have sex with eachother!!! It's normal to not have sex as an adult!!

It's okay for certain topics to make you uncomfortable!!! It's okay for the same topics to be in media!!!

Ace people are allowed to have sex!!! They're also allowed to be completely grossed out by it!!!

Virginity is a fucking myth and don't let people tell you otherwise!!!

The lack of education and normalization around sex leads to the shitty stuff, guys!!!

[just-sauntered-vaguely-downwards]

I went to a pride march last week and I expected things like trans rights to get singled out (rightfully so) because they’re under such attack. And there were a bunch of chants about it and just general queer rights as we marched, and then one starts:

“Hey Hey Ho Ho, homophobia’s got to go!”

“Hey Hey Ho Ho, transphobia’s got to go!”

“Hey Hey Ho Ho, acephobia’s got to go!”

And my lil ace heart, holding this big ass fucking ace flag, almost lost it y’all. I couldn’t even repeat it back the first time I heard it cause I was like wait they said ace right? Like they’re standing up for us specifically? (Don’t worry, I was yelling it back every other time with all the other ones being listed out)

It hasn’t been too long since I realized I’m ace in relation to my age, but in this time, I’ve seen so much acephobia. Whether it’s infantilization us or saying insane things like “you just haven’t had good sex,” or “maybe it’s your meds,” or the one that drives me up the fucking wall and makes me want to start kicking people “it’s probably just ptsd from being assaulted.”

Like no, not that it’s any of their business, but all three of those are actually false. I’m asexual because I always have been, whether I understood my feelings back then or not. It’s just who I am. It’s part of my identity. And realizing it has made me feel like myself for the first time in my life.

So yeah, go out there, be fucking loud as you want to be about it and unapologetically you 🖤🩶🤍💜

*screams*

HAPPY FUCKING PRIDE

ASEXUAL AND AROMANTIC PEOPLE EXIST AND ARE PART OF THE COMMUNITY

NOW GO BE MENACES TO SOCIETY

[scales-n-art]

Quick PSA, because there seems to be some severe lack of education regarding Asexuality among a certain bunch of opinionated people, who frankly have no place having such strong opinions about something they've demonstrated to be so ignorant about:

Asexuality =/= a lack of libido, sexual appetite, sexual drive, or sexual activity.

Asexuality does = little to no experience of sexual attraction.

There are many forms of attraction. For example, some of them may be: romantic attraction that you'd experience towards a romantic partner. Aesthetic attraction that you may experience when you see someone's fashion style or overall appearance. Platonic attraction that you may experience towards a close friend. Etc.

Asexuality IS a spectrum, we call it the Asexuality Umbrella; SOME people under the ace umbrella may experience no interest towards sex/intimacy whatsoever, some may experience disgust re anything sex/intimacy related, some may be indifferent or neutral about it, and some are positive or even enthusiastic about it. These things may include acts such as kissing and physical touch of the non sexual kind. ALL of these people are still asexual, and their sexual activity or lack thereof has nothing to do with it.

Asexual people may choose to engage or not in sexual activity, and the circumstances under which they choose to do so, and the reasons why, are very varied: physical pleasure, closeness to a partner, emotional connection, finding pleasure in pleasing a partner, etc, etc.

The ways in which an asexual person may choose to find their pleasure is also very varied. And yes, it may be through fiction, because it can be a safe way to do so without being expected to behave or perform in a certain way that may be uncomfortable for the individual. Nothing wrong with enjoying a good smutty book or fanfic, or comic. Harms no one involved. Enjoying this doesn't mean you're not asexual.

Asexuality does exist, and it's way more nuanced and varied than just equalling it to "not getting any."

Now read all that again, but switch Asexuality for Aromanticism. Also a spectrum, also varied, also incredibly nuanced.

So, yes. A fictional character CAN be asexual, AND also engage in sexy times with the chosen ship partner. A Queer Platonic Relationship is also a very valid option, because NEWSFLASH, sex is not the only valid bonding point of a relationship. It can be a strong, important one depending on each individual, but it's not the only way to connect with a partner.

And, NO. Asexual people are NOT "repressed." Asexual people do NOT need anyone to "change their minds". Asexuality is NOT a problem, a symptom, or a sign of trauma.

Some sources to know more about the topic:

AVEN - Asexuality Visibility and Education Network

The Invisible Orientation - by Julie Sondra Decker

The ABCs of LGBT - by Ash Hardell

ACE: What Asexuality reveals about Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex - by Angela Chen

There are many more sources out there, support groups and communities on social media that you can find mainly through AVEN, or with just a simple search about Asexuality on any search bar nowadays.

There's too much info about it now compared to some years ago to remain so ignorant about it.

Do. Better.

[thejadecount]

Pride month y’all know what that means

Time to bring back this beauty

[gordontheengineswifenirmal]

Why am I having NOT having something then? And if you think it’s for attention, why am I happy

NOT getting attention? Stop your ignorance, you make no sense.

“This person is not like me! They don’t like what I like, or what makes sense to me! They must be bullshitting!” You sound like ur doing straight people logic. Or lack thereof. Be BETTER.

Also, I did not create the flag images. I only did the bit in black. Please Google search to find more, and explore your identity further. I may try to edit this to include more in the future.

And for even MORE information -

Here’s more for the whiners who can’t take the initiative to carry on the inspiration of this n make their own great post (also googled) -

[acephobia-is-real98]

This Ace supports Trans Rights. Reblog if you do!

[nekostaresme]

Am I the only one who kinda got ticked off about what Bee said to Mammon, like as a asexual person I hate how Bee said to Mammon "how about you keep fucking yourself ya big asshole" (or something with the lines like that,I don't bother remembering any of that shit) like I don't know about you guys but that kinda sounded acephobic.

Also why did Bee get disgusted at Mammon eating? Like you're the fucking sin of gluttony why are you making that face 💀

Guess it's attractive when a skinny person stuffs their faces with food but when it's a fat person doing it, it's disgusting.

[nyaacatboy]

i'm having thoughts about amatonormativity and why it sucks and they're long-winded and hard to properly express bc it's late at night but i wanted to share them so i summarized them with a meme

this realization brought to you by the realization that a lot of people who say acephobic shit without actively denying asexuality exists just mentally swapped "virgin" for "asexual" and carried on with their lives. this best evidenced by people being "accepting" of asexual women but ignoring/erasing asexual men.

[badaziraphaletakes]

@havemyheartaziraphale thank you for adding those back in! I’m so sorry I left them off!

[melovibes57]

[heartless-aro]

Does anyone else find it sort of upsetting how widely popular House M.D. has seemingly become in online queer spaces with how violently acephobic and intersexist it is? Like, I don’t want to pretend that it’s only queerphobic towards aces and intersex people, because the show definitely engages in its fair share of early-2000s-typical casual transphobic and homophobic language, and I do think it’s pretty biphobic that, from what I remember of the show, they made 13 (the one canonically bisexual character) a promiscuous party girl tm.

But the show is extremely vitriolic towards intersex and asexual people, and I wish that the people who treat it like a haha funny toxic yaoi show would at least fucking acknowledge that. The show actively reinforces the ideas about intersex bodies which are used to justify the nonconsensual mutilation of intersex children. And the way the show treats asexuality is abysmal. I saw someone on here once say that it’s “funny” that House is canonically aphobic, as if it’s just a joke that the House episode about asexuality actively supports the idea that asexuals are all either liars or medically unwell and in need of “fixing”. Why is pro-conversion therapy rhetoric suddenly funny when it’s directed towards us?

I’m not saying that no one is allowed to enjoy the show at all. Hell, I used to really enjoy it too, at least before I got to the asexuality episode (shortly after finding out I’m ace and before I had ever seen even a single other representation of asexuality in mainstream media). But like. Can people at least stop outright ignoring the absolutely detrimental effects this show had on the ace community and the intersex community?

[anxious-witch]

Y'know what? Fuck it, I don't feel like being the bigger person today.

Keep your acephobic opinion to yourself. Idc if you "had the best intentions" or whatever the fuck kind of excuse you may have. You don't get to tell people how they fucking identify.

Repeat after me. Even if someone is very young and they identify as asexual now and realize in a few years they aren't ace, you still don't fucking get to take away that from them. If people find themselves and find comfort in that label, you don't get to be the judge of that.

People like you are why I stopped using the word asexual for myself. Because what if the right person comes along and I am in fact a late bloomer?

Well, guess what. Didn't happen and I still felt just as bad as before, but now I didn't want to use ace as a label because what if I change my mind? Well, fuck that and fuck you.

Asexuality is a spectrum, so even if someone decides they want to have sex one day, that doesn't negate the fact they still don't feel sexual attraction, or feel it very rarely.

Do you know how you sound? You sound like all the people that told gay people they just "haven't met the right person yet" or bisexual people that "well, you'll pick a side eventually". Fuck off. Genuinely, I thought we were past this, especially on goddamn tumblr, especially in JO and Kä fandom, which were such a safe place to sm queer people.

Keep your shitty opinions to yourself or get out. Nobody asked you. And yes, this is going into the JO and Kä tags, idc, you can fucking block me.

Goodbye. Have a day that you deserve

[phoet]

if i see one more person saying they're happy about the kiss scene because "it means ineffable husbands are canon and they weren't being queerbaited" i'm going to put my fist through a wall.

their love was queer before they kissed. you don't need an on-screen kiss to confirm queerness. you don't need to kiss someone to be queer. have you stopped to perhaps think about the fact that physical intimacy is not innately coding for love?

[uncanny-tranny]

Alloromantic and allosexual people can, indeed, consent to any type of relationship with an aromantic person and/or asexual person. Yes, this even includes entirely non-romantic sexual relations or non-sexual romantic relationship. Allo people have the ability to consent, and it's wild to me that aphobes and acephobes are so vehemently disgusted that ace and aro people exist that they end up infantilizing allo people.

It's just wild to me that your ability to consent is revoked outright so long as people are "just concerned" that you might end up in a "non-normative" situation. And by wild, I mean concerning.