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Butch bisexuals, I love you all. Thank you for existing

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Femme bisexuals, I love you all. Thank you for existing

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Historically, bisexual identities have been misunderstood, ignored, erased, and stigmatized within the heterosexual communities, the LGBTQ+ community, and mainstream society, and this intersects with the experiences of bisexual butches.

the discrimination crosses over into pressure to conform to either heterosexual or homosexual communities with there being very little space for bisexuals to exist on our own without input (unwanted) from either group.

this is why it is so important to not only recognize the diversity in bisexual identity, but to uplift us and affirm us within our subsections of the queer identity. we have been here alongside you for centuries and it’s far past time to recognize us and our existence.

It’s one of the biggest reasons I refuse to hide my identity away. I take pride in being able to advocate for the bisexual community, the butch community AND the bisexual butch community. we need more visibility and we need more acceptance in all areas of bisexual presence but especially within the broader LGTBQ+ community, and the more of us refuse to be silent the stronger we will be.

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bisexuality I love you forever

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(Image description: two bisexual pride flag with white and black text in the center; the text says "butch bi pride" and "femme bi pride".)

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thank you for being a butch bisexual icon to young butch bisexuals <3

It’s my pleasure!

the whole concept of ‘become the person you needed’ is a core reason why I run this blog and why I think it’s so important to be visible and seen.

This space is here for any young (or old) bisexual butches and femmes who feel outcasted and ashamed of their identities. I’m here to offer a safe place for us to relax and be comfortable with each other.

Thank you for the kind words anon! <3

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To all the bisexual butches out there, you are butch enough

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You know I was honestly a *tad* worried about how my fiancé would react to me embracing being butch and genderqueer despite him being bi but goddamn if he isn't constantly letting me know that he finds me so insanely attractive when I dress masc that he can barely even focus when I'm standing next to him <3 I really do wish that all butch and transmasc people(who want one) find a partner who can't even breathe when they walk into a room dressed masc. You all deserve to know your masculinity is powerful and gorgeous and desirable bcs it fucking is!!!!

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"Imagine being bisexual and butch lmfao" On it 🫡 I'm bisexualing the fuck out of being butch 💪

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Hello, there! This is a positivity blog for bi butches and femmes run by a bisexual butch woman of colour 💖

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I hope to make bi butches and femmes feel less alone and loved 💜

And if you are someone who is here to argue with me then I suggest you save your energy and put efforts into learning queer/butchfemme history :)

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Some blinkies! Made here. Feel free to request any bi blinkies related to the theme of my blog!

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My butch experience is having to deal with lesbians who will attack me because they believe butch is a "lesbian" only term whenever I speak up about my experiences as a bisexual butch

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My femme experience is having to deal with lesbians who will attack me because they believe femme is a "lesbian" only term whenever I speak up about my experiences as a bisexual femme

unfortunately relatable :/

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can you be butch if you’re bisexual / not a lesbian?

yep!

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hey I saw the bi woman using butch/femme post you reblogged and I just wanted to let you know that bi woman can't use butch/femme. Butch/femme is more than a label, it's part of lesbian culture. An aspect of it is being yourself and dressing and acting how you like But Not For Men, only for other lesbians. It's all about the complete exclusion of men. If bi woman are attracted to men, how can they be part of this culture?

Butch and femme identities have existed since a time when differentiating between lesbians and bi women wouldn't have been as crucial and common as simply making it known you were a woman interested in other women.

They are not part of a lesbian culture. They're part of the culture of women who love women.

That is our link and our solidarity. That we are women who love women. Cis women, trans women, lesbians, bi women, pan women, we are all unitied in our love and in our struggle.

When queer bars and groups faced violence and oppression in the past, do you think police and homophobes stopped and said "all the bisexual women here may leave. We'll only assault the lesbians." Do you think that'd happen now?

Get a grip. Bi and lesbian history is intrinsically and irrevocably intertwined.

On a personal note, the bi community is precious to me because I identified as bi for years before I realized I'm a lesbian, and my bi community supported me every step of the way and celebrated me when I came out as a lesbian. I don't identify as bi anymore of course, but that identity was an important stepping stone that will always be a part of me. Many others have gone through the same journey. Others start out identifying as lesbians, then realize they're bi. Do their butch or femme identities suddenly disappear? Does some lisence get revoked?

For reasons like this, the bi and lesbian communities are again, linked on a fundamental level that can't be separated.

I appreciate and understand that you see butch and femme as identities which exist to deny the involvement of men.

However, for me, these identities exist to focus on the involvement of women.

That includes bi women.

You're so focused on a bisexual woman's attraction to men that you forget her love for women.

You need to learn your own history.