#date a demisexual

[dateademisexualpersonwho]

Date a demisexual person who is a satanist

[itsaceokay]

I feel like people don't often fully appreciate how hard dating can be for demisexuals.

It just hit me the other day when I found out that most people are kissing by the first date and having sex by the third and to me that is just wild. And apparently, some people wait up to three months before having sex and that's seen as like a really long time and I'm sorry but is everyone okay???

After three dates a person is still a stranger and after three months they're at most an acquaintance - and people are not willing to wait longer and you'll be seen as unreasonable if you want to wait for a year or more??

[panickedpansexualprincess]

Has anyone else noticed the utterly adorable sprite that floats by in the background of the newest guest visit space background? Of little fluffy MC, Sheep-chan, clinging to a little rainbow trailing after a falling star? Well I certainly noticed it, and thought it was totally and completely precious. And perfect for a pride symbol too! So here I have made sprites of Sheep-chan clinging to pride flags as they trail after falling stars! I'll be posting them to my Redbubble shop later, but for now, I just wanted to share these little cuties! I hope you find them as adorable as I do!

These designs are available in my Redbubble shop for anyone who might be interested!

If I've missed a flag you'd like to see, please feel free to let me know, I just did a bunch that I could think of!

[embras-grace]

One thing I truly adore about Palia is the polyamory and general queerness. It's so nice that we can romance everyone so we don't miss any plots or items, but also its nice as a poly-queer person to see some representation in a game.

There is no jealousy. There is no hateful or painful breakups (as I understand it, if you break-up it is not mentioned and you restart the romance plot-line). No one makes negative comments about two pins or switching out pins.

It's so nice to see positive rep in a game and honestly such a breath of fresh air.

[aziraphales-library]

Hello there! Happy Spring! I’ve spent almost the last year working on a Good Omens AU and was hoping to share it here. I also wanted to shout about how wonderful the readers have been. This fandom is amazing. Thanks for what you do to keep everyone informed of the great stories out there.

The fic is finally complete. It’s a fake marriage fic with Aziraphale as a romance author and Crowley as his gardener. Crowley is demisexual.

https://archiveofourown.org/works/48743242/chapters/122958385

Congratulations! I do hope you are proud of yourself!

and now all of my garden is grown in lavender by ilikeblue for the_moonmoth [Rated E, 72K words]

Popular queer romance author, A.Z. Fell, has been lying about having a husband and a happy marriage for years. Longing to escape a string of failed relationships and looking for a fresh start, Aziraphale moves into the cottage left to him by his Great Aunt Agnes. When a TV adaptation of one of his books leads to sudden popularity and throws him into the limelight, his fans (and the press) are eager to catch a glimpse of Aziraphale's own mysterious leading man. Unfortunately, he still has to cast someone for that role. Enter the handsome gardener…

Under Crowley's meticulous care the cottage's neglected garden slowly comes back to life, and Aziraphale finds himself writing the most important love story he'll ever write: his own

-Mod AB

[aspecassasin]

It's just so lonely sometimes

[aclownsclownery]

"Aroace people can still date"

Yeah and aroace people can also bash your skull in and thats what this aroace person is gonna do if you keep using this as an argument to ignore a characters identity

[bisexualseraphim]

I wish romance and sex wasn’t so commonly seen as synonymous. I have a crush on someone whom I want to ask to hang out and so many of my friends are making jokes like “oooh asking her out already? You gonna invite her back home? Can’t wait to get in her pants eh?”

…No? None of that even crossed my mind??? I just want to ask to go get coffee and TALK to her. Ideally if we clicked I think it’d be nice to watch our favourite movies together and snuggle.

It’s actually incredibly easy to get sex these days, whether it’s through Grindr, sex work services, even just going to the club and bringing someone home. What isn’t easy, however, is finding that unique emotional connection and intimacy that comes with having a romantic partner. That doesn’t come too often.

And anyway, seeking friendship is my priority because I’m not one to act on romantic feelings unless the other person also explicitly shows interest first. The fact I’m trying to be friends with a girl and people’s instant reaction is to make it sexual is… so weird. I don’t like it. I wish this kind of shit wasn’t so normalised. People should be able to be friends with the gender(s) they’re attracted to without other people making it weird. You absolutely CAN be friends with someone you’re attracted to and if you can’t… that’s a you problem, pal.

[coastco7]

It took me going on a date with the sweetest guy I have ever met to confirm I am still very aroace. I find someone that finally respects consent and I have to tell him we aren't going to work out because I don't feel (or enjoy) anything we did.

I thought I could be romantic and just be okay with physical touch and kisses for his sake but I was trying to be something im not. It stressed me out so much I threw up, paced around my house, panicked, and cried.

I have known im aromantic and asexual for almost my whole life yet tried to deny it because the idea of being in a relationship is so desirable.

I thought maybe this is something I wanted since my aroace has always fluctuated but it took so much mental strain to realize I don't actually like being romantic or even touched at all.

It could change in the future as sexuality isn't concrete and that's OKAY. This could be due to deep-rooted trauma I havent worked through and that's OKAY

All I know is that I'm okay with the possibility of never being in a relationship and it's so relieving to finally be able to say that aloud.

[capricorn-0mnikorn]

As I've said elsewhere (side comment in a long post), I suspect that each my parents were on the aroace spectrum.

And, contrary to hetero- and amatonormative gender expectations, my dad was (I think) demisexual, and my mom (I suspect) was demiromantic.

They were my role models for what a "straight" relationship was supposed to be.

Imagine my frustration, decades later, when I tried to find a partner through sites like Match.com, eHarmony, and even the AOL personals.

I consistently put a lot of work, over time, into establishing an emotional connection, in order to generate a "spark" (because of course that's how it works, right?). Only to have my corespondent move on after I thought we were getting close.

I realize now that they probably expected the spark to be there first, to inspire the will to engage in the emotional labor, after. And that it seemed like I was coming on way too strong.

(Until I learned about aspec orientations, I just assumed every last one of them were backing out because I'm disabled. Now, I think we were just out of phase with each other)

Anyway -- I thought of an analogy, today: Allos are generating sparks with cigarette lighters. Demis are out here with bow drills and dry grass.

[drawn-for-yuu]

Lucifer tied bunny

WARNING: Slight NSFW

Tbh this was my first drawing of this kind. This man is corrupting me and I am glad (?)

If you like it please reblog, it makes me really happy to know you liked it!

you can check more of my drawings in the tag #drawnforyuuart heheheh yeah i just post lucy rn (?)

[dateademisexualpersonwho]

Date a demisexual who is only staying up late to do some much-needed laundry

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[ikemen-trifecta]

Grim x Sunshine - 🌻rientations

MAJOR SPOILERS FOR A DATE WITH DEATH AFTER THE Keep reading SELECTION

I was originally going to write a wholesome Jaehee x MC fic about them celebrating their first Pride Month as a couple, seeing as I can’t remember writing a lesbian couple before. However, I realised I won't be able to figure out how to write fitting dialogue for Jaehee in time to post, so I decided to save that for a later time and write about Grim to celebrate the Kickstarter for the ADWD sequel being fully funded. And as always, thank you to Mod Astraea for proofreading and providing insight~☆ –Edi

↓ Selecting Keep reading is the point of no return for spoilers. ↓

[Will (eventually) get around to having someone record a reading eventually for those who want the option to listen.]

　Sunny typed away at their desk, bouncing a leg and humming a tune as Casper lay on the bed, lazily kicking his legs behind him while reading. He flipped through the pages indifferently until some words caught his attention.

　He scanned over them a couple times before sitting up and furrowing his brows.

　“Sunshine?”

　They stopped humming but continued typing. “Hm?”

　“This book you had on your shelf… It contains a lot of information on mortal preferences for romantic interests.”

　“Mhm.”

　Clack clack clack.

　“I’m…curious about something.”

　“M’kay.”

　Clack clack clack.

　“What does—”

　Clack clack clack clack clack.

　“Would you stop that and pay attention?!”

　They swiveled their chair around. “I was, but okay. You have my undivided attention.”

　Casper huffed before holding the book up for Sunny to look at. “What does this mean?”

　“‘Demiromantic.’”

　“Yes. What is it?”

　They tilted their head. “The definition’s right there.”

　“I don’t…fully comprehend what it means.”

　“Well…” Sunny sat back in the chair. “A lot of people can feel romantically attracted to someone very soon after meeting them…”

　“Okay…” Casper lowered the book slowly as he listened.

　“Demiromantic people need to have a strong bond with whoever they’re attracted to beforehand.”

　“I see… And is ‘demisexual’ related to ‘demiromantic’?”

　“Kiiiind of? ‘Demiromantic’ is romantic attraction, and ‘demisexual’ is sexual attraction. They don't always go together, but they tend to.”

　Casper furrowed his brows quizzically, looking at the book again. “So ‘demisexual’ requires a strong connection in order for someone to be physically attracted.”

　“Yeah.”

　He didn’t speak for a bit.

　“What’re you thinking?”

　He put a hand to the back of his neck. “I think…that's me. This ‘demiromantic.’”

　Sunny waited for him to continue, something Casper picked up on immediately because of how they weren't yapping incessantly for once.

　“Is this a serious subject?” he asked slowly.

　“Ehhhh… Not if you don't want it to be. I can go back to making fun of you if you w—”

　“No.” He stared indignantly. “No. Do not.”

　Sunny crossed their legs casually and leaned on the armrest, a ghost of a smile tugging at the corner of their mouth. “’Kay~”

　“I…” Casper started, gathering his hair over his shoulder and running his hands over it, “I assumed it was due to my dedication to my work, but…I didn't…”

　He glanced up at Sunny.

　“I didn't feel drawn to anyone until you.”

　Sunny didn't say anything. Casper waited for a few moments before risking another peek.

　They were…smiling. Gently smiling.

　“No quip?”

　“Do you want me to?”

　“No,” he responded softly.

　They sat in near-silence for a while longer until Casper spoke up.

　“Is it accurate?”

　“The book?”

　“The concept. Does it apply to me?”

　Sunny uncrossed their legs and sat up a bit straighter. “That's up to you. If you learn that you feel differently later, you can use different labels to describe yourself. Or choose not to use any at all.”

　“It's that simple?”

　They smirked. “The only one who can know for sure is you; it’s not like there's a queer police.” They paused. “Well, there are people who’ll try to decide for you, even if they're not straight.”

　“That… You mortals formed a community but exclude people who don't seem like they meet the criteria?”

　“Some people are dumb,” they answered matter-of-factly.

　He frowned while Sunny drummed their fingers on the armrest.

　“You don't have to tell anyone. I mean… I’m glad you told me, seeing as we’re together, but you can keep it a secret if you aren't comfortable sharing.”

　He stared down at the book in his hands.

　“And…demisexual…” he muttered, blushing slightly, “That sounds correct, too.”

　“Alright,” they replied, unable to hide the hint of amusement in their voice.

　Casper blushed more. “You're laughing at me.”

　“I’m not~ I’m just thinking about what might've led up to you determining that.”

　He blushed even further, hiding his mouth and mumbling a “you.”

　Sunny’s eyes lit up. “Really?!”

　“Yes,” he grumbled.

　“You really feel that way?”

　He glared ruefully. “You’re so damn enticing. Your face is enchanting, your hands are alluring… How else am I supposed to feel?”

　They stared at him with wide eyes before breaking into a massive grin.

　“Ah, shit—”

　“You think I’m irresistible~?” they giggled, flopping down on the bed and across Casper's lap.

　He rolled his eyes. “I am constantly resisting you, so no.”

　“But the fact that you even have to resist me means I make you feel strongly.”

　“Birdbrain.”

　“Bonehead.”

　“I told you; Grim Reapers are not skele—”

　“Why am I rattling your bones so much, then?”

　He closed his eyes and inhaled.

　“You are everything I desire,” he started, sighing exasperatedly, “along with so many things I do not.”

　“You got a 2-for-1 special.”

　He grunted and looked away.

　“Hey, Casper.”

　“What.”

　He jumped a bit as Sunny sat up and put their face close to his— so close that their noses were nearly touching.

　“What are you…doing?”

　They didn't respond and kept looking into his eyes. He shifted awkwardly.

　“Sunshine?”

　They continued gazing into his eyes, causing his blush to spread to his ears.

　“I-I…”

　His eyes flitted to the side in an attempt to stop himself from becoming too flustered. He could practically feel their gaze giving him sunburn.

　After the silence became too unnerving for him, he bridged the gap, giving them a quick kiss before turning away embarrassedly to look at literally anything else.

　“Aww~ What a lovely surprise~” they mused sarcastically.

　He let out a huff, sounding significantly less annoyed and more self-conscious than he’d hoped. He stared at Azrael lounging against the pillows, hoping to regain his composure.

　There was a gentle weight on his shoulder. He looked and saw Sunny resting their chin on him with a look of adoration in their eyes.

　He squinted and turned his head slightly, shielding himself from their aura with a hand. “Nine hells; you’re brighter than hellfire.”

　“Are you calling me radiant~?”

　“Yes. In the worst of ways.”

　They stayed quiet until Sunny chortled and took their head off his shoulder.

　“What?”

　“Just remembered one of our video calls.”

　“Which one?”

　“Twenty questions.”

　“Dare I ask?” he questioned warily.

　“You said you’d never been in love and that you wouldn’t kiss someone you didn’t love.”

　He tensed up.

　“That means you were in love with me when you came to live here,” Sunny said, smiling to themself.

　Casper blushed, searching frantically for a way around his inability to lie that he was at that stage so soon.

　“Technically, you kissed me,” he mumbled.

　“Dang. I thought I’d be able to make you say more sappy stuff.”

　“Shut up…”

　“Ooh; wait. Now that you know you’re demi, there’s something I’m wondering about.”

　“…Yes?” he asked cautiously.

　“Would you still have feelings for me if I were a different gender?”

　“Yes. Why?”

　“Any gender?”

　“I…think so, but why are you asking me thi—”

　“‘Panromantic’ means you can be romantically interested regardless of gender, so if you’re demi and pan and Death, would that make you a pandemic?”

　His face clouded over with a grimace as he sighed, “Fuck you.”

　“Yes, please.”

　Tomatofication and stammering ensued at the immediate response.

　“Y-You— Don't just— I mean, if you— This is very sudden; I’m not sure if that's a…”

　They smiled, charmed by his flustered state. “I’m messing with you.”

　“Sunny!” he exclaimed, “Don't do that!”

　“Can’t promise.”

　Casper crossed his arms and closed his eyes in an attempt to will away his flushed face. “Why don’t you have the ability to remain serious for more than two minutes?”

　“Because I wouldn’t be me~”

　He huffed.

　Sunny put their knee against his after admiring his pout for a few seconds.

　“Thank you for telling me. I’m happy you feel safe with me knowing.”

　His expression softened as he looked away and uncrossed his arms, shyly sliding his hand over theirs.

　“I appreciate the explanations.”

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(art by @/mitch4tune will be added if she finishes it)

Got inspiration for this fic from Shoko's Grim headcanon. Go check out this post of Grim ace profile pics!

Edit: OH MY GAWD I USED MY TTS EXTENSION TO READ IT BACK TO ME AND IT PRONOUNCED "GRIMACE" AS "GRIM ACE" MICROSOFT MARK KNOWS WHAT'S UP

[mitch4tune]

I headcanon Grim as demi, and no one can stop me (unless Two and a Half Studios confirms something else).

I also think the same for Jumin Han.

–Edit(s)– More queer headcanons: 🂡 Bakugou Katsuki - aroacespec 🂡 Akemi Homura - sapphic and/or queerplatonic

[pidgwin]

I'm slowly coming to the realisation that dating apps are probably not going to work for me being demisexual. I don't know if i find someone sexually attractive until i know them, so do i date to see if i want to date them? That seems crazy. I go on 3rd, 4th, 7th dates and just wait to see if the sexual attraction will kick in??? It doesn't feel fair to the other person, who may well start to develop feelings in that time. Do i only date other demisexual people? Do i, an autistic person, have to constantly be putting myself out there and draining my spoons in order to meet people and develop relationships? All my previous relationships have developed from friendships first. Do i have to constantly be actively cultivating friendships in the hopes that one will develop into a romantic/sexual connection? I'm so tired. Managing the friendships and activities i have is exhausting for me. How am i supposed to do more? I genuinely don't know what to do. The possibility of meeting someone suddenly feels very very low.

[cienie-isengardu]

Mortal Kombat 1 Behind the Scenes AU: The Dating Issues

Author’s note: When I started this half-serious, half-crackish AU series, I had no idea where NRS was planning to take this new timeline. With female Cyrax and female Sektor I faced a dilemma, should I ignore those two characters in favor of their male counterparts or include them and ignore the original versions. So I decided to cheat XD Instead of picking one version over the other, I will include female Sektor & Cyrax while mentioning their male versions as their respective brothers. If Lin Kuei could pass the Sub-Zero title between a few generations of the same family, I’m sure “Cyrax” and “Sektor” names may work the same. Hopefully the new lore will drop their real names at some point.

My choice comes down to two reasons. One, I’m too used to male Sektor and Cyrax to erase them but at the same time I don’t wanna cross out female versions without giving those characters a fair chance. Two, as I talked before about my concerns and fears in regard to gender bending Cyrax and Sektor, lately it feels to me that NRS badly wants to establish Scorpion Kuai Liang as heterosexual man. Now, Hanzo loving deeply his wife was always part of his character however as A) I see cryomancers as naturally aro ace people and B) NRS took away from me cryomancer Kuai Liang, I decided to be petty as possible and do everything in my power to not make current Kuai Liang a straight man XDDD Which is why I’m throwing male Cyrax into the mix and switching any potential past(?) romantic tension between Scorpion and female Cyrax into a very disappointed and protective sister upset his friend picked some Japanese girl over her brother. Not sorry about that at all 🤣

[Earlier posts, from #1 to #52] [Shao learns about Paid Leave (p. 2)] [Johnny’s complaint] [The problems with Smoke’s powers] [Dark Sub-Zero] [Say ‘cheese’!] [Haunted mansion] [Sektor & Cyrax - Scenography (4)] [Shang Tsung’s commentary] [Just one more take! + bonus] [Bi-Han, NO! - Cat on film set] [Bi-Han, NO! - Purrfected] [Bi-Han, Sektor & Cyrax - Scenography (5)] [Bi-Han, NO! - Madam Bo’s “help” during filming scene] [Dark Sub-Zero, p.2] [Saibot’s hug] [I SAID I’M SORRY!] [Shang Tsung and Kuai Liang for once agreeing on something] [Reassurance] [Ketchup & Mustard, p. 1]