#aspec asks

[aspec-mafia-official]

Ok so idk if it’s the right place to say it, but I recently watched a movie with a canonically aroace main character! The movie is a Japanese movie named "I am what I am" or "Sobakasu (そばかす)" in Japanese. It’s about the struggle of an aroace woman in a allonormative society.

I hope it will interest someone, I really loved the movie and I don’t think it’s too stereotypical or cliché

Oh wow!

I’ve never heard of the movie but it sounds great!

aspec representation that’s not just a bad joke or a character confirmed to be ace after a show ends is hard to find, so it’s great to know that a movie about being aroace exists.

-dread

[anjeez929]

The aroace flag looks oddly out of place compared to the rest of the Aspec flags

[am3ya]

the issue with shipping aro/ace characters isn't putting them into relationships, it's the fact that no one adds how their sexuality impacts the relationship at large. And how it'll always be different from your average romantic relationship in some way.

[k-is-for-potassium]

[usachxxn]

design lineup for these little lego guys

(individual profiles +hcs under cut ⬇️)

[a-rabbit-obsessed-queer]

Aspec men deserve much more respect and recognition in the aspec community than they receive. They often face a different form of aphobia specific to them ("men are naturally sexual they can't be ace" "all men are unromantic that's not unique") this rhetoric is spouted by many, even members of our own community and I hope for a day where that is no longer the case. As an ace and demiro woman (demigirl but that's beside the point) I want to encourage folks to take the time to give the aspec men in their lives support and to the aspec men reading, you are who you say you are no matter what people say and you deserve the world. I'm sorry for the ways in which toxic masculinity has harmed you. You are a valued member of the aspec community and the queer community as a whole. No ace or aro person is broken and neither are you. I'm sorry if anyone has ever told you otherwise.

[peach-pot]

(if you don’t mind reblogging this post, that would be groovy ^_^)

[nyenyel]

hitting everyone with the aroace beam>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

It's one of my favorite things ever!! I love doing it haha

Aro only + ace only versions under the cut!

[deadwardianpoltergeist]

how often is a normal amount of times to form attraction towards people

like if you have a new crush/squish every week is that a lot?

if I only get squishes like once every 1-2 years is that grey-aspec territory?

[knifearo]

ultimately when it comes to shipping and fandom space treatment of aspec characters i just don't accept "aro/ace people can still date/have sex" as an answer from nonaspecs. like yeah. mhm. okay. now i think we both know that you're not saying that out of real interest in the diversity of aspec experiences. so you can turn in your seventeen-page essay on why and how you plan to examine this character's aspec identity within the context of a romantic or sexual relationship complete with evidence from canon and peer reviews from multiple aspec people within the next week or i'm putting you in the pit from the edgar allen poe story

[aspec-mafia-official]

As it is Pride month, I hereby reiterate my claim that black cats are Aspec! Spread the word!

Agreed!

[pokimoko]

hi i love your art sososo much!!! im not sure if you're still taking requests, but if you are, could you please do an aego/asexual pigeon? thank you very much, and it's okay if you dont! :)

Pigeons, truly the aspec icon of the critter world.

[genderqueerdykes]

And on that aro and ace note, Aroallos aren't sex-crazed predatory freaks and aceallos aren't smol beans who don't know what a wee wee is

precisely, it's so shitty how people demonize aroallos and infantilize aceallos. it goes to show you what people actually think of aro and ace experiences when this is their knee jerk reaction

[aaa-battery-not-rechargeable]

honestly something ive noticed is that when queer people make jokes like "im too gay for this" or "ew straight romance" other queer people get it and agree. but when an aro/ace person makes the same kinda jokes about their aro/aceness and allo people, suddenly we're the bad guys

THIS OMG thank you for articulating it

[aroaessidhe]

aro & ace books: nonbinary YA/MG

MCs:

The Many Half-Lived Lives of Sam Sylvester - acespec MC

Asking For A Friend - ace MC

Godly Heathens - demiromantic MC

Dear Wendy - 1/2 aroace MCs

side characters/love interests

Tell Me How It Ends - arospec ace major character, he/they

Heartbreak Bakery - demi love interest

The Lost Coast - greyace major character

Meet Cute Diary - ace love interest

Aces Wild - ace love interest

The Mariah Mission - ace love interest

In The Ravenous Dark - ace major character

Fire Becomes Her - ace QPR-LI

#aspec books / aspec database / tumblr masterpost

[raavenb2619]

Examples include Star Trek (2009) where Uhura kisses Spock after Vulcan is turned into a black hole, and multiple occasions in Heartstopper Season 3 (which inspired this poll).