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"Claims to control the uncontrollable"
This line, is so, fucking, stupid
First off: Emotions can be controlled, people in real life do it all the time, it's not that fucking hard, in fact it's essential to being an emotionally healthy human being
This show tries so fucking hard to be anti Jedi but it just ends up being a complete idiot fest
Moreover, the Jedi are Great at controlling their emotions! They're Really Good at it! I'd list examples, but it's 99% of all Jedi
And you can't waive it away like "oh he's a jerk, you're not meant to take what he says seriously" because these words are very much in line with leslye headland's own, he's an author's mouthpiece, the intent here is obviously not "ignore this jerk he doesn't know what he's talking about" it's "this guy's a jerk but he's got a point", even if said "point" is really dumb and nonsensical in context
#wooloo-writes#wooloo writes#star wars#sw#pro jedi#in defense of the jedi#on emotions#emotions#emotional control#emotional control is self control#self control is key to being a better person#anti acolyte#anti the acolyte#the acolyte critical#acolyte critical#leslye headland critical#anti leslye headland#jedi#jedi order#the jedi did nothing wrong#the jedi were right#āemotions are uncontrollableā#bitch my emotional control is the only thing keeping me from finding headland's house and punching her in the goddamn throat#wooloo favorites
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what is with men being mad any time a woman raises her voice where did that even come from. someone posted a video of a small electrical explosion, and the top comment was of course the woman screams. the second comment is women try not to scream challenge, level impossible. i had to go back and watch the video again. there is, somewhat fainty, a little gasp emitted off-camera, more of a yelp than a scream. it is mostly lost in the crack of the explosion. afterwards, you hear her voice, shaken, say, are you okay?
i am helping one of my friends train her voice pitch lower, because she wants to be taken seriously at work. she and i do each other's nails and talk about gender roles; and how - due to our appearance - neither of us have ever been able to be "hysterical" in public. we both appear young and sweet and feminine. she is cisgender, and cannot use her natural voice in her profession because people keep saying she appears to be "vapid". we both try to figure out if our purposeful voice lowering is technically sexist. is it promoting something when you are a victim to it?
a storm almost sends a pole through a car window. in the dashcam, you can hear the woman passenger say her partner's name twice, crying out in alarm. she sounds terrified. in the comments, she is lambasted for her lack of calm. how is that even fucking helping?
in high school, i taught myself to have a lower voice. i had been recorded when i was genuinely (and righteously) upset; and i hated how my voice sounded on the phone speakers when it was played back. i was defending my mom, and my voice cracked with emotion. it meant i was no longer winning the argument: i was just shrieking about it.
girls meet each other after a long summer and let out a little joyful scream. this usually stops around 12-14, because people will not tolerate this display of affection (as it has the effect of being passingly annoying). something about the fact that little girls can't ever even be annoying. we are trained to examine each part of our lives (even joy) for anything that could make us upsetting and disgusting. they act like teenage girls are breaking into houses and shrieking you awake at 3 in the morning. speaking as a public school educator: trust me, it's not that bad, you can just roll your eyes and move on. it does not compare to the ways boys end up being annoying: slurs in graffiti, purposefully mocking your body, following you after you said no. you know, just boy things.
there's another video of a man who is not allowed to yell in the house, so he snaps his fingers when he's excited about soccer. the comments are full of angry men, talking about how their brother is unfairly caged. let him express himself and this is terrible to do to someone. eventually the couple has to address it in a second video: they are married with a newborn baby. he was trying not to wake the infant up. there is no comment on the fact women are not allowed to yell indoors. or the fact that it could have been really alarming or triggering for his wife. sometimes i wonder if straight men even like women, if they even enjoy being in relationships with them.
for the longest time, i hated roller coasters because it always felt inappropriate and uncomfortable for me to scream. one of my friends called me on it, said it was unusual i'm so unwilling. i had to go to my therapist about it. i don't like to scream because i was not raised in a safe situation, and raising my voice would have brought unsafe attention towards me. even when i am supposed to scream, it feels shameful, guilty. i was not treated kindly, so i lack a basic form of self-protection. this is not a natural response. it is not good that in a situation of high adrenaline - i shut up about it.
something very bad is happening, i think. in between all the beauty standards and the stuff i've already discussed - this one feels new and cruel in a way i can't quite express. yes, it's scary and silencing. but there's something about how direct it is - that so many men agree with the sentiment that women should never yell, even in an emergency - it feels different.
is the word shriek gendered automatically? how about shrill or screech? in self defense class, one of the first things they tell you is to yell, as loud and as shrilly as you can. they say it will feel rude. most women will not do this. you need to practice overcoming the social pressure and just scream.
most women do not cry out, even when it's bad. we do not report it. we walk faster. we do not make a scene. what would be the point of doing anything else? no matter what we do, we don't get taken seriously. it is a joke to them. an instagram caption punchline. we have to present ourselves as silent, beautiful, captivating - "valuable."
a woman is outside watching her kids when someone throws a firecracker at them. she screams and runs towards her children. in the comments, grown men flock together in the thousands: god. women are so annoying.
#warm up#writeblr#this one has bothered me for a bit#any time a woman does something even passingly annoying we treat it like a fucking crime#hey man. women are allowed to be annoying. everyone forever is allowed to be passingly annoying#as long as they aren't hurting anyone/thing#like u wanna know something? i find it super annoying that men don't wear seatbelts#why arent there thousands of comments on driving videos thats just like : men try not to die in a car crash challenge#''this briefly annoyed me''. okay??????? AND????????????????? go get ur self a cookie and calm down about it#ur not entitled to control other ppl's experiences and emotions just so u can maintain ur own peace#if being briefly annoyed ruins ur whole day! you! need! therapy!!!!#men try not to become immediately angry about nothing challenge: level impossible#ps author is nonbinary. we didn't even get into the gender presentation thing#the fact men think it's SEXY that my voice is on the lower end....
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Common Sense for women in their 20s
Define your raison d'ĆŖtre
Journal regularly, in fact daily
Figure out the right hairstyle for you
Buy clothes that fit your body type
Learn to do you own makeup if you'd like to wear it
Observe, observe, observe
Try to participate in the society
Know that not everything is within your control
Do not live in fantasy or fear, they are distractions
Read books
Learn to form you own opinion
Do not force friendships
Do not stress the small stuff
Spend time getting to know your self
Know women's history & History and use it to your advantage
Have some intellectual rigor
Create your own community
Find a third space
Take your vitamins
Your wellbeing and wellness should be your priority
Have role models for every area of your life
Have discretion
Do not be quick to anger
Have mentors and be a mentor to others
Your social skills will take you far
Be responsible, the world is not so forgiving to women
Know when to stand out
Know when to fit in
Curate your life to fit your goals and desires
Understand strategy and how best to use it to your advantage
Get acquainted with what maks the world go round
You have to climb socially
You need allies in areas where you want to win
Be kind
Be content with what you have, otherwise you will pay the price
#self improvement#self love#growth#mindfulness#self development#education#beauty#self care#classy#self help#self control#self discipline#self worth#emotional intelligence#get motivated#mindset#reading#books and reading#booklr#new books#new year
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some of the right words
#akia art#olba#baxter ward#olba mc#maggie fighting for her life (colorized)#girl went into step 3 a casual dater and it took all of two (2) moments for her to accept she was screwed#doubly so bc it was supposed to be seasonal š¤£ it's such a fun premise for how it engages the mc's own complexities#i wonder how long it took baxter to fall on his ass tbh#i feel like he was self-aware enough to know it was happening but there had to have been an element of frog in boiling water to it#what w all that 19 yo emotional constipation LMAO#and the writing's preoccupation w coexisting dualities#the recoil of refusing to perceive until perceiving happens beyond your control must be insane#anyway i was also fighting for my life trying to draw a mouth kiss and that's why i've avoided them until now#tell me why it's giving the slobbery make out meme šš¤£
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SymbolĀ ofĀ Peace!
A fan-animation I startedĀ makingĀ last summer. IĀ didn'tĀ expectĀ itĀ toĀ take me so long, but IĀ kept goingĀ until final.
#my hero academia#boku no hero academia#all might#toshinori yagi#fan animation#thank you MHA#mha#bnha#animation#emotional self-control so important
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Caranthir
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#Caranthir#my love#silmarillion#silm#the silmarillion#tolkien#and finally the quest of completing all 7 of them goes on [epic music in the background]#i had a hard time constructing a card for caranthir and i quit all my previous ideas and just drew something that felt right#resulting in a piece that isnt really what i wanted but i had soo much fun drawing him <3#not much symbolism going on here but#i choose columbine on his mantle - as a symbol for grief and also self hatred as columbine stands for weakling#columbine is a loaded flower in christian symbolism - and as a parallel i feel like caranthir is quite religious#like staying true to customs and traditions and seeking help in prayers to Eru as a way to control his wild emotions#i have to stop here - this is a rabbithole 8'D
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my only complaint about 2005 dw is that we didnāt get more episodes with gung-ho mortal baby jack harkness. absolutely smitten by that fucker
#I mean. who isnāt. thatās kinda the point#exactly what he Wants#im saying this because heās pretty but also because as much as I think the direction he goes in is intetesting and I love torchwood with#all my heart (as much as it Hurts Me) thereās something so novel about chaotic rebellious pre-resurrection jack#that you never truly get after that first season#like itās always there in the foundation of his character to a degree but he does end up with a lot more self control and people look up to#him and heās much more orderly and and all-around not really chaotic anymore (torchwood as a group is chaotic in certain ways for sure but#he himself? not often. mostly only in trying situations or when highly highly emotional)#and donāt get me wrong it all makes sense narratively. that heād end up like that. heās had literally centuries to gain wisdom and#self discipline and to learn how to be a proper leader and to become jaded and an existential black hole of a man#but. yknow. I just miss that sexy egomaniacal revolution-leader type jack#anyway. at least he gets to fuck around with guys on screen in torchwood though. definitely an upgrade#kibumblabs#dw#doctor who#jack harkness
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since I was a child I have always liked the Hulk due to his sadness
#the mcu will never do him right#i actually did get into the hulk around the time as a kid i started struggling w depression and panic attacks#so i related to him struggling to be understood and with his lack of control over his emotions#and the sort of 'double self' where the hulk is all uncontrolled emotion
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Remember when Howard had that idol instead of making wishes it corrupted him but Randy never learns it. So when Randy discovers that everyone in Norrisvile has been mind controlled by Evil Julian. Randy is overwhelmed and doesnāt know what to do his first instinct is to run to Howard that he doesnāt know whatās going on with his mom, Theresa, Heidi or anyone he just needs his best friend. All Howard responds with
āCalm down itās okay, Randallā
Randy realizes heās alone
#Randy doesn't have the nomicon anymore#weinerham#a bit one-sided though#Howard is a mix of his dream self and possessed#possessed Howard#punk howard#rc9gn au#rc9gn#rc9gn fanart#angst#possession#possessed howard isn't like the rest of the controlled norrisvile he still have his emotions but it's just warped to be āhappierā#randy cunningham 9th grade ninja#randy cunnigham#howard weinerman
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#manipulation#manipulative#controlling#mind control#disrespect#toxic friends#abusive people#narcissistic abuse#mental abuse#emotional abuse#let them#let it go#letting go#mental growth#mental health#mental strength#self reflection#self improvement#self help#new life#new beginnings#be yourself
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what if I told you johnlock was real in 2024
#artofcassafrass#this is the only holmes im like ok with that ive drawn#his face is so . frustrating to draw in perspective#watson is easier and as much as i reflexively give him a curly mustache its just not working for me#its because i have no self control and always over curl it and make him look fuckin GOOFY#so i draw the curl then erase and thats kind of the shape#to me watson holds his emotions in his nose and mouth when angry or frustrated. the motion is like puckered inbetween his eyes#for holmes its all like a horizontal line across the brow#from his browline and downwards is where the pull of his face goes.#also when acd was describing holmes in The boscombe valley mystery or whatever . i tried to speed sketch holmes#but it made me laugh and i couldnt finish#mans was on a MISSION
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JJ Maybank character analysis
The meaning of the gun
"I got this thing, you know, to protect us" (JJ Maybank, Season 1, Episode 3)
At the start of the Pilot we see JJ Maybank as a funny, imaginative, rebellious guy who, although doesn't really think through the consequences of his actions, seems quite harmless.
However, his personality becomes a bit darker and erratic after he steals a loaded gun. He gets literally obsessed with always carrying it around and, to the dismay of the Pogues, does not hesitate to show it off for intimidation.
The possession of the gun holds a deep symbolic meaning for JJ Maybank, which goes far beyond the simple necessity of self-defense. Psychologically it can be described as "compensation" and a "defense mechanism." These terms describe how individuals use symbolic objects or behaviors to cope with inner conflicts or to make up for a lack of control in their lives.
The gun as a symbol for power and control
For JJ, who grows up in an environment where he has little control over his own life and safety, the gun symbolizes the opportunity to regain control. The gun gives him the feeling that he can protect himself and his friends.
Also, JJ is the one who faces the most oppression from many sidesāwhether it's from his abusive father, societal stigmas, or conflicts with the Kooks. Owning a gun represents a form of power that he otherwise lacks. It serves as a means for him to defend himself against those who oppress him.
In a powerful scene in Season 1, JJ points the gun at his abusive father and later breaks down crying to his friends: "I can't take it anymore... I was gonna kill him!"
The gun as an expression of JJ's inner conflicts
JJ's decision to possess a gun is an expression of his inner anger and desperation. The weapon represents his deep-seated frustration and his drive to combat the feelings of helplessness that overwhelm him due to his familial and social circumstances. It also expresses JJ's self-destructive tendencies. His willingness to take extreme measures highlights the depth of his emotional pain and despair.
The gun as a proof of coming of age
For JJ, forced to grow up early due to parentification, the gun also symbolizes his claim to independence and maturity. It is a means through which he can prove himself as capable and adult, someone who can protect himself and others.
Because he is often not taking seriously, JJ believes that possessing a gun will earn him more respect. It is an attempt to strengthen his position in the social hierarchy and assert his autonomy.
"(...) Remind you that I am the only one who can properly defend us." (JJ Maybank, Season 1)
The key moment of JJ losing his weapon
In "Outer Banks" Season 2, Episode 4 JJ Maybank finally gives up his weapon. It happens when the Pogues are about to get cornered by the police. JJ brandishes his gun in order to assert control over the situation. Recognizing this, John B steps in by assertively taking the gun out of JJ's hand, letting it fall to the ground, gently reassuring him, that he is going to be ok.
This message was extremely important for JJ, lifting the heavy weight of responsibility finally off his shoulders. JJ, being usually prepared to constantly put his own life on the line for the well-being of his father or his friends in order to "earn" their love and respect, was now protected and guided himself by his best friend.
"It's gonna be alright." (John B., Season 2, Episode 4)
After a short moment of indecisiveness and shock, JJ gives in and completes the act by quickly kicking dirt over the gun, so it stays hidden before the police can find it.
This is one of the most powerful, though underrated scenes in Outer Banks, because it really marks a key moment of JJ's personal development. It signifies his willingness to confront his inner demons: giving up control- for once not relying on himself but really trusting someone else's judgement. He is also accepted and cared for without having to proof himself or fulfill someone else's needs beforehand.
#jj outer banks#jj obx#rudy pankow#john b routledge#chase stokes#obx#jj maybank#parentification#character analysis#luke maybank#compensation#obx s1#obx s2#control issues#outer banks#character development#symbolism#psychological analysis#character arcs#power and control#inner conflict#coming of age#self defense#emotional struggles#netflix series#tv characters#mental health#tv drama#resilience#inner demons
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#wisdom#discretion#tact#diplomacy#kindness#compassion#empathy#understanding#forgiveness#letting go#moving on#self-control#self-awareness#emotional intelligence#conflict resolution#communication#relationships#boundaries#art#photography#spilled thoughts
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TED Talks for the New Year
Here are TED Talks that will give you a guide to a successful year
How to learn anything
Power food for the brain
Secret to self-control
Don't be a jerk to yourself
Building your identity capital
Improving your body language
What your future self wants
Saying Yes
Habits of original thinkers
Become the person you can't imagine
Designing the life you want
Be your own life coach
How to talk so that people listen
Curiosity over ambition
Life is your biggest project
How to achieve your most ambitious goals
#self improvement#self love#beauty#growth#classy#mindfulness#education#self development#self care#preppy#self control#self worth#self help#hot and educated#educateyourself#educators#mindset#mind control#emotional intelligence#bookworm#book review#ted talks#new year#life goals
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emotional support strawhat
#is the emotional support in question the actual hat or the smiley boy? yes thanks for asking#lawlu is actually so dear to me i canāt even explain#something about law having been prepared to die in dressrosa and luffy essentially going ānuh uhā#anyway one piece took over my sanity and i caught up in a few months since i have no self control#if you see me drawing law for the next 10 years just smile awkwardly as if watching the village crazy old man and keep scrolling#canāt help but project onto a sad introvert hermit scrawny man#lawlu#trafalgar law#monkey d luffy#one piece#okyu's fever art
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