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How To Choose The Right Marriage Counseling Professional In Franklin, Tn

If you and your partner are looking for marriage counseling in Franklin, TN, you have many options. However, no two providers are alike, and the choice of therapist is deeply personal. Today, we take a look at a few things you should consider before making such a monumental decision.

What’s Most Important?

First and foremost, you and your partner must answer the question of what’s most important to you and your relationship. For example, if religion is a cornerstone of your life, you might want to consider a therapist who shares your same beliefs and values.

Training

In the world of marriage counseling, Franklin, TN has many different options, and they all have a different set of credentials and experience. However, there are four primary categories that your counseling professional may fall under. These are licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT), clinical psychologist (CP), licensed mental health counselor (LMHC), and licensed clinical social worker (LCSW).

An LMFT specializes in couples and family therapy. Their primary goal is to help people learn how to repair themselves and their relationships and develop the skills necessary for a successful union. An LMFT will have a Master’s degree in their field.

A CP may offer a much broader level of service with a focus on mental health. A clinical psychologist has a doctoral degree in psychology and can work with couples facing known or undiagnosed mental health conditions.

An LMHC is specialized in the field of counseling and likely has an advanced degree in psychology.

An LCSW will most often work with individuals. This might be a great option for those looking for social support and to help assess and/or diagnose mental health concerns that might be affecting their relationship.

How To Find Marriage Counseling In Franklin, TN

There is no secret trick to finding marriage counseling in Franklin, TN or the surrounding areas. Begin by asking friends and family for recommendations. Online search directories are also a great way to do research on a professional without making an appointment. When it’s time to choose, couples might wish to interview multiple candidates to find out if they are a good fit for their unique situation and personalities.

Many couples also find that it’s helpful to have a checklist of questions during the initial consultation. This could include questions about the typical length of sessions, how progress is measured, and what, if any, therapy modality the clinician specializes in.

The decision to seek marriage counseling in Franklin, TN, may be the first step that a couple needs to take to rectify their relationship. However, it’s not as simple as choosing the first name on Google page 1. Couples should consider their wants, needs, and goals before working with someone who will no doubt have a significant impact on their lives for many years to come.

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Love Can Be a Battlefield: How Discernment Counseling Can Help

In life we sometimes find ourselves at a crossroads. Is it better for us to endure an unhappy relationship or take a different path altogether? Couples counseling in Franklin, TN, can help you decide between traditional counseling or discernment counseling. Barbara Wyer, LMFT explains the difference.

Couples Counseling In Franklin, TN

The goal of traditional couples counseling is to heal disconnection and strengthen the relationship bond. A licensed therapist acts as a skilled guide as partners journey together to navigate challenges, build stronger bonds, and create a more loving relationship. Its primary focus is improving communication and secure connection so couples can best resolve conflicts.

During traditional couples counseling in Franklin, TN, your therapist will work as a supportive guide to help you and your partner identify and address faulty communication patterns and foster empathy for one another.

Traditional couples counseling may be short-term or long-term, depending on your unique needs as a couple.

Discernment Counseling In Franklin, TN

If one partner is “leaning in” to repair the relationship and the other is “leaning out,” discernment counseling can be helpful in sorting through these mixed agendas. This is a model of couples therapy in which the therapist doesn’t necessarily advocate for (or against) divorce/separation or reconciliation. The goal is to help couples on the brink of separation decide whether to stay together or not.

The goal of discernment counseling is to offer clarity and confidence, regardless of the long term outcome. Through an authentic, sometimes painfully honest, exploration of your relationship history, you may better understand the role you have each played in the “troubles.”

Franklin, TN, couples may choose discernment counseling when one partner is ready to end the relationship and the other is not. Discernment counseling typically lasts one to five sessions, at which time you will likely know if you’re headed toward separation or more traditional couples counseling.

Which Direction Will You Take?

There is no single right or wrong answer to this question. Instead, couples counseling, whether discernment or traditional, should be chosen based on your goals, the level of commitment you are each willing to put into the effort to improve your relationship, or the urgency with which you must make a decision.

Is Discernment Counseling The End Of The Road?

One of the greatest things about relationships is that they can change direction at any time. Even if you choose discernment counseling, you may find that you each actually have more similar goals than you realized. It is not uncommon to transition into traditional couples counseling after a few visits and work on healing the relationship.

Seeking Support

Both discernment counseling and traditional couples counseling are available in the Franklin, TN area. Your therapist is a valuable resource that can help you understand your options and walk you through difficult conversations. Ultimately, the type of counseling you choose and the decisions you make regarding your relationship can affect your life indefinitely. Counseling offers you the confidence that you’re making the right decisions.

If your relationship is in trouble, contact Barbara Wyer, LMFT. As a licensed couples counseling therapist in Franklin, TN, Wyer can help you put yourself on the right path and guide you through the bumps in the road along the way.

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Yes, Virginia, You Can Survive Going Home For the Holidays

The reality for many (most?) of us is a long way from warm & fuzzy Hallmark cards or Norman Rockwell’s holiday dinners. With families on the move, packed schedules, and multiple generations of blended families it’s a challenge to gather in one place for Thanksgiving, Hanukkah or Christmas. Add to that mix tight quarters, unrealistic expectations, differences of opinion, old wounds, and exhausted little ones and you have a perfect storm. Peace on earth? Sure, maybe – just not with my family.

If this sounds familiar, there is hope! Here are six tips that just might help.

You can prepare in advance

While the word “intentional” may have reached saturation point, it’s a concept that is powerful, true, and really works. Many families now deal with relationships outside the immediate nuclear family. Adult kids with “significant others,” married children with their own kids, parents that have re-married, blended families and friends that have been invited to join holiday festivities can create complicated dynamics. Think them through in advance. By not projecting too much or too little into these holiday vignettes you can relax. Accepting what will be and not trying to manage, mediate or even manipulate the dynamics and outcome of holiday relationships may offer you the freedom to just enjoy what is.

Worried about hot topics escalating during dinner? Think about having an honest conversation ahead of time with family members about areas of sensitivity and subjects that should be avoided. Wounds of the past can bleed over into conversations and turn an otherwise wonderful meal into a time of hurt, withdrawal, and sensitivity.

Truth is, it can be very difficult to get past the pain of the past. Something that has helped many of my clients to begin to forgive is accepting this person was doing the very best they could at the time. (Even if it wasn’t that great.) Thankfully, it’s possible to grow and change.

With that said, there are many toxic family relationships where a “forgive and forget” attitude is dangerous. In that case boundaries must be structured to keep oneself safe from further emotional, psychological, or physical harm. Sometimes that means you simply don’t go home.

It’s a season, not a day

So many parties, people, board games, movies, and kids showing off their musical talents. You simply can’t fit it all in – so don’t even try.

Between the days leading up to the holidays, the week between Christmas and New Years and the extra time kids have off from school there is plenty of time to enjoy each other. Get your calendars out and schedule time with your special people. Plan small groups, one-on-ones or time where kids can spend time with grandparents. It doesn’t have to happen in a day or two.

Throw a low-stress party. It doesn’t have to be exhausting. People don’t just come for the food, drink or decorations. Mostly, holiday parties serve as a great excuse to get together with family and friends. Paper and plastic work just fine. Invite your friends to a post-Christmas potluck. Take the pressure of performing off of yourself and connect with those close to you.

Reframe

Reverting back to family roles we've long outgrown perpetuates dysfunctional family dynamics. You’re adulting now! Sometimes it’s tough for parents to accept that, and you may feel like you have to pretend to be someone you’re not. Let your guard down, be who you are now. Notice what triggers you to revert back and ask yourself how that is helpful (or not) to the person you’ve become. Give your family the opportunity to fall in love with who you are now.

Avoid Arguments

Some people just love to argue. If you have a family member that enjoys stirring up conflict, don’t let them suck you in. Being pulled into an awkward debate can be avoided by tapping into humility for the sake of peace. It’s not the end of the world if someone sees things differently than you do – unless you think that being right makes you a winner and not being right means you’re a loser. One of my favorite conflict de-escalaters: “You could be right.” It takes the charge right out of controversy as they think you’ve conceded. (Of course, the unspoken second half of that is, “you could be wrong.”)

A final thought on conflicts and arguments; alcohol can fan the flames. Many family gatherings have ended poorly when one or more members have been over-served. As you celebrate with family keep that in mind.

Get Quiet

Whether you are a person of faith or not, the one thing universally beneficial in spiritual practice is quiet. We just don’t have enough of it in our lives. But for many, the end of one year and beginning of another is an opportunity for reflection. Go for a walk, get outdoors, breath deep in the hope of the future and exhale things from your past.

Accepting the gap between the idealized family celebration we'd like the holidays to be and the reality of everyone getting there, being there, and leaving there will allow us to enjoy the season with a minimum of stress, tension, or emotional damage.

Happy Holidays!  

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Marilyn Manson's Father Dies, Singer Pays Tribute to Him in Heartfelt Instagram Post

Sad news for rock star Marilyn Manson.

The 48-year-old musician announced the passing of his father on Instagram early Saturday morning, showing a softer side rarely seen in public.

"Today I lost my father, Hugh Warner," he wrote in a post showcasing a childhood photo with his dad. He added, "He taught me how to be a man, a fighter and a survivor. He taught me how to shoot a gun. How to drive. How to lead. He will always be the best dad in the world."

WATCH: Rose McGowan Says She Blames Breakup From Marilyn Manson on Cocaine Use

Manson, whose birth name is Brian Hugh Warner, previously lost his mother Barbara Wyer in 2014, after a long battle with dementia. "Somehow and somewhere, I know he is with my mom now," Manson continued, indicating the tight connection between his parents.

He concluded his Instagram tribute with, "I will keep my promise and never let you down. I miss and love you dad."

Despite his rebellious and shocking on stage persona, it's clear Manson has always been close with his parents. On Father's Day, he shared a photo on Twitter of father and son wearing matching goth-inspired make up, captioned, "For Hugh so loved the world he made me. Happy Father's Day."

NEWS: Marilyn Manson Says Johnny Depp Was 'Completely Crucified' in Divorce With Amber Heard

In recent years, Manson has added several acting roles to his resume, most notably on Sons of Anarchy, where he struck up a friendship with co-star Charlie Hunnam. "We are strangely like brothers," Manson told ET at the premiere of Hunnam's film, King Arthur: Legend of the Sword. "I don't have a lot of close men friends at my round table, so to speak. I don't even have a table, but Charlie and I always cook food for each other."

See more on their unlikely friendship below:

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Recap: Spring Members Meeting Gratitude Edition

Submitted by: DC Collaborative Team May 17, 2018

The DC Collaborative convened 75 members at the May 16 Spring Members Meeting: Gratitude Edition at the Freer Gallery of Art and Arthur M. Sackler Gallery Meyer Auditorium. This is the most exciting meeting of the year where the Collaborative team offers gratitude to members, educators, partners, funders and board members.

Meeting Resources

Agenda

PowerPoint

Feedback Survey

Community Updates

Elizabeth Eder, Head of Education at Freer|Sackler opened the meeting by welcoming everyone to the space. 

Barbara Shepherd, The Kennedy Center, Any Given Child DC

The membership was briefed by Barbara Shepherd of The Kennedy Center for the Performing Arts on the Any Given Child Washington, DC Collective Impact program followed by an updated from Nathan Dimond of DCPS Arts and David Markey and Anysa Saleh of the DC Commission on the Arts and Humanities about upcoming grants.

Nathan Diamond, DCPS Arts

To further our gratitude/celebration theme, Lissa Rosenthal-Yoffee, DC Collaborative Executive Director gave an update on the excellent news of Arts Education Policy's approval through the DC Council “Sense of Council Arts and Humanities in Education Resolution of 2018.” Jeanette McCune then provided the DC Collaborative Collective Committee updates, followed by a Membership and Programming Committee update by Tracey Wyton and Rebekka Nickman. The DC Collaborative has seen an increase in membership and programming activity of more than one third! nearly 50,000 students were served through the Arts and Humanities for every student program due to the partnerships with members and the Field-trip Experiences grant through the DC Commission on the Arts and Humanities.

Lissa Rosenthal-Yoffe, DC Collaborative Executive Director

Blake Rostine, Tracey Wyton, Rebekka Nickman, DC Collaborative

As the meeting host, Jennifer Reifsteck of Freer|Sackler showed a video describing their education programs and highlighted the partnership with the DC Collaborative and discussed how their outreach to DC Public and Public Charter Schools has increased by 500% through their partnership with the DC Collaborative. 

Jennifer Reifsteck, Freer|Sackler

More details regarding each of these updates can be found through the PowerPoint.

DC Collaborative Gratitude

Linda Harper, Nik Apostolides and Susan Rosenbaum of the DC Collaborative Board of Directors along with Lissa Rosenthal-Yoffe, Rebekka Nickman, Blake Rostine, and Tracey Wyton of the DC Collaborative staff gave gratitude to members and partners who went over and beyond this year. 

School Awards

Most Field-trips: Lauren Leister, Creative Minds Public Charter School

Perfect Survey Response Rate: Kalik Booker, Ketcham Elementary; Rachel Heiss, Bunker Hill Elementary; Joanna Lewton, Capital City Public Charter School; Calchita Magee, Neval Thomas Elementary

Most Professional Development Session Registrations: Lucia Schaefer, Bruce Monroe Elementary School

Most Cherry Blossom Art Contest Submissions: W.B. Patterson Elementary School, Lauren Eastlack and Haywood Williams

Teacher Representatives on the Programming Committee: Maurice Douglas, National Collegiate Preparatory Public Charter School; Terry Thomas, Seaton Elementary School; Carolina Clarens, Oyster Adams Elementary School

Terry Thomas, Seaton Elementary and Carolina Clarens, Oyster Adams Bilingual School

Member Awards

Most Collaborative Meetings Attended: Brian Washington, Capitol Hill Arts Workshop

1st Runner Up (Most Collaborative Meetings Attended): Paul Cohn, O Street Museum Foundation

Most AHFES Field-trips Donated: 

Avalon Theatre- Sarah Pokempner

Imagination Stage- Joanne Seeling, James Swindell

Washington Bach Consort- Marc Eisenberg and Janey Moskowitz

The John F. Kennedy Center for the Performing Arts

Guest Story Bank Blog Writers: JR Russ, DCAYA and Anthony Setari, DCPS

Speed Dating Series Founder: Jared Shortmeier and Samantha Wyer-Bello, Shakespeare Theatre Company

Pictured (left to right): Sarah Pokempner, Avalon Theatre; Joanne Seelig Lamparter, Imagination Stage; Lissa Rosenthal-Yoffe, DC Collaborative; Brian Washington, Capitol Hill Arts Workshop; James Swindell, Imagination Stage; Anthony Setari, DCPS; JR Russ, DCAYA, Jared Shortmeier, Shakespeare Theatre Company.

Connecting to Curriculum Series

Establishment and Commitment to the “Connecting to Curriculum Series”:

Nathan Diamond, DC Public Schools

Special Achievement in “Connecting to Curriculum” Program: 

Scott Abbott and Donna Phillips, DCPS Social Studies

Raymond Cummings, DCPS English/ Language Arts

Member Awards: 2017-2018 Meeting Panelists

Nik Apostolides

Lenore Blank Kelner

Dan Crane

Sarah Jencks

David Markey

Jeanette McCune

Gregory McGruder

Lorraine Robinson

Joanne Seelig Lamparter

Barbara Stauffer

Ingrid Zimmer

Sylvia Zwi

Member Awards: 2017-2018 Meeting Hosts

Art Museum of the Americas- Organization of American States- Adriana Ospina

Capitol Hill Arts Workshop- Amy Moore and Brian Washington 

Columbia Heights Education Campus- Maria Tukeva

DC Public Library- Carmen Boston

Freer|Sackler- Elizabeth Eder and Jennifer Reifsteck

GALA Hispanic Theatre- Rebecca Medrano and Mauricio Pita

Keegan Theatre- Alexis Hartwick

Shakespeare Theatre Company- Jared Shortmeier and Samantha Wyer-Bello, Shakespeare Theatre Company

Sitar Arts Center- A. Lorraine Robinson, Maureen Dwyer

Smithsonian National Museum of Natural History- Barbara Stauffer

Arts for Any Given Child Washington, DC Community Arts Team

Neil Albert— DC Downtown Business Improvement District

Nathan Diamond— DC Public Schools

Akela Dogbe— Moten Elementary School

Kimberly Douglas— THEARC

Sarah Durkee— National Gallery of Art

Kehembe V. Eichelberger— Howard University

Marc Eisenberg— Washington Bach Consort

Rhona Wolfe Friedman— DC Commission on the Arts and Humanities

Addrienne Gayoso— National Museum Women in the Arts

Barbara Harman— Harman Family Foundation and Catalogue for Philanthropy of Greater Washington

Michelle Hoffmann— Washington Performing Arts

Najla Husseni— Office of Family and Public Engagement, DCPS

Sakina Khan— DC Office of Planning

Sherburne Laughlin— American University

Maryann Lombardi— DC Office of Cable Television, Film, Music and Entertainment

Chase Maggiano— Washington Chorus

David Markey— DC Commission on the Arts and Humanities

Jeanette McCune— The John F. Kennedy Center for the Performing Arts

Gregory McGruder— National Geographic Society

Fareed Moustoufi— Pulitzer Center on Crisis Reporting

Laurent Odde— Washington Metropolitan Area Transit Authority

Evan Regan-Levine— JBG Smith Corporation

Anne Robinson— DC City Council

Lissa Rosenthal-Yoffe— DC Arts and Humanities Education Collaborative

JR Russ— DC Alliance of Youth Advocates

Anthony Setari— DC Public Schools

Eric Shaw— DC Office of Planning

Terry Thomas— Seaton Elementary School

Maria Tukeva— Columbia Heights Education Campus

Samantha Wyer-Bello— Shakespeare Theatre Company

Tracey Wyton— DC Arts and Humanities Education Collaborative

Collective Impact Committee Members

Khendall Beale

Karen O. Brown

Sarah Durkee

Maureen Dwyer

Michelle Edwards

Caryn Fraim

Roberta Gasbarre

Cynthia Gertsen

Monica Lewis

Jeanette McCune*

Caitlin Miller

Sarah Pokempner

JR  Russ

Joanne Seelig Lamparter

Jared Shortmeier

Barbara Stauffer

Christie Walser

Brigitte Winter

Sylvia Zwi

Programming Committee Members

Khendall Beale

Carolina Clarens

Miriam Deaver

Nathan Diamond

Maurice Douglas

Sarah Durkee

Cynthia Gertsen

Jeanette McCune*

Caitlin Miller

Janey Moskowitz

Fareed Mostoufi

Jennifer Reifsteck

Steve Reichlen

Joanne Seelig Lamparter

Carey Stipe Lavallee

James Swindell

Terry Thomas

Arts and Humanities Education Champion and our Fearless Leader

The DC Collaborative also honored Jeanette McCune as our Arts and Humanities Education champion for her 18 years of service with the DC Collaborative.

Jeanette McCune, The Kennedy Center

A huge thanks to the DC Collaborative Board President, Linda Harper as our fearless leader this year and for emceeing the evening and keeping us on schedule.

Another thanks to Nik Apostolides DC Collaborative Board Vice President, for his service this year and adjourning the meeting.

”Sushi and Swag” Reception and Networking Bingo!

Thank you to our fabulous hosts, Freer | Sackler for providing the meeting attendees with a fabulous reception that involved sushi and fun prizes during the networking bingo!

A huge thanks on a wonderful school year from the DC Collaborative team to our members, partners, educators, funders and Board of Directors!

Quick Links

Meeting Agenda

Meeting PowerPoint

Meeting Feedback Survey

DC Collaborative Website

Freer|Sackler Website

Freer|Sackler Video

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Baby: M..M-Ma..

Mother: aw are you trying to say Mama?

Baby: Marilyn Manson was born Brian Hugh Warner on January 5, 1969 in Canton, Ohio, to Barbara Jo (Wyer) and Hugh Angus Warner. He has German and English ancestry. During his childhood, one of his neighbors molested him several times until the young Brian broke down one day and told his mother what happened. As an only child, he would often get into mischievous activities such as adventure through his grandfather Jack Warner's sex toys, shoot his BB gun with his cousin Chad, and create sex magazines to sell to his classmates. His parents raised him as an Episcopalian, and he attended the religious private Heritage Christian School. It was there that he became fueled with hate towards Christanity. During his tenth grade year, he convinced his parents to let him attend a public school.After he graduated from high school, he and his parents moved to Fort Lauderdale, Florida because his father got a better job there. He studied journalism and theater at the local community college called Broward, and being some place new and feeling lonely, he wrote poems and short stories. After being fired from his last job at a record store, he became entertainment journalist for a local magazine. He interviewed several famous musicians including Trent Reznor from the band "Nine Inch Nails". Along with his job and writing, he would also frequently go to rock clubs. He soon decided to create his own band. With musical influences from Ozzy Osbourne and KISS, he recruited other musicians with the same interests and started the band called "Marilyn Manson and the Spooky Kids". He got the name Marilyn Manson as a combination from the names of the movie star Marilyn Monroe and the psycho killer Charles Manson. The band's name would later officially change to just Mariyn Manson, and most of the original band members would leave and be replaced, too. Manson reunited with Trent Reznor and had his band tour with "Nine Inch Nails". Reznor would also produce Marilyn Manson's first three albums (Portriat of an American Family, AntiChrist Superstar, and Mechanical Animals) and an E.P. (Smells like Children). "Mechanical Animals" is Marilyn Manson's most successful album to date. With the success, Manson became a controversial celebrity, because the anti-Christian message in his songs, and Satanist 'Anton Szandor LaVey' deemed Manson a Reverend for the Church of Satan. Also with fame, Manson started to mingle with other celebrities, and began a romantic relationship with the actress Rose McGowan. They became engaged, but broke off the relationship in 2001.He then fell in love with the burlesque dancer Dita Von Teese, and soon became engaged. They had a fairytale, non-denominational wedding in a castle in Ireland. Meanwhile, Manson came out with two more albums (Holy Wood, and the Golden Age of Grotesque), and a best of album (Lest We Forget: The Best Of...). He also dabbled into acting by being in such movies as Jawbreaker (1999), Party Monster (1998) and The Heart Is Deceitful Above All Things (2004). He continues to make music and act in movies.

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Can’t take the credit for the picture this week – that’s from Pixabay – but I was where this was taken, Dundee, on Friday. Had the dubious pleasure of driving across that old Tay Bridge and back on a flying visit to the town. Downside of being so danged busy last week is I am fluffing knackered and have done not a lot of anything interesting. Upside – I managed to complete another audio book.

Well – I take that back. I say I’ve done not a lot of anything interesting but over the weekend I did find the energy to attend the blogger/author bash organised by Kim Nash in Birmingham where I caught up with a number of lovely bookish friends old and new. Always a pleasure and the venue is really nice too. I have no pictures as evidence as I hate selfies, but there are some knocking about the old tinterweb if you care to look about.

Book post wise, apart from a few more Mr Men Christmas books that I bought myself for November’s Christmas month I have had none. Zip. Nada. Nothing for over two weeks now. I am pondering my imminent retirement from blogging as clearly everyone hates me �� Just as soon as I’ve read the four hundred plus books I still have waiting for me to read, I’m straight on it.

Bookish buys wise, I’ve had a pretty poor week too. Seems like everything bookish is drying up… I only bought 7 books, 5 of them were Mr Men and 2 of those were even preorders. The 2 non Mr Men books were preorders too. It’s like a virtual bookish apocalypse for me. Unheard of. In case you care, I preordered the new Carol Wyer/Robyn Carter thriller, The Silent Children, due in November, and Kelly Rimmer’s new book Before I Let You Go which is due out next year. Mr Men wise I preordered Mr Happy and the Office Party and Little Miss Shy Goes Online Dating. Yes. That’s right. Mr Men for Adults. I can’t wait. Mr Men for kids wise I am now the proud owner of Mr Men Meet Father Christmas, Mr Noisy and the Silent Night and Mr Men, A Christmas Carol.

Netgalley wise, I picked up four books, three of which are for blog tours so therefore not really adding to my total. Sort of. Ish. These were Bad Sister by Sam Carrington, A Cosy Candlelit Christmas by Tilly Tennant, The Lost Child by Patricia Gibney and Murder Game by Caroline Mitchell. Really looking forward to reading them all.

Reading wise, I’ve been fairly productive considering I had an 18 hour working day on Friday mucking up my plans. Still on track with the three books a week target at the moment so fingers crossed.

Books I have read

The Mistake by K.L. Slater

You think you know the truth about the people you love.

But one discovery can change everything… 

Eight-year-old Billy goes missing one day, out flying his kite with his sister Rose. Two days later, he is found dead. 

Sixteen years on, Rose still blames herself for Billy’s death. How could she have failed to protect her little brother?

Rose has never fully recovered from the trauma, and one of the few people she trusts is her neighbour Ronnie, who she has known all her life. But one day Ronnie falls ill, and Rose goes next door to help him… and what she finds in his attic room turns her world upside down.

Rose thought she knew the truth about what happened to Billy. She thought she knew her neighbour. Now the only thing she knows is that she is in danger…

The Mistake is a completely gripping thriller that will keep you up all night, from the top ten bestselling author of Blink, Liar and Safe with Me. Perfect for fans of Gone Girl and The Girl on the Train.

Loved this. I only meant to start reading a few chapters, maybe half the book, because I was so tired already on Monday evening. Five hours and a lot of nail biting later I had finished. What a story. So many twists and such an occasionally dark but always compelling story, I can’t wait to share my thoughts on it as part of the blog tour. In the mean time you can preorder a copy here.

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Snowflakes, Iced Cakes and Second Chances by Sue Watson

Escape to Devon for blustery walks along the beach, hot chocolate with extra marshmallows and proof that miracles really do happen, especially at Christmas. 

A year after she separated from her husband, Gianni, on Christmas Day, Chloe’s heart is still in pieces as she unpacks the decorations for her first ever festive holiday alone. That is, until the phone rings…

It seems Gianni’s new seaside restaurant is in trouble and Chloe must go to Appledore to save the business – and him. Equally famous for his experimental culinary extravaganzas and his explosive temper, Gianni has been really stirring up a sensation with the locals – and not in a good way! 

As pans fly and the temperature in the kitchen rises, Chloe’s calming influence and magic touch might just get critics back on side in time to save the restaurant from sinking like a sad soufflé. But will it be enough to save their marriage? 

Chloe came to Appledore in search of her Christmas sparkle, but when the snow clears, will she finally find the way back to her husband’s heart?

A laugh-out-loud festive treat that will give you the tingle of freshly-hung tinsel. Perfect for fans of Jenny Colgan, Abby Clements and Debbie Johnson. 

You know that with a Sue Watson book you are guaranteed a feel good, heart warming and very funny book and this was no exception. Chloe and Gianni are polar opposites – even their star signs are against them – but there is an irrisistible charm about the pair. Full of laughter, ice cream and dishes which sound like they’d make even Heston Blumenthal baulk, this is a book which will make you smile, if only for Gianni’s unique way of describing the beach… My review will be up soon as part of the tour but you can pre-order the book here.

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The Preplexing Theft of the Jewel In The Crown by Vaseem Khan

The second book in the heartwarming and charming Baby Ganesh series.

For centuries the Koh-i-Noor diamond has set man against man and king against king.

Now part of the British Crown Jewels, the priceless gem is a prize that many have killed to possess.

So when the Crown Jewels go on display in Mumbai, security is everyone’s principal concern. And yet, on the very day Inspector Chopra visits the exhibition, the diamond is stolen from under his nose.

The heist was daring and seemingly impossible. The hunt is on for the culprits. But it soon becomes clear that only one man – and his elephant – can possibly crack this case…

Book two in the Inspector Chopra series sees our interpid hero caught up in the case of the theft of the Queen Mother’s Crown, believed to be an attempt to reclaim the Koh-i-Noor diamond for it’s rightful owner – India. I am loving this series and the setting and pace of the book are brilliant. I’ve listened to rather than read both of the first two books, with book three lined up for a weeks time when I travel to Bracknell. Each book has been laced with a side mystery and more than a little excitement involving the wonderful baby Ganesh. You can order a copy of the book here.

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Her Last Secret by Barbara Copperthwaite

There are some secrets you can never tell.

The last thing to go through Dominique Thomas’s head was the image of her teenage daughter’s face and her heart lifted. Then the shot rang out.

They were the perfect family. Successful businessman Ben Thomas and his wife Dominique live an enviable life, along with their beautiful children; teenager Ruby and quirky younger daughter, Mouse. 

But on Christmas Day the police are called to their London home, only to discover a horrific scene; the entire family lying lifeless, victims of an unknown assailant. 

But when Ruby’s diary is discovered, revealing her rage at the world around her, police are forced to look closer to home for the key to this tragedy.

Each family member harboured their own dark truths – but has keeping their secrets pushed Ruby to the edge of sanity? Or are there darker forces at work?

Oh my. What an opening. And what a tale. An family nursing secrets, one of which could prove to be deadly. I loved the suspense in this book and was hooked from the first page. I needed to know what happened and why. I absolutely needed to know the secret Ruby was keeping and the reason for her rage. I am sure that when you read it, you will too. You can preorder your own copy right here.

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Four books. Not quite as impressive as last week but given the week I’ve had, I’ll take it. Blog wise it was another full on week recapped below.

Alison Brodie, author of #Zenka

Guest Post: Billy McLaughlin, author of The Daughter

Review: She Did It by Mel Sherratt

#Blogblitz: Cold Blood by Robert Bryndza

#BookLove: Patricia Furstenberg

#BlogTour: The Frozen Woman by #JonMichelet trans. Don Bartlett

#BlogTour: Reach For The Stars by Colleen Coleman

Guest Review: Forgotten by Neven Carr

This week is just as busy with #booklove from my guest reviewer and older sister, Mandie and blog tours for Maria In The Moon by Louise Beech, Kisses From Nimbus by P.J.Riley, The Surrogate by Louise Jensen, House of Spines by Michael J. Malone, Operation Clean Up Day by Jason Tucker, We’ll Always Have Christmas by Jenny Hale and Lies That Poison by Amanda Fleet.

And finally, I’ll jsut say that my Bloody Scotland giveaway is now closed and the winner will be announced in due course. Watch this space.

Have a fabulously bookish week all. I shall be knee deep in paperwork as I try and prepare next years budget. No small feat believe me.

Jen

Rewind, recap: weekly update w/e 24/09/17 Can't take the credit for the picture this week - that's from Pixabay - but I was where this was taken, Dundee, on Friday.

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This Biography is about one of the best Musician Marilyn Manson including his Height, weight,Age & Other Detail…

Biography Of Marilyn Manson Real Name Marilyn Manson Profession Actors, Musicians Famous as Musician, Songwriter, Actor Nationality American Personal Life of Marilyn Manson Born on 05 January 1969 Birthday 5th January Age 48 Years Sun Sign Capricorn Born in Canton, Ohio Family Background of Marilyn Manson Father Barbara Wyer Mother Hugh Warner Spouse/Partner Dita Von Teese (m. 2005-2007) Education GlenOak High School, Heritage Christian School, Broward Community College Net worth $25 million Awards

1999 - MTV Video Music Awards for Best Cinematography in a Video 1997 - Metal Edge Readers' Choice Awards for Best Song From a Movie Soundtrack

1999 - Metal Edge Readers' Choice Awards for Live Performer of the Year

1998 - Metal Edge Readers' Choice Awards for Home Video of the Year

2000 - Metal Edge Readers' Choice Awards for Male Performer of the Year

Personal Fact of Marilyn Manson

The musician who shot to fame with his controversial yet super hit album Antichrist Superstar, Marilyn Manson is both highly popular and notorious among the masses. The singer known for his boldness and outrageous nature has earned as many detractors as his fans over the years with his politically incorrect lyrics and unconventional music. He had a difficult childhood as he was repeatedly molested by a neighbor. Growing up, he felt lonely and began to write poems and songs.

For several years he struggled to make a living and in spite of being so talented, success evaded him. Eventually he got noticed and was able to launch his musical career. Born as Brian Hugh Warner, the American singer adopted the stage name Marilyn Manson when he began performing. From an early age he was eccentric and quirky. Even though his mother was religious, he harbored strong anti-Christian feelings which he expressed through his songs.

His rebellious nature and refusal to adhere to religious norms endeared him to independent minded folks and irked the traditional ones. His weird dressing style added to his mystery and charm. He wore garish makeup and a stylized contact lens in one eye, with bright red lipstick lending him the creepy look that his fans love so much.

This Biography Written By 7infi.com

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My condolences to Marilyn Manson and his family on this difficult time as I have just learned that his mother Barbara passed away on May 13th.

RIP Barbara

August 19, 1946 - May 13, 2014

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Indicators You May Benefit From Marriage Counseling

If you found this page, chances are you’re already looking for marriage counseling in Franklin, TN. But you may also be curious about whether or not the red flags that you see are truly cause for pause. Today, we’ll cover several significant signs that your marriage may be in distress.

Apathy

Apathy is essentially when one partner decides they no longer care what happens in the marriage. This type of indifference or disaffection can show up in different ways – maybe it's a lack of enthusiasm for once-prioritized togetherness, or no longer asking (or caring) about the details of a partner's day. An apathetic spouse may seem detached, distant or no longer show any concern where there may have once been an argument or conversation. 

Physical And Emotional Withdrawal

Physical and emotional withdrawal often happens slowly, over time. Unfortunately, many clients seeking marriage counseling in Franklin, TN, report failing to notice the subtle signs sooner. Distancing in a relationship is not simply removing oneself physically from the other person’s presence. It can manifest as emotional distance and failure to connect through sharing thoughts and feelings. Partners who begin to physically and emotionally detach may also begin to communicate only in the most vague and superficial way.

Chronic Irritability

No relationship is perfect, and sooner or later, we've all gotten annoyed or irritated by our partner. But when most everything they do gets under our skin, this can point to deep-seated issues that need immediate attention. An ever-shortening temper and a continually tense atmosphere is a sure sign that it’s time to look into marriage counseling. Franklin, TN has many therapists that can help identify the underlying "big" issues so that the little things no longer create such tension.

Lack Of Future Planning

One of the most enjoyable aspects of a relationship is planning for the future. This could be planning for a wedding or a vacation for just the two of you, or perhaps carving out time to write down goals for the coming year on December 31st. If these types of forward-thinking activities cease, that may indicate the relationship is headed in the way of permanent disconnection.

This is in no way a comprehensive list of issues that might take place within a marriage. However, marriage counseling professionals often cite apathy, withdrawal, irritability, and lack of future planning as four indicators that a relationship is troubled.

If you’re looking for marriage counseling in Franklin, TN, contact Barbara Wyer, LFMT, to schedule a consultation.

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When Something Feels Off: Do You Have A Narcissistic Spouse?

Marriage is about love, respect, and compromise, says licensed therapist Barbara Wyer, who offers couples counseling in Franklin, TN. What happens when a marriage feels like a one-sided power struggle? Having a narcissistic spouse can leave you feeling confused, unheard, unloved, and emotionally drained.

Red Flags

Everybody exhibits selfish behavior now and then, but living with a narcissist is a consistent roller coaster of emotions. A few red flags that your spouse might have narcissistic traits include:

Self-centeredness/grandiosity. They might constantly boast about their achievements and demand admiration, even for awards and accolades that were undeserved.

Lack of empathy. A narcissist’s world revolves around themselves and no one else. They struggle to understand or care about other people’s emotions.

Manipulation. An issue that frequently comes up in couples counseling is emotional manipulation. This might come in the form of guilt trips, gaslighting, or emotional blackmail.

Need for constant validation. For many narcissists, self-esteem hinges on external praise. Criticism is met with defensiveness, outrage or projection.

Exploitative behaviors. A narcissist may take advantage of you emotionally, financially, or sexually with no apparent remorse.

Therapists offering individual and couples counseling in Franklin, TN, can help clients identify toxic traits in their partners. When many of these red flags are waved, you may be dealing with a narcissistic spouse.

Not All Narcissists Are Alike

It is important to understand that narcissism is not one-size-fits-all. Narcissists may fall into one of three descriptors: grandiose, vulnerable (covert), or malignant. Grandiose, or overt, is the classic stereotype that is often understood to be a narcissist. These individuals may come across as arrogant, domineering, manipulative, and crave constant admiration. A vulnerable narcissist presents as more shy and withdrawn. They covertly seek admiration and are record grudge holders. A malignant narcissist is one that also exhibits antisocial traits. These individuals tend to be completely void of empathy and masters of manipulation and aggressiveness.

Taking Back Control

The goal of couples counseling in Franklin, TN, is to support couples as they repair ruptures and learn to connect in more healthy ways. If you find yourself in a relationship that sounds like one of the dynamics we've described above, find a support group or a therapist who specializes in treating partners of narcissists. But be aware that beginning to set more healthy boundaries is likely to be met with strong pushback by a narcissistic partner. That is why support is essential.

Barbara Wyer is a licensed therapist located in Franklin, TN. Offering both individual and couples counseling, Wyer's practice is informed by Emotionally Focused Therapy in her efforts to help couples connect and reestablish their bond.

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"Mother, to the first and greatest believer in me…I hope I see you again someday. But not now, because I have more things I promised I would do. I’ll make you proud and satisfied that you know that you made the son you wanted. I love you."   — Marilyn Manson

Rest In peace Barbara Warner August 19, 1946 - May 13, 2014

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Barbara Wyer : : DOES FACEBOOK USAGE INCREASE SELF-ESTEEM?

At the beginning of third quarter 2013, membership in the social-networking megasite Facebook climbed to nearly 1.2 billion, with nearly 50 percent of those users in the coveted 18- to 34-year-old demographic. For many, Facebook has become an automatic part of the daily routine and a preferred way to self-curate their day-to-day living.

Many Facebook users report comparing themselves to the (seemingly) idyllic lives of their online friends. These comparisons play a significant role in impacting self-esteem, and to keep up with the crowd many Facebook users edit their profiles to present a more attractive image.

Researchers at Sweden’s University of Gothenberg (Denti et. al, 2012) surveyed 676 women and 335 men to explore whether or not a link could be found between Facebook usage and self-esteem. The average age of participants was 32. The study found a negative relationship between Facebook usage and self-esteem, with a major differential between genders. Women tended to post more about feelings and thoughts, while men spent their Facebook time provoking others. In general, women who held Facebook accounts were more likely to feel less content and happy with their lives.

In contrast, two Cornell professors (Hancock & Gonzalez, 2011) found a positive correlation between Facebook usage and self-esteem in college-aged students. According to the researchers, users reported appreciating the extra time to collect their thoughts when compared to face-to-face interactions.

In the study, published in Cyberpsychology, Behavior and Social Networking, 63 Cornell students were separated into three groups. One group was seated at computers that displayed their Facebook profiles, another group was seated at computers that were switched off, and the final group was seated at turned-off computers with small mirrors located next to them.

After three minutes, each participant was presented a questionnaire used to measure self-esteem on the Rosenberg Self-Esteem scale. Researchers determined that the “mirror” group and the “no Facebook access” group reported no increase in self-esteem. A measurable increase in self-esteem was found in the group with access to their Facebook profiles and those who actually edited their Facebook profiles reported the highest self-esteem.

Two opposing theories were analyzed in the study: objective self-awareness theory and hyperpersonal model theory. The former states that a person’s self-esteem is negatively affected when focusing attention on him- or herself. The latter suggests that when individuals put focus on themselves, they view themselves in a favorable light. The Hancock & Gonzalez study indicated support for the hyperpersonal theory.

Until recently, the above studies have been among the few conducted in the area of computer-mediated communications. However, as Facebook and other social-media channels continue to grow in stature, more researchers are expected to analyze such interactions and their implications in our lives.  

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What Types Of Marriage Counseling Are Available In Franklin, TN?

If you are one of the couples in the Franklin, TN area seeking marriage counseling, one of the first things you may have noticed are the sheer numbers of therapists offering services. It can be overwhelming to sift through the many options to find the right fit. The reality is, not every therapist (or form of therapy) will be right for your personal situation. Here are several types of therapy explained, to help you get started in the search.

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)

Emotionally Focused Therapy helps couples learn how to communicate vulnerably with one another while forging stronger, more secure attachments. EFT is beneficial for couples who find themselves caught in a recurring cycle of miscommunication and hurt.

Gottman Method

Another modality of marriage counseling in Franklin, TN, the Gottman method is useful for couples experiencing sexual difficulties, dysfunctional communication, and emotional distance. It involves tools to identify relationship red flags, and to build trust and commitment through creating love maps and learning how to manage conflict.

Imago Relationship Therapy (IRT)

Imago Relationship Therapy helps couples identify patterns that may be harmful to themselves and their relationship. It helps to explore childhood experiences so that each partner can begin to improve their understanding of themselves and one another.

Sex Therapy

When couples have different sex drives or feel stuck in dysfunction or differing expectations, sex therapy can help return the intimacy to a relationship. Marriage counselors in Franklin, TN, specializing in sex therapy help couples overcome everything from low confidence and past sexual trauma to low libido and communication issues that have harmed their intimacy.

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)

Our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors all affect how we apply ourselves within our relationships. Cognitive behavioral therapy helps us identify these negative patterns so that we can more consistently recognize and overcome relationship challenges. CBT is a science-backed approach that helps couples learn how to challenge negative thoughts to improve communication, reduce stress, and enhance overall emotional well-being.

Narrative Therapy

During narrative therapy marriage counseling, couples in Franklin, TN, literally write their side of the story. It is an exceptional way to illustrate how a singular view doesn’t always provide a comprehensive picture of a situation. Narrative therapy offers an opportunity to build empathy and open up space to really listen to the other's perspective.

The Benefits Of Marriage Counseling In Franklin, TN

Marriage counseling can help couples "treading water" to regain solid footing. It can help each partner learn to identify negative feelings and patterns and begin to express their more vulnerable feelings to one another. Marriage counseling can also teach each partner how to speak in the other's love language, whether that’s affirmation, quality time, acts of service, gifts, or physical touch.

Ultimately, there is no one choice of marriage counseling in Franklin, TN that’s right for everyone. All forms of marriage counseling serve to remind us that hope is almost always appropriate, even on those days when the relationship feels hopeless.

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Marriage Counseling and EFT: A Tool For Healthy Relationships

Barbara Wyer, MMFT, LMFT, EMDR, is a licensed therapist who provides marriage counseling in Franklin, TN. Her work with individuals and couples is highly informed by Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). In this brief Q&A, Wyer shares some information about EFT.

Q: What is Emotionally Focused Therapy?

Barbara Wyer: Simply put, EFT is a therapeutic framework based on attachment therapy to help individuals and couples understand the vulnerable emotions that often hide "below the surface" in moments of conflict. The goal of EFT is to strengthen the relationship bonds and build a more secure attachment between partners.

Q: What is attachment theory? Is this a term familiar to clients seeking marriage counseling in Franklin, TN?

BW: Attachment theory is a psychological concept that theorizes how individuals form attachment bonds with one another, both as children with caregivers, and later in life between adult partners. There are several different styles of attachment, including secure, avoidant, anxious, and disorganized. Attachment theory explains how each style develops during the formative years in a person’s childhood.

Q: What are the core concepts of EFT?

BW: Again, EFT is rooted in attachment theory. This theory also holds that a fundamental need for connection and attachment is shared by all humans. EFT teaches clients to the importance of noticing and identifying their underlying emotions, how to better understand their unique emotional needs, and develop a secure attachment style.

Q: How does the EFT process evolve throughout marriage counseling in Franklin, TN?

BW: While no two couples are alike, a typical EFT session might involve identifying negative cycles, accessing the underlying emotions involved with these cycles, and learning how to restructure an emotional response. Clients are then offered insight into how to form new and positive patterns to strengthen their emotional connection and build secure bonds. This is accomplished through the stages of assessment/de-escalation, restructuring interactions (the bond), and consolidation.

Q: EFT is more than just marriage counseling. Can you explain a few of the other benefits associated with Emotionally Focused Therapy?

BW: In addition to helping couples work through issues together, EFT is useful on an individual level as each partner increases their level of self-awareness. Clients in EFT therapy may find that they have enhanced communication skills and develop healthier emotional responses to external triggers for greater emotional resilience.

Q: How can someone get started with EFT?

BW: Look for a licensed therapist that has experience, training, and certification in EFT. Finding a therapist is not always easy, so I recommend doing your research on marriage counseling in Franklin, TN, and choosing a provider whose beliefs and methods align with your own.

For more information about marriage counseling in Franklin, TN or to connect with Barbara Wyer, email barbara@barbarawyer.com.

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Couples Therapy and Marriage Counseling in Franklin, TN | A Q&A With Barbara Wyer Pt. 2

In a recent post, Barbara Wyer, LMFT, discussed premarital counseling and reasons that couples might enter marriage counseling.  Today, the Franklin, TN-based therapist dives deeper into questions often asked by couples on the brink of ending their relationship.

What are the different types of external stressors that correlate with significant distress in a relationship?

Relationships are stressed each day. However, major events, such as the loss of a job, the death of a close family member, or a major illness, can pose significant challenges to otherwise healthy relationships. When these issues are ignored or left unresolved, one or both partners may become emotionally detached and withdraw into their own unhealthy coping mechanisms.

How do you approach marriages where the couple has grown apart?

People change with time, and it is not uncommon for individuals to find they are not the same person they were 10 or 15 years prior. One thing we often notice in marriage counseling is couples who no longer share the same ideals and values. One partner might prioritize family, while the other is highly focused on their career. Often, they essentially live separate lives. During therapy, it can be beneficial to find common ground to discuss their “side of the story” and how their priorities and values have changed based on their experience in the marriage.

Is marriage counseling a guarantee that couples will work things out and live happily ever after?

Absolutely not. Marriage counseling is simply a tool that couples can use to help mend their relationship. But they have to put in the work together and individually. For a marriage to thrive, each partner has to commit to the other, themselves, and the life they have built.

How important is communication in a marriage, and can marriage counseling help one or both partners find their voice?

How well a couple communicates with one another is essential to maintaining the strength and integrity of their relationship as a whole. Unfortunately, relationship connections can disintegrate due to new changes in a relationship that get in the way of communication and secure connection. Anything from long hours at work to a different bedtime can change how couples interact with one another.

Does a lack of communication always result in the breakdown of the marriage?

Things are not always so black-and-white in marriage counseling. However, many Franklin, TN, couples that fail to prioritize communication begin to notice over time that their bond is not as strong or secure as it once was. I think that communication is just as important as mutual respect in any relationship.

How can a couple begin the search for marriage counseling?

As with most things, I recommend doing a search online for marriage counseling in Franklin, TN. This can help prospective clients learn more about the different types of therapists, their availability, fees, and whether or not they take insurance. I would also recommend that couples confirm their chosen therapist’s qualifications or ask for recommendations and friends or family.

Ultimately, no two relationships are the same. Whether a marriage ends in divorce, or lasts until “death do us part,” marriage counseling can be helpful during times of distress or as a periodic check-in. Couples owe it to themselves and to each other to prioritize their secure relationship bonds.