#bpd men

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I like going "invisible" on chat apps and watching all the people on my "friend list" suddenly appear and start to interact.

Like watching an ecosystem rebound after removing toxins.

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What if we don't have friends or loved ones we can talk to?

And not even a little self-harm, as a treat?

Tips for Cluster B Anger

~ coming from someone who has BPD and a psychology special interest Have you been feeling like your anger is completely uncontrollable and all encompassing? Do you feel like your anger controls you more than you control it? Me too! But here are some things I've found to be helpful: - Taking notes. Write down triggers for what causes your anger episodes (as well as other episodes e.g sadness or paranoia) once you come down from it and start looking for a pattern. Not only will this help you to slow down and self reflect, you can begin to either avoid those triggers or find ways to regulate the effects. - SLOW DOWN. If something is making you want to hurt someone else or yourself, slow the FUCK down. Push against the grain, step back and let yourself have a good cry or scream into a pillow. Do whatever you can to (healthily) process the emotions, no matter how long it takes, before making major decisions. - Avoid self harm, substances or unhealthy habits like disordered eating or emotional self harm. It's so tempting, believe me, but it will only serve to make things worse. You might feel like you want it to get worse now, but in the future, you WILL regret it. If you start feeling these urges, refer to the urge surfing diagram below this. - Get outside advice. Think you're splitting but you can't tell? Run the situation by a close friend or loved one and see how they feel about it. Try to relay it with as little bias as possible and see if they agree with the decision you're about to make or if you perhaps need to reevaluate some things. - Take care of your heart. I know this is cliche, but a good sleep schedule, hearty food consumption habits, hydration, exercise routine and mental health care go a long way in helping you succeed in the above tips. You are struggling with an illness, and ill people need as much care as possible. Become your own parent. This works for anger in all Cluster B personality disorders, as well as with autism spectrum disorders! Urge surfing:

[chawliekin]

and if I said that dennis’ insistence on being the breadwinner/provider despite literally being a pampered princess who dgaf about traditional roles of masculinity in every other regard (aside from ego) is because his mom only stayed with/chose frank for his wealth and dennis is highly aware that he’s difficult to love and unable to show his emotions openly so he has to be contributing something to the relationship materially in order to feel like he’s worth staying for… and mac grew up with parents who were extremely ambivalent to him and eachother so he has to overcompensate by proving his worth at every given moment and seeking praise/validation from people (and religious icons) who will never demonstrate the same amount of dedication to him but he has no idea how else to desperately keep himself close to those he loves other than by eroding himself into something they’ll approve of… dear god they’re both exactly what the other needs — someone who can’t and won’t leave them even if they try — and they don’t even see it…

[abortionpostbirth]

hard not to break down entirely right now.

Why do I even talk when none of it ever matters? When the second I came out the womb as a female I immediately mattered less to people.

'The men are so lonely'. And we aren't? The world is against us. It's not safe to be around men but it's also unsafe to not be around them because other men could still find a way to hurt you and limit your power and ability to get a sufficient income.

I'm so sad. So heartbroken. So afraid.

[la1npilledg1rl]

Sad reality for most of us girl

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The emotional and directly-related-to-emotional social effects of ADHD are by far the most devastating. Children as young as three years old can tell something is "off" with ADHD peers in as little as 20 minutes, primarily due to inappropriate emotional outbursts. Thus, we fall behind and never catch back up, even with concerted effort & medication. The social connections & ability to network that are unavailable to ADHD individuals are absolutely fundamental to success in multiple areas of adult life. The ensuing failures and severely-reduced or completely-absent social connections inevitably erode confidence and bleed into other areas of life.

I utterly abhor the popular stigma of ADHD and truly wish those who mock or belittle it to be forced to live a day with my brain.

I feel like people forget that ADHD is also poor emotional regulation with mood swings. Like, it can get very bad

ADHD jokes are always the "haha I forgor" or about the hyperfixations what about the less pleasant symptoms like rejection sensitive dysphoria or VERY angry mood that you feel like ur going to lose it

[bloomdoom1]

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[takemetodragonstone]

grabbing a Symptom by the throat and screaming WHO SENT YOU!?? WHICH DISORDER DO YOU BELONG TO

[w3brot]

Opinion on men?

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I say this to you: reject all FPs.

Yes, I am much more unstable without one, but the destabilizations are far more predictable and I have been forced to learn more self-soothing. Plus then I don't have the weight of guilt for relying on someone yet again to fix me whenever I finally come back to a pocket of stability.

The loneliness & isolation are still unsolved side effects, though...

If people aren’t putting effort into you, just know you deserve better and don’t have to accept low effort. Especially not if it’s consistently how they’re showing up for you.

[hisenemy]

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I think it's telling that there is far more attention, sympathy, empathy, and compassion directed towards trans men complaining about the misandry cis men have lived with our whole lives.

[adustoflove]

I always think well if I dated a man, I wouldn't feel as insane. I wouldn't feel so awful or jealous. And then I remember why I came to the conclusion that I'm a lesbian. I just wouldn't care if it were a man. I just can't bring myself to care about men like that 😔😩😭

[kidsforever2007]

i'm afraid my type are men with glasses and longish hair that are much smarter than me

[stinkrat-aleks]

basically the plot of dofp

[hneymoonvio]