#aroace characters

[am3ya]

the issue with shipping aro/ace characters isn't putting them into relationships, it's the fact that no one adds how their sexuality impacts the relationship at large. And how it'll always be different from your average romantic relationship in some way.

[lemonycranberries]

loved the little part where Isaac says that a relationship seems nice in theory but it isn't what he actually wants and James goes "so you're aromantic?" and Isaac absolutely lights up with a smile and he says "you know what that is?"

the funny part is that when James said that my face also lit up with a smile and my thoughts were "he knows what it is!!" even while watching fictional characters. the fact that our identity is so unknown and invisible makes this such a universal aro experience.

[d3ad-squid]

Every single fucking time… can’t you allos just be happy with what you’ve got????

[daydream-the-demon]

AroAce people: YAY! We finally have some representation in the media! The representation:

[coloredlion]

Aroace Clay and JD aroace Clay and JD

[risesthenight]

aromantic and asexual people deserve representation. we deserve to see characters who feel neither sexual nor romantic attraction. we deserve to see characters who only experience romantic or sexual attraction. we deserve to see characters who experience different types of attractions at different levels. we deserve representation for the variety that is the aromantic spectrum and the asexual spectrum.

[juiceboxerr]

personally, i don’t think anyone should ship aro/ace/aroace characters with anyone unless they know how those relationships work (or are on the aro/ace spectrum themselves). sure, some of them can be similar to a relationship where neither person is aro/ace/aroace, but a lot of times they are different in some way. unless you can grasp what that means for the aro/ace/aroace character i feel like it’s going to be straight up mischaracterizing them, and not in a funny way. (this is mostly geared towards if people post a lot about whichever character/relationship or if they make art/fanfics of that type of relationship)

(this is my personal opinion, and i’m not saying you have to agree with me)

edit:

i hope people realize i was mostly talking about shipping pre-existing characters specifically. ones that already have established that they’re aro/ace and people either ignoring that, or acting like their relationship wouldn’t differ from most relationships due to them being aro/ace. that’s different from making your own aro/ace character, whether you are or not.

my whole point was just that aroace relationships are different from allo relationships. i apologize if it didn’t come across that way but i did specifically say “ship” so ??? i’m confused if the people reblogging it are addressing that or something else :')

[thearoacefromspace]

Allos you are not allowed to ship canonically aroace characters and use the excuse “aroace people can date too”. We are well aware of what our own sexuality mean.

Yes, aroace people can still date but that’s not the point. You don’t get to decide what aroace characters can and can’t do when you yourself aren’t even on the spectrum

You don’t see people letting straight people decide what gay characters can do so y’all shouldn’t be deciding what our characters can do either

[soulless-bex]

best aspec characters?

[your-blorbos-are-queer]

saiki kusuo from the disastrous life of saiki k is aroace (canon), transmasculine (implied), and non-binary (headcanon)

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[sourpatchgrapes]

"They're bi and no one wants them" boring, insufferable,why make them bi to begin with and then say no one wants them. Seems like you're playing it safe not to piss off the biphobes.

"They're aroace and no one wants them" hilarious,it's less annoying, they don't want anyone to begin with. And it's a great way to confirm them being aroace by having them mention that they're really not interested every time someone goes like "Ew,you have a crush on me or something?". Or when someone assumes they're in a relationship with/has a crush on their friends or enemies.

[the-one-who-died-at-the-end]

CONGRATULATIONS TO DIN FROM "WISH DRAGON" WHO IS AROACE🥳🥳🥳🤯😍🤩🧡💛🤍🩵💙

AND ALSO CONGRATULATIONS TO HIM AND LI NA WHO ARE IN A BEAUTIFUL QPR AND ARE ✨BEST FRIENDS FOREVER✨

[lemonycranberries]

"No, I know they would be [supportive]! Honestly, I... I just can't be bothered to give everyone a vocab lesson" IS SO FUCKING REAL AAAHSJAHJHJHISJHJHK

[angelwiththeblue-box]

me hitting fabriz shippers with my cane: LET!!!!! CHARACTERS!!!!!! BE!!!!!!! ARO!!!!!!!! ACE!!!!!!!!

[destinygoldenstar]

Is it wrong that I headcanon Pomni as aroace personally?

(Also implies that yes, I ship her with nobody)

I personally love that there isn’t gonna be any romance in the show. (On screen. Kinger & his wife are fine) Not only because that’d be weird for these very cartoonish characters, but also it gives people on the aroace spectrum something to be heard for.

I myself am asexual. There’s not a lot of rep for such, let alone ‘touch adverse’ characters. And I can’t imagine what it’s like for aroace people who have even less of rep. I can say from my experience that because everyone around me is very centric on romance it’s harder for me to bond with people that misunderstand my restrictions.

Plus I just love the idea of Pomni forming bonds with the other characters that’s platonic and still just as meaningful to her as traditional love stories would be.

Y’all can disagree with me though. It’s just a headcanon.

[green-enby]

Heyo! Have you watched Koisenu Futari (恋せぬふたり, Two people who can't fall in love) yet? It's a great series, just 8 episodes long! I binged it in one day :) [smiley]

It focuses on two aromantic asexual people living together. This is a little appreciation post, containing some thoughts that it evoked in me as an aroace.

If you don't want spoilers, please don't read!

It's so relatable how Sakuko keeps blaming herself all throughout the show… Insecurity stemming from societal expectations that dictate romance is for everyone, and that people who don't date are somehow "failing" in life; I think this affects allos as well.

When I broke off my romantic relationship, I too felt like it had been my fault, for not having been a good enough partner, for not being able to love them in the same way they loved me.

To finally learn that you are not "defective", that there's other people like you…! I love how the two MCs don't grieve their lack of attraction; Sakuko is perfectly happy discovering she's aroace. She and Takahashi are living their "best life" together.

Sure, many aroaces do wish they were allo, and that needs to be represented too, but this series to me really shined a light over why they want that: it's because amatonormativity is rampant in the world, not because lacking attraction is inherently sad. The main conflicts in the series stem from the clash between allo society and the aroace experience, after all. I think that's neat! It gave me a good dose of aroace joy—while still showing the hurts that come with it, realistically—and I really needed it.

I didn't expect her to come out to her family so soon, but whoa, that was intense. Her mother's negative reaction is what all people who exclude a-spec people from the LGBTQIA+ community should see, to understand that we face the same issues they do.

I haven't come out to my parents as aroace yet, and watching this made me realize how awful it actually feels to be in the closet. I somehow hadn't realized I am. I've always felt safe coming out to them as other things, as bisexual back in the day, and as trans non-binary.

It might be because my confidence disappeared when they reacted badly both times, but this coming out feels almost impossible.

Comparing it to coming out as bi, it's really not that different: if you're bi, you're promiscuous and date too many people; if you're aroace, you're a prude and cold-hearted. If you break away from the status quo, you're wrong either way.

But at least, most people do eventually understand the bi experience, if they understand same-gender attraction, and fuse it with straightness, even though it's a flawed method.

With aros and aces, instead, it's such an alien concept for an allo, which makes it way harder to come out and have to explain to them how to deconstruct allo-amatonormativity. It's exhausting. Thankfully, there's people like Kazu who are actually willing to learn about us. That gives me hope.

I feel like it's super eye-opening to find out the concept of romance didn't even exist in the past. Pretty sure that in Europe, it originated during the Middle Ages from the ideal of chivalry. So it's really just a social construct, and opting out of it shouldn't be so controversial!

It's just a set of pointless, annoying rules like having to kiss eachother, having to say "I love you", and doing it all a set amount of times, otherwise it's not good enough. What if we don't want to? What if it doesn't come natural to us? If it's just a social construct, fuck it, I'm not adhering to that! We do whatever makes us happy!

Even in the series itself, Sakuko too goes through a heartbreak, even if it's not the romantic kind: she valued her friendship and future cohabitation with Chizuru above all else, but Chizuru abandoned her, because of romantic love. It's not true that aroaces have it easy.

Like our MC, we have to deal with fear that we'll come off flirty when we're just being friendly, confusion over concepts that we feel we should understand, shame over the fact that we're different, fear of loneliness, frustration and pain that we'll always come second to our friends' romantic partners, or even trauma from a relationship or sexual encounter that we didn't really want. I could go on and on.

These last scenes really got to me. Especially the second one… I admit that I cried, when she had to turn her down, and it seemed like her aromanticism had ruined their relationship. It hurts that the way I am could seriously harm someone I care about. It hurts that most people work differently and that they can't help it, and that we can't help it either. I don't like being put in that position, to cause someone a heartbreak. I have with my ex, and had to watch them spiral down… It was horrible.

Still, I wouldn't change my orientation for the world. I'm confident in my identity, I love being aroace.

In the end, we can all reach our full potential, reach a point where we feel fulfilled and that we're living our best life, find ourselves a family if it's what we want, have our dream job and house. Being aroace doesn't condemn us to a life of unhappiness. That's what this series left me with by the end; it gave me so much hope for my future.

(I'm aware I'm coming off as a bit toxically positive here haha, sorry if I'm striking a bad chord; I'm just in a really good period right now, and riding this wave for as long as I can! Hopefully I can rub it off someone else as well.)

That said, I really loved this j-drama, it was funny and relatable and emotional, I wished it had lasted longer! It seems like the author isn't even aroace herself, so I'm amazed at how good the representation was! So much thought and research has gone into it, and it shows; the result is amazing.

Thanks for reading my scattered thoughts about this! 🧡💛🤍🩵💙