#cyberstalking psa

[ringsofsaturnnnn]

just a reminder: cyberstalking isn’t fucking cool. it’s not cute or quirky either. it’s fucking creepy and can seriously affect the person you choose to stalk.

[siriwesen]

I'm watching this talk about spyware/malware on smartphones and what to do about it. The presentation is in english, the talk is German. The presenters give 2 very helpful resources for people who may be affected by stalkerware / cyberstalking. These resources can help you to get back control over your devices and IT Security. 1. Page is in German, I recommend using DeepL to translate to English. https://antistalking.haecksen.org/anleitungen

2. Page contains information in english, all about stalkerware, prevention and what to do when you suspect malicious programs/stalkerware on your device!

[holyguardian]

Taps the sign.

I highly doubt Autumn sent an anonymous message themself, part of me even doubts this is a friend acting in good faith and someone is trying to be a wee lil troll.

Even so, I have expressed a boundary. I don't think even 24 hours passed before whoever this was breakdanced all over the line I have drawn. I want nothing to do with this individual. DO NOT INTERACT. Unfollow, soft block, hard block, do whatever needs doing but don't go sending me this kind of nonsense.

Anonymous messages will be turned off for a hot minute.

DO NOT INTERACT!

I don't make this type of post lightly, but if any of my followers interact with Autumn who has remade their Aerith blog yet again under the URL of gains.flora I will be blocking you for my own comfort due to past behaviour from this individual. Feel free to soft block or hard block me preemptively if you follow them. It's not that deep, I simply do not want a crumb of their presence or influence in my space, or for any of my own content to cross their dashboard.

Calling an entire RPC toxic while gaslighting, guilt tripping, cyberstalking, manipulating, lowkey slandering "I shouldn't talk about this blog but..." and love bombing to pull people into your narrative is not acceptable. People are not immutable, and perhaps this person has changed and can still further change, but the pain and damage they caused far outweighs what I am personally willing to forgive.

They have been known to stalk fellow Aerith rp blogs to comb through their content and align any similarities as plagiarism hence my 10 foot pole between myself and their nonsense. I myself adore writers who write the same canon characters as me, and I vibe really well with them because we have an amazing (unbiased :p) common interest, so you will understand why I am taking such a big stance to protect my own space.

[oopsallsyscourse]

Fun psa!

Weskcourse/conquest collective/whatever the hell their next blog will be is still fucking cyberstalking people! Whether it's through them or their friends! I will dm evidence on request but honestly fuck this! Leave me alone! Hiatus my ass!

[princelyhelp]

people on this fucking site waste so much time digging into and straight up stalking the people they don't like and then they try to disguise it as like a public service. it really makes me see red. you are not the babysitter of this person who people don't like!! i genuinely can't tell if it comes from like a victim complex ("oh i'm spending all this time making sure this person doesn't hurt anyone else and it's taking up so much of my life:(((") or a heightened and misplaced sense of justice, but stop it. stop it!!!! the person you're stalking probably does not give a fuck. all this ever accomplishes is the person being a weirdo gets some attention for it and like retraumatizes themselves and the rpc in the process. i'm not saying to just let people get away with things, but could you imagine the real life equivalent of this? someone scams you for under $100 or is a bad friend or makes some unwanted sexual advances and instead of like moving on with your life and keeping yourself healthy... you literally drop everything for months if not years, letting your own life fall to the wayside just so you can let everyone know that this person now shops at this target, or they made a new twitter, or cut their hair. it's so fucking unhealthy i can't stand it. you are not the keeper of the person who hurt you. it is not your responsibility to stop them. you are hurting literally everyone BUT that person in the process of wasting your time and probably accusing 10 other random innocent people of being this one person using a new alias/blog. and the thing that really eats me is i just KNOW so many people are gonna take this as like me excusing the actions of people who do bad things. i'm not lmao i promise i'm not. but genuinely who does it benefit to waste literal years of your life cyberstalking someone who was mean to you a few times and probably doesn't even remember you at all anymore?? (also the you here is like a general you not YOU jsjsjsjjsjs) xoxo the hater hater

You're right, people should cyberstalk or keep up tabs on an individual who hurt them ( online ). Because all it does is hurt the person who's dedicating all this time and energy to the fucker who hurt them. Like you said, it benefits no one nor is it healthy. Like go ahead and make a PSA, do that and leave it at just that. But to create an entire account dedicated to that person? ,,,, babes,,,,, don't do that, it's not worth it. However, anon, I would like to say that I do not like the example you brought up, i.e. " or makes some unwanted sexual advances " because that is something that can affect a person for a very long time. You should've just ended your example at getting scammed at for less than $100.

Anyways. Me personally, I think people should just make psas, block the person, mute they names, and move on from their lives. That's what I did to someone in the rpc and honestly,,,, I'm living my best fucking life! Sometimes it feels like that person no longer exists <3 But I get that blocking someone isn't an easy solution for everyone. Some people want their licks back, some people obsess over the person, we all react differently to shitty people in the rpc. All I say is that you don't let one shitty person ruin your fun or way of life. Don't give them satisfaction, whether it's online or real life. Don't let that bitch ass nigga do that to you.

[alwaysscreechingbasement]

PSA: Android owners can use an app called ‘AirGuard’ to detect nearby AirPods.

[mass-mind-control]

[saharaandgunner]

Be Careful Online

When I started this account I freely uploaded photos of myself experimenting with makeup and photography.  I wanted feedback on how my makeup techniques were and if I was improving.  I never once considered what I was doing could attract unsolicited messages detailing vulgar scenarios and depictions of a sexual nature.

Then like a swarm of sharks came bullying hordes of hate filled remarks and vicious suggestions.  Names such as “catfish” was thrown around and at the time the only catfish I knew about lived in bodies of salt water.  So to prove I wasn’t a “catfish” I do YouTube videos and further put myself out there in the public eye.  Believe me this only fanned the flames and people returned worse than before.  According to these people I was now a “attention whore” and trying to use my “looks” as means to somehow convince whoever that I was legit.

Confused and ready to call the internet quits...another bomb dropped.  People were saving my images and uploading them to other websites and external devices, then downloaded to porn sites in attempts to lure men in who thought I was barely legal.  I won’t reveal my true age because I have learned so much, but barely legal?  Try ILLEGAL!

Why am I writing all this?  Since meeting Gunner I realized how naive I’ve been and still am to some degree.  With his help I moved all my and his images to a private password protected tumblr along with my videos as I no longer feel safe to post anything from a video to a photo of myself or my friends anymore. 

You don’t owe anyone a photo of yourself.  You shouldn’t give out sensitive information about yourself or your friends.  Block whoever makes you feel uncomfortable and like you can’t enjoy yourself online.  Anything you post will always stay on the internet regardless if you delete it seconds later.  I know from experience.

Please be safe and be careful who you trust.  Putting your real face out there can come back to haunt you.  This is why I no longer post pictures of myself, Gunner or my friends.

[lj-writes]

Heads up, thesovereignempress is back after deleting and her new URL is @sithlightsaber. If you had her blocked before, you should block again because this is a remade blog and not a URL change. I highly recommend everyone do this because she deleted the last time around for stalking/doxxing and should be considered actively dangerous. Also, if you have had run-ins with her, please take measures to keep your information private and delete any links between your fandom stuff and your RL identity. This is a good idea in general anyway.

(To the shippers creeping on the anti tag--I have been told that some of you have links to your personal social media accounts on your blog. Like tell your friends to SHUT THAT SHIT DOWN If they haven’t already, my God not only is that a fucking stupid idea in principle, you’re in a section of a fandom with a known doxxer, including people who still support her and had the gall to “forgive” her when the victim did not. Use some basic common sense, PLEASE.)

The shitty doxxer’s old URL is now a receipts blog of her stalking and doxxing activities and seems to be run by someone interested in keeping the record accurate, so if you’re curious about what happened give it a look.

[soratayuya]

Wild how I legit haven't seen this term used in like 10yrs but it was critical and a huge deal in the early to mid 2000s

i haven’t heard the word “cyberstalking” in a long time but it used to be a recognizably bad thing to stalk someone online, to try to dig up everything you can on them, follow their every move online, obsessively post about them, barrage them with messages, block evade, etc - but now it’s just normalized and seen as something totally “ok” to do if the person in question is “problematic” in some way - like the same people who say “if your partner does this run” will turn around and do the same thing to a stranger online they dont even know and they don’t even think twice - it’s abuse, it’s harassment… just stop it

[normaltothemax]

I don’t really talk about this, but right now I need to because I am seriously fucking shaking I am so upset and angry right now.

You can’t be stalked online? Are you fucking serious?? How fucking narrow-minded do you have to be to think that. As someone who has been stalked online, I think you need to sit the fuck down and shut up. Online stalking is one of the reasons I’ve moved my blog so much (probably 6 or 7 times at least) since making it. It’s the reason I don’t post pictures of myself on my blogs anymore. It’s the reason a part of me wonders, with every follower, every mutual, every friend I make, if they’re really who they say they are.

And my story isn’t even the most severe case I’ve heard of.

Back in grade school, there was this boy who we’ll call John. Now, I was not nice to John. He was a weird kid, followed me and my friends around, and honestly, looking back, I was a bit of a bully to him when he tried to hang around my friends and I. By the time I graduated 8th grade, I no longer had to see or hear from John and I forgot about him. All throughout high school, I didn’t see him, didn’t hear from him, didn’t think about him. At some point, he added me as a friend on Facebook and I, thinking nothing of it, accepted his friend request. We didn’t talk and at this point in time, I was basically just adding everyone and anyone. It didn’t matter who it was, I almost always accepted the request.

I was I think in grade 12 when he messaged me, out of the blue, with a long confession of how much he liked me. John told me he often thought about how my life was going and he wanted to go out and had only now worked up the courage to ask. Now, the length of his confession was weird, as was the way it was written, but I chalked it up to John just being nervous. After all, everyone gets nervous asking someone out, especially if they have a crush on them. I didn’t feel the same way, however, and declined, making my own feelings (or lack thereof) known. He continued to message me, trying to get me to change my mind, and it got to the point where I had to unfollow and block him and hope he got the message.

Flash forward a few years to me being in my third year of university. Tumblr was relatively new to me, but I loved it. Max was probably about a year or two old, at that point. I had a decent amount of followers, but didn’t get many asks, so when I did get asks, I got excited. A relatively new blog followed me and, a few days later, appeared in my inbox. This blog introduced himself as Walter.

Now, Walter was new to Tumblr and had come across my blog, decided I was a nice enough person and a decent-quality blog and asked for some help. He wanted to understand how Tumblr worked, as he was brand new to it. I, happy to help anyone new to the site, willingly obliged. I explained how to make posts, how the queue worked, how there were different rules when it came to personal versus roleplay blogs, the most basic being: unless you’re a part of a roleplay thread, don’t reblog it. He asked questions, I answered them. Walter was a kind, friendly dude and we chatted a bit through asks and fanmails.

One morning, I woke up to several LONG fanmails in my inbox.

Walter, it turns out, wasn’t Walter at all. He was John. According to John, he was intimidated and shy and just wanted to get to know me, so he made up Walter to do so. He AGAIN confessed his love for me. He went on and on about how every night he would stare up at the ceiling and think about me. How he wondered what I was doing, if I was smiling, who I was with, whether or not I was happy. He told me how he “scoured the internet for any sign of [me] for years”. YEARS. How he was just so happy to find me on this blog and how he wanted to know if I would go out with him “like normal people do”. His words, not mine.

Now, this to me was terrifying. The thought of someone thinking about me every day, searching the internet for any sign of me for YEARS, someone I hadn’t actually seen since the EIGHTH GRADE, easily SEVEN YEARS AGO is absolutely horrifying. I replied to him stating in no uncertain terms that this was unacceptable. It was NOT okay and if he EVER tried to contact me again I would be involving the authorities. 

Now, it is entirely possible that this wasn’t actually true. That he was saying this stuff trying to be romantic, thinking, for whatever reason, that I would find it flattering. The truth is I have zero way of knowing whether or not that is the case. From my perspective, this guy I haven’t seen or spoken to since the eighth grade has now reached out to me multiple times, saying things that made me uncomfortable, found me on a blog that NO ONE in my life knew about---and I mean no one. I did not talk about my blog to anyone, I did not post about it anywhere, so I have no idea how he ever found me---pretended to be someone else to get close to me, only to dump that insanity on me. 

This was five or so years ago and I am still afraid. I am still scared that, some day, someone I have come to know and trust on this site will reveal that they’re actually him. I am still afraid to post pictures of myself, even when I really want to, because what if he is still looking. What if he finds me again. What if, somehow, he finds me in real life? It’s possible, I don’t live far from my home town and I have no way of knowing what he’s doing or where he is. I have no idea what his intentions were---if he really just wanted to go out and was just that awkward or if giving him the time of day would have ended terribly.

Cyberstalking is real. Cyberstalking is a crime. Cyberstalking is fucking terrifying to be a victim of, and my story is probably the most vanilla of them all.

Online you are anonymous. Online you can be anyone and no one will be any wiser and that is what makes cyberstalking so fucking terrifying.

[greenpaladinofnature-blog]

PSA about a toxic bitch and rumors.

For the record I never told anyone to kill themself thanks for defileing my religious belief you dramahooker.

No doubt some of the new contacts have gotten questionable anonmious in their inbox, this is thespellweaver/theotherpuppet. She has been cought multiple times in the past sending such abusive slander to the contacts of anyone she attacks. She has also been known to get super aggressive desprate and downright threaten anyone who does not instantly block me after reciving said lies in their inbox.

The best action i can recomend is block the anonmious, they are still lies fabricated by spell to try and look 'pure' and 'woke' but all she is is an abudive cyberstalking bitch.

[clonehub]

Is it hard being a fan of color in the SW fandom? I’m a white woman and I feel constantly exhausted and unwelcome all the time. Why do you stick with this fandom? What makes it worthwhile to you, even if both Lucasfilm and the fandom refuse to cater to you?

yes, being Black in the star wars fandom is hard. its tiring, its exhausting, its depressing, its aggravating, and its angering. i have multiple friends who are some marginalized racial or ethnic identity who have left the fandom in recent months because many members--some very prominent--shouted down, spoke over, ignored, dismissed, harassed, abused, or otherwise trivialized them and their experiences with racism.

(what's interesting is that those people, for all their insistence that there are more serious/important things to worry about than racism in shows and fandom, never once share donation posts, informational links, current news/psa, or other helpful things directed to any ethnic or racial minority.)

Why do I stick here? I have no idea. Recent writing in the Star Wars media we've been getting hasn't been good--and even when it's decent, I don't find it very entertaining because its often outside my very narrow window of interest (clones).

Maybe it's spite. I've been harassed and cyberstalked and lied to/about, but I'll be damned if some pissy white people successfully run me out of here, you know? Besides, I've found a lot of joy in talking about both my own and others' OCs. I like interacting with people here. I like being able to flex my writing/editing muscles by complaining about the Bad Batch. But my ties to the fandom and my interest in Star Wars are much thinner than they used to be, primarily because of the racism.

Now, I'd be careful not to use the word "catering", since that implies/means that I expect Lucasfilm and the fandom to directly tend to my desires with total disregard for what others might want to see--which is what they actually do with white (mostly male) audiences. I want something that's well written. I want zero racism. These are normal things to expect in any space or media I go into. Fandom and Lucasfilm are currently catering to racists.

[chibi-fubby]

!!!PSA!!!

See this Furby art? It’s cute, right?  Well don’t support the creator!!  His name is Alias, and he may be only 15, but he’s done a lot of shit that is very bad.  

If you’re wondering why this is in various other tags, it’s because he is in multiple other fandoms as well.

This isn’t me just calling out some random ass poor kid, Alias has 94.4 thousand Youtube subscribers, 11.3 thousand Deviantart watchers, and has a deleted channel that had 98.4 thousand subs before being deleted.  It was deleted for good reasons, and the old channel’s name? Birdie.  

You know, the animator who got into tons of drama from ages 12 to 13 for having a rape fetish, drawing literal CP, cyberstalking, and abusing his girlfriend even after they broke up (he doxxed her at least once), and being a transmisogynist.  

Since turning 14, he hasn’t improved at all.  He has sexually harassed his former best friend online, continued to stalk and abuse his ex-girlfriend, drawn more CP (along with children in sexual clothing), accused the ex-girlfriend he abused of abusing him, physically assaulted his parents and siblings (some of which are younger than him) in real life and decided to share that information online, sexualized and slut shamed his ex against her will after they broke up, neglected his pet ferret, commited OC theft (from his ex and her friends) and fetishized eating disorders.  

One time he literally claimed in a discord chat that he wanted a girlfriend without free will, in the context of him wanting to create a voice in his head to date and being worried it would have free will.  For even more context, he already said before then that he had several ‘voices’, as he called them, in his mind with free will, so he wasn’t afraid of making a headmate with the ability to think for themself.  He claims to have DID, and while it seems very unlikely that he actually does due to multiple factors, I don’t know very much about the mechanisms of it and so I won’t actually hold it against him here.  But I’m pretty sure that systems would be against someone forcing their brain to create some type of headmate with no free will solely for dating, whether the host has DID or not.

If you need more recent drama, in the past few days Alias has broken up with a girlfriend after their first attempt at dating and made a video making fun of her.  It was revealed that the final straw that broke them up because he was trying to get her to go raid his ex’s stream (SAME STALKED AND ABUSED EX FROM BEFORE!!) and she was uncomfortable.  

She then revealed that he wouldn’t stop talking about how much he hated his ex the whole time they were dating, would constantly vaguely vent (sometimes in servers with other people!!), refusing to state why he was upset & refusing to stop venting, and that whenever she tried venting to him he would just say stuff like (this one is an exact quote) “oh frick” and then not message her for the rest of the day.

THEN it was revealed he was running a secret youtube channel where he made rude shitposts of his poor abused ex with his friends for a whole month.  He’s also moved on to making fun of both his old ex and his now newest ex and accusing both of them of being manipulative abusers.  Again, these last few paragraphs were from less than 7 days.

Everyone has tried calling him out to his face, but he says he no longer reads or watches callouts and accuses everyone who argues with him of being a whiteknight for his exes.  Try just blocking him instead.

He’s on DA and Refsheet as SpriteCranbirdie, has a DA alt at edgy-jack, and is at Youtube as Alias and jacktheedgelord (along with many alts mosty listed on his main or in easy to find places).  Please don’t harass him, just block him and spread the word if feel like you have to.  

He draws My Little Pony fanart and OCs, Care Bears fanart and OCs, Gorillaz fanart, Rick and Morty fanart, kidcore art, and furry original content.  I will be tagging this accordingly.

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1uZB2zACpfcHg0_4zrBqCS52goK2t91HXCK-rdEzwZAE/edit  Here is a document!! It has evidence or links to evidence for nearly everything, but it is still an ongoing project so it may be missing some things.

[lumi-klovstad-games]

PSA: respect your game’s Modding community!

I never really understand why folks (and it seems to predominantly happen on Nexus Mods) kind of throw tantrums when they don't get the game mods they want. Like, modders pump out amazing content, much of very professional quality, that takes real work usually for free that would take the rest of us YEARS to learn how to pull off with a similar level of skill. 

That's like being given free tickets by Christopher Eccleston to the red carpet premiere of his latest movie of... let’s say MacBeth, and then griping to him after the show that you were annoyed that he did "some Shakespeare play" and not more Doctor Who.

I think the only mod that I didn't get that ever elicited an emotional reaction of any sort from me because I didn't get it was when Covadonga's World War weapon pack for Fallout 4 (I was CRAZY looking forward to it) sailed past every single projected deadline and just kind of faded into the aether with a gradual but consistent end to status updates instead of releasing.

Even then I did my best not to be an entitled monkey about it and moved on; barring this example, obviously. It's the one mod project where I genuinely wondered what the hell happened; that's mostly because for the longest time it seemed like it was almost done and status updates by Cova always were worded such that it sounded like the launch would finally happen in the next month or so... for nearly a year. From what I understand, real life intervened but the cancellation was never formally announced -- and that's the part that really bit me: not knowing. Even so, I didn’t cyberstalk Cova, I didn’t barrage the people who were helping him with his project with questions and queries. I was majorly disappointed, but I shrugged and moved on. 

As far as I can figure, most people are like this. It’s just that the ones who AREN’T are very, VERY vocal and that can hurt the community at large by distorting a modder’s perception of said community. A lot of modders who now come across to me as “rude” in the comments? They didn’t start that way. They usually were heckled to that point by people complaining about things they don’t like and/or nitpicking their work (there is a fine line between “details-oriented constructive criticism” and “nitpicking” that, though difficult, every person who uses mods has an obligation to master to the best of their ability) for perceived inaccuracies. Honestly, if I faced that kind of prolonged heckling, I would probably beat someone or stop showing up. I’d go way beyond “rude sarcasm”, so props to those modders for their restraint.

As long as modders are honest about how + why a project isn't happening or can't be finished (and that even includes "I just don't have the energy/passion/drive to do it"), I think those of us who merely consume what they create have no right to be picky and instead every obligation to be understanding. You don't have to like bad news -- just respect the bearer.

Respect your modders.

P.S: If you’re one of those types who wants your Fallout game to have gun mods that are as realistic as possible down to the serial markings on the gun and intricately modeled inner components that you’ll never even see with realistic damage, ballistic performance, spread, etc., just go play Escape From Tarkov. To quote Viva La Dirt League, “it’s gonna feel like getting punched in the dick”, but it was 100% made with your nitpicking and quibbling in mind. Leave the modders alone.

[emr7s]

I got a reply on one of my old art pieces by anon, once. Then a good friend taught me some tricks, and now I know some things about them.

They're pathetic, and people like them are pathetic.

Heads up - Cyberstalking

Since summer 2016, I am being cyberstalked and bullied by a person I’ll refer to as “Anon”. The drama was at it’s climax in summer 2016, then died out a little, but Anon never retrieved entirely. They kept poking me here with numerous other blogs they created, all of which I ended up not responding to, and blocking. Now, they’re back. Pretending to be me on a “drama blog”. Following, messaging and insulting random people in my name. Claiming that I bully them with the drama blog.

Now I do realize that 4K people follow me. The vast majority of which have not heard one bit about the drama, and won’t get in touch with my bully anyway.

HOWEVER the reason I’m exposing this to so many people this is: This type of harassment can happen to anyone. Including you <3 And if you happen to be a less popular blog, you’d be even more defenseless than me. Anyone can get cyberstalked/bullied. Your stalker can go out and message random people spreading rumors about you.

No, I do not steal art or ideas (I think it’s apparent in my style that what I post is my work).

No, I never told Anon (or anyone) their art was shitty.

Yes, I have made a “drama blog”, but not the one Anon claims I have. I don’t go around and message random people about it and shove it’s existence in their face. And my blog is not a bully blog, it’s a blog to defend myself. I collected the posts on that blog because I wanted to delete them from my official blogs and move on (without deleting the evidence completely).The purpose of it was not to bully Anon. It was to be prepared with evidence in case my stalker came back, because I had a feeling. And that’s exactly what Anon is doing right now. I was getting tired of explaining myself over and over again, so I redirected people to my “drama blog” to figure things out themselves.

Now that I’m here, I’d like to request something, to those of you who want to: Please, if you know which blog/person I’m talking about, report them. If you are new to this drama, I understand why you are curious and ask me about it. But it does not help me move on. I prefer to leave this post here, so I don’t have to respond to these “drama messages” anymore. I’m not writing this to bully Anon. I’m writing this to clear my name and move on <3