#at least ik my gender

[speakofthedebbie]

i have such a visceral reaction to he/him pronouns its so charming

[keeps-ache]

in a cafe rn. this place is nice :>

[corfisers]

the thing about the dudebro discussion, the aita post, the willingness to just take at face value any accusations directed at a person you don't know, is that it's all so painfully transparent, it's so obvious that those conversations are happening at this scale specifically because it's about trans women. maybe it's just me, but you generally shouldn't be using certain terms for people unless you know that they are comfortable with them, and if you fucked up then apologize and move on (if we pretend for a second that the majority of dudebros weren't feign ignorance or just actively malicious to begin with). you should be aware that some things don't affect you the same way they affect other people, and you definitely shouldn't be giving those people potentially dangerous advice on topics that you personally aren't familiar with, this is the baseline, at least don't fucking put other people who were misled into trusting you in danger. and if an anon barges into your inbox with some wild accusations then you should stop and think "hey, why are you coming to me anonymously with no evidence to back any of this up, and in such a way that i have to reply to you publicly so more people get to see this" regardless of who it's directed at. like, those are all pretty simple things, or they should be at least, but because the targets are trans women and transmisogyny is so fucking rampant everyone has to bend over backwards to come up with excuses as to why treating trans women this way is perfectly normal and justified.

[dimiclaudeblaigan]

If there is at least one thing I can credit FE for doing better than Tales in localization, it's not trying to actively go out of their way for an entire game to avoid subtext or direct text between two men that is romantic or implied romantic. Funny when it's so present that the attempt doesn't even work; infuriating that it was attempted to begin with.

So as much as I often have issues with some of FE's localizations, at least they have a leg up on loc Tales for that.

[hiddenfolk]

I dont necessarily ship them, but I AM of the firm belief that lied and beeber did have a casual fling at one point because you have to admit, the idea of your friend, who is notoriously unlucky in love, casually dropping the fact that they've dated an international pop sensation is hysterical

[orangeflowerpetals]

I’m tired of my body being stuck in permanent adolescence. Between a neverending gender swap cartoon episode and Peter fucking pan.

Fuck the nhs and their half a decade wait times

I should be starting to look like a man now, broken voice, growing facial hair, lots of body hair, big nose and shoulders.

But instead I have no choice but to keep looking like the 13 year old I haven’t been in almost ten years.

I want to go through puberty. I want to get to experience growing up.

I wish I wasn’t stuck like this until late twenties at the EARLIEST

[toytulini]

i want to put the dungeon meshi squad into the leviathan series and see what happens

[bepki]

It is crazy how discussions about "internalized misogyny" still always center around "not like other girls" girls who resent being ostracized by more gender-conforming or more "successfully" gender conforming girls and never around the misogyny of girls/women who do the policing of other women/girls' gender conformity

[od-vents]

Hate having a scratching stim tbh

Coz like, when it happens, it's one of those stims that goes for a while before being able to stop it.

With how I sit criss-cross a lot, the scratching will most likely end up on my legs. One time, just chilling in my room. My sis came in, and me being in shorts having completely forgot abt the fuckin scratchin, red scratch lines basically all up my legs an shit. AND SHE ASKS IF I WAS HARMING MYSELF AGAIN

Like. Thanks for caring, but. It's not cut marks? It's just. Scratch scratch scratch. That's not self-harm.

She brings it up to dad minutes after she left my room, and now I'm just sitting, on the verge of fucking tears coz I can hear them fucking talking abt me.

I hate having this stupid stim, coz if it continues, if they see more of the scratching marks, I know they're gonna want to end up seeing if I have SHed in easier to hide places. I don't want to have to go back to the hospital. I don't care if my last visit was just 2 weeks. It sucked there. I faked it just so I could leave, and I'm so certain my sister caught on to that a bit after I had left(this was a few years back, btw.) And she knows my fucking mental health has be shit and gotten shittier.

And I know it's bad. But I'm so scared that if they do end up seeing if I've made new SH scars, they will find them. Coz I was fucking stupid I didn't even think about hiding the few well enough.

And if I start wearing baggie clothing again, they'll get even more suspicious abt it all coz it's getting warmer here.

I just. I fucking hate all of this. I hate that I can't just be in an okay mindset without it deteriorating and shrivling back into whatever the fuck is going on rn. I hate how recently I've just been wishing I could just be what the majority of the world considers "normal" and that I've just been masking its behind a fucking "teehee :3"

I'm not okay. I am not fucking okay. But the courage to speak up and ask for help, to just reach for someone to talk to irl without having a breakdown and hiding behind a fucking smile and being "a good daughter/sister/aunt" again. That courage just isn't there, and I don't think it ever will be.

[thnksfrthmmrs]

i was tagged by @ybcpatrick to do this song title q&a so slay thank you best fwend (let's see if i can be interesting enough)

choose an artist you like and use the names of their songs to answer these questions as closely to the truth as possible!

artist chosen: fall out boy, who else :)

what is your gender? i don't care

describe yourself: the patron saint of liars and fakes

how do you feel? i've got all this ringing in my ears, but none on my fingers

if you could go anywhere, where would it be? heaven's gate

who is/describe your best friend: *friends :) the last of the real ones

your favorite time of day: golden

if your life was a tv show, what would it be called? the kids aren't alright

what is life to you? the pros and cons of breathing

relationship status: alone together

what do you fear? death valley

tagging: @celestialtoy, @such-a-happy-mess, @missmissingsyou, @themightyfall, @pmvstump, @p4nsy, @meat-wentz and anyone else can say i tagged u!! pls make ur own post <3

[transs3xualmagg0t]

family stop outing me as trans to people i haven't told yet, challenge level: impossible

[smallblueblondie]

I'm gonna give you the benefit of the doubt and say you are genuinely interested in learning and aren't asking in bad faith!

A lot of the links I drew are outlined in the original post, but I'll go over a few more clearly. Keep in mind I'm speaking as a white us-american enby and Black Trans Women or just WOC overall could offer you even stronger and more eloquent insight. I'll use this as an opportunity to add onto my original post and add some insight some of the reblogs gave me!

1) Womanhood defined by Beauty. Radfems and Terfs often define what makes a woman a "real woman" by what she looks like, either at a first glance or deeper down. I unfortunately don't have the screenshot myself but there's been many terfs listing how to "clock" trans women using phrenology and beauty standards. The idea that big noses, dark skin, large hands, thick body hair, are all masculine and "ugly" features so therefore if a woman has those, she mus be secretly trans. A lot of the features they list line up with features common in women of color (specifically black women are often targeted), intersex women, and just women who don't naturally look like pretty pale porcelain dolls.

2) Victims of transvestigation. Most often I see this in the infamous trans in sports debate where terfs will try and accuse athletes who are "too good" at being trans women (which in itself is also misogyny, why are women these frail helpless flowers in their minds?), and often they demand Testosterone testing be done and that these women "prove" they're real women. More often than not they're accusing black and latina women of being trans because they don't fit the beauty standard or perform "better" than what they think a real (white) woman could do. Serena Williams is one I see often accused of being a "man with a mans body and a mans face and man hips and man man man" but there's tons of CIS black female athletes accused of maleness because of their blackness.

3) Denying Black Femininity. Black women are often accused of being men and masculine regardless of it's by terfs or conservatives as an exercise of racism. They're told they're "hulking, too strong, manish, ugly." They're denied their right to be feminine because the beauty standard is skinny hairless white women. Another example is the countless conservatives who accused Michelle Obama of being secretly a man out of nothing but her blackness. Terfs often see this and mimic it, because

4) They learn from their friends. Notoriously radfems have no issue rubbing elbows with Nazi's, white power groups, violent xenophobes, and other deeply racists folks in exchange for their agreeing to further target trans people as well as people of color. Even if a terf isn't outwardly racist, they don't see racism as a real problem. Only misogyny is the real oppression, and racism is a frivolous afterthought at best. Most notably is UK based terfs working with their conservative party to further both racist and transphobic movements. Terfs have no problem siding with neo-nazis as long as they can burn trans people alongside people of color.

5) The roots of radical feminism itself are based in bioessentialism and gender essentialism based on white, European, colonialist ideas of gender. Female and Male only. Women are pathetic and weak and helpless and can only cook clean and birth babies, they're too fragile and mousy for anything else. Men are uncontrollable beasts, slaves to their libido and hormones who have no emotion besides horny or angry, and they do all the "real work" for the world. But terfs tack on "girl power" to all that without removing any of the gender roles, any of the sexism, any of the white european gender roles of it all. Many nonwhite cultures have historically had more than one gender, room for trans folks, gender roles completely different from female baby machine and male labor machine. They insist these white european colonial gender roles are biological facts and every other (nonwhite) culture's view on gender is deranged transgender fakeness. Or that trans people are the real racists for having nonwhite gender ideas.

These are the main points I have seen myself and the main ways terfs/radfems uphold, empower, and further white supremacy through their ideology. If anyone has more feel free to add on, I'm personally muting notifications on this post for my own sanity because despite having a lot to say, I dislike conflict strongly. And with tumblr smacking anyone speaking out against transphobia or terfism with the ban hammer, I was a little nervous about this post suddenly gaining so much traction again.

Please never stop ignoring that white supremacy is a huge core element of radfem/terf ideology.

Like yes they hyperenforce gender roles and stereotypes on all cis women, but it is primarily women of color that they target and accuse of being predatory and "not real women" when they're targeting cis women.

The metrics of "real woman vs trans woman" that terfs love to share are almost all just white eurocentric beauty standards. Small nose, thin fine hair, little/no body hair, petite but somehow curvy, hell I've even seen a post saying skin lightness is a determiner.

Terf/radfem circles are racist at their core. You cannot separate radical feminism from it's violently white supremacist roots. You can't have "anti-racist radical feminism", that's a fucking oxymoron. There is a very clean path from terfs to tradfems/tradwifes, to just straight up conservative republican women.

Yes yes always, terfs are super misogynistic. They hurt all women by forcing them back into the little impossible painful boxes that they claim they're fighting. But one of their biggest targets other than trans women is black women. Not to mention ignoring, discrediting, or just straight up trying to erase all the hard work that black trans women did for queer rights.

Radical feminism is very much transphobic, homophobic, and misogynistic. I'm not saying stop addressing it as such. Don't ever do addressing it as such!

But racial feminism is white supremacy in a coat of pink paint. Please never forget that when talking about how it hurts us all.

[thtcloud]

I'd be a better man but there's a weight on my chest and it's killing me

[artsycloudysleepy]

the fun thing abt having ocs is that you can do WHATEVER you want with them that with other people's fictional characters would canonically never do

headcanon your oc as trans? they're canonically trans!

headcanon your oc as neurodivergent? enjoy!

headcanon your oc as a small minority (eg. lgbtq+, ethnicity, medical condition, etc.)? BE FREE THEY CAN BE IT

headcanon = canon in your story and that gives me so much joy you have no idea. like. i physically cannot describe or contain it

[17gz]

one of my moms best friends/coworkers for over a decade is a hardcore zionist and i talked to my mom about it today (i love her but she gets all her news from whatsapp and is so ignorant about current events) and i think im getting my mom to understand why zionism is bad and why she shouldnt be okay with that. might not be a lot of progress but considering my mom is a close minded conservative-leaning immigrant who gets her news from the worst possible places imaginable, i think its definitely progress. small steps 👍

[microwavestim]

the transgender rage is RAGING tonight babes!!!