#bi femme

[blondehotwife4fun]

Discreet Offline Fun (soft-full swap couples): BM-WF/WM-WF

[bi-is-beautifull]

[musenextdoor]

Ovulation horny is CRAZY I need to be chained up like a werewolf rn

[genderqueerdykes]

here's to every bisexual who has had their bisexuality policed. here's to every bisexual whose defintion of bisexuality differs from people who try to define it for them. here's to every bisexual who gets told they're just straight. here's to every bisexual who gets denied access to queer spaces because they "look straight" or they're "in a straight relationship." here's to every bisexual gay and lesbian. here's to every bisexual butch and femme. here's to every bigender and genderfluid bisexual who has their identity questioned because of one or more of their genders. here's to every trans bisexual person whose bisexuality comes into question when they come out or start transition. here's to every bisexual who gets told they're bisexuality is "incorrect". here's to every bisexual who gets told their idea of bisexuality is actually pansexuality and they'd be better off identifying that way instead. here's to every bisexual of color who has their bisexuality questioned due to racism.

here's to every bisexual.

[macbxth-pdf]

Femme who’s obsessed with taking Polaroid selfies + Butch/Stud who keeps their photo in their wallet/pocket

[femme-experience]

Hey! Just a reminder that bisexuals and queer men/achilleans are absolutely allowed to identify as butch or femme, and I encourage you to loudly identify as butch or femme if you feel like it. This is not a discourse topic, you have always been part of, and included in, the butch & femme labels and I would love to see more bisexuals and achilleans identify as butch or femme!!! YOU ARE ALLOWED!!! And you absolutely SHOULD if you desire to!

[lgbtqtext]

[bi-butches-and-bi-femmes]

[biwrites]

I think where some people get caught up on bisexual/pansexual butches is that they fully think we aren’t butch when we aren’t in a sapphic relationship.

Like, I’ve seen people try to use “oh, so you’re still butch when you’re with a man?” As a gotcha, but…yes? Being butch, or even just queerly masculine is part of my identity, my identity doesn’t change depending on who I’m dating.

If someone’s entire identity and personality DOES change depending on who their partner is, you should check on them, instead of making fun of them, because that isn’t a sign of a healthy relationship.

[bisexual-coala]

hi there! fellow bi person here! i've seen your post about "butch" and "femme" *not* actually being lesbian-exclusive and i am really interested in learning more about this history. i don't know where to start though, so do you mind sharing links or giving pointers as what to search for? thanks so much in advance!

Hi! Of course! <3

Butch and femme identities come from a time where lesbian meant sapphic. Lesbian was an umbrella term back then as we didn't have the word bisexual used for people like us. If you liked women, you were a lesbian, didn't matter if you *exclusively* liked women or not. So, all sapphics used them and identified with them. Bisexuals were right beside lesbians building the butch and femme culture. Even after the word bisexual began being used, bisexual butches and femmes existed.

Here are some excerpts from historical queer books and videos. 1 2 3 (These books could be a good start)

Those identities are not even limited to only queer women. Even queer men use butch and femme.

From a New York Times article on butch existence by Kerry Manders, a butch writer, editor & photographer.

Selections from queer zines 'femmes unite!' (2007) and 'mutate' (1999)

The Butch Manual

I hope these help!

[blondehotwife4fun]

Girls Nite In

[femmebis]

The thing is, radfems (and other biphobic lesbians) DON'T have a problem with bisexual women using "lesbian terms". Not really.

They see a woman talking about her attraction to women, and call her a lesbian with no further thought. They see a masc woman, and they call her a butch, or the d-slur (affectionately). They see a pair of women in a relationship, they call them a "lesbian couple". They see no issue with these things. If you have a problem with it, maybe you should figure out why you have such a big problem with the word "lesbian"!

It's good, when it's used for bisexual erasure. Thus, the only conclusion we can draw is that their real problem lies in bisexual women having the autonomy to call themselves these terms.

[musenextdoor]

How can I respectfully tell them that my tight little pussy needs to be filled

[bisexualfagdyke]

Being a femme bi achillean (with little connection to sapphicism, and no connection to lesbianism) (and who is pretty exclusively into bisexuals and achilleans) is very isolating, so I will make it my mission to be LOUD about butch/futch/femme bisexuals and achilleans!!!!! We deserve recognition and representation and community and just acknowledgement. Even "inclusive" butch/femme communities still center being sapphic (and mostly being lesbian lolz).

I love bisexual and achillean butches, futches, and femmes. I love being a femme bi trans man in a relationship with a wonderful futch bi trans man!!!! BUTCH/FUTCH/FEMME ACHILLEANISM BE UPON YOU!!!!!

[sweetestfagintown]

i will always and forever defend the fact that femmeness is about the relationship between gender, queerness and femeninty, (as well as race, ethnicity, fatness, disability, ect) making it a complicated identity that can mean many different things and take many different forms, making it inherently more than just "sapphic woman who is femenine". However if u see a femme who enjoys fashion and makeup, who wants to be a parent or a stay at home partner, who has "tradicionally femenine" hobbies like sewing and cooking, who is a pillow princess and only dates butch4femme and the first thing u think is that they're "imitating the patriarchy" i will steal something from ur fuckin house ‼️

[macbxth-pdf]

“As for other dykes, I enjoy my share of appreciation for fabulous form and sense of fat drag. Thats right, I said fat drag. I like to dress in a way that plays with what a fat girl is and isn’t supposed to wear. This includes dresses with huge horizontal stripes and tight, brightly colored cardigans that strain to keep one button done up. There is a particular niche of dykes who dig this kind of look and we share a sort of common understanding about performing our bodies in subversive ways. To others who are more invested in traditional standards of beauty and more of a beige clothing landscape, I’m sure that I’m either invisible or gross.”

Fat Activist Allyson Mitchell

Source: ‘Big Fat Femmes: Squeezing a lot of into One Pair of Control Top Nylons’ by Abi Slone and Allyson Mitchell from Brazen Femme: Queering Femininity Edited by Chloë Brushwood Rose & Anna Camilleri