I’m approaching 27 which means that we are now in this unexpected period of life where we need to replace all of our “good enough for now” things that we got super cheap (or free from family) when we first started living on our own. I am realizing that it is VERY difficult to get rid of things, not just from an emotional attachment standpoint but also:
“Well it technically DOES still work even if it’s unpleasant and falling apart” (especially applicable to ugly/uncomfortable furniture)
“We don’t have to get rid of it, we can always repair it” (it is literally broken and falling apart)
“Wouldn’t it be Bad and Consumeristic to just throw something away that isn’t actually broken just because I want a new one?” (this one plagues me)
“Getting a New Thing would be way too expensive” (hasn’t even checked the price of a replacement, I absolutely can afford it but it would cost more than $50)
Even when I’ve fought through those arguments (which is very hard to do considering these are things I learned while growing up during the 2008 recession and struggling financially due to severe illness and death in the family when I was young) and come out the other side determined to actually replace something, a new issue arises. “How am I going to get rid of the old thing?”
“I can’t donate this because it’s broken or stained”
“I want to sell this but this requires a lot of energy that I don’t have (photographing the item, pricing the item, posting an ad for the item, sorting through offers for the item, arranging pickup for the item, possibly even shipping the item)”
“I want to throw this away but it’s too large to put in the garbage so it must go on the curb and I don’t know the protocol for that”
“I want to throw this away but it’s too large to put in the garbage and too broken to give away so it must go to the dump and I don’t have a vehicle I can use to take this there so I will need to reach out to family for help”
“I want to throw this away but I’m not sure how to do so in an Environmentally Friendly way”
This sort of situation is a nightmare for my mentally ill mind, and it results in me simply giving up and putting up with keeping the shitty item I know I want to replace and repeating the same excuses to myself to justify it enough that I don’t break down in frustrated tears every time I look at the thing I’ve been wanting to get rid of for months.
I’m sick of it though. I am tired of having to put up with being stuck with something I don’t like just because it’s not “bad enough” to justify going through the stress of removing from my life. I am tired of living with these things that I want to get rid of taking up the space I want to give to something new that I do love that I picked out myself on purpose. I am tired of my own happiness not being a good enough reason to justify doing something difficult or inconvenient. I am approaching 30. I don’t want to live the next decade of my life like I’ve lived the first two, just dealing with what’s been given to me and not saying no, incapable of removing things I don’t like to make space for things I do.
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Should I just admit my shoes have reached the end of their natural lifespan and buy new ones? Probably. But this took 40 minutes, some glue and some embroidery floss, and now I can at least schlep them another summer.
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if i ever write gravity falls fic it would be about how mabel gets her yarn while on vacay
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idk if it's an unpopular opinion (and i probably WILL get hate for this) but. i do not like jily. 🤭
(also your tag says 'lez do this' and i was super confused for a hot moment bc i'm lez and like. you know i exist??? lmao)
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hiiii <3 i’m very sure that’s an unpopular opinion in certain circles so ur good!
but also, yes i totally feel ya!! even when i started reading hp fanfic, i’ve never been able to get into jily and i think it’s probably bc im really, really against the kind of portrayal both james & lily get in fics. (to be fair, these r opinions from a few years and i’m pretty sure it’s changing now but i haven’t read any significant amount of jily recently to tell)
lily, for eg, gets deified to a ridiculous degree. like our girl was NOT some dainty little maiden floating thru some life. sure, we don’t get a lot about her but what we do paints a decent picture. and that’s not to even mention how one dimensional her portrayal is—centred around her sacrifice and written as a copy of hermione (or molly if she’s older). all of it basically just turned me off her and consequently jily as a ship.
and james oh my god. don’t even get me started. sometimes i feel like he gets done dirty by jily fans than the snape lovers lol. atleast those guys r honest about their intentions 💀
and when put together, u have this very old & boring fun sponge/manchild dynamics that i really, really dislike. so yeah, that’s..a rant and a half lol.
Send me unpopular opinions!
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zepotha doesn't even sound like the name of any slasher let alone an 80s slasher. if it is a horror movie it sounds like a ripoff of alien 3. would be a space horror. an 80s slasher would either be a superstitious horror concept (friday the 13th, halloween) or a collection of words that don't necessarily go together all the time but create a sense of dread (the texas chainsaw massacre, a nightmare on elm street). if you're trying to make an 80s slasher you gotta call it something like The Campbell Road Bloodbath
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Their name is Tardigrade, they're a bit shrimp, they punch a little harder than they probably should, and they can see more colors than any other elsen in zone 1 should probably be able to see.
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