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acephobic people are actually so wild to me. like why??? do you care?? if a stranger wants to have sex or not?? it's ridiculous
#just leave people be#nobody is obligated to have sex#and it's entirely reasonable to have no desire to partake in it#sex isn't what makes us human#it's completely fine to enjoy it#and to find value in having it#but you have no right to judge others if they don't share those feelings#we're all the same species#we're all people#and someone's identity shouldn't negate the basic respect that should come with talking to a fellow human being#it's as impossible to 'stop' asexuality as it is to force someone to enjoy a food they dislike#everyone is different but we're all fundamentally people#and should treat each other as such#sorry for the rant#one of my mutuals reblogged lots of ace-positive stuff#and so many of the acephobic replies in them were just#so infuriating#we all have the right to an opinion#and we all have the right to be treated with respect#so before you state one of yours that is abjectly hateful towards anyone#stop for a moment#and think about why the heck you'd want to share that with them#there's enough hatred in this world already#we should be supporting people#not putting them down#asexual#i'm not ace myself#but plenty of people close to me are#the rest of my tags got cut off <//3#too many opinions <///3
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new idea: shen yuan transmigrates into a pidw version with abo dynamics, but he doesn't know about it.
he knows what abo is, but it's so far removed from his expectations that it simply doesn't cross his mind at all. with that, cang qiong is a respectable, upstanding sect, so there is no growling, claiming, scent pushing or primal instinct stuff going on. people also don't mention it, as it's simply not relevant most of the time, and is considered rude to discuss unprompted.
shen qingqiu, of course, is an omega (the characters who make the best omegas are the ones who would hate it the most), but he has suppressed it with his qi for most of his life because he doesn't want to be seen as weak. the other peak lords assume he's a beta.
now, i'm not a traditional abo dynamic fan, but, there is something very appealing to me about the nesting and scenting aspect of it.
it starts out slow and painfully oblivious, with shen yuan assuming cultivators must have a really good sense of smell, and it's simply book logic that every character seems to have a signature scent. all those romance novels always mention characters smelling of pine and flowers and scotch and leather, so this isn't a foreign concept. liu qingge, for instance, is the bai zhan war god, girls fall for him left and right, it's only natural he smells of musk and deep woodsy notes, like the earth after it rains. right?
besides that, shen yuan has always been a homebody who loves his creature comforts, so him getting extra blankets and pillows and soft fabrics for his bed to curl up in isn't odd at all. or him collecting soft pretty things. shen qingqiu already has fans and night pearls and hair ribbons and silky clothes, so nothing changes.
then without-a-cure hits.
the poison breaks down the suppressors that the original shen qingqiu put in place, and his body starts restoring the balance. this worsens the cravings, and sets off his omega instincts.
he gathers more blankets, but it doesn't fill the need, like there's something missing. then liu qingge forgets his outer robe in his house after a meridian cleansing to deal with an emergency, and that robe ends up in his bed. he tries to reason it's a comfort thing—he wore his dad's sweater when he was young and had nightmares, and liu qingge does smell very nice, so is it really that strange that he holds it at night and presses his face against the collar where the scent is the strongest to soothe himself?
his own scent starts to develop as well, much stronger than the mild, watery green tea flavor from before, and people notice.
thing is, though, that there are many formalities and rules of conduct around omegas, one of which is not to bring up their status in any improper or unbidden way. so even though the alpha lords now notice a very distinct omega scent coming off their shixiong, they can't mention it out of societal pressure. so, they don't.
shen yuan still doesn't notice a thing.
the first time liu qingge smells it is during their bi-weekly cleansing session, when shen qingqiu leans in and liu qingge gets a mouthful of green tea, bamboo and honeyed jasmine, soft and sweet and pleased and so very content it sets off his alpha brain and he has to rein himself in before he starts releasing his own pheromones like some inexperienced teenager—
he's only just grown used to their amity and their habit of sharing tea and cakes after the cleansing, but now shen qingqiu is sitting there smiling at him and smelling like—like liu qingge is spoiling him and, making him feel safe...
he doesn't bring it up, downs his tea, and leaves.
meanwhile shen qingqiu keeps happily nesting away, filling his bed with all kinds of soft fabrics, some clothes of other people that he's trying really hard not to think about. everything is going well, binghe just turned sixteen and the girls are calling him an 'alpha', so his little bun is growing well into his protagonist charms! yue qingyuan comes by more often, acting a little strange but shen qingqiu is used to that by now. he looks very bashful offering him a ribbon of his, a pretty silver one that smells of incense and ozone, and shen qingqiu happily accepts it.
one time binghe comes back bruised and scuffed from a fight with bai zhan disciples, and shen qingqiu tsks at the strange smells on him, do those brutes ever bathe?? he rubs his hands over binghe's sleeves to try and get some of it off, and his poor bun must still be in shock because he stares wide-eyed at his shizun. he must also be getting forgetful because shen qingqiu finds that same robe still unwashed a week later in binghe's bedroom.
he also loves it when people brush or play with his hair, it's his favorite part of the evening when binghe helps him take down his hair for the night. the combs feel so nice on his scalp, if he could purr he would! (binghe's heart sobs quietly behind him, in complete disbelief his master is purring at him).
his icy, lofty demeanor has all but shattered, because now every time he tries to act aloof, like when yue qingyuan gives him a present or liu qingge shows up on his doorstep, his sweet, pleased scent betrays him.
the opposite is true, as well, when without-a-cure flares up and he's in pain and his scent goes sour and distressed, even when he's waving everyone off saying he's fine. the entire house smells of burnt tea leaves and ash after a nightmare, and shen qingqiu is very confused when liu qingge comes to pick him up for a meeting but then refuses to leave.
anyway he doesn't find out until after the conference when airplane tells him to keep his acrid scent under control, his house is starting to stink.
#yqy finds a robe of his in sqqs bed once and his alpha brain goes !!!!! and he cant stop preening for like. a month#sqq wonders if the original goods had cat genes or smth because he keeps wanting to rub his head against people for some reason#he just deserves to curl up in a nest of blankets and pillows and coziness#preferably with a mate or two or three#cuddling into them all warm and cozy and purring and being held as they call him a good boy and kiss his forehead#also shen yuan being woefully oblivious to societal norms is so delicious to me like getting super intimate bc he doesn't know the formalit#and yes he HAS ended up in someone else's bed before. either lqg or yqy both of whom would never wash that pillow again#alphas betas and omegas have absolutely been mentioned in sqqs vicinity it's just that it flew right over his head#''liu qingge is an alpha? why of course! he's the bai zhan war god! can't get more masculine than that!''#all he can think about is those youtube videos of ''how to be an alpha male to attract high value women''#svsss#abo#omega shen qingqiu#scum villain#svsss abo au#shen qingqiu#liu qingge#liushen#luo binghe#yue qingyuan#shen yuan#bingqiu
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I think it's incredibly important to remind folks on testosterone or folks who want to reverse patterned baldness about their options, but man, does it sometimes suck wondering how much of our insecurities about our hair stem from backwards beliefs that to strive towards beauty is not only preferable but "makes you good."
As someone with a rather masculinized body pre-medical transition, patterned baldness has always seemed neutral. Hair is incredibly important (hell, much of my own energy is spent on my hair because I like it), but the pressure to have hair, to have hair the "right way" is something that I absolutely loathe.
I'm not here to judge people who don't want patterned hair loss or baldness, I'm here to say that those traits will never make you lesser. Not only is it neutral, but it is also just as worthy and beautiful.
#trans#transgender#lgbt#lgbtq#ftm#mtf#nonbinary#this especially goes for folks who may be transfem or trans women experiencing patterned hair loss/baldness#i love you and think you are gorgeous<3#i mentioned trans folks going on t because that's a lot of my own experience#i already had a somewhat masc hairline before t and now it's just settling in...#...i found that i'm fortunate in that way for having an already masculine body and i think that's why my changes are more...#...like unpacking your house rather than moving to a new home if that makes sense#but i find that the beauty culture around hair adds even more unnecessary stress for those who want or value their hair#i am beauty culture's number one hater
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#wurmple#no talk them they angy‚ i think#baby#okay. i hate trade evos and all. right#but this evolution is just. it's somethin#right. just the straight-up randomness of which one you get#if you are profoundly unlucky enough you could be searching For ever for the right wurmple#and you have to level 'em all up‚ too#and then you just Magically find out which one it is bc personality values are hidden from the player#don't like it. but at least it is NOT a trade evo#but it is slightly worse than tyrogue
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The thing is, no matter who you ship Batman with, there's no version of the identity reveal that's not objectively hilarious.
Whether it's Selina or Clark or literally whoever, just imagine that you have fallen in love with Batman. This is a man who is very intelligent, likely the most capable and competent person you know, one of the few humans who can go toe to toe with metahumans, and he acts a bit aloof and gruff, but as you get to know him you realize that he is an extremely caring person. He is out night after night, putting his life and safety at risk because he loves his city and feels such a strong responsibility towards making it better in any way he can. He is one of the bravest men you know and you admire his skills and dedication.
And finally, finally, he is about to reveal his identity to you. You know how much this means, how much trust is involved, and then he pulls back his cowl and it's motherfucking Bruce Wayne. Like what even--How do you respond to that? How do you reconcile everything you know and love about Batman with Bruce Wayne. That's--that's not...This is supposed to be a big romantic moment and you can't even respond because what the fuck??
You feel a headache coming on.
#bruce will remember and deeply value the face selina made when she found out forever#he can practically hear superman's head exploding#i know talia already knows but imagine the meltdown she would have if she didn't and just found out#any reaction that is not a character bluescreening after finding out is incorrect#batman#bruce wayne#superbat#batcat#dc#dc comics#mine
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The Enchanted Horse (1992) written by Magdalen Nabb, illustrated by Julek Heller
For @horsefigureoftheday
#this book was so fucking creepy#i think forth grade me would have eaten that shit up#i skimmed the story while looking for the illustrations#and yes i understand its a metaphor for growing up#and it has “values” and “empathy” and such#but the blind man who runs the junk shop has deff killed someone#i say this with love and affection#i do love an impromptu book selection on my part#real tunnel vision after finding it on the#internet archive#and cleaning it up with#photopea#anyways#the enchanted horse#magdalen nabb#Julek Heller#1992#horses#horse art#horse#equids#illustration#1990s#nineties#90s#juvenile fiction#christmas#rural gothic#rural america#rural decay
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I'm really struggling with communication right now, so I'm gonna be a bit distant for a bit. I really appreciate the patience n kindness 💗
#i feel like ive been struggling to get back to people all month#ty especially to the anon who sent a kind message irt my post about processing familial death / alienation when#everyone related to you has passed with society valuing blood relation etc#im gonna try and find a therapist soon (again) bc. Just a lot going on internally.#like. today i realized that I have only seen a message of 'i love you' from my mom written for someone else.#bc she didnt get to ever write one for me. or if she ever had it was kept from me#and it really messed with me today#idk I just always get messed up in the period between birthday and holidays n overthink. but i hope everyone else is well#and im sorry if i havent been able to be there for you if youre reading this and have been waiting for my response.#I really wish that as I got older I got more well / stronger mentally.
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A 1 design I cooked up!
#cricket doodles#my art#bfdi#tpot#xfohv#battle for dream island#the power of two#osc#object show community#bfdi one#tpot one#xfohv one#gijinka#bfdi gijinka#x finds out his value#algebraliens#osc gijinka#SO MANY FUCKING TAGS.#Anywho 1 looks a little more cartoony than my other osc gijinkas but that's because I have different rules for algebraliens than objects#Mainly bc well. They're aliens. But also because they're stylistically different from the objects#They have eye whites and malleable shapes and thick limbs that make them much more expressive and squishy looking#So! Instead of making them look like people that are themed around a specific object I made them look like cartoon characters.#Their clothes are essential to their silhouettes and also basically part of their body– they also don't have noses#and also have these huge wide eyes rather than the dots I draw object gijinkas with#In short I put much more focus on silhouette and shape language for algebraliens. I need her to still look like a 1 with legs
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Some actual humanizations instead of numberheads bc i dont draw those as often
Third image isn't recent so its a bit different than the other 2
#bfdi#battle for dream island#tpot#osc#the power of two#xfohv#x finds out his value#art#bfb four#bfb x#tpot two#tpot one#xfohv four#xfohv x#xfohv two#xfohv one#my one gijinka looks much better humanized tbh#i have more i havent rlly drawn yet#spoiler alert two is one of the only white gijinkas i have#i find that funny
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genuinely what is the worst that could happen if you stop apologizing for liking homestuck or if you stop saying things like "homestuck is cursed don't read it it's so bad don't make the same mistakes as me save yourself while you can etc etc" when in actuality you enjoyed it. what's the worst that will happen if you just enjoy it like a normal person
#yes there are going to be people who don't like homestuck that will find you annoying for liking homestuck#and i understand that you can't jedi mind trick your way out of feeling the need to have everyone like you#but i promise that it's okay if someone finds you annoying. you can't have everyone on the planet like you. and that's okay!!#you shouldn't value the opinion that every single person online has of you
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What do you think gay men are attracted to in men that they can’t be attracted to in women?
It can’t be anything about femininity or masculinity obviously. That’s both sexist, and cultural so can’t be what drives men-only attraction.
It can’t be anything about stated identity because someone could lie just as easily as they could tell the truth in such a statement, and it makes no sense because homosexuality and heterosexuality exists in other species with no stated identities. It’s not like other animals without gender are all pan.
Saying idk it’s the vibes or some indescribable trait men have that women can’t but “I can’t explain” is a nonanswer.
Soooooooo what is it? Or do you think any sexuality but bi/pan is just cultural performance or an identity rather than an inborn orientation?
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I think trying to find one perfect answer that applies universally is the critical mistake here. I mean, I am a gay man. I say this because as of yet, that's the clearest answer I have for myself personally; maybe there's a possibility I experience attraction to a woman at some point (maybe I already have???), but I don't really have clarity on that right now, and it doesn't serve me to shape or explain my identity around "maybe"s.
Trying to pinpoint exactly what it is that attracts me to other men, specifically, is also like... not that useful. I used to find myself really attracted to feminine men specifically; not feminine women, not masculine women, not masculine men, not androgynous anyone, but feminine men. Specifically, men who were feminine in a very particular, long-hair-certain-attitude kind of way.
Recently, I have found myself appreciating, more and more, a certain kind of masculine body type and gay masculinity that I was never really interested in before. I find it incredibly hot. A lot of that coincides with things I appreciate about my partner, too, and things I find myself appreciating more about my partner as time goes on- as well as things my partner expresses appreciation for about me!
And I haven't even touched on attraction to nonbinary folks here because, like, it's a massive spectrum. "Nonbinary" means something different for every individual nonbinary person. To my mind, of course there's a possibility I experience attraction to a nonbinary person; how they identity, present, and what attracts me to them are all even more impossible to know for certain than the "maybe"s and the "why"s around my attraction (or lack thereof) to men and women.
My relationship to my own orientation was vastly different pre-testosterone versus post-testosterone, too. I was much more reserved and uncomfortable with relationships and attraction before I started T, and the only dynamic I ever felt was even a little bit tolerable was one where I was the "masculine woman" in a lesbian relationship. I didn't realize until very shortly after starting T that, actually, I like men. A lot. I felt comfortable with my body and my masculinity in a way I never had been before, and I felt comfortable in relationships with men; I no longer felt like I was The Woman By Default in contrast.
And that's all just me! This is my personal, specific, individual relationship to attraction, and how gender- both others' and my own- factors into my relationship with orientation.
I don't think it's necessarily inborn, or completely unchanging for everyone. I also don't think the same factors apply for everyone. I think a lot of different things can be true for different people, all at once, and it's not really useful to try to pinpoint a specific, universal explanation for orientation.
Everyone has a different relationship to orientation and gender; everyone will be influenced differently by cultural factors, by their own ways of processing and understanding the world around them, by the ways different aspects of their culture, identity, personality, and inborn traits and how they all interact with one another, and sure, maybe even by biological factors and tendencies.
Trying to solve this puzzle for the entire world of diverse human beings isn't going to make it any easier to understand yourself. Focus on what this all means for you, personally, and accept that you will never, can never, fully and perfectly understand anyone else's internal world and workings. Things get a lot easier when you can let go of that & just appreciate the diversity of human experiences, y'know?
#advice#sorry if this isn't the answer you wanted anon#and honestly I recommend digging into some academic works around queer and gender studies#try some judith butler if you need a starting point#but like. people have been asking this question for some time & you will find so much more value in the answers of people whose whole lives#are dedicated to exploring the possibilities and diversity of experiences#and putting that in larger contexts with help and collaboration from a whole world of people doing similar work
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there was a third picture from that one shoot apparently
rest of my redraws can be found here!
#my art#jujutsu kaisen#jjk#megumi fushiguro#fushiguro megumi#fanart#jjk fanart#jjk megumi#megumi#if i find more photos from this shoot i s2g......#like ill DO it if there are more i'll do yuuji voice as many as it takes but i s2g........#anyway this one was fun !!!!#i dont know if i like it more than the original 2 ghjfjgfd i think theres a reason it wasn't included in the twt post#but i Did have fun getting 2 zoom in more on his scrunchy face#gave me a bit of trouble bc his hair covers some pretty key parts tht catch the light in the og#i couldnt have them catch the light here which was Awkward#head in hands god his hair#his hair is my enemy . stylized megu hair i have down 2 a science but realistically rendered megu hair i think wants me dead#the combination of needing 2 have a semi-realistic cut + front view + slightly lookdown angle....#suffering and agony and 2hrs on the skew tool#but we got there!!!!!#ws checking values which i like. never do . but i realized i rly like the monochrome ver also so i made a copy :')))#tb to my graphite portrait era lmao ur welcome 15 y/o hina
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ep 43 had me tearing up in a fucking shopping centre ‼️‼️
b+w alt version that I truly couldn't decide if I liked it more . Also I included a lot of thoughts in the tags but they're somewhat incoherent<3
#i dont know what i expected but i was waiting for a friend and too excited to wait until later#malevolent podcast#john doe#john doe malevolent#john malevolent#malevolent fanart#grimm art#ep 43#ep 43 left me with a lot of thoughts ... i didnt quite like how much of a recap it felt like at times but that might#be because ive been relistening and like yeah everyone knows that john 🙄 but that's not the case for everyone and with monthly uploads#things get forgotten easily#i find the discussion of “humanity” so interesting because John has shown that without someone that he has forcibly grown to value as an#equal... something he cannot do as the king of yellow as he is superior to all of his realm and presumably stays out of other elder god's#anyway. without that equality and enviroment to grow he fails to reach his goal of compassion and falls onto old ways.#John. The King in Yellow. shown by both times each has found themselves in human form do not just crave power and influence!!!#THEY CRAVE COMMUNITY!!! an endrich being not born or raised with nothing but power and ego#CRAVES COMMUNITY.#His goal of “humanity” is not a selfless goal like John projects - it is ultimately somewhat selfish as he does not want to be alone!!#which makes this desire so much more human#i don't know maybe this is just me spelling out whats already there but the way john and the witch argued about humanity frustrated me#it felt like they were missing the point or that perhaps the “good/evil” “black/white” retoric was already realised by me and john needed#realise it himself . which is fair !!!#i dont know!!!!#the witch was talking about how bad everyone was and how humanity is cruel and john was talking about Lily (#who also frustrates me how shes used in the plot somewhat she was literally just a nurse doing her job bro#) but to John - yes internally he is struggling with his moral greyness and im so proud of him for growing being himself SO PROUD#JUST.!!! he wants community. he needs community. he loves his friend. 'humanity' at its core does not matter as long as you try to be bette#and i think thats awesome and i really enjoyed the episode#guhh im rambling enjoy my tag rambling i dont know i want john to have more friends :(#yorrick can be another friend godd i love you yorrick so silly
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one sided // mutual
still obsessed with the intimacy of body language when the faces are obscured. inspired in part by Mead Schaefer's limitted palette paintings
#illustration#oc art#art#wolfgang#bastien#wolfien#happy wolfgang wednesday !! i wasnt sure i was gonna finish this but then i got possessed and wanted to do some fun value stuff#very happy with this though i did find out my new screen shows different colors than my phone :X hope it looks decent lol#still and forever in love with people looking at each other sorry. fav topic really#and! love changing people and how they are around each other even if they wont talk about it??#forever weak for how Bastien fell in love first but if Wolf never realized he would have died with that secret inside him i guess#and Wolfgang letting themself be more of a pathetic in love person than an Object of desire because they want to get closer to him#and Bastien barely keeping himself from touching them wahoo#anyway. i did Not work on the comic im gonna go whip myself goodnight
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idk if this is a hot take but I don't think Armin is friendly. I think people find him generally off-putting. Like, people think he looks sweet, but also find him strange; for the topics that interest him, the way he didn't stray far from Eren (& Mikasa) socially, and his general demeanor.
I think that as Armin established himself more as he grew up, he developed better interpersonal skills that compliment his rhetorical prowess. I think he's the type of person who sees value in life and in minimizing harm. He offers kindness to his friends and understanding to all. But I don't see him as particularly "friendly"
#cl thoughts#this is just my perception of the character#and everyone is allowed their own interpretation!#all of ema are off-putting idc#I'm also of course projecting a little#I forget socializing is a thing I should do#simply does not occur#so while I have similar values and way of operating to Armin I'm not received as friendly#also y'know how ppl are often revolted when neurodivergent ppl get super enthusiastic about something?#that's the reaction I see many having toward armin#though others (like eren) will find it inspiring#armin arlert#aot#snk#armin analysis#attack on titan#shingeki no kyojin#uhhh i'll tag ships too#eremin#aruani#they'll have opinions I'm sure
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Don’t meet your heroes?
I like the idea of Philip taking odd jobs to survive before finally deciding on slaughtering everyone.
#I think working customer service would make him snap so it’s perfect for him#don’t work in a restaurant if you value your sanity#the owl house#toh#emperor belos#philip wittebane#luz noceda#fairlight#Anywhen but Here!#anyway I’d love to elaborate on this AU but I have to find time to draw again#I also like the idea of like. him constantly giving everyone different names so no one knows who he is#I’m looking for Philip? oh sorry I knew a human name William no idea what happened to him tho#he snapped and walked out on me cuz I touched his ears. rude fellow#just making sure they were real. and that he could hear me#Luz finds herself with the wrong version of the man she’s looking for#he’s too young to teach her anything she doesn’t already know#and she’s too stubborn to give up. also she’s trapped here so she doesn’t have much options#none of this makes sense I should sleep#also. I’m aware all the drawings look extremely different#I’ll find my style eventually. I hope?
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