#but I needed to rant

[thatdamhobbit]

Hey, hey who wants to know a lil secret?

LARP drop fucking SUCKS!!

You’re telling me that I just did all that cool shit, I learned magic, I saved people’s lives, I got a fucking second soul put inside me, I met people who finally feel like home and now I just have to forget all of it? Just act like I didn’t laugh harder than I have in weeks and almost cry and have one of the best weekends of my life? And now I just have to go back to school and do maths and essays? Leave all those people behind so they can forget about me?

Yeah, fuck that.

[halflingchill]

Shoutout to all the lovely asexuals, demisexuals, the whole ass ace umbrella that end up having to unpack all of the societal bs regarding sex. My cis male partner was told growing up that to be a man was to want sex. He spent his early twenties basically trying to live up to that ideal, despite being autistic and HATING being touched. He learned to disconnect his brain just to live up to this ideal.

Cue years later. We've moved in together and as he had gotten more comfortable with me and our sex life tapered off to almost nothing. No biggie, I love this dude, I don't need sex to have a happy relationship. (Despite the fact that I am a grade A hoe lol) He was DISTRAUGHT. In his mind sex was the primary thing he as a man had to offer. Clearly he must be failing me, clearly something must be wrong with him. Until one day I uttered an apparently life changing phrase:

"Have you ever considered that you might fall somewhere under the ace umbrella?"

I directed him to various resources, readings, and groups and ya'll the weight that was lifted off of this man's shoulders. Suddenly he wasn't a failure, he wasn't broken, he wasn't less of a person or partner. It took 40 years for him to get to this. 40 YEARS OF INSECURITIES AND HAVING TO PUSH THROUGH UNCOMFORTABLE SITUATIONS. He's so comfortable now, so happy, and it just breaks my heart to think of all the other people who feel like they HAVE to be sexual and have sex to be a good partner or live up to expectations.

Ya'll are fucking valid and deserve love and support regardless of where you fall sexwise. And hopefully someday people won't have to discover this fact 40 years later.

[sylviefish]

This made me think.

I've always been a hopeless romantic, ever since I was little. But I think I've just wanted my relationship to be like a friendship, but with a title yk? Nothing would change besides an official label. I'm not really interested in anything romantic. I just want to hold hands with someone while sharing airpods and listening to a playlist we made together, or lean on someone on a rainy day and play mario kart while sharing a blanket. I'm still figuring out my identity as an aroace person. But this post really connected with me. I looked at it and was like "That's me! That's how I feel!"

Idk man, relationships are hard. But thank you for this.

having a ponder about being aromantic and the kinds of friendships or qprs I might want to have

[honeypleasejustkillme]

i thought i was at my lowest but holy shit it gets lower

[jukcaliee]

Me declining food from someone then binging later be like

[macskasbacsi]

they mean so much to mee

[samantha83]

[frownyalfred]

hey just for the record, if you’re on r/ao3 and keep running into these kinds of comments on bookmark related posts — it’s not a good take. calling someone’s writing “slop” and saying it deserves criticism for being bad BECAUSE it’s posted publicly might seem like a nuanced take, but I promise it isn’t.

yes, sometimes us writers get a little too obsessed over a cryptic comment or bookmark; no, that doesn’t actually mean the solution is to say whatever you want in them because authors “deserve” your honesty. 

I know we’re in a touchy time for readers and writers, but comments like these are NOT kind, refreshing, or nuanced. they’re just kind of mean and discouraging.

[milesofstars]

dick grayson in fanon: sweet silly older brother, pretty but stupid, favourite child, happy robin, basically batman 2.0 but a nice person, his brothers are more skilled and could outpace him but they love him anyways, goody-two-shoes, good relationship with batman, responsible eldest child, mentally stable and supportive

dick grayson in canon:

became robin so he wouldnt commit first degree murder

like all of his appearances young justice season 1 are about how hes a maniac and a genius

leader and strategist of the teen titans

actually Murdered the joker

considered an equal by the worlds most dangerous and deadly mercenary

was literally fired by batman and only really continued working w him because of jason and babs

managed to keep up with angsty new-to-the-job batman

has had so many arguments with bruce its a miracle he hasnt cut him off forever (hes tried though)

can take down the entire teen titans if he wanted despite being the only one of them with no superpowers/abilities

was the definition of angsty teenager

inherits his insane paranoia from bruce

a thread away from breaking the no-kill rule, give him a rest

hes literally feral guys i mean cmon

[vmpsin]

ever since I started this I've realized not eating is soo much easier then to stop eating

[zorangezest]

thanks for listening

[bamsara]

I think that one thing people fail to understand is that unsolicited literary criticism coming from an online stranger who is reading with no knowledge of what the authors intended goal is, is not going to be received the same as say: the authors beta reader or friends who know what the authors intended goal and has the sufficient knowledge and input to help the author reach that desired outcome.

"But I'm only trying to be helpful" How do I know you have the knowledge and literary skill for you to be able to actaully do that when we don't know each other and you are essentially a stranger to me? Are you applying this criticism based out of personal biased experience and desire to see the story or characterization be driven in another direction or tweaked, or do you know the author's intentions for the character? If the story is incomplete, are you basing your criticism of a character on the incomplete narration with only partial information available of them or are you building up a report until the story's completion? Did the author provide you with the information needed to make a fully informed criticism?

Have you discussed with the author what their plans are or are you assuming them based off the narration, especially if the narration is proven or implied to be unreliable or missing key points of the plot? Are you unbiased enough to help them reach their desired outcome for the characters and story regardless of your personal feelings towards the characters/antagonists and setting? Can you handle being told your specific input isn't wanted because you're a reader and/or have no written anything relating to their genre or topic? Do you understand and respect that the author's personal experiences might influence their writing and make it different than how you would have done it personally? Do you understand if an author only wants input from a specific demographic relating to their story?

If it's for fanfiction or other hobby media, are you holding a free hobby to a professional standard? Are you trying to give criticism because you feel like the author has produced 'subpar job performance' of their fic? Are you viewing their work as a personal intimate outlet or something that must conform with mass media? Are you applying rules and guidelines when the fic is shared for simple sharing sake? Is your criticism worded appropriately and focused on the parts where the author has requested input on rather than a general dismissal and or disapproval?

Have you put yourself in a place where you assumed you have the input needed for the story to evolve better, or have you asked what the author needs and what they're having trouble with? Can you handle having your criticism rejected if the author decides their story doesn't need the change and not take it as a personal offense against your character? Are you crossing that boundary because you think you are doing the author a favor? Are you trying to be helpful, or do you just want to be?

I think sometimes when people hear authors go 'please don't give me unsolicited writing advice or criticism' they automatically chalk it up to 'this author doesn't want ANY constructive feedback on their stuff at all' and not "i already have trusted individuals who will help me with my writing goals and- hey i don't know you like that, please stop acting so overly familiar with me'

[vmpsin]

reasons why I'm locking in

being able to take bikini pics

not being afraid to change in front of people

no more hearing fat jokes

being able to fit into my friends clothes

looking good from any angel

not feeling my thighs rub together

always having leftovers from meals

being able to wear rings without being disgusted by my f@t fingers

hoodies & shirts sitting on me perfectly