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Just as it took Callum a while to accept Harrow as his father‚ it also took Rayla a while to recognize Runaan as his dad.
Matching (adoptive) daddy issues for you and your beloved
#I wonder if Rayla will call Runaan “dad”? Now#isn't it fun#your adoptive dad killing your boyfriends adoptive dad#ithe behaviour is understandable. They both had their birth parents that left them#with the same weird feeling of not belonging#and these new people “replacing” your parents. It must be hard#even if they become your parents as well#tdp#the dragon prince#rayllum#give us the saga#continue the saga
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I think the way baby Yoohyun cried is sooo cute, especially since it was all crocodile tears. Here is this tiny little guy deciding to get his way by crying because he saw it on tv and then his hyung, also a tiny little guy, starts crying too because he was so startled and itty bitty Yoohyun never anticipated that reaction so he just sort of stops crying so hyung will stop crying and this was never meant to end this way.
#sctir lb#sctir#han yoojin#han yoohyun#hyj#hyh#han bros#sorry little guy you should have considered that your insanely parentified older brother is also just some kid#if you can't tell I love young Yoohyun So Much#also I do really like that Yoojin by his own admission didn't know what to do about Yoohyun's apparent distress because he was also a child#he says he was really clumsy in trying to comfort him and (point of the post) even started crying himself because he just wasn't#prepared to be responsible for the emotional well being of another child#and it didn't come naturally to him no matter how much he loves Yoohyun because in order to become a competent caretaker he had to very#rapidly grow up himself#not to mention that Yoojin 'siding' with Yoohyun meant he was being neglected as well so it's not like he had a healthy parent child dynami#to model his behaviour after#...I think these tags have somewhat escaped the scope of the post#tldr Yoojin being a caretaker is a learned skill he developed via trial and error and at the expense of his own childhood
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i’m sooooooo normal about the god of war series. so incredibly normal i liked it a normal amount and would be so chill talking about it. don’t worry about the sign
#god of war#i’m so so so so so normal about it it’s so whatever it’s so haha you know#something something when it comes to yourself you’ll let yourself drown before you change. you’ll die before you change who you’ve become#to survive this long#up to and until it affects the ones you’ve come to love in this life you’ve made for yourself and you suddenly have no choice but to change#it’s fine it’s ok it’s chill. everyone does this.#it’s becoming a parent and loving your child so much you HAVE to change. you HAVE to be better#we MUST be better. than they were.#who’s they. our parents. the gods that come before us. yes.#i’m screaming i’m crying i’m wasting away im disintegrating. there’s no coming back there no return#you are on your knees. you are gripping your son’s shoulders like they’re the only thing keeping you tethered to the earth.#you are struggling with who you are and who you want to become. you are promising to be better.#i’m so normal about parent(al figures) taking responsibility for their actions and choosing to do better#i’m not high enough to really express what’s going on here. can you feel it? can you fucking feel it?#this series has destroyed me.#dad of boy. dad(s) of boy. i will never be the same (affectionate)#can’t remember the last time i finished a series and went ‘oh well i’ve GOT to play it again Now That I Know’#AND I HAVENT EVEN TALKED ABOUT THE BROTHER HULDRA!!!!!!!!!#sindri’s face. has not left my memory#i’m dying scoob#gow#gowr
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"their relationship is romantic" "their relationship is familial" "their relationship is platonic" you're thinking too narrow. their relationship goes beyond labels. the family is inherently queer. their platonic love is romantic. the erotic is familial. each one is the other and the other is them
#.txt#i've gotten to the point of relationship anarchy where i no longer understand the obsession with labeling relationships#there's a post floating around like 'it doesn't matter if you view them as romantic or platonic the point is that they love each other'#and i get the message. however may i propose that distinctions such as that don't even have to matter. consider#bold claim probably. but whatever i didn't have the choice to think about love in a normative way and as a consequence i have thoughts#of course i am thinking about wincest but it applies everywhere. jopzier even#jopson views crozier as a surrogate parent but in an inherently queer way. does that mean he want to fuck his mom? probably not#but the fixation and need for redemption turns the traditionally familial relationship into something far more#do you understand#once you leave the normative behind labels become useless#do sam and dean love each other romantically or platonically or familially? consider: it doesn't matter. there are no words to describe it#their love is queer in the sense that it extends beyond normativity. society holds no sway over them. they are ungovernable#i find it ultimately unhelpful to discuss fiction in normative terms when the characters themselves exist outside of normative society#shows like supernatural and the terror are perfect examples. sam and dean were never normal and franklin crew left normal behind#the arctic doesn't care if you fuck your mom. the impala doesn't care if you kiss your brother#this isn't really about anything i just saw that post the other day and i was like. why doesn't this Hit for me. well this is why#however it IS helpful to discuss fiction set within normative society in relation to normativity. it's relevant!#most stories are not however set within the bounds of normativity. that's kinda the whole point of a lot of fiction#baby i explore relationship anarchy in ways that you couldn't even imagine#<-tldr#i have a tendency to write essays in the notes every time i post something. sorry about that. it feels safer here and i am skittish
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Halfa Dc hero/vigilante + one too many hits to the head via the Fenton Booo-merang = triggering of epic proportions upon the inevitable showdown with Captain Boomerang.
Ok DpxDc fans. Go crazy.
#dpxdc#danny phantom#dc comics#nonspecific dc hero/vigilante or even anti hero#fenton booo-merang#captain boomerang#halfa dc hero/vigilante#captain boomerang: *exists*#halfa dc hero/vigilante: BOOMERANGS BAD! MUST DESTROY!#why is the hero or vigilante of your choice being targeted by the fenton booo-merang you ask?#well how else are the fentons gonna regain their son and daughter's trust if they don't track down other halfas to help?#doesn't matter if the newly formed halfa never asked for their help#or that they've become deeply apprehensive towards boomerangs and anyone who wields them as a result#they're getting it either way.#redeemed parents jack and maddy#not exactly good at the moment due to their unknowingly making some of the same mistakes they did with their son at first#but they're getting there
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being repressive and avoidant because I don't know how to deal with being mad at someone I love #weiwuxiancore
#google search how to tell your dad that he hurt your feelingsssss#sometimes. sometimes you have a bad parent who hurts you#so you become overly attached to the other parent who treated you well#and then you grow up#and the rose colored glasses come off#and you don't really know what to do with it#and you're a very angry person#but you don't know how to be mad this time even tho you are#ghost posts#text#wwx
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#anyway! who’s up crying about Yichan and Eun Gyeol?#me i am 🧍🏻♀️#the father-son love that was fated to happen in any timeline and even if Yichan was a literal 19 year old child got to me all right#LIKE!!! the CONNECTION#Cheong-ah was always going to fall in love with Yichan and he was always going to fall in love with her and they were always going to have#their beloved sons and that love is immutable and unerasable and would always happen even if altering the timeline meant that it would#happen vice versa#like eun gyeol is the result of yichan and cheong-ah’s connection but then!!! he goes back#and yichan and cheong-ah have a connection BECAUSE of eun gyeol#and and and#eun gyeol is like dad….. mom…… I’m going to personally make sure your lives shine because you made my life shine#and then it’s like#he does what they raised him to do so well that he essentially becomes their adoptive parent for one glorious summer#Yichan saying “it’s like you’re the dad I never had”#BUT BECAUSE YICHAN IS THE ONE WHO TAUGHT EUN GYEOL WHAT IT MEANS TO BE A DAD#and the first word eun gyeol ever says to cheong-ah (that she understands) is “mom”#and that’s the word she remembers from her own mom#they took that from her#they took away her mom they took away her connection to the world#but eun gyeol gives that back to her#BECAUSE SHE’S THE ONE WHO TAUGHT HIM THAT#they taught him how to love and then he went back and saw how much they needed love as kids and he taught it back to them#and he returns to his time and the love is there tenfold#GODDDDD#twinkling watermelon#elly's posts
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I think that Donna Troy and Garth/Tempest should have their kids restored to main continuity (maybe at the age they were last seen pre-52 bc I know they??? Died?????) both bc it'd be nice for those two to get closure/second chances at parenthood but ALSO
Because I think it'd be funny if Dick Grayson. "chronic over achiever used to being labeled the defacto Most Adult of all his teen associates" was in his late 20s surrounded by friends who are all (mostly) either married or separated with kids (some of whom are teenagers due to time shenanigans) meanwhile he's got like. A dog
#ramblings of a lunatic#dc comics#dc#back to back Dick Grayson posts.. who have i become??#titans#i just think it'd be funny#CRUCIALLY i do not think this should play into dick being incompetent. he's occasionally a moderate goofball but he's got it together-#-on every front except his personal life#some of his close friends have been married and/or divorced? he JUST got out of the situationship phase w/ babs as of a year ago#WHICH ISN'T TO SAY YOU MUST HAVE KIDS AND A SPOUSE BY YOUR LATE TWENTIES OR ANYTHING#i just think it'd be a fun little look into the different stages ppl are at in their 20s/30s like#Roy is a single dad and has been since he was about 19/20 (iirc? correct me if wrong). wallys married w/ three kids. donnas been divorced#i just think you'd get an interesting story out of it. maybe#plus i do think that married w/ kids is something that dick wants for himself eventually. family is very important to him#but also I'm picturing him being surrounded by his friends w/ babies all the time and being struck with baby fever#babs is NOT on board she is nowhere near ready for parenting if she'll ever even be. take that energy 10000 miles away from her#dick breaking down in the grocery store bc baby socks are too cute and small and babs pretending she doesn't know him#dick: i want a baby#babs: well I don't want to get pregnant#dick (forgetting you can adopt kids in a non trauma bond way): <:'(
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i got offered the promotion at work.... why am i every business owners wettest dream damn....
#yapping#yes my ocd is horrible for my mental health but boy is it good for my wallet !!!!#its not OFFICIAL yet#but it was offered to me and i accepted so theyre seeing how they want to proceed now#cause its not just about me theres a shit ton of changes they want to make that include switching like 5 peoples schedules around#but my team leader said that most of those changes being possible depended on whether i would accept this or not#so well see#id be a team leader myself now#the feminine urge to become a power hungry dictator control freak at work.......#id be switching from my current early morning shifts to late night shifts which is much less healthy on paper#but my body is made for sleeping late i physically can not go to bed before 3am even now when i wake up at 5:30#i might have the money to renovate my apartment now cause i think this comes with a 20% pay increase which is a lotttt#i basically will be earning two incomes myself now 😭#dani said he fully believes Ace Of Spades exists at this point cause everything always ends up going my way in the end#i know it may seem like im flexing but please be aware when i started this job a year and a half ago i was borderline homeless 😐#so its a huge deal for me 😭 and really quickly done as well which is why its so insane#like. in a year and a half only i went from borderline homeless and my parents keeping me on constant phonecalls#cause they were worried id off myself if i hung up#to being a homeowner that earns two incomes by herself while working from home#i feel like in most companies hard work doesnt rly pay off tbh i was just lucky to get into one of the few companies where they do value it#the literal CEO is my biggest dickrider 😭 but i do appreciate him giving me raises randomly cause he feels like i deserve it#but yeah !!!! apparently life altering anxiety that forces you to compulsively do perfect work at any job you ever do#because making mistakes and not giving it your 110% feels like a moral failure so you feel sick at the very thought of it#is apparently what makes the dream worker#if only they knew i dont actually care about this in any capacity.... i am just fucked in the head in a way that works im their favour 😭#this is why all of my ex bosses begged me to stay when i quit teehee#im yapping too much but yeah !! heall yeah money !!
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University ever pushes you so low you have to go buy a couple of beers? /srs/neg
I'm gonna vent in the tags for a moment humor me for once /gen
#No but I'm serious this place is a nightmare /neg#Venting in the tags#humor me for a second. you go to this uni and they promise you a place that will teach you how to become an artist#on both like. morality and skill level. they feed you with bullshit for MONTHS. “oh mistakes are fine! they make you grow!”#or “oh this is a community we work all together there are no discriminations this is a safe place to learn and improve”#and we like. work on this projects - THAT WE ARE NOT PAID TO WORK FOR SO *WE* GET TO PAY FOR ALL THE MATERIALS AND SHIT FOR THEM.#to like “help the community” or whatevrr because “artists are born to inspire others and bring joy” and blah blah blah. BUT. LIKE. THE THING#THE THING IS. NONE OF THESE PROJECTS WILL END UP ON OUR CURRICULUMS. WHAT WE WORK 6-7 YEARS FOR ARE NOT SEEN AS REAL EXPERIENCES.#AS IF WE'VE DONE LITERALLY NOTHING FOR 6-7 YEARS. AND LIKE. THE PROFESSORS ARE SO RACIST AND DISCRIMINATORY AS WELL.#If they don't like you they WON'T EVEN GIVE YOU THE EXAM. BECAUSE THERE'S NO WAY TO DEMONSTRATE IF YOU WORKED OR NOT. IT'S UP TO THEM.#THEY DECIDE EVERYTHING FOR EVERYONE AS IF WE ARE SOME SORT OF FUCKING COMMUNIST KINDA BULLSHIT WORKERS.#Someone fucks up? *WE* FUCK UP AND EVERYONE PAYS. Someone succeeds? *WE* SUCCEED AND EVERYONE GETS THE CREDITS.#THIS IS ALSO WHY NONE OF THE WORKS WE DO END UP IN OUT CURRICULUM BECAUSE ITS MADE SO THAT *THE UNIVERSITY COURSE* DID IT AND NOT *US*.#IT'S FUCKING BULLSHIT AND I CAN'T EVEN GET OUT OF THERE BECAUSE IF I DO MY PARENTS WILL KICK ME OUT CUZ THEY DON'T WANT ME TO BE AN ARTIST#So I'm trying to STUDY for the exams and the “professors” are getting mad at me that I'm not staying 10 HOURS IN THAT MOTHERFUCKING ART LAB.#WORKING AT THEIR NONSENSE PROJECTS THAT WILL NOT END UP IN MY CURRICULUM.#“Oh if you're not willing to put all your efforts for the course this is not the place for you” BITCH I *AM* PUTTING ALL MY EFFORTS!#THIS EXAM IS *LITERALLY* PART OF THE COURSE!! WHAT KIND OF FUCKING BULLSHIT ARGUMENT IS THAT!!!!!#Istg I'm gonna cry I want to kms /NOT SERIOUS#I'm gonna cook dinner. chug my lemon beer. and try to study like a normal person and beg this shit will end soon#Don't worry I'm not going to become an alcoholic I just need something. anything and I'm ABSOLUTELY not gonna start smoking I hate it /srs#tw alchohol mention#alcohol mention#tw smoking mention#smoking mention#vent#tw vent#// mike speaks
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Man…. Boy mom’s are a detriment to feminism and women’s rights as we know it uhh
#holy shit#just saw a video of that boy mom projecting onto her child that when he gets older he won’t ever have to confess to any crimes even if it’s#murder or rape#pick me’s or just male centered women have kids and if its a son you might as well just wish that kid goodbye because it’s over for him#and when that child gets older they’ll just become another loser who women have to look out for man this is ridiculous#I hate that video so much#be in mind her son looks like he’s at least 2 years old bro why are you projecting such horrible things onto your innocent child#that’s a whole baby bro#some people should not be parents bro#get an abortion please#but a lot of these women feel like their worth is tied to being have to have a child and say shit like ‘my little boy is the only man#who’ll ever love me 🙄-‘ like man you’re weird these women are already failing their sons just as much as the father has#rambling#this dumb bitch in the video talking about ‘where’s the loyalty’ nigga so if your son just raped 5 ppl and told you you would protect him?
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the way i need to write about roksana so bad
#personal#i could write a book about that woman i love her so much#her story is so so similar to vitali but from a different perspective but like. they're the same person to a degree#even her arc with like. cutting her hair short and bleaching it. that's LITERALLY what vitali did as well#obviously vitali is a guy but he was a daughter once. both him and roksana went through the same thing and went insane about it#+ roksana's weird obsession with mikhail which has stayed around all those years because she sees him as like. a symbol of freedom#because vitali was always with him and loved him etc etc. all of that made roksana love him too?? if that makes sense??#parasocial relationship with your older brother's bestie. because it's the only thing she's ever known. i need to chew on glass#and the way she feels like it's her responsibility to carry the burdens of her family because her older brothers both left#so she feels like she has to stick around and clean up the remaining messes to have some sort of semblance of a family again#but her parents are out for revenge and her mother has given up and her father is still trying. there's the whole affair thing with ravager#roksana has infiltrate vitali's office and of course she goes to do that. but with her own agenda in it all#trying to get closer to mikhail again as if she will succeed this time and finally get that freedom she's always longed for#and then she realizes that it was never about finding someone to run away with. it has to come from within yourself#and then she leaves. and she leaves so far that no one knows where she went for a good amount of years#AND IT'S SO INSANE TO ME. she did not have to go through any of that#and maybe if she and vitali had talked more and had tried to understand each other more they could've helped each other#instead of just. become strangers. while being quite literally EXACTLY the same. GOD!
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Mentally ill boy whines again. Solution: Get Out Of There
#im fucking TRYING too as well and it's just constant fucking roadblocks or my body screaming to self sabotage and quit and kill ourselves an#d ruin our body and flay ourselves and repent and beg for forgiveness for being a body of sin like. GOD. I'm so tired of it!!!!! and i can'#even stop it because i csnt change my innner voice or the weird neurotic way kf thinking bc my brain goes '#'its keeping us safe! safe! safesafesafe!' bc of Oh Boohoo you got '''''neglected'''' as a child and had your needs not met' well mommy and#daddy sajd they loved you grow up. you got 'locked in your room' and had your apologies ignored ok well youre making a BIG deal about this#top crying boohoo you got bullied. you and everyone else#and then when I go well no they way i got treated was fucked. growing up poor fucked us up. you can still be loved and raised unstably and#uffer bc of it it becomes a fucking game to my brain to list every single way we Had It Better and therefore cant be suffering and its like#do you fucking hear what youre saying!!!! amd then!!!!!! i go through this fucking ten times a day and wonder why i struggle with feeling l#like a human being#and this doesnt even touch the whole mature for your age becoming kind of a therapist to your parent and hearing their issues and adults off#loadinf onto you and like. man. no fucking wonder i struggle so much with interpersonal relationships om top of everything else i dont have#a personality until I know what the person needs from me!!!!!!
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on one hand completely ignoring your emotions is soo good for my mental stability and productivity but man i miss staring at the ceiling and listening to sad songs on loop
#idk if depression is the right word but yeah that author was right you become comfortable in your sadness you start loving it because#it becomes such a defining part of you#if i don't engage in any bad habits throughout the day i start to feel so uncomfortable and wrong and unfamiliar#that i crash and do something old me would've done again :(#the bounce back time has significantly improved tho so that's a relief#also lol who am i kidding pms will come soon im sure#but anyway#i physically can't listen to waiting room rn i listened to the opening notes and it was like#like a dam about to burst#so i just closed the gate very fast#i can't be sad rn because then i will feel lonely and then i will miss people and they won't miss me and ill cry the gasping for breath#i don't know what to do with this emptiness in the middle of my chest crying#man i hope this doesn't have any long term consequences#also i hope one day being good feels like me again and rotting in bed becomes unbearable again#i used to be so active like not physically but idk just like engaged with life more#curiously excitedly#well there's no going back now but i do hope i find a good balance#i was reading normal people and kinda rerealised that woah this sadness will always be a huge part of me. you only get#one childhood and. welp it got too real too relatable#i hope i don't turn out like her every self help book ive read says kids follow in their parents footsteps but god i hope not#this is why boys will always be so scary to me#future seems so bleak sometimes like not my 20s they'll be fire im sure but after that. am i even capable of being loved long term?#if the person who knew me the most well can move on from me in a flash. well then. i don't have anything more to give this is all#what has this post even become oh god. whatever. ill keep trying to be smarter first interesting second hopefully lovable will follow
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It is kind of annoying to me how people draw some happy au of *insert dysfunctional fictional family* but write stuff like "their family if they divorced!!!" like the fuck girl you think divorce would magically solve all pre-existing problems? Sure, they can become happier but it isn't magic. They all are still the same people
#I am biased cause my parents divorced and I didn't become even one bit happier because of it#like sure. Leave abusive relationships. But I am tired of this being posed as easy and happy way and not a hard one#cause it's hard for everyone and it has its own problems. and you can be happy about your parents divorce. I am not#and I am annoyed by how it is never talked about nowadays that it's not sunshine and rainbows#Well I guess anti-divorce people and conservatives might talk about it but I want a sincere conversation not populism#just call it a happy family au if you want to devoid the character of all their trauma#off topic but why grammarly thinks my tumblr tags are 'sensitive field'
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Some initial design choices for the Forrad brothers cuz I've been focussing more on the Myriad Tribe and the assassin squad as I'm planning to try and write Niv's story (finally. After 4 years)
Some information about them under the cut!
Bendik Forrad is the older of the two brothers and is Niv's adoptive father. He found the boy in a burning ship as a newborn, with his parents no-where to be found. He had assumed they had perished in the fire and sunken to the bottom of the ocean, so he had decided to take the infant under his own wing to raise to become a successful member of the Myriad Tribe.
Bendik is a very strict parent (if you can even call him a parent) and due to a fear of bonding with others, not very emotionally available. He lost an older sibling bc of the assassin training program as a child and still has a lot of issues left over from it, resulting in the way he is as an adult. Still, he's regarded as a highly successful individual, being a part of the council and often being told he should challenge the current chief to become chief himself. It is quite unknown if he's actually gonna do this
He, his little brother Ludvig, and Niv all live together in the same hut and due to this forced proximity, he and Ludvig are closer than expected. Bendik still feels some sort of responsibility to his brother, certainly after Ludvig's difficulty entering adulthood
Ludvig Forrad, in return, is quite the bitter person. He failed his first assassin job as a teen and the guilt and shame that has brought him, hasn't faded yet. His whole life, he had been praised and had been told he'd become the greatest of his generation, but after his failure, all society would talk about, was his one mistake.
He's not exactly a loving uncle to Niv, being rather suspicious of this rascal of a boy and very distrusting of his capabilities. Ludvig believes Niv doesn't fit into the Myriad Tribe, but Bendik would kill him if he ever told him that. Still, Niv reminds him of the past that keeps haunting him over and over again - something in those eyes and in that way of speaking triggers him time and time again, causing in Ludvig often taking his anger out on the boy and leaving Niv terrified of what the man is capable of
Ludvig is, in fact, one of the most skilled assassins of the Myriad Tribe, but is never taken seriously bc of his past failures (he's very angy about that)
#the thing with these two brothers is#theyre not even villains#theyre antagonists#standing between niv and his goals#which is what's so interesting about them#it's only after niv gets free that they actively become villains (well. ludvig was one in his teens but that isn't exactly relevant here)#bendik in particular doesn't know if he loves his adoptive son or not#seeing as he's not exactly allowing himself to love or get attached bc they can die from the myriad tribe's extreme way of living#man's emotionally repressed af and meanwhile ludvig only feels rage towards a past he cannot change#and with niv being in the picture... it's a miracle he hasn't succumbed yet if these are his only parental figures#poor baby boi#i really enjoy thinking about this dynamic and the way the forrad brothers have been shaped by their society#it gives them such a deep sense of character#theyre victims in their own rights but make niv a victim too bc of the same reasons#anyways#im excited to finally be developing this in full#httyd#how to train your dragon#oc#artinandwritin's art#bendik forrad#ludvig forrad
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