#aspec calls

[queer-advice-hotline]

i miss the aro-ace confessions blog a lot. i’m ace myself and it was one of my favorite places to find community with fellow aspecs. now that the blog’s inactive i don’t know where to go. do you have any aspec spaces to recommend? advice in the notes is welcome as well :) thanks for starting this blog!

@our-aroace-experience and @our-queerplatonic-experience and @our-aromantic-experience are all great for sharing your experiences, asking questions, and interacting.

@fuckyeahasexual is great for other ace content.

I'm afraid that's all I have for the moment, tag some good aspec accounts if you know them!

[kiwinatorwaffles]

the funniest thing you can do to a character who has a lot of different ships in canon/fandom is to make them aromantic. most eligible bachelor sees everyone as their friends

[the-siren-in-your-fridge]

Being aroace with a squish is really like. You look so nice and cute and pretty (not like that), I’d like to snuggle up in bed with you (not like that) and play with your hair (not like that) and lay there for a while (not like that) and hold your hand all the time (not like that) and hang out with you one-on-one (not like that) and get to you know you on a deep and personal level (not like that)

[evil-maryland]

Arophobes are so fucking stupid

"You just haven't found the right person!" "You're still young!"

Ok. I perhaps have found 'the right person'. now what?

I'm still under the Aromanticism Label. That didn't just change now that i have a 'right person'.

Maybe I needed an emotional bond first. Maybe I just don't like romance. Maybe I only like romance a limited amount.

Just because we don't fit into your conception of love on first sight doesn't mean we don't exist.

Happy Aromantism.

[meowzet]

good morning, asexual community! [the entirety of tumblr]

[cr0wqui11]

The aroace experience is being in love with your friends. But. Platonically

[queerum]

aromantics are way too comfortable implying friendship is the most valuable part of life to bitch about alloros doing the same thing with romance

[cosmicredcadet]

A character looks straight into the camera and says "I'm not interested in romance" and people will still say "No, it's not confirmed they're aromantic!!!" "They could change their mind!!!" "it's a challenge for them to overcome!!!" "They'll have character development that makes them fall in love"

It's like they are given the most blatant answer to a character romantic orientation and they actively ignore it. all the while all it takes is subtext for people to speak as if it is fact for a character to be any other sexuality.

[ruskalehto]

If I have to hear someone say ”it has to be romantic, or at least a qpr” about a fictional relationship one more time I’m going to explode

[aroaessidhe]

aro & ace books: m/m adult/NA

Cupid Calling - romance - 1/2 MCs is demisexual

After The Dragons - sff novella - ace-spec MC

The Charm Offensive - romance - 1/2 MCs is demisexual

From The Dark We Came - fantasy novella - demisexual MC

The Reanimator’s Heart - historical paranormal - 1/2 MCs is demisexual

How To Sell Your Blood and Fall In Love - urban fantasy - 1/2 MCs is demisexual/greyaro

The Circus Infinite - sci-fi - ace MC

The Perfect Assassin - fantasy - ace MC

Of The Wild - fantasy - ace MC

The One And The Other - low fantasy - ace MC

Never Been Kissed - romance - demisexual MC

Stake Sauce - paranormal - greyaroace MC

More Than Enough - fairytale - two ace mlm MCs

The Trouble - contemporary - aro gay MC

#aspec books / aspec database / tumblr masterpost

[aspecpplarebeautiful]

question.. asexual people are queer, right? i saw a post on twitter and so manyyyyy people said we are not.

It's important to remember bigots are loud. But most surveys show that when lgbtqia+ people are polled, the vast majority consider ace to be a queer identity, most queer and LGBTQIA+ spaces are actively ace inclusive and anti gatekeeping, and frankly asexuality is not heterosexuality.

It can definitely be stressful and upsetting seeing a lot of people invalidate your identity and exclude you like that. Before they all moved to twitter, these people used to be really active on Tumblr (and are actually the reason I made this blog), and they're upsetting on purpose. They also use multiple blogs and tend to be extremely active to give the impression of numbers, but you won't see a lot of them in less bigoted and more moderated spaces. I'm sorry you came across it. You're the only one who gets to decide if queer is a good label for you or not.

All the best and take care, Anon!

[queer-advice-hotline]

Hi, can someone be bi AND asexual? I am struggling with if I think the same sex is attractive to me or not... :( I THINK they look pretty sometimes, but I don't wanna kiss them, just hold hands and maybe cuddle? But I DO like the other sex and want to kiss them sometimes? I'm very ace yes, but now, I'm questioning if I am also bi and if I AM even bi.

*internal screaming*

WHAT DOSE IT MEEEEAN-

You could be asexual and biromantic.

You could also be on the asexual spectrum but not fully ace. You may be aceflux, based on what you said. Aceflux is an identity where you fluctuate between being more asexual and more allosexual.

[kiwinatorwaffles]

honestly the world would be much better if everyone just realized that asexual people can do whatever the fuck they want and still be ace btw

[g1ngerbeer]

enjoy

[aspecassasin]

It's just so lonely sometimes

[fluffytimearts]

Jaden from Lease bound if she bothered to research and learned about others instead of being close-minded.