#this is why i hate rad fems

[abearinthewoods]

Unpopular opinion:

The male loneliness epidemic is not real

It was made up by men to guilt you into sleeping with them or being with them.

Do not trust them.

That means yes all men including you because of male entitlement

Sleeping with men will not solve the male loneliness epidemic because its not about sex. Its about the fact that men and women are (generally speaking) unwilling to be as empathic and warm and kind and open and friendly to men as they are towards women.

But assuming men are doing it to guilt you into sleeping with them is a part of the problem. These sexist assumptions about men permeate every interaction men have with women that it keeps any man not high enough on the charismatic scale to side step them from developing close friendships or becoming socialized around women.

Read more bell hooks. If you want to create loving men you must learn to love men.

[cto10121]

thinking about these Rosaline retellings makes me wonder if the writers arent secretly in denial about them liking Romeo

hear me out : Rosaline is taken to be turned into the typical female lead that often exists for self insert purpose and these retellings have Romeo often years more for Rosaline than Juliet

this exist to support the idea that Romeo was just in lust with Juliet but curiously they have him actually want Rosaline

conclusion : they are in denial about wanting Romeo

[spatialwave]

“𝓪 𝓰𝓱𝓸𝓾𝓵’𝓼 𝓱𝓮𝓵𝓹𝓮𝓻”

pairing: cooper howard/the ghoul x fem!reader word count: 1k summary: you’d proven to cooper that you were a tough young thing, a vault dweller with a bit of edge—and a thing for mean-mannered ghouls. you were quick to indulge in being his plaything. warnings: mdni! smut, dom!cooper, sub!reader, rough, degrading, withholding/edging, cooper is mean i’m not sorry! notes: these are getting too good ya’ll hehe, i hope you like it! this scene was inspired by @ghoulphile and their amazing cooper writings! please go check out their blog! 🧡

when you first met cooper howard you had been doused in confusion, why the hell were you attracted to this… thing? not a human, but too handsome and sentient to be labelled as lowly as a ‘creature’. he couldn’t be wrangled into the likes of mutated animals, but you hadn’t met a ghoul before, so you didn’t know what to make of him. nor could you understand the way you’d grown slick between the thighs by only looking at him.

fascination struck when he settled striking eyes on you—soon forcing you along to seek out the information you’d gained through your years as a vault dweller.

and it’s not like you fit anywhere else anyway, even your vault allowed you to make way for the surface without an attempt to hold you back from your curiosity— you were stuck with nothing. not even a bottle of water to your name. so, if it meant having to suck up to a bounty hunting ghoul and beg for your life to stay afloat, then you could manage. you hadn’t any ounce of shame or pride, you were a prisoner to the wastelands.

a lover to a damned, 200-year old ghoul.

your face was shoved against the sandy floorboards of an old, battered saloon—destroyed and flimsy. one harsh rad storm and it would collapse into a corpse of a building that once held a proud number of guests before the war.

“cooper, fuck—“ you groaned, pain mixed with pleasure as your cunt burned.

the ghoul had stripped you completely, your vault jumpsuit tossed behind the broken bar, boots across the room and pip boy a few inches from your face. he left your naked body exposed to the cold night air, easy for him to ravage and indulge.

this was a constant repetition in your life now, when cooper was having a stressful day he took it out on you. the first time was near-frightening, thinking that he might end up snapping you in half while fucking you with his revolver shoved into your mouth like a deathly, make-shift gag.

you loved it—it was fucking disgusting, and you craved it like a lowly whore, a term of endearment that came so lovingly from the ghoul.

“quiet down,” he hissed, gloved hand landing harshly against your ass so a loud smack echoed through the dilapidated building, “i’ll shove your panties in your mouth if you keep this up, whore.”

his cock was buried deep into your pussy, swollen and aching around his hardened length that pushed against the ring of your cervix. the fleshy muscle shooting pain through your hips and thighs with each thrust, uncaring if it was painful. large hands massaged the globes of your ass, covered in reddened marks and bruises that would make sitting down hard—it was rare you had that privilege, though. cooper had made sure you two were always on the move.

“maybe i want that, cowboy,” you giggled sloppily, fucked so dumb you could hardly think as you looked over your shoulder at the ghoul, his hazel eyes piercing into yours just under the brim of his hat. you hated that he kept himself mostly clothed during these rendezvous.

cooper groaned, eyes narrowing as his left hand kept your wrists pinned against your back—face rubbing raw against the floor every time his cock slid through your wet walls. he’d been the biggest you’d ever taken, not like you had much experience.

“you love talkin’ with that filthy, cocksucking mouth of yours, don’t you?” cooper groaned, hands tightening around your wrists as his hips snapped sharply against your ass.

to make sure your needs were taken care of, you bit hard onto your bottom lip to muffle any sounds that may escape your throat. it was difficult when his cock stretched you thin, rubbing raw inside you as tears gathered in your eyes and all you wanted to do was scream his name until your voice cracked and the dry, dusty air stung your throat. you clenched tight around his cock, hardly able to keep yourself up on your knees, and he could feel how close you were to collapsing.

“not yet, darlin’,” cooper mumbled, his free hand latching to your hip and pulling you back to your knees when you’d nearly collapsed. then, the same hand slipped around your hips, so his bare fingers rubbed at your swollen clit that had been neglected.

“coop—“ you whimpered, eyes daring to shut tight as he pounded into you mercilessly, barely hanging onto reality as you had begun to see stars while your eyes rolled back.

he fed off your soft mewls of pleasure as you tried so hard to keep quiet, a smirk tainting his lips as he watched with excited eyes and a newfound sense of vigor.

“you gonna’ cum on my cock, lil’ helper?” he whispered, leaning forward so his clothed chest pressed against your back and locked wrists, “say it and i’ll think about lettin’ you,” he huffed, voice coarse as his warm breath tickled the shell of your ear and his finger pulled away from your clit—pulling you away from the edge you’d nearly fell over.

“i’m gonna’ cum on your cock,” you slurred—whining desperately for more, “can i, cooper? please, i’ve been good,” you pleaded, forcing your eyes to focus so you could look at him. you’d been fighting off the coil of heat tightening in your lower gut, waiting so patiently for your lover to say yes like the darling love you were.

you bit back a gurgled moan, eyes shutting tight as he allowed a few, long seconds to pass before his finger rubbed tight, fast circles on the sensitive bud, “go on then,” he breathed low, lips parted as he waited for your release.

all it took was for you to relax your body, then the pleasure soared through you like an explosive. cooper pulled himself upright and let go of your wrists so you could cover your mouth with your delicate fingers—moaning a saliva-filled mess into your hand while you came. every thrust sent your head swirling, sending your body into flames as his radiated body took one final snap of his hips before he spilled deep inside and felt the stress of the day vanish into thin air.

you were certainly this ghoul’s helper.

[abearinthewoods]

This but for young men.

To any young women on here: it’s normal to wait to have sex. I have plenty of friends, lesbian, bi, and straight, who waited till after college and into their mid twenties to have sex for the first time. It may feel like everyone else is having sex, but many people aren’t. Not because they’re prudes or religious or repressed or indoctrinated by purity culture but because they recognize that having sex is a deeply intimate and vulnerable act that they don’t want to engage in with just anyone. Waiting for the right person isn’t just for Christian fundamentalists. Hookup culture is almost always damaging to women and you’re not immune to heartbreak and regret just because you only sleep with women. Everyone’s experience is different but if I could talk to my teenage self I would say to wait to be with someone you know and trust.

[genderkoolaid]

question, have you heard about the book Trans/Rad/Fem coming out soon, and what are your thoughts on it? Idk I’ve read a bit about it and don’t have the highest hopes, it appears to just be another thing of ppl papering over the most egregious transphobia in radfeminism/replacing sex with gender and acting like it’s completely okay and fine now, but I’d like to see your thoughts

Yeah, I'm not exactly thrilled by this lol

I'm not gonna say that no part of radical feminism was ever helpful to a woman or that it served literally no purpose in the history of feminism.

But anyone who looks at radical feminism and goes, this is actually GREAT for trans people!, strikes me as someone who is ignorant (genuinely or willfully) of how harmful it was and is to so many groups. This description doesn't talk much about which trans people it is seeking to help, but the one mention of a specific group is trans women. So I'm guessing this book will be exactly what the title suggests and what anyone familiar with transradfems are expecting: eagerly jumping on radical feminism but reframing it for trans women, with no actual criticism of why the way radical feminism engages with gender is harmful, and doing to trans men, nonbinary people, and trans women who fall outside their lines, exactly what cis radfems have always done to all trans people and cis women who fall outside their lines.

While I do generally agree that a lot of people who call themselves "radical feminists" (or TERFs) today, do not actually know much about the radical feminist movement, or follow it's values. That does not mean the original radical feminists were meaningfully better. Their values sucked and radfems have ALWAYS worked with pro-patriarchy conservatives when it comes to harassment and legal action against groups they both hate (such as sex workers and trans people).

[plaidos]

I’m sorry that TME folks seem to fixate on harassing you.

It can be so frustrating to see trans men engage with sexism / TMRA ideas but claim it as new found knowledge. Like, AFAB as a “sex class” is a social assignment, not an excuse to not examine privilege. I’ve had similar experiences myself.

I’d ask them to read Whipping Girl but I’m sure they’d find a way to misconstrue it and argue the minutiae instead of looking for other trnasfeminist texts, like Trans Rad Fem.

Ex. (TW: TME gaslighting/ignorant behavior; jump either side of ℹ️ to skip examples)

When I told my TME non-binary uncle I was trans as a kid too, he told me, TMA futch girl, that it didn’t count bc I wasn’t out but like…why does he think I couldn’t be out? He said I just didn’t face any issues for my womanhood then and that only after I started to look like a girl did it happen.

I had a similar experience with my ex-fiance agender TME when I told him I was scared about legislation against trans women, citing I have breasts now and I’m visibly TMA. He told me I could always claim to be intersex as a man with gynecomastia instead of TMA. Which is both transmisogyny and intersexism.

ℹ️

These are just two examples but I have so many more and I’m sure you do too. It’s so hard to see these bullies aim their hate at you when it’s all of us. Any TMA girl/butch/thing when we speak up, gets the shit.

You deserve better than this. All our sisters do. Stay strong girlie.

god, your own uncle who was trans himself like... that's gutting. i'm so incredibly sorry that this has happened and for so long. it's heartbreaking how common these experiences are

[aalexan]

i am quite literally a baby radfem in the sense that i am both a teen and have only been a radfem for 4-5 months? i have many trans friends my age who are very sweet people i enjoy being around, and i really like a few trans celebrities and the ones i don’t, i do respect for being bold and subverting the norm in some way. i would never want to call someone the wrong pronouns or name, but i can’t help but feeling like im betraying my trans friends when i engage with radfem content (even if its not inherently TERF). i really respect these people, but in my ideal world man and woman would be simply a biological label and everyone can present themselves how they want. this idea can directly affect the mental health of my friends and my relationships with them: so my question is, how do i treat this contradiction? is it even possible? should i treat it as i do christianity and religion, where i can respect the followers while criticizing what its rooted in? sorry this is so long!!

honestly, I don’t even think it necessarily has to be a contradiction. for me, even though I am a terf, I don’t harbour a hate for trans people, only a disagreement with their ideologies. i don’t think trans people are inherently bad or anything of the sort - I’ve met plenty of trans people who are really great! people just don’t understand what being a terf actually is, or what we believe in. I’ll be honest, I don’t know if it’s possible to change your friends minds. our disagreement with gender ideology is often seen as more of a personal, mean-spirited attack than what it is; a disagreement based off logical arguments and thinking. the most I can recommend is to stay connected with the rad fem community and like-minded people who understand why we think what we do.

[abearinthewoods]

Randomly thinking about how jk Rowling coded it in to the HP universe that the stairs to the girls dorms had a spell to keep boys out but not the inverse. Even having a character explain to Ron that its because the founders viewed boys as less trustworthy.

In retrospect given that it really shouldn't have been a surprise when she harpooned on about "men in dresses trying to invade women's spaces". She clearly sees sexual deviancy as a distinctly male trait.

[mauveliptint]

I've heard that porn isn't the reason why sexual harassment and violence is prevalent in India. Like, I'm so tired because even though India did 'ban' porn (idk, some say it's banned, others say it's not 🤷🏻‍♀️) it's still one of the countries with the most number of people to view that filth. Indian men have ways to view porn, including using VPNs, and it's so pathetic and outrageous. Indian men who view porn are the most sex-starved people.

Also, I'm so fucking tired of these people who say that India has some of the lowest rape cases, like I wanna grab something and hit that person on the face with it. Do you even check the number of unreported rape cases? They're higher than the reported ones, ig even higher than the fake ones. Government isn't doing good shit with it. That's why I have the Indian government so much, it just deranges me. I say this as an Indian rad-fem.

Some porn sites are banned in India but honestly, that means nothing because VPNs exist, and now everywhere you look, there's porn (Reddit, Twitter etc) Porn has completely deranged people’s minds. After the Kolkata rape case, people literally searched for the victim's name on porn sites.

Indian women are so hated and it’s sad tbh. Porn is also where the fetishization of white women comes in, it's also an extension of their hatred toward Indian women.

Anyone who willingly consumes porn is a misogynist, and I refuse to even be friends with such people.

Literally 99% of sexual assault cases go unreported according to govt data. Marital rape isn’t even recognized as a crime in India. And I’m so exhausted by men pretending to be the victims when, in reality, they’re the ones committing the worst acts imaginable.

Also, fake rape cases are not as huge deal as made out to be by these MRAs. A tiny fraction of reported cases are false, and that’s true for every crime- not just rape. But Indian men hate women so much that they cling to these rare instances just to dismiss our lived experiences. It’s vile.

[brownwomanisland]

Like clockwork, I'll see some notable members of the "radfem" movement or really just the "against AGP" movement from the global west and I'll go searching their tweets and they don't actually give a fuck about Palestinian women, Congolese women, Sudanese women.

Yeah, no wonder you have so little allies. You're too busy blaming people for their death. Their liberation of women actually just ends at the borders of their country lmao. That's why I would quicker follow nameless anonymous rad fems who mention women around the world when they can vs the ones with their names and faces on it because they only care about their little paradise not turning into something they hate.

Funny how women and girls everywhere want that. And if you bring up their silence or they're gonna say you're in support of grooming gangs or something like that. Because if you're against war mongering, you must be in favour of ... smaller scale war mongering?

Why cannot I be against genocide and also religious backed grooming gangs? Can I not be against torture against a dispossesed people (which are almost always women and children because they bare the brunt of war) and the trans nonsense of taking up women's spaces? Can I be against religious persecution and also the right for people to practice their religion humanely?

It's then when you realize we do not see the source the same. They do not see the problem of male behavior, male violence, male depravity. They do not see it as that because for them, Islam is the worst thing. And pornography. And I agree.

I also think all religion gives a backing for terrible men to abuse women under a system of respectability that so many people have not recognized. They are so caught up in what faith is their biggest enemy they're inadvertently running cover for terrible men in the faith they see as respectable. How many women and girls go unseen by them?

I wish they would stop calling themselves terfs and just call themselves TE. I don't see what's so radical feminist about knowing your sisters are dying somewhere but not caring because they happened to be indoctrinated into the wrong religion.

Sorry if you don't want to hear me talk about the blindness of our movement. We can't be against male violence everywhere and then go some exclusions may apply™️.

It's the same principle where I find women who push and enlist girls for Only Fans extremely dislikeable and yet the moment they say they want out, I will support their posts. The same way I find phallic obsessed lesbians (calling your girlfriend "boyfriend" lesbian, gagging on strap tweets, obsession with "top" double mastectomy surgeries) gross but I will help them call out an injustice that has occurred. The same way I find the bloodthirstyness of Zionist women appalling and yet I will never believe that she deserves to be raped.

We're either in this together or we're not.

[velvetvexations]

Since we're talking about forcefem, here're most of the forcefem-related asks I've had in my inbox, some of which are a few days old on account of technically going in the vexatious tag if not exactly kink asks. I wanted to answer one from today on it's own which I'll get to later but I wanted to get to the older ones and also get to a few of the others from today while I was at it.

i just saw a post where a trans guy was showing some messages where someone was (unconsensually) basically roleplaying forcefemming him. despite him telling them that he did not want that and that it was very much transphobic, and he atill got a message boiling down to "you're not a man, silly, you're a girl :D" and. to be honest. this was the thing that stopped the brainworms of "what if the whole concept of transandrophobia is actually transmisogynistic and i am entirely wrong" bc at least some of these people will just say the most bog standard transphobic shit to trans guys and not register it as transphobia. so why the fuck would they be right about anything transmascs experience also on that note thank you for being so outspoken in favour of transmascs getting to discuss their oppression. it's really helpful to see trans women stand with us here, especially when it comes to aforementioned brainworms

congratulations to that transphobe for creating a new transandrobro

the 'forcemasc isnt revolutionary' shit is the most annoying iteration of stupid tumblr discourse. like im going through the tag trying to read some horny shit and oh look. theres someone being stupid and hypocritical. in my horny tag.

people are getting tribalist about kinks and it's depressing

Every time people are saying that trans men & mascs cannot possibly fathom being objectified & fetishized, I think on all of the posts I’ve seen that did that exact same thing. And yeah, some of it might have been kink, so no hate no judgement I dabble in that tag too, but I’ve also seen “get in the dress” type posts that seem to be genuinely calling for trans men to be more feminine, untagged & in the wild, enough where I’m like — am I just imagining this? Like am I crazy? Am I missing something, or was that extremely detailed post about why I MUST stay feminine — or become more — for someone else’s benefit being 100% serious? And, again — if it’s kink, all the power to them, I love that for them, I even occasionally love that for me. But I have encountered enough people who were dead serious that I sometimes want no one but trusted friends & advisors to ever witness me again. And then I look at statistics & feel genuinely ill. And yeah, I’m gnc — and there’s the rub, because while I feel genuine joy being fem as well as masc, I want it to be a Choice, not something forced upon me.

people need to be fucking normal

Yh like ik a lot of shitposts don't have any tags but people have. Really gotta tag forcefem. I've blocked a large amount of people making these jokes + filtered their names n I still see it

I'm sorry, anon. <3

Fuck thank you so much for talking so openly about forcemasc. I’m so dumb I thought there wasn’t a name for that kink that I’ve been into for years, albeit my version is way more weirder. It would be like a… forcemascfem??? Like first it’s forcemasc and then it turns into forcefem and then right back to forcemasc…. And then back to- Idk my gender is weird and my kinky fantasy for that is weird

Cross as many boundries as you want, that sounds rad. Forcefem has a lot of infrastructure to jump off of.

“I’m doing a kink in a non kink way so it’s not kink blog!” Sorry this pisses me off It’s still a kink. Like. If someone made an I-suggest-BDSM blog and tried to claim it wasn’t a kink blog I’m sure more people would see how silly this is but because it’s the transfem approved virtuous forcefem they just let it slide??? Like. You are engaging in a kink and thats fine. You can say there won’t be anything explicitly sexual! But it will still be a kink blog because it’s a blog about a kink! A kink blog if you will! It doesn’t matter if you’re not getting off to it, it’s still a kink! That you are participating in! On your blog about that kink!

It SHOULD piss you off! It's extremely fucking scummy!

what the hell? for like one solid minute(longer than that but i like saying it this way) all the forcefem on my dash was tagged and i could blissfully not have to see it every other post and then just today i had to unfollow a buncha people for an assload of untagged forcefem :/ like im transmasc i think its understandable that i do not wish to see that anyway hope your day is goin well miss velvet

yeah it's praxis to not tag kink anymore

trfs are perfectly aware what the "force" bit means when forcemasc comes up in conversation

strange how that works

[blackpilljesus]

hello, ive been lurking in radblr (and agreeing with almost everything i see) and i feel like i have a pretty good understanding of the terminology, there is just one thing: i am still confused about the "pilled" thing like redpill blackpill ect..

Redpill isn't part of rad or other spaces near it terminology. That's moid bs believing in hypergamy & thinking maIes are oppressed.

As far as I know there are 4 pills in fem (female not feminist) spaces.

💊 Black pill - Explained here

💊 White pill - Came about as a twitter thing against blackpillers when there were more active blackpillers on the site. These women are & believe in the opposite of the blackpill. Whitepillers believe maIe violence is entirely due to socialisation so maIes can be reformed. Many whitepillers either want to or support being with maIes because LuRvE aNd CoMpAnIonShIp so yeah they oppose concepts like separatism. Main aspect of the whitepill is having hope that female liberation will happen some day.

💊 Gray pill - In the middle of the blackpill & whitepill. Many of these women want to have hope but at the same time cant deny the evidence they see that suggests otherwise. Not hopeful enough for the whitepillers but not pessimistic or doomerism enough for the blackpillers either.

💊 Pink pill - Not entirely too sure as I didnt hang around these spaces but they're femcels. They focus on concepts like lookism, how they're not attractive enough in society. Many pinkpillers aim to looksmaxx in an attempt to gain higher status in society but some are just hateful of hetero politics with regards to the way maIes choose women. Many of them were also involved in FDS circles as well.

With mass social media account wipeouts many blackpillers, graypillers, and pinkpillers spaces were taken out so there's just specs here and there. Some tried setting their own websites but they eventually went down with no explanation as to why. I miss these spaces even if I didn't agree. As I was answering this I thought to myself how it's wild that so much of this history of womens thoughts is gone and I'm honestly glad this question was asked what a trip. 2020-2022 was many female spaces peak times.

There's very little memory of these spaces online even but with the way people are I'm sure they'll kick up again at some point as the wheel always gets reinvented.

[pronounmelon]

Younique worker character designs GAP part 1

Hey rad(lame)fems please don’t get your hopes up about Jaden Riley ripoffs being canon in the GAPverse it’s not gonna go well

love (hate) me a delicious set of classist performative feminists mmmmm yummers

name change explanation for Riley, plus some very genuine questions on if Rusty has researched anything ever:

Riley did not become a widely used name for girls until the 2000s. It only just started picking up in the 90s. Bestie was born IN 1990. To a. JW. Mormon. Misogynist conglomerate cult. Thing. Not only is bro’s MOM apparently the Chinese one in Leasebound (why did she take her moms surname it’s a misogynist cult and it’s implied her mom disowned her ???) it’s a gender essentialist misogynist fictional cult with no apparent purpose other than to be misogynist is there a REASON a traditional gender role essentialist cult family named their daughter a traditionally male name?? Like dude your misogynist cult doesn’t sound very misogynist. Except the skirts part I guess that’s like the ONLY THING that is there to tell us she grew up in a cult. Plus the birthday thing which seems to indicate this is a Jehovahs Witness ripoff cult which, from testimony I have heard from an ex-JW, would make her name taboo not just for the “male” association but for its non-Christian roots. Anyway fuck you she’s an ex-Mormon now and she has a douchebag Christian school kid name

[abearinthewoods]

Toxic masculinity looks like a video of women explaining they dont date guys who drive teslas

Its also the 50 thousand people who upvoted it on reddit, the thousands of comments agreeing with video or joining in to mock such guys, as well as any man whos decisions or self worth are influence by it.

But most importantly: its the 12 year boy who just saw that video and all the comments and upvotes and just internalized the message that his self worth is based upon what women think of him. Something he'll subconsciously express when his first rejection feels like a personal attack.

So when i say toxic masculinity is enforced by men and women alike, this is what i mean.

[auspicioustidings]

Right, if you consider yourself rad fem or gender critical I'm asking you to be open minded for the next few minutes and really try think about what I'm saying here.

I think that you think you are right, but nobody is immune to propaganda. Not me and not you. We are, all of us, being taught everyday to forgo our humanity in favour of upholding systems of oppression that hurt everybody. Systems of oppression that have had centuries to sophisticate their methods, the sneaky trap is letting you believe you are somehow too clever to ever buy the cruelty they are selling you.

I apologised sincerely to my best friend this year for a conversation we had in a car a year ago and I want to tell you about it because I think you could learn something from it.

We were talking about rape culture and I was going off about how women suffer under patriarchy. He mentioned that he has been sexually assaulted before as a man and it was by a woman. And do you know what I did? Probably what you if you are a rad fem would have done, I scolded him for trying to make a discussion about the suffering of women about him.

I turned to my best friend, a man I love, and fucking dismissed him out of hand when he was talking about something traumatic that happened to him. I put my anger at a system that hurts everybody above having a shred of humanity for the person sat next to me.

He graciously accepted my apology and said he understood why I had reacted that way. But we also talked about how his social media algorithms are constantly trying to shove him into alt right echo chambers and how careful he has to be because it can happen so fast that his feed starts to change.

And that is also what happens to EVERYONE. It is happening to you. Algorithmic radicalisation is a known phenomenon. Do you know who actually benefits from you hating any group of people for something about themselves they cannot change? The structures of oppression that you want to dismantle.

I mean this kindly because I understand how you might have wound up here and that it's hard to try and consider that you might be wrong, but you are being manipulated. Misandry leads to transphobia leads to racism leads to misogynoir. To you it might sound ridiculous, but I promise you that the minute you start losing humanity for the people you share the planet with, every structure of oppression that you are against will sink it's claws right into you. There is a reason that Joanne Rowling now attacks cis black women, she fell into the trap that you are going to fall into if you don't start trying to change.

Rad fem ideology is one of the funnels into the alt right. Neither me nor you wants you in two years time to have lost your humanity and be parroting talking points that you right now would find abhorrent because you get trapped in an echo chamber.

And yes, people are going to be mean to you over this even if you try to unlearn it because you're going to make mistakes. Your job is to recognise that you have caused hurt and you cannot expect everybody to just forgive that. Your job is to recognise you are not safe for some people and that is not going to change overnight.

The patriarchy thrives when you start cutting off your humanity to the people around you, do not let it win. It thrives when you start practicing gender essentialism, the same concept that the patriarchy runs on.

If none of this is sounding worrying to you as a rad fem then I as a stranger on the internet am not going to change your mind, so you are fully not welcome on my blog until you can start learning to change.