#courtesy

[dailymanners]

Always make sure everyone in the group is acknowledged.

For example, say you run into some friends while you're out in public, but they have with them their roommate who you've barely met. In this case, don't just ignore the roommate in favor of only acknowledging and speaking to your friends, make sure you acknowledge and greet the roommate too, even if it's just a smile or even just a polite nod.

Humans are by our nature a communal species, and as a result tend to be pretty affected by feeling ignored or excluded. Even if you're not ignoring them on purpose, you just feel awkward acknowledging someone you barely know, try to consider how you might feel if you were totally brushed off and ignored by someone who is acknowledging everyone else but you.

Even if you personally don't think you'd personally be hurt by being brushed off by your roommates' friend, know that your feelings aren't universal and plenty of people would feel bad about feeling ignored, especially if they're someone who has a history of being excluded by their peers.

This doesn't apply to people you are trying to avoid because they make you feel uncomfortable or even unsafe, safety comes first before good manners. But if they're not someone who you think is a risk to your safety and/or someone who makes you uncomfortable, it won't hurt you to politely acknowledge them.

[philosophybits]

Courtesy is the best part of culture, a kind of enchantment, and it wins the goodwill of all, just as rudeness wins only scorn and universal annoyance.

Baltasar Gracián, The Art of Worldly Wisdom

[orchurisarts]

courtesy super hexagon save me ,,, save me courtesy super hexagon..

anyways stuck yet another funny shape game into my jsab au HSHHEJ

going to work with @/hermitcrabcross to fill the super hexagon tag with art /sillyj

[ahedderick]

Manners matter. maybe.

Now that Son has moved out, we have family dinner on Monday nights. This includes Roommate. Last night I was reflecting on this, in comparison to dinners that I grew up with.

My parents managed to somehow occupy both ends of the spectrum of parenting. Practically speaking, this meant that one day I'd be a beloved child, so smart, so good looking, have a cookie, we'll buy you a pony - followed by screaming abuse, curses, I was the worst, most Ungrateful Childe ever, silent treatment. And so on and so forth.

They also had a sort of two-pronged approach to life in general. We lived on a farm, raising beef cattle. Being barefoot and mud-smirched in the garden, or in heavy boots, smeared with blood and cow manure in the barn, went side-by-side with expectations of perfect grammar and enunciation, Emily Post table-settings and manners, and the highest grades in school. It was, in a word, very weird. And honestly, the emphasis on elegant table manners, matching silverware/tableware/glasses, etc never really sat well with me. Manners at that level always struck me as ridiculous and fake. Especially in a damned farm kitchen.

Anyhoo. This is in my mind as I regard my own table. The plates matched, almost. Cups and silverware were a random assortment. Son was talking animatedly to my husband about forestry, K and I were chatting (my elbows were on the table, as they often are), and Roommate was hunched over his plate moving his fork up and down like a sewing machine needle. Ten hour shifts welding; he's hungry. Everybody was happy, engaged, and getting full of nutritious food.

That. That was all that mattered.

[danskjavlarna]

Source details and larger version.

Something to reflect upon: a collection of vintage mirrors.

[allthatispeculiar]

[zetaaa]

“Brienne,” he said, granting her the courtesy of the name in the hopes that she might listen, “if Lord Bolton holds Harrenhal, both the Trident and the kingsroad are likely watched.”

He thought he saw a touch of uncertainty in her big blue eyes. “You are under my protection. They’d need to kill me.”

They lay with lions - ASOS, Jaime I

[newyorkthegoldenage]

Summer streetcar (open windows) on 125th St., 1946. Also vintage: someone helping a mother and small child down from the vehicle.

Photo: Todd Webb via the Todd Webb Archive

[fotos-art]

Imogen Cunningham

Magnolia Blossom

1925

gelatin silver print

Bank of America Collection

© 2024

Imogen Cunningham Trust / Courtesy

[jadeseadragon]

Repost @baytal.fann

"Adab is a beautiful concept in Arab and Muslim culture, embodying the essence of humanity through its focus on ethics, respect, and compassion. It transcends mere etiquette, encompassing a holistic approach to interactions with others, oneself, and the environment. This multifaceted concept encourages individuals to engage with kindness and humility, promoting a culture of empathy and understanding. 

The emphasis on adab nurtures relationships, whether with family, friends, or strangers, by fostering a sense of belonging and community. Its beauty lies in the way it transforms mundane interactions into opportunities for meaningful connections, reflecting a deep-rooted appreciation for the intrinsic value of every individual.

Furthermore, adab serves as a guiding principle in the pursuit of personal and spiritual growth. In a world often characterized by haste and superficiality, the cultivation of adab invites individuals to pause and reflect on their actions, encouraging mindfulness in every aspect of life. This self-awareness not only enhances personal character but also aligns one’s behavior with the core values of Islam, such as justice, integrity, and compassion.

Through the lens of adab, the pursuit of beauty transcends the physical realm, manifesting in the grace and integrity of human interactions."

This post was created by @poetryandgahwa

[dailymanners]

When boarding buses, or any sort of public transportation where you have to walk past a driver to board, always smile at and greet the driver as you're boarding.

It doesn't waste anyone's time, yours or the drivers, to smile and greet the driver, as chances are you probably have to pay or scan your pass which is going to take a second or two, about the amount of time it takes to smile and greet the driver.

When we don't look at or acknowledge the driver at all, this can make the driver feel dehumanized to not be acknowledged by other human beings all day. Being a bus driver is a difficult job, they have to do customer service AND deal with traffic all day. Bus drivers also face a lot of burn out because they are often treated poorly. The least you can do is humanize them by smiling at them and greeting them.

[misterlemonztenth]

07-06-24 | 1,000 deer are graciously treated and fed by the tens of thousands of visitors to the Nara Deer Park near Kyoto, Japan. misterlemonztenth.tumblr.com/archive

[orchurisarts]

Nitro payment for @hermitcrabcross

[feralchaton]

"Be courteous to all but intimate with few; and let those few be well tried before you give them your confidence."

George Washington

[blueeyesfilledwithpassion]

Discipline 🩶

The discipline of strength instills resistance without complaint, and also teaches courtesy. It demands that we not ruin the pleasure or serenity of others through the expression of our own sadness or pain.

Inazo Nitobe

[thewaysoundtravels]

(You're Not Alone [feat. Erika de Casier & August Rosenbaum] by Courtesy)

A sensitively covered track, bringing the lyrics to the fore in a way that not's dissimilar to the original by Olive but due to the original's dance beats pushes the vibe into different territory on par with Everything But The Girl.

Full EP - https://soundcloud.com/courtesy707/sets/fra-eufori and https://kulorco.bandcamp.com/album/courtesy-fra-eufori