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--> with the band chapter 16
Happy New Year, Izzy
warning: social anxiety, big time. jump scare. horror? for someone with anxiety, horror.
A/N: izzy is THRIVING. and then she hears what her ex George has been up to. love on tour AU, angst!harry.
word count: 5.7k
Izzy picked up her phone and sent yet another message to Lydia. She had been back home from the tour for just four days and had heard nothing from either her or Harry. Or anyone.
As soon as she sent it, her phone rang. Izzy put it to her ear right away.
“Harry?” Izzy asked hopefully.
Static on the other end.
“Izzy, it’s Lydia.” Lydia’s voice sounded shaky. Izzy was ecstatic and concerned at the same time.
“Oh my god, thank god,” Izzy said, “I’m so happy to hear your voice!” Izzy mouthed to Olivia: it’s Lydia! Olivia gave a tight smile, put the keys back in Izzy’s hand, and left the room.
“Izzy,” Lydia said, steadying her voice. “I have something to tell you...George and I are together.”
“George… Do you mean Mitch?” Izzy asked desperately.
“No.”
“George from the tour George?”
“Yes.”
“You and George,” Izzy repeated. She wanted to make sure she was hearing correctly.
“Yes.”
“We got together after you and him broke up.”
“3 days ago. 3 days ago we broke up. And now you and George—“
“I’m sorry, I know it’s fast. I know it’s too fast. I’ve liked him for a while and you seemed so happy, but then you slept with Harry and it was obvious it wasn’t real between you two.”
“That’s fair,” Izzy said. She didn’t feel angry that they were together—she felt betrayed, betrayed at the lie. That her closest family member had liked the guy she dated for months, and not said a word. “How could you hide that from me, Lydia? That you liked him?”
“You needed him more than me.”
“That’s not for you to…” Izzy felt her anger bubble up into her voice, but she didn’t want to yell and have Lydia hang up. “I’m responsible for myself. I’m responsible for myself, and you’re responsible for yourself. You didn’t have to manage me that way. You should have said something.”
Silence on the other end.
“Were you… were you waiting for us to break up?”
“No, no. I meant it when I said I just wanted you to be happy.”
“I know,” Izzy said. She remembered their conversation on the beach. Lydia saying she was sorry.
“I tried to tell you, on the beach. I couldn’t do it. You were finally happy and thriving. You wouldn’t have stayed on the tour if you and George had broken up—you would have gone back home. It was the only way to keep you there and you wanted to be there so badly, instead of at home.”
Izzy took all this in. She felt her anger transfer somewhere else.
“Did George like you too, the whole time we were together?”
“No, no. I don’t think so. This is probably just a rebound,” Lydia said, laughing weakly. Her voice wasn’t believable.
“Why date someone I dated pretty seriously for months so quickly afterwards if it’s not even that serious for you? George just developed feelings over the last 3 days?”
“Maybe he used to have them, and then they went away when he met you. I sincerely believe that. When he met you, I think he found the answer to everything, and then it didn’t turn out like you thought - you said it wasn’t working. You said you weren’t happy.”
“Could you… is he there? Could you put him on the phone?”
“I don’t think that’s a good idea, Izzy.”
“Maybe he shouldn’t be dating anybody right now. He’s running from something. He’s into some pretty hard stuff, Lydia—needle stuff. I saw him shooting something at that party. It’s not good. It’s not being a real artist. He’s just an addict. He needs help.”
“You don’t get—” Lydia started. “It’s different for him, for the band. They’re not regular people, Izzy, and it’s not normal life. It’s not supposed to be. And besides, he’s getting better.”
“I want you to get better too,” Izzy said. “Maybe the tour isn’t the best place for you either. I’m making a new life for myself here and it’s not what it was before. You could come home and we could—
“I’m not coming home, Izzy.”
Izzy paused. She felt like she had bungled it: she had a golden opportunity in the conversation to bring Lydia home, and she had failed. “You always can,” Izzy said.
“I know,” Lydia replied.
Izzy felt like she was back in the wreckage again and that this time she had found the whole black box. George and Lydia. George and Lydia?! George and Lydia. She remembered George pulling her out on stage at Inglewood in front of 10,000 people and telling them all that he was in love with her.
“When you said maybe he used to have them, that he maybe used to have feelings for you, what do you mean?”
Lydia ducked the question. “He was in love with you, Izzy, or the you that you let him see. His feelings for you were real.”
“Jess was right. My anxiety makes me blind. I didn’t see it, but that makes sense. Of course he liked you. But then why date me?”
“Because he really liked you. Honestly. He really, really did. The thing with Harry… it really killed his feelings, quickly. He said he could tell something was off in the last week, that you were maybe not feeling it…”
“Please don’t talk about me with him,” Izzy begged. “I can’t stand the thought of that.”
“Okay. Sorry.”
“You and George. I can’t wrap my mind around it. You couldn’t have waited, like, a week or something? It just makes the whole thing - everything I went through with him - seem fake, from his side.”
“You were the one that was faking it with him. His feelings were real. Your feelings were always somewhere else.”
“I am sorry about that, that I lied to him. It didn’t feel like I was lying… I really wanted it to all be good, and I didn’t want it to stop. It wasn’t a fake relationship, though, Lydia. A lot of the moments we had were very real. This is so fast.”
“You know how things are here, how chaotic it is.” Izzy remembered where Lydia was: out in California. Maybe calling her from the apartment she was supposed to share with George.
“He needed a decision from me on whether or not I was going on with the tour to follow Jess or staying back with him. I had to decide fast, so Jess could find somebody else… Since you didn’t want to go on with Harry like I thought maybe you would.”
“It wasn’t cool of George to put you in that position, to try to start something up so quickly with you and have you quit your job like that.”
“I still have a job, Izzy - I’m still going to be helping him with his socials. Still working for Ryan.”
“Don’t even get me started on Ryan,” Izzy said.
“I don’t like him either.”
Izzy felt herself welling up all of a sudden. Her cousin wouldn’t budge, on anything. “I’m really worried about you,” Izzy said through tears. “I’m just really worried about you. You told me once at the beginning of the tour that all I had to be was honest, so that’s what I’m trying to do, even if I failed earlier with George. Here’s the truth: I should have left earlier. The tour… it’s so good, I know. That life is so beautiful and fun, but the drugs. Did you see what happened to Tara? And George is in so much trouble, and the drugs are causing the problem and are also the way that he runs from it. You just can’t do that stuff, Lydia. You don’t have to—you can still have so much fun out there without needing a bump.”
“You’re the one that ran,” Lydia said.
Izzy sighed.
“You’ve forgotten how good it is out here,” Lydia continued. “Come back. Come back to the beach. Harry will be here for more shows in January. Izzy, I know that you’re in love with him.” Izzy almost dropped the phone. “Don’t you see? Everything that is meant to happen is happening. Me and George, and you and Harry.”
Izzy put her hand up to her face. “It doesn’t feel like everything is working out,” Izzy said. “It feels like a fucking plane crash. I still don’t understand what happened. You’re not telling me everything.”
“I just want you to be happy, Izzy.”
“I just want you to be happy!”
“Come back out here,” Lydia repeated.
“Come home,” Izzy said.
“I love you. I’ll call again soon.”
“I love you too,” Izzy said. “Please be careful.”
Lydia hung up.
Izzy stared down at her phone, hoping and praying that she had dreamed the conversation somehow. That she would wake up. But no, it was real. George and Lydia.
Izzy sat down in the middle of her floor.
Tears started to fall down her cheeks. She felt volcanically angry at George and so, so worried about her cousin. The conversation ended so quickly, the opportunity to talk Lydia into doing something else just slipped away. Lydia hadn’t even sounded like herself: she normally asked questions and listened, instead of spewing advice. Izzy reprimanded herself for not listening better and asking more questions herself; maybe that would have helped Lydia see how insane and fast this was. The anger and anxiety climbed up Izzy’s body like fire, burning her scalp. Izzy put her face in her hands and sobbed. She wanted something to cut the feeling, to take the edge off—a bump, anything. But there was nothing to do but to cry. Who was she going to call to complain? Harry? Harry who hadn’t responded to any of her messages? She was crying about him, too. Her heart was broken. A bitter thought, one she thought she destroyed, resurfaced: Sometimes I think love is for other people.
The next morning, Izzy skipped her first class at the community college. Noon rolled around and she went downstairs, happy to help her mom catch a break by taking over the register at the store. Sitting behind the counter, looking out at the familiar street past the mannequins, Izzy felt her old life pulling her in like quicksand. She felt numb. It all seemed too hard, all of a sudden, like it had before she went on the tour: trying to get a real job, trying to move out. She felt wounded and just wanted to hide back where it was safe. The store was easier and she felt her daydreams calling her; she could just put in her headphones now and drift away. Her thoughts darted back to that first night at the concert, dancing with Meg and Lydia. George slinging his arm around her shoulders in the green room. Waking up on the plane. Lying with Harry in the grass at the co-op under the wisteria. Climbing up on that streetlight. She could sit here and remember it forever. She checked her phone again. Still no message from Harry. Not one.
There was another possibility, too: she could run. The keys to a house or a hut or a piece of land in Italy were sitting upstairs in her room, a total surprise—an unexpected gift from the past. And Mrs. Shepherd wanted her to go. That means I should go, right? Izzy wanted to run. The smoke from the crash wasn’t clearing, it was getting thicker. She couldn't see at all. She hadn’t seen clearly for months, just like Jess said. How had she missed George and Lydia and whatever feelings and vibes there were? She wanted out. She thought about Lydia’s offer, fleeing back to California. What would she even do there? Sleep on Lydia and George’s couch, hang out at the studio, maybe OD and end up at the hospital like Tara?
Izzy felt like she was melting into her chair behind the cash register where she had spent so much time. She was supposed to go to the plant nursery in the afternoon to sign her health insurance paperwork. This third option, between staying and running, now seemed impossible—the little plan she had made with Olivia seemed too hard: the new job, the new training and later, a new apartment.
Izzy twisted around to the three-pane mirror and surveyed her slumped over, fragmented reflection. She thought about Mrs. Shepherd and her own grandmother, Ila. Moving to America, building a life piece by piece. She thought about her mom, fighting to keep everything together. Surviving, despite losing her mom and sister.
The jingle of the shop door opening brought Izzy out of her fog. Olivia stood at the threshold, dressed for her new job at the music store. She eyed Izzy up and down and her eyes went soft.
“I felt there was something going on with George and Lydia,” she said. “Not while you were together, but there are vibes. I’m sorry I didn’t tell you.”
“It’s okay. It wasn’t your responsibility,” shrugged Izzy.
“Let’s go. You have your paperwork, and I have my first shift.”
“I’m feeling kind of tired,” Izzy said. “I think I’m coming down with something.”
“Let’s go,” Olivia said, more assertively than Izzy had ever heard her speak. Whatever twinge of anger Izzy felt at Olivia for holding information back faded away. Izzy stood up, switched the store sign to closed, and let Olivia march her to the nursery, where she felt like she could take deep breaths again. Izzy filled in her details, signed all the forms, and even had an impromptu training shift from the eccentric owner, Reedy, about the importance of spritzing the ferns hourly. The next day, she made it to her 8 AM class. The day after that, she did it again. Time seemed to speed up. One step followed another. After George posted the first photo of him and Lydia together, Izzy deleted Instagram from her phone. She worked and went to class. By the end of November, She had saved up almost $6,000 living at home and working. On Saturdays, she worked at the store, and to keep busy, on Sundays she added an extra shift at the nursery. The busyness dulled down the constant ringing in her head: is Lydia okay is Lydia okay is Lydia okay. The ringing had started soon after Izzy joined the tour, and grew deafening after that phone call. She and Lydia sent polite texts back and forth, so superficial that they broke Izzy’s heart. Olivia got an apartment, and when her roommate fell through in December, Izzy moved in. The apartment was above a dentist’s office near the community college: not glamorous at all. It definitely wasn’t the Riot Hyatt—but it was better, because it was all theirs. The rent was $1,200 per month, enough for them to split while still saving; they curtained off the living room to turn it into Izzy’s bedroom. They painted the walls blue and purple and had laughing fits while trying to pull off the painter’s tape off cleanly. Izzy put a record player in her room and had Meg and Lauren over to celebrate her new place, toasting with the cheapest red wine they could find in recycled jars over a table made of milk crates. Izzy loved working at the nursery and was learning more and more about all the species she had admired but couldn’t name before. She was doing well in her courses, but not letting her anxiety drive her into a perfectionist frenzy. For 2023, with Olivia’s encouragement, Izzy planned to sign up for landscape architecture courses. She daydreamed about the best parts of the tour, and tried not to ruminate on everything that went wrong. She remembered how Harry had embraced her even after he found out about her lack of experience—and Meg’s kind words, years ago: love is for you too, Izzy.
It was a good thing that Izzy got a steep discount on plants at the nursery, because she had so many in her room she had trouble getting to her book collection sometimes: two giant Caladium Moonlights arched around them, leaves resting on the shelves. Olivia hung up her guitars in the living room and Izzy played sometimes in the evening. Olivia sometimes Facetimed with Lisa, Jess, and Tara. Izzy always found an excuse to go out.
Olivia moved around the house in a light, easy way that Izzy admired; the musician was so relieved to be out from under Ryan’s thumb, out of the constant pressure of the live performances. Olivia played the guitar and worked on some new melodies some evenings. Izzy found herself smiling more often, her shoulders loosening up. She really admired Olivia, who was a lot more steely than she let on: she was strong. Olivia seemed like a fragile, floaty, spiritual person on the tour, but she was actually rock solid—otherwise, Izzy realized, she would have been totally crushed by the band. Copying Olivia’s example, Izzy painted a green and pink mural of abstract shapes on the wall opposite her bed, and had dragged in bookshelves they found on a curb in the snow and cleaned up. Just as she had done with her clothes in New York, she chose furniture that really felt like her; her new bedroom was colorful and warm, so different than the brown room she had escaped. The keys to the house in Italy collected dust on top of a small pile of books.
Izzy was doing what she had expected to do before the accident derailed her, but it was all so different than it might have been because of what she learned on the tour. One afternoon just before Christmas, Izzy sat in her new bed and looked out her windows, partially fogged up from all the humidity the plants created. She felt proud of herself. She hadn’t chosen to run or stay. Instead, she went with the third option: grow.
Still, sometimes Izzy felt a restlessness tugging on her sleeves, tickling her wrists and ankles. She knew what the feeling was. Lying in her bed alone at night, her mind always ran back to that voice, those eyes, those hands: Elisabetta. I know I’m not the only one. You’re so nice, and I hate that about you.
Suddenly, it was Christmas. She and Olivia would start new courses in the second week of January, so they had a bit of a break for the week between the 25th and New Years: Izzy only had a few shifts, and planned to spend a ton of time with Meg, who had finally earned some vacation time three months into her new gig.
On Christmas Day, the sky was grey but bright and Izzy went over to her parents’ first thing in the morning. She took the bus over to her parents’ apartment as a grown up for the first time—presents under her arm, side dish she made in her own oven carefully balanced in one hand. Her mom and dad had put up the tree, like every year, with lots of homemade decorations from the store’s most glittery fabric samples. Boxing Day Sale posters piled up in Izzy’s old room, which had become an office of sorts. And her mom seemed fine, happy—almost excited. Izzy felt grateful. Christmas at home was more beautiful than she remembered, because it no longer happened in a place she was trying to escape.
For the first time, Izzy didn’t notice presents under the Christmas with her name on them. After breakfast, her parents opened their gifts (a dark, soft bolt of silk Izzy had found at the thrift store, and a history of baseball book for her dad). Once the wrapping paper was cleared away, her mom slid a small piece of paper across the table to Izzy.
“Just for a week,” her mom said. “Do you think you and Meg would like to go? We have two tickets.”
Izzy unfolded the sheet of paper. On it, a flight itinerary to Sicily.“I can’t accept this, mom—it’s way too much.”
Her mom took Izzy’s hand and shook her head. She explained that she had been to Italy several times while her mother was still alive, and returning now was too painful for her.
“The store is doing well,” her dad said. “Don’t worry about us. This is what Ila would have wanted for you.”
Mrs. Shepherd’s words boomed in Izzy’s mind: Go! Dance! It wasn’t running if she was just going for a week, right?
…
Izzy knew she made the right choice when she saw the blue of the Mediterranean from the window of the plane. It was so pretty that it looked impossible, unreal. She had never been to Europe. Never been outside the country.
Two bus rides and one 2 mile walk later, Izzy, Meg, and Olivia came to a stop in a cloud of gold dust on a gravel road that wound along the sea. It was about 80 degrees, and the sun was bright and warm. Google Maps said they were at the house, but they only saw a heavy, sunken iron gate in the middle of a long, crumbling stone wall.
The land was scrubby and hard, tall brown grass and dark green groves of olives and figs and blood oranges. The air smelt like lemons and salt. Cactuses and palm trees stretched up behind the wall, dangling orange studded fruits over at them—Ficodindia di San Cono, prickly pear, as Izzy had learned from a local influencer she had been following. This area of Sicily was usually pretty quiet, but it had been getting more and more popular; a bougie seaside resort had opened near the next town and some celebrities had even parked their yachts off the coast in the summer.
“It’s giving Under the Tuscan Sun,” Meg said. Izzy reached out and grabbed one of the fruits, and the three of them split it, while staring at the gate. They had walked two miles to get to the address. Izzy had the keys in her hands. She was so glad that Olivia and Meg decided to join her: Meg took the free flights as a “sorry I cost you your job” gift from Izzy, and Olivia had saved up enough to come on her own. Staying at the hostel helped, and everything in Sicily had been dirt cheap so far.
Olivia dropped her thrifted backpack. Meg did the same.
The gate was obviously rusted shut.
“We should probably go back into town and get someone,” Izzy said. As she was saying it, Olivia hopped over one of the crumbling stone walls.
“Get who?” Meg asked. “A blacksmith?”
Izzy heard an “oh my god” from the other side of the wall.
“Remember the last time we broke in somewhere?” Meg asked with a smile.
“The first concert, Lydia shoving us through the backstage no access doors,” Izzy said.
They looked at the gate.
Izzy unclipped her backpack, dropped it with a THUD, and hopped over. Meg followed her.
The house was small; stone, with a slate roof, and three windows upstairs over a centered door. But Izzy honestly barely noticed it: she was looking at the garden. Meg put her hands on her shoulders and they gazed at it in awe.
The house sank into a rolling field of yellow flowers that grew over tangled, knotty roots of old olive trees before disappearing over an edge with the blue sea behind it: the house was on a cliff overlooking the water. Each window had a flower box stuffed with purple anemones and bougainvillea vines of pink flowers climbed up the left side and covered the chimney. Heavy aloe plants guarded the house on each corner and poppies grew out of the stone steps leading up to the door. A gardener lived here: not just a gardener, but some sort of plant genius. The house hadn’t been rented for at least ten years. It had been her great grandparents’, and her grandmother Ila had left it behind before she turned 20 for a new life.
Meg took the keys from Izzy’s hands and walked up to the house, Olivia following her, while Izzy walked around it to look at the ocean. A falling-down fence rooted in place by tall grasses held back the flowers from the cliff, which was a short drop down to a white sand beach. Steps worn by the seawater led up to a small opening in the fence; the gardener had planted cactuses on the outside of every step, like fence posts. The house was on a small cove a few miles from the nearest town, which Izzy could just barely see around the east corner. Izzy peered around the west corner of the cove; there was a sand path leading to a connected beach, revealing miles and miles of coast line dotted with pretty houses, some old and some new. Looking at the coastline, Izzy realized why her and Lydia’s mothers always took them to the beach. It’s because it was a place that their mothers’ loved. Izzy imagined Mrs. Shepherd and Ila as girls there at the house, hopping up and down the steps to go swimming.
Izzy carefully took off her shoes and socks and walked down the steps to the water, pausing on the last one. She couldn’t believe that nothing on Instagram had captured the ocean properly: the greens and blues were so much brighter in person. Her feet sank down and water pooled around them, pulling her in. Izzy hiked up her pants and walked into the water, soothing and cool. She laughed. She had so much. The restlessness and the ringing finally left her alone.
Izzy looked back up at the house, which had six windows on the back and a stone patio under olive trees, obviously designed for the view. Olivia waved from a window on the second floor.
“Everything that’s mean to happen is happening,” Olivia called down. Izzy had always wondered where Lydia learned that phrase.
“Izzy, it’s really pretty in here,” Meg said from a nearby window. “Black and white tile floor. Every window has a flower box.”
They ran some basic errands in the village using translator apps and Izzy’s broken Italian, getting the power hooked back up to the house ($1,400!), getting the water turned back on ($260!), getting a contractor to fix the gate and some of the broken stairs inside ($2,300!), and scheduling an inspection so it could be lived in again ($430!). That night, Izzy fell asleep on the bottom bunk in their hostel room as soon as her head hit the pillow. It was New Year’s Eve the next day and she felt like a new person.
Olivia and Meg had floated several ideas to end 2022: the hostel bar was having a party, in the little gap between houses where they had built a small library and put some tables and chairs. They could celebrate at the house, with candles. Or, there was a tarot card reader doing 2023 readings out of the shop next door (the language barrier was an issue). They weren’t permitted to go back up to the house while the inspection was being conducted, so over breakfast they traded ideas. There was a beautiful old mansion that someone had snapped just a few weeks ago; it had been in ruins, but it was being fixed up. It was famous for its huge music room / library, which looked like something out of Beauty and the Beast but better in the video—Italian, baroque marble insanity with peeling gold leaf and elaborate, curling wood carvings on the shelves and ceilings. They had four more days before they were going home, and they planned to see Noto (birth place of ice cream, Meg’s choice), Giardini de Balio (the most beautiful gardens in Sicily, Izzy’s choice), and Rockerilla (music venue famous across Europe, Olivia’s choice). Izzy hadn’t come up with a plan for the house yet. The upkeep costs were minimal and she didn’t know if she wanted to rent it out or what, but she knew fixing it up would help whatever she decided to do.
Olivia made an impassioned case for going to Rockerilla, apparently one of Jess’s favorite spots and well know among real artists—it was like an overseas, Italian hangout for international rock stars. They decided they would go on their last night, to celebrate before going home (best for last).
That day, they decided to go to the mansion with the library; it was a boring enough excursion before a big New Years night out. Izzy caked herself in sunscreen and they took a bus down the dusty road over a few hills to the west of the town, past the house by over an hour, on the other side of the island. Izzy was able to ask the driver to per favore, ferma and they hopped off in front of the mansion, alone on its own hill—it was expansive, and under construction. Metal construction fences encircled the property. It was quiet; no one was on site. Huge signs in Italian with clear do not enter icons glared down at them from the fences.
Before Izzy could ask what they should do, Olivia was through the fence and striding toward the door.
“This is private property!” Izzy said.
“No one is here,” Olivia called over her shoulder. “We are calm. We are relaxed.”
Meg followed Olivia.
“Meg!” Izzy cried, gesturing to the signs.
"I don’t speak Italian,” said Meg.
Izzy took a breath and stomped after them. She had already broke and entered earlier that day, into her own home. Why not go two for two?
The villa was massive; a single story in stone with colums supporting pointed archways. It was a pretty mishmash of styles, added too over the centuries. The windows were huge, and you could see the ocean peeking through from the other side. Olivia picked up the heavy metal knocker and let it slam against the door; they could hear the loud clang echo through the house.
There was no response to the loud knock. No one was home. Izzy turned around to leave, and Olivia turned the heavy door knob until it clicked. The door opened. They were in. Meg walked in first. Izzy shot Olivia a skeptical look.
“Did you ever think we’d be here?” Olivia asked. “Could you have imagined this last summer?” Izzy shook her head, no. If she hadn’t gone on the tour, she absolutely wouldn’t be here now. She’d be in the store, behind the cash register, slowly dying inside. Izzy followed Meg inside. They were in a wide hallway in front of a small inner sanctum surrounded by columns and overgrown with ferns and shrubs. There was a ladder at one end of the hallway, and scaffolding up to the ceiling. Olivia had her phone out.
“It says it’s in the west wing, so… down there.”
“What if there’s someone here?” Izzy asked. But her concern was half hearted: the house was so beautiful, she didn’t really mind that they were breaking and entering. She was reminded a bit of the first time Lydia had shoved her and Meg through that backstage door.
They walked past a massive room, with huge wooden beams and a beautiful marble tiled floor, that was being painted. It was empty, except for a huge piano that looked new, pointed out toward the ocean. Everything else was covered in dust except the keys. None of the lights in the house were on. It was even brighter and hotter that day, but the house was cool and shadowed. Izzy took off her sunglasses and put them in her fanny pack.
“I think it’s through here,” called Olivia. She and Meg disappeared around a corner. Izzy had fallen behind them, transfixed by the piano.
She walked across the courtyard, into the library—she had found it. She could hear Olivia and Meg down the hall. Light streamed in from towering windows looking out over the ocean and the walls were lined with books, some too shiny to be that old. The ceiling had a blue and gold painting of a constellation, with ivy winding up toward it from a crack behind a huge, open stone fireplace. Izzy ran her hand along one of the tables, walking and taking in the ceiling painting. Her fingers hit on something and she stopped: she almost wiped a tea cup, saucer, and open book off the table. The tea cup was full with hot water, still steaming. Someone was home.
She heard a sharp intake of breath from outside. “Izzy?” She spun around. She could only see a silhouette against the ocean. Izzy briefly contemplated turning and running. She could run all the way back to town using anxiety alone as her fuel; that’s how much her anxiety had spiked, just hearing that voice. Her heart hammered in her ears. She walked toward the voice slowly, already knowing who it was, and seeing no other way out of the situation, though she kept trying to think of them.
When Izzy finally made it outside to the patio, the sun nearly blinded her. She blinked hard and her sunscreen ran into her eyes, so she had to drag up her shirt to dab them. It was so bright compared to the interior. The figure came into focus slowly.
“Harry,” she said, blinking the sting out of her eyes. “Hi.”
“Hello,” he replied. He wore a t-shirt over trousers with flip flops, and sunglasses that he had taken off to double check that it was really her, thousands of miles from home, standing on his patio.
“We were—we were in Italy for my family. Well, my family’s not here. Olivia made me come here. I didn’t know that anyone was home. I’m so sorry.” Izzy’s eyes burned. Strugs.
“Your family is here?” Harry asked. His voice was open and kind, shockingly open and kind, Izzy thought, given that she had broken into his house. Is this his house? He extended a tissue toward her and she took it, hand shaking, dabbing her eyes so she could finally see straight. He came into brutal focus then: two curls coming down over his forehead, gold flecks in the green twinkling at her in the sun, and a smile on his lips almost too slight for Izzy to notice.
“My grandmother is from here,” Izzy stammered. “I inherited her house. I was here to look at the house, and Olivia said she wanted to come here to look at the library—it was listed as a tourist destination in this video. I wanted to see the gardens; I’m sort of obsessed with plants.”
“I know.”
“I had no idea… we thought it was abandoned.”
“Right,” Harry said. “I bought it a few months ago.”
“I thought you were back in California,” Izzy said, blushing deeply.
“I needed to clear my head.” Harry couldn’t look away from her.
They stood in awkward silence. Izzy couldn’t think of any social conventions to fall back on for when you break into the home of someone you once slept with, who said he was crazy in love with you and then ditched you after you said some terrible things to him. Nothing came to mind. She wanted to laugh—the whole situation was just so ridiculous.
“Where’re you staying?” Harry asked, trying to help.
“We’re at the Ostello Estremamente Economico, about two hours away. We took the bus.” Hearing her speak Italian made Harry smile. He couldn’t help it.
“What are you doing for tonight, Izzy?”
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#harry styles au#love on tour au#harry styles#love on tour#harry styles fic#love on tour fic#hslot#angst!harry#romance#fluff#italy for some reason#under the tuscan sun vibes#personal growth#anxiety feels#anxiety disorder#2023 goals#romance readers#grumpyrry
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being a writer leads to a genuinely helpful but also very stupid kind of mindfulness where you'll be having a sobbing breakdown or the worst anxiety attack of your life and think "okay, I really need to pay attention to how this feels. so I can incorporate it into my fanfiction."
#'where are you feeling this stress in your body' is OUT#'what tactile details will allow you to describe how your blorbo is feeling the stress in THEIR body' is in#listen. it works.#anyway guess who's having a terrible anxiety day and about to make it a traumatized mad scientist's problem. this girl.
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Oh no it’s 4:15 which is almost 5 which is almost 6 which is almost 7 which is when my meeting starts so clearly I have run out of time to prepare or do anything other than sit in paralysis and watch the clock tick by, what do you mean this isn’t how normal people think
#actual thought process I just went through#executive dysfunction#adhd feels#anxiety feels#work your way out
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Learning that fans hated Applejack and called her "boring" is crazyyy to me because I genuinely, unironically believe AJ's the most complex character in the main six.
Backstory-wise, she was born into a family of famers/blue collar workers who helped found the town she lives in. She grew up a habitual liar until she had the bad habit traumatized outta her. She lost both her parents and was orphaned at a young age, having to step up as her baby sister's mother figure. She's the only person in the main gang who's experienced this level of loss and grief (A Royal Problem reveals that AJ dreams about memories of being held by her parents as a baby). She moved to Manhattan to live with her wealthy family members, only to realize she'll never fit in or be accepted, even amongst her own family. The earlier seasons imply she and her family had money problems too (In The Ticket Master, AJ wants to go to the gala to earn money to buy new farm equipment and afford hip surgery for her grandma).
Personality-wise, she's a total people-pleaser/steamroller (with an occasional savior complex) who places her self worth on her independence and usefulness for other people, causing her to become a complete workaholic. In Applebuck Season, AJ stops taking care of herself because of her obsessive responsibilities for others and becomes completely dysfunctional. In Apple Family Reunion, AJ has a tearful breakdown because in she thinks she dishonored her family and tarnished her reputation as a potential leader –– an expectation and anxiety that's directly tied to her deceased parents, as shown in the episode's ending scene. In The Last Roundup, AJ abandons her family and friends out of shame because believes she failed them by not earning 1st place in a rodeo competition. She completely spirals emotionally when she isn't able to fulfill her duties toward others. Her need to be the best manifests in intense pride and competitiveness when others challenge her. And when her pride's broken, she cowers and physically hides herself.
Moreover, it's strongly implied that AJ has a deep-seated anger. The comics explore her ranting outbursts more. EQG also obviously has AJ yelling at and insulting Rarity in a jealous fit just to hurt her feelings (with a line that I could write a whole dissection on). And I'm certain I read in a post somewhere that in a Gameloft event, AJ's negative traits are listed as anger.
Subtextually, a lot of these flaws and anxieties can be (retroactively) linked to her parents' death, forcing her to grow up too quickly to become the adult/caregiver of the family (especially after her big brother becomes semiverbal). Notice how throughout the series, she's constantly acting as the "mom friend" of the group (despite everything, she manages to be the most emotionally mature of the bunch). Notice how AJ'll switch to a quieter, calmer tone when her friends are panicking and use soothing prompts and questions to talk them through their emotions/problems; something she'd definitely pick up while raising a child. Same with her stoicism and reluctance at crying or releasing emotions (something Pinkie explicitly points out). She also had a childhood relationship with Rara (which, if you were to give a queer reading, could easy be interpreted as her first 'aha' crush), who eventually left her life. (Interestingly enough, AJ also has an angry outburst with Rara for the same exact reasons as with EQG Rarity; jealous, upset that someone else is using and changing her). It's not hard to imagine an AJ with separation anxiety stemming from her mother and childhood friend/crush leaving. I'm also not above reading into AJ's relationship with her little sister (Y'all ever think about how AB never got to know her parents, even though she shares her father's colors and her mother's curly hair?).
AJ's stubbornness is a symptom of growing up too quickly as well. Who else to play with your baby sister when your brother goes nonverbal (not to discount Big Mac's role in raising AB)? Who else to wake up in the middle of the night to care for your crying baby sister when your grandma needs her rest? When you need to be 100% all the time for your family, you tend to become hard-stuck with a sense of moral superiority. You know what's best because you have to be your best because if you're aren't your best, then everything'll inevitably fall apart and it'll be your fault. And if you don't know what's best –– if you've been wrong the whole time –– that means you haven't been your best, which means you've failed the people who rely on you, which means you can't fulfill your role in the family/society, which makes you worthless . We've seen time and time again how this compulsive need to be right for the sake of others becomes self-destructive (Apple Family Reunion, Sound of Silence, all competitions against RD). We've seen in The Last Roundup how, when no longer at her best, AJ would rather remove herself from her community than confront them because she no longer feels of use to them.
But I guess it is kinda weird that AJ has "masculine" traits and isn't interested in men at all. It's totally justified that an aggressively straight, misogynistic male fandom would characterize her as a "boring background character." /s
At the time of writing this, it's 4:46AM.
#mlp#yeah i wrote this last night during insomnia.#yeah i know an embarrassing amount of crap about this kids show#but whatever it's my hyperfixation i'll store as much useless information as i want!!!#i'm gay and neurodivergent i have an excuse#in case you needed more proof that aj's my favorite character#personal#delete later#unless you like this analysis stuff#i get why they didn't reveal aj's parent's death until way later and why they didn't do much with it but i wish they did#cuz narratively there could've been so much material with aj's grief. like. i feel like we gloss over the fact that she lost her#mother and father as a teenager#i tried keeping my personal hcs out of this to keep it unbiased#but i'll put some in the tags#involving rarijack –– i think aj can be (but not always) very self-conscious about her relationship with rarity#anxieties that she's not the right fit or that rarity will move away and leave her some day or that another woman will take her attention#(like in rollercoaster of friendship?? nudge nudge??). basic seperation anxiety stuff#long post#regarding applebloom whenever i think about her and her parents i think about that scene in steven universe where steven looks up at#a portrait of his mother and openly wonders what kind of sack lunches she would've made for him. that episode still fucks me up
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Work stuff 👀
#trying out all of my different techniques on these guys#this time it’s more soft lineart#I like this one because it feels like a cozy middle between sketch and clean crisp lines#also Fear is not listening at all#like completely#he’s all head over heels#inside out#inside out 2#inside out fanart#inside out fear#inside out anxiety#anxifear#fear x anxiety#anxiety x fear#my art#fanart
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I think it would be nice to have the option to hide numbers on ao3. Make it where the 'kudos' and 'hits' number is author-viewable only, have an alternate option for when a list is sorted by such so people can read things based off their tags and preferences rather than see big number go brrrr
I speak as someone with popular fics, it doesn't have to be a requirement but like, an option? This could go for other websites too, tumblr notes and the like
#sara shush#just thoughts#i think putting numbers on our creations and posts and basically anything we put online ever has done damage#and most people default to the anxieties that their stuff isnt good enough#but getting a lot of numbers is just as damaging#you want it until you have it and then you have crippling anxiety and burnout and fears because you get stalked and dehumanized#i have a lot of thoughts and feelings#anyway#dont put each other down on this post i will block snipe. everyone be understanding and nice to each other asap
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a redraw of the first drawing i posted here to celebrate the fact that ive been in tumblr for more than a whole year posting my shit and havent deleted my blog in panic yippee \:D/ (mushy rant in tags)
#i realised too late that it has been more than a fuking year (august 9)#and for context: ive had 3 different intagram art accounts and i deleted all 3 of them a few months before creating them. anxiety amiright#here it has been so different bc people are so nice??? it has been a pretty plesant experience here w all of u really#im so glad to have found myself in such a wonderful part of the fandom and amazing mutuals that i never talk to bc im shit w texting#the atention has been overwhelming ngl. i have over 2000 followers which. holy fuck???#it doesnt feel like a real number and for my own sake im nnot gonna treat it as one#like i apreciate the support and ppl liking what i do but im not here to make number go big yk? im here to connect w other humans#and yall have been amazing humans ^^ thank u for all the wonderful tags and comments and the support overall#it has been so cool sharing my art and finding other artist whom i respect oh so very much. some of them even follow me back wtf#i hope to continue being here for as long as i can and keep growing as an artist and sharing that process with other without fear#also my amy redesign actually goes so hard idk why i forgot about it nxnfbcncb#sth#sonic fanart#sonic#amy rose#nov.aart#nov.junk
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#you gave a perfectly good monkey anxiety thats what you did#sorry about all the ace posting ive been feeling it#my art#yes this is sans related#i can post whatever i want on my blog
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If my mental disorders don’t kill me stress sure will
#so many bills due#my animals are all having physical breakdowns and need to go to animal hospital#my car broke down so yet another expense#when it rains it freaking pours#the anxiety and stress of it all and feeling like ill never catch up is going to put me in an early grave#bpd#actually borderline#actually bpd#bpd feels#bpd problems#bpd stuff#bpd blog
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-> with the band chapter 14
magari
warning: angst.
A/N: in this chapter, izzy sifts through the wreckage and makes a plan. with the band is a love on tour au. consider reading chapter 13 before this one :) feedback and requests welcome! let me know what you think.
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Alone together in the arena, Harry pressed his cheek against Izzy’s and she kissed his shoulder, running her fingers through his hair. Izzy nudged his face towards her, skin still stinging hot, and kissed him again. She felt drunk. Harry smiled.
“Harry,” Izzy whispered, smiling back.
“Izzy.”
Just then, the sound of a heavy door closing and a phone clattering onto the floor.
“Harry?”
Harry and Izzy whipped their heads around to see Lydia standing in the arena, phone by her shoes, staring down at them.
“Lydia, ‘m sorry, it’s—I’m sorry.”
“So it is you two?” Lydia asked, her voice cracking. Izzy looked from Harry to Lydia. She pulled Harry’s discarded vest to her chest.
“You knew! Harry, you knew. You knew how much I’ve been hurting. And this whole time, the two of you were together?” Lydia was crying, tears spilling down her cheeks and soaking her shirt. Izzy and Harry sat up, pulling on their clothes, hands still shaking.
“Lydia, this has never happened before,” Izzy said, but she didn’t know what she was defending, or why Lydia was fuming at Harry. Oh god, why was this a betrayal to her?
“Izzy, you’re not serious about George?” Lydia was crying so hard she could barely get the words out, gulping for air. “I thought you were moving in together?”
“I—” Izzy put a hand to her face, feeling it flush with shame. “I made a mistake.”
“Just say it?” Lydia pleaded. “It’s over with him? You’re not in love with him?”
“No, I’m not in love with him,” Izzy said quietly. Lydia nodded, her gasps easing a bit. She picked up her phone, turned, and left.
“Lydia—” Harry said to her back as the door slammed behind her. He scrambled to his feet, pulling on his pants. “Izzy, hang on, I’ll—I’ll be—” Then he was gone.
Izzy was left sitting alone in the arena, Harry’s vest pressed to her chest, pants half on. The concrete was cold underneath her. She stared at the door. What just happened?
She lay back down, clutching Harry’s vest.
What did I just do?
She felt a vibration against her ribs. She rummaged around, and found her phone underneath her shirt. George was calling her.
…
The bus ride from Los Angeles back to Izzy’s home town is 46 hours with stops; two full days, eight transfers. Long enough to listen to Harry’s House 68 times.
Izzy’s bags were under the seat in front of her and on the little shelf above—she had left some things behind, but still had way more than she had left home with. She couldn’t sleep. The events from the night before played over and over in her mind. She took her headphones out after just hearing his voice on the opening track: she got to “music for” and then had to turn it off. That voice. She couldn’t take it.
But at least she wasn’t alone. Izzy had someone beside her for the length of the trip, someone she didn’t expect.
And she was still holding onto something that had sparked and grown on the tour. Sometimes it was like a roaring fire, and sometimes it was like a birthday candle she was holding in a hurricane, but it hadn’t died out: hope.
…
Sitting on the floor of the arena alone after Harry left to go after Lydia, Izzy answered the call from George, surprising herself. Before the tour, she would have turned the phone off and buried herself in distraction. But she has become a different person. Someone she didn’t recognize.
“George, hi.”
“Where are you? I’m back at our place—I thought you said you were coming here after the hospital.” Izzy heard beeping on the other end of the line; someone was calling him.
“I, um—“ Izzy started pulling her clothes back on. They were cool to the touch. She shivered.
“Tara will be fine,” George said, sounding annoyed. “It’s not like it’s her first time in hospital for that. The landlord needs first and last month’s rent, but I’m sure we can give it to him tomorrow.” He probably thought she was still at the hospital, by Tara’s side. Where I should have been, Izzy thought.
“I’m so sorry,” Izzy said. “I’m so sorry George, I made a mistake. A bad one.”
“Whatever it is, we’ll figure it out. Just come home.” The word home was like a knife through her heart. She felt shame crawl up her body like fire; it was a sensation she hadn’t felt in a long time, and it felt physically painful.
“I did something—you’ve been so wonderful, and I just did something that you really don’t deserve,” Izzy stammered. “Because I really like you, honestly.” She could feel herself stalling a bit. She couldn’t bring herself to say it.
“Hang on, can I call you back?” George said suddenly, interrupting her. “Lydia’s calling me again—she never calls me anymore—must be an emergency.” He hung up.
Izzy stood up. Her entire body felt sore. Goosebumps rippled over her skin. The arena felt huge again, and she felt tiny in it. Izzy knew Lydia would tell George what happened. She quickly messaged her, knowing it wouldn’t stop anything: i’m sorry i hurt George. this just happened for the first time today and it wasn’t planned. are you okay?
She couldn’t feel Harry’s hands on her skin, but his words (and her own) were echoing in her mind. All true. All painful.
Izzy dialled Harry.
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Izzy spent about 12 hours on the bus ride carefully composing a text message to her mom explaining that she was coming home, and laying out some plans for the future. It was her travel companion that hit send, though Izzy feeling brave enough to send it herself (maybe by hour 20 of the ride home). Her mom left her on read. She was getting tired of saying sorry. But she no longer felt ashamed or guilty; those feelings were fading. They still clung to George, and to the words she had said to Harry—the mean things. But it didn’t feel like she was drowning in them, like she did after the accident.
They were on a Greyhound, the cheapest option, and the bus was clean but worn. It was about a quarter full, stopping in small towns and racing across huge flats of farm land. Olivia and Izzy took turns trading places across four seats, getting restless. They were sitting near the front; Izzy could see out the windshield to the road ahead, and couldn’t see at all what was behind them; it was totally hidden to her.
Izzy also told Meg and Lauren what had happened. She had never spent that much time on the phone, but on the bus, she had no excuse: she had the time.
"How's the tour? How's George?" Meg asked. She was on a break between shifts at her new job.
“Harry and I slept together after having a big fight,” Izzy said.
“Finally,” Meg squealed, almost cutting her off. Izzy could hear her smiling through the phone. “I knew it. I knew it! It was so obvious, from the beginning. Where are you two now?”
“I’m on a bus home,” Izzy sighed. “I’m not on the tour any more.”
“Sorry, what?”
Izzy had to explain what happened.
…
Standing alone in the arena, some things became clear to Izzy really quickly.
Harry didn’t pick up. 6 rings. Izzy’s call went to voicemail. Izzy had said so many cruel things; maybe he didn’t want to be with her any more. Maybe his offer, to stay with him for the rest of the tour, was gone. And maybe it wasn't the best place for her, she thought.
Then, a text from George: “your stuff is still at the hotel. Don’t bother coming over.” Izzy typed a reply that she was sorry, he didn’t deserve what happened, she understood, and it was a mistake. George blocked her.
Izzy couldn’t face the empty hotel room, with her stuff still packed, a new swimsuit bought with a California beach in mind at the top of her suitcase with the tags still on.
She opened her thread of messages with Harry—they had sent so few texts back and forth. All logistical. But Harry was always the one to start the conversation. How had Izzy missed that? She started writing a text, then rewrote it. Then started it and deleted it again. Finally, she sent: I’m sorry I said all of those cruel things to you last night. I hope I didn’t hurt you
Harry responded right away: I’m sorry too
Izzy watched him type, then stop. Then type, then stop. Izzy felt like she had nothing left to lose. She felt brave. She typed: I don’t regret what we did Before she could send it, she got a notification from her banking app.
There had been a large withdrawal, and her balance was at zero. Izzy shook her head and opened the notification. Her balance was at zero. It had gotten lower over the course of the tour, but someone had taken out $1,500, hitting her overdraft limit, and now she had nothing - less than nothing.
Izzy felt like she was standing in the wreckage of a plane crash, engines exploding around her, smoke filling her lungs. She was searching for the black box, trying to figure out why it all went wrong and what was happening.
Izzy sent the text. She put her phone in her pocket and using her credit card, took a lyft back the hospital to check on Tara. She found Tara awake in bed, sipping juice from a tray, her mom asleep in the chair in her room. Olivia stood by her bed. Izzy pulled up another chair. Tara looked grey, but much better than she did a few hours before, at that party at the Riot Hyatt. It seemed so long ago to Izzy already.
“What’s going on?” Olivia asked.
“Yeah, you look awful.” Tara said. They couldn’t help laughing at the irony.
“You look great,” Izzy said. “Much better.”
“I feel better," Tara said. "I haven’t had to stay in this long before, though.”
“Yeah. This was a bad one,” Olivia said.
“Not the worst one of the tour!” Tara said, trying to keep it light. “Remember when we stole those shopping carts, Izzy?”
Izzy smiled and nodded. She barely remembered. Those nights after the shows had been a blur, a fun blur—more of everything than she had had her whole life. But now they were here. Her phone buzzed and she pulled it out of her pocket; it was another bank notification, saying that her balance had been restored. The money was back, somehow. Izzy came out of her nostalgia and landed back in the present, at the crash site, in the hospital.
“How many times have you overdosed before?” Izzy asked. She knew it was a pointed question. But Izzy’s ability to lie, to smooth things over, to run from discomfort, was at an all time low. She felt down, but very free.
Tara didn’t respond. A thick silence filled the room.
“I don’t want to be here again,” Olivia said.
“What, is this an intervention now?” Tara asked, not sounding like herself. “I want to talk about Izzy. I just got a really interesting text message from Jess–“
“Do you want to be here again?” Olivia asked Tara, pressing on.
Tara fiddled with her juice box. She put her face in her hands. Olivia put a hand on her back.
That’s when Jess arrived. From the doorway, she gestured at Izzy to step outside - Jess wanted to talk to Izzy, alone.
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They had to walk into town from the bus stop. It was only about a mile, but with all her stuff, it wasn’t easy.
At least she wasn’t by herself. Olivia had tons of stuff, too; her costumes, her guitar case. She was going to stay with Izzy for a night or two before continuing on until she got to her parents’. She had left the band. She wasn’t going to record with them. She had a new plan.
Izzy stood in front of the store in wide leg jeans and a t-shirt, red and pink and purple bags at her feet. She wasn’t wearing anything from the store. Olivia also looked like an alien from another planet in the small town.
“Is this it?” Olivia asked.
Izzy nodded.
“It’s cute. I like it.”
Izzy saw her mom inside past the SALE poster in the window, dusting the racks and talking to a customer, Mrs. Shepherd, with a second one Izzy hadn’t seen before browsing another part of the store. Izzy and her mother’s eyes met through the glass. Her mom raced outside and the two hugged tightly.
Izzy’s mom put her face in her hands and inspected it. “Okay,” she said. “You’re okay.”
“I’m going to be fine,” Izzy replied.
Izzy introduced Olivia, who she had mentioned over text (to no response) on the bus on the way there. Izzy’s mom gave her a cursory squeeze and mentioned that if she needed any clothing, they could make her a suit—her mom was acting like herself, a huge relief to Izzy. Izzy could see clearly that her absence hadn’t destroyed her mom. The store wasn’t closed or bankrupt; it hadn’t burned to the ground when she was away. Her mom was okay. They were okay. Behind this realization, another one lurked: she could have left a long time ago and they would have all been fine. Izzy pushed that realization down.
“My daughter,” Izzy’s mom said. She squeezed her hands. “Welcome home.”
“Thanks, mom.”
“I like this one,” she said, pointing to Izzy’s smallest bag, a round vintage-looking Gucci duffle, unlabelled on the outside, in a deep red.
Olivia and Izzy dragged their bags upstairs.
Olivia settled into the den and Izzy walked down the hallway, the slowest walk she had ever taken, back to her old room. The room where she had slept every night of her life until that August, and that first concert when everything changed.
She put her hand on the door knob. Inhaling slowly, she opened the door and stepped inside.
The room looked so small. But it was the same, just dustier. Brown carpet. Brown wall panelling. Closet turned inside out; her mom must have been looking for clues. Izzy reluctantly put her bags down and closed the door behind her. The soft, scraggly carpet felt like quicksand under her feet, pulling her back in.
Facing her, in the middle of the room, was her little desk with her laptop. It was open expectantly, facing her, screen dark. Izzy remembered all the nights she spent in front of it, watching and scrolling, waiting for her life to start. Seeing it now, she wanted to throw it out the window. It was calling to her, calling her back to the way things were before, to all the nights alone in her room. Izzy felt her face crease suddenly. She sank to her knees with a thud.
Suddenly, her door flung open. She felt hands on her shoulders.
“It’s okay,” Olivia said. “It’s okay. It’s going to be different this time. You’re not alone.”
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In that hospital hallway, Izzy didn’t have anything to say. She didn’t have any excuses. She knew Jess liked Harry, that the relationship Ryan had them faking for the press was real to her in some ways. Izzy tried not to think about how real it was, but her impulse to lie to smooth things over was gone.
Jess and Izzy stood in silence, facing each other in the hallway, Jess looking exasperated, angry, and desperately sad all at once. It was the messiest Izzy had ever seen her.
“You don’t have anything to say?” Jess said. “I know everything. Everything.”
“It just happened,” Izzy said. “It really wasn’t planned.”
“Please,” Jess hissed. “You follow Harry around for months and now he’s cleaning up your mess—“
“I was with George,” Izzy said. “I wasn’t here for Harry. Honestly. I was going to help George with his new album, stay with him in California. We even took out a lease together. I thought I could maybe help him detox or something—”
“You don’t understand what it means to be a real artist—“
“I don’t, I guess, because I don’t understand why this,” Izzy said, gesturing around to the hospital, “has to be part of it. I wanted to help George get clean. I thought if I stayed, I could help him.”
“Yeah, I know all of that already. You’re back on your bullshit, living for other people. I know about the accident, I know how you were living with your parents.”
Izzy felt like she couldn’t breathe. Harry and Jess had those conversations? He had shared everything with her? Was their relationship really just for more followers, like Ryan had planned it?
“I’m sorry Jess,” Izzy said.
“Sorry for what?”
“For hurting George. And hurting you. I know how you feel about Harry—“
“You really don’t. I don’t know if you actually know what love is. Your anxiety makes you blind. You don’t see other people.”
Jess wasn’t lying. Izzy had nothing to say back. Up until that night, Izzy hadn’t seen Harry; she had missed all the signs. She had somehow also missed how serious his ‘fake relationship’ with Jess really was. And she was starting to think that she hadn’t really seen Lydia. Her cousin still hadn’t responded to her message.
“If you’re so sorry about fucking Harry,” Jess continued, “then why did you do it?”
“I’m not sorry about that,” Izzy said, surprising herself. She was telling the truth, one she hadn’t even known until she said it. “I’m sorry that it happened at the wrong time, that you and him were together when it happened. I don’t know if there’s a right time. You can be a little cold, but you’ve never actually done anything terrible to me.”
“Well, you’re not going on the next leg of the tour. I’m supposed to go on with Harry for the next few shows, solo, then come back to work on the album.” Izzy was realizing just how much she had missed over the last few months. Jess and Harry sounded very real. Searching through the wreckage, Izzy felt like she had found it, or at least part of it: the black box. The reason why it all went wrong. Jess and Harry were real.
Jess continued, “If you think I’m going to let you follow along and keep fucking things up for everyone—“
“I’m not staying any more. I’m going home.” Izzy made the decision as she said the words out loud.
Jess looked surprised. She seemed to deflate a little. “Really?”
“Yes,” Izzy said. “I’m going home.”
“Good,” she replied. She turned on her heel and left without seeing Tara.
“My parents are just one town over from you and Lydia,” Olivia said. Izzy turned around. She had been listening from the doorway of Tara’s room. “Can I come with you?”
“There’s nothing there,” Izzy said. “Where I’m from. The store isn’t thriving.”
“I can’t stay with Jess and George and Ryan and work on the album,” Olivia said. “I can’t do this any more,” she added, looking back at Tara in her hospital bed.
“Me neither,” Izzy said.
“I don’t mean go back home permanently,” Olivia said. “I’ve been thinking about going back to school. To be a music teacher.”
Izzy mulled this over.
“You have friends there, don’t you?” Olivia asked. Izzy thought about Meg and Lauren. “Once you save up again, you could move out. Start over.”
“I could stay at home for a few weeks and get a job somewhere else, outside the store. Then I could move out.”
“We just need to get out of here. After that, we could do anything,” Olivia said.
Izzy felt her phone buzz, but she had made up her mind. She smiled, and Olivia smiled back. Izzy would do what she should have done years ago, after the accident: she would start over. For real this time.
chapter15
#hslot#love on tour#love on tour au#harry styles#harry styles fanfic#harry styles au#love on tour fanfic#romance readers#angst#anxiety feels#harry styles fic#merry christmas readers
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and as always, feel free to explain your answer in the tags or whatever
#i feel like my anxiety makes me believe in this bc u can never be too sure DVDHD#but now i wonder abt other ppl so yahoooo#sunnysidepolls
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Got once again told that I was "good at making conversation" and had "people and communication skills"
and that is the biggest lie I ever heard
so a girl will end up writing some sort of "practical guide to making conversation, by a recovering agoraphobic".
But also. If you need a "how to people when no social skills" guide right now, my absolute no bullshit guide is The Shyness and Social Anxiety Workbook (2018, 3rd ed), esp chap 8 and 10. Includes: how long is appropriate to look at someone in the eyes? What are good conversation topics for your neighbors, your colleagues, your boss, your date? How to safely practice social skills/conversation? How to handle shaking/blushing/sweating/nervous stuttering? How is talking to a group different from talking to one person? How to gracefully end a conversation? How to ask for a change at your work schedule? How to start getting better at it *progressively* without being overwhelmed?
It's not a feel good self help/self improvement book, it is not a magic remedy with secret formula, it is more of a "let's learn a new language", with homework and notes to take. Give it a try, it is very easy to find it online
#social anxiety#you will not magically develop social skills!#but you can absolutely get better!#the book is also a good ref if you dont have social anxiety and just want to improve your people skills#a girl makes no money out of this book ok#it just was the best thing for me when I needed a “how to people” that was not some feel good “just be yourself hun!”#social skills
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there are a lot of posts out there that are positive and healthy coping mechanisms for handling the holidays. this is not one of them :)
i think there's like. going to be times in your life you will be stuck in a social situation that you cannot escape from gracefully. i do not know why the internet doesn't believe these times exist. it's not always just that your physical safety is at risk - sometimes it's legit like "i just don't currently have the energy or time to put in the effort of responding to this." sometimes it's a coworker you hate so much. sometimes it's just like, fine, you know? like you know you can handle your aunt when she's cheerily horrible, but if you actually set a boundary around her, it's going to be weeks of fallout with your father.
i don't know why people think the answer is always just "cut them out!" or "don't let them get away with that!" because ... the real world is tricky and complicated. i think kind of a lot of us have an internal "radiation poisoning" meter for certain people. like - i'm talking about the ones who are absolutely giving you gradual ick damage. like, you can handle them, but you'll be exhausted.
and yes. you absolutely should listen to your therapist and the good posts about handling others and set good boundaries and take care of yourself. prioritize peace.
HOWEVER :) ...... since im often in a situation with a Gradual Sense of Ick person i cannot just "cut out" of my life (without losing someone else precious to me) - i have sort of developed the most. maladaptive form of mischief possible. because like, if i'm going to have to listen to this shit again, i like to have a little bit of private fun with it.
now! again, i am physically safe, just mentally drained by this man. you should only do this with people you are not in danger with. which leads me to my suggestions for when your Unfortunate Acquaintance shows up and says oh everyone pay attention to me.
my favorite word is "maybe!" said as brightly and happily as possible. whenever the Horrible Person starts in on a topic you do not want to go further with, particularly if they make a claim that you know to be inaccurate, do not respond to it. you and i have both tried to actually argue with this person, and it hasn't gone well, because this person just wants the drama of an argument. however, "maybe!" gives them literally nothing to go on. it is incredibly disarming. they are used to people having some response. they know they can't prove what they're saying, and maybe! treats them like the child they are. it dismisses them in the politest way possible.
i like to say maybe! and then, in their stunned silence, immediately change the subject. this is because i have adhd and i will have something unrelated to talk about, but if you can't think of topics fast enough, i recommend just pointing to something and saying, "isn't that lovely?" because fuck you let's bring in some positivity.
by the way. that second trick - of pointing to something and stating an opinion about it? - that just works on its own, like, 70% of the time. i picked it up from teaching preschoolers. it's an intentional "redirect". it stops children crying and it also stops grown adults from finishing their explanation on why women belong in kitchens. dual wielding!
keep it silly for yourself. i absolutely do not care if people think i'm fucking stupid (it's more fun if they do) and as a result i will purposefully misunderstand things just to see how long it takes them to realize i've completely removed them from the subject at hand. when they say "women aren't funny" i get to be like. "which women." "all women." "all women in america?" "no in the world." "like the mole people? the people in the world?" "what? no. like, alive." "oh are we not counting the mole people?" "what the fuck are you talking about." "you don't believe in the mole people?"
similarly, i play a personal game called "one up me." my Evil Acquaintance literally knows this game exists (my family & friends caught onto it and now also play it) and it always fucking gets him. i don't know why. you have to be willing to be a little free-spirited on this one, though. the trick is that when they make one of those horrible little bigoted or annoying comments they are always making, you need to go one unit weirder. not more intense, mind you - just more weird. "you don't look good in that dress." "yeah, actually, my other dress was covered in squid ink due to a mishap at the soup store." "you shouldn't wear such revealing clothes." "wait, what? oh shit. sorry, your son tears off strips when no one is looking and eats them. i swear it was longer before we left the building."
the point of "one up me" is to completely upend this person's narrative. we both know this person likes setting up situations where you cannot "win" and then they really like telling other people how badly you handled it. in a usual situation, if you respond "please don't say something that rude", you're a bitch. but if you let it happen, you're letting yourself be debased. they are not usually expecting door number three: unflappably odd. because what are they going to say when they're telling everyone how badly you behaved? "she said my son eats her dresses" ".... okay?"
if you can, form an allyship with someone whomst you can tagteam with. where they can pick up on your weird "soup store" story and run with it.
the following phrase is amazing and can be deployed for any situation: "oh, be nice :) it's the holidays!" i do not know why this works as often as it does. i'll say it for the most random shit. i think this is bc most of the time these people know they're being impolite, they just like to fight.
godbless. when in doubt, remember that you could always start stealing their pens.
the whole point of this is - if you can't escape. maybe see how long you can just be. like. a horrible little menace.
#this is objectively bad advice#don't listen to it protect yourself and do real work on yourself find one of the good posts i've made about this#but also. u know. if u want to have fun while u do the work of setting boundaries#.... it IS fun#i will say that my fear of him went SO down after i just started. fucking with him.#bc i used to get SO fucking upset#i'd spend WEEKS arguing with him. tearing my hair out. sick with anxiety and dread and anger about all of it#and now i just LITERALLY do not engage#instead i'm like '' haha :) mole people" and get the HELL out of any tense conversation#i kind of think some of these people are literally addicted to drama as a form of connection#they like the rush they get from arguing#but those arguments are incredibly damaging for me#so like..... i am in the process of literally rehabilitating this person to figure out how to find connection thru#NORMAL CONVERSATION#he doesn't get it yet#i also do talk to them like they're preschool kids lmafo . ''are you using a safe and kind voice right now?''#'' do you need a snackie? you sound a little upset. let's have some hummus and come back to playtime when we feel ready''
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And the most important thing to remember is that you have time. Time to discover new people and new projects and new places; time to heal from your past and your wounds. You might feel like you’re getting nothing done and nothing is happening, but you have time to discover your soul. It will happen for you <3
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Lonely nights.
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