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dont understand why my brother never speaks directly to me, he always tells me things through my mom and idk why bc he has my number, if he wants to tell me something then he should text me
#it bothers me even more after i once read a conversation between them#and they were talking about me and my brother told my mom to tell me all these things#and the thing about it is that everything he said was so meaningful and it had a huge impact on me after i read it#cause for the first time in my life i felt understood by someone from my family#and i probably never wouldāve known about those messages if i hadnt been nosey and read them myself#bc my mom NEVER said a thing about those messages#i just dont understand why he never texts me directly#i text him and he rarely even sees them#and yes it makes me sad#even more after i lived with him for a few months#bc iād felt as if those few months helped change our relationship a bit#making us become closer even if itās just a little#which is one of the things i most yearn for#being close and comfortable with him the way i am with my other brother#bc i didnt exactly grow up with him due to our big age gap#and then i come back to mexico and i text him often so we dont lose contact and keep us as close as possible#even if weāre away from each other#but he barely replies#barely even opens the messages#and it makes me so fucking sad#does he find me that annoying and bothersome???#was i such a burden to him while living there and now that im gone he no longer wants to hear of me??#nessquik
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really fucking grinds my gears how my dad knows just how to make me feel fucking guilty for putting up boundaries and saying no
#not even for a major thing!#barely setting a boundary even! just saying i donāt want to do smth!#asking me if i want to go for dinner one evening when he knows i work late most days and have said this for years - in fact said this exact#thing to him last week - so when i say no bc i finish late he just pushes and pushes#until im like this doesnāt work for me AND i hate eating out i dont want to go. just go with my brother thatās fine. and heās suddenly#blunt as fuck in his messages leaving me on read or guilting me about the hours i workā¦.. like get a fucking grip your over 50 bro#i try to be polite with it but he just gets in a fucking mood like please you are a Loser#i see you weekly (smth HE chose when i was a bairn) like im not making my job and life harder just bc you feel bad that you donāt see me#more often now#also i only hate eating out with him!! because itās awkward!! i like to be in and out when i eat with friends and weāre all the same about#it bc weāre all very autistic lmaooo but with him he likes to chat and chat and chat which is fine but i donāt.. and he asks more personal#questions than when weāre just at his as if im gonna open up just bc weāre eating thai food šššš#like you Donāt get to know if im seeing anyone or if im queer or even if ive got fucking plans to go away with friends tbh#like deadbeat dads that try to emotionally manipulate their kids get minimal information actually !! š¤āļø#stelle yaps#fuck sake#i knew heād start doing this when my brother was back - heās always played us off each other and he always gravitates towards whichever is#the āeasiestā child at the time which is my brother ever since i became an adult lmao#i just donāt tolerate his shit and i let him know it whereas e will play along#me and my dad are too similar in that we both know how to really cut deep in the other :/#it just all sucks#please please feel free to ignore#i just need to vent like hell bc he winds me up a treat so bad
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I occasionally wish to reach out to old friends/acquaintances I haven't spoken to since high school/some other even earlier time in my life, but I have SOOO little social energy even for required tasks (like making dr phone calls or etc), I never have any leftover for extra ones, and it would be very odd to message someone I haven't spoken to in like 5 years out of the blue but then take 4 entire months to respond back lol.. My natural curiosity with nostalgia/collecting details of the past/etc. (literally if I were born a little earlier I would definitely do scrapbooking or something lol) is very strong, but, alas, not strong enough to beat out the Social Issues Demons apparently
#facebook always does that 'here's a post from this day 8 years ago' thing. and I see old comments interacting#with people and it's so like.. OOOOO~~ where are they now?? what's going on? how much have they changed as people?#how much are they the same? this is fascinating. i should contact them!!' but then it's like... take that to it's logical conclusion though#you would contact them and then IF they even responded it would take you 80 years to respond and then they would#think there was something wrong or that you were trying to be insulting or something. To contact anyone I need to include an 85 page#disclaimer of all of my social issues & mental illness things. 'If i take 3 weeks to reply I promise it has nothing to do with u' etc lol#THIS is why more people need to be into phone calls/voice calls/some form of audio real time communication/etc.#I think one of the main things that's hard about messaging through text for me is it's so unscheduled and open ended#(plus it takes forever if you're talking about anything in detail and gets very long very quickly)#because like you can send a message and then just get a reply whenever. and then you're expected to reply back whenever#so it's like you never know when the response will come or when a new obligation to reply can come up? so it's like this sudden thing with#no outline?? if that makes sense. whereas a phone call is very like 'hello let's schedule a call from 10am - 2pm on thursday'. And you know#EXACTLY when the interaction will start and EXACTLY when it will end and you can plan around it in your schedule easily.#I have the reverse thing of a lot of people (how people don't pick up phone calls/hate calls/only text)#I would literally talk on the phone with a stranger. I would have a discord voice chat with someone I barely know.#if someone I hardly even remember from elementary school asked to have a voice call with me out of nowhere I would do it.#but if a stranger MESSAGED me?? or someone I barely know sent me a TEXT or something?? I will never reply probably#It's just too vague and weird. and you can't read voice tone over text. and the interaction could last forever with no clear end#point and etc. etc. But a call is like. set. established. clear boundaries. you can read the flow of conversation better. rapport. etc. etc#I get that I guess people feel more anonymous or distanced over text?? but you can have fake phone numbers on the computer. or do like disc#rd calls. or zoom without a camera or etc. etc. Also the distance that's present in text is BAD distance because it just means that tone is#not conveyed properly and you will never truly get a sense of the person's conversational vibe or mannerisms or how well you really click.#ANYWAY ghgjh...... I'm so so so interested in concepts of like.. How did that one kid I used to talk to in elementary school#but then they moved away in 5th grade - how did they end up? what are they doing now?? etc. etc. Like despite the severe social anhedonia#and general lack of connection with others I'm just really fascinated in like.. idk. the human development of it all and like#the concept of how we're actually a million different people through the course of our lives ever evolving in different iterations and etc.#PLUS again. i love nostalgia. sometimes old peple you know might remember a shared memory or can tell you about something you forgot#or etc. like it's SUCH A COOL THING in CONCEPT but I am too socially inept generally speaking lol. which people I still talk to today are#familiar with my 'phone call once every few months' communication style. but strangers would just be like... wtf. And I don't blame them#Sure I literally cannot change the physical health + brain issues i have - but also I know enough to not put others through that lol
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I opened up about my body image issues and people called me a horrible person, told me I'm invalidating people with eds and that I'm body shaming people? God what the fuck? Ive got no fucking support system in real life and the Internet just hates me I guess.
#every waking moment of my life for three years was spent making sure other people had a person to vent to#but i can't vent to anyone#well ive got one person who wont even read my fucking text messages so i could say anything but i need someone to know#i need someone to say ill be okay. i need someone to be the person i was.#and nobody does that for me#ive got one person who cant even answer a ask on tumblr. honestly fuck you. i hope youre reading this. i spent so many nights awake making#sure you felt seen and you were okay. i gave up so much of my time to always be there for you. but you cant even respond āhahaā to a stupid#joke? i get social interaction is hard. i get it. but this isnt. all you have to fucking do is open an ask. skim it for an idea of the vibe#and type haha or aw im sorry or smthing. its so easy. you know i have crippling anxiety. shit like this brings back trauma. it sends me into#a really bad panic attack. you suck. i hate to say that. cause you dont. you are genuinely a good person but you hate yourself so much that#youre actually trying to be a bad person#nothing you ever do will make me hate you but i sure am mad. me and A spent a few hours talking about how much we were worried about you#he doesn't have tumblr. when he found out you havent been messaging me he thought you killed yourself. for him its complete radio silence#just say something. like one of my posts. you dont have to do much. just do the bare minimum so i know you dont hate me.#cause if you dont hate me right now you really suck. really do. and if you do hate me please communicate that with me so i can fix myself
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being hassled and spammed by my boss fuck offff im not coming in at 5am on my day off tomorrow cuz you the manager cant be arsed to cover someones shift IT IS 9PM LEAVE ME ALONE
#this is the 5th time in the past 2 weeks i have been asked last minute to cover a shift!!!! leave me alone!!!!!#feel like i am being taken advantage of tbh#if its that crucial and you cant just open the store a little later or smth then go in yourself its your responsibility and you have no#reason you cant#i am not paid nearly enough for this bullshit to be on call whenever you want fuck you theres like 5 other people you could ask anyway why#is it always me#tbh its inappropriate to keep messaging and calling me at like 9.30 in the evening on my day off#maybe i wouldve been pressured to say yes but being messaged and called repeatedly until i respond like that actually triggers me so now im#straight up unable to open the messages or reply#god i fucking hate work culture im barely above minimum wage working for a shitty chain store billionaire corporation fuck off i hate you#idek why my manager cares either tbh he too is working for this stupid corporation that doesnt give a shit about him#fuck capitalism fuck big corporations i hateeeee youuuu
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tmi type ramble about learning to deal with masturbating again after a weird non consensual sex thing kinda ruined existing in my own body
Okay proceeding as normal tumblr post from here:
That weird thing after {insert vague phrasing} happens to you where you get horny again and you have to kind of treat masturbating as a self care routine cause like yes Iām gonna hopefully eventually maybe get to cum a little (I hate my body) but then after Iām gonna have to deal with the fucking consequences (ha.) when I canāt sleep and Iām having nightmares about {synonym for bad thing} and like idk. Triggering myself bc I have this like body horny that wonāt go away and this brain that hates the body itās in because it reminds it of the bad thing that happened to it and itās just like exhausting but I canāt just like not cum bc like. Thatās all I fucking have. Like truly at the end of the day at least I have my clit. Some days my vibrator is literally the only good thing I have going on in my life. I just love cumming and hate penetration now.
Anyways I was saying itās like partially a self care thing cause I have to charge my vibrator and like wait for it to get late or whatever and I get to chill and like eat a snack and get water and stretch my body and focus on all the things that kind of remind me Iām safe and that Iām in my own space and even tho the bed is the same as {NOOOOO} the sheets are new itās okay everything is moved everything is clean everything is built to distract me from being here while also forcing me to be present I get really high I vibe I hate myself I wish I was dead I cum I smoke I cum i clean up and I drink a cold can of root beer and tuck my vibrator into its own little bed before smoking as much as possible and then going on Pinterest until I fall asleep begging my brain not to dream anything awful.
If youāve read this much youāve reached a secret hidden end half joke :
Part of my waiting for my vibrator to charge routine has been watching the muppets and I am really hoping I donāt accidentally Pavlov myself here š¬
#okay Iām gonna go now bye#sorry if you read this (?) I guess idk what my message was here Iām high and want to talk therapy rips me open and then throws me to the#wolves (feeling like I have no support system even tho I DO have a small barely present one and isnāt that good enough)#*looks directly into your soul*#okay bye goodnight
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you guys.... i'm going down a spiral and I need advice
#my best friend (my favourite person in the world) has been acting kinda distant lately#she's been struggling with depression so I figured she just needed some space#we still talk on instagram every day and send each other reels all the time#but lately I just feel like she's gonna abandon me...#she's growing up and has a job and a boyfriend and is doing well for herself#meanwhile i'm a failure lmao i flunked twice and am still in uni and barely surviving this school year with absoltely no (...)#(...) prospects and hope for the future. on top of that i'm a depedent clingy selfish useless jealous baby#she deserves better than me and she's bound to realize that so i'm not surprised this is happening. but it still hurts.#last night she sent me a message on ig saying she missed me but deleted it immediatly so i didn't have time to respond#which most likely means she meant to send it someone else and sent it to me by mistake#which means she doesn't miss me at all (she could have just kept the message and it'd be no trouble#but the fact she deleted it so quickly without a second thought just means she doesn't care about me#we haven't seen each other in a month so that hurts#i panicked and ārepliedā saying i missed her too but she left me on read#now she's sending me reels but I can't bring myself to even open our chat because it just hurts#I wish we could just cut the chord and end the friendship at once instead of having me slowly watch it crumble#i hate this#i'm so sad#i'm gonna be all alone#i'm completely isolated from everyone and it's my fault for depending on her so much#it hurts so much I don't even want to see her#i don't know what to do
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posted one (1) thing on my instagram stories about how antisemitism is bad actually, and IMMEDIATELY got the biggest tankie in my DMs ranting nonstop for the last 30 minutes about how āzionism is the biggest threat to jews since the third reichā (direct quote) (I said literally nothing about zionism or israel at all but okay) and how āislamophobia is worse actuallyā (i didnāt know we were playing the oppression olympics)
and yes, before you ask, he most certainly is. like he has THE most cracker last name. absolute shitlib white male savior complex. kill me
#anyway Iām not even going to justify it with opening his message. he can talk to himself in there!#havenāt talked to this guy since our junior year of high school btw. so at least 8 years ago#like babygirl I barely know you
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thinking really hard about Miles (not) coping with Jeffās death if he were to die
#due to messages . but god i can see it all so clearly (i have barely opened my eyes. there are many wonders before me yet i cannot even+#comprehend them)#miles morales#spiderman#spider man
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LMAO QUICK. WIPE YOUR TEARS BEFORE SOMEONE SEEEESSS YOUUU
#vent#:) !! dammit!!!!!!!!!!!!!#I am in my feelings and I am feeling so many feelings like my heart being torn from my chest and pounded into the floor#and a rage so sickening that I can only get rid of by mutilating someoneās flesh with my teeth and nails#fuck fuck fuck man fucking shit everytime I start to open myself up to someone and share whatās at the core of my being#I let my guard down and shit happens!! why canāt I be normal!! why do I get so attached!!! so fucking needy!!!!!! why do I CARE so deeply#when Iām so easy to be ignored? honestly what am I doing here!! Iām forgettable!!! honestly!!#why talk to me??? what am I contributing AT ALL to the conversation?? Iām not interesting. I have no ideas. YOU have a hard time under me?#how do you think *I* feel?? do you think I know who I am?? what I believe?? what I desire??#why even BOTHER wanting for anything!! I dream of the absolute bare minimum life for myself!! I want to not die and live with my friend!!#maybe even MULTIPLE friends if Iām so lucky!!! do you know how much Iāve thought about it? how stupid of a fucking dream really truly#what are the chances of that coming true? who would want to spend more than a few hours. with me?#and so what?? if I canāt even achieve the bare fucking minimum dream ever then??? whatās the point??? what am I then??? if you think I have#ANY skills. you are mistaken!! I donāt know how to do anything!!! except cry over no response to my messages for TWO FUCKING WEEKS#Iām fine and cool. absolutely fucking DANDY#Iām totally not insecure about my place in the world and my place in peoples lives!!! noooooooo#I donāt need the bare minimum level of attention. I made it 13 fucking years having never truly connected to another human being.#I can handle. whatever the fuck this is. haha how pathetic. shitty shitty bang bang#nooo Iām a grizzled fucking soldier I donāt reread positive words directed at me like I have an addiction#Iām not replaying the top happiest moments from my life over and over again trying to ride a high from something that expired LOOONGG ago#Iām not fucking!! crying!! what do I have to cry for?? aww little piss baby DIDNT get a reply :( aww shh shh#your feelings are sooo valid donāt you worry!! itās not like youāve gone most of your life with the ability to get things you want!! GASP.NO#you didnāt have to struggle with food or money or housing!! nobodyās even HIT you before!! but even so your cries are valid!!!!#SIKE. NO. IM AT THE ABSOLUTE BOTTOM. MY PROBLEMS DONT MATTER#so WHAT if youāre longing?? doesnāt matter how hard you THINK or DREAM or WISH. NO ONE. NOT ONE SINGLE. FUCKING. PERSON#will EVER. see you as more than the fucking checker piece on the chess board!!#you want to be someoneās muse huh? donāt even CARE about their interpretations. or how they see you. all that matters is that in this moment#theyāre stuck with you. theyāre watching you. for at least a moment you can pretend they are yours.#god.... if only I could get myself to write my actual essays with this much passion haha#haha...a hh h..
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Everytime I face a new character limit on a website that didn't have them before/used to have really long ones... AUGHHhhh the modern social media world was not made for people like me (lovers of details, rambling, elaboration, thorough explanation, and nuance)
#twitter and other short form shit and everything being a Phone App On Small Screen instead of a Proper#Computer Website i feel like has just ruined the format of literally everything for me. Thoughts just keep getting more and more condensed#with detail and nuance taken away. everything over simplified into only the basics. blah blah blah. I've already probably rambled about thi#all before but it's just SO frustrating. I literally just CAN NOT talk that way!!! even if I try!!! I took multiple advanced placement#english & language arts classes in school and I literally never made below an A on any assignment EVER except for ESSAYS#where I would legit get almost failing grades just because I cannt express myself concisely. I took an english placement test thats made to#like evaluate your competency in a subject and out of the 102 multiple choice questions I only missed TWO of them. almost a perfect#score. But for the 5 open response questions (about articulating thoughts succinctly) I did not get a single one of them lol#I only got partial credit on 3. It's like I OBVIOUSLY understand the material and I know how Words Work and how to analyze and interpret#meaning and etc. etc. But it's just when I have to express myself CLEANLY I can't. It's always ''well you have very good points and you#get around to the idea eventually and I think it's very insightful - but it just needs to be shorter/the side tangent needs to be removed/#etc.'' I've always wondered if it has something to do with being on the schizophrenia spectrum and how that can cause disorganized#speech sometimes hmm..ANYWAY.. But I just naturally express myself in a very particular way which is lengthy and I can't rea#ly seem to control it. So it's basically like just.. being gradually pushed out of every place that won't accomodate people with different#ways of like perceiving and expressing or etc. Everything cannot ALWAYS be 100% 'Short and Snappy and To The Point' or a quippy one#liner or the Bare Minimum of information being provided or etc. Some peoples brains just do not work like that!!!!! Sorry I operate#in detail and elaboration lol. ANYWAY.. I still sometimes use random ''dating sites'' like OKCupid to look for platonic friends since#I never leave the house so it's hard for me to just meet friends naturally. And I just realized today that they added a RIDICULOUSLY small#character limit to their messaging system (2000 words?? augh). And also took away answer explanations (when you answer a compatibility#question you used to have a space to give detail and explain why you answered the way you did) and removed a few other features and it's ju#t like.. how the fuck is any of this actually helpful in terms of judging compatibility? take away ALL nuance and anyting that actually#is meant to tell you anything about a person? Bumble's character limits for your profile description are even more fucking insane and so#is every other disgustingly minimalistic place I've seen like.. OKC used to be superior BECAUSE it allowed for a TON of detail. like back i#2016 or something there was SO much data you could look at. long form question answers. personality trait summaries. etc. Now you have#SOO little to judge off of when evaluating compatibiility it's like. You'd have better luck just throwing a dart in a crowded street and#talking to whoever it hits. Why are people so fucking allergic to reading anything longer than 3 words and providing DETAILS!! It just seem#harder and harder to find any place to meet platonic friends where you have any amount of actual data to go off of and it isnt basically#just random 'speed dating' set up shit. AARGH. &I know 'oh just join a club& meet ppl irl' 1. erm..covid. 2.I mostly want to meet ppl#in places I'd like to move so I already know ppl when I get there. You kind of HAVE to do that online. bc I am not there yet.. WISHING for#Complexity.Com where ppl can upload full 900 page psychological files of themselves. MINIMUM profile character limit 30k words lol
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#i'm really not doing well rn#i see your asks and messages and whatnot but im so overwhelmed with uni and work and my internship and private stuff that i just.#i cant even open it just the thought that there are so many people who expect something from me is so nauseating#i swear to god i have like 200 unread messages on my phone and i just cant answer any of them#and rationally i know i dont have it easy and i work a lot and i have a thousand things to do but other people dont see that#they just see someone who's barely holding it together#theres not one thing i look forward to anymore. not even the weekends#i dont even want to see friends its just exhausting#and i just cant seem to catch a break. theres always some awful shit happening lately and so. much. money. to pay#i havent been like this in a good long while#jfc#tbd#ok ignore this maybe actually
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#It's actually so fucking funny that last week i was like#wow my life and mental health is really stable i really made it#and now it's shit after shit after shit#like I GOT THE MESSAGE can we PLEASE stop now#I am tapping out#i got it#no easy life for me it's alright please#ugh#part of me is laughing hysterically while I am trying not to cry#i am so normal.abour everything#not loosing my marbles at all#ha#what if right at the brink of having worked through a shit ton of trauma#the person who did it to you was about to die#but because you've always been the parwnt of your parents and sister and niece and nephew everyone now looks to you for help#even the person who put you through hell#hahahah yeah what IF wouldn't that be fucked#even after you had already reduced contact to barely anything to protect yourself#yeah#god#i feel like someone ripped me open at the seems#but it's alright#One thing about me is that i can go crazy in my brain and be calm and collected and fully in controll still#I am so good at staying in control ā”#control is the mindkiller that bring total obliteration to me but it is what it is ā”#yay#okay writing it out helped actually#am normal again for real#having emotions is such a good tool you can let it happen for five seconds and then you'll be able to supress everything again ā”#such a useful skill to have
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how many love interests do you have in your life? you often mention that no one likes you, but clearly they do. why not just go for it and try a chance at happiness?
Oh I didnāt realise that I said that, I thought Iād been pretty clear that I donāt feel like Iām in a stable enough place to be in a healthy relationship. And whenever I think I am my brain seems to sneak up on me and hit me over the head with a baseball bat.
Maybe a long distance casual thing might work but then I seem to get hate for that idea so
#plus like my DMs are open but no one is messaging#I donāt even have my own apartment yet Iām just renting a small room in an aunts house#working on getting a car though at least#recovery is hard and Iām low key struggling with the knowledge that Iāve been back a year now and I feel like Iāve barely made any progress
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ah i think this may be a Proper depressive episode. as opposed to the Lite depression i usually experience
#took me until almost 3pm to shower and even then i barely did any actual showering#i think i got a call from the hospital about revising some dog eared skin from my surgery but i canāt even bring myself to open the message
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