#anon wank

[aerospectrum]

I don’t write with you for a reasons but I honest hope you do know your shit at this and other people have told me they don’t want to write with you lol

I really hope manners is the next trend on this website :/

[sweaterkittensahoy]

Stop misappropriating the abuse and trauma cults use through purity culture for your stupid fucking shipping discourse? Holy fuck no wonder everyone hates this whole discourse.

Since when is "priests getting shuffled around after raping kids and kids being told they're sinful because they had bodily reactions to being SAd" comparable to "Bobo the clown said my ship was cringe"

I'm not gonna answer this with The Aristocrats, as a I threatened, because I want to make a very serious point to this anon:

Purity culture isn't just religious abuse. It is most widely connected to religious abuse. Including actions in the Catholic Church and all fundamentalist Christianity. It's entire existence is about terrifying and indoctrinating people into being fearful of their own actions and bodies so that they feel certain that moving out from the "umbrella of safety" (to use a fundamentalist term) will result in them being harmed in ways they can't imagine. This is generally happening at the same time as they are being harmed by those who are supposed to be keeping them safe from all those terrible, worldly evils. Like speaking up when you're being abused. Believing you are not responsible for the actions of a rapist, and many, many other things that any person with an ounce of self-worth and good sense (two things not allowed in fundamentalist circles) knows are true in abuse situations.

But the point of the purity culture as identity in the above-mentioned circles is to teach people from birth that they aren't to have their own feelings, ideas, or instincts. They are only to follow the feelings, ideas, and instincts on the approved list in order to stay within the structures they know and feel safe in even as they feel very unsafe.

That being said:

Purity culture can also exist WITHOUT a religious structure while still being about controlling the thoughts, feelings, and actions of everyone within it. In terms of fandom, purity culture is groups of people stating that if you write something uncomfortable or gross or immoral, then YOU must be uncomfortable or gross or immoral and therefore, not worthy of the safety and moral superiority of the group.

Purity culture without religion teaches black and white thinking, encourages thought policing, and shames anyone who steps outside of a very narrow definition of good and bad by turning an entire group of people against them for being "bad".

Just like in religious circles.

Just like in the cult of fundamentalism.

Purity culture is a term taken by fundamentalists and turned into a whole way of life because the goal of fundamentalism is to make people too scared to leave. Purity culture in fandom does the same thing. It uses fear and threats of abandonment/harassment to control the way people act because a group of people decided they didn't like something, so they must try and wipe it out rather than simply ignore it.

I am not mis-using the term because "Bobo the clown said my ship was cringe." My use of the term is intentional and precise because what is happening in fandom spaces now is non-religious purity culture cult thinking. My use of the term does not invalidate or water down the use of it in conversations about religious abuse and trauma. With or without religion, purity culture is a dangerous cult of "us vs them" that is built to demoralize and eradicate those deemed unworthy.

[louferrignojrofficial]

I have no clue what Oliver thinks about anything, but I find it so disrespectful of him to call this episode great ahead of it airing. Plenty of us were represented in the bucktommy relationship, one way or another, and to just get slapped with an out of left field breakup and being told: Enjoy!.

Get a grip Oliver and learn not to spread biphobic prejudices while you're at it!

welp he’s posted this so. fun he can speak out now but not after everything that’s happened with all the hate bucktommy and lou got for months.

anyways!

[sephirthoughts]

You're a proshipper and you advertise it in your bio? Do you ship incest and pedo shit?

it's actually a very common misconception, because the misconception has been intentionally perpetuated by antis, that proship means "problematic" or that a person who says they are proship personally ships anything that antis specifically don't like, which can include things like age gaps, incest, etc. they might or they might not. that is not even part of the definition.

today's vocabulary lesson:

proship: literally pro (supporting, in favor of) shipping (imagining fictional relationships between characters for funsies).

anti or antiship: has a lot of rage and few brain cells, attacks people from behind the safety of online anonymity, wants to control other people's thoughts and feelings in order to soothe the constant inexplicable feelings of rage and panic that torment them day and night, loves puritanism, fascism, ultra-right conservatism, censorship, hate, bullying, causing harm to other humans, and hurting real people, all under the banner of a completely fake self-righteous cause, to excuse themselves from culpability for their horrible, cruel, mean-spirited, hateful, harmful, ultra-conservative fundamentalist fascist behavior.

so, what we have learned today is that all proship actually means is live and let live, don't harass, don't attack, don't cause harm to real people over fictional imaginary playtime stuff.

but to answer your question hell yeah i do fictional incest is hot af

have a blessed day!! 💖

[stupidlittlespirit]

Do you have a list of smut headcanons you have for Ford? Including what his… size and width is under the belt lmao

So, I don't really put much stock into dick sizes and stuff, I don't like to think about them too closely bc I think they're a bit gross LMAO.

but for general smut hcs?

oh boy do i........

I'd just say 'the right size for you' and let you do the imagining. i know it's big though on god i know it is

Here's an ask I already answered about this and it still stands, though I'll repeat myself here because it's fun.

These all apply to my fanon version of post portal!Ford because he's my favourite. They aren't really comprehensive nor are they exhaustive but hey ho:

I think we've all established as a group that praise is big for him. Any kind, provided it's genuine, gets him all warm and toasty inside. He's driven (compelled, really) to earn more of it and will go about doing so as 'subtly' as he can.... As subtle as a sledgehammer to the knee is, anyway. He fold for it immediately and he likes to hear and know that he's doing well and is liked, which makes him generous with the attention he gives. Likes to hear that he's smart/the best etc.

Virgin. Don't care what anyone says. That motherfucker is a virgin. Maybe he's held hands and kissed someone behind the bike sheds at school, but not much more. He's shy about it but he's an inquisitive, quick learner and he strives to do his best, so it makes for a nice combo once he does lose it.

Because he's new to all this, he wants to practise. He wants his partner to teach him. He'll still get overconfident and try to act like he knows what he's doing after one or two tries, but he ultimately enjoys getting to be taken along for the ride (heh).

It would take him time to get comfortable enough to pursue sexual and romantic contact. New forms and layers of trust have to be built and that kind of stuff takes time. Sex makes you vulnerable and he's not the kind of person that generally allows himself to be vulnerable, so I think he'd probably be quite nervous about it all. He'd feel very powerless and out of his depth so a partner would have to hold his hand through it (literally, too).

Adding onto that scary element, I think he'd be a switch with a preference for subbing and service, and being submissive requires a lot of trust. He's been taken advantage of over and over again, and he'd be frightened of it happening again. A partner would have to work hard to ease that fear.

Bi/pan. No one traverses inter-dimensionally and stays straight, whether you're fucking your way across the multiverse like Rick Sanchez or you're pure as untouched snow. He likes men, women, all the in-between genders, the interspecies aliens and fuck it, cryptids too.

Is romantically driven before anything else. Falls with feelings over physical attraction.

Cums quickly (virgin, duh) but knows that'll be the case, so spends more time performing on his partner before he gets his turn. He'll do literal experiments later on (with or without his partner) to up his resistance and delay himself.

He's also sixty-something, which means that once he's done, he's done. He can work on his refractory period and fuck it, maybe even find some/make some stuff that will help improve that for a special occasion, but he's still human. I get a good giggle when he's portrayed as a fuck machine (same with Stan) because trust me on this: old men are not! That!

I think he'd start out trying to be very efficient: like okay, I make you cum and then I cum and then that's it, until his partner reassures him that he doesn't have to do that at all and actually if he takes a breath, he'll enjoy it more.

Which then gives way to him taking that advice to heart and discovering long, drawn out, messy make out/ heavy petting sessions. The guy has a lot of time to make up for and he never got to do them in college so he’s going to enjoy them to their fullest now. These last for a while and then often lead into…..

Painfully drawn out, slow sex. Ford finds out that he is a thorough Love Maker, not a fucker. As I linked above, I think he could switch up styles and be adventurous with it, but he prefers taking his time and really bonding through the experience. He’ll get so involved with the sensations and the sights and the sounds that he’ll just forget that there’s technically an ‘end goal’ with sex and will drag things on for an age because he’s enjoying himself and the attention.

If it isn't obvious, I think he likes to take his time. He isn't on the run anymore and once he's reminded that he has the luxury of slowing down now, he'll stomp the breaks and use intimacy to really remind himself of that safety. Not a fan of quickies unless they're risky. Despite being shy, he likes the risk of being caught (by adults only, please, not anyone else) and I think he probably enjoys outdoor sex because he likes being outdoors! It's always the quiet ones....

Somewhat of a mommy/parental/authority kink.

Big fan of edging until he can't talk.

I think he's also a bit of a pervert. It mostly comes from a curious place, but he likes to check out the person he's into ("am I really into them or am I just imagining my attraction?...") and he definitely thinks about them in unholy ways in his private time. I'm drafting a fic where he makes a janky JOI programme on an old PC in the lab with Reader's voice because I think he's a little weirdo sometimes and he likes being bad because he thinks he's too smart to get caught for it. Spoiler: he is not.

Experimentation kink.

I think he's also very shy about it all. Like, really shy. Charmingly so. He definitely holds himself back initially because of noble reasons (his trauma, his age, lack of confidence etc) but even once he's got the go ahead he's still awkward with it. He'll have a brave moment every now and then, though.

Although I think he is predominantly a shy, submissive type in this kind of scenario, I do think he's prone to outbursts (the BPD brothers, helloooo), so every now and then if he's pissed off or excited or whatever, he might be inclined to toss his partner over a nearby surface and have at it. In this kind of scenario, he's probably a lot more demanding for the praise and stuff.

Anyway I'll shut up now :)

[c0ffinrehearsal]

this should go without saying, but:

do not ever, for any reason, re-upload a fic that has been taken down and especially do not say in the author’s note that you plan to ORPHAN another person’s work.

if an author removes a work it is because they do not want it to be accessible online and they do not have to give you a reason for doing so.

please, for the love of gd - i am begging y’all to learn some basic decency and to treat these author’s with respect.

[bobbinalong]

concerning fitzmartin's line of tim saying bernard showed him there is more to him than he was settling for and brings out the real me, is that an attack on his past romance and saying he was settling for them or more talking about being queer and discovering that

I mean, I certainly read it as a sort of attack (though I think "attack" might be a bit too strong a word) because Fitzmartin hasn't shown respect for the, out-of-universe, near 30 year long relationship Tim had with a woman or, in fact, the woman in question. Tim breaks up with Stephanie off-panel, we never get her feelings on the matter anywhere and when Fitzmartin does write her, it's as a prop for Timber. I mean just look at this:

Tim Drake Pride Special

and tell me the author cares for or respects Stephanie Brown as a character.

I also resent the implication that Tim couldn't have been his best queer self with Steph because she'd absolutely fully accept him. And he's not gay, he's bisexual, he's still attracted to women.

So why is being with a woman "settling" when he was previously talking about her like this:

Young Justice (2019) #5

Young Justice (2019) #8

Detective Comics (2016) #940

Detective Comics (2016) #963

Tim loved Stephanie. He was in love with Stephanie. She was his last thought before dying and he was committed to a future with her. There wasn't even a hint of a crack in their relationship prior to Urban Legends, in fact, I'd argue they were at the happiest and healthiest they'd maybe ever been.

So yeah, to me, Tim talking about "settling" and not being able to be himself before Bernard is 1) bullshit and 2) an attempt by the author to downplay his previous relationship. I don't really care to give her the benefit of the doubt.

[the-darkestminds]

PLEASE LMAO Y'ALL ARE WEIRD AND FOR WHAT

[crazy-ache]

Ngl as a writer myself I had planned to write for elaik week too but I have been informed of their policing and bs and honestly no thank you. You can submit it for elain week but I think it would be nice to let them starve

I’m on the fence, anon.

It comes down to feeling very frustrated by individuals who do not fundamentally understand fandom running community-wide events. I have been around the block when it comes to fandom, ship wars, and fanfiction. I’ve never seen this kind of behavior before honestly. And the overwhelming response of “Well if you don’t like it then go make your own Elain Week” is such classic mean girl behavior. It’s middle school where the clique that loves to fucking gaslight you with exclusion tactics and fake ass excuses doesn’t understand why you’re mad all of a sudden.

You are the established and organized community event that has claimed to be neutral, welcome, and inclusive. It is YOUR responsibility to uphold that, not ours to leave and create our own when you are clearly not doing that.

Fandom comes from the word fanatic so when are we going to pretend this is a moral, normal place?

Our fandom roots and origins come from obsessive nerds in sci-fi AND queer works of fiction - it was a place for people who were not privileged in society to have a place and sense of community in a safe manner

AO3 was created to have a safe place for fan works (ANYTHING -- het, slash, RPF, chan, kink, highly adult) because there was a time when these works were deleted and purged from the internet on Fanfiction/LiveJournal

This isn’t about Tamlin at the end of the day. It bothers me when a Character Event week pretends to play Moral Judge and dictate what is wrong and right when it comes to shipping/fan creations. Fandom has always been and SHOULD be a place where we allow people to create freely in a place of community.

And I don’t blame people for the drama and uproar for it. Because pushing back on authority and rigidity is also a basic tenet of fandom.

All of that to say, I am still on the fence because I want to show up for Elain, but I also realize this may all be falling on deaf ears unfortunately.

[aerospectrum]

die fag

lmfaooooo. be patient big dog, after today I just might!!!!!!!! rip lolololololol

[louferrignojrofficial]

I’m a major buddie shipper, I didn’t ship bt that much (although I could accept that it was canon so I didn’t absolutely hate it if you gwim) and tbh Tommy wasn’t really a character that I was invested in. However I was genuinely so shocked when they broke up?? I was watching the episode and when Tommy went to the loft I was fully prepared for them to go on a date, especially with the way the scene began. Whilst I’m obviously not as sad as you or most bt shippers are, I was completely unprepared for them to break up, especially with the way it happens. I think the fact that I didn’t even ship them and even I’m disappointed with that scene really speaks volumes to the fact that the writing was just bad, there wasn’t much build up the breakup (except the basketball tickets, maybe Tommy not being part of the gc as a reach) and the episode before clearly showed their relationship was thriving, so I have no idea where the breakup came from at all 😭

and also Lou totally deserved better. I’m not really his biggest fan (that’s nothing against him at all, I just don’t really keep up with any actors that aren’t mains) but the fact that not a single person defended him is insane. The way people treat Buck’s LIs is mental and they all genuinely deserve sm better. I personally think that the cast need to get better at defending the people who have to go through this, or at least saying something so that people will stop.

sorry this is so long! I just wanted to say that I agree with yall that the writing for the breakup was just straight bad, and even I (a buddie shipper) am able to see that

thank you for your perspective! i get how people would not be so invested in lou or bucktommy or tommy, regardless of whether they ship buddie as well. so it’s nice to see someone else with more objectivity comment on how abrupt it seemed.

and the hate lou got for months was crazy. like genuinely so insane, people hated him so much and even lou said the worst thing that happened to him was that he got death threats but i’m ??? how is that not a worrying sentiment? that he got death threats for portraying a gay character in a mlm relationship. that people hated him so much to do things like that and much more. the online harassment to him was RELENTLESS.

he didn’t deserve any of that and neither did bucktommy. they didn’t deserve to be hated on so badly, regardless of whether people shipped buck with someone else. i’m gonna forever be bitter about it, and how the relationship ended.

[inchidentally]

@ the anons I’ve accrued over this year who brought up Oscar not being embraced by the media team I’m still not going to post the asks bc there’s a lot of doom etc in there but like…

(and even tho it’s easy to find out who it is I’m not including who posted it bc do NOT want hate or anything in their comments and fandom issues =/= relevance to real life teams and their jobs)

“carland0 won the McLaren constructors… Oscar was there ig anyway remember when I staged a puppet show to commemorate carland0” LIKE SHSBSBVSBSBD

and I get that to a media person the subjects are mostly valuable for how good they are on camera bc even Andrea only gets a passing mention in this post compared to a bromance and he’s the actual architect that Lando himself says is behind this win - but he’s also famously deer in the headlights when a camera is on him.

it does possibly explain why the quality and quantity of McLaren content took a sudden nosedive not long after Oscar joined. (side note that Joe also moved on from McLaren early this year who was on the media team and spent a lot of social time with Oscar and posted him more) it’s a lil sad bc if you watch any of Oscar’s Prema content where he feels comfortable and friendly with the people behind the cameras he’s hilarious and willing to “dance” and yap and be silly. even in Alpine he was actually known by broadcast teams for being funny and a sardonic yapper and meme guy. but I think the McLaren ppl mistook Oscar coming into the team in the worst possible way PR wise and clamming up as a result as that being his real personality. Nicole saying how she wanted more people to see his real personality and ironically Carlos himself warming so much to Oscar despite the on track rivalry and not rly hanging out like… I hope the media team maybe start this next season fresh and realize that people who aren’t naturals on camera are still worth putting in effort to help them relax and be themselves. and if one of the people who’s been there for so many years put in that effort then it would have a big ripple effect !!

again I am not gonna post those asks bc a)do NOT support any harassment (however well intentioned) of employees just doing their jobs and b)in the grand scheme of things socmed does not matter and c)Oscar thankfully is blissfully unaware and/or does NOT care. he brings up Carlos and Daniel and carland0 totally on his own and he is utterly free of ego about his perception or presence in McLaren media.

and while it definitely means less Oscar and therefore landoscar content per capita or whatever the phrase is, the whole landoscar dynamic is that it’s so completely not slick fun millennial YouTuber ready PR content and they’re funny and cute and have their own unique chemistry even in the under 2 minutes allowed them for each video. and ofc Oscar has his own social media to put his dry humor and chronically online references <3

but as I saw in comments on a different post, Oscar might take longer to win over the media people but the people who matter most like Andrea and the ppl in the garage and factory and crucially !! the women working directly with him all utterly utterly adore him. he’s quietly there just being a hard worker and proving himself <3

and ultimately ofc the people who don’t like that Lando said he’s decided to not joke or perform as much for media (and saying he picked up from Oscar to just be himself and relax more) can always go back to the old content! and since Carlos creates the same fun bromance atmosphere with all his teammates I mean we all know Team Torque is about to become one of the best parts of race week media. Williams media team is going to eat him UPPPP

anyway yea none of it is deep it just got me thinking about how Oscar post alpinegate withdrew so much and so many ppl haven’t looked up who he was before to realize what a fun silly chatty kitten he is and that ofc he must be bc Lando holds him in his hand lovingly for a reason - and I do think when the ppl who got used to the Carlos and Daniel school of media warm up to Oscar and learn him more we’ll get that high res DSLR filmed content again instead of portrait iPhone instagram <3

(side note the whole thing if Unboxed dropping bc of DTS got debunked. DTS hasn’t stopped any other teams content and if it were true then Lando wouldn’t be allowed to make Landologs. this was definitely a media team decision made midway thru 2023)

[azelmaandeponine]

Genuinely THANK YOU for defending Ford this fandom was driving me insane oh my gof THANK FUCKS THERE'S STILL PEOPLE WITH LOGIC IN HERE

You're welcome. I love Ford and find him very relatable, so I'll always defend him. And yes, this fandom is...frustrating, to put it lightly. I know fandoms in general tend to be ableist and victim blame-y and don't have media literacy and lack nuance...but the Gravity Falls fandom is worse in that regard than most fandoms.

And what's worse is that the Gravity Falls fandom has had time to mature and grow, but they haven't. If anything, they've gotten worse.

[momotonescreaming]

Why did you make the 2nd Miceli date into something it's not? Because you needed a reason to blame Buck for Tommy's cowardice?

I compared the two Miceli's dates in my fic because I thought it'd be compelling. And I thought Tommy would notice that in both instances Buck didn't claim him as his date, and then reflect on that after the breakup. I thought it would be interesting to write about, and it was. Because Buck didn't claim Tommy as his date both times. And it was a full circle moment I wanted to pick apart.

Nowhere did I blame Buck. They both hard parts to play in the breakup, but I wanted to explore Tommy's side and how what Buck was doing and saying (or not doing and not saying) affected him and what he did.

That fic was Tommy saying whatever came to mind and processing the breakup from his point of view. It was a character study. Because Tommy is a character I like. I shouldn't have to say this.

I even added a friendly little disclaimer on AO3 that what Tommy's saying is from his perspective, and is such biased because he's emotional. But clearly I forgot that this is the piss on the poor reading comprehension website.

And finally - if you don't like it, don't read it, and definitely don't tell the author about it

[tingedautumn]

if you look at Hell's Greatest Dad song at a different, more Charlastor-tinted lens angle, you'll find it's actually foreshadowing!

The entire time Alastor has been showing Charlie how he's such a good future husband for her and how he'd be such a good dad to their future kids! Why else would he show off being a thoughtful father cradling his child (Nifty) and put Charlie in his own bed (then episodes later lay in her own bed too)? The "I care for you just like a daughter I spawned" and "you can almost call me dad" lines is actually foreshadowing that Alastor will be a girldad in the future!

(obviously I'm joking but I just really want a dad!Alastor and mom!Charlie so bad)

"a different more charlastor-tinted lens" way ahead of you bestie i am in the mindscape imagining them making out all the time constantly

i do want to say before i start crying about alastor being a girldad, i do sincerely think dad beat dad got MASSIVELY misunderstood by the r/a fans because that song is a charlastor song from top to bottom. obviously i'm putting a romantic spin on it but it's so genuinely a charlastor song while simultaneously showing how out of touch lucifer is with charlie. alastor clicked IMMEDIATELY on lucifer not knowing his own daughter and not only told charlie in EXACT detail how he could help her (with piano accompaniment no less!!!) he also spelled it out for lucifer that charlie does not need or want things. she wants support.

support like holding their beautiful child while charlie has a restful nap BROUGHT IT BACK FULL TEARS #WINNING

[sherlocking-out-loud]

I'm confused about your recent tags. Buck and Eddie are both flawed and mess up and make mistakes and have acted like assholes and the buddie fandom accepts this.

first of all, Eddie is canonically a heterosexual character, so he doesn't even belong in this conversation. second, a part of the buddie fandom doesn't accept that other gay character is flawed, and has messed up and was an asshole in the past - they even ignore that he has changed and was forgiven by the same characters that he wronged and keep accusing him of *still* being a racist and misogynist. and they've also accused him of being predatory just because he's a bit older than his partner and he made a daddy kink joke (a joke he didn't initiate, he just joined in!!). so indeed those people are very tolerant of flawed queer characters, *except* if they are in the way of their ship going canon.