#date a demisexual

[dateademisexualpersonwho]

Date a demisexual person who is a satanist

[itsaceokay]

I feel like people don't often fully appreciate how hard dating can be for demisexuals.

It just hit me the other day when I found out that most people are kissing by the first date and having sex by the third and to me that is just wild. And apparently, some people wait up to three months before having sex and that's seen as like a really long time and I'm sorry but is everyone okay???

After three dates a person is still a stranger and after three months they're at most an acquaintance - and people are not willing to wait longer and you'll be seen as unreasonable if you want to wait for a year or more??

[justdavina]

Do really think you can handle a HOTTIE like her?

[panickedpansexualprincess]

Has anyone else noticed the utterly adorable sprite that floats by in the background of the newest guest visit space background? Of little fluffy MC, Sheep-chan, clinging to a little rainbow trailing after a falling star? Well I certainly noticed it, and thought it was totally and completely precious. And perfect for a pride symbol too! So here I have made sprites of Sheep-chan clinging to pride flags as they trail after falling stars! I'll be posting them to my Redbubble shop later, but for now, I just wanted to share these little cuties! I hope you find them as adorable as I do!

These designs are available in my Redbubble shop for anyone who might be interested!

If I've missed a flag you'd like to see, please feel free to let me know, I just did a bunch that I could think of!

[afinestoutlove]

I'm really, truly sick of seeing people claim to "fight autism stigma" by yelling about how "not all autistic people are asexual". Yeah, it's true, but like... so? A lot of us are ace/aro/demi and that doesn't make us less capable or worthy of love??

Trying to destigmatise autism by pointing out the autistics who experience romantic and sexual attraction is aphobia, plain and simple. It just reinforces the idea that normative romantic/sexual attraction is "better" than other ways of being the in the world. Being ace/aro/demi doesn't mean we don't love or form connection (how does this still need saying). We just do it in a bunch of different ways and that's okay actually. The fact that we form a whole range of different types of relationships and challenge normative assumptions about friendship, family, romance, and sex is one of our greatest strengths.

Instead of going "but autistics also want romance" how about you say "autistics experience all kinds of love and desire and maybe you could learn something from us". How about you say "autistics don't need to be allo to be worth listening to or knowing". How about you say "assuming autistics are miserable or tragic if they're ace/aro is ableist and aphobic".

Pointing out all the allo autistics just further stigmatises the rest of us, and stigmatises non-autistic ace/aro/demi folk, and I'm so sick of it. If the only autism you can destigmatise is allo then you're not destigmatising shit and you can take several seats. (I'm also looking at you, allo autistics who happily throw your ace/aro/demi siblings under the bus in the name of "autism acceptance". We see you. You're not promoting autism acceptance, you're just aphobic.)

[bisexualwoman0]

How many people like bisexual women?

[embras-grace]

One thing I truly adore about Palia is the polyamory and general queerness. It's so nice that we can romance everyone so we don't miss any plots or items, but also its nice as a poly-queer person to see some representation in a game.

There is no jealousy. There is no hateful or painful breakups (as I understand it, if you break-up it is not mentioned and you restart the romance plot-line). No one makes negative comments about two pins or switching out pins.

It's so nice to see positive rep in a game and honestly such a breath of fresh air.

[aziraphales-library]

Hello there! Happy Spring! I’ve spent almost the last year working on a Good Omens AU and was hoping to share it here. I also wanted to shout about how wonderful the readers have been. This fandom is amazing. Thanks for what you do to keep everyone informed of the great stories out there.

The fic is finally complete. It’s a fake marriage fic with Aziraphale as a romance author and Crowley as his gardener. Crowley is demisexual.

https://archiveofourown.org/works/48743242/chapters/122958385

Congratulations! I do hope you are proud of yourself!

and now all of my garden is grown in lavender by ilikeblue for the_moonmoth [Rated E, 72K words]

Popular queer romance author, A.Z. Fell, has been lying about having a husband and a happy marriage for years. Longing to escape a string of failed relationships and looking for a fresh start, Aziraphale moves into the cottage left to him by his Great Aunt Agnes. When a TV adaptation of one of his books leads to sudden popularity and throws him into the limelight, his fans (and the press) are eager to catch a glimpse of Aziraphale's own mysterious leading man. Unfortunately, he still has to cast someone for that role. Enter the handsome gardener…

Under Crowley's meticulous care the cottage's neglected garden slowly comes back to life, and Aziraphale finds himself writing the most important love story he'll ever write: his own

-Mod AB

[space-kates]

I, personally, don't understand how or why people are disappointed in Lucanis' romance because there 'wasn't enough content'. It was intended to be a slow burn. And as a slow burn I thought it was lovely and perfectly well thought out.

Sweet baby boy just needed to deal with some trauma and a literal demon in his head. Of course, I'm going to give him time and maybe learn to make coffee so I can help feed his addiction, even though what he really needs is a ten hour nap. When he's done, we can offer some soft smooches and go from there.

And let's not forget that he is canonically demi. Boy doesn't even know he's in love until it's too late.

[bisexualseraphim]

I wish romance and sex wasn’t so commonly seen as synonymous. I have a crush on someone whom I want to ask to hang out and so many of my friends are making jokes like “oooh asking her out already? You gonna invite her back home? Can’t wait to get in her pants eh?”

…No? None of that even crossed my mind??? I just want to ask to go get coffee and TALK to her. Ideally if we clicked I think it’d be nice to watch our favourite movies together and snuggle.

It’s actually incredibly easy to get sex these days, whether it’s through Grindr, sex work services, even just going to the club and bringing someone home. What isn’t easy, however, is finding that unique emotional connection and intimacy that comes with having a romantic partner. That doesn’t come too often.

And anyway, seeking friendship is my priority because I’m not one to act on romantic feelings unless the other person also explicitly shows interest first. The fact I’m trying to be friends with a girl and people’s instant reaction is to make it sexual is… so weird. I don’t like it. I wish this kind of shit wasn’t so normalised. People should be able to be friends with the gender(s) they’re attracted to without other people making it weird. You absolutely CAN be friends with someone you’re attracted to and if you can’t… that’s a you problem, pal.

[dateademisexualpersonwho]

Date a demisexual who is only staying up late to do some much-needed laundry

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[aspecassasin]

It's just so lonely sometimes

[ryanwinsatlife]

Reblog this post if you (a person who experiences sexual attraction, even if only sometimes or under certain conditions) would be happy to spend the rest of your life in a relationship with someone and never once have sex with them.

[aclownsclownery]

"Aroace people can still date"

Yeah and aroace people can also bash your skull in and thats what this aroace person is gonna do if you keep using this as an argument to ignore a characters identity

[crookshanksagentofowca]

Kiss

“I’ve finally decided who I want my first kiss to be with,” Cissy announced proudly one day as the Black Sisters took a stroll around the grounds. Bellatrix and Andromeda both groaned. Since she’d started at Hogwarts, Cissy had made it her life’s mission to get a boyfriend, something neither of her sisters approved of, partly because they still saw her as a baby and partly because they didn’t think anyone was good enough for her.

Their lack of enthusiasm didn’t discourage her whatsoever, nor their mother, who kept sending Narcissa letters going over the pros and cons of every Pureblood family who had a son near her age and offering to brew her love potions—not that she needed such help. Between her own good looks, their family’s reputation, and the names her sisters had already made for themselves at school, she had instantly become the most popular girl in her year and boys swarmed her like bumblebees around the daffodils she was named for. There were a select few she flirted with regularly but with Valentine’s Day fast approaching, she seemed to have decided to narrow down her options.

Not waiting for her sisters to ask, Cissy said, with the air of a show judge picking a prize hippogriff, “Lucius Malfoy!” Bella and Andie groaned again, louder. “That prat?” Bellatrix shouted, kicking the trunk of a tree hard, clearly imagining it was the boy’s head. “I don’t understand why you two don’t like him!” Cissy cried in frustration. “I know why you do like him,” Andromeda grumbled. “It’s just because he looks like you!” “What’s wrong with that?” she replied, her cheeks turning slightly pink. “Mother says I should be proud of my beauty so why shouldn’t I try to find a boy who matches it? Besides, the Malfoys are an excellent family.”

“Auntie Walburga always says noble blood isn’t enough on its own,” Bella said haughtily. “Each family and individual has to constantly strive to prove themselves worthy of that nobility. I don’t see Malfoy doing that.” “He seems to think his mere existence is the greatest thing to ever happen to the world; the way he struts around this place,” Andie added. “But, as far as I can tell, he’s not particularly smart or talented.” “He certainly can’t fly!” Bella burst out. “But he doesn’t realize it. I still can’t believe he tried out for the Quidditch team as a first year and was shocked when he didn’t make it! Pathetic little worm! His tantrum was funny, though, I’ll admit.” “He’s got nothing going for him except his name and his hair,” Andie continued. “Which might be enough for some people, but you can do better than that, Cissy!”

Narcissa stomped her foot, glaring at them both. “You two are just jealous that I’m the youngest but I’m going to have my first kiss before you!” At that, they both burst out laughing. Bellatrix even collapsed on to the ground. “First of all,” she gasped, clutching her stomach. “That’s not even true! Andie’s already had her first kiss!” “That was under mistletoe,” Cissy protested. “It doesn’t count!” “And I’m pretty sure it only happened because Rabastan thought I was you,” Andromeda said. Now it was her turn to blush. “Since he seemed really confused when I tried to talk to him after and he’s been avoiding me ever since.”

“Idiot,” Bellatrix muttered, getting to her feet. “He should have known that if I’d ended up under the mistletoe with him, I’d have slapped him! Which brings me to my second point: I’d rather kiss a dementor than Lucius Malfoy. Or either Lestrange, for that matter.” “So who do you want to kiss?” Cissy asked. “Nobody!” “There must be someone.” “I’ve yet to meet anyone who seems like they’d be worth that. All the boys here are so annoying. I don’t want their disgusting mouths on mine!” “It’s not that bad,” Andie said. “Although it’s not that good, either. Mostly it was just…weird.” Cissy frowned.

“That can’t be right. It’s supposed to be the most magical thing in the world!” “You need to stop reading Mother’s romance novels,” Bella grumbled. “To be fair,” Andie reasoned, “it might feel different if you’re in love. I only kissed Rabastan because I was curious. I wanted to see what all the fuss was about.” “And you found out it’s about nothing! All this rubbish about kissing and courting and marriage is so stupid! I don’t want to end up tied to some useless boy for my whole life and have to change my name and do whatever he says. I’m better off on my own!” “But you have to get married!” Cissy cried. “That’s what everyone says.” “Come on, Ciss, you know what a rule-breaker Bella is,” Andie said with a grin. “If any of us can find a way out of marriage, it’s her!”

“But then how will I be maid of honor at your wedding?” “You can be maid of honor at Andie’s wedding.” “Excuse me,” Andromeda objected, “I’d prefer not to get married either unless I find someone I love.” Narcissa rolled her eyes.

“Well I’ve already found someone I love! Probably. I’ll know for sure after I kiss him.” Her sisters groaned yet again. “You know most people don’t marry the first person they kiss,” Andie pointed out. “You’re a bit young to be deciding who you want to spend the rest of your life with.” “But I really like Lucius! He’s handsome and charming and witty—” “Are you sure we’re thinking of the same Lucius Malfoy?” Bellatrix asked. “Sounds like you’ve met a completely different version of him than the rest of us.” “She might have. If he likes Cissy too, he’s probably been putting his best foot forward,” Andromeda said. Bellatrix scowled.

“Doesn’t matter. Nothing he can do could make him deserve Cissy!” “So who would you want me to date?” Cissy snapped. “Who do you think deserves me?” “No one! There’s no one at this school who’s worthy of any of us!” “Do you think the real reason you hate Lucius is just because I like him and you want us all to never grow up and get married?” There was a moment of silence as Bellatrix’s scowl deepened and Andromeda looked back and forth between her sisters uncomfortably. Finally Bella said,

“It’s not that I don’t want us to grow up; I don’t want us to forget that our sisterhood is more important than anything. I don’t want us to start putting some dumb boy before each other. Growing up doesn’t have to mean getting married.” Narcissa sighed. “Don’t be so silly, Bella! Of course, no boy’s ever going to come between us! But I do like Lucius, and I do want to get married someday. That doesn’t mean I’ll stop loving you!” “Doesn’t it? Mother only visits her family once a year. And we see Auntie Lucretia way less than Auntie Walburga because she’s not a Black anymore. Once you get married, we’ll never see you again!” Cissy shook her head stubbornly. “It will be different for us. We’re not just sisters; we’re best friends and we will be forever! Once we’re grown up, we’ll be able to Apparate, so we can visit each other all the time. Maybe, since you don’t want to get married, you could even live with me and Lucius!”

Bellatrix didn’t look like she thought much of that idea. Andromeda laughed at the look on her face but laid a hand on her shoulder and said gently, “Cissy’s right. We can’t stop her from growing up, but we can grow up in our own way. We don’t have to be exactly like the rest of our family.” Bellatrix considered this. “You two are the most important people in my life. That won’t ever change.” “And we’ll always love you,” Narcissa told her. “But one of the things we love about you is that you don’t try to control our whole lives like Mother and Father do. Please don’t start doing that now.”

“I didn’t forbid you from going out with Lucius. I just said you deserve better!” “Which, to be fair, you do,” Andie put in. “You were thinking about forbidding me though,” Narcissa said. “Or trying to, at least. I can see it on your face. But if our sisterhood is really so important to you, can you please stop thinking less about what I deserve and more about what I want?”

Bellatrix’s mouth twisted unpleasantly. While she functioned as the sisters’ de facto leader, she usually filled that role by making fun suggestions of games they could play and ways they could challenge themselves, which occasionally took some persuasion but her sisters were always happier for having gone along with. Strict rules were their parents’ job, and something Bella struggled against the most of the three of them. She didn’t want to put her sisters through the same thing, potentially causing them to rebel against or resent her.

“Fine,” she said eventually, a sharp edge still in her voice. “You can kiss Malfoy if that will really make you happy. But if he ever hurts you—if he even so much as breathes the wrong way around you—I will rip him limb from limb, drag his body into the Forbidden Forest and feed it to whatever creature comes fastest at the smell of blood.” Andromeda, who usually frowned whenever Bellatrix’s threats got too violent, nodded solemnly in agreement this time. To both of her sisters’ surprise, a wide smile broke out on Cissy’s face. “Good!” she said cheerfully. “It’s nice to know you’re looking out for me!”

@black-sisters-microfic

This was supposed to be short and funny and ended up long and kind of sad. Oh well!

[tremendously-crazy]

WHAT DO YOU DO IF YOU MAKE A JOKE ABOUT ONE OF YOUR MALE FRIENDS BEING YOURS (AS A JOKE BECAUSE YOU USED TO LIKE HIM BUT NOT ANYMORE!!) AND NOW ALL YOUR FRIENDS THINK YOU LIKE HIM??? BUT LIKE??? I DONT LIKE HIM ROMANTICALLY??? I DONT THINK??? anyway HELP!!!