#this is why i hate rad fems

[abearinthewoods]

Unpopular opinion:

The male loneliness epidemic is not real

It was made up by men to guilt you into sleeping with them or being with them.

Do not trust them.

That means yes all men including you because of male entitlement

Sleeping with men will not solve the male loneliness epidemic because its not about sex. Its about the fact that men and women are (generally speaking) unwilling to be as empathic and warm and kind and open and friendly to men as they are towards women.

But assuming men are doing it to guilt you into sleeping with them is a part of the problem. These sexist assumptions about men permeate every interaction men have with women that it keeps any man not high enough on the charismatic scale to side step them from developing close friendships or becoming socialized around women.

Read more bell hooks. If you want to create loving men you must learn to love men.

[livingradicaly]

It’s very telling that Brie Larson was asked the Johnny Depp question but none of the men present were. 

[abearinthewoods]

One transmasc to another, please reflect on how your actions may cause actual harm to transfems.

A joke made in anger that is entirely unactionable does not warrant tattling to the organizations that are currently trying to strip all of us of our rights, and are looking for any reason to villainize our transfem comrades.

What’s been done cannot be undone, but please for all of our sakes remember that we’re all under the same boot, and licking said boot won’t make it any less likely to crush you too.

It’s our responsibility to take care of each other, learn from each other, and to look long and hard in the mirror when someone says your words and actions are harmful.

Solidarity. Solidarity. Solidarity.

(Most of this is answered here: https://www.tumblr.com/abearinthewoods/770794163004407808/okay-i-dont-know-a-lot-about-the-situation-but-i?source=share)

I need everybody to understand one uncomfortable but super important truth.

Class solidarity means an end to the oppression olympics.

You should never be looking in your neighbor's bowl to see if they have more than you, only to see if they have enough.

Like lets take a step back for a quick moment and recap whats going on here. She made jokes about killing one of the most unsupported and invisible members of the LGBTQ community, because why?

Like no, lets actually address that.

Trans men want to use terms like trans misandry and trans androphobia to talk about their oppression, not terms like trans misogyny and trans emasculation. and for this they got bomb and death threats from other people in the trans community?!?!?!?!?!?

Because trans men want to use words centered around their their hatchling gender, not their egg gender, to describe their oppression, because they don't want to center their discussions about their issues around some axis of women as the most oppressed, they got hit with a massively outsized amount of hate from (a tiny collection of, lets be very fucking clear here.) mostly trans fems who drunk a little too much of radfem's cis-male hate that they decided to transpose onto trans men. All escalating to bomb threats which my inbox is now also full of.

This is your brain on oppression olympics.

This is the threat to class solidarity.

This is the threat to class solidarity.

This is exactly what they want. For us to be fighting over who has it worse. I don't give a fuck who has it better or who has it worse, and i sure as fuck don't care about any narratives that center this question around one's identity or demographics as some kind of universal truths that overrides individually.

Even when I do bring up ways in which cis or trans men have it worse, or ways in which women commit crimes more than men, I try to focus it on purely countering the opposite narrative, to make sure I am only pushing the pendulum back towards the center, nothing more.

No experience is universal and arguments about stats and oppression and privilege tend to paper over peoples individuality.

Solitary means respecting how we are different. How that changes how we all experience the world. You can't tell a trans man you have it worse than him without disrespecting this because you can not know his life, what he went thru, how his brain's chemistry makes minor changes to how he sees or deals with adversity that build up over time, or how the same difficulties may be harder or easier for somebody to handle or overcome based how they were raised or what other experiences they went thru.

There is a reason why countries who are not at war with each other fly their flags all at the same height; never flying their flag above their ally's flag. They stand as one. United. Because that is what solitary actually means.

We stand at a fork. Down one path is trans men using words like trans misandry to talk about their oppression and trans rad fems on tumblr not interjecting with some bullshit, and down the other path is trans men still using words like trans misandry, but also the hostility comes out and you'll get shit like them telling the same trans radfems to stop calling their oppression trans misogyny, and start calling it trans misandry, and the whole world goes blind. Because i've seen how understandably upset trans women have gotten at me when they've mistakenly thought i was actually suggesting that, its not a blow in the gender war we'll come back from if it enters the discourse.

(as an aside thought experiment, its actually kinda hard to truly only be sexist in one direction. like one could argue that slutshaming is implying there is something dirty or unclean about men/manliness that they 'taint' women with by having sex with them. but you'd rightly call me dick if MRAs started showing up to the local feminism meet and interjecting that every time the topic comes up. And as an MRA, So would I. So please lets stop trying to argue over the "true" direction of acts of sexism and let people be individuals who experience and talk about it in their own way.)

((Final aside, it would make things easier for our intersex and enby brothers, sisters, and gender nonspecific siblings to cast aside this gendered concept of oppression))

[abearinthewoods]

Twice as many young adult women compared to young adult men admitted to taking sexual advantage of a minor more then 5 years younger than them

Three times as many young adult women compared to young adult men admitted to threatening to harm somebody in order to get sex after being rejected.

Four times as many young adult women compared to young adult men admitted to physically assaulting somebody in order to get sex after being rejected.

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/339897287_Generation_by_Gender_Differences_in_Use_of_Sexual_Aggression_A_Replication_of_the_Millennial_Shift

Women cannot rape males.

Women are capable of sexually assaulting males, but not raping them.

Rape is a male crime.

Males can be forcefully penetrated by females, however I believe such situations should not be classed as the same as males raping women. The consequences are different and more often, more severe, such as pregnancy. The term rape should be solely used to describe males forcefully penetrating females and treated as such. Make up another word for M/M, F/F or F/M, but the word rape should be unique to males forcefully penetrating females, whether that be orally or with an object. Sperm has also been shown to chemically alter women, such is only possible if a male is raping a female. Males are biologically predisposed to rape, and before anyone says that can be used as an excuse, no it cannot, because HUMAN males should have the brain power to know it’s wrong, but yet they fail to see women as more than an organism for their taking. That’s another difference between M/F rape and M/M,F/F and F/M, males believe females were created for them and thus they believe they should have the right to rape.

[sinematically]

sent 27 messages where 3 of them were 5+ min voice notes talking about how fuckall excluding transwomen from sports can be and my friend replied with “damn did you brothers say something” like yeah he did but are u LOOKING AT MY FACTS RIGHT NOW G

[genderqueerdykes]

if you hear about lesbian men and instantly jump to taking it in bad faith to assume the worst possible conclusion in your mind, that it means that cishet men can be lesbians, you are catastrophizing, and that is not a healthy response to learning about this knowledge. jumping to the conclusion that your lesbophobic senator now identifies as a lesbian man because we're "allowed men to do that" is catastrophizing, and an unrealistic leap in logic to make.

if cishet men wanted to identify as lesbians, they would already be doing it. cishet men who find lesbian erotica hot are almost always the first ones to tell you how badly they hate irl lesbians and how gross they find us. if cishet men wanted to be lesbians, they already would be.

ask yourself why you didn't consider bigender and multigender lesbians. ask yourself why you didn't consider non binary and genderqueer lesbians. ask yourself why you didn't consider intersex lesbians. ask yourself why you didn't consider trans men who still feel connected to the lesbian community. ask yourself why you didn't consider bisexual people.

you MUST ask yourself: why is my initial reaction to queer identities i haven't heard of before hostility and outrage? why are you instantly taking things you haven't heard of in bad faith? who are you enraged on the behalf of? did anyone ask you to do that? did anyone ask you to stew in rage? is fuming silently alone in your room over something you cannot change helping you?

these are extremely important questions to answer. instead of taking out your outrage on someone else, you must look inward.

if you encounter a bigender wo/man who is a lesbian and think to yourself "well they're a woman so it cancels out their manhood, so they're not a lesbian man they're just a lesbian woman" you are disrespecting that persons identity and misgendering them. if you encounter a genderfluid lesbian who is a man at times, and say "well they're a woman most of the time, so it cancels it out, their manhood isn't a part of their lesbianism," you are disrespecting that person's identity and misgendering them. if you encounter a trans man who is also a lesbian and say "that's not right, trans men can never be lesbians, they're clearly confused/wrong" you are disrespecting that person's identity. you do not have to undermine someone's manhood in order to accept their lesbianism.

why did you choose to instantly jump to the worst possible conclusion (in your mind) and take it in bad faith? to what end? to serve what purpose? to keep the lesbian community "pure"? stop sucking up to rad fems and accept that queer experiences are way more broad than a single sentence descriptor of an identity. queerness does not exist in a vacuum, it is different for every person who experiences it. jumping to assume that lesbian men are "invading" the community is not a queer friendly line of thinking- you are creating an "us vs. them" binary whether or not you realize it.

[spatialwave]

“𝓪 𝓰𝓱𝓸𝓾𝓵’𝓼 𝓱𝓮𝓵𝓹𝓮𝓻”

pairing: cooper howard/the ghoul x fem!reader word count: 1k summary: you’d proven to cooper that you were a tough young thing, a vault dweller with a bit of edge—and a thing for mean-mannered ghouls. you were quick to indulge in being his plaything. warnings: mdni! smut, dom!cooper, sub!reader, rough, degrading, withholding/edging, cooper is mean i’m not sorry! notes: these are getting too good ya’ll hehe, i hope you like it! this scene was inspired by @ghoulphile and their amazing cooper writings! please go check out their blog! 🧡

when you first met cooper howard you had been doused in confusion, why the hell were you attracted to this… thing? not a human, but too handsome and sentient to be labelled as lowly as a ‘creature’. he couldn’t be wrangled into the likes of mutated animals, but you hadn’t met a ghoul before, so you didn’t know what to make of him. nor could you understand the way you’d grown slick between the thighs by only looking at him.

fascination struck when he settled striking eyes on you—soon forcing you along to seek out the information you’d gained through your years as a vault dweller.

and it’s not like you fit anywhere else anyway, even your vault allowed you to make way for the surface without an attempt to hold you back from your curiosity— you were stuck with nothing. not even a bottle of water to your name. so, if it meant having to suck up to a bounty hunting ghoul and beg for your life to stay afloat, then you could manage. you hadn’t any ounce of shame or pride, you were a prisoner to the wastelands.

a lover to a damned, 200-year old ghoul.

your face was shoved against the sandy floorboards of an old, battered saloon—destroyed and flimsy. one harsh rad storm and it would collapse into a corpse of a building that once held a proud number of guests before the war.

“cooper, fuck—“ you groaned, pain mixed with pleasure as your cunt burned.

the ghoul had stripped you completely, your vault jumpsuit tossed behind the broken bar, boots across the room and pip boy a few inches from your face. he left your naked body exposed to the cold night air, easy for him to ravage and indulge.

this was a constant repetition in your life now, when cooper was having a stressful day he took it out on you. the first time was near-frightening, thinking that he might end up snapping you in half while fucking you with his revolver shoved into your mouth like a deathly, make-shift gag.

you loved it—it was fucking disgusting, and you craved it like a lowly whore, a term of endearment that came so lovingly from the ghoul.

“quiet down,” he hissed, gloved hand landing harshly against your ass so a loud smack echoed through the dilapidated building, “i’ll shove your panties in your mouth if you keep this up, whore.”

his cock was buried deep into your pussy, swollen and aching around his hardened length that pushed against the ring of your cervix. the fleshy muscle shooting pain through your hips and thighs with each thrust, uncaring if it was painful. large hands massaged the globes of your ass, covered in reddened marks and bruises that would make sitting down hard—it was rare you had that privilege, though. cooper had made sure you two were always on the move.

“maybe i want that, cowboy,” you giggled sloppily, fucked so dumb you could hardly think as you looked over your shoulder at the ghoul, his hazel eyes piercing into yours just under the brim of his hat. you hated that he kept himself mostly clothed during these rendezvous.

cooper groaned, eyes narrowing as his left hand kept your wrists pinned against your back—face rubbing raw against the floor every time his cock slid through your wet walls. he’d been the biggest you’d ever taken, not like you had much experience.

“you love talkin’ with that filthy, cocksucking mouth of yours, don’t you?” cooper groaned, hands tightening around your wrists as his hips snapped sharply against your ass.

to make sure your needs were taken care of, you bit hard onto your bottom lip to muffle any sounds that may escape your throat. it was difficult when his cock stretched you thin, rubbing raw inside you as tears gathered in your eyes and all you wanted to do was scream his name until your voice cracked and the dry, dusty air stung your throat. you clenched tight around his cock, hardly able to keep yourself up on your knees, and he could feel how close you were to collapsing.

“not yet, darlin’,” cooper mumbled, his free hand latching to your hip and pulling you back to your knees when you’d nearly collapsed. then, the same hand slipped around your hips, so his bare fingers rubbed at your swollen clit that had been neglected.

“coop—“ you whimpered, eyes daring to shut tight as he pounded into you mercilessly, barely hanging onto reality as you had begun to see stars while your eyes rolled back.

he fed off your soft mewls of pleasure as you tried so hard to keep quiet, a smirk tainting his lips as he watched with excited eyes and a newfound sense of vigor.

“you gonna’ cum on my cock, lil’ helper?” he whispered, leaning forward so his clothed chest pressed against your back and locked wrists, “say it and i’ll think about lettin’ you,” he huffed, voice coarse as his warm breath tickled the shell of your ear and his finger pulled away from your clit—pulling you away from the edge you’d nearly fell over.

“i’m gonna’ cum on your cock,” you slurred—whining desperately for more, “can i, cooper? please, i’ve been good,” you pleaded, forcing your eyes to focus so you could look at him. you’d been fighting off the coil of heat tightening in your lower gut, waiting so patiently for your lover to say yes like the darling love you were.

you bit back a gurgled moan, eyes shutting tight as he allowed a few, long seconds to pass before his finger rubbed tight, fast circles on the sensitive bud, “go on then,” he breathed low, lips parted as he waited for your release.

all it took was for you to relax your body, then the pleasure soared through you like an explosive. cooper pulled himself upright and let go of your wrists so you could cover your mouth with your delicate fingers—moaning a saliva-filled mess into your hand while you came. every thrust sent your head swirling, sending your body into flames as his radiated body took one final snap of his hips before he spilled deep inside and felt the stress of the day vanish into thin air.

you were certainly this ghoul’s helper.

[abearinthewoods]

This but for young men.

To any young women on here: it’s normal to wait to have sex. I have plenty of friends, lesbian, bi, and straight, who waited till after college and into their mid twenties to have sex for the first time. It may feel like everyone else is having sex, but many people aren’t. Not because they’re prudes or religious or repressed or indoctrinated by purity culture but because they recognize that having sex is a deeply intimate and vulnerable act that they don’t want to engage in with just anyone. Waiting for the right person isn’t just for Christian fundamentalists. Hookup culture is almost always damaging to women and you’re not immune to heartbreak and regret just because you only sleep with women. Everyone’s experience is different but if I could talk to my teenage self I would say to wait to be with someone you know and trust.

[genderkoolaid]

question, have you heard about the book Trans/Rad/Fem coming out soon, and what are your thoughts on it? Idk I’ve read a bit about it and don’t have the highest hopes, it appears to just be another thing of ppl papering over the most egregious transphobia in radfeminism/replacing sex with gender and acting like it’s completely okay and fine now, but I’d like to see your thoughts

Yeah, I'm not exactly thrilled by this lol

I'm not gonna say that no part of radical feminism was ever helpful to a woman or that it served literally no purpose in the history of feminism.

But anyone who looks at radical feminism and goes, this is actually GREAT for trans people!, strikes me as someone who is ignorant (genuinely or willfully) of how harmful it was and is to so many groups. This description doesn't talk much about which trans people it is seeking to help, but the one mention of a specific group is trans women. So I'm guessing this book will be exactly what the title suggests and what anyone familiar with transradfems are expecting: eagerly jumping on radical feminism but reframing it for trans women, with no actual criticism of why the way radical feminism engages with gender is harmful, and doing to trans men, nonbinary people, and trans women who fall outside their lines, exactly what cis radfems have always done to all trans people and cis women who fall outside their lines.

While I do generally agree that a lot of people who call themselves "radical feminists" (or TERFs) today, do not actually know much about the radical feminist movement, or follow it's values. That does not mean the original radical feminists were meaningfully better. Their values sucked and radfems have ALWAYS worked with pro-patriarchy conservatives when it comes to harassment and legal action against groups they both hate (such as sex workers and trans people).

[walks-the-ages]

By the way, if you receive the following anon, its apparently a new trans inclusive radfem copypasta they've been sending around:

" your profile shows up red on shinigami eyes you might want to get that changed "

For anyone who missed it, the Shinigami Eyes extension has (not so recently, started at least 3 years ago) been marking intersex and trans activists red for being ""transphobic"" for the crime of .... Wait for it ..... For the crime of Intersectionality and caring about the entire intersex and trans community, and not just blindly worshipping and upholding trans women as saints or the pinnacle of trans oppression.

If you've ever posted about the issues with: racism, exorsexism, transandrophobia, intersexism, transmedicalism, gender essentialism, etc in the trans community? You're probably marked deliberately Red with Shinigami Eyes.

Even if you're literally someone who's entire blog is dedicated to activism and awareness and sharing resources and education, like @status-quo-hater .

Shinigami Eyes is being used to silence and demonize members of the trans community who don't fall exactly in line with the currently popular radical feminist rhetoric that

"trans women are the most oppressed people in existence, and if you even breathe a word of anything that says you think other trans people can even experience even an iota of hardship, that's you speaking over trans women!!!"

So, if you receive an anon ask saying you're marked Red in Shinigami Eyes, you've most likely talked a little bit too much about i'ntersectionality' and 'caring about all trans people', and that gets the rad fems up in arms so they'll deliberately go out of their way to falsely flag blogs talking about any issue that doesn't 'center' trans women, and the current developers are also rad fems, who sincerely believe that the descriptive terms "trans medicalist" (someone who believes you must fully medically transition to be a Real Transgender, never mind the million reasons people can't or don't want to do so) and "binary trans woman" (aka, a trans woman who is not nonbinary) is somehow on the same level of slur as "theyfab", an actual slur created on 4chan which is used, right now, by trans rad fems and TERFs alike to hate on anyone they don't like.

Anyways, if you haven't already, please take the time to leave a one star (⭐) review on Shinigami Eyes on Firefox and Chrome webstores explaining that merely standing up for ALL trans people and refusing to hate on trans men or intersex identities is enough to get you marked as a transphobe these days!

And yes, I do specifically want to encourage a ⭐ one star review in particular, to make more people LOOK at the reviews before trusting the extension.

You can always change the review later if someone else takes over and fixes things, but leaving a 4-star (⭐⭐⭐⭐) review talking about how it keeps falsely marking trans activists is just kinda sending the message that you *agree* with those false markings...

If you've left a 5-star review in the past, you can similarly edit your review into a one-star and explain why you're marking it down for the racism, intersexism, etc

Anyways. Here's the link to the Firefox reviews:

And here's one for google chrome:

https://chromewebstore.google.com/detail/shinigami-eyes/ijcpiojgefnkmcadacmacogglhjdjphj/reviews

[cherryvampyre]

Hot take but the way some rad fems choose to criticise cosmetic surgery is.. weird. “Wow why did she get buccal fat removal she looks gaunt and hideous like a preying mantis on meth” “she’s so ugly now she looks DISGUSTING”

like… Do you hear yourself? i once heard a male say that erin moriarty was so ugly after her plastic surgery that he couldn’t jack off to her anymore and of course i told him to kill himself but … that’s exactly what yall sound like. like men. I just think that there are better ways of critiquing cosmetic surgery without calling women horrid things under the guise of radfem. it just looks to me like you have internalised misogyny & have been waiting for an excuse to hate on women. You’re literally just bullying them and calling them ugly is probably why they felt the need to alter their face in the first place so it’s like adding kerosene to a fire. behaviour nasty as hell.

[plaidos]

I’m sorry that TME folks seem to fixate on harassing you.

It can be so frustrating to see trans men engage with sexism / TMRA ideas but claim it as new found knowledge. Like, AFAB as a “sex class” is a social assignment, not an excuse to not examine privilege. I’ve had similar experiences myself.

I’d ask them to read Whipping Girl but I’m sure they’d find a way to misconstrue it and argue the minutiae instead of looking for other trnasfeminist texts, like Trans Rad Fem.

Ex. (TW: TME gaslighting/ignorant behavior; jump either side of ℹ️ to skip examples)

When I told my TME non-binary uncle I was trans as a kid too, he told me, TMA futch girl, that it didn’t count bc I wasn’t out but like…why does he think I couldn’t be out? He said I just didn’t face any issues for my womanhood then and that only after I started to look like a girl did it happen.

I had a similar experience with my ex-fiance agender TME when I told him I was scared about legislation against trans women, citing I have breasts now and I’m visibly TMA. He told me I could always claim to be intersex as a man with gynecomastia instead of TMA. Which is both transmisogyny and intersexism.

ℹ️

These are just two examples but I have so many more and I’m sure you do too. It’s so hard to see these bullies aim their hate at you when it’s all of us. Any TMA girl/butch/thing when we speak up, gets the shit.

You deserve better than this. All our sisters do. Stay strong girlie.

god, your own uncle who was trans himself like... that's gutting. i'm so incredibly sorry that this has happened and for so long. it's heartbreaking how common these experiences are

[brownwomanisland]

Like clockwork, I'll see some notable members of the "radfem" movement or really just the "against AGP" movement from the global west and I'll go searching their tweets and they don't actually give a fuck about Palestinian women, Congolese women, Sudanese women.

Yeah, no wonder you have so little allies. You're too busy blaming people for their death. Their liberation of women actually just ends at the borders of their country lmao. That's why I would quicker follow nameless anonymous rad fems who mention women around the world when they can vs the ones with their names and faces on it because they only care about their little paradise not turning into something they hate.

Funny how women and girls everywhere want that. And if you bring up their silence or they're gonna say you're in support of grooming gangs or something like that. Because if you're against war mongering, you must be in favour of ... smaller scale war mongering?

Why cannot I be against genocide and also religious backed grooming gangs? Can I not be against torture against a dispossesed people (which are almost always women and children because they bare the brunt of war) and the trans nonsense of taking up women's spaces? Can I be against religious persecution and also the right for people to practice their religion humanely?

It's then when you realize we do not see the source the same. They do not see the problem of male behavior, male violence, male depravity. They do not see it as that because for them, Islam is the worst thing. And pornography. And I agree.

I also think all religion gives a backing for terrible men to abuse women under a system of respectability that so many people have not recognized. They are so caught up in what faith is their biggest enemy they're inadvertently running cover for terrible men in the faith they see as respectable. How many women and girls go unseen by them?

I wish they would stop calling themselves terfs and just call themselves TE. I don't see what's so radical feminist about knowing your sisters are dying somewhere but not caring because they happened to be indoctrinated into the wrong religion.

Sorry if you don't want to hear me talk about the blindness of our movement. We can't be against male violence everywhere and then go some exclusions may apply™️.

It's the same principle where I find women who push and enlist girls for Only Fans extremely dislikeable and yet the moment they say they want out, I will support their posts. The same way I find phallic obsessed lesbians (calling your girlfriend "boyfriend" lesbian, gagging on strap tweets, obsession with "top" double mastectomy surgeries) gross but I will help them call out an injustice that has occurred. The same way I find the bloodthirstyness of Zionist women appalling and yet I will never believe that she deserves to be raped.

We're either in this together or we're not.

[velvetvexations]

Since we're talking about forcefem, here're most of the forcefem-related asks I've had in my inbox, some of which are a few days old on account of technically going in the vexatious tag if not exactly kink asks. I wanted to answer one from today on it's own which I'll get to later but I wanted to get to the older ones and also get to a few of the others from today while I was at it.

i just saw a post where a trans guy was showing some messages where someone was (unconsensually) basically roleplaying forcefemming him. despite him telling them that he did not want that and that it was very much transphobic, and he atill got a message boiling down to "you're not a man, silly, you're a girl :D" and. to be honest. this was the thing that stopped the brainworms of "what if the whole concept of transandrophobia is actually transmisogynistic and i am entirely wrong" bc at least some of these people will just say the most bog standard transphobic shit to trans guys and not register it as transphobia. so why the fuck would they be right about anything transmascs experience also on that note thank you for being so outspoken in favour of transmascs getting to discuss their oppression. it's really helpful to see trans women stand with us here, especially when it comes to aforementioned brainworms

congratulations to that transphobe for creating a new transandrobro

the 'forcemasc isnt revolutionary' shit is the most annoying iteration of stupid tumblr discourse. like im going through the tag trying to read some horny shit and oh look. theres someone being stupid and hypocritical. in my horny tag.

people are getting tribalist about kinks and it's depressing

Every time people are saying that trans men & mascs cannot possibly fathom being objectified & fetishized, I think on all of the posts I’ve seen that did that exact same thing. And yeah, some of it might have been kink, so no hate no judgement I dabble in that tag too, but I’ve also seen “get in the dress” type posts that seem to be genuinely calling for trans men to be more feminine, untagged & in the wild, enough where I’m like — am I just imagining this? Like am I crazy? Am I missing something, or was that extremely detailed post about why I MUST stay feminine — or become more — for someone else’s benefit being 100% serious? And, again — if it’s kink, all the power to them, I love that for them, I even occasionally love that for me. But I have encountered enough people who were dead serious that I sometimes want no one but trusted friends & advisors to ever witness me again. And then I look at statistics & feel genuinely ill. And yeah, I’m gnc — and there’s the rub, because while I feel genuine joy being fem as well as masc, I want it to be a Choice, not something forced upon me.

people need to be fucking normal

Yh like ik a lot of shitposts don't have any tags but people have. Really gotta tag forcefem. I've blocked a large amount of people making these jokes + filtered their names n I still see it

I'm sorry, anon. <3

Fuck thank you so much for talking so openly about forcemasc. I’m so dumb I thought there wasn’t a name for that kink that I’ve been into for years, albeit my version is way more weirder. It would be like a… forcemascfem??? Like first it’s forcemasc and then it turns into forcefem and then right back to forcemasc…. And then back to- Idk my gender is weird and my kinky fantasy for that is weird

Cross as many boundries as you want, that sounds rad. Forcefem has a lot of infrastructure to jump off of.

“I’m doing a kink in a non kink way so it’s not kink blog!” Sorry this pisses me off It’s still a kink. Like. If someone made an I-suggest-BDSM blog and tried to claim it wasn’t a kink blog I’m sure more people would see how silly this is but because it’s the transfem approved virtuous forcefem they just let it slide??? Like. You are engaging in a kink and thats fine. You can say there won’t be anything explicitly sexual! But it will still be a kink blog because it’s a blog about a kink! A kink blog if you will! It doesn’t matter if you’re not getting off to it, it’s still a kink! That you are participating in! On your blog about that kink!

It SHOULD piss you off! It's extremely fucking scummy!

what the hell? for like one solid minute(longer than that but i like saying it this way) all the forcefem on my dash was tagged and i could blissfully not have to see it every other post and then just today i had to unfollow a buncha people for an assload of untagged forcefem :/ like im transmasc i think its understandable that i do not wish to see that anyway hope your day is goin well miss velvet

yeah it's praxis to not tag kink anymore

trfs are perfectly aware what the "force" bit means when forcemasc comes up in conversation

strange how that works

[abearinthewoods]

I think we should start responding to people saying weird shit about men/trans men with nothing but "stfu radfem." like I don't even care if they don't identify as a radfem, if they say shit like that they need to realize it makes them come off as a radfem and they should stop.

Good fucking idea.

Spread it around!

[abearinthewoods]

I am now twenty-six years old and—this may freak you out—I’m not coming out. And I’m not transitioning:

I hate that the only effective response I can give to “boys are shit” is “well I’m not a boy.” I feel like I am selling out the boy in baseball pajamas that sat with me on the bed while I tried to figure out which one I was supposed to be, and the boys who I have met and loved from inside my boy suit—who believed they were talking to a boy. I feel like I am burning the history of the naked body that sits on the floor of my shower.

Because I am interested in complicating your definition of maleness and of boyhood. I was born into that shitty town, maleness, in the remains of outdated ideals and misplaced machismo and repression and there are some good people stuck living there. They are not in charge. They did not build it. And I don’t feel okay just moving out and saying “fuck y’all — bootstrap your way out or die out, I was never one of you.” I want to make it a better, healthier place

I was not expecting to identify so thoroughly with a trans women today.

im gonna fucking cry and vomit and throw up.

im shaking