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It’s easy for people to criticize protectors for how we react to perceived threats —
Some of us get defensive, some of us get loud, or completely freeze up, or run for safety, or suddenly collapse and can’t move, or become mute, or have extreme fawn reactions … and to the outside, it seems over the top.
Or maybe you think it’s not fair that we saw you as a threat because you got angry and yelled. Maybe you think it’s childish that we sprinted out of the house or scary that we kicked into “fight” mode.
We had to identify threats fast. We had to do what it took to survive. To protect our system and our physical body and mind.
And we can and should learn to react more proportionally. But our instincts aren’t ridiculous or made to victimize you. They made sense in the traumatic environment that created us. They’re the only reason we’re still here now.
We still fall back on that because it worked and we survived.
#actually did#actually dissociative#osddid#sysblr#dissociative identity disorder#did system#actually osdd#sbc system tag: thorn 🥀#I am the ‘angry’ protector#I’ve been learning how to handle conflict better#I know I can’t just flip out on people#I know trauma isn’t an excuse#for losing control#but right now#someone is mad at me#for identifying their behavior as threatening#and removing myself from the situation#because I knew I was triggered#and I couldn’t control my response#so I left#and then tried to talk about my concerns later#and this person#is PISSED#purely because#I was seeing red flags#and even though I stepped away and left the room#they’re upset that I was triggered by them#I’ve seen people get upset#when Casper or Lyka run away and hide#saying it’s childish
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sometimes
hearing other people talk
is overstimulating
it’s ok to take a break
#Inspired by how I get over stimulated#I tend to get pretty irritable#So I just remove myself from the situation before#I snap at someone#rottmnt#rottmnt fandom#rottmnt donnie#rottmnt fanart#rise donnie#rise of the tmnt#I think I’m getting a hang of drawing donnie#Not so much the others#<<<I’ll have to work on that#ALL HAIL#DONNIE WITH EYELINER#mini comic#Jay txt#♥️literaladhdart♥️
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when it comes to raise visibility for any cause , I must be careful to never create a post with ' you should ' or ' you shouldn't' type of vibe , not saying I didn't do it before ( especially if it's something I really care about) I'm an emotional person and I will never reject my emotions, however , if it's not about ME but about others , I know it's impossible to send a message properly if I am writing as if I'm yelling in people's face , eventually I gonna regret it because from my own perspective, my good intention will be translated to : I just want to feel good about my superior values
WHAT I'm going to accomplish ? do I have a goal to achieve ? or I just have a big ego ?
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He said "Fuck this shit, I'm out" I'm crying. Toriyama's Vegeta was so top shelf 🤌
(From Neko Majin Z Chapter 5!)
#dbtag#Idk why Toei didn't lean into Vegeta being a version of Piccolo you could put in funnier situations like Toriyama wrote#He's reserved and professional and proud but JUST immature enough to bite down on a gag that Piccolo would readily swerve#But they take a lot of Goku's chaotic comedy away too in favor of Hero(tm) writing and that is why I keep pulling my hair out aklsjdlas#Toriyama was sO funny and it bums me out so much that the anime derailed how lighthearted and straight up silly the humor is#and replaced it with Misogyny Is Funny and humiliation kinks asjklfhadjk and it's not just my complaints about Vegeta and Bulma!!#“Goku is running away from his very reasonable wife because he is a goofy little guy who doesn't want to do his chores” becomes#“Chichi is Cruel to Goku who is Trying to be a good husband because she doesn't relate to his passions and vilifies him for having them"#which is not their dynamic at all but dudes in the writing room are like “being married is fucking awful amirite fellas hahaha”#but Toriyama was like “Being married is not for everybody but it can be really great if you and your partner are on the same page”#Chichi's reasonable! And Goku isn't romantically wired but Goku can enthusiastically consent to sex and still not enjoy kissing#those things can be and are true for a lot of people! And it makes even more sense if you hc Goku to be aspec (and audhd coded) like I do#Kissing can feel gross and can be a sensory overload for many folks. Doesn't mean they're stupid or innocent.#(although Goku CAN still ride nimbus so idk what Pure entails in this universe askljad)#Like I am the FIRST person to joke and drag Goku about his marriage as an aspec myself but like legit Goten is a Last Night On Earth baby#He knows what sex is. But also between how socially removed Goku is and how Shy and Conservative Chichi it's not out of line#to assume the actual words sex and kiss have never been spoken in that house skljdlajdf I FULLY believe Chichi uses code words#Chichi thinks her son being blonde makes him a delinquent and still uses honorifics with Goku like it is fully reasonable to assume#that the joke of Goku's naivetè centers around the fact that his wife is too embarrassed to talk about Certain Matters in a normal way#While Bulma and Vegeta are slutty hedonistic cityfolk who need jesus (according to chichi probably...and me but I support them)#anyway. point is. Toriyama was funny as hell and Nekomajin is absolutely ridiculous and goofy and has a fully amoral main character#which just reminded me that toei is allergic to letting goku be a gremlin and so vegeta's not allowed to be a gremlin wrangler#even though that's been his job since the day he met raditz alksdjaskljd
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whenever someone posts a bad jaime take, brienne is glaring at them across the common room of the inn in spirit. then she's abruptly retiring to her room
#brienne is like - i will not engage in bad faith discourse about my blorbo - i must remove myself from this situation#twice in two consecutive chapters no less lol#jaime x brienne#*
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I’m gonna back away from the Fear & Hunger fandom for a while because it’s stressing me out. Too many stupid takes and misinterpretations of the characters. It doesn’t feel like the fandom is engaging with the actual content.
#please be patient I have autism and things overwhelm me easily#I get attached to things really hard and get irrationally mad when people don’t see it in the way I do#but I’m not gonna bitch at them about it because that’s stupid#it still sets me off though so the best thing I can do is remove myself from the situation
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I take the position on salt that I always have: if watching a children's TV show brings you so much anger and you feel compelled to spread that anger to others, you need to stop watching that children's TV show.
#im sorry but its just. so dumb#i don't care. i just don't care.#if it is so distressing to you that you need to make it MY problem then you need to remove yourself from the situation#don't force me to remove myself#grumbles#ml fandom salt
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I hate the word autistic meltdown, it makes me feel like i’m describing a toddler but it’s the only way i know how to describe my experience and behavior :/
#Every time i have a meltdown it feels like im horribly inconveniencing everyone around me#but like#sometimes i genuinely have no way of removing myself from the situation before a shutdown turns into a meltdown#i’m almost 21 i feel so embarrassed sobbing in public#lesley time#vent#autism#if anyone else has some other vocabulary they use to describe this sort of thing feel free to mention it in the replies or a reblog
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this girl is sort of turning into me and I don’t know what to feel of it 😭 she used to be this okay cool-ish girl but her act just changed after I started being friends with her. liek idk if it’s just me but she suddenly has my humour, jokes and personality. im sort of okay with it but it’s the way she executes the ‘flirty teaser’ facade and overdoes it just makes me want to coil up into a ball.
I flirt as a joke and only when I’m feeling comfortable and playful to do so but miss girl just takes it to almost every interactions with people (sometimes it’s a bit awkward). she’s a good person and very nice to me but sometimes I just cringe so hard when I observe her 😭
#𝐁𝐔𝐍𝐍 𓈒 𓈒 𓈒 🗣️ shitposts !!#it got so bad I had to physically remove myself from any situation with her or else I will rip my skin out#I am extremely conflicted about this pls help
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me rn: 🧍
#i am always like this. but especially rn#i have my first therapy appt tomorrow and i am trying not to think i have to get a Good Grade in Therapy#bc this is what i did last time (10 yrs ago) which led to me lying to my therapist. which is not the intended point of therapy actually#anyway i haven’t been present here bc every time i interact w anyone i feel like they have the ➖👥 from the sims over their heads#which is a Me thing so i am trying to remove myself from situations that make me insane. aka being present in online/group settings#also i am just very overwhelmed from work recently so i am trying to give myself time to be normal. Anyway#that’s it for tags with thea hopefully my therapist doesn’t ➖👥 me tomorrow
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I think the most depressing thing that’s happened in my life over the past couple of months is watching an otherwise intelligent friend descend into paranoia and conspiracy. maybe ex friend now, because I don’t feel all that inclined to talk to him these days, but it’s still sad to be a bystander to this who can’t help even if you try to intervene.
#something I’ve been trying to get better at as I’ve gotten older is trying to avoid situations that#spurn incredibly strong emotions in me that impair my social function.#it’s not fair to the people around me and it’s not fair to me either. i deserve better than treating myself like that#and I’m starting to wonder if how someone answers ‘how willing am I to pull my own pigtails’ is correlative with extreme paranoia#social behavior isn’t really my bag outside of being in the world and observing it yknow#but a common denominator here has definitely been seeing someone come to this crossroads#and just choosing to engage anyway instead of telling themselves ‘I need to remove myself from being…#…so fired up constantly. it’s starting to boil my brain.’ they just can’t quit it.#the best kind of evidence – white hot anecdote#but there’s something about this that does seem functionally similar to addiction. just in how compulsive it is.#is anger addiction possible? I guess that’s the burning question.
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#the ONLY person i actually dislike in my lab. is now working in the same project i am#trust me. im not a hater. i very hardly dislike people because im good at removing myself from situations when the vibes are off#but this girl oh my god#i havent worked with her before but in every interaction we have she manages to piss me off so bad#im dreading life
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it is genuinely saddening how i follow a third of the people i followed ~9 months ago. i miss when my queue used to spit out anything and everything; it was like one of those gumball machines where you got fun little toys out. and i had so much fun filling it w stuff being like omg friend x is gonna eat this up in three months!!! putting stuff in there to be a little forgotten treasure for myself, some kind of mini time capsule... i literally used to be known for my variety posting you know. but i've had to mow down the biodiversity of my dash aggressively to avoid catching strays and i feel like i've been curling up further and further into a ball on here like a terrified potato bug
#my queue was 600+ posts long too. and now it's at like 215 . and it's just not the fun treat it used to be#of like who knows what i'll have reblogged over night from four months ago! let's go see what new jpg it's popped out !!#a lot of this. is not the fun treat it used to be. i wont lie.#obviously i have the ability to remove myself entirely from the situation. by deactivating. but.#is it really that awful to want to keep having fun w my friends?#i guess im also kind of terrified that the moment i stop Posting/being on here i'll just like lose all the wonderful ppl on here#a lot of fear of like. im a good mutual but am i a Friend. can i come ask all of u stupid questions abt adulthood even if im not f1 posting#it's the like. annoying younger sibling feeling. of. if im no longer Providing (writing posting etc) im just a hanger-on w nothing to offer#really i need to go eat lunch i think that would solve a lot of my immediate problems lol . sorry for being morose at 1pm
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im free tomorrow now :')
#had a party and cool costume i was excited for but#uninvited myself cuz ive got a cold and im gonna be real i dont feel like masking up in my own home#like super fair ig the roomie is demanding that but i just would rather remove myself from the situation#so im just gonna chill in my room. bummed but like whatev more time to write#tbd
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I wonder if I could justify doing those fliers on commission for other people's stuff
#the main thing is idk how to make them time/cost effective#the one's I've made for sword night and wwgg are like 6-8 hour jobs already and that's without having to make custom assets#so if I charged something reasonable by the hour it would probably be too expensive for people#but if I charged a lower or flat rate I would be selling myself really short#I feel like I need to cut the time in half for it to be worth it for either party#removing word games would be a big time save but that's part of the fun#there's also the issue of clip art... idk what the rights situation is there#the alternative would be to turn the fliers I have made into templates and then charge some pocket change to customize#which I guess is what the company I was originally stealing menus from was doing
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Btw we mat take some time offline because I'm worried about the Hater Within making us bitter and seak out drama again *shrugs*
#best part of having whatever personality disorder we have is the whole “i will seek out attention even if its bad��� thing#so i will remove myself from this situation ♡ yippee#speaks
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