#autism moms dni

[thegothicchangeling]

Something I think about a lot whenever people say that their children's autism just showed up out of nowhere, is that lots of autistic traits are considered normal for a while.

Picky eating, meltdowns, not picking up on social cues, and taking things literally are all typical child behaviors- up to a point. Autism is literally a developmental disorder, yet people expect it to be obvious from the get go.

Their symptoms didn't come out of nowhere, though. They were always there, they were just normal kid stuff for a while.

[coppertophomegurl]

Happy Autism Acceptance Month my husband is going to run errands alone this week because I was getting ready to go with him, but I'm on my period so I had to wear underwear with my pants and in less than 20 minutes I was crying and having a meltdown from sensory distress. And we hadn't even made it to the grocery store yet.

Curious if anyone else's (autistic people) sensory issues become much worse when they're on their period?

[theautisticfroglord]

anyways parents who record/post their autistic child having a meltdown are awful people :)

[country-fried-fritata]

who likes liquid soap. like who puts that liquidy gel shit that feels like jello that isnt completly ready yet and leaves residue and is icky icky icky on their hands and puts their hands under water and rubs the soap around and is like. ah yes this is not revolting in the slightest this doesn't make me want to rip my hands off and never feel anything ever again

[worldsbiggestnerd101]

intro post!!

hi there! my name’s emmy, welcome to my blog! i’ve been here for a good while now but since i’ve started to gain more attention, i figured it was time to make an intro post!

basic info:

name(s): em/emmy/emeline, angie/angel (no preference)

age: minor (NO NSFW BULLSHIT PLEASE)

birthday: january 4 :D

orientation/sexuality: bisexual (femme/wlw leaning)

gender: cis girl

pronouns: she/her (they/them is ok but not preferred)

nationality: born and raised in the US of A (new york babyyyyyyy), but my parents are guyanese, so i’d say guyanese american

race: mixed, my mom has light skin (she gets mistaken as hispanic a lot) and my dad has medium brown skin so i’m somewhere in the middle (i too get mistaken for hispanic a lot)

other info: i’m neurodivergent, possibly autism or adhd (or both) but i was a “gifted” kid if that counts for anything, oh and i have anxiety

fandoms:

this a multifandom blog, so while i do have my phases/eras/hyperfixations, i will be posting about multiple fandoms at once, even if one’s taking up more posts than the others combined.

here are some of my mains!

roblox piggy

murder drones

hazbin hotel + helluva boss

gravity falls

ride the cyclone

welcome home

it’s easiest to tell what my current main hyperfixation is by just looking at my pfp/blog theme, as i’ll usually set it to something related to my current biggest hyperfix. i’ll update this list as needed, but i’m also active in the percy jackson, american girl, and stranger things fandoms. i’m also into a lot of cartoons, like she-ra and the princesses of power, steven universe, the owl house, carmen sandiego, mlp gen 4, etc. so feel free to ask about those! i’m also a major theater kid, some of my favorite shows are hamilton, dear evan hansen, wicked, mean girls, beetlejuice, and six, so you can ask about any of those too! (i’ve only seen wicked and hamilton 😭)

links

ok so all my links to other posts or blogs or accounts or anything really are here!!

youtube: here!!

hazbin hotel high school au masterpost: here!!

discord server bullshittery masterpost: here >:3

tags

#em rambles - original post tag

#asks - any and all asks i get!!

#mutuals - any asks from/posts about my mutuals will be tagged with this, and it's like a guarantee that you'll get your own name tag too!!

#anon - if you send me an anon ask, just look here to find it :D

#emmy’s edits - all my original edits!! they’re up on my youtube too but you can find them here under that tag

#hazbin high school au - my own au!! i made this by myself with a few ideas from friends but this is like my own creation that i'm working on!!

EDIT: AS OF 07/06/2024, ANYTHING RELATING TO HELLUVA BOSS S2E9 APOLOGY TOUR WILL NOT BE TAGGED AS SPOILERS. IF YOU HAVE NOT SEEN THE EPISODE I ADVISE AGAINST SCROLLING.

edit: as of 07/16/2024 i have a girlfriend!! her name is hannie, aka the wonderful amazing absolutely adorable @furryrainbowscreature i love her so much <333

dni:

homophobes, transphobes

supporters of israel

queer exclusionists (anti "conflicting" labels, terfs, etc)

racists

blogs with heavy amounts of nsfw content (i’m a teenager so. please.)

sexists/misogynists

pedos/“maps”

so yeah i think that’s about it!! thanks for reading y'all <3

also: FREE PALESTINE 🇵🇸

[sordid-dog]

DNI: zionist, antikin, ableist, lgbtq+ phobic, fatphobic, fat kink, proshipper, support ai art, anti-cringe, general bigotry, s/h + ed blogs, proship.

im sorry for not reblogging or answering asks regarding current wars and genocides but i really cant handle it.sorry.

RB > LIKES on art, preferably

art fight,,

pronoun👍

strawpage!!

stupidscav -> sordid-dog

hello!! I'm callie/fester! feel free to alternate names and give name suggestions!! I go by it/thing/he/they. I am neurodivergent (autism, anxiety, probably adhd and maybe ocd) please be clear about things,, my mental health also may not the best currently so I might not be in a stable mood sometimes. expect some vents. i am also a minor, and I love bugs, indie music, Gravity Falls, The Owl House, Night In The Woods, and Rain World. :3

you can send me bug images as long as it is NOT A LARDER BEETLE. THEY ARE SMALL BLACK BEETLES WITH A WHITE/TAN STRIPE. DO NOT SEND ME THOSE . if you send an image of a larder beetle i WILL be blocking you.they remind me of some bad shit that happened to me in the past .please and thank yoy

if anyone uses this to specifically send me images of tjem im just gonna delete this part

I am a demiboy and a bi lesbian, and I adore contradictory labels.

I am also otherkin/fictionkin, and my confirmed (?) kintypes are caninekin and cryptidkin :] i also relate to/kin a lot of other characters and creatures,, im probably constelic/fictionflicker

about my tw tags: I tag the word itself. if "your mom" was a trigger, I would simply tag the post "your mom". you can always ask me to tag something!

current tags:

#dog misc: me yapping

#festers fuckery: me art

#dark pearls: vents and/or dark topics.yea the tag is the same as before

#waggy tail: happy vents

#dog rage: me being rightfully mad

#dog howls: serious discussion/announcements

#frisbee for dog: asks

#drop me a bone: gifts

old tags + info (these are my previous tags i used to use):

#scavs silly misc: miscellaneous posts/original posts. I upload random shit sometimes🔥

festers fuckery: art :3

#dark pearls: dark topics, vents

#pearl treasury: asks and polls!

#scavs favorite pearls: gifts! at least I think that was the tag

#scav is serious: announcements mostly

spam acc: @gayass-ery

music sideblog: @musicmutt

vent account: @bigevilworms

btw, I love being tagged! I love being asked! I love getting doodle requests, though idk if I'll get them all! these are basically always open!! unfortunately I am a horrible procrastinator so I might not always answer timely :']

probably gonna add more if I forgot, which is very likely. ty!

-please don't make jokes on my vent posts or blank reblog or anything unless I say you can btw. should have said that earlier sorry

[petewentzsvaginabones]

Proper Introduction

Sup i’m Max

About me: i’m the #1 mike fuentes hater, extremely socially awkward, some sort of puppy boy (not in a furry or therian way even tho y’all are cool asf, those are just kinda the vibes 🤷‍♂️) i’ve been told that i’m pretty odd :) /ref

‼️‼️‼️I AM A MINOR‼️‼️‼️

important dates and shit:

Deftones- March 28th 2025

MCR- August 15th 2025

status: off.

Current Vibe: so done with everything.

song that fits the vibe:

DNI- Racists, Homophobes, Bigots generally unpleasant people, anyone younger than 13. I block freely lol

more shit under the cut cuz this is long

any random blurbs abt life or fandom/bandom shit go under #occasionally ace rambles

my mom is @whats-a-girl-to-do

my beloved is @randomslinky

Sexuality: GAYYYYYYYY (bisexual, homo-romantic, aroace-flux)

Gender: Dude (ftm)

my silly little issues: Chronic joint pain, autism, depression, anxiety, anger issues

current hyperfixations:

dan and phil

P!ATD (pre-split ofc)

SOAD

past hyperfixations:

the grinch

monster high

anime (mha demon slayer ect)

cavetown

hamilton

greek and norse mythology

satanism

catholicism

cults

ghosts

sewing

crust punk fashion

scene fashion

scene music

It (2017, 2019)

SFX makeup

Gorillaz

stranger things

gravity falls

cirque du freak

asl

Harry Potter (i was 8)

beetle juice the musical

heart stopper

the little mermaid

SIX the musical

FOB

Queen (band)

The Beatles

Goth music and culture

favorite media:

Will Trent (books and show)

BBC Sherlock

Heartstopper

Dan and Phil (DanAndPhilGAMES, DanAndPhilCRAFTS, Daniel Howell, AmazingPhil)

Kaos

Cirque Du Freak

the Saw franchise (i’ve watched all of them at least three times)

Childs Play/the Chucky movies

Coraline

Nightmare Before Christmas

The Black Parade Is Dead!

Heathers (musical and movie)

The Crow (1993)

Bohemian Rhapsody

A Hard Days Night

Beetlejuice (musical and first movie)

Hamilton

Six The Musical

Shrek (1, 2, 3, and the musical, 4 is bs and unhappiness)

Flatliners (the one with Kiefer Sutherland)

RHPS

Bodies (netflix show)

special interest: Music (playing and listening)

bands/artists I listen to:

MCR, PTV, SWS, Paramore, Blink-182, Green Day, Misfits, Ramones, The Cramps, Radiohead, Pixies, FOB, FIR, Weezer, Nirvana, Deftones, Frank Iero, The Beatles, Queen, David Bowie, Roger Taylor, George Harrison, Paul McCartney, John Lennon, Jimi Hendrix, The Rolling Stones, Eric Clapton, Elton John, Wings, Pink Floyd, Gorillaz, Dolly Parton, SOAD, Tame Impala, Peter Gundry, Lil Darkie, Rob Zombie, McCafferty, The Cure, TV Girl, Dead Original, Grateful Dead

Instruments I play: Piano, guitar

fun fact: idk bro i’m actually boring asf

me lolz

[deadangelzz]

Finally posting on this account so here's our intro!

The Bat Coven

Non-traumagenic systems, TERFs, bigots, and zionists can all fuck off you look like your mom breast fed you until you were 8

NSFW blogs DNI

-We are a diagnosed polyfragmented DID system.

-We use any pronouns collectively and go by Mars or Sydney! We most likely will not use sign offs on Tumblr so please call us by those names.

-We also have ADHD and Autism

-We are white (Jewish, German, Irish, and Native American)

-This blog will mostly just be about shared interests and rants about being a system...tumblr is like our safe space for that

We support: Educated self-diagnosis for any condition, otherkins, neo/xenopronouns, and therians

That's pretty much it!

[forkyyyy]

INTRO fork

MY NAME IS FORKY!!! Or Fan, Michael, Trauma Meatgrinder. You also can call me by my real name(Anya) if we're close friends!!:3

She/her > they/them, 16 YEARS OLD, rus/eng/lt

INFJ, pansexual quoiromantic demigirl, autism spectrum, mom friend, a russian speaking, furry

DNI!!! Everything LGBT-phobic, talking about politics, basic dni, sexualization.

TRIGGERS!!! Real videos and/or photos of harm being done, monkeys, pigs, water bear, syringes.

Main fandoms are Object show, DSaF, DnB, Block Tales, Dandy's world, Pressure, idk random roblox games like Ocean Terror, PHIGHTING!

Main kins are Bambi(DnB), Bandu(DnB), Dave/Davetrap(DSaF), Fan(II), Vee(DW), Angeredfish(OT)

I LOVE!!! Paleontology!!! Please talk about dinosaurs and weird animals with me!!!

I am studying to be a cook (if u even care)

You can always text me or send smth funny, id love to make friends in this app!

Oh and before we start talking about fandom ships — im selfshipper, and im super uncomfortable with almost EVERY pairing in EVERY fandom... Sorry ☹️

I HAVE TWO EXOTIC CATS AND ONE SAINT BERNARD DOG!!! I Love them!

I have a bad memory. Sorry for ignoring or forgetting something, my mind is always full of random stuff or I'm busy! Don't be shy to remind me of something!!!

Mostly i DON'T use translation, so sorry if my text looks weird

I ASSOCIATE MYSELF WITH FOXES AND OWLS!!!

Salty > sweet

I am a very timid person, and even though I can call a dog cute on the internet, in real life I will tremble with fear at the sight of the same dog

MY SUPER COOL OC

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Yeh THE BABYGIRL THAT CHANGED MY LIFE IS BLOCKY BFB im absolutely obsessed with him!! GrrrrRRR please draw Foku and Blocky together and I will pray for your health all my life

I listen to the порез на собаке, 4 позиции Бруно, птицу емъ the most, also Jazmin Bean and random things :33 ALSO THE ONIBI SERIES BY MASA WORKS DESIGN IS SO MY VIBES HELP!!! ITS MY OST ITS HOW I SOUND LIKE

Gonna add more stuff in future cuz i forgot everything about myself again

FOKUBLOCKS FOREVER 🍴🟥🍴🟥🍴🟥🍴🟥🍴🟥🍴🟥🍴🟥🍴🟥🍴🟥🍴🟥🍴🟥🍴🟥🍴🟥🍴🟥🍴🟥🍴🟥🍴🟥

[starv1ng0g1rl]

Guess who’s backkk, last acc was angelg1rlyy. I got terminated again, seriously just block me if u don’t like sh n ed content instead of reporting me.

I’ll continue to post th!nspo and motivation !! ^_^

Intro

My name is Aja but just call me Ajz. I’m Scandinavian and und3r 18!

I have autism and ADHD, I’m not on meds rn since I was recently diagnosed but my mom asked if I wanted to go on meds and I said yes bc ik it can make you lose weight (lmao)

I’d love to have moots/friends :3

Stats

Sw 65kg

Cw 63kg

Gw 60kg

Gw1 58

Gw2 55

Ugw 48/45kg

My cal limit is 900 but my absolute cal limit is cant go over is 1,480

I mainly want to lose face fat, get slimmer legs and flat stomach

PEDOS DNI!

[jordan-in-paradise]

INTRO

This is a sideblog of @asqadia-banthen (system blog) just for me, Jordan, because apparently im “problematic” 🙄🤪😘

MY DARLINGGGGGG ❤️ ( @puppybatz )

NAME ~ Jordan

PRONOUNS ~ shi/hir

GENDERS ~ intersex, nonbinary

SEXUALITIES ~ abrosexual, conceptum

CISID ~ autism, anxiety, MaDD, trauma, emotionally abused

TRANSID ~ trace (african american), transintersex, disabledfluid, transamputee, transprosthetic, transsynesthesia, transchosenone, transharmful, transyandere, transobsessed, transstalker, transharmed, transabused, transtraumatized, transendling, transspecies (demon + critter)

LIKES:

warm weather

safe foods

compliments

affirmation

🌈🍓

digital art

my Darling

animals

ur mom ;3

DISLIKES:

antis

trumpies

loud noises

cold weather

no-no textures

eye contact

school

meanies >:|

HERE WE ARE

pro radqueer

pro palestine

pro endo

anti zionist

anti transphobic

anti homophobic

anti trump

TAGS:

( Darling ♥ ) - my darling ( Who’s there~? ) - asks ( rb :P ) - reblogs ( Jordan’s yapping ) - my posts ( My autistic skills ) - my art ( Convo ) - reblog conversation ( *Death Cup by Mom Jeans plays* ) - vent ( Jealousy- ) - my transyandere ass yapping about yandere shit ( IDs ) my IDs

DNI: anti-rq, ableist, sexist, transphobic, homophobic, zionist, antisemites, and anyone that is disrespectful (THIS INCLUDES TRANDIDs)

(faceclaim)

[thecrewsystemblog]

System Intro

‎Long Intro Ahead

‎‧₊˚✩ The Crew ✩˚₊‧

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⭑𓂃 Identity Info ⋆˙⟡

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🌕 ͙͘͡★ Col. Pronouns ⸝⸝ They/Them 🌕 ͙͘͡★ Col. Gender ID ⸝⸝ Non-Binary 🌕 ͙͘͡★ Col. Preferred Terms ⸝⸝ OSDD

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🚀 ͙͘͡★ Col. Orientation ⸝⸝ Queer 🚀 ͙͘͡★ Rel Status ⸝⸝ In a queerplatonic relationship 🚀 ͙͘͡★ Polyam/Mono ⸝⸝ Polyam

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🌌 ͙͘͡★ Body Age ⸝⸝ 16 years old 🌌 ͙͘͡★ Height ⸝⸝ 5'5 🌌 ͙͘͡★ Alterhuman? ⸝⸝ Not as far as I know 🌌 ͙͘͡★ Birthday ⸝⸝ May 19th

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⭑𓂃 System Info ⋆˙⟡

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🪐 ͙͘͡★ Headcount ⸝⸝ 20+ 🪐 ͙͘͡★ System Type ⸝⸝ Fictive & Little Heavy 🪐 ͙͘͡★ Introject % ⸝⸝ Makes up the majority of the system

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💫 .𖥔 ݁ Hosts .𖥔 ݁ 💫 ➤ Cory ✶ They/Them ➤ Touya ✶ He/Him ➤ Harper ✶ Any

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🌠 .𖥔 ݁ Frequent Fronters .𖥔 ݁ 🌠 ➤ Cory ✶ They/Them ✶ Host ➤ Touya ✶ He/Him ✶ Anger Holder ➤ Harper ✶ Any ✶ Host+Persecuter

✧─── ･ ｡ﾟ:⠀｡ﾟ• ⭑ .: . ───✧

⭑𓂃 Personal Info ⋆˙⟡

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🌍 ͙͘͡★ Likes ⸝⸝ Reading, Writing, & Watching Anime 🌍 ͙͘͡★ Dislikes ⸝⸝ Rude & Touchy Feely People 🌍 ͙͘͡★ Hobbies ⸝⸝ Reading & Writing

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⭐ ͙͘͡★ Favorite Color ⸝⸝ Black, Gold, & Navy Blue ⭐ ͙͘͡★ Favorite Song ⸝⸝ Propose by 9Lana ⭐ ͙͘͡★ Comfort Media ⸝⸝ MHA & DC ⭐ ͙͘͡★ Comfort Foods ⸝⸝ Chocolate & Red sauce meat type foods

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☄️ ͙͘͡★ Partner Sys ⸝⸝ None ☄️ ͙͘͡★ Mom/Dad Sys ⸝⸝ None ☄️ ͙͘͡★ Sibling Sys ⸝⸝ None ☄️ ͙͘͡★ Friends ⸝⸝ Jinx/Char

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👽 .𖥔 ݁ Other Disorders .𖥔 ݁ 👽 ➤ BPD ⋆⭒˚. ➤ Depression ⋆⭒˚. ➤ Autism ⋆⭒˚.

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⭑𓂃 Boundaries ⋆˙⟡

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🌑 ͙͘͡★ Interaction Status ⸝⸝ Int ✅ 🌑 ͙͘͡★ Touch ⸝⸝ Ask 🌑 ͙͘͡★ PDA ⸝⸝ No 🌑 ͙͘͡★ Flirting /p ⸝⸝ No 🌑 ͙͘͡★ Flirting /r ⸝⸝ No

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🛸 ͙͘͡★ Nicknames ⸝⸝ Ask 🛸 ͙͘͡★ Petnames ⸝⸝ Ask 🛸 ͙͘͡★ Teasing/Banter ⸝⸝ Use Tone Tags 🛸 ͙͘͡★ Baby Talk ⸝⸝ For close people only

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🌙 ͙͘͡★ DMs/PMs ⸝⸝ Sure 🌙 ͙͘͡★ Front Req ⸝⸝ Ask 🌙 ͙͘͡★ Friend Req ⸝⸝ Sure

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🛰 .𖥔 ݁ BYI .𖥔 ݁ 🛰 ➤ Check Status ⋆⭒˚. ➤ See who's fronting ⋆⭒˚. ➤ Check DNI ⋆⭒˚.

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🌟 .𖥔 ݁ DNI .𖥔 ݁ 🌟 ➤ 25+ ⋆⭒˚. ➤ Basic DNI ⋆⭒˚. ➤ Endos/Pro endos ⋆⭒˚.

[ol1verdrawsyt]

Blog Intro + oc ref!

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Hello! My names are Oliver and Callum! Idrc which one is used

I'm a trans demiboy, bi, and aroace. I question my gender like every other day

I'm an artist, animator, and writer. I also do theater irl and sing!

I have adhd, autism, and rlly awful anxiety. I sometimes randomly go offline or act weird when those act up

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Special Intrests: Cuphead, Roblox Piggy, Super Mario, FNaF, Dialtown

Interests: TADC, OK KO, Steven Universe, Phineas and Ferb, The Freemaker Adventures, Bugbo, Electrobasis, Dogman, Murder Drones Gravity Falls, Scott Pilgrim

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My tags:

#ol1verdrawsyt - art tag

#ol1ver makes shit - things I make/post that aren't art

#ol1ver talks - ramble tag

#ol1vers mommy issues - vent tag abt my pos mom

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I don't have a DNI, it's just sorta the usual things that make me block you (racist, sexist, isr*el supporters, ect)

I also block people and tags freely

Due to past harassment, I block blank/new accounts

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Other Socials:

Youtube

AO3

Pinterest

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Oc:

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That's it! I reblog a lot of things and I mainly post about Cuphead and Piggy, so yeah :D

[pathogenflock]

Name: Rafael

Age: 19

Pronouns: he

Interests: Nathan Pandit

adults, minors, employed people, unemployed people, chronically online people, acutely offline people, ai artists, traditional artists, digital artists, bots, real people, aspiring authors, published authors, starving artists, well-fed artists, nsfw accounts, sfw accounts, people who think in black and white, people who acknowledge nuance, neurotypical people, neurodivergent people, blond people in romantic relationships with other blond people, polyamorous, monogamous, polygamous, men, women, everyone between and outside of that, anyone to whom that spectrum as a whole does not apply, people in healthy relationships (mutually toxic ones are fine as long as you let me watch ^-^), allocishet people, aroace trans gay people, pregnant people of any gender at their late 2nd- early 3rd trimester, French people (Quebecois people are on thin ice, but the rest of Canada also DNI), my 5th grade english teacher, gays, lesbians, bisexuals, pansexuals, polysexuals, omnisexuals, police without a warrant, police with a warrant, drunk driving antis and neutrals, woke moralists, asleep degenerates, people with blue or green eyes, people with cavities, small business owners, megacorp CEOs, microorganisms that cannot breach the blood-brain barrier, vivisection antis, fandom elders, fandom middle-aged, fandom youths, people who dont read DNIs if theyre "too long," people with long DNIs cus im not reading that shit, people who send death threats, discord e-daters (i hope you break up), selfship haters bc why do you hate fun, medical malpractice lawyers, my ex-wife Miranda and her stupid fucking lawyer you can keep the house but you'll never have my dignity you stupid assholes 🖕🖕🖕🖕, my beloved son Eduardo except on weekends, flat earthers, globe earthers, earth "neutrals," people who hate on online relationships or think they dont "count," pro shippers, pro kayakers, and pro skaters, people who donate to ao3 (this one's for real), monolinguals, trilinguals, selfshippers lmaoo thats so cringe sorry, transphobes (homophobes are fine), anyone located within 50 kilometers of -57.40378, 118.63882, twinks, bears (person not the animal), activists, staticists, gambling addicts but if you send me $50 i may or may not take you off this list, autism moms, autism dads, autism parents who lost it all in the divorce (now demoted to neurotypical parent), autism not the step dads but the dads that stepped up, people who think women can get pregnant (only men do that), people who cant solve my riddles three, bears (the animal), The Bear (the show), people with "ironic" dni lists who are trying way too hard to be funny, debt collectors, toothpaste flag users, toothbrush flag users, "we live in a simulation" dumbasses, anyone whose high school mascot was that shitty bulldog png (you know the one), furries (scalies are fine). may add more

People with the first name "Nathan" and the last name "Pandit."

[olderthannetfic]

I'm in a fandom with a lot of virulent antis (surprise surprise, it's heavily dark source material and I don't know why they're here at all) and a lot of the pairings that aren't the main badwrong ship on ao3 now have DNI tags on them for shippers of the badwrong ship. I guess not enough to break the TOS (no direct threats?), but still full of stuff like "x shippers DNI", "get help you freaks", "You're disgusting" etc etc.

Its just... so frustrating. Like that's a pretty red flag for me that a fic probably is going to be in an immature writing style so I probably won't read it anyway, but every time I see it I just.... heave a big sigh. Why these people are in this fandom or on Ao3 at all I'll never know. Its not even helpful - the tags are there to help describe the fic, if I didn't want to see that kind of content I could just... avoid content that's tagged that way. Why even add that to a fic that's not even about those characters at all?

Honestly, my real question is.... Olderthannetfic, how do you do it?

I feel like I do it "right", in fandom, or at least I try. I always just block and move on. I don't follow the discourse where I can help it and block a lot of the relevant tags. I keep to a small circle of folks that have the same fun brainrot I do and have fun, generally. But this kind of stuff still slips through the cracks in a way that's unavoidable if you're ever online at all. To be honest, it still hurts a lot to see each time, and be reminded that some people seem to literally want me dead over reading a story. And I can't help the doubt and the self-flagellation that creeps in. Despite my best efforts, and all my research, and living to the ripe rip van winkle tumblr fandom spinster age of 27... I sometimes have a moment where I think, maybe I really am a freak or a degenerate, or an evil predator waiting to bloom.

Do you ever experience this? Does this feeling ever go away, or at least dull to a more bearable exasperated eye roll? Do you ever see these anti idiots grow up or grow out of this mindset? Is it just a matter of time, age or experience? Is there a point at which you felt like it affected you less, or perhaps it didn't affect you like that at all? Is there a secret to navigating it calmly and with confidence? Do you have any advice to give in the, er, art of not giving a fuck?

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Why would I quail at a stupid child on the internet after coming out as queer when I was 14 in the 90s?

I grew up with very open-minded, supportive family aside from my mother's conviction that BDSM was something people were into because they'd been abused. Even then, I remember privately snickering because I was super kinky, and wouldn't that upset her given this silly world view?

I had it easy compared to most in the 90s, but I still saw a lot of nonsense, like good old Mom on the topic of kink or murders in the media. But I also spent a lot of time reading educational sexuality books that debunked myths about fantasies and kinkiness.

Maybe a firmer grounding in sexuality stuff would help you? Nancy Friday's work on women's fantasies is a common starting point. I'm partial to The Topping Book, which is full of "it's great to be a top, actually" and not "you only do it for the sub".

Getting older does usually help though. Most 20-somethings are insecure in their sense of self. Middle age is when people's fucks generally run out, and that only continues to grow. Watch a stupid child go after some 60-something zine writer lady. She's going to laugh in their faces. Some people remain insecure forever, I suppose, but not anybody who had to woman up to be in fandom in the first place.

It's not just that these little idiots are wrong about us being predators: it's that they are the morally degenerate ones for spreading the psychological equivalent of "vaccines cause autism" or "Jews want to steal your Christian babies".

This idea that The Bad People are infiltrating our minds with their propaganda overlaps heavily with anti-semitic conspiracy theory right wing fundie nutjob ideas, and yet these young fools claim to be pro-queer and pro-civil rights. They're an embarrassment to any progressive movement and it disgusts me.

When someone goes "You're not a Christian, so you're going to hell", do you have a moment when you wonder?

Because that's the level of absurdity here.

Even if they don't bully, even if they don't include threats in their DNIs, the fact that they're spreading myths about sexuality that have been thoroughly debunked many times means they're doing something unethical, anti-intellectual, and anti-science.

I'm not afraid or guilty. I'm embarrassed for them.

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Do antis grow out of it? Yes, frequently.

They are—either literally or functionally—victims of right wing Christian cults. They have the same trajectory of realizing they've been had and slowly trying to work through the raging guilt and religious trauma.

I have limited patience but some sympathy. Like other victims who were indoctrinated to hurt people, escaping the cult is hard. It means not only giving up your false sense of safety and all of your friends but facing what you've done.

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I'm transmasc (he/him), autistic, and an age regressor (big age 24, little age 2-4). I also like fandom stuff, and my special interests are black holes and cryptids I'm also a furry and my species is jackalope.

DNI if you are transphobic homophobic (honestly kind of just right-wing in general), ableist (including autism moms), anti age regression and anything that's not safe for kids