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how to tell your friend they need antidepressants
#definitely not by giving one of your ocs your depression and another hers#and having them relate to that and learn how to approach each others depression#and have them deal with that#definitely not#you definitely don't need to do that when you literally sent them like three different screenshots of depression symptoms lists#with absolutely no context or accompanying text#ahahahahahaha#definitely don't#give the podcast character that she will likely be playing#her...#depression...#and make it a thing in the story#aha#ha
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Just a sketch that I was too tired to finish... And since it's Father's Day I'm just gonna dump a bunch of my more silly (mostly) headcanons about their dynamic below, teehee.
General - They argue. A lot. About anything. Jason is the instigator. Harvey is almost always correct. - There has been a karaoke battle at some point. - They smoke far too much and smoke breaks are common occurrences during anti-hero outings. They are no longer mere breaks; they are rituals. - One of the only things they are comfortable openly bonding over is their alleged hatred of Bruce - and weapons. - Actually work very well together in combat. Jason's accurate, hard-hitting martial arts expertise and agility compliment Harvey's more elegant and violent approach. Gotham's scumbags are cooked. - They were both slain by Gotham, and reborn. They are now both living their second life - neither want to admit to each other that they find comfort that they're not alone in this. - They will take any opportunity to bring up each other's past interactions; the two-toned car, the two-story building fiasco, the kidnapping, anything. - Jason's biological father is the root cause of their most explosive, brutal fights. Both of them, however, are exhausted and have other shit to worry about, so they avoid this topic as best as they can.
Jason's POV - Teases Harvey about twos, duality and doubles to distract from the horrors. - When angry, will call Harvey 'Apollo' to piss him off. Sometimes it's 'Ex-District Attorney', with emphasis on the 'Ex'. - He doesn't like it very much when Harvey attempts to get close/connect with him; relationships are transactional. At least that's how Jason views them. - Hates being passenger in Harvey's car because he doesn't get any say over the radio. - He does view Harvey as a parental figure, or something like it, but he's conflicted. - Actually appreciates it when Harvey helps him through PTSD episodes. - Sadly, he isn't very good at helping Harvey through dissociation/depressive episodes yet. He sort of stands there like the man emoji. - Will randomly come out with courtroom related lines when Harvey does something bad, like: "Your honour, my client would like to plead Gemini," or "Your honour, in my client's defence, he didn't know the safety lock was off." - Makes jokes about Harvey's thugs all wanting to have 'a night' with Harvey. - Absolutely refuses to call Harvey "dad", even jokingly. He will have sightseen everything in Hell before that happens. - But at the same time he cries out for a father figure, one that is proud of him, that loves him. He secretly loves it when Harvey pats his shoulder or gives an approving nod.
Harvey's POV - Will make jokes about Jason being alive again to distract from the horrors. - When angry, calls Jason 'Robin' or 'Pup' (name of a baby bat) to piss him off. - Tries to bond with Jason - he *wants* to - but he's a big dumbass about it. - Does not understand Jason's music taste and doesn't have any desire to. - Views Jason as the child he never had the chance to have. In a sense, that makes him quite protective of Jason, but he hides this. He tries desperately not to be like his own father. - Is quite good at understanding Jason's emotions; he knows how to deal with his attacks and does, begrudgingly, use tips he learned from his previous therapists. - Doesn't wish to burden Jason with his own episodes. Unfortunately it's not always possible to hide them. - Just as Jason tortures him with puns, Harvey will do it right back. He'll come out with things like, "We only put up with you because you were the SECOND Robin," or "How would you like to die a second time?" - He will stand and stare awkwardly when Jason brings (sneaks) lovers back to the hideout. But he minds his business. - May have accidentally called Jason his son a few times. Or his "kid". But not to Jason directly, only in his talks between himself and Two-Face. - He likes seeing Jason happy. So many kids and young people are let down by Gotham's corruption and he'll be damned if Jason becomes a victim of it (again).
#Obviously I have way more complex stuff to say but it's late and I wanted to keep things relatively lighthearted so yeah. <3#long post#tw: smoking#tw: mental health#harvey dent#jason todd#two-dads au#headcanons#dc comics#sketches#rambles#reginalususart
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light a candle | l. juyeon
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☆pairing: single father!juyeon x teacher fem!reader
☆tags: fluff!, slow but not so slow burn, really slight smut, mentions of alcohol, swearing, mentions of death, mentions of other members, eric is kinda toxic here :)
☆summary: after your last relationship you swore to yourself that you wouldn’t fall in love again but you change your thoughts when you see a little girl and her…very hot dad
disclaimer! all the people on this fic are pure imagination and are fake, they don’t relate to the real people at all.
STATUS: on going! ( 19. 10. 24 )
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Chapter one
With your head leaning against the window, you watched desolately as nature moved before your eyes, molding itself to your speed-constrained gaze.
The vacations were over for you too and it was time to go back to school.
Lightly you sigh, remembering that now it is no longer you behind a desk listening to some depressed elderly woman tell the same story for the millionth time.
Nope, now on the other side of the classroom there’s you.
And in front of you are not hormone-filled teenagers but rather sweet children with so much curiosity in their hearts and eyes.
Teaching was something that always came naturally to you; ever since you helped your little brothers study by finding nice methods to make studying easier.
Or when your classmates would come begging for you to explain the lesson to them again.
Even explaining cell phone secrets to your grandparents came so well to you that you had ended up teaching the whole neighborhood.
In short, you hadn't chosen that job; it was like destiny, it had chosen you.
Still, going back to school remained the hardest thing of all, in spite of the years gone by.
The 6 a.m. wake-up call, the hurried breakfast and the early morning Parisian traffic were things that you would never get used to, especially after a week of peace in your mom's country home.
In Paris, the cold weather was beginning to set in and, tightly wrapped in your coat, you leaved the car parked in its usual spot, heading quickly for the school entrance, greeting Pierre, the facility's concierge, with a smile.
"Welcome back y/n! A new year begins!" he says in his rough voice worn by the years behind him.
"Good morning Pierre, well yes, it begins for everyone! Have the other teachers arrived yet?" you asked, leaving your coat and hat at the entrance and picking up your work uniform.
At the man's nod you smiled at him and then waved heading to the classroom you shared with another teacher (aka your best friend).
Once you entered the room you crossed the gaze of Vivienne who, as usually, was already chatting with the other teachers.
"y/n!" the girl shouted slightly, making several gestures for you to come closer.
Looking at her confusedly you approached the group, greeting everyone with a smile.
"What are you girls chatting about?" you asked once you arrived.
"About the new children, we have some big names in our appeals this year." one of the teachers, Claire, replied giggling.
You smiled slightly as you heard the girls gossip, letting the everydayness of that laughter cuddle you.
Before long, the first children began to arrive with parents hurriedly tossing them into the hands of the teachers and with a quick kiss and hug running off to work.
Each time these scenes warm your heart, seeing how these children break away from their parents' necks and attach themselves to yours, seeking comfort which they promptly receive.
By now you have learned what each of them likes and how to make them feel secure and loved even without mom or dad.
But in addition to all those familiar little faces and their little hands reaching up to greet you, you caught sight of a new little girl in the distance, all well-dressed and flanked by a tall man in a suit and tie.
Slowly you approached her, seeking the eyes of the little girl, who looked around curiously, holding her little dress in her hands. "Hello! What's your name?" You said once you knelt down in front of her.
The child groped slightly, swallowing animatedly.
"Isa..Isabelle," the little girl said, finally looking up and as she met your gaze you were completely stunned by the beauty that stood before you.
Two almond-shaped blue eyes surrounded by a pair of brown pigtails that were lightly covered by a blue hat.
"Isabelle," you began, smiling at her, "it's a pleasure to meet you! I am y/n, your teacher..." you then looked up at the man next to her who had not yet spoken a word "...is this your daddy?" you asked whispering to the little girl.
She smiled slightly and shook her head, moving those funny braids.
"No! this is Paul! He’s my friend though!" she smiled back at the man next to her, who smiled back and then returned to his composed position.
Slightly confused you stood up turning to him.
"So you are..."
"Miss Isabelle's secretary, ma'am."
"The..the secretary?" You asked confused.
The man nodded.
"Mr. Lee could not be present this morning so I accompanied the young lady."
You nodded slightly, shifting your gaze to the little girl who was now looking at you smiling.
You had seen many busy parents (almost every day) but all of them, at least on the first day of school, went out of their way to be able to wish their children a "good first day."
Letting out a long sigh to bring your mind back to peace you extended my hand to the little girl in front of you.
"Well? Shall we go together?" you asked her smiling to which the little girl responded by taking your hand energetically and, after saying goodbye to Paul, hopped beside you toward the classroom.
Happy first day, I guess?
︶ ֢ ⏝ ֢ ︶ ୨୧ ︶ ֢ ⏝ ֢ ︶
The day passed in the best of ways, the children all introduced themselves to the newcomers and, as taught, managed to integrate them without too much trouble.
You were certainly glad to have such a diligent class.
After several activities and many dances with as many songs, the parents began to come one by one to retrieve their children, who with their little hands smeared with colors happily greeted by shouting a " See you tomorrow Teacher!" to which you happily reciprocated.
And as the classroom emptied there was Isabelle who, now alone, was coloring on a sheet of paper.
Glancing slightly at the clock you noticed that the end of school time had long passed and Vivienne had absented herself to help the other teachers clean the classrooms.
So you approached the little girl, sitting next to her on one of those tiny chairs.
"Isa! How was the first day?" you asked her, taking one of the now undone braids to put it back in order.
The little girl smiled happily as she looked at you.
"Good! I met so many friends! I like it!" she replied before returning back to her drawing.
You smiled as you saw the genuineness with which she happily colored her drawing, with disheveled lines.
The concern for her, however, remained constant within you.
"Should I call someone? I don't even have her parents' phone number..Should I ask her? Oh y/n stop it she is 5 years old what can she know about phone numbers."
The thousand thoughts were interrupted by the little girl's voice.
"Daddy!" she squeaked in her slight voice, getting up in a rush.
"Oh I'm so curious to meet this fool who leaves his daughter with someone-" but the moment you turned you head, your thoughts became cloudy.
And all the words you wanted to say died in your throat, now as dry as the desert.
In front of you, with the child in his arms, stood perhaps one of the most handsome men you had ever seen.
With a height to make models envious and with a face just as heavenly, you could finally understand where Isabelle's sweet face came from.
Trying to tidy yourself up slightly, you approached the two who were chatting on the doorway.
The man, noticing your presence, turned to look at you, and without meaning to, your heart missed a beat.
"Are you this famous teacher y/n?" he asked, smiling at you.
"Yes, yes I am, it's a pleasure" you replied, extending your hand, which was promptly shaken by his.
A too big, too soft and too strong hand.
"Lee Juyeon, Isabelle's father, thank you for helping my daughter today and I’m deeply sorry for the delay, I had several problems at work and could only get free now, I'm really sorry."
Suddenly every bad thought you had had about him was gone.
Only little hearts surrounded your thoughts.
"Oh! No problem really, Isabelle is a lovely child and being with her doesn't get me tired at all." you replied looking at the child as well, giving her a sincere smile.
"Teacher y/n is so nice! She even re-did my braids, look daddy!" the little girl said, taking her braids to show them off.
The man made an astonished face as he played along with the little girl.
"How beautiful sweetie! Surely they came out better than mine" he said laughing slightly.
"No no!" you said putting your hands forward, shaking them "They were gorgeous this morning too, they got slightly messed up during the dancing and I fixed them, nothing more!"
The man in front of you smiled slightly at you before returning his gaze to the little girl who was slightly nodding.
"Alright then, come on Isa, let's free the teacher to go home," he said, leaning her down to let her walk on her own.
"Say goodbye and thank you" he finished by prodding the little girl who turned around making a slight bow in thanks and then shook her little hand in greeting.
"See you tomorrow Teacher!" Isabelle said.
"See you tomorrow Isa!" you replied smiling at her and then turned your gaze to the man next to her.
"See you tomorrow Teacher" he also said smiling and causing you to miss a beat.
"See you tomorrow Mr. Lee" you replied slightly embarrassed by the angelic smile of the man who was now walking away hand in hand with the little girl.
With your hand over your heart you tried to calm the quickening pulse as that gossip girl of Vivienne popped up at your side.
"Damn he's so hot," she only said.
And goddamn he really is.
#juyeon#leejuyeon#eric sohn#kevin moon#tbz x reader#the boyz#tbz#juyeon x reader#juyeon fanfic#the boyz fanfic#juyeon au#tbz juyeon#juyeon imagines#the boyz juyeon#the boyz x reader#tbz fluff#tbz x you#the boyz imagines
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By your side...Or no? | Jeon Jungkook x Reader
a/n: Hi! This is some sort of drabble of the Jimin's one shot, but it can be read it by itself, and remember, if you enjoy it, please like it, reblog it and comment, this helps me to keep going <3
Genre: Non Famous au, Fluff, Angst, Unrequited Love, Reader is older than Jk.
Warning: Mention and act of violence.
Wc: 1268
Jungkook had always admired Y/N. Who could blame him? She was beautiful, strong, independent, and capable of overcoming any obstacle that came her way. She was simply perfect.
He had always been aware of his feelings for her. After overcoming the shyness of his adolescence and a traumatic experience he didn't want to remember, he always expressed his feelings to her without hiding them.
This led to constant pain over the years. Y/N was firm in her decision: she did not love him and hopefully saw him as a friend. It hurt, of course, but it was nothing new to him. So, as an unwritten tradition, he tried every year.
Each time he was rejected, not cruelly, much to his relief. He supposed that was one of the advantages of knowing each other for so long. She would never be mean to him. She rejected others with indifference, but not him. Sometimes he felt the 'inferior' label haunting him, but he didn't want to get depressed. Not now.
He just wanted to enjoy time with his Noona; he felt lucky. Anyone who tried to approach her was quickly pushed away in anger. But he was brushed off as if he'd been given the wrong order in a restaurant. That should hurt less, right?
Despite everything, he focused on being better for her: studying hard, exercising, learning to relate, maturing, basically. He became the perfect gentleman (according to his mother and Y/N's friends). But apparently he wasn't enough. Maybe he never would be.
In retrospect, it sounded sad, and perhaps it was, but he had no regrets. Nor did he regret what he had done. It had all helped him to be better. But after so many years, he felt exhausted. He had loved unreservedly.
But he didn't want any more pitying looks and the typical 'I'm sorry, Kookie, my answer is no'. So he made a decision: he would finally let go of Y/N. He didn't think she would stop him, let alone miss him. So he did what anyone his age would do: he went to a pub.
Well, it wasn't the best idea, but this time he wasn't responsible for the stupid decision. Although the idea of forgetting Y/N had been in his head for months (about five), he had only decided to do it two months ago. He stopped calling her, sending her good morning messages, and asking her if she had eaten.
Sure, he still greeted her when they passed each other, but he no longer pursued her for her attention. He didn't know if that really mattered to her, but it made him feel good. He loved her, sure, but the feeling wouldn't go away as easily as waking up one day and saying, 'Y/N isn't for me anymore'.
But the desire was there. He knew his Noona would be happy that he would finally stop bothering her. He thought that everyone would win: he would stop suffering, and she wouldn't have to deal with unrequited love.
Sure, Y/N seemed a bit out of it, but Jungkook had promised himself and her that he would stop meddling in her affairs. So, on the advice of his older brother and Jimin (who had actually convinced him because he was going to pay), he decided to go to the pub.
He talked and danced with the odd girl—nothing crazy, just testing how prepared he was for the situation. No one was interesting enough to stay for more than five minutes.
Until, suddenly, things got complicated. He didn't know exactly what was going on, but he knew one thing: Jimin Hyung needed his help. Scared, he quickly called the police. He knew how to box, but he didn't want to get into trouble with anyone.
When they arrived, he decided to follow them, as he was the only one who was willing to testify against the boys. He didn't blame Jimin; he was probably worried about the girl he had seen him with. He sat in the cold room and talked quietly with the policemen.
There was no need to despair. Everything was on tape, and his statement would only confirm what was already suspected. What he hadn't anticipated was how long it would take, not to mention the fact that he had no money to return.
He sighed heavily as he left the interrogation room. He had missed a few calls from the boys and one from his brother. He wasn't worried—he assumed they had solved Jimin—but he was anxious to get home. And foolishly, he found himself going to the one person he had most avoided bothering...
He sent a short message, trying not to give too many details. He received a short reply. He wasn't surprised at how short it could be and just replied with 'Coming'.
Not more than five minutes had passed before she arrived, visibly annoyed. -What the hell have you done?- She then looked at the policeman standing next to her "What do I have to do to keep this idiot from getting arrested?"
The policeman stepped back in surprise. "Nothing, the boy just needs a ride home"
Y/N sighed in relief. She frowned at Jungkook. "Come on, don't waste my time anymore" She held out a helmet and walked quickly to her bike.
Jungkook felt like the worst scum in the universe. He had annoyed his Noona so much that she hated breathing the same air as him. He put on his helmet. What else could he do? He didn't want to annoy her any more.
The silence was terrifying. Sure, you can't talk much on a motorcycle, but Jungkook knew that she was boiling with rage right now. Especially the way she was shaking in his arms. When they got to Y/N's house (because yes, he had to explain why he couldn't go to his), the worst came.
"Are you stupid?" She shouted in annoyance. "Why don't you answer your bloody mobile?" Her eyes filled with tears, and her voice cracked, unable to contain them.
Jungkook couldn't believe his eyes. He never thought he'd see his Noona cry, let alone worry about him. He may have been naive, but he saw the worry in her eyes, in her trembling. And it tore him apart. She collapsed onto the couch, covering her face with her hands.
He sat down beside her and hugged her, apologized. It wasn't like he could have answered his phone in an interrogation, but she didn't need to know that. He rubbed her back, trying to comfort her. She clung to him for a while. When she calmed down, he pulled away slightly.
"You had me so worried, asshole" she whispered angrily before slapping him.
He deserved it, that was for sure. But before he had a chance to rub himself, she clung to his shoulders and kissed him, conveying in that kiss all the relief of having him close and of feeling him there with her.
They only parted when they felt they could no longer breathe. Jungkook couldn't help himself and smiled broadly "Wow, Noona, if I had known that not answering you was enough to make you kiss me, I would have done it a lot sooner"
She hid her face in the crook of his neck and held on so tightly that she almost took his breath away. Jungkook wasn't sure what the future held for them, but he knew one thing: his Noona loved him more than he wanted to admit. And that was enough for him.
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I'm terrified to post this. So watch me sprinting away into the distance after dropping this.
Open love letter to -in extension to the wider ST community on tumblr, but especially- to the fellowship of Sleep because without you, life would be much more lonely
My Friends,
It was today when it finally dawned on me that you gave me the most undescribably precious gift. Many of you probably going to relate to this to some degree because i am not unique in any sense but i had to get this out. And by just the sheer lenght probably not many of you will read it. But i still need to put this out there, even if i'm being obnoxious and probably sound overdramatic and maybe even cringy.
I struggle with a lot of things. Anxiety, self doubt, depression, paranoia, self destructive tendencies, self isolation and the list goes on to even darker places. All in all i have a suboptimal mental state to put it lightly. I feel inadequate in many ways. Especially with connecting to people.
To this day, i struggle every day, seeing my friends, you, talk on a daily basis, have inside jokes and wonderful conversations and whatnot and either i like it or not, thoughts intrude: "am i doing enough? Am i a good enough of a friend? Do i really have a place among these wonderful bright souls? Am i intruding? Am i inserting myself into spaces i do not have any right to be? Am i forcing myself into your circles?"
For the longest time, on most days the conclusion was no. I do not belong. You were just being nice to the pathetic little creature in the corner because by nature you are simply kind. But as the weeks went by i learned that you are also awkward people with your own stuggles and hardships which are far harder and more painful than mine. That you are choosing to be kind every day, in spite of what life threw at you. Because you know.
I started to see you also crave a particular type of companionship and you reach out with the same trembling hands, hoping that someone sees it and grabs it. That someone finally says: you are not alone. I am here. For you. With you.
And you did. You've seen a bunch of hands fumbling in the dark, desperate to hold onto something and went: yeah.. i think i'll grab all of them. Because we are coming from the same darkness. And if i can help pull you into the light than you might have the strenght to do the same for me, so we can all sit in the warmth of the fire. The fire we built together. A fire that is growing ever brighter and allowes us to see even more hands on the edges to be pulled and invited into the circle.
So we have. For a while sitting almost silently, showing the things we found along the way. Tentatively feeling out the boundries. Than we broke the silence. You even started to call me your friend at some point. I already considered you mine because i'm painfully lonely and just the gesture, that you included me among the hands you grabbed was enough for me to see you mine. But all in all, for some unknowable reason, we became friends.
The weeks turned into months and i felt a bit more comfortable to approach you on my own clumsy and awkward ways. Many of you know by now that Tiny Token was born because i was too afraid to send a happy birthday ask to someone. I still apologize regularly just for adding thoughts to posts even if i only do it in tags. I am afraid. Of so many thing.
We still don't talk daily. Yet we still call each other friend. We have actual plans now. I still stuggle with the though of not being enough. There are still days when i feel you just feeling pity towards me.
But lately there is an other thought there. Which makes me feel bad for thinking that way. A thought that's never been there before. "If i was truly bothersome or annoying or any way too unpleasent, you could simply walk away. This is the internet after all. You could just block me. You have the option to walk away but you are time and time again choosing not to. No matter how many days pass by with us not talking, you are there. I can count on you. I'm still hesitant to reach out and dump my superficial adversities on you. But i also see you keeping the door ajar, leaving the option there to be approached if anyone needs it. So it would be not just a disservice but an outright insult to you if i'd think you are just acting out of pity. But if you like me than.. there has to be something about me to actually to be worth knowing?"
And that is doing something that ten years worth of failed therapy could not. You made me question my self doubt. It is still there and will be for the rest of my life. But now there is a steady counter balance i never had this solidly in my life ever before.
I'm still afraid to ask even if anyone would be up for a talk, let alone a call because i have little to offer in conversations. I don't talk much by default and that is not a good base for conversations. I'm still terrified of overstaying my welcome. But i also know now that you probably wouldn't mind from time to time. Because you understand. Maybe one day i will get there. I don't know when but there is a hope i never truly had before.
This is something i will never be able to repay you. Thank you for understanding that we all have different levels of anxiety and fear and not holding it against one and other. I'm writing this to you with immens love and eternal gratitude i cannot truly express in any way that does it justice: Thank you for showing me hope. Thank you for being the way you are.
You gave me the biggest gift there is to give.
You gave me your friendship.
I love you.
Yours in friendship,
Levynn
#i know this is long and probably will annoy some people on the dash but this one i refuse to hide under a cut#so i'm just posting this and inelegantly running away immediately in terror to check back hours later
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Idk if I’m the only one who feels a bit sentimental about ch240-243. It’s just got me thinking about how there’s actually someone for everyone. Like you know how people might think they’re weird or they’re being perceived as strange and off-putting by those around them but, in fact, there will ALWAYS be someone who matches your vibe and celebrates your individuality. What a beautiful thing connection is.
I’m not even sure if it’s intended by Gege but the last 7? chapters have been greatly influenced by themes of loneliness and connection and (in my opinion) Takaba and Kenjaku are no exception. Both somewhat lonely in what they do, in what they’re passionate about, both are misunderstood and perceived as “weirdos” by those around them, finding each other and being able to connect through comedy, giving each other what they longed for (Kenny’s “it’s been centuries since my heart danced like this” and Takaba’s “my dream stage… I don’t want this to end”). It’s just… wow?
Also I saw a little analysis about how there are two roles in Japanese comedy-duos, basically one person is telling the jokes and acting weird and the other is acting more serious by fending off the partner’s jokes, so in ch.243 it was Kenny and Takaba, respectively. Takaba’s talent as a comedian shone through as he’s generally more serious and his previous attempts to act as the one who cracks the jokes all the time led him to failure (ch241). But now, thanks to Kenny taking up the “unserious” role he was finally able to finesse his performance. This is such a unique battle out of everything we previously had… “I don’t want this to end” me too Takaba… me too…
P.S. im kinda manifesting that one day you’ll write a fic about these two 🥲 I absolutely adore your works
There's always someone out there who matches you perfectly and it might be the person you least expect, like Japan's worst terrorist or a depressed comedian. Sometimes it also might take you a millennia to find that person, but that makes it all the more worth it when you do.
No but seriously, I totally understand you. It's amazing how Gege managed to build up such a deep connection between Kenjaku and Takaba and thereby not only gave us some much needed further characterization for one of our main villains, but also fleshed out someone who used to be only a comedic side character. Although the fact that Takaba would have more depth was already foreshadowed in his introduction. If anything, him becoming a comedic sidekick was more surprising.
The focus on loneliness, love and being able to connect with other people in the last chapters was very intentional I think and I honestly like how much the approach to these themes differs between Kenjaku and Sukuna. Besides my problems with the Gojo vs Sukuna fight, those topics were brushed on there, but not really explored in depth. Until we got Takaba vs Kenjaku. The main difference here and what allowed us to get a deeper understanding of the themes and how they relates to these two characters is that contrary to Sukuna's fights, Takaba and Kenjaku's fight was more a dialogue where they both discussed their feelings on building connections and became a better person through it. Both of them learned something new (also about themselves) and came out of it as changed people. It's not just one person barraging the other with their issues or slapping their egos around.
Yorozu vs Sukuna is very self-serving. Yorozu is lonely and she thinks having Sukuna by her side will help her, but she is ultimately not interested in really connecting to him, she just projects her own issues onto him. She says herself that having his corpse would be enough. She wants to own him, her attraction to him is because she sees herself in him and her love is a love of herself, there isn't really anything romantic or sexual to it. Similarly, Sukuna has no interest in her either. The fight is only there so he can try out the new CT he just got. Both are essentially in their own world and while it is nice that Yorozu makes a weapon for him, they don't actually connect. Yorozu wants to teach Sukuna her understanding of love, but he already has his own and neither of them budge on their positions or make concessions.
Gojo vs Sukuna is a bit difficult to summarize because it's kinda all over the place and we don't get much from either of them in terms of character development or thoughts in general until the last chapter. Still, it's again someone trying to build a one-sided connection to Sukuna, wanting to teach him love and failing. I would say Gojo is a little more successful than Yorozu because at least Sukuna acknowledges him and says he will remember him. Gojo says he didn't manage to reach Sukuna and teach him "love", but he left an emotional impact. Sukuna changed Gojo to a degree, but only so much as in he killed him and thereby shoved him off the pedestal he put himself on and what kept him from having equal relationships with people. Bit late for that and it won't actually have any long-lasting consequences for Gojo because well he's dead, but it's something. Ultimately, there is no change in Sukuna's character however. There is a physical impact on him from the fight, but not much in terms of emotions. He isn't forced to reconsider any of his positions, he isn't challenged in his character. If anything it only got reinforced because he's confirmed to be "the strongest".
Kashimo vs Sukuna is another instance of someone coming with their issues to Sukuna and pressuring him to fix them. Kashimo wants to build a connection to Sukuna and I think they are actually more genuine with their intentions than Yorozu, but there is still a one-sided connection. Their relationship isn't balanced. Sukuna is supposed to give out wisdom, but Kashimo has nothing to offer him and while it is nice that we got a deeper look into his philosophy, there is nothing he really gained from his interaction with Kashimo. We are learning new things about Sukuna, but he doesn't. I think this will only happen when we get to Yuuji vs Sukuna because Yuuji affects Sukuna on a deeper level than any of the other three. He's the only one that can meaningfully challenge Sukuna because they would finally leave the premise of Sukuna's whole worldview (strength) behind. But we'll see.
Takaba vs Kenjaku is very different. If we were to compare it to the formula of the previous fights, Takaba comes up saying "Let me teach you about love (comedy/fun)" and Kenjaku's response is "Oh I've actually been dying to hear about this. Give me your best shot." Since the start of the Yuki fight Gege has put more emphasis on showing us that Kenjaku is essentially just bored and lonely. They want to connect to people, that is the easiest way to entertain them as well and they don't actually enjoy entertainment without having anyone to share it with, but they and their longstanding goals are what's hindering them. Their plan distanced them from their closest friend and left them quite desperately searching for new companions. Their plan also motivates them to kill Culling Game players, despite them seeing it actually as a waste of potential. That's how they entered the fight. They want to be entertained and they want a new friend. Takaba offers that to them.
I think initially Takaba's offer wasn't entirely sincere, just a ploy to distract them. He might've been already interested in Kenjaku's motivations for causing all this suffering, but he didn't actually expect them to connect so well and so quickly over their shared interest in comedy. First, Takaba gets challenged however. We learn he wants a partner just as much as Kenjaku. He can't enjoy comedy anymore because he needs a partner to succeed in his performance and deep down he is actually just searching for someone who understands him. Due to getting so fixated on performing successfully and pushing himself to lean into types of performances he doesn't actually like that much (playing the funny man), just for the approval of others, he also ended up pushing the people he did perform with away. He couldn't take any criticism and only continued further down the wrong path, leaving him depressed. A less extreme version of how Kenjaku tended to isolate themselves and subconsciously worked against their own interests.
Kenjaku makes him realize what he actually wants, that he has to change himself, his approach to comedy and that he needs to actually try to connect to people and not shy away from it in fear of criticism. This is already different from the previous fights. They both have an investment in the other and want more than simply beating the other person into following their worldview.
Then we get Takaba forcing Kenjaku to reflect on themselves and what they actually want. Despite how persuasive his CT is, Kenjaku's realization that they are having fun in playing around with these silly scenarios and that they for once are actually enjoying the Culling Game for what it is (a chance to meet interesting players, not just a stepping stone for something greater) doesn't seem to be fake. The nature of his CT also makes them realize that if they want to survive they have no choice, but to open themselves up a little bit and cooperate with each other. That's when both of them finally reach their true goal.
They have to work together because that's the only way Takaba can fulfil his wish to perform comedy with a partner, someone he actually connects with and who understands him. It also provides Kenjaku with the friend they have been looking for. Someone equal (as a comedy partner would be, Takaba is able to keep up with their imagination, just how they countered his made-up scenarios earlier), who won't bore them. As Kenjaku said afterwards, they actually had fun, despite the quite mundane scenario. There was cursed energy involved, but what made them actually enjoy the show was the trading of jokes and improvisations they both had to keep up with. It doesn't need some world-shattering CT to entertain Kenjaku, they just previously lacked that connection that would make them appreciate the entertainment they are getting more.
As you said, the positions they take during the show is important here too. They started out with Kenjaku as the straight man and critic and Takaba doing goofy antics as the funny man. Both roles that don't really suit either of them, which is also part of why Takaba never managed to be funny in the past. During the show Takaba is finally able to make his true personality shine and have people understand and like him, despite how he can come off as quite serious. Kenjaku on the other hand was able to be as silly as they want to be. They kept that part of their personality down previously because it would only distract them from their goal and fulfilling their carefully curated plan. We see the evidence at the end of the chapter. As soon as Kenjaku gives into that part of their personality and gets lost in their performance with Takaba, they get taken out and their merger plan is compromised. By indulging in what they actually want, they lost control over their proclaimed long-standing goals (probably, we will see how things develop).
I've seen Kenjaku's "you were super funny" compared to Sukuna's "stand proud", but that doesn't quite work, I think. Sukuna is comparing Jogo to himself and complementing him for how much he managed to measure up, while Kenjaku is commenting on how they enjoyed their fight together or more specifically the comedy show. They reassured Takaba that he is funny, but they don't view it as him having measured up to some standard they set. That is primarily because they could only achieve that goal together. Their comedy relied on a partner and they both only had fun because they had each other. Alone it would be meaningless. The entire point of their stand-up show was that the "fight" wasn't a competition anymore.
Takaba and Kenjaku were able to become partners and form a connection because they were actually able to open up to each other and take the other's personality and character into consideration. That's what differentiates them from the previous three fights and is also why they were successful where Yorozu, Gojo and Kashimo failed.
Kenjaku is open to change and new experiences and after some convincing embraces the connection they are being offered, while Sukuna stays almost completely closed off to others (with the exception of Uraume it seems).
It really was a great fight and it's very unfortunate that it is over and ended the way it did. We'll see how things develop. I would be really interested in seeing if and how Kenjaku's connection to Takaba might influence them in the future and how they will approach their merger plan. Currently it seems like Yuuta kind of ruined all the progress in terms of character development they made thanks to Takaba, but who knows...
If you're interested, I did write a fanfic about the two, where I also vented my feelings about their relationship a bit :)
#ask me about Pinchan and you will get an essay lol#I want to make a post at some point where I go a bit more in depth on similarities between Takaba and Kenjaku#their goals how they try to build connections and how their previous treatment of others prevented them from reaching them#asks#jjk spoilers#kenjaku#takaba fumihiko
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𝙖𝙣𝙖𝙭𝙞𝙥𝙝𝙞𝙡𝙞𝙖
(𝙽): 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚊𝚌𝚝 𝚘𝚏 𝚏𝚊𝚕𝚕𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚒𝚗 𝚕𝚘𝚟𝚎 𝚠𝚒𝚝𝚑 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚠𝚛𝚘𝚗𝚐 𝚙𝚎𝚛𝚜𝚘𝚗.
𝐆𝐞𝐧𝐫𝐞: Angst with comfort.
𝐂𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐬: Alkaid McGrath, Lars Rorschach, Clarence Clayden.
𝐑𝐞𝐚��𝐞𝐫 𝐦𝐨𝐝𝐞: On
𝐓𝐲𝐩𝐞: Headcannon.
𝐏𝐫𝐨𝐧𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐬: They/them.
𝐒𝐮𝐦𝐦𝐚𝐫𝐲: You broke up…
𝐖𝐚𝐫𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠: ooc characters, no cheating.
𝘼𝙡𝙠𝙖𝙞𝙙
♡ Maybe he should have saw it coming, how it felt like you both were avoiding each other’s presence or how you began to spend time with your friends more than you ever talked to him.
♡ He doesn't resent you for anything, he still thinks you're an amazing and wonderful person, despite how much it hurts him to see you go.
♡ You were the one who approached him with the break up subject, he hadn't entirely lost all of his feelings for you, but you could tell that most of it was already gone, so to make sure that it doesn't turn into a mess you broke up with him.
♡ Alkaid like I said before doesn't resent you, what he wanted was an answer, why? Why did it had to end up like this?
♡ He still let you go, the bittersweet smile leaves a terrible aftertaste in your mouth, was it the right choice?
♡ All the sweet memories like a dream then suddenly he woke up, you weren't there anymore... why did you leave?
♡ "I see.." His hand reached out in your direction, yet falls as he looks at the ground, anything to avoid your gaze for a moment.
♡ "Even when we were never meant to be." It's getting a bit harder for him to breathe, he could feel the tears running down his cheeks.
♡ "Know that I never regretted a single moment next to you, ever." Gently you wiped away his tears, such a bittersweet smile to end your relationship.
𝙇𝙖𝙧𝙨
♡ He was too busy for you, so to cut him off the burden called you, ties had to be cut and you willingly picked up the pair of scissors.
♡ He grew depressed, how could you? He loved you so much and wanted nothing more than to be by your side and suddenly you left... why?
♡ You didn't even tell him face to face, a messy notes with tear stains left by you and everything that related to you gone. You could have just told him you wanted more time with him, you could have told him that you were lonely, why didn't you tell him anything?
♡ He hated you, he hated you so much, he hates how you drew so many dreams of the future for you and him only to burn them away, lighting a fire where those visions were.
♡ Still he could not resent you for long, in those moments where he re-thinks his actions you did tell him... all that time he sat reviewing you were there asking him to rest, to stop for a moment...
♡ Despite only having himself to blame for your disappearance, Lars let you go with a smile drowned in pain.
♡ "I'm sorry, I'm sorry..." the tears seemed to be endless, wiping away the old tears new ones would appear either way.
♡ "Come back please..." He feels like such a child, wanting something he knows could never be his.
𝘾𝙡𝙖𝙧𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙚
♡ His future... you didn't want to hold him back at all, something so bright and fragile you're afraid because of you he might suffer, so you walked away.
♡ It felt like a flame, his eyes searching for the truth when you told him you couldn't continue loving him anymore, you liar, you liar... if you truly meant what you said then why do you look like you're going to break?
♡ He let you just slip away like that, those eyes which begged him to stop prying for answers, you were like an artwork he could spend forever admiring and yet he let that work of art deteriorate...
♡ He blamed himself, he wasn't enough, was he? Is that why you left? Even when it's clear that there are too many possibilities he still wants to learn why, he still wants to look for the truth behind your words that day.
♡ He'll always love you, even when he could no longer hold you in his arms and whisper sweet little encouragements, even when he sees you so far away now acting as if you two were strangers, even when his heart breaks seeing you smile so brightly...
♡ "I don't blame you leaving me." who was he hoping to hear these words right now? In a night everything changed so fast he even have time to process everything.
♡ "But could you have at least take all of these memories and feelings away?" You’re such a heartless person, how else could you just pass by him like you’ve never known him before?
♡ "It hurts much more than it looks right now..." you’re smiling so brightly again, he could only stare from afar wishing you the best.
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Au-notes: I was bored pt. 2
#♡|fics by author#♡|simping#lbc x reader#lovebrush chronicles x reader#alkaid x reader#lars x reader#clarence x reader
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You know how you posted your thoughts on how Shinji and Rei have been misunderstood by the western fandom? How about with Asuka?
Funnily enough the other day I read a post about how Asuka is a terrible character because her tragic past gets revealed too late for her to be forgiven, and she's a terrible example of a victim because she's too abusive...
This is definitely more of a Modern Take, but I still count it :P
I still stand by my point that the first episodes tried a little too hard to make Asuka unlikeable, and not even in a "love to hate" way, but I don't know if she was meant to look stereotypical, if it's simply because NGE is rather old and some of its clichés have been run down to death, or because I just don't like Tsunderes in general :P
However, she is pitiable. The tragedy is that Asuka and Shinji have very similar issues, mainly abandonment issues and craving for approval, and in a more optimistic story they'd learn to compromise and heal each other... but here, they just make each other worse. Hedgehog's dilemma and all.
Asuka is also painfully relatable to all the gifted children who suddenly can't keep up with the self-imposed pressure, and since they built their whole identity around being the best, they fall into depression and declare themselves unworthy of living. And yes, the envy of a former gifted child who sees themselves surpassed by their peer can get very nasty :')
An underrated sad scene is the one where Asuka throws herself to Kaji, and she can't cope with his gentle rejection. She's so, so starved for love and validation :(
(unrelated, this also mirrors Misato offering herself to Shinji in one episode... boy)
By the end of EoE, there is the tiniest glimmer of hope for her. She stroked Shinji's cheek as he was strangling her. She gave him comfort. She approached him even as he was hurting her. Sure, she was disgusted by... everything I guess, but in the context of the whole story, it's an enormous step.
So yes, Asuka is a bit of a bully, and even her horrible childhood can't fully justify how meanspirited she'd been to Shinji. But, like him, she's a scarred 14 yo girl who doesn't have the tools to cope with herself. She wants to be appreciated for what she can do, but she pushes away others to not let them discover who she is.
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👣. !!: HOSEONG WITH BTS ‧₊˚
⊂ JIN ✶ SEONG ⊃
╭・ฅ🕸﹕popularity - 6O / 1OO !
JINSEONG ACCOUNTS FOR majority of the group’s love/hate dynamic. jin is great at keeping his cool and sporting the older brother role; he would add portions of his food on hoseong’s plate during their trainee days and would help him study when he was still attending school, but hoseong, grateful as ever, always paid his hyung back with mischievous pranks.
HOSEONG HAS A CHILDISH soul so he keeps to a role of fake maknae, sometimes bullying seokjin about his age and then on other days clinging to his side like a koala would a tree. seokjin is the hyung that taught hoseong a lot of the dad jokes he religiously tells the members, usually leading to the two laughing at the jokes by themselves as the rest watch on in embarrassment.
╰・ฅ🕸️﹕dynamic - worried x reckless !
⊂ YOON ✶ SEONG ⊃
╭・ฅ🕸﹕popularity - 86 / 1OO !
HOSEONG has a slightly more special type of bond with yoongi. the older seems to understand hoseong without him needing to speak his feelings into actual words, helping him describe things he finds a hard time explaining ( which the others have dubbed as ‘seonguage’ ) as well as helping him with his homesickness by relating to him and making him feel more seen.
HOSEONG usually repays the favour in his own way. although yoongi tends to find him a little immature sometimes, he knows a certain wisdom sits beneath that even surprises him. hoseong was the first member he had confided with about his depression, his mental state, something which hoseong has come to notice the telltale signs of whenever they occur. the other members agree that hoseong knows best about what it is that yoongi appreciates most in these times.
╰・ฅ🕸️﹕dynamic - sun x moon !
⊂ SE3OUL ✶ HOPE ⊃
╭・ฅ🕸﹕popularity - 73 / 1OO !
WITH SE3OULHOPE, you either hate them or you love them together. they’re the type of boys that tend to amplify each other’s energy, creating a chaotic whirlwind of positivity that brings groups of people together in harmony. sometimes they can be considered obnoxious or even intimidating to approach, but upon starting a conversation with them it’s easy to recognise how dorky they really are.
SE3OULHOPE ARE pretty big hype men of each other and are unafraid to show one other off. it’s even an ongoing joke with army and the other members that these two have “been around” because of how socially flirtatious they can be when they know the other has their back. they’re great at diffusing situations and earning laughs from colleagues.
╰・ฅ🕸️﹕dynamic - chaotic x chaotic !
⊂ NAM ✶ SEONG ⊃
╭・ฅ🕸﹕popularity - 72 / 1OO !
NAMJOON IS LIKE hoseong’s pillar that keeps him grounded. hoseong learns a lot of valuable insight and broadens his wisdom through the things he does together with namjoon i.e reading books, taking long walks, visiting museums and watching documentaries. namjoon thinks hoseong is pretty good company, appreciates that the male goes the extra length to please him as the leader and make him proud.
NAMJOON HAS ALSO realised it’s almost impossible to not get attached to their group’s fake maknae. the way hoseong is an eager beaver, always so responsive to namjoon’s words has him indulge in skin ship and praise with hoseong more than he would in a general sense, wanting to return the favour and make their younger happy.
╰・ฅ🕸️﹕dynamic - smart x keen !
⊂ JI ✶ SE3OUL ⊃
╭・ฅ🕸﹕popularity - 93 / 1OO !
JIMIN IS definitely a little possessive but in a way that hoseong finds cute. these two are very fond of showing affection through silly insults and play fights, almost like a push and pull duo, where jimin is clingy and attempts to get hoseong’s attention at all means whilst the older pretends to be a tsundere who doesn’t know what a smile is.
THIS ALSO leads into their bizarre love for role playing, be it on camera or during concerts, they always like to put on a little act for army, usually reenacting famous korean dramas or movies. hoseong likes to think jimin is the real fake maknae because of his natural aegyo, especially when he’s able to make jimin blush and look away.
╰・ฅ🕸️﹕dynamic - big flirt x big flirt !
⊂ SE3OUL ✶ V ⊃
╭・ฅ🕸﹕popularity - 95 / 1OO !
HOSEONG holds taehyung near and dear to his heart. they weren’t the first to meet during trainee days but they definitely ended up being one of the closest, developing this sort of connection that they swear is something uncanny. they share a lot of the same thoughts, often times speaking each other’s minds and uplifting each other’s moods just by being in the same room together.
DURING an interview they were both asked, “don’t you get tired of being together all the time?” to which se3oulv had certainly been passionate in denying. they don’t think they spend enough time together, even if they spend majority of their days hauled up playing video games, cuddling and basically living with each other.
╰・ฅ🕸️﹕dynamic - twin flames !
⊂ SE3OUL ✶ GUK ⊃
╭・ฅ🕸﹕popularity - 9O / 1OO !
DUE TO jeongguk being the youngest in the team, hoseong vividly remembers their first ever meeting where an awkward, pre-pubescent maknae was far too shy to introduce himself or really make conversation with anyone. he had dubbed jeongguk “blushing bunny” back then, and still calls him as such today. hoseong was considered the friendliest face, tasked with getting people to open up and was someone jeongguk slowly grew to trust first.
TOWARDS their later years, the two were basically a pair of mischievous brats that enabled each other to cause absolute mayhem. as jeongguk’s first friend within bangtan, they would usually spending a lot of time daring each other to pull dumb pranks but to also inspire and fight for a cause. se3oulguk are very passionate about giving to charity and the community. they encourage army to be good humans.
╰・ฅ🕸️﹕dynamic - cute x protective !
#( 🩻 ) ───── hoseong’s relationships !#bts 8th member#bts 8th male member#kpop added member#kpop added male member#kpop addition#kpop male addition#kpop additional member#kpop additional male member#bts additional member#bts additional male member#bts added member#bts added male member#kpop member au#kpop male member au#kpop oc#kpop male oc#bts oc#bts male oc#bts addition#bts male addition
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so like, i know this post has good intentions behind it but i'm not sure that this is the best thing to tell 14-year-olds
people's experiences as teenagers can be easy or difficult at different times. for me, ages 12-13 were rough and 14 was when things got dramatically easier. i know people who had a much harder time at age 14, as well as those whose toughest time came at 15-16 or later, and others whose toughest time came at age 11 or earlier.
also about being wrong, i think it's important to teach people that feelings aren't right or wrong, they just are. but i also think it's important to teach people to distinguish thoughts from feelings
things like "i'm worthless" or "i have no friends" or "no one accepts me the way i am" are not feelings, they are thoughts. our language confounds this, we say things like "I feel worthless" or "I feel betrayed" or other things
it took me years of therapy, reading, journaling, meditation, conversing with others, and also just living in the world to unpack this, but my life got so much better when i stopped seeing things like "worthlessness" as feelings and instead categorizing them as thoughts, i.e. there is a series of thoughts or mental analysis happening when we say something like that.
feelings are raw, and simpler, things like sadness, fear, anger, happiness, or calm.
and like...although it is not usually constructive to say feelings are "wrong", it is often the case that the thought processes underlying strong negative feelings can be wrong. not always, but often.
like back when i was having thoughts like "i have no friends", they were not true. i had friends, i just blocked them out when i was depressed, along with blocking out all sorts of other positive things.
and it was not particularly helpful for people to approach me and say "your feelings are valid" when the feelings were being generated by an irrational thought process in which my brain was selectively focusing on the negative things and blocking out the positive things.
i wish people had taught me this stuff younger. definitely at the age of 14. ideally, much younger. i think a lot of these ideas are simple enough that you can start teaching them to kids.
another thing i wish people emphasized to me younger, certainly as a teenager, was the power you have over your own experience through controlling your narrative about it. you cannot control everything about what happens to you; you cannot control other people's actions and you cannot control all sorts of random life circumstances you are stuck with.
but you can control how you think about it and this shapes how you feel.
i used to suffer a lot because the narrative i told myself was unempowering. i'd go into a situation with people and come out feeling bad like i didn't connect with the people, and i'd have thoughts like: "those people were unfriendly. they don't like me." and when that happened a lot i would have thoughts like "i'm weird and people don't like me. i have a hard time making friends."
this was unempowering.
i have since learned to analyze situations differently. if i go into the same sort of situation i might come out with thoughts like: "i was having trouble relating to those people." and then i often would analyze the cause, maybe: "they seemed to know each other really well whereas i haven't known any of them very long. maybe if i spent more time with them we would become more comfortable with each other" or "they had a lot of things they were interested in, but i didn't feel very interested in any of the things they liked. maybe they aren't the sort of people i want to put effort into connecting with" or "they seemed nice, but i was really tired and hungry and maybe it had more to do with my state. next time i will make sure to rest and eat more before going to an event like that." or whatever it was
how did i get here? it wasn't through people telling me my feelings were valid. yeah, i would come out of a situation feeling bad and those feelings were real and it isn't useful to argue with them.
but often my thought process wasn't, and i wished others, including both adult authority figures and role models, and peers, had taught me this earlier in life. i started figuring this stuff out in my late 20's and was still working on it well into my 30's, and frankly that was a bit late, because i spent a lot of years suffering unnecessarily
reblog to tell a 14 year old that these are the very, very hard years and they're not wrong to feel the way they do.
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Understanding the Therapeutic Techniques Used by Dr. Karen Hawk, Psychologist
Mental health care is a deeply personal journey, and for many individuals, finding a therapist who understands their needs and employs effective therapeutic techniques can make all the difference. Dr. Karen Hawk, a highly regarded psychologist based in Arizona, has earned recognition for her compassionate, evidence-based approach to therapy. With years of experience and a commitment to providing holistic, patient-centered care, Dr. Hawk utilizes a variety of therapeutic techniques tailored to each individual’s needs. Her innovative methods combine traditional practices with modern approaches, providing her clients with the tools they need to heal, grow, and thrive.
In this blog, we’ll explore the key therapeutic techniques Dr Karen Hawk Psychologist Arizona employs in her practice and discuss how each method works to improve mental health outcomes for her clients.
1. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
One of the most widely used and well-established therapeutic techniques that Dr. Hawk integrates into her practice is Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). CBT is an evidence-based approach designed to help individuals identify and change negative thought patterns and behaviors that contribute to mental health issues like anxiety, depression, and stress.
Dr. Hawk uses CBT to assist her clients in recognizing the distorted thinking patterns that may be fueling their emotional distress. For example, a person suffering from depression may engage in “catastrophizing,” a cognitive distortion in which they predict the worst possible outcomes for any situation. Through CBT, Dr. Hawk works with clients to challenge these automatic thoughts and replace them with more balanced, realistic beliefs.
CBT is a structured, goal-oriented approach, making it particularly effective for individuals who are looking to make tangible improvements in their mental health. In her work, Dr. Hawk teaches clients to become more aware of their thoughts, emotions, and behaviors, empowering them to make healthier choices and develop coping strategies for managing stress and difficult emotions.
2. Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)
Dr Karen Hawk Psychologist is also trained in and utilizes Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), a therapeutic approach developed specifically for individuals who struggle with intense emotional regulation issues, such as those with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), but has also been adapted for a wide range of mental health concerns. DBT emphasizes the importance of balancing acceptance and change—hence the term "dialectical" (the art of integrating opposites).
DBT combines elements of cognitive-behavioral therapy with mindfulness practices and a focus on interpersonal effectiveness, emotional regulation, distress tolerance, and acceptance. Dr. Hawk uses DBT with clients who may be experiencing difficulties in managing their emotions or engaging in self-destructive behaviors like impulsivity, self-harm, or substance use.
A key component of DBT is mindfulness, which Dr. Hawk incorporates into her work with clients to help them stay present in the moment, observe their emotions without judgment, and respond rather than react to challenging situations. Through DBT, clients learn skills for managing intense emotions, improving relationships, and reducing self-destructive behaviors. Dr. Hawk’s use of DBT has been highly effective in treating individuals who face difficulties in emotional regulation or who have experienced trauma.
3. Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)
One of the most transformative therapeutic techniques in Dr. Hawk’s toolbox is Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), a powerful treatment specifically designed to help individuals process and heal from trauma. EMDR has become a go-to treatment for people with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and other trauma-related disorders.
EMDR works by using bilateral stimulation (usually through guided eye movements or tapping) to help individuals process traumatic memories and reduce their emotional charge. During an EMDR session, Dr. Hawk helps clients recall distressing memories while simultaneously engaging in bilateral stimulation, which facilitates the brain’s natural healing processes.
The goal of EMDR is to help the brain reprocess traumatic memories so they no longer trigger intense emotional responses. Clients often report a significant reduction in anxiety and emotional distress following EMDR sessions, as the technique helps them integrate difficult experiences in a healthier way. Dr. Hawk has seen firsthand how effective EMDR can be for individuals dealing with trauma, and she tailors each session to the unique needs of her clients.
4. Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy (MBCT)
Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy (MBCT) is another key approach Dr. Hawk integrates into her practice. MBCT combines traditional cognitive therapy with mindfulness strategies to help individuals break the cycle of negative thinking and avoid relapse into depression or anxiety.
Dr. Hawk incorporates mindfulness practices such as deep breathing, body scanning, and meditation into her therapy sessions, helping clients learn to become more present in their daily lives. By focusing on the present moment without judgment, clients develop a greater sense of awareness and a healthier relationship with their thoughts and emotions. This helps reduce rumination (repetitive, negative thinking) and promotes a sense of calm, which is essential for managing stress and preventing relapse into mental health crises.
MBCT has been shown to be particularly effective for individuals with recurrent depression, anxiety, or stress-related disorders. Dr. Hawk uses MBCT to teach clients how to create a more balanced mental state and to manage emotional upheavals with greater ease and resilience.
5. Solution-Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT)
While some therapeutic approaches focus on exploring the past and understanding the roots of psychological issues, Dr. Hawk also incorporates Solution-Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT) into her practice, particularly for clients who are seeking more immediate, actionable solutions to their challenges. SFBT is a goal-oriented, future-focused therapy that centers on finding solutions rather than dwelling on problems.
In SFBT, Dr. Hawk works collaboratively with clients to identify their strengths, resources, and past successes, focusing on what has worked well for them in the past and how they can apply those insights to their current situation. The therapy is structured around practical problem-solving and goal-setting, which can be particularly helpful for clients who are looking for short-term solutions to specific challenges.
Dr. Hawk emphasizes the power of small, positive changes and uses SFBT to help clients identify and achieve achievable goals. This approach fosters a sense of empowerment and optimism, making it a valuable tool for clients dealing with situational stressors, relationship issues, or life transitions.
6. Interpersonal Therapy (IPT)
Interpersonal Therapy (IPT) is another approach Dr. Hawk uses to help individuals improve their relationships and address emotional distress. IPT focuses on the connections between a person’s mood and their interactions with others, emphasizing the importance of healthy, supportive relationships in maintaining mental well-being.
Dr. Hawk uses IPT to help clients explore how their interpersonal relationships—such as family dynamics, friendships, and romantic partnerships—are impacting their mental health. By improving communication skills, resolving interpersonal conflicts, and strengthening emotional bonds, clients often experience significant improvements in their mood and overall mental health.
IPT is particularly effective for individuals dealing with depression, anxiety, or grief, as it addresses the social and relational factors that may be contributing to emotional distress. Through IPT, Dr. Hawk helps her clients build healthier, more fulfilling relationships while also enhancing their emotional resilience.
7. Psychodynamic Therapy
Psychodynamic therapy is another approach that Dr Karen Hawk Psychologist Arizona integrates into her practice, particularly for individuals who are interested in exploring the deeper, unconscious factors influencing their behaviors and emotions. Rooted in the work of Freud and later psychoanalysts, psychodynamic therapy focuses on how past experiences—particularly early childhood relationships—shape present-day behaviors and thought patterns.
Through psychodynamic therapy, Dr. Hawk helps clients gain insight into how unconscious conflicts and unresolved issues are influencing their current emotional lives. This exploration allows clients to develop greater self-awareness, leading to more adaptive ways of coping with challenges. Dr Karen Hawk Psychologist psychodynamic approach is especially effective for clients dealing with long-standing emotional patterns or complex personality dynamics.
Conclusion
Dr. Karen Hawk’s therapeutic techniques are as diverse and multifaceted as the clients she serves. Whether utilizing traditional methods like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Interpersonal Therapy (IPT), or innovative approaches like Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) and Solution-Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT), Dr. Hawk tailors her methods to each individual’s unique needs. Her commitment to integrating various evidence-based therapies, combined with her compassionate, patient-centered approach, makes her a standout psychologist in Arizona.
By utilizing these diverse therapeutic techniques, Dr. Hawk empowers her clients to overcome emotional difficulties, build healthier coping mechanisms, and cultivate lasting emotional well-being. In a world where mental health challenges are increasingly common, her practice represents a beacon of hope for those seeking professional, effective, and empathetic care.
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Understanding the Value of Individual Counseling in San Antonio
Life can be challenging at times, and many people face obstacles that affect their mental health and well-being. In a bustling city like San Antonio, the need for effective, supportive individual counseling services is more important than ever. But what exactly is individual counseling, and how can it make a difference in someone’s life?
What is Individual Counseling?
Individual counseling, also known as one-on-one therapy, is a process in which a trained mental health professional works with a client to help them understand and work through their personal challenges. This type of counseling is tailored to meet the unique needs of each person, whether they are dealing with anxiety, depression, grief, stress, or other concerns.
The sessions typically take place in a confidential setting, where individuals feel safe and comfortable to open up about their emotions, thoughts, and experiences. The counselor uses evidence-based techniques to empower the client to develop healthier coping mechanisms, improve communication skills, and enhance self-awareness.
The Benefits of Seeking Individual Counseling
Many people wonder if counseling is the right choice for them. While every situation is unique, there are several common benefits that come from engaging in individual counseling:
A Safe Space to Share: One of the greatest advantages of individual counseling is having a private and non-judgmental environment to discuss your feelings. Sometimes, simply talking about your struggles can be a big step toward healing.
Personalized Approach: Unlike group therapy, individual counseling focuses solely on your needs and goals. The counselor tailors their strategies to address what you’re going through, ensuring that the therapy is relevant and effective.
Better Coping Strategies: Life’s difficulties, whether they stem from personal trauma, family conflicts, or work-related stress, can feel overwhelming. Counseling can teach you practical skills to handle these challenges more effectively, fostering resilience.
Self-Discovery and Growth: Working with a counselor helps you gain insight into your behavior patterns, emotions, and thought processes. This self-discovery can pave the way for personal growth, allowing you to make meaningful changes in your life.
Stress and Anxiety Management: Anxiety and stress are common in today’s fast-paced world. Counseling provides a space to explore what triggers these feelings and learn strategies to manage them, such as relaxation techniques, mindfulness, and reframing negative thoughts.
Common Issues Addressed in Individual Counseling
People seek individual counseling for a variety of reasons. Here are some of the most common concerns that counseling can help with:
Anxiety and Panic Disorders: Constant worry, panic attacks, and feelings of dread can take a toll on your quality of life. A counselor can work with you to identify the root causes and develop effective coping techniques.
Depression: Feelings of sadness, hopelessness, and a lack of motivation are symptoms of depression that can be addressed through therapy. Counseling provides a supportive space to explore and manage these emotions.
Relationship Struggles: Even when it comes to issues that seem relational, such as communication problems with a partner or conflicts with family members, individual counseling can offer insight into how to improve those dynamics.
Grief and Loss: The loss of a loved one is a painful experience that many find difficult to process. A counselor can guide you through the grieving process, offering support and helping you find ways to honor your loss while moving forward.
Trauma and PTSD: Unresolved trauma can manifest in many ways, including flashbacks, emotional numbness, or intense fear. Individual counseling can help you process and heal from traumatic experiences.
Self-Esteem and Identity Issues: If you struggle with low self-esteem or uncertainty about who you are, counseling can support your journey of self-exploration and help you build a healthier self-image.
How to Choose the Right Counselor
Finding the right counselor in San Antonio is crucial to getting the most out of your sessions. Here are a few tips to help you select a therapist that fits your needs:
Look for Credentials and Experience: Make sure your counselor is licensed and has experience working with issues similar to yours. You may also want to consider whether they have any special training or certifications.
Consider the Counselor’s Approach: Different therapists use different methods. Some may focus on cognitive-behavioral techniques, while others might use a more holistic or humanistic approach. Research the types of therapy available and decide what feels right for you.
Trust Your Comfort Level: The relationship between you and your counselor is vital. If you don’t feel comfortable with a particular therapist, don’t hesitate to explore other options. It’s important to find someone you can trust and feel safe with.
Check Availability and Location: San Antonio is a large city, so consider logistics such as travel time and the counselor’s availability. Many therapists now offer virtual sessions, providing more flexibility.
Taking the First Step
The journey to mental wellness starts with taking that first step and acknowledging the need for support. Whether you are experiencing emotional pain, feeling stuck, or seeking self-improvement, individual counseling can be a transformative experience. Remember, prioritizing your mental health is a sign of strength, and seeking help is a step toward a healthier, more fulfilling life.
If you’re considering individual counseling in San Antonio, explore the options available and find a professional who resonates with you. Your well-being matters, and the support of a skilled counselor can make all the difference.
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Couples Therapy and Marriage Counseling in Franklin, TN | A Q&A With Barbara Wyer Pt. 1
All couples face problems, and these issues can be tackled together with love, compassion, and mutual respect. Sometimes, outside support can be extremely helpful as well. Enter marriage counseling. Couples in Franklin, TN, have plenty of options when looking for an advocate and partner in their journey toward creating (or strengthening) a healthy, secure relationship.
Read on, as Barbara Wyer, LMFT, shares part one of a two-part FAQ that covers a range of topics relating to marriage counseling.
What is premarital counseling?
Premarital counseling is a type of marriage counseling available to couples in Franklin, TN, who seek to examine potential challenges before they exchange vows. It’s an opportunity for partners to explore relationship patterns, the impact of their family of origin, and to have a safe place to openly express their expectations about how their relationship dynamic will work.
What types of things are discussed in premarital counseling?
Premarital counseling may cover everything from how you will handle salary differences, gender roles, and child-rearing. During your sessions, you may be surprised to find out where you and your partner disagree. This is an excellent opportunity to explore how to get on the same page as you begin to create your story.
You mentioned salary differences. What types of issues might arise because of this?
While not always, many families have a primary earner. Often, this is the partner entering the relationship with the highest salary. One of the issues arising from disparity in salary is that the primary breadwinner feels more empowered to choose where to live based on where they can make the most money. But this may create challenges for the other partner who feels minimized in the conversation. Premarital counseling helps couples lay the groundwork for decisions like this before one assumes the other will simply go along with their plan because they make the most money.
Does premarital counseling in Franklin, TN, open up a conversation about sex?
It can, yes. Having an open conversation about sexual expectations is a healthy way to begin to grow a secure bond and facilitate healthy connection as married partners. Premarital counseling offers a safe place for each partner to share previous trauma that might interfere with intimacy.
How do you approach conflict resolution, whether in premarital or marital counseling?
The vast majority of individuals confront conflict in the way that they were taught by example as children. This is not always the same between two individuals, and premarital counseling helps Franklin, TN couples learn conflict resolution tactics that more closely align with healthy, vulnerable connection.
What are some reasons people might enter marriage counseling after being married for any length of time?
The reasons for marriage counseling are as vast as the number of couples out there. Infidelity, growing apart, and disagreements about money are all common. Some couples just want to "check in" and carve out space from their busy lives to talk intentionally about issues that are concerning them personally or together.
Can a marriage be saved after one or both partners has an affair?
Yes, absolutely. Forgiveness is always a challenge, but it is possible for both partners to heal from the betrayal and rebuild trust. Just as it takes time for a relationship to wear down, it takes time to build it back up. A marriage counselor can help support both the injured partner and the one who stepped outside the marriage.
Should couples enter marriage counseling just to save their marriage for the kids?
That’s a difficult question to answer. Many studies indicate that children who live in high conflict homes frequently experience higher levels of depression, anxiety, and stress. Children learn by example, and living in a home with a pattern of high conflict or emotional/physical abuse may result in the child considering that type of behavior "normal," tolerating an abusive relationship when they begin dating, For these reasons and others, it may be better to end a marriage for the sake of the child's mental and emotional health.
Bookmark this page for part two, as Barbara Wyer continues to explore couples therapy and marriage counseling for Franklin, TN, families seeking to heal from hurt and turmoil.
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Reclaim Your Life: Expert Sexual Abuse Therapy in NJ
Introduction to Stress Therapy in New Jersey
Stress affects millions of individuals daily, and without proper intervention, it can spiral into more significant issues. In New Jersey, individuals have access to specialized care designed to combat stress and restore mental well-being. A stress therapist in NJ offers an essential role in guiding patients through their challenges, ensuring healthier and more resilient outcomes.
Understanding the Role of a Stress Therapist
A stress therapist works closely with individuals to identify the underlying causes of stress, whether they stem from personal issues, work-related concerns, or deeper emotional traumas. Their expertise in stress management ensures that each patient receives a personalized approach, tailored to their unique circumstances.
Tailored Approaches to Stress Therapy
Every individual’s experience with stress differs. Thus, a stress therapist in NJ adopts varied techniques, blending cognitive behavioral therapy, mindfulness practices, and other therapeutic strategies. This bespoke approach ensures that therapy addresses both the symptoms and root causes of stress.
The Importance of Early Intervention
Stress, when unaddressed, can evolve into anxiety disorders, depression, or even physical ailments. Early intervention with a professional therapist can prevent this escalation. In New Jersey, numerous clinics provide immediate support, ensuring that those suffering do not wait until it’s too late to seek help.
Stress Therapy NJ: A Beacon of Hope
Stress Therapy NJ stands as a prominent institution, offering a range of therapeutic services to individuals struggling with stress. With a dedicated team of experts, Stress Therapy NJ focuses on healing the mind, empowering individuals, and restoring balance to their lives.
The Connection Between Trauma and Stress
Many individuals who face chronic stress often have unresolved trauma in their past. The role of a sexual abuse therapist in NJ is crucial in these cases. Trauma from sexual abuse, in particular, can manifest as chronic stress, anxiety, or other mental health challenges. A sexual abuse therapist in NJ can guide survivors through their healing journey, helping them reclaim their mental health.
Integrating Trauma-Informed Therapy into Stress Management
For survivors of sexual abuse, traditional stress management methods may not suffice. A sexual abuse therapist in NJ uses trauma-informed therapy, which prioritizes safety, trust, and empowerment, ensuring that survivors not only manage their stress but heal from the trauma that causes it.
How Stress Affects Relationships
Stress is not an isolated condition. It affects relationships, often leading to misunderstandings, conflicts, and emotional distancing. In NJ, stress therapists often work with couples or families to help them understand the effects of stress on their dynamics and provide strategies for improved communication and connection.
The Role of Mindfulness in Stress Therapy
One powerful tool used by a stress therapist in NJ is mindfulness. By cultivating present-moment awareness, individuals learn to manage their reactions to stressors more effectively. Mindfulness, when combined with other therapeutic approaches, provides a holistic strategy for managing stress.
Stress Therapy NJ: Comprehensive Care for All Ages
Stress Therapy NJ offers therapeutic services to individuals of all ages. Whether it’s a teenager overwhelmed by school pressures or an adult juggling career and personal responsibilities, Stress Therapy NJ’s team is equipped to offer support and guidance through every stage of life.
A Supportive Environment for Healing
Healing from stress requires more than just therapy sessions; it demands a supportive, understanding environment. Stress Therapy NJ ensures that patients feel safe and valued throughout their therapeutic journey, offering a nurturing space where healing can truly begin.
Seeking Help for Stress: When to Reach Out
If stress has begun to affect daily life, relationships, or physical health, it may be time to seek professional help. A stress therapist in NJ can provide the necessary tools and strategies to manage stress effectively. Early intervention, whether through Stress Therapy NJ or a sexual abuse therapist in NJ, can make all the difference in reclaiming peace of mind.
Conclusion: Embracing a Future Free from Stress
Stress, though an inevitable part of life, does not have to dominate it. With the support of a professional stress therapist in NJ, individuals can navigate their challenges, heal from past traumas, and find healthier ways to cope with life’s pressures. Whether it’s through Stress Therapy NJ or working with a specialized sexual abuse therapist in NJ, help is available, and a balanced, stress-free life is within reach.
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The description is a little misleading; it only applies to the first woman and her arc; the rest vary between female characters of different ages and different professions (all centered around the service industry - whether that’s host/hostess clubs, prostitution, rent-a-girlfriend, etc.) There’s also some romance but uh… lol.
I really enjoy this manga. The characters are flawed and they’re written well enough you can understand their motivations and why they went into their respective industries or make the choices they do, and they’re allowed to be human without needing to be saved or fixed by a man. They’re hypocritical, they make stupid decisions, they lie to themselves and others, they help each other out, ultimately they are just women trying to make their way through life.
There are romances as mentioned in the description, though the focus is much more on the women and their lives.
The manga also makes no attempt to be ‘timeless’ by giving you a vague idea of the era; it stays topical, focusing on the modern era. Covid is a background element in the later chapters, with characters wearing masks and having to change their services due to restrictions. There’s also a, or rather, two, popular arcs due to a specific character and the subculture she represents that was popularized around ~2019/2020. I’d say shes my favorite due to relatability, but the latest chapters (as of now) with Emi feel like looking in a mirror and getting a right hook to the face every time I see my reflection.
As always, thar be spoilers below
For the first arc, I really loved that Yuki decided to turn the man down; I also love that it had people arguing in the comments over whether it was the right decision or not. I was expecting a stupid “knight in shining armor saves the poor woman” but nope. Good for her.
I also like the various ways they all approach their jobs (I hate calling most of them jobs but it’s short and gets the point across, I think.) with Yuki being very meticulous, knowing exactly what the men want from her and working her ass off to provide exactly that so she can get the money she needs. I think this is partially what makes the manga such a rough but good read for me; life fucking sucks for all of these women and they’re trying to survive in whatever way they can, and they are not immune to societal pressure.
Yuki wants money to get cosmetic surgery to get rid of her burn scars and needs money to get through college. She’s also fairly cynical and sensitive to others words, reacting with cold disgust over hearing one of her clients talk about how they can’t forgive anyone who doesn’t love their parents. She thinks “It’s the sort of talk that makes me realize this person was probably treasured by their parents and raised with love.” We get a short flashback showing a young Yuki in shabby clothes surrounded by garbage as she quietly seethes over the man casting judgement over others when he couldn’t possibly understand why they’d make those decisions. At her core, she’s a depressed woman who learned money is the only thing that matters, that “money can’t betray” her, money has no expectations. Men want something from her, money doesn’t; she’s allowed to want instead.
Ayana is obsessed with looking beautiful and has no problems scamming (lol) her clients to get just a little more money. She’s incredibly cynical and judgmental towards others appearances. The most telling quote from her is “Even people who say ‘I don’t judge people by their appearance’ still judge people by their faces at some point. Who would favor the ugly one?” which I think explains her thinking so incredibly well; she was treated like shit because of her appearance, and she sees others be treated like shit because of their appearance and so she ‘chooses’ to be beautiful. If she wants to be treated well, she has to play the game. In her arc, her beliefs are proven both right and wrong; a woman she deems ‘ugly’ is in an incredibly happy and loving relationship, while her own lover flinches at a photo of Ayana’s childhood appearance when she dumps him. Her world later comes tumbling down from the men realizing she was just using them for money (NO SHIT, THATS HER JOB) and leading to them harassing her and her eventual firing. Her ending is very bittersweet. Typing this made me realize Ayana is one of my favorites as well lol, I think I relate to her as well in the cynicism aspect and experiences with other’s treatment due to your appearance.
Moe in a way is similar to Ayana, though she chose to not give a shit and to stick with people who liked her for who she is, but that doesn’t mean she’s immune to the societal pressure to be beautiful. Her spiral begins with her first visit to a host club, where she meets a newer host there, and slowly falls in love with him and begins spending more and more money to afford to visit him, until she becomes a prostitute just to keep up with the bills. After her interview (in which the owner rapes her to ‘show her the ropes’) she begins to question whether the relationship is worth it and places the outcome on a coin flip; If he doesn’t answr the phone when she calls, she’ll end this fucked up spiral. He answers.
I could talk A LOT more about this manga and its characters but I’ll leave it there. I’m leaving out a lot of context because I don’t want to write a novel, these are just the quick notes so far. The Moe arc is a lot more fucked than I presented it; the relationship, if you can even call it that, is incredibly twisted and it’s painful how far she goes for a man, who’s written so well you can completely understand why she fell for him. Even knowing what a Host is and the shit they do for money, there are scenes that make you wonder if he felt anything for her at all or if she was just another client.
The scene where Moe wears a very small sailor uniform for a client and breaks down sobbing while the male client berates her for ruining his time… dear god.
“When I knocked on heaven’s door, there was no place for me on the other side. But I will not waver anymore. In my life, I am the main character.” Her ending hurts, but at least she got away. Yua Takahashi, the girl who introduced her to Host clubs and the main character of the next arc, did not.
Anyway, I love this manga.
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EMDR Therapy: Shedding Light on Its Effectiveness in Treating PTSD
EMDR Therapy: Shedding Light on Its Effectiveness in Treating PTSD
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is a transformative approach to psychotherapy that enables people to heal from the symptoms and emotional distress resulting from disturbing life experiences. Unlike traditional therapies, EMDR therapy for PTSD utilizes the patient's rhythmic eye movements to dampen the power of emotionally charged memories of past traumatic events.
Understanding How EMDR Works
EMDR therapy integrates several practical elements of other therapeutic approaches with eye movements or other forms of rhythmic, left-right stimulation, such as sounds or taps. During EMDR eye movement therapy, the patient recalls a traumatic event while the therapist directs their eye movements back and forth across their field of vision. This process is believed to work by "unfreezing" the brain's information processing system, which is interrupted during extreme stress.
The Effectiveness of EMDR
Clinical Success and Studies
Research overwhelmingly supports the effectiveness of EMDR therapy in treating PTSD. Several controlled trials have shown that EMDR eye movement therapy effectively decreases the symptoms of PTSD, including flashbacks, nightmares, and anxiety. Patients often report a decrease in emotional distress and an increased sense of mental stability.
Beyond Trauma
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is also versatile, proving beneficial for various issues, including anxiety, depression, and panic disorders. This adaptability makes EMDR an invaluable tool in the mental health toolkit.
Phases of EMDR Therapy
EMDR treatment typically involves eight phases, focusing on memories, present disturbance, and future actions. The goal is to ultimately process the experiences causing problems and include new ones needed for total health. "Processing" does not mean talking about it; it means setting up a learning state that will allow experiences causing problems to be "digested" and stored appropriately.
The Patient's Experience
Initial Consultation
Each EMDR session begins with an initial review of the patient's emotional health, which helps to tailor the therapy to the individual's needs. The therapist prepares the patient by teaching techniques to handle emotional distress.
The Processing
During therapy, focus is placed on specific traumatic events. Patients are guided to recall these events along with the associated images, thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations. The therapist then directs the patient to make eye movements or other bilateral stimulations to help process these memories.
Closure
Sessions conclude with the therapist instructing the patient on how to maintain a log of any related thoughts or emotions that arise between sessions. This log helps patients apply the calming techniques learned in therapy to real-world situations.
Well Health Counselling For Your Needs
At Well Health Counselling, they understand the profound impact that trauma can have on an individual's life. Their EMDR therapy sessions are designed to provide clients with a safe, confidential, and supportive environment. With a team of specialized therapists, Well Health Counselling uses EMDR to facilitate the brain's natural healing processes, helping clients overcome trauma and regain control of their lives. Their commitment to providing accessible and effective treatment makes them a beacon of hope for many suffering from PTSD and other trauma-related issues.
In conclusion, EMDR therapy offers a promising avenue for those seeking to overcome the debilitating effects of PTSD. With its unique approach to processing traumatic memories through eye movement desensitization therapy, EMDR has opened a new frontier in psychotherapy that promises not just to manage symptoms but to heal the underlying psychological distress.
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