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#btw im talking about the statement itself
ambi-kiko · 5 months
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OMG TMAGP 13. ISTG. THAT WAS SURPRISINGLY GREAT AAA
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bidisasterevankinard · 4 months
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Fuck it Friday x 2 times
I said fuck it and started 2 wips in one day
Meet basketball start Tommy au
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Btw huge thanks to @hippolotamus who helped with Tommy's statement 💙
And meet teacher of Tommy's nephew Buck. Justin is mastermind and real ally to his uncle and favorite teacher
Justin’s favorite person always was his uncle Tommy. The man always made him laugh, spoiled him rotten and never made him feel bad about his bad marks, long rants or constant fidgeting. The man was always a warm and safe place Justin knew he could come to when he had some moments with his parents or just wanted to spend time with the coolest person he knew. But Justin also always hated how lonely his uncle was and the older he grew the more he could see how not ok with it his uncle actually was, no matter how he played opposite in front of his sister.
Justin knows part of the deep loneliness his uncle feels is because of how long he was in closet, not letting himself be real him, to love who he actually wanted and then some man he dated wasn’t best so Justin long ago wanted to help his uncle, but never could met a man he would consider worthy of his cool uncle, but also who was definitely into men. Till he met his new science teacher Mr. Buckley. 
The man conquered Justin with his huge smile, warm eyes and desire to know and help his students and create the environment, where they all can feel happy and respected. Mr. Buckley wanted them all to have a chance to learn at the maximum level of their capabilities and encouraged them not to study for the sake of grades but for the sake of interest in science and study itself. 
He also was the first teacher in all 10 years Justin spent in school who didn’t make any comments about his fidgeting and bad homework, but told him to stay after the lesson week after and asked if he ever was tested for ADHD, and offered Justin to talk to his parents. And that’s how Justin finally found out why he always felt different from others. It’s because he is different. But it’s not a bad thing. 
After that Justin knew he needed this man as his another cool uncle and Mr. Buckey’s ig showed he was definitely into men.
So Justin started working.
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blackpearlblast · 10 months
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hey, if my ask is insensitive or simply too much work/you dont want to give your opinion/energy thats ok, and im sorry for bothering you if it is. ive seen many jewish people say "from the river to the sea" is a dogwhistle/generally antisemitic phrase to use, but you used it in your golem art's text part(incredibly moving text btw.) im asking you bc you mentioned youre jewish and i thought you might have insight or thoughts to give on why you use it/what you think about the first statement about the phrase?
hi, yes, i would be glad to talk about my perspective on this! first of all, i do want to say that i think a lot of palestinian bloggers have already talked about this and their voices will always be what you want to seek out first when educating yourself. however, i do know the crowd of people claiming that "from the river to the sea" is antisemitic/genocidal has been very loud so i understand why you would want to hear a jewish perspective on it too. second, in order to explain why i think "from the river to the sea" is not antisemitic will involve me comparing it to actual antisemitic, nazi slogans and dogwhistles and talking about what they mean. so just a heads up for that before it comes up.
the full phrase is "from the river to the sea, palestine will be free!" i think a lot of times in accusations of antisemitism people leave off the second half of the phrase in order to claim it is calling for something else to happen from river to sea (like the expulsion or execution of all jews.) but that's just like, not, ever, a thing? that is said? you can tell the pieces of the phrase go together because they rhyme and also are said together by palestinians and allies near constantly. it's "from the river to the sea, palestine will be free." and i think all of the fearmongering relies on a good bit of ambiguity beyond that too. "what does a 'free palestine' mean? could it meant they want to throw all the jews into the sea?" - some zionist when i tried to look up the origin of the phrase in case there was anything really important i was missing that i should cover in this. there's like this idea that they can't really be asking for a free palestine, there has to be some kind of catch.
i think it's also important to look at the circumstances that this slogan was born under. the thing about modern day palestine and occupied palestine, on which israel tries to build itself, is that even though spatially the land stretches from river to sea, the people's experience of it does not. because of the apartheid system of checkpoints, ID-based restriction of movement, and blockades (in the case of gaza), there exist great gulfs in the land that are impossible or near impossible for people to cross. there can be a place a couple miles away, that due to lacking the "proper credentials", is more distant for palestinians living under apartheid than perhaps a destination a cross-country trip away would be for you. so i see the call for a free palestine specifically "from river to sea" to remove those gulfs and allow freedom of movement for everyone. i find very little of this has to do with jews, personally. the only connection is that the people who set up and maintain this system of apartheid happened to be jewish. and i hope that we would all agree that resisting one's oppressors- even if those oppressors are also marginalized and oppressed in other ways- is not a bad thing.
but it is true that many white supremacist/antisemitic slogans may focus more on the creation of a (white) nation than actually the jews themselves, since they have already established among themselves that a white nation has to mean no jews. so let's look at some of the more famous nazi rallying cries and how different they are from "from the river to the sea."
the fourteen words are most primarily known to be "we must secure the existence of our people and a future for white children." wow! i guess we could find some superficial similarities between this and river and the sea, like if we really wanted to stretch it. but personally, there's a ton of alarm bells in my head that this phrase sets off while river to the sea doesn't. the emphasis of "we" and "our" when used in this way really implies an us versus them narrative. and here the ambiguity really is present and malevolent! a "free palestine" is a palestine unrestricted by apartheid and colonialism. a "secure existence" and "future for white children" is uhhh, what does that Mean. like, we Know what that means right. but they aren't saying it. we can very easily find people saying what a free palestine means if we listen to palestinians. please, please listen to palestinians. there are so many people talking about what their idea of a decolonized palestine looks like, but the basics are generally one state, for all people, with equal rights for all, and the ability for those who were expelled from their homes in the nakba and all of the many long years following it, to return.
"blood and soil" is even vaguer. but thankfully(?), nazis were very enthusiastic about explaining what the phrase meant to them. "blood" is the superior aryan bloodlines and eugenic values that they wished to propagate and the "soil" represents the land of germany and the desire to "reject modernity and embrace tradition" by leaving urban life behind and living in the idealized countryside. (see we got a twofer here!) the only possible connection i could make to from the river to the sea here is the emphasis on the land but that on its own doesn't feel significant to me. land and the place where you live is very important to all kinds of humans all over the world. and i think another particular aspect of "blood and soil" is the emphasis of how you are living on the land. it's not just enough to be able to live in your homeland with freedom of movement and the ability not to be killed with impunity by occupying soldiers (lucky you!), you want to live there in a state of racial purity exemplified by eugenic values. in general, in nazi slogans, there is a particular fixation with a society shaped to represent these specific values. the call is not for freedom from repression, from an actual occupying colony, but instead from the considered bad actors and impure values coming from within their society. freedom from having degenerates sullying their perfect aryan nation. there is a plea to be able to get rid of those who do not match their view of a perfect society. the plea for a free palestine is, so much, a plea to be able to keep their family members, their friends, the friendly stranger down the block. that is not a fascist ideology, that is the will to live. and though i am referring to the ideology surrounding "blood and soil" in past tense because i am referencing the coining of the phase, these sentiments and slogans are obviously (and unfortunately) alive and well today. though, there is a particular irony to white american neo-nazis chanting it on stolen land.
"they will not replace us"/"jews will not replace us" refers to the "great replacement" theory, that jews are orchestrating a mass replacement of white people with immigrants (specifically non-white, often muslim immigrants.) i do not think this slogan has even any superficial similarities to from the river to the sea. you could definitely compare this sentiment to israel's attempts to maintain an artificial ethnic majority, since in many ways the potential "solution" to the "great replacement" would also need to involve creating/maintaining an artificial ethnic majority. (this is obviously not saying that israel subscribes to the great replacement theory, but that the tactic of maintaining artificial ethnic majorities is shared between zionism and great replacement theorists, since both ideologies rely on a specific ethnicity being the majority in their country.)
dogwhistles like 88, triple parenthesis, etc. rely on being vague symbols so that only those who know what the symbols stand for know what they mean. (88=HH=heil hitler, the triple parentheses representing the supposed (((echoes))) of jewish influence throughout history.) "from the river to the sea, palestine will be free" is a complete phrase that directly names its cause. people who say "free palestine" want you to know they stand with palestine. i guess if you wanted to be going for the most bad faith reading possible you could say "free palestine from what?", to which every palestinian and everyone who has been remotely paying attention to what palestinians are saying would shout: "from apartheid, colonialism, ethnic cleansing, and currently, very open and deliberate genocide!" like, it is true that if you felt you did not glean every aspect and detail of what the people in the occupied territories are calling for, you would be correct! but they are answering this. they want to talk about it. the reason i do not believe from the river to the sea is genocidal or antisemitic is because i have been reading and listening to what palestinians are saying and none of them have said they want to kill all jews. they do not want genocide, they want to go home! they just want to go home. i don't know most of this was written pretty tongue in cheek because i was talking about nazi slogans and nazis are pathetic and even more pathetic when held up against a movement of people who are legitimately trying to fight against a great wrong that was committed against them, but i just get so sad saying this. they just want to go home. haven't you ever felt that way before?
in the end, words mean things, and even more importantly, the contexts they're said in mean things. and while it's true that antisemites do hide behind dogwhistles and vague statements for plausible deniability, the alternative meaning does have to actually be established somewhere for them to be effective. from the river to the sea lacks an established alternative meaning. fearmongering from people who refuse to listen to what palestinians are actually saying does not make sense to me as legitimate definitions of the phrase.
also!!!! i'm sorry this got so Fucking long, thank you if you actually made it this far! i intentionally used "from the river to the sea" in my artists statement because it frustrates and upsets me so much to see people making such a big fuss about it when actual antisemitism goes unpunished. like a lot of the phrases i talk about here were chanted at the charlottesville neo-nazi march in 2017 and while many people were deeply upset and angry at what happened, the jewish community was not rallied around even Close to as much as it right now. and with joe biden saying "if it weren't for israel, not a single jew in the world would be safe" at a fucking hanukkah celebration i just. i don't know. the push back against "from the river to the sea" has so much to do with backing colonial and imperial interests and so so little to do with our actual safety. the concept of our identities and safety is being weaponized against palestinians, and at the same time makes it harder to identify actual antisemitism. and that hurts.
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ca-suffit · 2 months
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im sorry your takes are generally pretty great and i appreciate the space you make in fandom but i find the dismissal around lestat's queerness to be diminishing.
louis is a fantastic gay character and u r right about how he represents his queerness which is fabulously. he is mother he is fashion he is wife, a lot, and lestat is a lot more masc in aspects of their dynamic. louis also struggles with it, had internalized homophobia, and his relationship to his sexuality is fraught. now you can have that complexity and still be a "gay icon" sure but what i see here is a gay man existing. not every gay man existing has to be ~iconic~. louis is working on himself.
lestat is a different person and is going out there to make a mark on culture actively, regardless of why. he's not putting on a dress for five seconds (which btw was still pretty impactful in context but ok), he is being meaningfully gnc and making art. this is what queer culture is. it's frustrating to see this element diminished like it's just a meme or a bunch of people being thirsty.
im all for critiquing fandom being weirdos about it but i think the showrunners are doing something spectacular and pretending like fans are making lestat into something he is not just isn't the vibe.
reading this made me realize that I left out a sentence in this ask, so it did come off differently than I intended. I'd meant to say there's already been a lot of exploration of characters / ppl like lestat, but there's never been a character like louis before. I wasn't rly ever talking about lestat's queerness itself, I was talking about how he's prioritized bcuz he's white.
if u personally identity with him in this then that's ur right to, obviously. no group is a monolith and I was never trying to say one way is more "right" than the other. I rly do apologize if it came across like that, cuz I can see why it did.
"he's not putting on a dress for five seconds (which btw was still pretty impactful in context but ok)"
I don't rly know what u mean here bcuz within the show, nobody comments on the dress. ppl react to the baby but everything we know of the dress otherwise was only revealed by carol cutshall bts. I don't know what impact ur meaning here. to the tv audience, sure, but the NOLA audience?? or is it the fact he designed it in the first place.
tbh the thing I most noticed was that once again a white, european immigrant got to be center stage in an event that louis, as a black, louisiana native, isn't (like the card game lestat already had a place at more favored than louis earlier in S1). he also was able to wear that dress in public without public scorn (being european prbly helped here too, he's "other'd" but not the same way as louis is "other'd" for being black), which is something louis could never have done and actually survived at all. it's not that lestat doesn't experience homophobia otherwise, but he's still got a lot more room to confront it than louis, claudia, or armand would have, as ppl who would be confronting homophobia *and* racism with no access to white privilege (claudia literally dies in the same hour we see lestat confront a homophobe otherwise on his and louis' behalf and "win").
idk what they're going to explore for S3 yet, but what we've seen so far is....not that deep tbh. it's not even especially "queer." we're aware he is so we know it is, but straight men have worn makeup and flashy outfits and done homoerotic shit as musicians before too. very often. nothing we've seen from lestat so far has been pushing any boundary as a queer artist or making any kind of statement. I'm not trying to sound like a total bitch here, but a lot of what ur saying is pushing this white fandom agenda of the "importance" of so much that any white, queer character does that....just isn't. lestat's image and sound is taking a lot from other ppl in real music history who *were* doing groundbreaking things at the time, straight or not, but what he's doing is just wearing it as a costume rn. his lyrics even say "I'm an actor / in my makeup." like I said, S3 in full will bring more to the table, obviously, but for what we've seen so far....this hasn't said anything in any objective way that's "deep." u can still like it and identity with it, but idk how u'd argue that it's doing anything tbh. ur welcome to do it tho, I'm not trying to shut down the conversation here. I'm just giving my perspective. I *do* actually think this is stuff we should talk about exactly *bcuz* fandom rides so hard for it all the time. it should be explored why that is, what's the logic behind it. I rly am interested.
edit: wanted to add too that p much everyone we see in this show is queer and creative so literally why is nobody ever saying all this about louis' photography, claudia's acting and interest in fashion (or her general observations on the world thru so many diaries that are referenced in multiple ways as she's not around anymore to speak otherwise), armand's theatre work, madeleine's dressmaking. that's usually why ppl comment on lestat, bcuz he's the most noticed and praised but he's literally not the only one doing it at all.
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genderhanji · 1 year
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Okay okay i need to know ur take on Orochimaru's relationship with Tsunade (im akatsukitrash btw)
hello! i'm terribly sorry for the late reply, university was trying to killing me. but i'm here now yay!
about orochimaru and tsunade, apart from this post i made some time ago... i think they were closer than it's clearly shown in canon. we know the og orochimaru from the tale of the gallant jiraiya was in love with tsunade (but she wasn't), so it's not too absurd to think they could have feelings for her - the nature of those feelings? that's a bit tricky. orochimaru is very complex when it comes to feelings such as love because they are so twisted (and traumatized, may i add) that they can't love 'normally'.
having said this, we have orochimaru saying stuff like this one
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or in the chapters before, orochimaru says "i know her better than she knows herself" - which isn't properly true because oro didn't expect her to react like that to them (protecting konoha or betraying them by trying to kill oro instead of curing them), but still - orochimaru was so sure to know her, that means they were close to her enough to say such a bold statement. and when tsunade was drinking with jiraiya after orochimaru's death, with a sad face and almost on the verge of crying? come on. she cares about them.
in the anime, we also see orochimaru watching tsunade's little brother die in front of their eyes, and they're there when tsunade fails to save dan and she is desperate. the look on orochimaru's face in both occasion doesn't show only horror and sadness for death itself, but i am sure they're also sad for tsunade and for their pain - i mean, they can understand her, you know? their parents died probably because of the war too. i remember also a scene in the anime, but not in the manga where tsunade, while she punches orochimaru during their fight, says something like "why does this feel so wrong?". if i remember correctly... that's a very interesting line.
in the filler episodes as well: we see the sannin on a mission, around a fire, as they talk about their dreams. when jiraiya jokingly say to orochimaru that they should open up a little, tsunade immediately defends orochimaru. again, i found that very interesting.
so, in conclusion, i think they both care for each other, especially orochimaru (as fucked up as they can be). but the sannin's dynamic is complex and we deserved to know more about them as a trio, and know about orotsu dynamic in particular.
i'm not that good with analysis as many other people in here, but this is my impression from what i could see! i have to dig in deeper, so i may come back here some time later! and thank you for the question!! <3
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b3llb00 · 1 year
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" We Pull The Tail, Now We See Who Bites. "
Robin of Loxley/ The Hood X Fem!reader.
Summary: Robin got injured during a chase to get some coins for the commoners, so Y/N offers to heal his wounds if she gets something else in return from him. ;)
A/N: I need to stop watching this movie, I’m obsessed and it’s gotten the better of me.
Contains: Kissing, 50% dom/sub reader and 50% dom/sub Rob, mentions of sex, injuries. [WILL INCLUDE: Smut, Unprotected Sex (Use Protection, Yall.) P In V, Oral (Male/Fem. Receiving) , Fingering, Creampie, Multiple Rounds. Mild Dirty Talk.]
Wc: 1.2k * I think. * (Will Prob Change.) IM COPY AND PASTING AND EDITING THIS FROM MY OLD ACCOUNT, SO DONT SAY IM A COPYCAT. THE FINISHED IMAGE WILL BE UPLOADED HERE. IF YOU WANT TO LIKE AND FOLLOW ME, LIKE AND FOLLOW THIS ACCOUNT.
DONT REPOST OR COPY MY WORK, YOU CAN REPOST WITH PERMISSION, ENJOY.
(Btw sorry if this picture is bad, just ignore John and pretend it's you lol.)
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You are setting up traps for Robin to shoot at later, when all of a sudden you hear a loud, groan from him coming upstairs, making a shiver run down your spine. When Robin was back in Arabia and you had to fight him, you ended up sparing his life, but your mercy to him didn’t do much as you still got captured and was set sail in a boat with him for 3 weeks. Surprisingly, you too starting talking and some would even call you " friends " .
You decide to go upstairs to see what Rob was groaning about, and there you saw him, shirtless, his toned torso on display. In nothing but his pants with a wet, bloody rag resting on his massive thigh where he been impaled. You had to close your eyes for a second, trying to push the weird desire you had for him to the back of your mind.
I wasn’t joking when I said the treasury itself was a hard target. You say, slowly walking toward him, this made him look up from his leg to look at you. He decides to ignore your statement and press his rag into his thigh further, making him hiss through gritted teeth. You decide to go grab your medical supplies you used whenever you two got hurt. You always had wanted to be a nurse, but ever since the Sherif of Nottingham drafted you, things changed. But I guess it’s pretty useful to know how to properly treat somebody’s wounds.
Hey! You heard Rob say from across the room, Where are you goin-
I'm getting my medical supplies, dumbass. You say back with a bit of an attitude, not wanting to be told where you’re going or what you’re doing when all you trying to do is help. Oh, sorry, love. Carry on. He said, making you turn your head to see a light smile adorning his features.
As much as you sometimes hated Robin's attitude and sarcasm, you just can’t help yourself to be mad at him. It’s almost like you're drawn under a spell that will keep you from ever getting into any sort of confrontation.
You finally got all your medical supplies and you headed to the small table that he sat in on. Letting the supplies fall from your hands, you organized it quickly, while Rob eyed you carefully the whole time.
Once you got everything ready and set up the way you wanted it, you took one more look at his thigh. ' Shit. ' You thought, his cut is too deep to get a good look at what’s going on, so you’re gonna have to find a way to ask him to take his pants off.
The cuts- uhm. You stutter, Your gonna have to take your pants off if you want me to get a good look at it and fix it.
You were looking everywhere except his face, not wanting him to see your blush-coated cheeks. Even though you weren’t looking at him, you could still feel his gaze burning a hole into the side of your head.
Just the pants or the braies too, love.? He winked at you, causing you to basically turn into putty right in front of him. (Keep in mind they didn’t really have ' boxers ' in medieval England, but they did have what were called braies. They were basically the same thing.)
You decided to try and flirt back to the best of your abilities by saying. Well, first, take your pants off, and then I’ll tell you.
This earned you a chuckle from the handsome man as he threw the bloody rag to the side and very carefully came up from his spot on the table, you watched him intently as you noticed some of the blood continued to trickle down his clothed thigh. He didn’t seem to care, he kept eye contact with you the whole time as he slowly took his pants off. To be honest it felt like an entity had passed when his pants finally hit the floor, and you weren’t disappointed, let’s just say that.. there was definitely a buldge hidden underneath the fabric of his braies, and you could actually see it growing..
You could practically hear Robin’s smirk as he called out to you, his voice low and teasing. Hey, my eyes are up here, love..
You immediately snap your gaze back up to his face, and he just has an amused expression painted all over his features. You could feel the heat start to radiate off your cheeks and your heartbeat start to pick up as you mumble out defensively. Yeah, yeah, I know.. You close your eyes for a second, trying to recompose yourself.
He takes a step forward, biting his lip to hold back a groan from the wave of pain that just shot up his leg. He cocks an eyebrow and says in a lower octave. You sure about that?
[I am currently editing this, and right here is my stopping point. If the story shifts or changes I’m sorry, I will fix it soon.]
" Hmm. If I fix up your thigh, will you give me a kiss? " You say before continuing, " I’ve always wondered if your a good kisser or not. "
He let out a small chuckle when his eyes kept flicking down to your lips. Then he finally spoke up and said, " Sure, love. " You blushed at the pet name. " Maybe I’ll give you something more than just a kiss. " He winked, making you roll your eyes at his audacity to be this flirty when he’s impaled.
" Fine, let me get my stuff.. " You say, heading away to get your medical supplies while Rob just watch you leave with a smile on his lips.
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" Mkay, done. " You say as you wrap up his leg and stand up straight, pretty of yourself.
" Well, here’s the kiss that you wanted. " He said as he grabbed your arms, lightly pulling you in before his lips collided with yours.
It feels amazing, and you wanted to be immersed in this feeling forever. You didn’t know what to do, but you were able to make room by spreading his thighs wider so you get closer to him, which made him moan into your mouth. You smiled into the kiss, knowing it could be any moment when John could walk upstairs and see you two start to make out like teenagers, you didn’t care. You just wanted to feel Rob, you wanted his weight on top of you, you wanted him to pin you against the wall and fuck you till your legs went numb and you were cockdrunk.
He wrapped his muscular arms around your waist, pulling you closer and you felt his buldge in his pants grow. You let go of his lips for air and you almost whined at the loss of contact.
" Sorry, love. I don’t want us to get caught. " Rob said with a frown. You cupped his cheek with your hand and kiss him again softly before saying. " It’s fine, we can continue later. "
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thecoolerliauditore · 7 months
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ok ok i think the doc is actually genuinely for real done (79 pages btw ✌️) im just sitting on it right now waiting for the moment im brave enough to hit publish so in the meantime im gonna speak some unasked for thoughts:
the scott smajor twitter hell vortex isn't shocking due to scott's own actions, but his inaction.
In both the cases with Kari and Ecto, it was his detachment from the situation and culture that his own fanbase was in that earnt him his now controversial reputation. I genuinely don't believe the tumblr side of the fandom, for example, cares that much he let sapnap continue participating in mcc.
Kari's situation is very hard to talk about due to the sheer shock factor of the premise and the fact that we have very little context to work on. Him straight up refusing to acknowledge her at all, I think, put more unease into his own fans than the original thread itself because I do believe most people would be sympathetic to their favourite white man if he explained he didn't mean to harm anyone. Instead, him remaining quiet leaves people to speculate and assume the worst.
Ecto's situation is similar, it's easy to look at drama that doesn't involve you and say you don't want anything to do with it, but things become difficult when it's your fanbase initiating in harrassment and doxxing. While CCs are not entirely responsible for their fans' actions the nature of that relationship means CCs do hold an inherent level of power and influence.
I don't believe Scott knew about the doxxing but his statement certainly gave some the impression he had given a "go ahead" on that.
TL;DR: guy does not know how to handle his own platform. he's not evil he just is not the type of person who should be given this level of power.
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transmasc-wizard · 2 years
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im thinking about getting into the magnus archives, so i was wondering if you could give like. idk what i should expect from it/a synopsis? /not forced
i am ltierally ALWAYS willing to talk about the magnus archiges
SO
the magnus archives is a fiction horror podcast written by jonny sims, about the Archivist, jonathan sims. no they are not supposed to be the same person, jonny is just shit at character naming. there's like 4 michaels alone (michael shelley / michael distortion / mikaele / mike). btw if i say "jonny" i am refering to the writer, if i say jon/jonathan i am refering to the character
so, Jon works for the Magnus Institute, London, an institution dedicated to documenting and investigating paranormal experiences. he used to work in the research department, but after the passing of the former Head Archivist (Gertrude), he found himself suddenly promoted to the archivist job. Now, he reads people's written "statements" (supernatural) so they have audio versions.
each episode contains one statement + jon's thoughts on it at the end. in this way, it is an anthology horror series; each episode has a sort of "monster of the week" that is its own disconnected and fully-fledged horror story. BUT!!! BUT!!! it is,,, connected. there is a Grander Plot. as it goes on, connections start to be made between the statements, with several developing plotlines and b-plots, and supernatural happenings even start to go on in the institute itself. it is REALLY thought out; my relisten has me finding tiny connected details in almost every episode.
TMA has to be listened to in order, from episode 1-200; i say that because i was told it doesn't and almost started with ep 187 (every day i mentally thank the person who told me NO NO START WITH #1 AND GO IN ORDER. every day). additionally, each episode, or "MAG", is about 20 minutes long, and TMA is split into five 40-episode seasons.
some various stuff: it's queer! jon is ace & bi and its not a big deal bc, you know, he's busy with The Horrors. several other characters are queer as well. speaking of characters, they're great; you get quite attached to both the main ones (Jon, Martin, Tim, Melanie, etc) and several side ones (Sasha, Gerry, Michael, Helen, etc).
a note: the TMA creators care a lot about being respectful to marginalized groups and when handling careful topics, but they fucked up sometimes. in particular, early "spiral statements" (stories abt lies, confusion, and the human mind) sometimes lean into the "ooh scary hallucinations" thing in season 1. as it goes on, it does get better (changing the focus to things such as "it's horrifying not to be believed about your struggle with mental illness"), but it is worth warning about, imo. (There's about... 2? i can think of? that specifically give me pause.)
a second note: TMA is very much horror, if it wasn't already obvious. It deals with things like cannibalism, insect infestation, heavy isolation, skinning, body horror, police brutality, spiders, paranoia, being watched/spied on/Known, etc. It is also a tragedy. With those two things in mind, please remember to take care of yourself, first and foremost, and take breaks/stop if you need to.
third bonus note: my pfp is gerry keay from tma and im love him <3 that is all
tma is really really really good, surprisingly emotional, full of creative horror and compelling stories, and has some AWESOME themes and storylines centering around monstrocity, what it means to be human, abuse of power, and what you can do in a system that fundamentally just wants to hurt you, and i 100% recommend it if you want to try it out!!
the-magnus-archives.fandom.com/wiki/Content_Warnings <- trigger & content warnings, broken up per episode
THE MAGNUS ARCHIVES #1 - Anglerfish - Horror Fiction Podcast - YouTube <- episode one!
have fun & stay spoooooooky :D
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mini cooli girlblogging and life updates
art school has been lovely btw :3 we had our big fall exhibition yeasterday and that shit is SO fucking cool oh my god. i love art i love art i love art i LOVE art
also erm. the autism has BREACHED CONTAINMENT!!!!! i like the asexual attorneys now :3c... i still like cats OBVI but yk. someone hast stolen the throne from the king!!!!!!!!!!!!! something i will recommend with my whole chest is talking to people u know irl about fixations like. smthn smthn less of that online echochamber of melting ideas (which isnt bad in and of itself but it has its faults) and having more time to spend doing. Other Things Irl at the Same Time..... tl;dr grass is really cool guys!!!! i prommmmy it doesnt bite
previous statement sounds a lil backhanded to the cats the musical fandom but its not meant to be LMFA)IWHRFGUAJWK............................ only a little. a pinch. but i mean like..... idk. IDK!!!! being into a bigger piece of media that you can Audibly Talk To People About is soooo different from reblogging some gifs every day.... which ISNT BAD but its DIFFERENT and i need some VARIETY in my FLAVOURS!!!!!!!
ok backhanded-more-like-fronthanded though like i dont . think ill be Active active in a fandom space ever again LMFAOOOO..... ik i was already a ghost for cats but im just gonna Lurk About for anything in the future..... love u guys but oh my god even Witnessing some Fandom Space Horrors is so exhausting AJWHAJWHRJA...... yall r kinda crazy /pos /neg /drink some water... idk if its just the size but truly like . there are so many cooler things that i like doing soz <3
i still like posting and sharing art but like . trying to Social my Media is sooo. exhausting when on a scale bigger than how far i can count on my hands
take care besties!!!!!!! hope the slay slems!!!
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disorganized rant zz
why does it feel like the entire internet has decided misogyny doesn’t exist 
this is just me complaining about random shit I’ve seen I don’t know about trends or anything just. also i don’t go outside
idk I saw a post recently saying something like, since white women can’t pretend to be oppressed anymore now they’re— okay hang on. what? im not even going to read the rest of that because.. what? what do you mean pretend… what do you mean anymore… what world do you live in…
do you actually think being white cancels out misogyny or something. like I don’t even know where to begin with this… I really feel like somehow people have taken to adding “white” before they make a blatantly misogynistic statement so they can avoid criticism lmao. ah damn we can’t object now or we’ll be racist !
obviously some of them are fucking awful and being a woman doesn’t excuse that and white women have certain privilege others don’t etc etc. no shit dude. but this is…so beyond objecting to just that... also people really love shitting on white women in particular even more than white people in general which really I Wonder Why
i remember when roe was overturned and there were a bunch of people being like wait this is bad. because it can even affect trans men, and also certain minorities will be worse off
those are relevant points yeah but… can you not just care about… women in general..??? sorry now I sound like a fucking all lives matter guy but how else can I say this, sure some rich (usually white) women might be able to get around it but it doesn’t change how this is primarily an issue of women’s bodily autonomy. also I don’t even think the ability to sidestep it means they’re not affected, that they still have to do something extra is.. bad..?
I don’t think it’s wrong to point out those caveats or anything, it’s just a weird feeling I get that a lot of people won’t care if you just mention it’s bad for women. because they don’t think misogyny is a real issue anymore
also in more minor things, being gacha-diseased as I am (sorry) watching ppl act like media is unfairly biased against male characters is… a take… (it’s not even remotely true in gacha !! what !!! Every time I remember that one stat about how ppl perceive women as talking the majority of the time when they talk more than 33% or smth *don’t remember the exact number sorry. told you this is just some rant)
yknow what it’s not just gacha, either it’s bad for female characters to exist because it’s political (lol) or it’s bad because it’s waifubait for straight men. well most people will see the first one for bullshit but the second… is something why I am so glad you’re unable to see female characters as anything other than sex objects! (you don’t need to be attracted to women to do that btw)
it’s really depressing to see this even from people who seem like they should have better views on this stuf (how do I phrase this...)
ah right recently i saw a quote from someone involved with tlou2 circulating around tumblr about how all games except tlou2 were bad or something
Obviously it was a fake quote. i mean...tlou2... i’ve never played it but we’ve all heard the complaints about it for the crime of having a muscular woman or something. and also just being bad in general because it has to be a triple A gameTM idk I didn’t look too into this honestly im not into these things
and yknow what im sure it’s not a very good game, you’re allowed to dislike things, etc. but because of the type of backlash, maybe you should have a thought that when someone posts something outlandishly bad related to it, mmmmaybe they have some kind of agenda. just a thought
(yeah if you looked in that post’s comments the op was going on to defend gamergate. and i suppose a lot of people now don’t even know what that is...)
so it’s like, why does this matter--you can see it with that post itself, you just gave that guy a platform to tell a bunch of previously unaware people about why diversity in video games is bad and women are ruining everything actually. but hey that’s fine because we fixed misogyny already don’t worry about it
....i really think a lot of this is coming from people who don’t realize, and that might be the worst part of it...
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So, you know how the Beliarok is basically a weapon themed after Belial and all? Well, what kind of weapon that was the same as the Beliarok be if it were Ultraman Tregear instead? Like what kind of weapon would it be and what could it do? Also how do you think it would behave and all?
I think this boils back down to the very convenient weaknesses that Greeza has that I talked about extensively back when Z was airing that it all has to do with Reiblood's Reionyx genes (and by extension, the Belial Virus) having some very, very unique properties to merge with a spacetime anomaly's failsafe device to form the Beliarok
I cant comment beyond this since we just simply dk enough about Reiblood at this point
For Toregia, your implicit assumption is that Grimude's power would even interact with the key in the same way the reionyx genes would
Again, no idea as all we know is that Grimude predates the M78 Universe, and the reason for his seal is curiously enough the same reason why Greeza manifested back in Z when Bullton was defeated, to "maintain balance in the universe". Note the similar choice of words used here. In the broader context, we can interpret that both Greeza and Grimude probably live in the space in between universes, which we know exists in the Revenge of Belial Movie
So there would probably be some reaction between Grimude's power and Greeza's key
Tho i highly doubt itll result in something like the Belialrok
But tbh, even the Belialrok's existence is highly ambiguous at this point, since it has free will and we've seen that it is attracted to its progenitors like Geed and Belial, but its inevitably a Reionyx. Why am I saying this is because we know from the leaks that the Regulus special episode (essentially the prelude for UGF4), Reiblood has returned and theoretically, even as a small soul fragment, he should be able to assert enough influence on it same with Geed actually (which is why I said that Geed is actually a ticking time bomb since Reiblood is such a legendary existence)
So I suppose the same logic would apply with this hypothetical Toregiarok. However, Ill have to bring up another point about Grimude thatll differ from Reiblood's circumstance, is that based on the Toregia novel (that is canon), its said that after absorbing some of Grimude's power, Toregia literally gained the ability to be unkillable,
Since every time he dies, another version of him in the multiverse would take his place in whatever universe hes in. So I suspect that this is the same as Grimude. However, for his ability to be this ridiculously overpowered, I suspect that the Grimude we saw itself in the Taiga movie was also but a fragment of something even more grander, similar to the Reiblood soul fragment logic
Tbh, whatever this being is would have to be stronger than Reiblood since we know just how powerful a soul fragment of Reiblood is based on the feats and durability of the one we saw back in NEO and obviously we can see that fragment Grimude is far stronger than fragment Reiblood (assuming each soul fragment is equally powerful of course)
Another point ill have to bring up is that Reiblood is stated dead (as ambiguous and suspicious as that canon statement is since no one knows how he died), but the whereabouts of the being that Grimude is a fragment of is unknown.
So how does all this really translate to your question?
It inevitably comes down to whether it can really have its own free will or nah.
Since for the Beliarok's case, Reiblood is dead, and it was made from Geed's Reionyx genes (Without any of Reiblood's soul fragments) so Reiblood's influence is so diluted by the time it gets to the formation of the Belialrok
For the hypothetical Toregiarok's case, Grimude is obviously far more powerful than Reiblood's soul fragment (im NOT saying Reiblood himself btw) and the true progenitor of Grimude is unknown at this point, but since a fragment is alr so ridiculously powerful, I suspect its still somewhere cruising in the gaps between universes.
By extension, Im scaling this "True Grimude" above Reiblood, especially since the latter was scaled as a Universal Threat whilst Grimude himself predated the universe, so it wont be far fetched to say that Grimude himself was a universal threat, especially since his sealing was neccessary to "maintain the balance of the universe", by extrapolation, True Grimude would probably be a multi-universal threat at least if we go off the scaling of Reiblood's soul fragment to Reiblood's stated feats
Thus, imo itll be far more powerful than the Belialrok, with far more influence over spacetime such as what we saw with Grimude and Toregia, but on a lesser scale. But as said, assuming the progenitor is still alive, no idea to what extent itll have a will of its own, or simply another Grimude
Ye this answer got off the rails real quick since all this is very much deep-cut, bottom-of-the-iceberg stuff, especially since we're talking about something even older than universes, potentially even older than the DoL which I scaled approximately 10^9000x stronger than an average New Gen so inevitably we're talking about existences that are far, far beyond the Legendary Ultras
Thanks for the question!
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daggersandarrows · 3 years
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i think almost every single issue i have with the cr fandom can be summed up with the responses that i got when i said “molly is yasha’s soulmate”.
“ummm eww, she’s a lesbian?”
there’s so many problems with this one i’ll just take it from the top.
yasha was not confirmed a lesbian (by someone else, btw) until we were in the triple digits. this fandom hates the possibility of bi women so bad it’s embarrassing. y’all know how often i see people call keyleth and vex het? and allura a lesbian?
yes, AND? how does her being a lesbian invalidate her having a soulmate who isn’t a woman. how. i’ll wait. as far as i know “lesbian” means “is attracted solely to women/women adjacent people”. why do soulmates have to have anything to do w attraction.
“gross, yasha is not attracted to a man”
sigh.
first off, see the first point, soulmate does not necessitate attraction.
second off, even if it did, mollymauk is not and never was a man--or at least not solely. and he’s not a cis man, goddammit, which is what the more insidious version of this argument looks like--”yasha isn’t attracted to a cishet man”. also he’s BI.
this wasn’t a late reveal or anything either. in EPISODE GODDAMN TWO we have confirmation of nonbinary molly.
molly ids as genderfluid. now idk how yasha thinks of her own sexuality, but if she wanted to include him in hers then...that’s...okay. it is. stop arguing. there are *plenty* of lesbians dating genderfluid people out there.
“you mean PLATONIC soulmate right haha”
i mean, i could mean that. i could. i could also mean other things this doesn’t have to mean platonic or i’m a terrible person.
this is where i’m sure im gonna lose some people: in addition to the above points about genderfluid molly, let’s just consider for a moment that i did not in fact mean platonic soulmate. or romantic actually.
let’s think about what it means if i meant sexual soulmate.
“thane what does that even mean what are you talking about”
i don’t know! soulmate has extremely variable definitions some of which are highly amatonormative but for right now let’s just say someone whose sex life meshes with yours so well that it feels like you were made to have sex with them.
this fandom has a huge and i mean HUGE problem with thinking that sex = romance and that sex MUST under ALL circumstances = sexual attraction. also the understand of consent is so poor here my god
i don’t have the time energy or brain to get into ace shit here and trust me i’ve been treated horribly by both allos and aces alike for how my identity presents itself but i will just say this
i have never been sexually attracted to anyone i’ve had sex with.
i have never been ROMANTICALLY attracted to anyone i’ve had sex with.
i like having sex.
i also know kind of a LOT of people who have sex with people who are “outside” of their identity. this isn’t an uncommon thing, very online tumblr gays.
for some reason people HATE that here. but my point is: if yasha and molly were fucking it doesn’t change anyone’s identity and it didn’t have to involve any attraction at all, and if you don’t want to see that that’s absolutely valid but it does NOT give you the right to read every thoroughly tagged fic and leave nasty hate comments or worse for the author because of it. (i’m looking at you, allos who decided to run ace fjorclay shippers off the internet.)
and last but not least, the fact that so many people violently object to this statement that i made--angry, indignant, accusing me of hatespeech, etc, when it’s word for word something that ashley said, right next to where she was comparing molly to, y’know, yasha’s literal wife. so. i can’t imagine how mad certain people would get if i made that comparison myself.
which brings me to my final point: i’m not sure that some of y’all are actually watching the same show as i am and it is very annoying for the rest of us.
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How did cwc fuck up tes? genuinely curious abt your thoughts on this
well its a bit of a story
the portrayal of sotha sil in it had a lot of potential - im not at all opposed to sotha sil being well-meaning but extremely arrogant pretentious and blinded by his own selfish, sheltered approach, that caused him to create a technological dystopia he deemed a paradise. all of the almsivi are extremely flawed and i think thats what makes them cool, truly human gods, and that in itself couldve been really really interesting, however unfortunately it was played so strangely, like... straightfowardly? in a "he's right" way. like the player is somehow Not supposed to find him insufferable. the Manpain Garden (which btw people have been yelled at for calling it that) really did it for me, like, oh no, a woman called him boring and distant one time, how tragic. like hes supposed to be the Good Guy of the tribunal as opposed to Mean Almalexia and Silly Vivec (both of which are such shallow and borderline offensive ways to characterize them too)
however i think what REALLY sucks is that they brought back divayth fyr and made him one of the main characters of the dlc. and look i know i say a lot that fictional bad people are funny but theres nothing funny about divayth fyr the incest pedo guy and i despise the way hes portrayed in eso and i despise everything surrounding it. eso twitter even made a fathers day joke about it but deleted it as soon as they rightly realized that it was kinda fucked up
for the above reasons eso:cwc caused a HUGE rift in tes fandom where some people criticized it and made fun of it and some people felt a strong attachment to it and felt slighted by that, plus not all people who learned about divayth fyr thru eso were initially aware of how he is in tes3 and reacted to such information in a range of ways, including but not limited to saying that actually people who like morrowind are evil and want such a despicable character to exist (im not even gonna start unpacking this) and are fucked up for not "rejecting" his tes3 portrayal to instead pretend hes just this cool quirky wizard. which, im not gonna delve into any individual persons, like, personal reasons to approach a character a certain way, but its beyond bizarre to make this kinda statement and act like its unreasonable to be repulsed by this whole ordeal
the rift this caused... pretty much ruined online tes fandom permanently. like there are just like two camps now, with Clockwork City DLC Enjoyers on twitter talking about how tesblr (aka everyone who disagrees with them) is elitist and mean and Scoffs At People Who Dont Know Enough Lore (all untrue but w/e), and that reaches completely new people as their first impression of the fandom, thus deepening the rift. it made a lot of major contributors completely check out, because not only did they feel excluded by all the new content, but also by the community. and mind you before all of that tesblr was like, not a terribly huge community, but an always-growing one, with lots of discussions and contributions and fan content and inside jokes, and i just dont really see that anymore aside from small circles of people still passionate about very specific topics, which i assume is where the impression of being Inaccessible and Closed Off comes from. lots of people became really disillusioned with tes in general and moved on to different stuff. there was some drama that dragged for literal years, lots of vagueposting, conflicts, it was just all like.... unpleasant.
so yeah theres a very active eso-focused community on twitter that i dont personally interact with because they all hate me and a handful of people on tumblr. so, kinda not what it used to be. well theres always also r/teslore and other tes subreddits, but lemme tell you when it comes to any video game related topics never go on reddit never go on reddit neeeever go on reddit never go on reddit neeeever go on reddit never go on reddit, neeeever go on reddit wow wow wowwoowww
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aardvaark · 3 years
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Hi, I saw your post about unreality trigger warnings, and I was wondering if you could give some pointers on what sort of things should be tagged as such. I'd like to help anyway, but having an unfortunately severe dissociative disorder myself, I take the importance of avoiding triggers very seriously. Sorry if you receive this question a lot, and thanks for the answer in advance.
i haven't received this question before, and don't worry, i love getting asks! it's really nice of you to take the time to ask me a question /gen. dissociative disorders can be really hard,
/warning in advance that this will explain some unreality triggers/
some of the main ones are things that you would see on blogs like posts-from-a-funnier-timeline, which, btw, does a great job at tagging unreality. so posts that are completely made up but presented as if they were a truth are usually something that should be tagged. for example, a false announcement like "i cant believe [person/group] said that [false statement]" or "so sad that [person/group] did [something they didnt do]". this is because ppl with dissociative disorders and psychosis already can have a hard time being able to tell the difference between what is reality and whats not, and this makes it more confusing.
- any posts that are like "you're in a coma" or "this is a dream". this is triggering mainly for derealization.
- posts where the OP claims they have gotten this post specifically to the reader, ie "we are trying to reach you through this meme". often related to derealization and persecutory delusions.
- posts claiming that an event didnt happen, especially ones like "the world ended in [insert year], everything after has been imaginary". most recently, the "2020 was fake" meme.
- false confirmation of conspiracy theories like "cant believe that the government just told us [insert something here]". this usually can trigger persecutory delusions.
- the "you're finally awake, that fall looked really bad" meme.
- claims that things like thought projection is real, such as the meme that goes like "i'm psychic blogginf about [x], so if you're thinking of [x], that was me"
- posts that claim the OP and/or the reader have some sort of ability, relatiosnhip, etc.
- memes about like "the fbi agent reading my ao3 history", things suggesting that OP or the reader is specifically being targeted.
im not saying these memes cant be funny to many ppl without mental illness - i like some of them when im in a good headspace too! but it's necessary to tag as a trigger, thats all. yeah, it might make them less funny to your mentally well neurotypical audience or whatever, but please consider those with these more stigmatised disorders.
some things you probably dont have to tag with unreality are things like sarcasm (maybe use tone tags if you're concerned!), posts discussing mental health issues like psychosis or dissociation (the disorders arent unreal!), the fact someone was lying if you're just talking about someone lying, etc.
if you wish to tag a post like this one here which is not unreal itself but instead discusses unreality, think of using "tw unreality mentions", "delusion tw" or "derealization tw", so that people can still filter out these posts and also know that the post itself is not unreal if they come across it.
this list is by no means exhaustive, but hopefully will give a bit of an idea of what to tag as unreality. hope this helps!
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dabistits · 3 years
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idk if the villains will be saved or if the ending will be Shit but IF they end up getting saved isnt that a type of 'rebellion' (idk a better word) for heros? i mean if the generic premise of superheros stories is that heros defeat villains and thats it then choosing to save one is a type of statement by itself without having the need to do an essay on 'why ppl deserve help'. It started with hwks v. twice with hwks still choosing the wrong path and now the new heros have a chance to be better💫
im not defending the story btw because honestly the only consistent thing here is how the author only explores his themes and conflicts superficially lmao sorry for the long weird text, english is not my first language and i hope you get both my asks lol 💫
you and your english are totally fine anon!
however, i would disagree, because i don't think it's uncommon to have villain characters who are saved by the heroes. there's a reason people have made the phrase "talk no jutsu" because of the general penchant for writing shounen protagonists breaking through to their adversary through motivational speeches, one of the big examples being sasuke who returned to the village that massacred his family. even in bnha, this has already happened through the examples i provided (gentle criminal and lady nagant).
even if you talk about the superhero genre, these examples are not uncommon. i'm personally not too familiar with comics, but through various adaptations i can already name the relationship between batman and harley quinn in the animated series, and wanda and pietro being accepted by the avengers in the mcu.
the idea of "saving the villain" isn't particularly rebellious, and in most cases i would argue that saving the villain isn't about making a statement about helping every kind of person, it's an ego trip to affirm the superiority of the protagonist's ideology, and i believe this because of how often the villain's saving comes with the villain "seeing the error of their ways" and renouncing their previous goals and motivations. for example, what happened to wanda and pietro's rightful grudge against tony stark for being a war profiteer?
sure, it's not always that deep and sometimes the messages that "win" are good ("you are not alone, friends make you stronger!"), but i think in bnha's case, it's pretty distasteful for a lot of reasons. assuming that my fears are correct, then that would mean the LOV would drop their opposition to the hero (law enforcement) system, which has up until now been a significant factor in their and their friends' and families' poverty, abuse, neglect, and/or deaths, and only then would they receive a helping hand.
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menalez · 3 years
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How did being selective about making friends help? This friend was good to me for several years! How do you know that someone is going to be a better friend than another? I don't really think I can know how someone is going to be years down the line.
im just gonna speak on my personal experiences here for a bit so u can feel free to skip it, when i was a teenager i had a lot of friends. almost everyone at school was friends with me (small school bc bahrain) and i was quite popular bc i was pretty friendly and ridiculous and generous, and people often came to me for emotional support and help. when i got raped, i opened up to a few people and they turned against me and said it was my fault. my rapist told people that i seduced him, and that he was drunk (neither being at all true btw), and they believed him over me. i became the school "whore" for getting raped and lost almost all of my friends, nearly everyone sided with him over me and that's when i learned who my true friends were. my friends now are very much ride or die and for that reason im picky with friends. it helps because i dont feel insecure around my friends almost ever, and i know i can trust them fully and know their intentions and that they care for me, and they know the same from me.
as for how you know whos gonna be a better friend than another.. i think that comes with experience. you can't know immediately whether someone is a good friend either, you'd need to know them first. i found these links for you that list the red flags within friendships, i merely skimmed them but they seem good (x, x). if this person you refer to actually was there for you, treats you well, etc but you are currently feeling unwanted.. its best to bring that up rather than cut the friend off. sometimes we are going through our own thing and it makes us perceive things in a different light and causes us to be more sensitive to tonal changes or minor changes in behaviour. its hard for me to know whether your friend is not a good friend, or whether its something else. if you feel like the friendship tends to be balanced, that youve had many good times, and that this person actually generally does support & help you (as you should also do back ofc), then maybe it's not about the friendship itself, but either about yourself or maybe they're going through something instead. if your friend has been good to you for years & you've only recently started feeling differently, i would advise to talk about it with your friend. make sure you are not angry, accusative, or aggressive in your tone, that you use "i" statements (i feel like..., i believe......). most importantly try to be gentle and come across as understanding, bc many people may get quickly defensive or feel like they're being insulted/attacked.
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