#and hey I'm trying to respect that

[rubenesque-as-fuck]

It has nothing to do with being poly or not, just that you can have a very casual relationship and also be in love with him? You can see him only once a year and be in love with him. And that should be fine, it doesn't have to mean anything, and you shouldn't have to deny your feelings. Poly people just have that word for it, sorry if it was confusing.

Well I'm sorry if you're soooooooo much more evolved than I am, poly anon. It's not confusing, you're just coming off as incredibly judgy and patronizing.

You say it doesn't mean anything, but it does mean something to me. Being able to fully love someone, for me personally, means being in a mutually loving monogamous relationship with that person. But that relationship model also isn't for everyone and I know that. That's ok, to each their own.

But my personal history has shown me over and over and OVER again, I am not good enough for anyone to want a full loving relationship with me. And the idea of going back to trudging through shitty dating apps for like one shitty deadend date per year makes me want to barf. So for now I will take the occasional bit of ass from someone I trust if it's available to me, because that's better than spending another 5-10 years (or longer!) not being touched at all.

He's said multiple times that he isn't ready for a relationship right now. Trying to just force him into a relationship model that neither of us actually want isn't going to help things.

[n3felibata]

The lack of sapphic relationships in Hellaverse is so frustrating to some people because there are so many achillean ones. I don't usually get this disappointed but the problem is the imbalance. It's honestly one of the biggest reasons I consider these shows to have terrible representation of women.

I'm not even asking for LESS mlm content, but it's odd that the shows pride themseleves in being unapologetically queer, but most of the queer representation is just man on man stuff, even if some of the relationships are more sexual than romantic. The double standard is clear and the only thing that's more frustrating is the way the fandom refuses to admit how weird it is

[mercymaker]

went to bed last night feeling that it was finally time to step back and let the dust settle and try to get things back to normal and then woke up to all that

[rouge-fauna]

I think you’re talking about these posts [here & here], I don’t know if there have been others.

I'm not gonna say what I did was right, you are correct I should probably just not respond to asks getting me to talk about other people. I will say for these two posts those people had already blocked me I’m pretty sure, so it’s kinda hard to talk directly to them in that case. And I was not doing so anonymously and had not blocked them so I wasn’t hiding what I was saying. I did not follow them, I am not part of the innitor community, and not that that makes it right but I do think it is kinda different. Though you make a good point, perhaps we should stop this pattern of responding to asks about other blogs and such.

Still, the biggest thing to me I realized, back in elementary school when I first dealt with this, was that honestly all the time we talk about people behind their back. Talking about people when they aren’t always in the room is kinda just inevitable and part of socializing, however I think the important part is how you are talking about other people. It’s when you are insulting them, talking negatively about them to people they know, spreading false information and so on that it becomes not okay. Hopefully that makes sense.

In these cases I merely focused on the lore. I didn’t insult them or talk shit about them, as a person, as a blog or say their takes were stupid or they are stupid or speculate about their trauma or mental history. I just talked about reasons why I disagreed, or saw things differently and why we might see things differently. They were also not the only ones I saw to say similar things so I think in my mind I was making more of a general discussion, not trying to target them specifically. I didn’t post beyond that about them. But you are right, regardless it was probably not the right way to go about things.

But just to be clear, if I am a hypocrite it is not my intention. I haven’t vague blog anyone or meant to vague reblog anyone. I think this week is pretty much the first time I’ve ever been not naming, passive aggressively talking about blogs, and even then I’m not trying to insult them, trying to cancel them. I’m just expressing that before you go off about how I’m stupid and unable to have a discussion about it, the very least you could’ve done was give me an opportunity to try.

[oozeandgoo-art]

everyone is sooo in love with vakori on account of le is so cool and smart and deeply pragmatic and is also completely batshit insane

[sheliesshattered]

10 minutes left before I turn a year older and what did I do?

I ordered myself a lightsaber. ah yiss

[thedreadvampy]

guess who's in 🎶troooouble🎶

New Boss does not appreciate my Vile Insubordination (giving an informed opinion in an email chain where she said some factually incorrect things and got called out on it - I said hey yep you're right that what she said isn't true but here's why it's still important to listen to our team)

and now we have to have a Quick Chattette about my Behaviour and Unsatisfactory Response (didn't apologise for being correct)

[icewindandboringhorror]

It always seems a bit unbalanced on The Great Food Truck Race when there will be multiple teams who are cooking a wide variety of complex dishes with 10 different components and a bunch of prep work, and then there's that one team who like... exclusively serves plain crepes with some premade nutella on them, or plain waffles with just some whipped cream and cut up strawberries lol...

[lizeon]

every day i spend on twitter, because that's where most of the starmin are, is a day i wish most of that community would move to tumblr just because the way this site works in comparison would be so much better for it. the ability to tag art and be able to find it later on your own blog no matter how far back it was posted. the way you can add on to each others posts. and also i just like tumblers post format much better. especially for making a vague / simple post and then going into more detail in the tags cuz you don't wanna put all that in the main post but like it's there for anyone that wants to read it. on twitter you gotta put it all in the main body of the post and i. do not want to do that

[smol-tired-binch-blog]

Yknow, the fact that Matsushige looks like a knock-off Sohei Dojima probably really didn’t help matters did it

[vimbry]

me and the work girlies having socialist convos at the end of the day

[i-appear-misssing]

I just had the horrible thought that I need to fall in love because having devastating crushes on beautiful, competent, authoritative women that I desperately want to please is exhausting and I need it to stop

[nowendil]

nothing as stressful on this earth as being a guy who has a System for doing a thing that other people do all willy-nilly and then people try to be thoughtful and helpful by doing that thing for you but they just end up fucking up your System. and then you can't be upset about it because they meant well and you know that you're the weird one here anyway

[trasho-pando2011]

I've been listening to will wood's cover of prince ali on loop.... /pos

[rinbylin]

[stellerssong]

HOW am I supposed to fit "doesn't actually like musicals" into the existing Swan lore. It's too early in the morning for this

oh i can answer this! when i say i "don't like musicals" i mean it in the same sense that people who have written hundreds of thousands of words of star wars fanfic say "i hate star wars and i wish it was good" or when people who can pinpoint down to the run, issue, page number, panel, and speech bubble where you should start reading their favorite comic say "one day i'm going to burn down dc headquarters and i'm not joking." hope this helps!