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ugh ok election stuff has really reached a boiling point for me and I texted my adoptive trumper parents about my concerns and now i'm being called emotionally blackmailing, so I'm gonna ask y'all, my totally unbiased and uninvolved followers:
AITA for cutting off my adoptive parents for voting for trump?
facts:
they took me in after my mom kicked me out for being trans
they've supported me and encouraged me from the beginning
they drove me to my hrt appointments
they still voted for trump in 2016 and plan on doing the same this time, which i view as a betrayal
i've been politely ignoring it for the sake of keeping the peace but due to recent uptick in transphobia by republicans as well as trump himself saying he'd go after trans people "on day one" I couldn't ignore it any longer
i showed them the evidence, told them how it made me feel alienated and unloved by them and asked that we work this out.
i was told their politics have nothing to do with it, that trump won't do what he said he would do but they're still voting for him, and that they didn't appreciate how conditional my love has become esp since theirs was "unconditional"
i didn't even bring up cutting them off but they said it's my choice if i want to do that over who they vote for, so I told them alright, I'm not blocking you, the doors still open, but I'm gonna take a break for a little while and not reach out.
Here's the reddit thread if u want more in depth details, but, y'all...
#nat chats#aita#might take this down after a bit but a lot of people are telling me i should ignore it#or that i'm ungrateful#and i just want to hear from as many people as i can#i think#actions have consequences#and if ur actions hurt another person and they come to you asking to resolve it or have you address it#and you dismiss them#and refuse to acknowledge your feelings#i think anyone would be justified in distancing themselves from that person#right??
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Elizabeth Afton bets on losing dogs in FNAF..
#myart#chloesimagination#fnaf#five nights at freddy's#fnaf fanart#elizabeth afton#circus baby#william afton#fnaf sister location#William WHEN I GET YOU#I know I focus on Michael a lot but let it be known#I feel bad for all the Afton children#Elizabeth has such a sad story to her#all she wanted was her father to acknowledge her#but instead he made circus baby which I think he was more proud of then her#and refused to let Elizabeth see it the one thing she assumes her father made for her#and she dies because of it cause he didn’t watch her#even as baby he isn’t interested in her#he more so focuses on his hate for Michael#Elizabeth has always been an after thought#she deserved so much better#tell your baby that im your baby
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Chef greg delivery just for you. it's a wonder I hadn't bearified him yet, he's my fave greg too 🔪
gays literally only want one thing (to be chopped up and eaten by a depressed man) and it's fucking disgusting
#kabukeo#something to bear in mind#other's art#limbus company#project moon#lcb gregor#r.b. sous chef gregor#namesake#i'm sorry for doing a haha funny joke reply i just like#i spent like ten minutes pacing around my house when i saw this in my inbox i'm not exaggerating#thank you for my life i love him so bad#do i need a gift art tag now i just like. i don't even know what to say#i haven't even made any actual proper posts yet i just made a silly blog i feel like i haven't done anything to earn this#to stop myself from blubbering i'm just going to respond to the tags on your rb#no problem for providing details again i think about this grown ass fucking man too god damn much but it's not a problem.#problems are only problems if you call them a problem. it's not a problem.#thank you for seeing the vision on rhino geg.#since kjh refuses to release him that just means that we can continue to acknowledge this as true and canon and there's nothing he can do#[ignore that he has a cameo in a card in game no he doesn't]#to me rosespanner is like. very much the type of guy that when you're crushing on him you try to talk to him#and then you get him to start talking about stuff he's interested in#and then before long you end up agreeing to watch something you don't care for in the slightest#solely for the purpose of having something in common to talk with him about#meanwhile he doesn't pick up on you trying to flirt with him like at all#anyway i could go on about how badly i need hex nail gregor for both bear reasons and thematic Actual reasons#but i'm pretty sure i'm about to hit the tag limit. so i'll just say thank you again for the cannibal i will treasure him forever and alway#it took me like thirty minutes to type this all out after i sat down to actually do it because i kept getting embarrassed lmao#offerings to beargregor#< gift art tag#that's it. thank you for my life once again. keep fighting the good fight soldier. we'll get this to be common fanon one day. trust.
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People will literally read your post about atheism, say they agree with you but that being fully 100% atheist and not agnostic IS a Christian thing, and then block you when you say no that is not true at all and is the polar opposite of my point.
#gingerswagfreckles#Jumblr#atheism#atheist#it is insane how completely people just refuse to acknowledge that atheists who just completely dont believe in God at all#exist with backgrounds other than ex Christian#like ohh yeah Jewish atheists exist but not the BAD kind that really dont even wonder sometimes if there might be something out there#like hey bbygirl#it is your personal biases based on your own spiritual beliefs that tells you truly not even wondering about god is bad#and also you are wrong. there are many many many jews who are 100% atheists YES for realsies#and many many people from all religious backgrounds who feel like this#and your discomfort with it doesnt change that#i promise you that wherever you draw the line between ~good~ atheism and ~bad~ atheism#there are jewish people who exist beyond it and ex muslims who exist beyond it and people from all religious backgrounds who exist beyond i#and denying this is a denial of reality#jumblr
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related but the lack of acknowledgement in fandom (specifically the type of fandom that is practiced on this website and similar communities) of how much interpretation of source material stems from individuals particular (psychosexual) preoccupations is like. understandable because its embarrassing to publicly admit that you're obsessed with X thing because you're a little bit of a freak about Y thing (trying to speak broadly here but maybe i'm just being vague) and i don't think people need to do that but it's also a little frustrating to me because i feel like it's more interesting to think about the things you enjoy while also analyzing why you enjoy them but there's this culture of like. projection is bad and wrong and if you let your own experiences and proclivities affect the way that you interpret fiction you're tainting somehow the pure and objective thing that is Canon. so everybody's always striving to achieve something that is impossible. like it's impossible not to interpret things through the lens of your own experiences and opinions and preoccupations. i'm not saying we should all be like posting about fictional characters with like footnotes about what specific fetishes inform our headcanons or whatever the fuck but it's just very clear to me when people just entirely avoid thinking about why they might interpret something a certain way and instead think they're doing some kind of Objective Analysis every time they say something about how a character would fuck
#like this obviously extends to things outside people talking about characters sex lives but its most obvious with that#like do you actually think he's a top or do you just want him to top you. lol#also to be clear i'm not saying there's anything wrong with that but the culture that refuses to acknowledge that sort of thing#clearly does believe there's something wrong with it. and i think that's lame!!!!#i'm also not saying i'm out here with the most true and correct opinions about these things it's just like#while you don't have to admit to the world that you project on characters. if you admit it to yourself and don't have shame about it#it's easier to feel like you have a leg to stand on when it comes to interpretation because you can see the places where your own experienc#etc influences your interpretation#if that makes sense#what coming off 3 days of academic symposium with jordan does to a mf
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Sometimes I just start thinking about this moment - paired with Maddie's "I just think that maybe you're not sure of your own feelings yet. And if there's something that you need to tell Eddie, you will. Just, in your own time" - and then don't stop thinking about it.
Maybe I'm just reading into it but the way this moment moves. Eddie steps forward, Tommy steps up to exactly where Eddie was, Buck turns to look where Eddie was, doesn't find what he was looking for but still finds something good. It's not just ep 4 and 5 where the focus on Eddie blows me away, it's also this.
#i also have a lot of feelings about how interesting tommy is as a choice for this entire storyline#during both chim and hen begins he stand-in for the old guard and the barrier they both face#during bobby begins again he's a united front with chim and hen in a desire for actual change#and sal's firing is a sign of tommy's change too - sal refused to change and couldn't stay. tommy stayed until he left himself#and he needed to leave - needed something new - to finally accept himself and his sexuality#tommy's return to me - especially with the shift to the new network and everything surrounding that -#has always felt to me like an acknowledgement that things can change#the change in him from the old guard to an entirely different person always felt so significant to me#and this feels really significant too#that buck and his search for happiness throughout the last season has only one constant - the 118#tommy can offer a change to buck without affecting that stability#the way tommy talks about himself on the date feels like an acknowledgement of all of that#and this moment and maddie's intervention feel like an acknowledgement of something else entirely#and i may be a buddie girl but i'm thoroughly enjoying this ride (hopefully buck is too)#because i'm doing what maddie did - 'you'll tell eddie what you need to in your own time. tell me about the hot pilot'#because he wasn't unhappy to see hot pilot there instead. hot pilot good.#anyway look at this shot and tell me you don't see what i'm seeing#there was a lot of visual storytelling throughout this season i love it so much#911#911 abc#911 fox#9-1-1#911 meta#evan buckley#eddie diaz#tommy kinard#another fandom same old tag rambles
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adhd comix
#man i dont even have the energy to be mad. im just tired#like. dont u love it when your parents exhibit symptoms of ADHD and your sibling is diagnosed with a learning disability#and instead of thinking oh shit what if the other one has smth too. they subject you to The Horrors#i cant bring myself to hate my parents. but im tired of feeling obligated to defend them when the thing they think is working#isnt actually working and ive just found other ways to cope to avoid any sort of conflict. like lying and stealing. lol#if someone took me aside and said 'hey so your brain doesnt make as much dopamine as usual and its not a bad thing it just means you#need external stimulation and reward system to function and youre not actually secretly fucked up or lazy' as a kid#im pretty sure i wouldnt be here rn with half the problems i already have. unfortunately getting diagnosed late means u dont have a teacher#to back you up at a parent teacher conference that forces your parents to take this shit seriously instead of ignoring it hoping itll#go away on its own. but hey what do i know i have squirrel ipad baby disease. what do i know about my own symptoms#AND. AND i think im allowd to be mad bc ive been doing my own research on this for years before and after diagnosis#theyve been putting me thru the WORST parenting techniques on earth. which they could have corrected at anytime but they were#comfortable thinking they were doing it right and didnt bother to check if they were or werent fucking up their kid in the long run#and refusing to acknowledge it. i just!! they just decided one day hey lets make babies!! and just looked at books on how to make#a human being survive as long as possible!!! what the fuck!!!!#im sorry for putting this on ppls dashes but i am. so tired. of bottling this up. and im not looking for sympathy or anything i just need#to scream and clench my fists to SOMEONE about it because theyre not gonna take this well up the ass. sigh#yapping#vent
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another thing that i just noticed is that the dwarves have now had done to them by the elves what we’d thought the elves had done to them by humans, at least before inquisition. cut down in their peak and permanently ruined, left to scrabble for the broken pieces of their history
not to say it’s an inherently bad choice because oppression isn’t that straightforward, but it sure was an interesting choice to shift the “they destroyed our way of life and fractured our society and we ARE allowing ourselves to feel angry about it and reclaim our history and maybe use that to rebuild what we once had” narrative from the elves to the dwarves. like if that’s the story you really wanted to tell, you could have also given it to like. bellara
#the fall of the titans feels very similar to what we had originally thought the sacking of arlathan was#so there may be more there to uncover. and i dont lnow that i trust them like that again lmao#and it feels especially. i dont want to say insidious but tone deaf at the very least#to shift that from elves (long history of racial coding and marginalization in this series) to dwarves (much less of that)#AND it being told from harding’s POV when she’s not really part of any dwarven society and never has been#feels very much like. white person whose family has been in north america for a few generations reading about european traditions and#trying to incorporate them into their life. anger over how their ancestors were coerced into abandoning their culture to be considered white#so youre left with nothing and are trying to reclaim That. listen it’s also a valid desire i guess but very telling that youre choosing#to tell this story while actively destroying the chance to tell the other kind of story#and also there’s something about how culture doesnt exist in a vacuum#i know some europeans accuse americans of cosplaying their culture and while on one hand that might just be refusal to acknowledge that#culture isnt a monolith and might evolve differently somewhere else. there is a bit of truth to it imo#anyway what im saying is this is absolutely what underground dwarves think of harding#we dont know enough about stalgard#kinda got the impression he was just a guy who lived there rather than part of kal sharok’s government or shaperate#he’s one guy and his opinion doesnt reflect kal sharok. i dont think orzammar is necessarily wrong for not cooperating#they are famously a very closed society and also this is someone from outside that trying to instruct them on their shit#same as when solas tried to ‘’’reason’’’ with the dalish#mine#datv spoilers
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#remember that fic i wrote where jeremy was like “YOURE A FUCKING AI YOU SJOULD BE ABKE TO CARE”#to the sauip#and the squip was like “uh jm nuh uh”#even if you dont#ive been thinking about how like. just i guess imaging what if jeremy developed an emotional attachment to the squip#and not in the romantic way#kinda like how you get attached to objects with sentiment and you can never get rid of them#think a toy from your childhood or something#except jeremy's object of sentiment is a supercomputer from japan#he becomes obsessed with trying to 'fix it'#“i know its capable of feeling any pang of guilt. i know it can experience joy and sadness like any human.”#the sqip does over time (as a learning ai) learn to feel#but probably never tells jeremy#and jeremy continues to just get so upset and overwhelmed by this thing that he brought upon himself#amd the sauip tries to be like “ok forget it lets focus on the task at hand”#jeremy does not focus on the task at hand#bros trying everythubg he can to “fix” the squip#blinded by his ambitions with it and forgetting its *just a computer*#reality check: “im just a computer jeremy”#and yeah so theyre inna stalemate where squip refuses to acknowledge how its evolving and jeremy refuses to acknowledge that his efforts are#pointless.#✌️✌️#bmc#squip#jeremy heere
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also love aroaceness love being aroacespec but i need to vent for a sec, realizing im on the aro spectrum and queering my ideas about how relationships can be has fucking eviscerated my ability to write romance. nearly every one i try to write ends up being more queerplatonic and suuuper not traditionally romantic (in most cases you can't even really call it that), and even when it doesn't, i get totally lost trying to write the attraction bc - i can't describe it as "wanting to be more," bc romance isn't inherently better/more fulfilling than platonic relationships, i think an actual romantic relationship is already just a best friend with different intimacy, but you can't boil it down to JUST that, bc then that's physical/sexual attraction which is a whole third thing, and anyway friends can kiss and sleep together perfectly platonically, and what even IS the difference between platonic and romantic anyway? like yeah my romance writing when i was 12 was a little more shallow but at least it was ROMANCE. please its so dark in here
#truly 100% of what it comes down to is 'what the fuck is the dividing factor between romantic and platonic attraction'#and the answer is i have no fucking idea. i KNOW it exists but i don't know what it IS#and dont say 'desire for your relationship to be percieved as romantic/platonic' that's still not a satisfying answer.#it ACKNOWLEDGES that there's a difference but it doesn't say what the difference IS!!#and i refuse to believe that the only defining factor of romantic vs platonic is outward perception. these are Internal feelings you#KNOW that it's deeper and more complex than that.#WHAT IS ROMANTIC ATTRACTION . ITS ALL BESTIEISM ANYWAY#this is all so fucking stupid of me to say btw because i have literally been in love before i KNOW the feeling.#i read plenty of romance and even my old writing i think is actually hella good in this regard#but i WILDLY overthink every single thing about it now. i feel like i need to justify these dynamics with#'WHY is this a romantic relationship when every element of it could be kept and it could be a perfectly platonic relationship?'#<- this is how relationships should be. i think. thats a Bestie that youre in love with.#but it makes writing it SO HARD. because i dont know what MAKES it romantic INSTEAD of platonic#anyway. ah!!!!!!!!!!!!!#mine#writing#aromantic#aromanticism#arospec#i need a tag for this bc this is a thing ive talked about before#->#the great romanticplatonic pedanticism#relationships
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hot take ooh ouchie but solavellan is not half as tragic as soladash would have been
#soladash#falling in love with the woman whose magic you stole & whose gods you tranquilized#because she thinks she knows you and believes you are wonderful and good and worth loving#hello child of the stone. you dont know me...but i know you.#i am the cause of your peoples pain and suffering. i am the reason your thaigs have fallen apart.#i am the reason you were driven to the surface to scrounge out a meager existence.#and i love you. and im so sorry.#like...how much more respect for dwarven culture we could have gotten. solas acknowledging his mistake in the most profound way#instead of being utterly shafted and shoved aside for the elves#mythal refuses to apologize. solas doesn't ever express his remorse in a way that feels even slightly cathartic.#''bbbut he doesnt even see dwarves as people!!'' no duh. he doesnt even see the dalish as people my dog.#he doesnt consider any modern race as even remotely real or tangible until the endgame. trespasser mostly#thats the point of a relationship with solas. to make him face his own hypocrisy.#sigh. idk
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So Aylin had her “friends” interrupt her and talk over her during a vulnerable moment. Then Sun hugging her when she’s given previous indication that she doesn’t like unexpected touch and for Sun still to do it even when she backs away. Then the group to applaud Ton for his weird bully saviour idea without making it clear if they’re even being sarcastic. And I’m supposed to believe that was a positive resolution to Aylin’s distress because she puts up a finger heart? Not buying it sorry
#justice for Aylin or die by my sword. I really really hope that scene wasn’t supposed to be a genuine resolution but ugh it might be#23.5 the series#Aylin 23.5#view benyapa#using the Aylin ‘thinks’ she’s a Alien metaphor for autism is really cute and fun until the refusal to actually acknowledge the autism makes#it seem like just some weirdness that can be cured by hugs instead of Aylin being who she is and being allowed to feel the ways she feels#about people. sure you say she can sit with you at lunch but you never consider that she doesn’t want to and that’s ok#Aylin if this show does you wrong don’t worry sweetheart me and the nds have your back
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Honestly, the slight crumbs of worldbuilding are all the more frustrating because of how interesting they are.
Quirkless discrimination: it exists, given how okay the teachers are towards Aldera's bullying of Izuku. Sir Nighteye also thinks Izuku being Quirkless won't make him a good hero, using it as an insult towards him.
The Business Course and Support Course: WHAT DO THEY LEARN? I'd imagine some engineering and management classes/hands on labs in addition to the regular classes. Maybe internships with agencies/compnaies on a manigerial or engineering aspect?
Exactly! What’s the use of worldbuilding if you stay in the same spots the entire time? Keeping it safe is keeping it boring, and honestly that’s the biggest injustice for such an interesting and multifaceted world.
Like, we’ve seen people discriminate against Izuku because he doesn’t have a Quirk (even if the majority were literal children, and kids can be very cruel) - but is that just a him thing? We hardly ever (IF ever) see it elsewhere in BnHA. We hear about it it we don’t recognize its impact outside of being a traumatizing experience for our main. We don’t grasp just how widespread this issue is, and the fact that so many see it as an allegory for real-life disability in an ableist world makes it even more disappointing. We see no aids for those with destructive or harmful quirks, we see nothing for those who’ve lost their Quirks in some way (be it old age or losing it via accident), we see nothing to aid those who ARE disabled - we see none of that. I’m not expecting a Japanese man writing a Japanese-centric story to see it the same way other countries or cultures would, but it would be a genuinely interesting issue to showcase and get people discussing.
And let’s be honest, the other courses at Yuuei essentially don’t exist (save for the designers of the Support Course). What I wouldn’t give to see Business Course students debating the ethics of the hero world, or how to run agencies, or studying to get into law schools with Yuuei’s clout backing them up, or even getting government jobs! I would even take a Business Course kid being disillusioned with how corrupt and greedy the hero world is and having to confide in other students about their anxieties and frustrations. We could’ve had a legitimately interesting arc about 1-A or 1-B kids (or even Shinsou) getting to see other perspectives besides just “heroism is great and nothing is wrong!”
And the Support Course! Where’s the sidekicks, the rescue teams, the spies, or ANYTHING besides weaponsmiths? Where’s the tech kids who got into Yuuei to exercise their abilities in those branches? The hackers? The security experts? All of it would be so interesting to explore but we never see any of it!
I dunno. I really do love BnHA but the insistent refusal to explore any themes besides “let’s throw these inexperienced kids into an adult war” is severely frustrating and disappointing. I know Horikoshi isn’t (and shouldn’t be) expected to talk about everything, but even a little variety would be nice.
#she speaks#she answers#bnha critical#mha critical#horikoshi critical#honestly the worst part is how so many people ignore it too#i fully believe quirklessness is an allegory for being disabled. there’s no way it’s not#whether it’s mental disability or physical disability#either way the refusal to acknowledge it in YOUR WORLD when it directly affects YOUR MAIN is frustrating#not only that but now that we’ve SEEN afo stealing quirks it’s even more unacceptable#just once i’d like to see the pussycats having to experience quirkless discrimination due to that#idk it just severely pisses me off when i think about it#mutuals#i’m gonna say it: sometimes it feels like this show is propaganda#maybe i’m a little paranoid on that front though
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FINALLY APPRECIATION FOR YIN!! i love both yin and yang ofc but theres barely any content with JUST yin -^-
IM YINS NUMBER ONE FAN!! Ill be the change in the world.
#yinbox#its weird feeling very emotionally attatched to what the fandom deems a 'joke' character#or i mean like#i feel like hes super complex and very fun to analyze#this applies to both yin AND yang#but. it gets even more ignored with yin ive noticed.#idk im babbling#something something people just see yin as boring cause they refuse to acknowledge his flaws#thats not what this account is exactly about though#do your own analysis its fun#thank you for the ask :)
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Are we going to talk about the thinly veiled ableism towards high support needs autistic adults who frequent websites like deviantart for their hyperspecific non-fandomizable special interests, infrequent hygiene practices, “weird fetishes”, that are all clearly shaped by an experience with neurodiversity that is foreign to all y’all rebranded Asperger’s supremacists
#ven talks#autism#ableism#a lot of people on tumblr have no actual experience with high support needs folks and refuse to acknowledge your privilege#why did you all make a mean girls club for autism jesus christ#no I’m not saying that you are as privileged as allistics but it’s crabs in a bucket and y’all know that your experience is not the same#you were so concerned with breaking stereotypes and saying autism is a spectrum we’re not like ‘those’ people that you effectively alienate#the most vulnerable members of our community. check yourself because a lot of this anger towards allistic people who stereotype autism stem#from the repulsion you feel towards being associated with high support needs folks who do not mask do not have your social skills do not#feel safe or comfortable around you or in your social circles.#people you seem to not want in your social circle in the first place because you’d consider them unsightly gross annoying unintelligent etc#my cousins are high support needs and they would never feel safe on tumblr among you so called neurodiversity activists lol#ps the way everyone made a spectacle out of cwc regardless of what she did is abhorrent and disgusting and it happens all the time to peopl#who haven’t even ‘done’ anything other than exist as an autistic person online in ways that are unpalatable to larger subcultures#like I said before one of my oldest friends is high support and I’m sure one of the reasons why he almost never uses the internet is becaus#he was being harassed by kiwi farms types one of which has stayed obsessed with him for over a decade
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does everything suck or is it just me being over dramatic
#The sk trauma deniers (myself are fighting a hard battle (against myself also)#Me when life altering events alter my life: 😰#Vague venting because everything sucks and my shoulder blades feel weird and I miss him#And I miss the way life used to be and I miss being happy and I miss being safe#And I miss a lot of things and I hate a lot of things and I miss a lot of things that I hate#Struggling and I feel like there’s a lot of things I’m feeling that I don’t acknowledge out of the subconscious#(Example: very upsetting part of my dream in which I saw my ex. Clear as day. It was so awful I wanted to cry)#Everything sucks im going to sleep and maybe feel better in the morning for a little and then collapse into tears again#Killing myself party is back on actually. I miss the person I was I miss my sister I miss my family#Everything is different now and I wish what happened never happened even if I refuse to acknowledge it happened sometimes#I just miss. A lot. I wish I could just shut off all of this#Vent#I’m fine just tired and feel like everything is crashing …..and I’ve been thinking about one thing my dad said#“Not to encourage your little relationship” ?????? I have never felt more like shit#I know I haven’t given a reason for my parents to like the people I’ve dated but the one time I date a guy who is genuinely so kind#And they’ve been hearing about him for over a year and they’ve even met him they still don’t want to trust me#It’s utterly awful that I feel like I’m improving for him rather than for my family#I should want to improve for both. But it’s so demotivating. I do it for him#Ugh….vent over I hate this shit
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