#and refuse to acknowledge your feelings

[nattousan]

ugh ok election stuff has really reached a boiling point for me and I texted my adoptive trumper parents about my concerns and now i'm being called emotionally blackmailing, so I'm gonna ask y'all, my totally unbiased and uninvolved followers:

AITA for cutting off my adoptive parents for voting for trump?

facts:

they took me in after my mom kicked me out for being trans

they've supported me and encouraged me from the beginning

they drove me to my hrt appointments

they still voted for trump in 2016 and plan on doing the same this time, which i view as a betrayal

i've been politely ignoring it for the sake of keeping the peace but due to recent uptick in transphobia by republicans as well as trump himself saying he'd go after trans people "on day one" I couldn't ignore it any longer

i showed them the evidence, told them how it made me feel alienated and unloved by them and asked that we work this out.

i was told their politics have nothing to do with it, that trump won't do what he said he would do but they're still voting for him, and that they didn't appreciate how conditional my love has become esp since theirs was "unconditional"

i didn't even bring up cutting them off but they said it's my choice if i want to do that over who they vote for, so I told them alright, I'm not blocking you, the doors still open, but I'm gonna take a break for a little while and not reach out.

Here's the reddit thread if u want more in depth details, but, y'all...

[chloesimaginationthings]

Elizabeth Afton bets on losing dogs in FNAF..

[beargregor]

Chef greg delivery just for you. it's a wonder I hadn't bearified him yet, he's my fave greg too 🔪

gays literally only want one thing (to be chopped up and eaten by a depressed man) and it's fucking disgusting

[splicejunction]

related but the lack of acknowledgement in fandom (specifically the type of fandom that is practiced on this website and similar communities) of how much interpretation of source material stems from individuals particular (psychosexual) preoccupations is like. understandable because its embarrassing to publicly admit that you're obsessed with X thing because you're a little bit of a freak about Y thing (trying to speak broadly here but maybe i'm just being vague) and i don't think people need to do that but it's also a little frustrating to me because i feel like it's more interesting to think about the things you enjoy while also analyzing why you enjoy them but there's this culture of like. projection is bad and wrong and if you let your own experiences and proclivities affect the way that you interpret fiction you're tainting somehow the pure and objective thing that is Canon. so everybody's always striving to achieve something that is impossible. like it's impossible not to interpret things through the lens of your own experiences and opinions and preoccupations. i'm not saying we should all be like posting about fictional characters with like footnotes about what specific fetishes inform our headcanons or whatever the fuck but it's just very clear to me when people just entirely avoid thinking about why they might interpret something a certain way and instead think they're doing some kind of Objective Analysis every time they say something about how a character would fuck

[grapejuicegay]

Sometimes I just start thinking about this moment - paired with Maddie's "I just think that maybe you're not sure of your own feelings yet. And if there's something that you need to tell Eddie, you will. Just, in your own time" - and then don't stop thinking about it.

Maybe I'm just reading into it but the way this moment moves. Eddie steps forward, Tommy steps up to exactly where Eddie was, Buck turns to look where Eddie was, doesn't find what he was looking for but still finds something good. It's not just ep 4 and 5 where the focus on Eddie blows me away, it's also this.

[puppyeared]

adhd comix

[eosofspades]

also love aroaceness love being aroacespec but i need to vent for a sec, realizing im on the aro spectrum and queering my ideas about how relationships can be has fucking eviscerated my ability to write romance. nearly every one i try to write ends up being more queerplatonic and suuuper not traditionally romantic (in most cases you can't even really call it that), and even when it doesn't, i get totally lost trying to write the attraction bc - i can't describe it as "wanting to be more," bc romance isn't inherently better/more fulfilling than platonic relationships, i think an actual romantic relationship is already just a best friend with different intimacy, but you can't boil it down to JUST that, bc then that's physical/sexual attraction which is a whole third thing, and anyway friends can kiss and sleep together perfectly platonically, and what even IS the difference between platonic and romantic anyway? like yeah my romance writing when i was 12 was a little more shallow but at least it was ROMANCE. please its so dark in here

[tiistirtipii]

So Aylin had her “friends” interrupt her and talk over her during a vulnerable moment. Then Sun hugging her when she’s given previous indication that she doesn’t like unexpected touch and for Sun still to do it even when she backs away. Then the group to applaud Ton for his weird bully saviour idea without making it clear if they’re even being sarcastic. And I’m supposed to believe that was a positive resolution to Aylin’s distress because she puts up a finger heart? Not buying it sorry

[mabaris]

sees another post about how It’s Wrong and Bad to let bethany join the circle. screams into my pillow forever

[mydisasteracademia]

Honestly, the slight crumbs of worldbuilding are all the more frustrating because of how interesting they are.

Quirkless discrimination: it exists, given how okay the teachers are towards Aldera's bullying of Izuku. Sir Nighteye also thinks Izuku being Quirkless won't make him a good hero, using it as an insult towards him.

The Business Course and Support Course: WHAT DO THEY LEARN? I'd imagine some engineering and management classes/hands on labs in addition to the regular classes. Maybe internships with agencies/compnaies on a manigerial or engineering aspect?

Exactly! What’s the use of worldbuilding if you stay in the same spots the entire time? Keeping it safe is keeping it boring, and honestly that’s the biggest injustice for such an interesting and multifaceted world.

Like, we’ve seen people discriminate against Izuku because he doesn’t have a Quirk (even if the majority were literal children, and kids can be very cruel) - but is that just a him thing? We hardly ever (IF ever) see it elsewhere in BnHA. We hear about it it we don’t recognize its impact outside of being a traumatizing experience for our main. We don’t grasp just how widespread this issue is, and the fact that so many see it as an allegory for real-life disability in an ableist world makes it even more disappointing. We see no aids for those with destructive or harmful quirks, we see nothing for those who’ve lost their Quirks in some way (be it old age or losing it via accident), we see nothing to aid those who ARE disabled - we see none of that. I’m not expecting a Japanese man writing a Japanese-centric story to see it the same way other countries or cultures would, but it would be a genuinely interesting issue to showcase and get people discussing.

And let’s be honest, the other courses at Yuuei essentially don’t exist (save for the designers of the Support Course). What I wouldn’t give to see Business Course students debating the ethics of the hero world, or how to run agencies, or studying to get into law schools with Yuuei’s clout backing them up, or even getting government jobs! I would even take a Business Course kid being disillusioned with how corrupt and greedy the hero world is and having to confide in other students about their anxieties and frustrations. We could’ve had a legitimately interesting arc about 1-A or 1-B kids (or even Shinsou) getting to see other perspectives besides just “heroism is great and nothing is wrong!”

And the Support Course! Where’s the sidekicks, the rescue teams, the spies, or ANYTHING besides weaponsmiths? Where’s the tech kids who got into Yuuei to exercise their abilities in those branches? The hackers? The security experts? All of it would be so interesting to explore but we never see any of it!

I dunno. I really do love BnHA but the insistent refusal to explore any themes besides “let’s throw these inexperienced kids into an adult war” is severely frustrating and disappointing. I know Horikoshi isn’t (and shouldn’t be) expected to talk about everything, but even a little variety would be nice.

[daily-yin]

FINALLY APPRECIATION FOR YIN!! i love both yin and yang ofc but theres barely any content with JUST yin -^-

IM YINS NUMBER ONE FAN!! Ill be the change in the world.

[canisvesperus]

Are we going to talk about the thinly veiled ableism towards high support needs autistic adults who frequent websites like deviantart for their hyperspecific non-fandomizable special interests, infrequent hygiene practices, “weird fetishes”, that are all clearly shaped by an experience with neurodiversity that is foreign to all y’all rebranded Asperger’s supremacists

[skhardwarevers1]

does everything suck or is it just me being over dramatic

[hellfyire]

thinking about eddie with hanahaki. not the 'no reciprocated feelings kind' -- but the trying to stuff your feelings for someone deep inside, because you dont want the feelings, dont even want to admit that you feel for that person, so much that it grows roots and festers inside you.

eddie who realises hes attracted to steve harrington of all people. and nope he's not even going to acknowledge that because its king fucking steve. pretty and popular and mean and a jock to top it all off- and who absolutely should Not be eddies type.

(he hates that hes attracted to steve, but thats all it is. hes nice to look at. but god is he awful. and maybe eddie sometimes fantasizes about taking him down a peg. wants to know what itd be like to have King Steve under him. but its only physical attraction.)

and then The Party get to highschool. and trouble apparently follows them. and thats when he gets to know steve the babysitter, steve the human shield, steve the hero. and somehow thats worse. it's worse knowing that steves changed. that he's kind, protective, sweet, snarky, and worst of all, perhaps even hotter. because eddie is still eddie. and steve is a whole lot of things, but he's definitely not the kind of guy whose into guys like eddie. so he pushes back the feelings he feels growing inside him, because just being around steve is enough. it'll have to be. refuses to acknowledge the way he feels about steve has changed, from just liking to look at him to----- nevermind. and thats when he begins to feel the tickle in his throat and a tightness in his chest.

[termagax]

seeing some people's reaction to weird gamer men oversexualizing kiriko is "mauga is right there, half naked, with serveral pin-up sprays" and while i do agree to an extent, i do feel like alot of people are kind of ignoring like. the racial element of mauga's sexualization, like i like mauga, he's hot, but the second i saw him in the short story, i wasn't a big fan of the whole "big savage brown indigenious guy" and it feels like very few people are pointing that out.

RIGHT LIKE. we cannot fix "gamer men fixate on fictional asian girls to a violent degree, usually in a racist way or enabling racist tropes already present in the character" with "gamer girls fixate on fictional brown men to a violent degree in a racist way or enabling racist tropes present in the character" like you guys are part of the same problemmmmmmm youre doing the same thinggg its not better because youre doing it to men like.

i think some people only want to see the kiriko problem as misogyny and while im not going to even pretend that ISNT a massive part of it, theres still like. a reason kiriko and d.va and mei are fascinations for these dudes. there is a pointed difference between the way these three get spoken about compared to their white counterparts (and their dark-skinned counterparts too - look at the responses to illari for a really easy comparison to how kiriko is treated). their ~exoticism~ as asian women is part of the appeal. even if you dont just wanna take the way dudes online treat them (like making a joke that shes "obvious pornbait" for speaking japanese and using JSL) as evidence of that, look at their marketing. kirikos whole thing is atheleisure traditional, shes got her Mystical Japanese Spiritualism Ninja Powers and her magic doggy and they constantly put her in japanese and korean fashion, and dva has been constantly crossing over with korean merch companies. i cant help but notice theres no brazilian IP crossovers or merch launches for lucio, or any attempt to Sell Peru To Gamers for illari. they couldnt even pick a town in Samoa to name maugas map after. these people wouldn't buy that stuff because it's not fetishized in the same way asia is.

but like. a lot of the people trying to Gotcha these racist dudes with an asian fetish just whip out their favourite racist tropes instead and its a really bad look. like you guys dont wanna examine how your examples of The Characters Its Okay To Hypersexualize are all brown? even the people who wanna fuck cassidy dont talk about him like this. or like. fuck if you want a good comparison for mauga lets look at roadhog. big half-naked tank who theyve been playing up a sexual energy/comic relief duology on since day one with racially insensitive cosmetic options. nobody treats it like its completely normal to talk about him that way. the dev team isnt pushing pinups of him out. he isnt flexing his boobs in trailers. hes a white dude*, so he gets the bare minimum dignity of being treated normally. incidentially hot, maybe, but for the most part his character is sold on being cool , funny and scary. mauga is being sold 50% on being a Sexy Rogue Love Interest and 50% on. releasing late. they put in so little effort for him to be anything else despite hyping him up as suuuper significant to the lore and a major gamechanger its almost embarrassing to watch. (this is why that short annoyed me so much for anyone keeping track).

[faerociousbeast]

pesterquest karkats route is fucking insane by the way. i got the bad ending first and THEN the so called good ending was so fucking undwrwhelming after that i just had to sit there