#autisitc adult

[stormratyaps]

i just love the phrasing 'mouthwords' so much. its so specific and perfect. like yes they are words you make with your mouth. unlike words that you dont make with your mouth like writing or aac . it also just sounds so fun . mouthwords

[whereserpentswalk]

Twenty four year olds are adults.

Twenty one year olds are adults.

Eighteen year olds are adults.

Petite or 'smol' young adults are adults.

Transmasc young adults are adults.

Asexual young adults are adults.

Autisitc young adults are adults.

Young adults you find cute or wholesome are adults.

These people consume media as adults.

These people make life choices as adults.

These people have sex as adults.

Reblog if you agree.

[studywgabi]

I feel like an autistic experience we don’t talk about enough is always being either over- or underdressed because everyone else is following some secret rule they didn’t bother to tell you, causing personal and professional embarrassment all the time. Sigh.

[rainbowdelicsunshine]

Honestly guys finally gonna say it:

I've been questioning for a very very long time that I have AUDHD (aka Autism and ADHD) since I feel like Ive been finding myself relating to a lot of ADHD/AUDHD posts on here and ADHD/ADHD coded characters

This started cuz I've been watching Athena P a lot for the past year or so and one of her quotes about the fact she hates being bored cuz of her ADHD made me go "...oh shit I relate to that tf"???

Plus it doesn't help that I was really close with my Grandma (from my Dad's Side) to the point where she feels more like a Mom to me than my Real Mom) had ADHD as well....

If y'all can tell me what tf is happening here is AUDHD (in my case Diagnosed Autism combined with Undiagnosed ADHD) or if it's just my Autism manifesting itself in a different way?? Please and thank you!!

[thatuselesshuman]

Sometimes I wonder where my autism came from (since it's usually genetic) but today I realize that my mom:

Doesn't understand most jokes

Loves planning and hates to get off schedule

Eats the same breakfast literally every day

Cannot stand the taste & texture of reheated meat and certain other foods

And my dad:

Taught himself how to be ambidextrous for shits and giggles

Exhibits signs of low empathy

Checks his silverware at every restaurant we go to

Freakishly observant

.... Yk what they say, hindsight is 20/20

[lying-on-floors]

I apologized to my friend for sounding mean or rude bc I'm not and they said "It's fine, I know you're direct and autistic as shot, so I don't really take offense to it." And it's like awww! They did say though that sometimes they're taken aback for a second until they remember it's me and then they're chill so alright I guess

[leoreadss]

Have you ever been excited about the idea of a hyperfixation?

I'm at book number two of the Discworld series and lately discovered a YouTube video about the Discworld Audiobook which features Indira Varma, Peter Serafinowicz, BILL NIGHY, Colin Morgan, Andy Serkis, Sian Clifford and many others. And yes, Brenda, I know every line of the video already.

I can't wait to hyper-fixate on the entire series, learn every line and every character's voice, and shout them out loud at random moments during the day.

I JUST. CAN'T. WAIT.

[sahhr-akira-studiesmed]

I wish someone listened. Like really listened. I never really feel heard ever. It's difficult.

It began with the suspicion of adhd in the year 2020 actually. Recently I read so many experiences of people with autism and felt like that was me. So another suspicion stems up.

I read through my copy of DSM 5 and matched the criteria for combined adhd and level one autism. Ofcourse I'm not a professional so I cannot diagnose myself.

But it's painful not knowing and it's more painful existing.

[nullbutler]

The “you can take a horse to the river but you can’t make it drink” quote resonates a bit too well with my autistic ass

[lelibug]

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[dontwannapostit]

Something to know about me… I’m a cartoon-sitcom-coded brained bitch. There is constantly music playing in my head to accompany every interaction I have, sound effects for both dramatic and comedic purposes, and every once in a while a record scratch where I explain to the audience how I got here. It’s like a tiny little editor lives up in my head who is constantly adding flourishes to make the viewing more enjoyable.

[whereserpentswalk]

"Low support needs" is only ever used to mean "autisitc people I consider invalid". It's the new high functioning. It's a term that should not exist, it can only be used to gatekeep. Everyone's support needs are fluid and unique, and if you split the community based on support needs you're inherently invalidating people. It's not an Ok term that's being used incorrectly, it's inherently gatekeeping.

Same applied to the term "straight passing". You are bigoted if you support these words.

[stormratyaps]

this is what the social worker was not getting 😭

she rly was like "idk figure it out"

When you're obviously autistic but undiagnosed and need extra support in order to function in society but in order to get support you need money and in order to get money you need to function in society but in or-

[floofanflurr]

I! Am so tired of the infantilization of Papyrus. I'm so tired of the infantilization of autistic people, and autistic traits. I thought we were past this in this fandom... but NOPE.

I am absolutely NOT going to name any names, (especially because I don't think ANY of this is intentional!!! I don't think people are doing it on purpose!!! And I don't want to hurt people. And also because it's SO many people now. I see it all the time from so many different places. It would be impossible to list them all.)

But??? I am getting increasingly uncomfortable with the casual ableism in Papyrus fans, bloggers, and writers who don't even realize that's what they're doing. People who say they are against the infantilization of Papyrus.

(Sticking the rest of this under a cut so I don't clog any feeds)

I just!!!! It's all well and good to have your headcanons about Papyrus! He's a really mysterious character that we don't know a lot about! I'm not denying that! But I see SO many people just… saying things like:

"Papyrus would NEVER do (insert autistic trait here) because he's an ADULT! CLEARLY it was a joke."

or

"People take him seriously or at face value when he does (insert autistic trait here) but he's not stupid???? Clearly it means something else-"

And so freaking many variations of that.

Just. Have your headcanons about what Papyrus means or doesn't mean. That's okay! If you think he's joking that's FINE! But PLEASE don't shit on other people and be so casually ableist by saying that he could never be these things, or that these things would mean he was stupid, or childlike if he ACTUALLY meant them or did them.

ITS LIKE. Taking the initial infantilization of Papyrus in fandom and spinning it on it's head so far it goes right back into infantilizing autistic people by just. REMOVING PAPYRUS'S AUTISITC TRAITS AFTER LABELING THEM STUPID OR CHILDLIKE.

"You're infantilizing Papyrus! CLEARLY he could never actually MEAN these things or do those things for real because he's an adult-" AND LIKE. BABE. THOSE THINGS ARE JUST AUTISTIC THINGS.

And just.

It's really really upsetting to see the traits that I personally relate to in Papyrus have people saying "he could NEVER actually mean/do that! CLEARLY it was a joke, or subterfuge or insert something else here-"(the very strongly implied "because only Children do that" is so clear it's nauseating) (And often stated, but just in slightly different language. "It's clear." or "Of course Papyrus wouldn't-" or "He's smart!" or "He's an adult!")

Most of the portrayals I see of Papyrus are wonderful. While I've seen this a lot in fandom, I don't think it's the majority of people who create or write, or blog Papyrus content. But it's a big enough chunk that it is incredibly worrying and upsetting.

I'm also not trying to wave away any level of subterfuge, or mystery that Papyrus has. Because he has a lot! And!!! He's a grown ass adult! (A HILARIOUS one who cracks a shit ton of jokes and is witty as hell.) Someone who is very sneaky about many things, and masks a lot, and is clearly hiding SOMETHING. Have fun theorizing about him, because there sure is a lot to theorize about! Sneaky, sneaky skeleton...

Just. While I'm not trying to change anyone's headcanons... It might be worth it to see if the Papyrus you create has been removed from all of his autistic traits that are deemed undesirable (a level of social ineptitude or not understanding others, routines like bedtime stories, and so much more) while only leaving the ones you think are quirky or fun (things like masking, or stimming with big, flailing gestures, special interest in puzzles, etc.).

And if that's true, why might that be?

If the answer is "because Papyrus is too smart/mature/clever/etc. to mean or do this seriously." then that is no longer an innocent headcanon. That is saying that people who DO have those traits aren't smart/mature/clever/etc. That is infantilizing autistic traits. (And yes! Autistic people can also do this by accident! I used to fall victim to internalized ableism that I didn't even realize was there, and I've seen other people do it, too.)

I was going to get into a more in-depth list of Papyrus’s traits that are autistic traits or could be caused by being autistic, and basically write an entire fan essay on the whole situation, starting from the beginning infantilization of Papyrus in fandom (equally as bad) and ending with where we're at now as Papyrus fans. (This right now is not an essay. It's a vent, and a plea. When I say essay, I mean with cited sources, properly structured... An actual ESSAY that would help people.)

But… I’m tired. I know it’s an accident in most cases. I know that most people probably don’t realize they’re calling autistic traits “stupid” or “childlike” or “papyrus would never because he’s not a child—“

And I know that this one simple post isn’t enough to explain how autistic peoples’ brains frequently work, or why these things don’t mean someone is stupid or childlike.

I know that without a thorough explanation there’s so many people that won’t realize that they’re doing this. And it’s certainly not as gentle as I wanted to be. I want to be kind, because I know that it's an accident, and that people aren't trying to be cruel or harmful.

But I’m just… tired. I’m so, so tired. It’s hard to gently explain to people that are actively harming you and your community why what they’re doing is hurtful.

Maybe someday I’ll actually write that essay, and I can include helpful tips on what autism can look like, or how Papyrus's differing things COULD be (not necessarily ARE) an indication or presentation of autism, and also some more tips on how to integrate some of Papyrus’s characteristics in different ways in a fic that keeps his wonderful autistic swag if that's what you want to do. Maybe I can delve into some more of the nuance of this discussion, of which there is much.

But right now I can’t.

If you're worried you might be doing something like this but you really do need an essay or more structure and specific writing breaking it all out, then. Well! I want to help people. If you have questions about what I said and genuinely want to learn, I can do my best to answer and help in an essay if there's enough questions, or in asks if its just a one off question.

(Though absolutely no promises. The entire discussion is draining and triggering, so... It's hard. Please don't be surprised if I'm unable to keep conversation about this going.)

I don't want to write the essay if it's not going to help anyone though. So… let me know. Maybe in reblogs. Just please not in my DMs. I'll turn on anonymous asks for the next month or so, and if people use them to be cruel, or confrontational, I will be taking that away again.

If you've made it this far... Thanks for reading.

...And, you know what? Shitty TLDR:

Papyrus is a grown ass man who can say fuck and be a bad ass bitch, and who can also be an autistic adult. These things are not mutually exclusive to each other.

Edit: Someone sent me a wonderful essay written by the-irken-pony about Papyrus and autism that was written in the earlier days of the fandom and Papyrus infantilization. (I have no idea how I haven’t seen this before.)

It’s not the current issue of “wow you became the thing you most sought to destroy (infantilization)” in Papyrus’s fan base, but it’s a wonderful breakdown of autism in Papyrus. It’s a good thing to read with this. You don’t have to accept the various headcanons as yours, but please take note of the various things that could be caused by autism. And then make sure that you aren’t calling those things childish.

[alittlebitofrainbyyourside]

We talked about Autisitc Phayu in the Phayu/Rain server and I cannot unsee it now.

Autistic Phayu who is able to unmask for the first time in his adult life because of Rain.

Autisitc Phayu who has Two Special Interests- Bikes and Houses. (and Rain, later)

Autistic Phayu who learned to mask as this Super Cool Guy who is Mysterious, because that's what he needed to do to survive. Especially in his line of business.

Autistic Phayu with his Strong Belief Systems. He doesn't care if you insult him, but the bikes? how dare you.

[fruitscones]

having to grow up autistic and deal w all that bs as a kid only to become an adult and have those same people RETROACTIVELY continue to make fun of you years later. y'all really hate autisitc kids huh. how fucking sad people have to cling to bullying people for situations long past because what.. the kid was a little weird?