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You describing Donnie as a provider will always be so important to me because I think it’s one of the aspects people don’t use whenever they write his character. Genuinely speaking the main thing that I think gets lost in translation is that, beyond his boasting, he’s generally more passive than anything. I think his particular softness is something I kinda mourn the most in certain characterizations, because a lot of times it gets translated as aggressive protectiveness—even though his support is literally just, backline support. And more than that, he seems to enjoy that! He’s most comfortable playing support, he just wants recognition along with it!
(It’s been discussed before but I’ll say again that the odd softening of certain aspects of Raph while sharpening Donnie’s edges is kinda like. The automatic urge to associate caregiving with femininity and being a provider with masculinity. Think it’s important that Raph in particular is still very much a rough-and-tumble teenage boy, who also provides emotional support to his loved ones… alternatively I might be too woke.)
i think its funny when people give donnie a more masculine personality because aside from the fact that he's so sensitive, is he not the one that canonically enjoys granny drag
REGARDLESS I COMPLETELY AGREE WITH THIS perhaps i am ALSO that one friend who's too woke,,, this is not a game of house where raph is the mommy and donnie is the daddy and mikey is the kid and leo is the dog (actually that one might be true mb), i think its an oversimplification of their dynamic and it also gives disservice to raph who i WOULD argue is kind of canonically their father figure more than he's being given credit for. i do not mind making him feminine all (or transfem! transfem raph rocks) but i do feel like some of it stems from a kind of misogynistic perspective of him. i like that he does fr have eldest daughter syndrome while also having a pretty masculine personality ngl
i also think it shaves down some of his really interesting flaws,,, raph will occasionally be over-appeasing when he's genuinely scared of hurting people's feelings, but he can also be callous and shortsighted especially because he's a little emotionally imperceptive. he kind of stumbles when things get more emotionally complex, especially if he feels pressured to do something about it. raph generally lashes out or gets upset if he cant appease everyone (like he will actually yell or freak out this happens SO much), there's a lot of evidence for this lol. this is a big reason him and leo have a relationship that can get really rocky, they get along great when they work together but leo is extremely socially clever and perceptive, he can run circles around him and raph's solution to things is literally Smashing so he'll usually just get mad at him. he also actually shouts at them quite a bit and even whacks them a few times (and DOES try to get into a fistfight with leo in the movie are we forgetting this) like cmaaaan
^^^ raph isnt low empathy like donnie is but i DO like that he kind of sucks at reading people, especially if he's built up this idea of how they SHOULD feel, because i do think that is a very neurodivergent trait to have. my autistic/anxiety king
WITH DONNIE THOUGH!! i think its your words not mine but like. he IS already protective in canon, this isnt something that needs to be dragged into the light or played up because i would argue that donnie is an extremely protective person, i just think its a misread to treat him like he's overbearing or even like,,,, extremely nosy? if anyone's gonna get up in your business and make it all about him its gonna be mikey imo
^^ i dont mind people exploring the potential of that kind of side of him, especially because i could see stress breaking him into that kind of person, but donnie being pretty passive is one of my favorite things about him. he's built to be a follower and he likes it that way, and i think that's really evident in the way that he desperately seeks out praise for his inventions. jokes about being self-centered aside, he does it for THEM. this is way of saying he loves them, of keeping them safe. every time he jumps in front of mikey in the movie he is TERRIFIED. donnie is not an angry person in combat. literally never has been. he's either manic and gleeful because he knows he's winning or screaming and crying and throwing up because he knows he's losing LMFAOOOO
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My hottest fandom trope take:
genderswap 🤝 omegaverse = two fandom universes/tropes that consist of 90% surface level subconciouly gender bias stories that are objectively not that big of deal and not wrong per se but piss me off over how basic and boring they all are.
#ITA Original#i am seeing some omegaverse stuff on my dash more#and i started to think damn i feel strongly about omegaverse headcanon all of a sudden#like both genderswapping a character and the omegarse can do so much#narrative wise#but only if you beyond a simple character x is a cis girl now#i will proced to only change aspect that make the character more like how i think queer girls are and not interrogate anything#about how that is going to change the character#or over how gender roles and being raised with a different level of expectations from society is going change said character#and for omegaverse is like#this character is soft and touchy and small and so cute and so baby girl coded#and they are comfortable being a little feminine#that makes them an omega#like ok fair enough#but are you not bored#do you not want to interrogate how a guy that grow up in our world and is soft and feminine is going to grow up#with the internalization that they are doing maleness wrong#that their gender expression is wrong and they should not behave like that#that guys don't act like that#and not go they should be an alpha and still have the same softeness#making that character an omega is just so boring and one dimensional#oh so you made the soft character a pseudo girl#how original#anyway feel free to ingore me#sorry for the rant everyone#as always not judging (too much) you do you#feel free to do whatever makes you happy with the harmless fandom tropes#but if you do want to hear me ramble about this some more feel free to shoot me an ask
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Y'know, with all the (mostly good) writing and focus on gender in Taash's arc, I think what Neve's arc is doing in relation to gender is the most powerful thing this game does with gender (or resonates with me the most at least, a cis woman myself)
Other people have mentioned it before, but by all accounts Neve is fulfilling a "male" role in this story. She's the noir detective not the femme fatale, she's a terminal cynic, she eats bad food, she lives alone in a small apartment, and in one route of her arc she is a hardened protector of her city. All of these elements, while not necessarily restricted by gender, are absolutely associated and attributed to male characters.
But Neve also refuses to give up her femininity. She asks Taash if they "like" being a woman (implying Neve does) she wears lowcut-shirts and dresses, she ties her hair up when she goes out. Just because Neve doesn't fit what society typically thinks a woman is, she still is a woman. I can so easily see the writers going down the route that she's "not like other girls" and having her fully reject any and all femininity, and I'm so glad they didn't. It's more subtle then something like Taash's arc, sure, but I really appreciate a lot.
#i think it's subtlety is one of its strengths tbh#like cassandra had a similar thing in DAI but it was a not-unimportant part of her character that she struggles with her feminine side#while for neve it's not even an issue. she is a woman and she likes being a woman#not that neve has to perform all those feminine aspects i just don't know how else to describe how she's a woman without sounding repetitiv#i like taash and i like the broad strokes of their arc#but i find some of the dialogue a little awkward and the multicultural stuff mishandled#i think taash's arc is strengthened by neve being comfortable as a (narratively) gnc cis woman#anyway this is a positive post about neve not a negative post about taash#datv#datv spoilers#neve gallus#marie speaks
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thinking more about being trans
#because i want the voice drop of testosterone because training my voice has not been enough for me. i want some of the body shifts with it#and i want top surgery at some point#half because aesthetics + dysphoria and half bc they're just inconvenient#but i dont want to be a “man”#i dont want the capacity to grow a beard or a bunch of hair and have to shave all the time to keep up my looks the way i want#i dont want to “pass” the way some people do#i dont want bottom surgery for sure and i don't have any desire to have a dick or anything. ideally i would be like a doll with no features#i certainly have no plans to stop dressing feminine#i like being my androgynous twink self#and theres certainly a lot of aspects of femininity i do enjoy#jewelry makeup skirts certain aestheitcs long hair etc#i just want to be able to wear those things in a way that i am no longer a woman but a feminine man instead#i want to be one of those weird 80s twinks who would steal your boyfriend while wearing your dress and looking better in it#or like half the men you see in regency shows with the long hair/fine features/gentle manner etc#idk. i dont want to be a man. i genuinely feel like im putting on the wrong skin saying im a transman#genderqueer/agender is the closest i think ill ever find#but god i just wish id been born a man and then had the freedom to explore looking like a girl#little fucked up freak femboy stuck in some body that doesn't feel like its mine#maybe going on t will help me feel comfortable with growing out my hair again tho#idk. spitballing#it doesnt even matter that much rn. i have to delay my t appointment because of other medical shit#but man are there a lot of thoughts up here that will never in any way make sense to most people or be accepted by greater society
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i don't understand why everyone thinks you have to be one thing.
#you have to like cats or dogs.#you have to like hot or cold weather.#you have to be male or female.#you have to like men or women.#you have to be feminine or masculine.#you like to be kind? obviously you're some little naive flower. no you can't swear. no you can't get angry.#you like animation? you must only like little kid things. oh god we put on a violent movie - cover your delicate baby eyes.#you don't drink alcohol? you must be boring and hate fun#you're gay - why the hell would you enjoy a romance story between men and women?#you bought a skirt? finally! you can start being the woman we'd always hoped you'd be#you love your family right? that means you'll agree with everything we think right?#i'm just so tired#i'm so sick of being shoved into little fucking boxes or being forced to wear as many different masks as i can#to make other people more comfortable or to be more palpable for others to consume
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idk man on paper tim riggins is like the last character youd expect to have a good time showing up in drag in front of his whole high school and yet...
really makes you think
#like he was VERY comfortable in that little skirt and pigtails#and i think about it every day#and this is a recurring theme in the series with him like he is constantly joking about being pregnant or being feminine and i dont think#theyre jokes guys....
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The Curses swapped clothes!
Despite how moody Jewel looks, he and Curse are friends. They enjoy each other's company, even if they don't understand each other that well. Jewel's just being bratty because he misses his bandana and doesn't like thigh-highs. Plus, having his chest exposed makes him flustered. As for that mark on his stomach, that's from the Knuckles incident. He doesn't know that, though.
#sonic#sonic.exe#sonic exe#curse#curse of x#jewel#the cursed jewel#a little fact: while Curse is comfortable with being feminine Jewel is more on the masculine side#he isn't a dude bro or anything#he doesn't really put much thought into his appearance#but “girly” things make him uncomfortable#this is also why he's more buff while Curse is curvy#also no there's nothing wrong with feminine men#not at all#i'm just explaining a part of Jewel's character#curse sonic#cursesweep
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hm. having a mini gender crisis in the middle of my shift again
#pentababbles#good LORD is this getting annoying#got hit by a sudden dysphoria attack while talking to a girl and had to ask myself:#am I a trans guy or just really really butch??#like I feel. othered. from cishet women with my alternate lifestyle in spite of both sharing space with them AND being attracted to them#even though I know they see me as one of them so immediately I am Not a Threat despite not performing femininity very well#and I feel no communion or comraderie with cishet men. despite longing to emulate aspects of their performances#I don’t really wanna be seen as a ‘man’ but I don’t wanna be seen as a woman either#to women I want to be seen as an object of attraction. to my friends I want to be seen as masc. to men I want to be seen as a threat#and these things don’t all automatically line up with being a man…#I think I would be more comfortable with femininity if I was at least allowed to be masculine first.#like. I NEED to go shopping in the men’s section so so bad#I’d really like to start taking t. on a low dose#just for a little while then stop once I achieve certain permanent changes I want (low voice + bottom growth)#I wanna get back into exercising to trim some fat#specifically the fat in more feminine areas. I really want that Britney Griner type chest#I’ve also contemplated the name ‘Abraham’ for my irls to call me when I feel less femme#kinda like my butch bartender oc Quincy except I’m. not that muscular and not a she/her#although I’d probably be more comfortable with she/her if I wasn’t forced into femininity so often#I think at the end of the day though. I’m not a trans guy just a weird dyke#bc I like feminine labels specifically in a lesbian manner: I’m okay with being called girlfriend or wife but not with daughter or sister#I’m dykegender. does all that make sense
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me feeling bad about being unaligned with binary gender and then i think about how Guz would just Get It right off the bat because honestly idk how it's such a hard concept for ppl to grasp 😭 and it makes me feel a little better fdsfjkl
#i feel bad sometimes like oohh ur such a special snowflake for not being feminine OR masculine oooh u wanna be special so bad#no you Made-Up-Person-in-my-Brain. no i dont want to be special actually fdsjkl#i really wish this was just normal. i so badly want to just be normal#honestly i start thinking ''maybe i should just be okay with being considered feminine or masculine. i should just pick one i guess''#but no !! neither fit right !! both make me uncomfortable !!#i do understand the concepts of both but i exist outside of them somehow! and idk why thats so difficult for ppl to grasp!#it is just a little lonely seeing posts talking about ''feminine ppl or masculine ppl'' like. okay i dont fit either of those. damn.#and it feels alienating bc i guess ppl dont know unaligned folk exist! transneutral is such a rare label to see talked about!#''this is nonbinary inclusive bc im saying masculine and feminine :)'' WHAT IS SO HARD TO GRASP ABOUT NON-BINARY. ITS RIGHT IN THE NAME!#why are u re-inventing the gender binary !!!!!! u just changed the words ur using for binary gender WHAT 😭😭😭#i think maybe i resent that i have to force myself into one category or the other for other ppls comfort tbh fdsjkl like. can i just exist.#but i do think Guz would genuinely just understand it immediately. not just because i Want him to LOL.#he'd be like ''ohhh theres a word for that? hell yeah that rules. i'll have to see if a few of the grunts heard about this shit yet''#bc im sure there'd be a wide range of queer kids on the team LOL#if u get a bunch of misfits together ur going to have like... a LOT of queer ppl in the group FDSJFKL#dandy.cmd#vent //#💜so good at being in trouble
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uterus has been yeeterused
#so i had a hysterectomy about two weeks ago and it's insane how much better i feel not only physically but mentally#i havent felt this in tune with my body since i was a kid#i finally feel like im on the path to how i want my body to be like and i never understood just how much i was affected by#both gender dysphoria and physical disease (endometriosis) until i got almost everything removed in there#im solidly sure im nonbinary now instead of having conflicting feelings about it#i feel much better about expressing my strange femininity and being perceived as feminine#i feel more spiritual too?? idk how to describe it#im just confused a little about why this had such a big impact on me since yeah it did give me dysphoria to a degree but i didnt think it#was THAT bad#i feel more in tune with my child self; like i feel like a grown up version of my 9 year old self and more confident#my mind is much calmer and i just feel so present and one with my body. i finally feel like i could meditate comfortably withouf wanting to#escape my mind or body?? idk idk it's so so weird#anyway im also in much less pain despite not being able to do much of anything and still healing from surgery#and i know that having this done isnt a cure but god i hope i get lucky and that the endo doesnt come back anyway#it's amazing to be able to love my body instead of being mad at it because it causes me pain and does things that i dont want it to#idk if that's a fully healthy mindset or not but that#that's what's been going on in my life so far
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looking at auckland g pics and fucking crying crying crying being trans is so hard except for when it is beautiful and my hand is being metaphorically held by people like me saying i see you against all odds please choose to survive look at what we can do if we show up for each other (gway in a beautiful secretary outfit prancing happy and joyful and full of energy onstage in their mid 40’s)
#i am not articulating this the best i could but the mutual continuous flow of love btwn mcr fans who are gnc and feminine and gerard#the beautiful ways that our comfort makes him more comfortable and their comfort makes us more comfortable. perpetual trans motion machine#this is sincere unironic and i am so tired and so sleepy and i keep fucking crying and feeling silly abt it and then looking at a pic and#being like oh fuck this isnt silly at all this is so important and special and beautiful and i am rlly happy to be a trans mcr fan#in the gway gnc outfits across multiple tour legs post return timeline#d.riv.el#feeling a LITTLE wild crying in my room alone about bug girl and how special she is to me at 2/3:30 am
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#tag talk#fuck. I might just be a straight woman.#like. I like men. and the more I transition the more I vibe with binary womanhood.#sure I don't like getting shoved into restrictive femininity. but I vibe with womanhood as separate from femininity.#anyway. I might be straight. and In ten years it's very possible that being trans becomes a much less huge part of my life#because it will stop being something that I do and something that I wish for and simply something that I am#yeah yeah whatever hi my name is Reggie and I like men#I just. as much as I don't like certain restrictive gender roles I find myself slotting very comfortably into others#and I realize that my idea of gender and their roles was very much shaped by my female role models growing up#and a lot of the disconnect and distress when growing up was due to not being able to follow the path everyone else did.#all my girl friends were growing up into women and I was stuck on the man track.#and being gay was the closest I could get to being myself#but I'm closer than I've ever been before to being able to live my truth as myself#still not gonna shave my legs unless it's sometime in the future for a very specific event.#I like them fuzzy. they make me feel cool.#I like having some cultural masculinity still. I just don't want to be defined by it#talking about my binary trans experience is always a little weird because I'm aware of how binary I'm describing things#and I get that if my words were used to describe someone else's experience it might end up sounding hella transphobic#but these words are for me. they're my experience. they're my life not someone else's.#and this is how my identity works.#it's like how feminism protects the right of trad wives to be trad wives.#we just gotta recognize that just because one woman wants to be the designated dishwasher not every woman feels that way.#anyway. I might be dating a guy by this time next week. he's cool so far and we kinda got match-made by a mutual friend#we watched Redline tonight and it's hella good#he's really cool but I feel like I've got something to provide and to bring to the relationship. so we're still on peer-level I think.#which is new. usually I'm way ahead of the other person. maybe my fault for fishing in the bad fish barrel#the emotionally damaged and burdened fish barrel.
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The green hair + bowl cut combination looks absolutely amazing btw and you look so happy in your pics
Thank you, anon 🥹tell past me 10 years ago that I'd get a green bowl cut and love it + actually have fun taking pictures of myself with it and I'd call you a liar 😆
#life is a funny thing#I mean sure I could maybe see myself loving green hair at 18 because my favourite drummer had had green hair#but never in my life would little newly adult me who'd just stopped wearing hand me down addidas clothes#in favour of all-tight black alternative clothes and newly dyed black fluff hair#see myself being this excited for oversized t-shirts and a bowl cut#also 18 year old me would probably look extra hard at the beard#but in the end I feel like past me would start to get it after a while#after all I never really felt overly comfortable being feminine - at most I just vibed (until I couldn't anymore)#welcome back to micah babbling in the tags#replies
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oh did i post abt... no i didn't. A week ish ago (before I had covid) I was making cookies and asked my brother to hang out with me and he was like "yeah let me get ready for bed tho" and while I was mixing the dough and waiting for him, i hear his voice in the hallway say "i got permission from THREE black people to do this" and my heart fucking dropped like what the fuck and then he walks in wearing a bonnet and im like "that preamble was unnecessary . I thought you were about to do something awful" that was so scary guys. Also he's growing his hair out and it's the curliest in our immediate family so this was no shock to me. But I had to recover for a minute.
#im excited for him growing his hair out!!! he also got his nails done and is embracing his favorite color being purple like yesssssss#<- he used to be comfortable doing ''feminine'' things when he was little but got badly bullied and stopped and now hes doing what he wants!#very excited for him finding what he likes and hopefully liking himself more than he has. i love him a lot and im always worried for him..#.ares
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ouuugh
#i wish i felt more comfortable being feminine because fem clothes are so PRETTY#but no#dysphoria + autism say need to wear jeans and jumper.only#i'm a little bit sad#about this#in an alternate universe i would be much more feminine#but in an alternate universe maybe i wouldn't be trans#:(#best i can do is befriend someone who presents feminine and make clothes for them#second hand femininity#mumbles
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Gender is confusing and really really fun because I will spend such a considerable amount of time thinking “I wish I was a trans man and could take steps to be more masculine but alas I am not that tm”
#my posts#personal#I often feel like I’m too feminine to be considered nonbinary but as comfortable as I’ve been getting with being nonbinary#there is still a little something that just#isn’t quite right#it feels WAY more correct than being cis but also I spend 8+ hours a day roleplaying as a cis woman#and that makes it all even more confusing#I’ll think that just because I am not distressed that maybe I am cis after all#I say while in distress#I wish I could just exist how I want without deep seated fear of judgement
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