#and I HATE IT SO MUCH

[dailymanners]

Always use "excuse me" if you have to get into someone else's personal space.

Someone at the store is standing in front of the shelf where there's a can you want to grab? Don't just reach into their personal space without warning, say "excuse me" or "pardon my reach" first so that they at least have a warning that someone is about to reach into their personal space, and most importantly, so that they have a chance to move before you get into their space.

Or if someone is standing on a walkway or in a doorway you need to get through, don't just silently shove past them or squeeze past them, say "excuse me" so that they have a warning that a someone is about to squeeze or shove into their personal space, and they have a chance to move out of the way before you do you.

People deserve a fair warning if someone is about to squeeze or shove or reach into their personal space. A lot of people are not okay with having someone, but especially a stranger, randomly shove or squeeze or reach into their personal space without warning. They also deserve a chance to move out of the way first for the sake of their comfort.

Try to avoid just staring at people who are in your way and expecting them to read your mind that you want them to move. Most people cannot, in fact, read minds, so having someone stand in front of them and stare at them often only leads to making them feel uncomfortable and frustrated.

But also more importantly, if you are standing somewhere someone needs to get to, and they say excuse me, you should move aside for them even if just temporarily, so they can avoid the discomfort of having to reach into your personal space or squeeze past you.

If someone is saying "excuse me" it's because they would like you to move because they don't want to have to get into your personal space, whether it's out of respect for you, or just because they themselves are not comfortable getting in your personal space.

All of this goes double for people with trauma and/or people who are neurodivergent. If someone has trauma related to abuse or assault they may find it more upsetting or possibly triggering to suddenly have someone shoving or reaching in their personal space without warning.

Or, many types of neurodivergence can make it especially disturbing and unpleasant to have someone else in your personal space, especially without warning.

You can never be 100% sure who is and isn't traumatized and/or neurodivergent, so always practice respecting other's personal space by giving them a fair warning with "excuse me" or "pardon my reach" before getting in their personal space, and moving aside when you hear those magic words. Or, even if someone isn't traumatized nor neurodivergent, it's still fair to not like someone in your personal space without warning and not being given the opportunity to move first.

[howglorygoes]

The phrase “why would I bother reading something nobody could be bothered to write” is incredibly succinct and galvanizing whenever someone tries to bring up AI

[ganondoodle]

i guess i got a little boost of motivation after cleaning up stuff, unfortunately it was strong enough to make me attempt yet another painting idea i just .. cant do

and im feel like im already slipping back into a massive depression phase, in part fueled by the rage at how i STILL cant paint how i want, i dont want to do wonkily colored sketches all the time, i want to PAINT but i CANT how i want to and its driving me nuts

i just feel like i havent learned a thing, im still just as bad as i was before, and when i mean bad, i dont mean it in the sense of my art sucks (since art is inherently subjective and there really is no 'bad' art) but its still not where i want to be, i feel like i am still at the same point and the longer i try over and over to paint something its wasting so much time, its like i cant actually understand HOW to paint, the colors i paint somehow dont know how colors work and now i just want to cry

[ifwebefriends]

Trying to fight off the Magnus Archive obsession brain worms for the time being because that show and the characters Do Things to my brain

[ethan-acfan]

I actually fucking hate Google doc's autocorrect system and it's need to make everything "grammatically correct" maybe, just fuckin maybe, the character I'm writing has an accent or a way of speaking that doesn't make them sound like an ai giving a speech.

Like ughhh stop saying my chatty, Midwestern, character isn't "grammatically correct" maybe I want my character to have a unique speech pattern

[lesbianneopolitan]

I wish I could get drunk with my gf, but not only are the timezones homophobic but also, labor is evil and she's being overworked at her job today

[lumiolivier]

See what happens when I post polls on Twitter? They make me do dumb shit.

[ironpool99]

yes, chase is my favorite character. yes, I hate him with the power of a thousand suns.

[sadieanddottie]

Boop over here, boop over there, a boop will greet you

Me rn

[heretherebedork]

Rak shouldn't break up with Mut to protect him. He should break up with him for taking Meena to a restaurant with his abusive father and getting into an entire argument in front of her instead of protecting her. That would be a good reason to drop him.

But, because it's a MAME show, Mut can do no wrong so instead it will be Rak trying to protect him from his father and he won't care at all that Meena was in the exact place he never wanted her to be... witnessing her grandfather's abusive personality.

[heartofalifer]

everytime I rewatch Broadchurch I get sadder as I get to the end of the seasons because Alec gets called by his name or even sir lesser and lesser when he's constantly shouting MILLAHHRRR

[backpackingspace]

okay I can't find my thanks I hate post. So here's a new one.

Jun wu: Okay xie lian let's get the lesson learned one more time okay baby. General pei either break the array and I'll reinstate you or don't and I'll release your enemies.

[oifaaa]

not to sound elitist but like when people talk about pit madness like it’s canon i always question whether they actually like jason or if they just want a “bad boy”

I think they like Jason they just want a more palatable clear cut good version of him - saying he was possessed by the lazarus pit provides a easy out even tho it makes no sense and quite frankly takes alot away from Jason's character imo - all of Jason's actions are his own there's no mythical goop whispering at him to do fucked up things - I especially hate it when people use it as a Jason wouldn't actually hurt tim if he was in his right mind like I think the titans tower fight is stupid and don't acknowledge it but I still don't deny that Jason would still not hesitate to hurt tim bc hes willing to hurt people around Bruce to mess with him and that's fucked up but its just how Jason is - alot of people use it though bc it is just easy it's easier then actually writing a Jason who's unhinged and genuinely wants to harm certain bats it's easier to sympathise with and its a easier way to end a story with everyone now a happy family

[onethousand825days]

9 AM and I've already had several tragic realizations about myself how's everyone else doing

[didderd]

adhd sans is such a relatable character, seeing as i have my own issues. i seriously struggle with stuff similar to his problems so it feels comforting knowing there's a skeleton just like me and a lot of other people

yes omg

i love Duck sm. projecting heavily onto this boi, especially with the comic.

fkn. sorry, i hope you don't mind me using your ask as an excuse to ramble abt my neurodivergent ass. you don't have to read this.

ramblings bordering on venting, but mostly jus cus i wanna talk abt my disorders more, but not in a venty way, but hhhh.. under read more:

ADHD is such a struggle, especially the executive dysfunctioning. ppl would assume that the Tourette's is the more crippling of the disorders i have, jus bc it's more physical and more like. known for being disabling(?) but at least in my case it's nothing compared to my ADHD symptoms.

the most my Tourette's does usually is bruise my wrist or make me have to stop what i'm doing (like literally just now stopping writing to snap my fingers and clap several times lmao hkgvhc) for a moment to tic.

but my executive dysfunction stops me from doing just about anything. chores, basic hygiene, important life shit, even eating and hydrating.

and my dissociating does the same thing as my tics, making me stop what i'm doing sometimes. or it'll make me have to like.. slow down and not able to look at what i'm doing while my vision is unfocused and i stare off into space or at whatever's directly in front of me lol.

the sensory problems also. sometimes i can't walk around in certain cloths bc the texture is too much. it feels like sand paper. (there's more i could say abt the sensory problems, but i need to stop rambling skdbvjsdvk)

anyways, yeah. so fkn grateful for adhd sans, bc now i have a character to pour all these problems into lmao.