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It’s easy for people to criticize protectors for how we react to perceived threats —
Some of us get defensive, some of us get loud, or completely freeze up, or run for safety, or suddenly collapse and can’t move, or become mute, or have extreme fawn reactions … and to the outside, it seems over the top.
Or maybe you think it’s not fair that we saw you as a threat because you got angry and yelled. Maybe you think it’s childish that we sprinted out of the house or scary that we kicked into “fight” mode.
We had to identify threats fast. We had to do what it took to survive. To protect our system and our physical body and mind.
And we can and should learn to react more proportionally. But our instincts aren’t ridiculous or made to victimize you. They made sense in the traumatic environment that created us. They’re the only reason we’re still here now.
We still fall back on that because it worked and we survived.
#actually did#actually dissociative#osddid#sysblr#dissociative identity disorder#did system#actually osdd#sbc system tag: thorn 🥀#I am the ‘angry’ protector#I’ve been learning how to handle conflict better#I know I can’t just flip out on people#I know trauma isn’t an excuse#for losing control#but right now#someone is mad at me#for identifying their behavior as threatening#and removing myself from the situation#because I knew I was triggered#and I couldn’t control my response#so I left#and then tried to talk about my concerns later#and this person#is PISSED#purely because#I was seeing red flags#and even though I stepped away and left the room#they’re upset that I was triggered by them#I’ve seen people get upset#when Casper or Lyka run away and hide#saying it’s childish
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sometimes
hearing other people talk
is overstimulating
it’s ok to take a break
#Inspired by how I get over stimulated#I tend to get pretty irritable#So I just remove myself from the situation before#I snap at someone#rottmnt#rottmnt fandom#rottmnt donnie#rottmnt fanart#rise donnie#rise of the tmnt#I think I’m getting a hang of drawing donnie#Not so much the others#<<<I’ll have to work on that#ALL HAIL#DONNIE WITH EYELINER#mini comic#Jay txt#♥️literaladhdart♥️
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had a blood test
#this is the second time ive drawn myself getting medical attention from a fictional guy who should not be giving anyone medical attention#though mohg is at least extremely experienced in removing blood from peoples bodies. if a little overzealous about it.#but he could remove an appropriate amount of blood for a blood test if he had the inclination. .................#other one i drew was starscream comically large needle covid shot. he should not be doing that. theres no situation he would be good at tha#i basically drew the same comic lmao#scoobposting#scoob scribble
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He said "Fuck this shit, I'm out" I'm crying. Toriyama's Vegeta was so top shelf 🤌
(From Neko Majin Z Chapter 5!)
#dbtag#Idk why Toei didn't lean into Vegeta being a version of Piccolo you could put in funnier situations like Toriyama wrote#He's reserved and professional and proud but JUST immature enough to bite down on a gag that Piccolo would readily swerve#But they take a lot of Goku's chaotic comedy away too in favor of Hero(tm) writing and that is why I keep pulling my hair out aklsjdlas#Toriyama was sO funny and it bums me out so much that the anime derailed how lighthearted and straight up silly the humor is#and replaced it with Misogyny Is Funny and humiliation kinks asjklfhadjk and it's not just my complaints about Vegeta and Bulma!!#“Goku is running away from his very reasonable wife because he is a goofy little guy who doesn't want to do his chores” becomes#“Chichi is Cruel to Goku who is Trying to be a good husband because she doesn't relate to his passions and vilifies him for having them"#which is not their dynamic at all but dudes in the writing room are like “being married is fucking awful amirite fellas hahaha”#but Toriyama was like “Being married is not for everybody but it can be really great if you and your partner are on the same page”#Chichi's reasonable! And Goku isn't romantically wired but Goku can enthusiastically consent to sex and still not enjoy kissing#those things can be and are true for a lot of people! And it makes even more sense if you hc Goku to be aspec (and audhd coded) like I do#Kissing can feel gross and can be a sensory overload for many folks. Doesn't mean they're stupid or innocent.#(although Goku CAN still ride nimbus so idk what Pure entails in this universe askljad)#Like I am the FIRST person to joke and drag Goku about his marriage as an aspec myself but like legit Goten is a Last Night On Earth baby#He knows what sex is. But also between how socially removed Goku is and how Shy and Conservative Chichi it's not out of line#to assume the actual words sex and kiss have never been spoken in that house skljdlajdf I FULLY believe Chichi uses code words#Chichi thinks her son being blonde makes him a delinquent and still uses honorifics with Goku like it is fully reasonable to assume#that the joke of Goku's naivetè centers around the fact that his wife is too embarrassed to talk about Certain Matters in a normal way#While Bulma and Vegeta are slutty hedonistic cityfolk who need jesus (according to chichi probably...and me but I support them)#anyway. point is. Toriyama was funny as hell and Nekomajin is absolutely ridiculous and goofy and has a fully amoral main character#which just reminded me that toei is allergic to letting goku be a gremlin and so vegeta's not allowed to be a gremlin wrangler#even though that's been his job since the day he met raditz alksdjaskljd
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when it comes to raise visibility for any cause , I must be careful to never create a post with ' you should ' or ' you shouldn't' type of vibe , not saying I didn't do it before ( especially if it's something I really care about) I'm an emotional person and I will never reject my emotions, however , if it's not about ME but about others , I know it's impossible to send a message properly if I am writing as if I'm yelling in people's face , eventually I gonna regret it because from my own perspective, my good intention will be translated to : I just want to feel good about my superior values
WHAT I'm going to accomplish ? do I have a goal to achieve ? or I just have a big ego ?
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I’m gonna back away from the Fear & Hunger fandom for a while because it’s stressing me out. Too many stupid takes and misinterpretations of the characters. It doesn’t feel like the fandom is engaging with the actual content.
#please be patient I have autism and things overwhelm me easily#I get attached to things really hard and get irrationally mad when people don’t see it in the way I do#but I’m not gonna bitch at them about it because that’s stupid#it still sets me off though so the best thing I can do is remove myself from the situation
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I take the position on salt that I always have: if watching a children's TV show brings you so much anger and you feel compelled to spread that anger to others, you need to stop watching that children's TV show.
#im sorry but its just. so dumb#i don't care. i just don't care.#if it is so distressing to you that you need to make it MY problem then you need to remove yourself from the situation#don't force me to remove myself#grumbles#ml fandom salt
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There's a toxic person who genuinely emotionally tortured me for a couple weeks that I strongly, strongly dislike who draws super peak dialtown fanart as well as dsaf fanart, and has a parody account on twt, which is how he met me. I'm worried now that we dont talk he'll move onto somebody else and do the same. I genuinely live in fear of this happening. This person also has over 8k subs on Youtube because of fucking course things couldn't be easy lmao.
I would so totally out who this person is but considering he threatened to kill himself multiple times and outright had attempts a few times whilst in contact with me, I literally can't. It sucks but like. Yeah.
Just... Know that one day you'll come across a really, really good Randy x Gingi fanart, and you'll never even know it was made by somebody who ruined my emotional state to the point I honestly don't think I'll be able to recover 💀
.... Ugh. Damn it. He's popular and well liked and I'm a complete nobody so regardless of the fact I screenshotted literally everything, it... kinda just doesn't matter, does it. Idk. The only reason I'm hesitating until I know for sure people care is bc I don't wanna do this unless I know for certain it'll have SOME effect other than just making him emotionally destroy me again/possibly harm himself. I want to be heard and I don't think him having an audience is safe in the slightest considering he severely emotionally abused a pretty badly disabled person (me) to the point I had seizures and almost ended myself too, but... like... it's not worth me dying over it if nobody will even hear me.
#vent#tw abuse#toxic people#dont meet your idols#dialtown#dialtown fandom#yes he is mentally ill but some things cant be excused at all and he was horrible to me#he became utterly obsessed with me within mere weeks and forced me into a situation where i had to pretend to like him so he wouldnt die#when i tried to remove myself from the situation he made one of his friends contact me to beg me to unblock#hed get so passive aggressive out of nowhere bc my friends disliked him. they recognised that he was abusive and so they openly hated him#he was so salty#they were having to watch me have these horrific panic attacks every time he spoke to me and so obvs they hated him but he was so so angry#he would draw such gorey vent art of himself right after our one sided fights id try so hard to avoid#then he made a vent twt and i had to watch him blow up every time i didnt wanna open up to him abt my personal issues#hed accuse me of pushing him away but i just didnt wanna be close to him in the first place but i was scared hed die if i left#i wanna say who this person is but im scared ppl will blame me bc i did kind of lead him on on accident#but i was just doing it bc my girlfriend DIED TO HERSELF in front of me... he knew this... i was so scared hed do it too#i told him multiple times and its like it just made him threaten himself even more. like it was on purpose#idk man im pretty badly disabled and i cant even tell if he meant to hurt me anymore. i really dont know#if people genuinely wanna know who it is i might tell bc i wanna open up about it but idk if ppl will care lmao#im not saying who it is unless ppl genuinely wanna know#dsaf#dsaf fandom
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I hate the word autistic meltdown, it makes me feel like i’m describing a toddler but it’s the only way i know how to describe my experience and behavior :/
#Every time i have a meltdown it feels like im horribly inconveniencing everyone around me#but like#sometimes i genuinely have no way of removing myself from the situation before a shutdown turns into a meltdown#i’m almost 21 i feel so embarrassed sobbing in public#lesley time#vent#autism#if anyone else has some other vocabulary they use to describe this sort of thing feel free to mention it in the replies or a reblog
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I think the most depressing thing that’s happened in my life over the past couple of months is watching an otherwise intelligent friend descend into paranoia and conspiracy. maybe ex friend now, because I don’t feel all that inclined to talk to him these days, but it’s still sad to be a bystander to this who can’t help even if you try to intervene.
#something I’ve been trying to get better at as I’ve gotten older is trying to avoid situations that#spurn incredibly strong emotions in me that impair my social function.#it’s not fair to the people around me and it’s not fair to me either. i deserve better than treating myself like that#and I’m starting to wonder if how someone answers ‘how willing am I to pull my own pigtails’ is correlative with extreme paranoia#social behavior isn’t really my bag outside of being in the world and observing it yknow#but a common denominator here has definitely been seeing someone come to this crossroads#and just choosing to engage anyway instead of telling themselves ‘I need to remove myself from being…#…so fired up constantly. it’s starting to boil my brain.’ they just can’t quit it.#the best kind of evidence – white hot anecdote#but there’s something about this that does seem functionally similar to addiction. just in how compulsive it is.#is anger addiction possible? I guess that’s the burning question.
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hold on continueation from that first post i forgot to say. another reason i envy homestuck fandom in part with the different interpretations of characters is how like. you will see a dave strider that looks nothing like dave strider from homestuck comic but yeah its still dave strider. yeah shes a girl now and also black and has a totally different outfit and shes smoking weed or something but despite everything its still dave strider
#i think it is beautiful in a way when people make characters super far removed from canon in terms of design or what situations theyre#drawn in or whatevr#like at least the way i see it. like yeah this media is very important to me and i love it to the point it has just become a natural part o#me and the things i create.#does that make sense#and also just the. casualness carefreeness of it is something i love and maybe kinda envy#like yeah sure ill just draw my blorbo standing at the bus stop wearing a cool graphic tee. god i wish that were me#(can you tell i have anxiety)#i think that is also a reason i love kam art so much (hi kam. waves)#hold on i was going to articulate it better but the meds (chili and soup crackers) are kicking in im losing the thread dangit#but like. i love annoying orange aj!!!!!!! i love when you draw fae in cute outfits!!!!!!!!! i love all your posts about heralds!!!!!!!!!!!#i dont know how to describe it other than like the posts you make about pyre embody everything i love and also everything i desire to creat#myself amnd perhaps even become. if that makes sense#ok thats all my brain can spit out sorry this tturned into a gush about mutual........
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#the ONLY person i actually dislike in my lab. is now working in the same project i am#trust me. im not a hater. i very hardly dislike people because im good at removing myself from situations when the vibes are off#but this girl oh my god#i havent worked with her before but in every interaction we have she manages to piss me off so bad#im dreading life
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#if you lurk my tumblr it’s only fair if i lurk your snap#if you’re dreaming about me that’s a skill issue#i have nothing to do with that lmao get an amethyst under your pillow or perhaps a black tourmaline#i ghosted bc you were casting love magic behind my back and without my consent after months of you being manipulative and entitled#i was grieving my dead cat and you had the audacity to demand i pour from an empty cup#but i’m the villain right#because i still live in the area#and walk around my own neighborhood that i’ve lived in longer than you have#i hope you heal. really i do#because removing myself from that situation sucked.#i didn’t want to have to protect myself from you after trusting you#you violated my body and my spirit#i’m not playing games here. i’m just trying to live my life. but don’t you fucking dare make yourself out to be the victim here.#i have no interest in this kind of game.#i’m literally just trying to avoid you. lest you decide my autonomy doesn’t matter again.
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#feeling like I need to remove myself from situations#try to step back#but also terrified it’ll confirm to me everything I fear#of how no one will notice or care#someone new will take/has taken my place so it’s fine#sentences border on senseless
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I wonder if I could justify doing those fliers on commission for other people's stuff
#the main thing is idk how to make them time/cost effective#the one's I've made for sword night and wwgg are like 6-8 hour jobs already and that's without having to make custom assets#so if I charged something reasonable by the hour it would probably be too expensive for people#but if I charged a lower or flat rate I would be selling myself really short#I feel like I need to cut the time in half for it to be worth it for either party#removing word games would be a big time save but that's part of the fun#there's also the issue of clip art... idk what the rights situation is there#the alternative would be to turn the fliers I have made into templates and then charge some pocket change to customize#which I guess is what the company I was originally stealing menus from was doing
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maybe one day when I can get a hold of a therapist with expertise that fits my particular issues, I can finally address the crippling feelings of jealousy and worthlessness whenever people who's kindness I treasure deeply are nice to others 🤔
#hate to admit it but deep inside i am just the absolute worst. jealousy and worthlessness are eating my insides every single day#not as bad as it once was. I've gotten pretty good at repressing my reactions. but i still feel it like a knife twisting in my chest and gut#and i don't think that's normal ✌#hate to admit it but this jealousy and the resulting feelings of worthlessness and me wanting to avoid The Bad Feelings#and unnecessary drama: if i remove myself from the situation/person i won't hurt anyone. sound logic when you're in distress. stupid asf tho#has caused the breakdown of a few friendships. and I'm not proud of how many people I've hurt this way over the years.#just wish i could get All Of This under control while avoiding all human contact#but i'm part of a social species and if i'm on my own for too long i go crazy crazy and that's not good either#will i ever get on top of this? who knows#...would that be considered black and white thinking?#like when people i care for and am happy to receive love and attention from give that same attention to others#and it feels like they won't ever give it to me again or that i am not special/our bond means nothing#and it makes me feel this ugly ugly jealousy -> shame -> worthlessness -> shame -> gotta isolate thing???#IDK?????????? i'm just working here (in my fuckdd up brain and body) i don't control the manifestation of my mental issues#anyway confessions at 6am after a sleepless night while feeling delirious from being sick with a cold 👍#might delete this later idk yet
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