#and its not feminism to act like it is!

[solcorporeal]

It is clear to me that some radfems (usually trans-inclusive) can't help but take their deep -seated biological inferiority complex and turn it into "theory."

The Artificial Wombs conversion didn't bother me until they began to imply that the ability to give birth is what's "wrong" with women.

I'm just tired of seeing that the road to "neutrality" and "equality" in people's eyes requires female sacrifice.

Men don't have to chop their balls off or remove their prostate or become sterile for the cause, but women are advised to lose their breasts, their uterus, their fertility to work towards a world where sex-based oppression no longer exists.

Liberation is in giving women *back* their robbed humanity, not in removing female traits until there is nothing left for men to dehumanize.

[crimeschild]

the barbie (2023) experience as an afab non binary person is just [reconnecting with your femininity and love for pink bc you couldnt when u were younger bc being too girly will get u made fun of] [feeling guilt bc u dont identify with being a girl but girlhood is so inherently beautiful and magical and no experience is truly like it] [healing the inner child in you by allowing yourself to enjoy dolls and pink and maximalism] [unapologetically letting yourself wear pink and be stereotypically girly in a society where being non binary means you have to be presenting androgynous 24/7] [getting your grown-up heart shattered and then put back together again by your inner child using sparkly glue over and over in the span of two hours] [realizing that no matter what you do you have somewhat experienced girlhood and it shaped you to be the person you are today and you will never get to erase that experience or truly disconnect yourself from it] [appreciating and understanding your mother in a way that you thought wasnt possible without experiecing motherhood]

[anqaspond]

they commodified feminism btw. thats whats up with barbie movie chappell roan charliexcx taylor swift. you guys are buying packaged white feminism

[seventeendeer]

just watched the barbie movie everyone was discoursing about last year and I can't help but feel like a lot of the problems in its execution could have been avoided if the kid character's arc had been about learning to embrace girly stuff as an act of rebellion against the adultification of teen girls while barbie went full butch transmasc

[feral-radfem]

'Radical feminist' is a role you have to perform and actively work towards not a label you can identify into. Lest any of y'all have forgotten: we are meant to be examples to the women and girls around us that you can exist and have a fulfilling life while defying patriarchal teachings and practices.

[sharklovingaquarist]

Ok guys so this is gonna be a long one but Im going to talk about

Male apathy during pregnancy and post partum

Post partum mental distress

How the medical system fails women

How men should do their part

So I just saw a post by a man talking about how men downplay the process of reproduction, and yeah, duh - BUT I've come to a conclusion. There are two types of expectant/new father in this world: the type that treats his wife like a toy or the type that treats his wife like a cute pet and claps for her from the sidelines. "Yeah babe ur so strong" while not doing shit. So in this post, the guy is like "errrrr fellow males, did you know that the nutrients actually come from your wife's body?!?!" Like how is that not common knowledge? The uterus doesn't have little claw arms building a fetus. An embryo is created by a male and female, and that embryo attaches to the uterus and LEECHES from the female bloodstream.

He then he goes on to talk about how much blood we can lose during vaginal birth and c-sections, and Imma just say here and now that the medical system sucks ass. Yeah, birth sucks. Pregnancy sucks. But I kinda hate how people pass of a lot of the pain as a fact of life. The fact is that the medical system is vastly male, and males who put their poorly hidden fetishes into practices (I did veterinary science in highschool, and it was even prevalent there... vaginal speculums and artificial insem- 🤢) I'm sure we've all heard humans should stand to deliver a child. The high death statistic for women in childbirth (also explained by more black women dying than white), the lack of knowledge on the female body, and the priority of babies over women all tells me one thing: Birth is certainly painful, but it may be more dangerous than it should be. My honest opinion is that death rates exploded once men infiltrated our care due to their view of us as a vessel. Maybe if the medical system focused on helping us rather than letting a fetus escape its "flesh box", then we'd be somewhere.

And finally... he talked about post partum mental health... so I've been wanting to talk about this. It has recently become noticeable to me that human females have a hard time mentally after the birth of children meanwhile most animal females don't. Sure, there are cases where animals abandon offspring, but I chalk that up to not being prepared to care for offspring. Nature usually prioritizes an adult over a newborn. Also the abandonment of offspring is something I only really hear about in domesticated animals (and animals in zoos so environmental distress or lack of knowledge), of whom we have fucked over in so many ways through selective breeding. Shit even domestic bettas and angelfish, who are usually good parents, have this issue in domestication. But why is it that other animals don't have nearly as many post partum issues as humans. I'll say it, I believe post partum mental distress is largely due to societal dynamics. Sure, hormones are off, but the society we live in only fuels this. It's like when you're on your period. You feel off but it's more a loss of tolerance. The rise in estrogen near and after birth can cause you to already be a bit unbalanced, but let's add some situations onto it. You're going to be the primary caretaker because of modern male incompetence, then you're going to lose sleep which causes more instability, then you're expected to still cook and clean, and men in most countries don't get paternity (ohhhh I wanna tell yall a story about that so baddddd... its in the comments if ur up for it) so youre left alone with a screaming child while trying to heal and getting no sleep and probably not seeing the sun because youre busy and thats a major mood stabilizer (as someone with a mood disorder) all for the father to come home and play with the infant and pass it right back to you. And we haven't even gotten into the culture surrounding it. Women are expected to put on a loving maternal persona while fathers remain the same. For men being a father is prideful and gives you all these positive characteristics like strength... but for mothers your mind is deemed more simplistic, your identity is erased. People see pregnancy and motherhood as a performance and you are the lead actress. Youre treated differently, percieved differently, and thats fueled by bioessentialism. New moms do not feel more "loving" towards an infant than new fathers. Both secrete oxytocin, it comes with the monogamous, biparental animal package dumbass. Why would I be more loving towards something that sucks my boob off and ripped me open. So while I'm not trying to discredit post partum depression, I'm absolutely saying that societal issues are the pushing force. Im also pretty sure post partum statistics fluctuate based on country, and that in countries with paternity and a more equal dynamic have lower cases. But I'm not mentally stable enough myself to look into it, I know "trust me bro" type shit.

In conclusion 🤓 I'm tired of people seeing female pain and not finding ways to help it. The female body is strong, but it also needs care. You wouldn't expect a person with a broken leg to win a marathon. That's the whole reason males stay with females is to. Do. Their. Part. Idc if I'm picky, but literally, any talk on kids or pregnancy leaves me so dissatisfied. Expect men to start acting like an expectant father and partner during pregnancy. Your job is to comfort, provide, learn how to ease pains, provide emotional labor, drive and GO TO appointments (I think if it was even really "about life" they would look into male health too but that's a convo for another day), pay for appointments, be ready to help in case an emergency, so much more. Cuz it's always "don't drink while pregnant!" But how come the baby daddy can be at the bar with his friends? What if I go into labor? He needs to stay sober too I'm not his broodmare! The way men act like it has nothing to do with them because "well uhhhh I not carry a baby 🤷‍♂️" makes me so mad. As a new father too, they think "well man don't feed baby 🤤" like there isn't so much more. Imo, the man should be doing housework, taking care of the infant besides breastfeeding, and caring for a post partum partner. Even with breastfeeding, you can be involved. Take the infant when it's done eating, sit with your partner, provide company, and bond with your family. I've come to the conclusion that men don't want partners they want a collection. Men cannot accept that they have a weaker role while still being involved. Either he's big strong man or it's weak and my business. And the men that cheer from the side see it as "well she does most of it so that obviously means it's all her business but I'll just tell her she's soooooo strong" not like... telling other men how to do their job. Men are pathetic. Want credit for zero effort.

[vividdreamer]

full offence but nobody is immune to propaganda so instead of shitting on somebody's attempt to educate themselves and be better, because you think "oh but i ALREADY knew the truth x years ago," how about you look in the mirror and think about that one time YOU fell for some bullshit too

[wrightfamily]

you ever see something that makes you go "oh the feminism movement has been going backwards backwards"

[devotedlystrangewizard]

xmen first class to me is really funny because it kind of falls into the trope of so misogynistic its gay but with the age old pre existing already severely homoerotic relationship?? like they tack on a love interest for charles at the end and erik has some weird shit happening with mystique to make it Not Gay but theyve been gay. you are making prequel movies to the "divorced gay men lead leftist infighting; probably shouldve just done a bdsm scene instead of involving everyone else in their shit" movies. and they keep doing it. dofp is fantastic but it continues the mystique/erik plotline. apocalypse brings back moira AND gives erik a wife and child (who only exist to be killed). its never ending no homo for one of the most famously homoerotic duos in marvel while ALSO refusing to make their forced female love interests compelling in any sense. its incredible

[thursdayg1rl]

you are not immune to terf propaganda 👁️

[abearinthewoods]

This is what radical feminists do when you don't agree that 100% of men jerk off to rape.

@radfemih8men Care to fucking explain yourself? (edit: she did, in the comments. long story, she confirmed it and thinks two wrongs make a right)

>mentions the darknet. 100% needs to have her hard drive check out.

Anyways, report this convo to the police, saying this kind of thing to a 13 year old is actually a sex offense PURELY ON ITS OWN in a lot of places.

[mrgaretcarter]

Honestly I think it would do us all well to go back to kinda cringy feminism again for a little bit idk cause I think maybe for some people the discourse somehow circled back around to supporting sexism just rebranded or whatever so its more aesthetic

[creampuffiemina]

i hate how most ppl in the raincode fandom feminizes (mostly makoto) and infantilizes makoto n yuma. and for some ppl, they do those two things , while ALSO sexualizing them. it fucking pisses me off

[arugulaeater]

Does anyone know... r there any menstrual tracking apps that don't have a lib pro-hypersexual "feminist" slant....... i am using Clue so far and idk it's not a huge deal but if I'm in a bad mood I don't wanna see any stupid stuff the paywalling and pro version begging are annoying too

I like having a visual calendar + cycle diagram, rough predictions, and compiled stats (avg cycle length and deviation), that's all really... fertility-related functions would be cool for when I get married. But it just makes me so so frustrated when reproductive health resources assume I'm sexually active + on contraceptives just because I'm an adult woman :/ instant seethe if u tell me unprompted to get checked for STDs or even bring up contraception.

[drdemonprince]

okay i think the people talking about how barbie is so important to young girls and has really deep lore are being a bit much

[girlhusbandfranzkafka]

Weird how non lesbian lesbophobes project their own transmisogyny onto lesbians. They insist lesbians are terfs for not being attracted to men (not seeing or caring about how they're equating trans women to men in this sentiment) then the same non lesbians shit themselves and cry when they see butches, masc/gnc women or trans masc lesbians. All that to not reflect on their own transmisogyny, transphobia, internalized queerphobia, lesbophobia, and good old fashioned misogyny.