#anxiety about judgements :'']

[miasmultifandomdump]

It annoys me how so much of modern discourse around female characters is, to be frank, misogyny repackaged as being progressive.

If a woman's strengths and interests are associated with being feminine, such as cooking or enjoying nice clothes or being kind and compassionate, the entire fandom jumps on her as stereotypical or weak. It's seen as cool to bash on "women's work", never mind that your average misogynist has been doing it for decades, hell, centuries, and the jobs that are mocked as women's work are actually pretty essential to humans surviving and thriving.

And then, of course, if a woman shows the slightest hint of nonconformity, the entire fandom jumps on her because "oh!! she's trying to be not like other girls!! she wants male attention so bad!!" It doesn't matter how she is to the other girls in her life, if she wears combat boots and listens to punk instead of Taylor Swift, she clearly hates every other woman ever according to certain parts of fandom. It couldn't be that she's neurodivergent or LGBT or hell, even just a tomboy, she has to hate every other girl on the planet. /sarcasm

AND JUST TO CLARIFY. These tropes can genuinely be negatively done. The traditionally feminine girl can be a weak character and the tomboy girl can be an ass. But when you're calling a girl a "pick me" just because she doesn't live up to your idea of what a woman should look like or what you think feminism is... congratulations. You've simply repackaged sexism and called it woke. And lots of girls who see this crap online are going to suffer for it but hey, it was never actually about them, so who cares, right? /sarcasm

Anyway, to all the girls reading this post, you go ahead and be who you want. Be a princess or a president or a pop singer or a punk rocker or hell, all of the above. You're not a "pick me" you're not a "handmaiden" you're not trying too hard to be "not like other girls". You are fine. Don't let pseudo-woke nonsense get to you. It's just white noise.

[jsdimensions]

have this drawing i scrapped because as I thought about it i realized that they didn't fit the meme i based it off of

[eternal-reverie]

got the posting anxiety bad tonight

[fleshinskin]

*opens TikTok*

JUDGEMENT DAY IS NEAR‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️

*closes TikTok*

[mars-ipan]

i do love my family very dearly but the internalized ableism the men in here struggle with is. so much

[kiradical]

I think Popeyes needs to be held accountable for every other place adding pickles to chicken sandwiches. As a pickle lover and chicken sandwich lover (Wendy's spicy chicken my beloved) that is one place pickles DONT BELONG!

Idek if officially Popeyes is to blame but it wasn't a thing until that sandwich came out and everyone was going nuts over it in like 2020. Then suddenly everywhere was adding pickles.

Stop it.

And now on the chicken wraps too? NO. THOSE TEXTURES DONT GO TOGETHER STOPPPPPP

Anyway, I'm begging places to please stop putting pickles on chicken sandwiches and wraps. Thank you for coming to my ted talk.

[thethingything]

local man discovers he's gotten into the habit of using DBT techniques without actually being taught them because at some point he realised that the things we get the urge to do when we have strong emotions often aren't healthy and that he doesn't like how he feels afterwards so he started noticing when that was happening and going "fuck that shit" and doing the opposite instead

[purposefully-lost]

The fact that Charlie kind of thinks of himself as stupid and slow when he's not at all </3

[number1villainstan]

soooo the june monthly short piece is now officially two months late, which is kind of a record. on the plus side it's shaping up to be real long. oh yea and now i have drugs so that might help

[cal-is-a-cryptid]

Something that makes me happy #33:

The color green

[plushie-lovey]

Crying so hard I want the pumpkin kitty from BAB but I'm too chicken to go into my local store to see if they have it (having to go thru the heart ceremony specifically is what's making me anxious cause I've never actually gone thru the whole BAB experience before. And I don't wanna have to do goofy things in public by myself). I'm also struggling to justify spending $40 on a plushie this week

[lovely-v]

why is admitting to someone irl that I watch lets plays and twitch streams so embarrassing. literally just like sports innit

[ojirocardigansniper]

just saw an actual adult human body in the mirror for the first time age 24 lets gooooooooo . crawling out of eternal teenage girl selfimage dysphoria prison one day at a time!!!!!!

[your-mom-friend]

*grabs your face and smushes your cheeks* listen to me

I am about to tell you things you need to understand. You ready for this?

You are average. You, darling, are an average human being. Another statistic. one among billions.

Isn't that wonderful? Let me explain

Think about all those posts you've seen thus far. All those weird little quirks or anxious thoughts you've had. Somewhere you've likely seen someone else expressing that they've done that too. Look at how many notes those posts have. Hundreds? Thousands? Your experience is not unique.

It's not unique!! Do you understand what that means? It means you've never been alone! You've never ever been alone and all over the world are people who have experienced exactly what you did!

Your intrusive thoughts do not make you immoral! Your impulsive thoughts do not make you dangerous or stupid! You don't have to feel bad about the bad thoughts because look! That silly tumblr post had an actual person behind it and they talked about it and look! Tens of thousands of people agree with them! You've never been alone!

You know what else that means? You can reverse engineer this shit! Now that you now just how average you are, you can use this! No one's going to care that your hair isn't perfect! You know why? Because you wouldn't care if you saw that on someone else! You would maybe notice but you wouldn't judge them as harshly as you do yourself!

Don't get me wrong. Everyone is unique. But it is not our experiences that make us unique. It is not the existence of such experiences that make us unique. It is the arrangement of experiences, the sum of them, the reaction of them and the number of them that make up who we are. It is your gorgeous gorgeous brain that truly makes you unique. It is the way you think and feel and react to the human condition that makes you so uniquely you. But darling, you don't ever have to worry about being alone. Because in one space or another your particular experience is common enough to talk about.

Don't be afraid of helping people! Some people are anxious about helping people. They fear they are overstepping a social boundary by helping a stranger when they haven't asked for it. Some may react negatively. They might take offense. But don't let this deter you! You are one among millions and so are they. But you may be among different millions. Do not lose the ability to help people in the fear that they might take it the wrong way.

If you were struggling, say, with filling out some bank forms. Too anxious to ask someone to help you because well what if they judge you? But think about it from their perspective. If someone were to come up to you, clearly embarrassed, asking for some help to fill out some forms because they don't understand, would you turn them down, if you could help it? If you new how to help them, would you turn them down? Probably not. Which means, that if you ask someone, they probably won't turn you down either. Or if you see someone struggling silently. What would you do if you were in their situation and someone lent you a hand? Would you judge them for trying to help? if, in this case, you wouldn't, then they probably wouldn't either. Don't be afraid to lend a hand.

My personal saying is that you should, whenever possible, try to be someone good that happened in someone's day. Be that guy that stopped to help someone pick up fallen groceries. Be the girl that talked to that old security guard that is usually ignored. Ask him things. Be the kid that helped a girl fill in her first debit card application. Be the guy that made silly faces at a kid on the bus to entertain them on a boring ride. Be someone that gets fondly recounted to parents or friends when someone talks about their day.

[carpathxanridge]

on one hand i think i might be terrible as a rape crisis advocate because i’m socially awkward and comforting others doesn’t always come natural to me… on the other hand i might be very good at it because i’ve been told by friends i’m kind and a good empathetic listener but i’m also emotionally detached to the extent of probably being able to handle the emotional toll of the work and do and say what is necessary and not be too upset to function

[pizzaqueen]

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