#and because of the state I live in and the way my mom is and the way I can’t Do anything because I don’t have enough money or freedom

[ye4gerism]

hiii😊 I kinda have a few questions about curly’s mom Ngl and maybe his dad. I think my first question for his mom though is….is she racist or just a toxic boy mom or both. I also kinda wonder like what makes her like jimmy so much. Then about his dad. Ik we don’t really know much about him but I just wanted to know like does he likes us at all or more than the mom. I also kinda want to understand curly and his mom’s dynamic. Like when it comes to the toxic boy mom is she trying to see the husband she wants in curly. Because it kinda just came to point where is like these weird boy moms are kinda grooming or being weird with their son. Or is it more of just she’s jealous like jimmy but they aren’t jealous in the same way. I guys my class question is just why did curly’s mom and dad and how did curly take it. Also sorry if this is a lot😭 happy holidays 🎄

author’s note hi! thank you for your ask. this is a long post and i don’t want to clog up the feed. so click ‘keep reading’ to keep reading lol.

content good luck captain

ok so, here’s the long answer to your first question 😭 as you’ve probably noticed i am a black writer and make it my purpose to write for readers who look like me. the mouthwashing fandom is still so new and i haven’t really seen any black reader stories for curly (or really anyone) except for @grimmsbride who i’ve seen writing for curly and daisuke (check them out!).

because i still want an audience to cater to (and i don’t know what demographic i’m actually pulling from my fics), i would say yes and yes to your question about curly’s mom in good luck, captain. i could definitely see her being prejudice to reader if they’re poc and is most definitely a toxic boy mom. whatever the case is for you, she’ll never really see you as the best fit for her son.

as for jimmy, i’ve mentioned he grew up with curly in happy birthday, jolene. she just sees him as another son just based on shared history and proximity. he’s family.

i haven’t thought much about curly’s dad and just now realized i probably should have included him and his reaction to the tuplar crash in best wishes, curly. i feel that curly really favors his father and i hinted in dream of fish that his mom doesn’t really like that. as it’s been previously mentioned, he lives in australia and had most of the custody over curly. i imagine him as a really chill dude who’s really really funny and charming and likes to explore. he’d probably get remarried to someone who shares his humor and sense of adventure. when reader and curly are dating, she’s only spoken to mr. curly a few times over facetime or skype. but he likes you and accepts you as his son loves you tons. he let curly propose to you in his home.

i would say that during the events of best wishes, curly, he didn’t come visit you in person as it was hard for him to handle the loss of his son but he did call from time to time. even when curly came back, it was still tough for him to see his son but he still maintains a relationship with him.

curly respects his mom but there is a limit to their relationship. he did go to school in australia and came to stay with her on breaks - he didn’t get to see her all the time and as he grew, he tries to maintain a healthy and balanced relationship with her. he got closer to her when he decided to go to college in the united states and she really takes advantage of their proximity. i wouldn’t say she’s grooming him. she left a marriage that she felt wasn’t perfect and would lonve to be involved in curly’s decisions when it comes to who he’s in love with. sometimes she’ll suggest the daughters of her friends from work or church bc she thinks they’ll fit in her idea of what curly’s family and future should look like.

over time, i feel that she would be jealous of reader bc she got the family that mrs. former curly wanted.

mr. curly and mrs. former curly just fell out of their rhythm. they were high school sweethearts and had the perfect white picket fence life and it just didn’t work out one day. after countless arguments, curly’s dad decided to file for divorce and mrs. former curly signed them in a heartbeat. obvs curly was confused and heart broken as his parents did a good job hiding their issues and he couldn’t fathom why they would separate. having to go back and forth between continents was stressful at first but it became a routine for him.

and no worries about the length of your ask. i appreciate your interest in good luck, captain! happy holidays to you too!

[ineffable-ezradorian]

I got my ass eaten alive for this on tiktok but I like analysis and I pray tumblr will be kinder to me with understanding the point I’m trying to make about WHY I DON’T LIKE CAITLYN.

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explaining the differing dynamic and severity of jinx’s actions vs kkkaitlyn

(through a materialist + revolutionary perspective)

first we must understand systemic violence vs interpersonal violence. systemic violence in arcane for example would be the long-standing oppression of zaun based on class. the enforcers have historically done violence against civilians (zaun has no standing military and is not officially governed or an official “state” in the political science definition. a state has legitimacy through a monopoly on violence and self governance—things zaun lacks.) because zaun is not a state, it is subject to piltover and has been kept in poverty through police violence for example. THIS is why figures like silco have attempted to unite zaun under one banner and find a way to fight back against piltover (while his METHODS were certainly not moral, his ACTIONS were.)

the SYSTEMIC violence (as in BUILT INTO THE SYSTEM) zaun has endured at the hands of piltover (and piltovers elites INCLUDING the kirammans) creates an environment where people are desperate, living in poverty (a form of systemic violence) and exposed to police violence on a regular basis. obviously this isn’t healthy for a population and breeds resentment. which is NOT the opppressed’s fault!!! these conditions are not silco’s or jinx’s or vi’s individual fault, neither are they caitlyn’s or jayce’s.

HOWEVER some characters continue to UPHOLD this system that causes violence to the oppressed, therefore making them somewhat complicit. 

now let’s talk about INTERPERSONAL VIOLENCE. an example of this is really any violence done by one individual to another. often we view this as the most severe violence because we can easily SEE it. however, this view is flawed. it ignores the generations of violence committed (without a face) through the system itself—more violence than can be committed by a single person. so by this logic, when we look at jinx blowing up the council meeting and killing council members, it may LOOK like this is worse. however, taking into context the ways the kiramman family has upheld the violent system as an elite, we can see that one of these is a response to maintaining power (the kirammans actions) and the other is a response to that violent upholding of power (jinx’s actions)

let’s talk about caitlyn and jinx specifically now. when caitlyn decides to use a harmful (possibly deadly) gas on civilians in a military operation, this is an example of upholding a violent system. (also a war crime! even if she was doing it to try to catch jinx, she is harming innocent civilians aka collective punishment. collective punishment is a war crime) (not to mention I’m sure she knew her best friend’s lab partner was disabled because of the use of the Grey and to me that makes her actions even more reprehensible—this is speculation though) this places caitlyn on the side of the oppressors, and her actions cannot be justified or explained away because of an instance of INTERPERSONAL violence (the killing of her mom). caitlyn has never experienced systemic violence and has even engaged in it as a member of the enforcers. 

compare this with jinx, who HAS experienced systemic oppression and been subjected to the consequences of piltover’s continued use of violence to force zaun into submission (unlike caitlyn.) she is even painted as a revolutionary figure and revered by younger zaunites as standing up to piltover and the classist oppression they’ve experienced. we can criticize jinx’s methods, but her ACTIONS themselves are justified. she, unlike caitlyn, did not target civilian populations in any harmful way. she is not upholding a violent system. she is RESISTING against it. I’m not saying she’s never done bad things, but those bad things are IN RESPONSE to experiencing systemic violence, poverty, and oppression in her life whereas caitlyn has not experienced those things.

we’ve seen in caitlyn and jayce classist attitudes that are a product of growing up in piltover, a classist society. while their birthplace isn’t their fault, it IS their responsibility to unlearn those attitudes and use empathy and compassion when viewing and analyzing zaun, zaunites, and the power and privilege they wield. I think caitlyn failed at this.

this also opens some discussion as to vi’s place in all this. I find her very interesting because after experiencing oppression, she decided to side with the oppressor and even joined the police force and aided in caitlyn’s war crimes. she was probably the one who saved isha’s life when caitlyn tried to merc her to get revenge against jinx. and when she went AGAINST caitlyn’s ambitions (and by extension, piltover’s) she was punished (caitlyn literally hitting her with her gun which could have seriously injured her)

caitlyn MUST understand that her actions, despite being motivated by her interpersonal antagonistic relationship with jinx, have a broader social and political context. this is because she holds power!!! she is a member of the elites in piltover!!! regardless of whether she is consciously or unconsciously doing so, she is upholding the violent system that continues to harm people like jinx, like vi, like viktor. I don’t think she understood that AT ALL and that is why she chose to seek revenge against jinx rather than seek to understand jinx’s situation and work towards a solution that can FIX the imbalance in class dynamics and prevent future violence. the upholding of the system ENSURES future violence against both sides.

anyway that’s all I have to say and this is why I think jinx’s actions are justified compared to kkkaitlyn

why can’t we have lesbians who aren’t cops 💔

[maxgicalgirl]

I’m not going to lie I’m like really stuck and don’t know what to do with my feelings about All Of This. I dont have therapy until next week and they don’t have space to move me up and I dont really have anyone else to talk through how I feel ? I dont know what to do.

[penisbilt]

the bittersweet but absolute flood of relief that comes from admitting defeat at living independently, to have to move back in with parents. we tried! we gave it our best shot for almost 3 years! but living like this (being on our own) is just not possible for us at this time of our lives. we've finally proved it to ourselves that we can't do it. it'll be okay to let ourselves rest now

[gophergal]

I always hate the pity I get when I say "I don't have much of a family"

Like, fuck you dude. My family is very small, but my parents distanced themselves from their relatives for a good fucking reason and so have I

[flippedorbit]

i’m gonna be so for real, if things don’t start changing for me in good ways i will be disappearing off the face of the earth

[medicinemane]

At least I could disable the suggestions but just... I'm sick of it, I'm sick of companies trying to think for me

I'd rather be miserable but doing shit my own way than placid and glass eyed and just taking whatever companies tell me to

Like... literally just asking what I get out of writing a post on tumblr... zero suggestions, just letting me say whatever dumb stuff comes to my head

[valewritessss]

Recently I’ve developed more of a “this is something I usually overthink about but right now we’re going to do it anyway because I refuse to live my life in fear” mentality and I’m kind of loving it

[veone]

also yall know that thing about how people with adhd will forget you exist if they don't see you, that is very true on my end.

[talkfastcal]

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[buysomecheese]

Not fair that I have to Get Ready for school dances and I can’t just cutscene to being dressed and ready and with my friends like in a tv show.

[boomerang109]

okay i have my fan going fast enough it sounds like it’s going to fly off the ceiling and kill me maybe i still have a chance at life

[oveliagirlhaditright]

I was denied disability, and I'm furious.

It sounds like it's just because I've been tested for a few things and they came back negative. And to me that almost sounds like I'm being discriminated against because I don't have epilepsy, for example, but do have functional movement disorder.

And also because I live alone... but if I did live with anyone else, I'd lose my Medicaid.

According to my lawyer, he said if I lived in another state, I would have gotten disability. He's the best, and he's going to appeal... but there's no guarantee that's going to work (like, my hearing with the judge was already the result of me having been denied twice and having appealed those denials). This is so infuriating.

[eatyourdamnpears]

a very “fuck you” to people who slam things around when they’re angry to get the attention of the people around them

[fruitmouse]

looking at pics of me with long hair is sooooo strange now

[insoupid]

My mom is so obsessed with me it's so fucking annoying