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[kindnessoverperfection]

Please, if you can, take a moment to read and share this because I feel like I'm screaming underwater.

NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) stigma is rampant right now, and seems to be getting progressively worse. Everyone is using it as a buzzword in the worst ways possible, spreading misinformation and hatred against a real disorder.

I could go on a long time about how this happened, why it's factually incorrect (and what the disorder actually IS), why it's harmful, and the changes I'd like to see. But to keep this concise, I'll simply link to a few posts under the cut for further reading.

The point of this post is a plea. Please help stop the spread of stigma. Even in mental health communities, even around others with personality disorders, in neurodivergent "safe" spaces, other communities I thought people would be supportive in (e.g. trans support groups, progressive spaces in general), it keeps coming up. So I'm willing to bet that a lot of people on this site need to see this.

Because it's so hard to exist in this world.

My disorder already makes me feel as if I'm worthless and unlovable, like there's something inherently wrong and damaged about me. And it's so much harder to fight that and heal when my daily life consists of:

Laughing and spending time with my friends, doing my utmost best to connect and stay present and focused on them, trying to let my guards down and be real and believe I'm lovable- when suddenly they throw out the word "narcissist" to describe horrible people or someone they hate, or the conversation turns to how evil "people with narcissistic personality disorder" are. (Seriously, you don't know which of your friends might have NPD and feels like shit when you say those things & now knows that you'd hate them if you knew.)

Trying to look up "mental health positivity for people with npd", "mental health positivity cluster bs", only to find a) none of that, and b) more of the same old vile shit that makes me feel terrible about myself.

Having a hard time (which is constant at this point) and trying to look up resources for myself, only to again, find the same stigma. And no resources.

Not having any clue how to help myself, because even the mental health field is spitting so much vitriol at people with DISORDERS (who they're supposed to be helping!) that there's no solid research or therapy programs for people like me.

Losing close friends when they find out, despite us having had a good relationship before, and them KNOWING me and knowing that I'm not like the trending image of pwNPD. Because now they only see me through the lens of stigma and misinformation.

Hearing the same stigma come up literally wherever I go. Clubs. Meetings. Any online space. At the bus stop. At the mall. At a restaurant. At work. Buzzword of the year that everyone loooves loudly throwing around with their friends or over the phone. Feels awesome for me, makes my day so much better/s

I could go on for a long time, but I'm scared no one will read/rb this if it gets too much longer.

So please. Stop using the word "narcissist" as a synonym for "abusive".

Stop bringing up people you hate who you believe to have NPD because of a stigmatizing article full of misinformation whenever someone with actual NPD opens their mouth. (Imagine if people did that with any other disorder! "Hey, I'm autistic." "Oh... my old roommate screamed at me whenever I made noise around him, and didn't understand my needs, which seems like sensory overload and difficulty with social cues. He was definitely autistic. But as long as you're self-aware and always restraining your innate desire to be an abusive asshole, you're okay I guess, maybe." ...See how offensive and ignorant that is?)

Stop preventing healthcare for people with a disorder just because it's trendy to use us as a scapegoat.

If you got this far, thank you for reading, and please share this if you can. Further reading is under the cut.

NPD Criteria, re-written by someone who actually has NPD

Stigma in the DSM

Common perception of the DSM criteria vs how someone may actually experience them (Keep in mind that this is the way I personally experience these symptoms, and that presentation can vary a lot between individuals)

"Idk, the stigma is right though, because I've known a lot of people with NPD who are jerks, so I'm going to continue to support the blockage of treatment for this condition."

(All of these were written by me, because I didn't want to link to other folks' posts without permission, but if you want to add your own links in reblogs or replies please feel free <3)

[time-woods]

formal company event ! yes im pullin out all the romcom tropes for this series

[emtrobarasalaplatja3]

[sableunavailable]

Monstrous Greek gods are like cocaine for me

[star-ts-farts]

DAAYMN MICHEAL AR AR AR AR AR

5th picture draw is based off this text post https://www.tumblr.com/brianimusprime/733012816867540992/behold-my-first-post-on-tumblr

(EDIT: I FUCKING WROTE WHAT CHUCK IS WRONG ?!??! HOW i was looking at the post as i was drawing it, im gonna implode)

[lilyznow]

The crossover is giving me an excuse to draw Barnes as a centaur

[wiiildflowerrr]

Ashton as Gandalf for Halloween 2024

Via noelani.mahina and shicafreaka

[edge-oftheworld]

while we’re seeing people discovering in real time the bands they listen to are exclusively white, go give calum some love. not just because we as a fandom look better because of him. he’s not a token poc so we can check off a box because he’s half Māori. but give him some love because the music industry is so full of obstacles it’s hard enough if you’re white and—nearly every successful australian musician is. because he’s so talented we should be appreciating him, because now that 5sos has done it so many other talented aussies and kiwis of colour feel hopeful that they can make it too. and give mali some love too. you know how proud I am of the hood siblings?? smashing glass ceilings which shouldn’t exist but they do and we can’t not acknowledge that. I hope we see a lot more talented indigenous artists getting the recognition that they deserve. I hope we see a trend that makes a dent in the genres we know. but for now?? we really gotta appreciate the ones we have

[voilaammayi]

victor trevor, the only person sherlock had been at least vaguely friends with in college, just said in front of him and john hamish watson that he’s in between boyfriends and my life has not been the same ever since

[retrocgads]

UK 1987

[feralpercy]

"Stop mother henning already." Clarisse scoffs, arms crossed and leg on top of the other, she sits by ares side.

They were once again welcomed to Olympus, the campers mingling with their parents, siblings and friends.

At the scoff, Percy glares. "I'm not mother henning."

A child from Demeters side pipes up. "You do go all mother hen on us sometimes, mom."

Percys face falls flat, he looks eerily like his father in those moments, and Clarisse cracks.

Her grin is broad and toothy, absolutely gleeful. "Especially after a fight, which you trained them for. Getting less confident now, aren't we?"

Bristling and grumbling, he points at her. "This is conspiracy against me. Did you put them up to this?"

Annoyed now at the accusation, the daughter of Ares drawls her next words. "The cheek comes all from you, shit head."

"Oh, I'll show you cheek," he grumbles, getting up, taking out riptide. "Where is the arena?"

In the end, they ended up beating the shit out of each other to the amusement and exasperation of the others.

("They do realise that we are their parents, right?" Apollo whispers to Will, who grinned back.

"Nah, let them have their fun.")

(Out of everything, a squabbling pair of ares and poseidon kids co-parenting while acting like a divorced couple was not on anyones bingo list. Alas it happened and now everyone looks forward.)

[jyou-no-sonoko19]

you know Mary would fully love this

[fisheadz]

The fic feels like it’s actually working rn. It’s not working well, but it’s working and that’s enough.

So far I got Tonia being a lovely kitty, the mannequins being helpful, 32 less spelling errors out of an infinite amount, Desmond being the Most Confused Man In The CU, and more than a couple headcanons of mine that sorta change the game a bit, but it’s whatever.

I’m still not happy with it, I’ve got so much more fixing upping to do and stuff, but I’m becoming more hopeful, at least :D.

I’ve also got a list of little things that I’ve noticed, and some random voicelines and stuff. AR has a lot to say, apparently, lol. I’ll probably post some of the stuff I got sometime.

[emtrobarasalaplatja3]

[stolasbuckzo]