#dont eat enough dont sleep enough dont socialize enough dont exercise enough

[youreviltwin]

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[phagodyke]

my flatmate asking me the day before "do u want to hang out w me and [old friend] everyone else cancelled so I can invite u now" is not the heartfelt offer she thinks it is :^/

[libraford]

I want to preface this with the statement that weight is not an indicator of health and health is not an indicator of worth. And that when I talk about weight loss I am using it in the framework of someone with a family history of eating disorders, and that my personal health journey is not a celebration of numbers but an exploration of reaction to a wide variety of factors. I'm tagging things appropriately.

But I am pleased to announce that I have lost 16 pounds since my highest weight, putting me in the 260 range after 2 years.

This is without significant changes to my diet, but small changes in lifestyle and activity.

Factor 1: 2 years ago, i quit my job at the flower shop that had me experiencing constant stress and put me on my feet 8-12 hours a day, 13 days in a row, for 3 years. There were few good days at this job, which resulted in an ulcer (which I named after the owner of the company) sleeplessness, jaw tension, and weight gain. I often described this job as 'wolves in captivity'- we were at each other's throats a lot. My job now pays considerably less, but is much less stressful. (Even if it was higher paying, I still wouldnt have enough money to buy a house, had i stayed.) I hear that it takes about 2 years for stress reactions to slow down in the body, as cortisol levels regulate. Or something.

Factor 2: I started taking belly dance classes, which is definitely a workout, even if it's only once a week and not as intense as, say, cardio. But I dont think of it as exercise so much as it is an activity and a social time. I think if i did it for exercise instead of a fun thing that has a creative element, I would hate it. Additionally, I've been doing low-impact stretches 3 times a week before bed, which has been helping with sleep.

Factor 3: this is probably not like... scientifically proven, but I think that widening my social circle to include other queer weirdo pagan artists in my area and reducing the sense of adult isolation has improved my overall health in a general kind of way and that has an affect on stress and, therefore, weight gain.

I want to reiterate that skinny is not the goal here- I'm only tracking my weight once every six months or so as a check in to see like... where my body is at and if the stress is creeping up on me in ways I dont notice. I do think that slow, steady weight loss like I've been experiencing is part of a positive trend towards mental health, in my specific situation.

[hearthandheathenry]

14 Ways To Live A Healthier Life That Anyone Can Do

Use cast iron, stainless steel, glass, and ceramic cookware/dishes. Use wooden and steel for the utensils. Ditch the plastic and chemicals! They are even finding microplastic in the blood of newborn babies! If you can't afford to switch, switch slowly and buy second-hand! These materials will last through generations!

Buy and cook more fresh, high-quality food. Stop buying premade and processed garbage! The hidden massive amounts of fake sugar and additives in everything is far more damaging than a little bit of extra grass-fed butter or grass-fed meat on your plate. You can find local and even organic produce and meat for cheap at your local freshmarket, mexican grocery store, or asian grocery store. Aldi and Trader Joe's are also healthy yet cheap stores! You will also be surprised how little time it takes to cook versus having something pre-made, and with home-made food you'll have control over exactly how much sugar, fat, etc you have in a given meal. Neither of these are bad in moderation, but the key is moderation!

Prioritize your health and try to create less stress. Brush and floss your teeth, take care of your skin, eat as well as you can, move more, and sleep enough. These are things you should be doing AT MINIMUM to stay healthy. Stress also has a huge impact on health, so it is important to do your best to lower everyday stress and balance your hormones.

Do things that make you feel good. This ties into the less stress philosophy and the rule of everything in moderation, and this looks different for everyone, but generally focus on hobbies and habits that are good for you overall and dont cause addiction or mental health issues. The more things you incorporate into your life that you enjoy, the more you will enjoy your life.

Be aware of your feelings and honor them. No ignoring how you feel deep down! Notice what makes you smile and what makes you sad. Feel it all and try to see what your brain and body are trying to communicate to you about things. Your emotions and thoughts have a purpose, try to see what they're saying.

Try to wear or use more organic materials. Try to use cotton, linen, wool, etc for your clothes, sheets, and more. For jewelry try to use gold, silver, steel, copper, etc. Drop the acrylics and plastics. Invest in your clothing and wear quality materials - your health and wallet will thank you.

Try to kick any drug or alcohol habits. We only have one body in this lifetime and these things WILL catch up to you healthwise. The short-term dopamine is not worth the long-term consequences. Ask anyone who's suffered from their decisions from when they were younger.

Spend more time in nature. Being outside has many health benefits and it does incredible things for mental health. Find a place you can visit outside that brings you peace. Try taking a daily walk.

Learn to set boundaries for yourself. Including towards yourself! If you are pushed past your limits of exhaustion, honor your body and rest. It is okay to have soft, flexible boundaries, or hard boundaries, but they are rules we put in place in regards to ourselves to keep ourselves safe and happy! IE - "If I need sleep I will not keep pushing myself and I will go to sleep" or "I will not put up with being yelled at and I will remove myself from that situation".

Walk as much as you can, while you can. Try to opt out of convenience when possible and walk a little further to the front door of the store or try incorporating a daily walk into your routine. Moderate exercise is great for our health!

Do something daily that will exercise your brain. Whether it is a fun crossword puzzle or just something in your daily life you need to problem solve, do something that is going to flex that brain power and keep those pathways firing. If we don't use our connections, we literally lose them over time!

Talk to at least one person a day for at least 5 minutes. We are social creatures that thrive off community, so it is extremely important for our mental health to find connection with others and feel seen and heard and like we matter. Not only that, routinely reaching out to others will help you make and maintain relationships of all natures!

Educate yourself. Learning shouldn't just stop after you finish schooling. You should continually be trying to further your knowledge about yourself and the world around you. You live in the age where information is readily available all the time, so make an effort to use it to better your life, and learn how to sift through the misinformation as well. Not knowing how to do something is no longer an excuse as an adult when you can easily look it up or ask for guidance.

Consume more positive media and less media overall. What we watch and listen to really affects our thoughts, moods, and subconscious. There is a reason upbeat music motivates us! Try to keep your media exposure to uplifting and feel-good things rather than ones that cause anxiety or sadness.

[nixierain]

Another Vent cause I'm in a mood *Shrugs*

Tw: Yk my mental state is warning enough HAHAHHHAHAHAHAHAHHHAHA

SOOOOOOO.... Any one else Feel this craving for attention that can rarely be fed and are always seeking it to the point you develope toxic traits just to get a smither of it or to test if people you love by doing these toxic traits

And also obsessing over people WAY too unhealthily much to the point where you cling to them or just stalk them (Not my greatest moments) And that you cannot for the life of you respect their boundaries and it kills you when they dont like you back. Then iy spirals and you lose them as a friend and you feel worse.

Oh and randomly get different Headmates(?)/other voices in your head? Or talk to spirits a lot of the time. And eventually nothing feels real anymore and lose your identity several times in a year. And all you want to do is go home even though it doesnt exist

Or you dont have motivation so you just sit around all day and be lazy Or perhaps feel this NEED for perfection or else you get frantic. Or you just randomly like to organize and if something is out of the set organization you almost flip out and need to reset it. And if somethings not perfect or your not doing perfect you get stressed and sometimes even feel sick from it?

Does anyone feel like they cant eat? And randomly the thought of food makes ou feel sick and you rarely feel hunger (Its getting better though) But the pangs either are nauseating or just go away after five minuets. Also you can only drink water at certian times of day and you need it to be specific or else it makes you feel sick? So you just avoid it and drink everything but water. So you just are always dehydrated, and you dont eat healthy at all, but your also have this knawing worry about your weight and how you look so intead of working out and exercising (Cause it hurts) you just eat less to the point where your parents comment on it and force you to eat more?

And your medications work, but you still have depression and it hurts and you just get mood swings (Mostly revolving around your cycle.... Woo hoo Genderfluid and trans misadventures -_-) that just make you want to die. ALSO your depression spikes when your bored,and its SO fucking hard to find something to do cause you arent in school yet again.

OH and you hate sleeping a full amount of sleep cause you feel like you oversleep so you deprive yourself... And that could connect to your hallucinations... That also probably connects to BPD.

And you, without school, have lost your social skills and now you overthink EVERYTHING online. and You take EVERYTHING seriously. and you also have turned into that "Erm Ackshually" kid and NEED everything to be right because of your perfectionist problems

Also due to your life you physically cannot comprehend WHY people care about you because your self-esteem has withered and died. You also trust people WAYYYY too easily.

Yeah thats about it for now, I'm also cutting myself off rn

[jocotheoddity]

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My Top Posts in 2022:

#5

i want to be mothman

1 note - Posted September 28, 2022

#4

pre-test stress got me crying at the “who you are” scene in moana

1 note - Posted October 22, 2022

#3

Would it be inappropriate to make an Encanto Wolfwalker AU where Mirabel gets the gift of turning into a wolf in her sleep?

According to the websites I’ve looked at, there aren’t any wolves in Columbia, which could add a sort of social pariah aspect because “what the heck is that creature.” 

IDK if she would have the healing aspect, she wouldn’t have a magic wolf pack or contagious wolfiness.

2 notes - Posted January 1, 2022

#2

if i was a wolfwalker i would get enough sleep

3 notes - Posted January 7, 2022

My #1 post of 2022

Just make the wolfwalker au with a colombian animal.

Like a jaguar?

I know theyre not pack animals but i dont know of any pack animals in colombia

I have done a bit of research in to Columbian wildlife, lots of birds.

The closest I could find to a wolf-like animal that's social-ish are the Crab-Eating Fox and the Bush Dog.

The crab-eating fox is out because they live in pairs and hunt alone, too solitary.

The bush dog, on the other end, lives in groups of up to 12, hunts in groups ranging from 2-12, and has been known to hunt capybara. They have an association with water, like the river where the Blessing originated, and communicate through vocalizations when needed.

They sound like the perfect animal for this, right? Just one problem.

This is what they look like:

They're under a foot tall, 29 inches long at most. These dudes are tiny, and they're rare enough that they were thought to be extinct for a while.

So, the best option for a Wolf Walker AU is this itty bitty canid that lives in packs and makes weird noises.

The best part? They smell like vinegar.

7 notes - Posted February 15, 2022

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[thevirgodoll]

idk if tou will ver reply to this but lets go

first off sorry for my bad english. I fell really insecure bc of my body. Im not skinny, im not fat, im not thick, im...a square, i dont have ass and got a huge belly. When i look sideways in the mirror i feel sick. But at the same time i dont wanna change the way i eat and live cause i hate this fitness lifestyle and i want to love myaself the way god made me... But i dont know what to do.

Ppl always tell me how georgeous i am, and they sey i look like a bunch of beautiful celebrities and i feel that like when i see my face on the mirror i just know im THAT bitch but at same time i always think ppl must be lying or that because of my body i dont get reconized enough? Like... Why dont boys ir girls want to get with me? Why dont ppl ask me to be a model or something if i look like other models and stunning singers and actress? What should i do?

Hi angel. Your English is fine. Never apologize for that.

You do not have to look a certain way first and foremost. People, especially women, are always under the impression that they have to fit a certain “mold”. You don’t have to fit any category regarding your looks...you just have to be yourself and own it.

If you are unhappy with the size of your belly, sure you can exercise and eat cleaner some days of the week. But overall, that won’t change the fact that you perceive yourself as less than. When people lose weight while maintaining a negative sense of self, they still have distortions with their thinking and low self esteem in the long run. So, altering your body is not really the solution...that should only come when you’re in a place of love and compassion for yourself and you feel the need to improve an area of your life, not conform or make yourself fit a mold. You have to ask yourself where this is coming from.

Questions to reflect on:

•Why do I feel inadequate when it comes to my body image?

•Where did these feelings originate? Is there a past experience I can pinpoint?

•Is it hard for me to be honest about these feelings? Is there trauma surrounding my self image or esteem?

•Who has given me the image that I feel I need to conform to? Is it social media? Has social media negatively impacted my perception of myself? How can I change this?

Answer these in a diary or document. Keep it to yourself to honor your experience and privacy. After answering these questions, you may find yourself feeling shameful or gross in a way. This is normal because you’ve tapped into uncharted territory.

What to do now?

Reshape your definitions and expectations. Challenge yourself daily.

•Confidence regarding body image is not the existence of perfection and need to control. It is the ability to appreciate your body’s value. The things that are uniquely designed, and make you YOU.

•How do you honor your body image when you express yourself via fashion? Have you allowed yourself to fully navigate your own fashion sense? Allowing yourself to do this will give you a sense of power and appreciation for your qualities. You will learn to dress for your shape, not cover and hide.

•Stop consuming unhealthy media that affirms your negative thoughts. Social media might be influencing your expectations and standards regarding image. Be honest with yourself, and know how to cater to your needs.

•Allow yourself to exist without condemnation. Judgment of yourself is condemning your existence, as if parts of you are a mistake or shouldn’t have been formed. Your thoughts are not facts. Call yourself out on your stuff. Say: “That is not true, actually. I know I am smart. I am worthy.” Refute irrational thoughts with things you KNOW to be true about yourself. List your strengths. Have you ever given yourself props?

•Treat yourself the way you’d like to be addressed. You say people say you’re beautiful. You should treat yourself as such and carry yourself with that importance. Why haven’t you ever thought of yourself in a high regard?

•Take other people off pedestals. It’s typical to put certain people on pedestals and glorify their looks, but it’s not helping you. It is time to focus on yourself and end the cycle of comparison. It is exhausting you.

•Accept some hard truths about yourself and the world. By that I mean, you have to recognize that there will be people evil enough to be jealous or make inflammatory comments. Maybe you’ve had that experience. But you should know something: not everyone has to approve of you. Their behavior is projection of their own issues. Stop living for other people’s approval and comments. It’s going to hurt you in the long run. And in general, most people are too busy with their own lives to judge you the way you harshly judge yourself. You don’t have to be adored by everyone, but you do have to be loved by yourself, understand your own value, and reshape your expectations. You do get treated different when you carry yourself like you know you’re something special. That is just a fact of life.

Above all, this is a process and you have to remember nothing in life is linear or clear cut. These are all things you have to do in order to work towards a healthier body image. Have you ever taken time to just create a pampering routine and dance and just let yourself go? You have to foster a deeper connection with yourself, rather than a connection with the world. What you wake up with is yourself, and what you go to sleep with is yourself. Your quality of life can improve little by little in the way that you address yourself in your head, treat yourself with your actions, and validate yourself with compassion and empathy. It will fail unless you believe in the process and get mad enough that you want to change. You have enough bravery by sharing, so you have to be even braver and address the things that are stealing your joy.

Sometimes, our biggest enemy is the way we learned to deal with our own pain and feelings. The way we learned to process information. The way we learned to navigate life through our past, and it attacks our self image and self perception. You’re working against yourself and your unhealthy mechanisms, not everyone else. These mechanisms have to change as we begin to grow older.

There are different versions of you looking at who you are right now, who you have potential to become, and who you will be. Remember this truth as you work towards a better you. The answers are within you.

[tamhrayis]

r u already physically and mentally ok? bc i am still not feeling very good. the ending is the only thing i can think of, however much i try to distract myself from that. i still cant properly eat and sleep. i still cry a lot. i still have stomach ache and have trouble consuming food. i still cant concentrate on anything bc my mind constantly thinks about aot ending. i am one of those people who think ending was average (like it wasnt satisfactory enough, but also not terrible). the thing is that i really wanted to see EM happy together in the end. my brain costantly thinks about how brutally Mikasa had to kill Eren and how she sits under that tree next to his grave and misses him... this just hurts so much. like my rational part tries to tell myself that it is only a fiction, it is not real so i shouldnt make such a fuss around that, but my emotional part (which is now unfortunatelly much stronger) can't let it go... like i have now even a problem to watch anything related to aot. like when i go on youtube and it recommends me some aot videos i cant even bring myself to click on them without them triggering even more pain in me... idk i got probably so attached to EM and wanted to really see them happy together after everything they went through that this ending hurt me in the worst possible way. i want to move on with my life so it wont hurt me anymore, but i just cant because my mind always slips to EM and their ending (which triggers even more pain) and also i am not in any other "fandom" except aot so i dont even have big passion for anything else where i could "escape" from aot. i tried to watch some movies yesterday and today as a distraction, but it still didnt help bc my mind always goes back to aot ending... like i feel mentally and physically really awful and i want it to stop but i dont know what to do. it is like i have no control over it. do u have any advice what to do to stop feeling so bad? how much time do u think its gonna take until i will feel normal again? if you or any of your followers have any advice what to do or just some comfort words - they are very much appreciated. thanks for hearing me out and im sorry for the long ask i just needed to tell and ask someone and u seem like a very nice person. <3

Anon, I am very sorry for how you feel these days. I totally understand and I also want you to recover as soon as possible.

Your state really reminds me of how I felt when ch.138 came out. I didn’t cry that much, but maybe...it was because of the leaks I’ve read before the chapter or just how I lived during that time. I couldn’t normally eat, sleep and simply function, because every time I did something, it just ended up being another breathing exercise session, because I really couldn’t get myself to do something without thinking about ch.138.

But instead of checking social media and trying to find a distraction in my phone, I just tried to distance myself from it. One of the things that really helped me to cope was...cleaning😂 I don’t know how it will be for you, but cleaning really distracted me and eased my mind. Also, on the day when ch.138 was officially released, i needed to go outside with my friend and tbh, these two really helped me to deal with the anxiety. I took me a full week to recover, but nevertheless...I just tried to find some ways to think about something else. I also did my school work, talked to my friends, watched another animes and just continued to live.

As for how I am still mentally and physically okay...I am just that type of person who is used to let things go. Be it people leaving my life, materialistic stuff that I lose or how things don’t go my way, I just don’t feel as sad about it as I used to, because nothing is permanent in this world and everything has an end. I knew that AoT will end someday and I used to tell myself that no matter what kind of ending it will be, I will be okay.

It’s not like “I will accept any crappy ending”, but more like “I know that Isayama won’t scrap his work and no matter what he does, it’ll be meaningful”. I knew that getting a happy-go-lucky ending won’t be possible as I used to think, and maybe that was my fault for believing it...But I am happy with this ending, because it wasn’t closed and precise enough.

As for Mikasa, I see where you are coming from, but Mikasa didn’t brutally killed him. She finally freed him from the burden of this world. Yes, it would be so great if they lived together, had a family and just spend the rest of their lives as they wished for.

But realistically, knowing how many problems Eren’s existence will bring and their conscientious nature...They still wouldn’t find peace, because as Armin mentioned that even if titans stopped to exist, it doesn’t mean that the world will just come to peace. No, they will need to work and create that peace by themselves, but again, Eren’s life would be full of responsibilities and burden all over again.

If the writing was different and Isayama made his story a little more hopeful in some ways...I think we would get something different, but that’s only my speculations.

I genuinely want you to get better and be happy again! You’re amazing and loved. Thank you for sharing. I feel very touched🤧

[rant-2-me]

i feel like im getting notthing done these days, like my life just going to complete waste. i should be doing something with my life by now i think, like im studying enough and im not rlly been feeling happy lately either cause i feel so much stress. i have exams in like 3 weeks and i dont know what to do for that either.

oh my sweet nonnie, listen,

There’s no set time frame for doing anything.

you can do things in your own time without having to worry about being “behind.” Sometimes it’s the things we do that feel like “stalling” or “getting off track” that end up being the most helpful for our growth.

theres a lot of sugarcoating advice on the internet that might say you're not wasting your life, and don’t get me wrong, that’s true — but it doesn’t help your situation at all.

You don't need to be "doing anything" with your life right now, maybe right now you just need to

Success is not measured by the rate in which we accomplish something, but in the fact that we have accomplished something

What you need is action.

you need to do something that makes you happy and is easy(ish) to do.

The best way to find direction is to trust your instincts instead of forcing yourself to do things because you think you “should.”

Your intuition is a powerful compass, and even if you think you aren’t making progress, if you’re following your instincts, you are.

There are always going to be opportunities that look good on paper, and that little, scared voice within may tell you that your life will only matter if you take them.

Other people may also tell you this, if not directly, indirectly; or you may assume they’re thinking this when really they’re too immersed in their own confusing journey to pass judgment on yours for long.

But sometimes the best opportunities are the ones you don’t take, leaving yourself open for choices that better align with your own values and priorities.

I know this may sound as impossible as growing wings and flying, but try not to worry so much about what other people might think. They may have expectations, but you aren't responsible for the vision of you they've made up in their minds.

The only one who can make wise decisions for you is you. And even if it makes you feel anxious at times, you will eventually thank yourself for being brave enough to follow your heart, not someone else’s head.

When it comes to creating purpose, there truly is no “wrong” decision.

You may think you only have one purpose and that you need to push yourself to find it, you can continue thinking this, if you’re okay with feeling pressured and scared.

Or instead of aiming to discover the one thing you’re supposed to do with your life, you could focus on discovering the one thing you want to try right now,

you can change direction any time. And that changing direction won’t be something to be ashamed of; it won’t mean you failed at discovering your purpose before. It will mean you had one purpose then, and now your purpose has changd—evolved.

It will mean you’re brave enough to let yourself evolve, repeatedly undertaking the sometimes terrifying process of discovering what else you can do.

Maybe that in itself can be a purpose—to live life in that vulnerable, uncertain place where you’re not boxed into one way of being, free to roam when it would feel much safer to tether yourself to one role.

How to get things done

1. before you actually do anything, take a whole day to shamelessly do nothing. its just one (1) day to relax,calm down, do something that makes you happy, let your entire body take a breath before it springs into action, an arrow draws back before it hits it target

2. when you wake up the next morning, dont reach for your phone. dont scroll social media or check the news. in fact, before you start your day, (if its possible) switch off your phone or put it on do not disturb put it somewhere your mind wont wander towards. give it to a friend and tell them not to give it back until u sit down and finish your work.

3. start by finishing tasks you figure will take less than 2 minutes.

need to water the plants? it'll take less than 2 minutes; do it. need to feed the fish? takes less than two minutes; do it! get all the easy work out of the way first.

4. check what your most time sensitive tasks are. finish them first.

5. try and figure out whats stopping you from doing something. most of the time it isn't just "laziness" that stopping you from doing something, sometimes its because the perfectionist in you is worried that if you try hard on that you'll fail. but the thing is, you can try again. and again. and again, and again until you get it right. try chipping at it slowly

for example, say you have to take notes for a class, and you have 10 pages to copy down, before you start watching a tv show, just write 2 pages of notes. you can also try the pomodoro method: do work for 25 minutes, then take a 5 minute break. repeat.

but something like studying and having hobby is something that needs to be repeated, over and over again, like a routine

How to add something into your routine:

start easy. the first time you do the hobby, it should be a cake walk

e.g:

exercise every day first day: 5 push ups.

1000 words every day first day: 10 words and so on.

try to do the activity after or before or even during a hobby you already do e.g.:

read 20 books in a year and you already: drink tea every day so you should: read 5 pages as you drink tea

you want to learn a language and you already: plait your hair before you sleep so you should: watch a video teaching you about that language before you plait your hair

mountains are easier to climb with a friend, so you can get someone to do it with you!

How to study

Get a good night’s sleep: A recent study found a positive relationship between students’ grades and how much sleep they’re getting. However, this doesn’t only mean getting a full 8 hours of sleep before a big test. What matters, even more, is getting enough sleep for several nights before you do the bulk of your studying.

Switch up your study environment: Studies show that switching up your study environment can increase recall performance. Instead of studying at home every day, try checking out a new coffee spot each week or heading to your local library. A change in scenery can improve both your memory and concentration levels.

Stick with an environment that works: If you have a good space at home or a café that is reliably a productive place for you, it makes sense to stick with this when you are under pressure.

Listen to calming music: You can listen to any music you like, but many agree that classical, instrumental, and lo-fi beats make good background music for studying and can actually help you pay attention to the task at hand. Songs with lyrics can be distracting.

Eliminate distractions: Eliminate distractions by silencing your phone and any annoying background noises such as the TV or radio. Make a pact with yourself to avoid checking social media until your study session is over.

Snack on smart food: Coffee and candy will give you a temporary boost, but then you’ll have a damn sugar crash. For energy that is more focused and sustainable, try healthy snacks such as edamame, apples, or nuts.

and most importantly!

grades and test scores =/= your value as a human being

aight nonnie, that is all, *mwah* i believe in you, i believe that your strong and wonderful and you can handle this, *hugs you (if youre ok w it)* please take care of yourself

dont forget to drink water, get some sleep, eat some food, and please take care of yourself!! have a nice day,

mod peppermint out B)

[cjjourno]

Dealing with Stress and Anxiety for better living.

Considering the years when Covid-19 pandemic is issued.Many things have been changed, many things have been effected like our social life, our financial status, business and specially our health not just physically but also mentally.

COVID-19 infections in the Philippines have reached 1,149,925 cases as of May 17. The pandemic is unfolding simultaneously with the growing number of Filipinos suffering from mental health issues. At least 3.6 million Filipinos suffer from mental, neurological, and substance use disorders, according to Frances Prescila Cuevas, head of the National Mental Health Program under the Department of Health.

As mentioned many is suffering from mental instability not just our middle aged man but specially our millenials. According to Omengan (2020) Depression and anxiety are on the rise among millennials as they face the pressure to perform and be functional amid pandemic fatigue.

As result millenials are having a what so called academic stress it is a state when students are having hard time in coping up in schools, hard time in doing activities or even having a hard time socializing not just like before.

KVC Kansas mentioned in their blog that Research shows that academic stress leads to less well-being and an increased likelihood of developing anxiety or depression. Additionally, students who have academic stress tend to do poorly in school. This shows how this stress can keep kids from doing as well as they could.

Here are some other effects of having a academic stressed combined with a anxiety.Basing from the blog written by the IBCCES students who is suffering from this mental cases is often not in the mood they are always silent and not to talkative. Second is they will have a social and behavioral problem which is the reason they are rarely seen talking to people. Lastly is poor self care practices and low self esteem, anxiety makes people to see their self as a low class people where they feel shy,always afraid on meeting or talking to people while on the sf exercise they intend to do things that are not good for their health like their eating schedules or they may have sleeping disorder which then causes bad effects for their health.

We can deal with this with anxiety and stress by doing things just like what ADAA (2021) mentioned in their blog which are:

Get enough sleep

Take deep breaths

Do your best - dont aim for perfection instead be thankful you did your best and got close to what you want

Take a time out from everything

Have time for youself

Talk to someone- if you fe that your having a breakdown talking to someone can relieve the sadness or the emotion you are holding.

While its true that fighting over this things with yourself alone is hard we know that we can always get over it.

Just like the sunrise a paradise can be seen after the darkness. A light can be seen after the long hours of darkness. There is always a way and a time for people to see their own paradise, their own happiness.

Resources:

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https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.forbes.com/sites/grantfreeland/2020/04/13/stress-anxiety-and-depression-will-always-be-a-problem-so-lets-start-addressing-it-now/amp/

Picture #2 https://www.nami.org/Blogs/NAMI-Blog/January-2020/Ways-to-Manage-and-Cope-with-Stress

Omengan, O. (2021) Filipinos face the mental toll of the COVID-19 pandemic. PHILIPINNE CENTER FOR INVESTIGATIVE JOURNALISM. Retrieved from https://www.rappler.com/nation/photo-essay-filipinos-mental-toll-pressure-fatigue-covid-19-pandemic

Department of Health (2020) YOUR MIND MATTERS: DOH CALLS FOR UNIFIED RESPONSE TO MENTAL HEALTH. Retrieved from https://doh.gov.ph/press-release/YOUR-MIND-MATTERS-DOH-CALLS-FOR-UNIFIED-RESPONSE-TO-MENTAL-HEALTH

KVC Kansas (2020) How Does Academic Stress Affect Mental Health in the Age of Digital Learning. Retrieved from https://kansas.kvc.org/2020/11/10/how-does-academic-stress-affect-mental-health-in-the-age-of-digital-learning/#:~:text=Research%20shows%20that%20academic%20stress,as%20well%20as%20they%20could.

Anxiety and Depression Association of America (2021) Tips to manage Anxiety and Stress. Retrieved from https://adaa.org/tips

International Board of Credentialing and Continuing Education Standards (2019) Impact of Anxiety and Depression on Student Academic Progress. Retrieved on https://ibcces.org/blog/2019/05/01/impact-anxiety-depression-student-progress/

[modern-oedipus]

Covid Vent

No one: Nila, who goes out maybe once in a month due to covid: *listens to coffee shop sounds in youtube to get in mood*  It’s really hard to maintain social isolation now that it has been 5 months. But the cases are going up and up and up, hitting my friends and their families. I myself had to split houses with my mother because she had covid cases in her work place. I don’t think I’d isolate myself this much if I wasn’t in the risk group, but I am. Knowing that I am most likely to go to intensive care and experience the trouble breathing again like I did during the asthma treatment is not good. The potential permanent damage on lungs, for someone like me whose lungs are already more prone to sickness compared to healthy people, is also a big no, considering that I’m only in my early twenties and if everything goes well and I live a normal life I’d live around 50 more years.  50 more years with a disability or isolating myself at home? Isolation, obviously. But this pandemic doesn’t seem to be stopping anytime soon. I am only indoors because both my internships are online & college hasn’t started yet. I know that I’ll eventually have to go out if my college doesn’t switch to online education. It doesn’t scare me at all, though, I am not like, “anxious”. I’m concerned, disturbed, alert, but not in a paranoid anxiety. If I end up catching covid, I’m at least mentally prepared to deal with it. I’m also eating healthy and exercising and don’t really have health problems except for that past-lung-treatments that more or less put me to a risk group (risky enough to concern me, even though I don’t have a chronic illness), so who knows, I might just pass it like a flu as well. No one knows. It’s not good overthinking covid, all I can do is to keep social distancing & mask & hygiene, as always. I’m just so suffocated. I’m more prone to be an extrovert. Before pandemic, I’d only use my house to sleep I’d keep being out in public, attending events, ORGANIZING events, going to coffee shops, club meetings, lots and lots of stage plays, tours, everything. I’d sneak into my friends’ dorms and change cities and just so many more “normal” fun things. I was barely starting to enjoy my life again after the depression healed. Now, I’m mentally ok, but physically trapped. The “watch netflix, read books, stay home” thing is kind of overdosing me right now. I like this shit for a week maybe, not for 5 months. I don’t know how to not risk my mental health while keeping my physical health anymore. Of course, to even HAVE a mental health I need to stay alive, so I’m not complaining- health care workers, people who go to job everyday (including my parents), etc. are in such a harder situation. I know. But my own life is also valid, and while not as troubling and concerning as lives of others right now, well, I think I’m still worth caring, at least by myself. I don’t expect any extra outside compassion or validation (we all are in same situation), me writing my thoughts here is more of me just trying to see my thoughts being worded on screen so that maybe I can come up with a solution to these things as I go. Because I’ve always been a problem-solver rather than just merely venting. (I can’t always solve problems though, I need to work on accepting this fact.) Anyway, I just thought, maybe spending more time outdoors in the natural park that is close to my house could be a good thing. But it’s crowded since it’s outdoors and I really don’t want to share any commonly used areas right now. (I used to be more than okay with this before covid, as I said, I’m mostly extroverted and I like community gatherings, but I like being healthy more), so like... Idk, maybe I can just sort of have phone calls and videochats with my friends as I sit outdoors. Except I don’t even know I have that many friends anymore. I mean, I do- I surely do have bestest of friends in my life that I’m grateful for, but like. I am somehow an introvert magnet and while I’d die for most of my best friends (both irl and online) I don’t really think they are as hype about just chatting as often as I am. (I know that this doesn’t mean they love me any less. They love me in their own way & I love them in their own way so that’s OK.) So like. Maybe Nila, have this BRILLIANT idea of making more friends. Except. Like. You’re at home so you aren’t in much of social gatherings [you aren’t in any! That is insane!] and you don’t really know how to make friends from home. I mean, yes there are online friends but like. EVEN WITH THEM. How can I just *trust* them right away? I can’t, so like. I don’t know. I’m bored af.  On the bright side, today one of my bff from school called me and said he’s back in town and that we should catch up, he’s literally one of the greatest company ever and he wants to see the doggo, so I’m positive we can just have hour 9242309204 hours long in-depth chats again without getting bored (amazing to have people like that in my life). Anyway. I guess the moral of this is:

- I need to accept “the new normal”

- I need to protect myself but try to keep my mental health as good as possible because I like myself more when my mental health is fine and I can also come up with better creations then

- I need to finish my course work (internship) so that I can relax before school starts

- I need to spend more time outdoors but in isolated areas (good luck finding them!) 

- I need to recharge

- I “want to” make more friends or just check up on existing ones! I can’t use the word “need” for this because this would degrade the freedom of the other party. Friends are appreciated, and to some extend, a necessity for social creatures like us, but no “need” will make it happen. I will just make an effort to check up on my existing friends more frequently-- I’m quite selective at this, though, I prefer generally upbringing people who are mature to a certain extend (aka, no obsession, no passive-aggression. yes to personal boundaries, yes to an overall nice attitude [we all can have problems and that’s ok and that’s normal. what /I/ personally don’t wish to be around [with my all respect] is this mindset of “life is a disaster let’s be depressed” thing. I just love love my current friend circle because even if my close friends are just around 7 people, and even if we get depressed or sad or scared, our general look to life is nicer, we don’t make disasters out of regular days, we enjoy talking and chatting, which overall increases our life quality and makes it better. We also communicate & respect & listen to each other and all. I mean. It’s not like that with everyone, and that’s ok, but as I said, this is my personal preference. I prefer having bonds that are good rather than toxic and I am doing my best to be equally good, rather than being toxic to my friends. [I’m sorry I post a lot of Banana Fish to those who don’t know Banana Fish, ok. I know ur bored but like I just cannot help it. I’m trying to tone it down but BANANA FISH.] sOOOOOOOO, SOOOO that’s why it’s not how “i have 29420343204 friends uwu” mindset, like, I noticed I need to be reasonably picky with those I’m close to so that I and people I love can overall have a nice, fun days, which is point of friendship. (I mean. As I said. I’m here on bad days too. But I don’t feel mentally healthy enough to carry the burden of someone else’s depression. It hasn’t even been two months since I’m out of therapy yet, and my mental health is, while not bad, it is fragile. I’d rather not be around those who can [mostly, unwillingly] effect me badly. SO LIKE.  - that’s one hell of a long post nila, but long story short FRIENDS or you’ll die out of boredom

- also just finish your coursework i beg you

- thanks for coming to my ted talk, I actually always offer potential solutions on my vent posts, but this time i wanted to write this publicly [i dont think anyone will read this and i dont mind it] because like. why not? it’s just me thinking and I feel as if this could be of use for some people who are reading this & isolating themselves too. anyway, i love u, stay safe. 

[dia-morphin-e]

So, I just wanna remind everyone that there are so, so, SO many different ways to cope with things, and there is no right or wrong way. As long as what you're doing doesn't harm yourself or others, have at it! There are no "normal" coping mechanisms. Yes, there are the ones we usually hear about i.e meditation, going for a walk, breathing exercises, writing, coloring, listening to music, etc. But, that doesn't mean that those are the only coping mechanisms available or that if you do something outside of those things you're coping incorrectly. There is no "normal" way to deal with things. There is no "normal" in anything, what you perceive as normal is different from what I perceive as normal, and what your friends perceive as normal, and so on. Even what we perceive as "normal" in society today is completely different from the societal norms of, say, centuries or even just decades ago. If something helps you, so long as it isnt harmful to yourself or others, have at it!!

You're a teenager/adult and stuffed animals help you cope with your mental illness and allow you to be a happier, more functional person? GREAT!! That's wonderful!!

You like to dress up, role play, L.A.R.P, cosplay, etc. and it helps you? AWESOME!! yes!! Keep doing it!! you found something you enjoy doing that also helps you? thats great!!

You have ocd and you take a picture of yourself locking your door when you leave so you dont have to run back multiple times or leave work to make sure its locked? Perfect! You found something that helps you function better in your life, cutting out tons of time of going back and forth to check the doors & allowing you to leave the house without it being a huge, stressful ordeal or losing jobs due to being late or having to go back home to check again. Thats wonderful!!

You have an intense fear of someone breaking into your home due to a past experience and sleeping with a night light helps you feel safe and get a full nights sleep? Great!! Thats awesome!! Do your thing!!

You have horrible social anxiety, agoraphobia, etc. and carrying around an orange or something similar to pick at and peel when you start to feel too anxious allows you to leave the house? Cool!! Healthy snack & coping mechanism all wrapped up in one. perfect!!

Clapping, dancing, humming, singing, etc. is how you calm down when you're upset & keeps you from doing something harmful to yourself? Sing as loud as you want!! Dance around til you fall over! Clap like you just saw the best performance ever!! Its all good!

You have a severe phobia of being poisoned & putting a little dab of your food on the back of your hand to test it and make sure its safe allows you to eat a healthy diet and go out to eat with friends & family? Great!! Wonderful!! You found something that works for you & helps you to better function in your day to day life. Do ya thing!!!

We need to stop thinking there are set ways to cope and deal with things and that those are the only ways to cope with anything & that if you're doing something outside of those things you're unhealthy/coping incorrectly. If something doesn't harm yourself or others and its helping you, keep on doing your thing!! Its hard enough to deal with life and the things we go through in it, so if you find something that helps you better deal with and function in your day to day life & brings you happiness, keep at it! We're all just trying to get through life the best we can.

[asking-jude]

I'm just a bit of a mess,. i think i have adhd. I've done lots of research n stuff n everything, and I mean EVERYTHING fits, the rsd, the executive dysfunction, hyperfixations, etc. but i can't really go anywhere or get checked, bc in my place it's really really hard to get a psychiatrist or a therapist, and when I told my parents they said I'm just too scared or that I'm faking it. and it just feels so frustrating bc i constantly hate me "faking" but it's the best explanation imo 1/? -💛🌿

(ask continued) ...i feel so fake bc no one thinks I actually have problems, bc I'm "too smart" or just too "hypochondriac" but i know that this all makes sense, it's all me, and it explains why I feel so differently from my peers, but i also dont want to disrespect the adhd community bc I'm self diagnosing/not official. i used to be hyper focused on school before, and get amazing grades, but now I'm honestly burnt out, and i have no motivation, I'm constantly demotivated 

and i always feel burnt out and im forgetful and I'm careless and im stupid, but it must be that I'm "just not trying hard enough bc we know you're smart, you're just too distracted with social media and you're faking being r*tarded for attention or to get extensions and stuff" and i feel like such utter trash but it's true, isnt it? i don't even know anymore.

Hello, I am so, so sorry that people are invalidating your feelings and experiences. It must be incredibly difficult to have to deal with negative opinions and lack of support on top of everything else you are going through. I want to tell you that, despite what others are saying, your struggles are very real and valid. You are not a mess; you are just misunderstood and hurting. Rather than seeing it as something being wrong with you, you should try to see it as your brain being wired differently. I am not qualified to confirm your self-diagnosis, but I can suggest some ways to go about lessening your ADHD symptoms. First and foremost, it is so important that you get proper sleep, eat a nutritious diet, and exercise sufficiently. These things can greatly impact mental health. Moreover, individuals with ADHD often find it helpful to stay manage their symptoms by keeping a planner with to-do lists and schedules. Break your day down into small chunks of time. This can help declutter your mind by getting any tasks or ideas you have onto paper. In addition to decluttering your mind, it is also important to declutter your physical space. This will help calm the mind and increase productivity/wellbeing. Practicing self-care is also of utmost importance. Attend to your physical/mental needs and be sure to incorporate activities that make you happy into your daily routine. Here are some more extensive tips on how to cope with ADHD: https://www.additudemag.com/dealing-with-adhd-80-coping-strategies/ https://www.additudemag.com/slideshows/13-adhd-coping-skills-for-organization-time-management/ https://psychcentral.com/blog/12-best-tips-for-coping-with-adhd/ https://www.nami.org/About-Mental-Illness/Mental-Health-Conditions/ADHD/Support You mentioned that it is difficult to find professional help in your area, so I highly suggest you try out online therapy. Some popular virtual counseling services are TalkSpace and BetterHelp. These provide regular, individualized support for people who do not readily have access to in-person services. I also recommend you read the following article to figure out which type of therapy is right for you and how to access it: https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/therapy/how-do-i-find-a-therapist-near-me/ I've also attached some links on finding ADHD/mental health support groups, both online or near you: https://chadd.org/affiliate-locator/ https://www.meetup.com/topics/adhd/ https://www.webmd.com/add-adhd/adhd-online-community https://add.org/adhd-support-groups/ https://addcoach4u.com/us-adhd-support-groups-list/ It sounds like this is really taking a toll on you. If these feelings become especially overwhelming, you should reach out to the National Suicide Prevention Line at 1-800-273-8255 or the Crisis Text by texting HOME to 741741 (in the U.S.). These are 24/7 services for individuals who need someone to listen and support them through whatever they need, whether that be difficult times or suicidal thoughts. Once again, I am so sorry that you are going through this. You are so strong for persevering in spite of these unfortunate circumstances. Believe in yourself and keep fighting. Things will get better, I promise. Stay strong, and I wish you all the best. Much love, Siriveena

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[jamaisjoons]

During this quarantine period, when I’m not sleeping for 17 hours straight or depression eating, I’m spending an unhealthy amount of time daydreaming about IH. Like I’ve completed several sequels and spinoffs in my mind. I love this story and quite frankly, I love you.

Oh no my love. I know this period is really hard and I know it’s going to be even tougher in the coming months but please, please, please take care of yourself. It’s really easy to fall into an unhealthy habit when you’re at home - but it helps if you give yourself a routine.

Sleep at a specific time or sleep regularly. Also sleep for regular hours. Your body has a circadian cycle and in order to properly regulate it and take care of yourself it needs good sleep. Especially in times like this

Eat proper foods and healthy meals if you can. I know when you’re at home all day with nothing to do it’s really easy to snack or binge. But if you must try and binge on healthy foods like fruit or nuts if you can. I know it’s not always possible because sometimes these are more expensive and junk food is cheaper but do try and get a balanced diet if you can. It’s important for your body

If it’s possible in anyway, go and get some fresh air (I know in the U.K. we’re allowed to leave once a day for this but idk if that’s possible where you are). Even if it means just opening a window and sitting by it - get some fresh air. It’ll do wonders for you. Also air out your room/house. Being shut in doors will quickly have your house getting really stuffy so and airing it out with fresh air will help so much more

Do some exercise. It doesn’t need to be rigorous or anything - just even some mild yoga or stretches will help. Being cooped up in doors not using your muscles will be more harmful for you in the long term - so try and get some form of exercise in during your day

DRINK LOTS OF WATER. PLEASE DRINK LOTS OF WATER. I DONT HAVE TO EXPLAIN THIS ONE.

Keep your mind stimulated. This is honestly a perfect opportunity to pick up some new skills. Online courses are always there and I know there are some free ones too. Or get creative and pick up a new hobby or an old one. If you used to love to paint or draw or do any form of art - start it up again. If you used to write, start writing again. If you used to edit pictures, do it. Do whatever you can to keep yourself busy and your mind active. If you don’t want to, start a new hobby. Maybe try origami, maybe learn some new things. If you have a garden perhaps try gardening. Learn how to cook, learn to shuffle cards like a poker pro, hell learn poker. But whatever it is you do, please keep your brain stimulated

One of the last points I’d make is if you live with people and you usually tend to avoid them - then try spending time with them. If it’s the opposite and you’re usually around them, separate yourself from them for a bit so you don’t get annoyed/bored with them. If you live alone or even if you don’t, connect with other people. Call someone up and speak to them, video call them, do a group video call if you want. But whatever it is, please speak to someone and please remain social. As much as we like being alone, we don’t like being lonely and humans are social animals at the end of the day. We need social interactions so please don’t completely isolate yourself.

This got off track and I hope I didn’t like step in where I shouldn’t have. Feel free to ignore my advice if you want, but please just look after yourself, yeah? But anyway, thank you so much for reading Intro Her, I’m glad it can offer you comfort in someway during this period. If you’d like, my DMs are open to whoever, so you can always drop in and tell me about your sequels and spin offs! Maybe if I like the ideas enough I’d incorporate it into IH universe and make it Canon ;)

[weabbynormalblog]

Tips and key things to help with Chronic Fatigue, Fibromyalgia, Chronic illness/TBI /mental illness etc.

It's easy to feel alone in it. Depression will effect 3 out of 5 people at some point in thier lives. Depression can be deadly. We need to stop the silence about mental illness. At my worst its really hard to keep positive I am managing. Yes sometimes it sucks to the great beyond and back. I called the help lines when I really needed a professional to talk to, that helped get me through those really dark times. These services save lives. Glad to announce I am no longer suffering from depression. It took 5 years of self reflection and using all kinds of tools, most I will use for the rest of my life and that's ok. I am alive! It is a choice. I chose to listen to my body, when tired or upset you or anyone needs to slow down and rest.

With BBVP, Fibermyalgia and TBI I must move slowly, sometimes I forget and move too fast and I get hurt from loosing my balance. Patience and compassion is needed for our bodies.

There is no cure for Chronic /pain/fatigue yet. We know for sure it will not go into remission unless we can respect our literal physical limits. Energy management is so important for recovery. Get things done as they pop up. Do not procrastinate, it can be your emotional undoing during difficult times. Do things when you have the energy, there's no room for regrets either. Schedule difficult tasks or fun time when you're at your best and ask for help. Break up all physical tasks down to what your comfortable with-toggle with rest. I learnt the hard way. Trying to push past your exhaustion and doing too much can land you in hospital and for sure in your bed; for all the wrong reasons.

Over time I have found out that negating your feelings or minimizing your pain, or being too proud to ask for help just makes it worst. Stress, isolation, feeding the negatives isn't going to help your health either. Cut loose those toxic people in your life. Understand that coming from a place of despair and anger just attracts more of what we don't want. Try your best to stick with the positives. We spend a lot more time in bed than we would like. Use it to your benefit. Research, read and think how to simplify. Plan for tomorrow today. Write out what daily tasks, goals that you would like to accomplish for the next day.

I have found posting encouraging quotes, positive messages around my home helps too.

Stop worrying about getting it all done. Stuff like house work, groceries, bills, laundry, sweeping etc, will always be there and there's alternative available too. Yes keep up with it as best you can. There are times when you got to let that small stuff go too. So I paid my bills 2 days late for various reasons, nothing terrible happened and it ment way less stress for me. Join a support group, it's helping me. I couldn't get out on my birthday this year but I did get a beautiful card from the .org. and when your feeling up to it, they have lots of beneficial activities with other people like us.

Emotions and physical problems countering you, asses your lifestyle, what can I improve? What do I need to be healthy and happy. I had to look at everything. It really helps journaling your tough emotions. Writting about a day in a normal life 5 years from now was a really helpful exercise. Not once did I write about pain or my disability. I was still me, just the crappy stuff didn't matter. I was living the life I wanted despite my afflictions. I've discovered there's a way around stuff if you ponder on it long enough. Inspiration will come. Being happy and healthy in this broken body is possible. To change my perspective I had to look at everything I was doing and what I wasn't. I asked myself what can I control? My sleep, diet, exercise, balance of activities, socializing etc. I started with my diet. It was really hard to eat. I was always feeling like I was about to hurl. Banana Smoothies with berries, pea protein powder and ginger got me through. I also did as much researching my brain would allow. What foods do I need to eat to support good brain recovery, how to treat Fibermyalgia and down the rabbit hole I went.

This is what made a difference for me.

Found some great online free apps for exercise and brain injury that helped keep my moments more productive and helpfull rather than destructive. Cutting out trigger foods 1 by 1. Started eating more and more fresh produce, less processed foods and doing adaptive yoga, Isometric exercise, meditation and practicing mindfulness. I also learned that colouring, games and puzzles are important for us as humans too. Little bit here, a little bit there. I am transforming my life of crisis and adapting it into a life of ease. I'm still a work in progress, but aren't we all? No worries if you still have triggers, extreme moments or have to use memory aids and "other things" for "suport". Often we must do what is necessary to ease our suffering. Like me walking with crutches. I get further on them than I would without them. Give yourself a break. Life is fucking hard sometimes and that's the reality. Learning moments for sure. This is who you are right now, never mind what was in the past, no worries over the future your taking care of your "now" moment. It's a new beginning. A time to redefined. To be curious, helpful and have fun. Acceptance, forgiveness and patience is key when dealing with any kind of illness or tragedy.

You can’t change anyone or anything external, but you can let go, meditate, practice mindfulness, change your responses, take control of that inner critic and allow space for healing.

Success and healing is possible when we treat "all" of us, the body, mind and the spirit, I am not talking about religion here. Your passions, the activities that you enjoy. Learn to sing, start a hobby, pay attention to your wants, thoughts and goals That's the Spirit I'm talking about.

This worked for me-Find compassion and create space for yourself. You do this with slow acceptance of your truth and exposure to dealing and managing triggers. Share your experience, find acceptance for the things you can not change and let it go of negatives. Do the work! Be committed to being the best you possible. We are always learning and changing. Stay positive, be good to others and yourself daily. A good goal is to include more fun in your schedule.

Keys to healing...

1) Support yourself -make a commitment to yourself- put your health first. You must learn to recognize and respect your energy and feelings. All of them, not just the good ones. Get at the root of what you are experiencing. Learn ways can you improve your mood. Listen to your mind and body. Get at the root of your "issue" is it lack, stress, fear, overwhelmed etc. Listen yourself, make strides to deal with the issues as they come up. Accept, confront, understand, integrated or let go. What's the lesson here? How can I improve myself and the situation.

2) Dont isolate yourself. Us humans prefer to be in groups of similar feathers. Chart in fun time just as much as chore time. We all need a little space to unwind and check in with ourselves too. Join a support group or make your own.

3) Tools-Remember to be the observer, to take a step back in times of triggers. Acknowledge and accept. Use breathing technics and meditation. Above all be objective, realistic and simplify in order to meet daily goals.

Chart daily, weekly and monthly schedule. Follow it. Remember to toggle activities,rest, work and hobbies. Use a Schedule, calendar, breathing exercises, practice mindfulness, yoga, resting, eating healthy, exercising your body and mind with healthy pursuits. Be part of your solution.

[pinkgoldgirl]

Changing your life

I have recently found myself in a situation some of you may have faced (I did, actually, when I wrote and published this article). I think I lost myself for a little, so now I try to do my best and become the person I actually am. This is some advice I would give myself to help me change my life.

1. SET SOME GOALS

Whether they are redecorating your room or loosing 30 pounds, setting goals will help you do your best everyday to get one step closer to them. So do it. Decide what is really important to you, make a plan and take action! Visualising your future is the first step towards it.

2. GO ON A DIET

You may not have to lose weight but thats not what diets are all about. They help you eat healthier and you will find yourself enjoying life more. I had a really bad diet but since I started eating heathier, I lost 25 pounds and I love my life more. Plus, eating healthy isn't boring or taugh at all, after a few time, and you actually build a better lifestyle.

3. GO TO THE GYM

This is not just about losing weight or getting in shape. It is also about having a healthy way of living and a more energetic life. Plus, gym helps you be more sociable as you can meet people with same interests as you! Since I joined gym I met new people, I became less shy and it also made me happier and more motivated. If you can’t or don’t want to go to the gym though, building a workout routine works just as well! Find exercises on the internet or whole workouts on youtube (I personally follow Pamela Reif) and do your workout at home!

4. GET MORE SLEEP

A good nights sleep will help you manage the rest of the day. Good sleep can improve concentration and productivity while poor sleep is linked to depression. Want to be happier? Just take a nap! Plus, sleeping burns calories (I think about 63 calories per hour) so I’m concidering this a workout! 

5. CUT YOUR HAIR

A major image change is the best way to help yourself see the change in you and understand that you are building a new lifestyle. Cut your hair or paint them and change your style and life. Last year (2019) I cut my hear (without even a tear, mind you) and it changed my image and the way I saw myself so much! This year I am seriously thinking of becoming a redhead, but I need to do much more research before I finally make a decision. Even though I am actually a very spontaneous person most of the time and just do things without actually thinking about them enough. 

6. FIND A NEW HOBBY

It is important to have something that you can do in your free time to exhale all the stress. Start a new hobby such as painting or music to help you rest on a tough day. As a person that has tried many different things I have to admit you can’t be great at all of them. I am but that’s an exception. I’m just kidding. Seriously though, you have to try a variety of hobbies to find something you like and you’re good at. Even though being good at something isn’t what matters, it mostly has to make you happy, I find it really annoying being bad at anything I do. Just the way I am.

7. GO ON A TRIP

Visiting new places and getting to know new people and cultures will help you understand better the world. Not to mention that a trip is the perfect way to have some time for yourself and rest. Save your money, plan your vacations and travel, as much as you can and as far as you can! Do I need to mention how relaxing a break from everything can be?

8. BECOME MORE POSSITIVE

They say "possitive mind, possitive life" and it is 100% true. Train your mind to see the good in all things! As a start, try to find something positive in every situation and you will instantly become more possitive yourself. Following inpiring, aesthetic accounts on social media can help too!

9. CELEBRATE YOUR VICTORIES

No one knows what you have done to be where you are, so dont expect them to clap for you. Instead, celebrate your own victories by buing yourself a beautiful dress, making your nails or going on a trip. Give yourself the things you deserve. No one else will. I personally like celebrating my victories by taking a self care day (we are going to speak about that too) or by doing things that can and will help me later in my life (eg. learning a new skill or a new language).

10. DO MORE OF WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY

Building a new life would be a loss of time if you don't do what makes you happy. So stop living for others, make yourself a priority and learn to say "no" to things you don't like. You are only here for yourself and you are only as happy as you let yourself be.

Originally posted on We Heart It on March 17th, 2019.

That's all for today! Hope you found it inspiring!

Stay safe ♥

xoxoEllie